Adam Phillips - On the common expression 'My Parents' as if they belong to you
"We always talk about ... my parents ... or our parents. And it's actually a very difficult thing to work out what our fantasies are here about the sense in which we think we possess our parents, because one of the most traumatic and evident things about being a child is that we don't possess our parents. They are not yours. They seem to go off into all sorts of other things and they belong to each other. And they belong to their own parents. [...] So you 've never actually owned your parents. You never possessed them but you may have needed the illusion that you did in order to get yourself to the point of being able to bear the fact that you don't."
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“You may have needed the illusion that you did (own your parents) in order to get yourself to the point where you can bear the fact that you don’t”. There’s nothing more human than self-deception. Without it we cannot survive.
This doesn't really make sense. Saying "my" as a possessive is a relational statement. Heck people even say "my attacker" or "my abuser" and it sounds odd and all, but what else are we supposed to say? What is the best way of wording it? At least with a family you can argue you do belong together, if nothing else.
@thepolymathacademy4891
9 ай бұрын
I mean yes, if he is so caught up on the semantics, why didn't he explain this clearly, because it's just some intellectual babble of nothingness, this is a problematic interpretation of the meaning of, my. I'm all for refinement of ideas, but this is a hollow understanding, and means nothing.
Do you happen to have the full talk ?
@grubernitsch
3 жыл бұрын
Each video has one link, just one link to the original in the description.
@guzelaziz
3 жыл бұрын
@@grubernitsch Thank you, just spotted it.