Thanks to @Jacobfreeeman For more on Jacob’s story check out his book: www.amazon.co.uk/Right-Wrong-Story-Guilt-Redemption/dp/0008472114

@CERTI-SY786

Жыл бұрын

Is this one punch man?

@fayssalsaleh8007

Жыл бұрын

Dear Editors, Please don’t cut the footage right as the speaker is about to evoke their raw emotions. E.g. 14:19 he’s really going through it talking about his mom and then you just cut to when he’s composed again.

@no_one_u_know4287

Жыл бұрын

@@fayssalsaleh8007 I’m trying he didn’t want to show it so he asked that they cut that part out

@yado7550

Жыл бұрын

@@CERTI-SY786 I was like "damn didn't they make an anime about this guy?"

@Caspersbae

Жыл бұрын

Hopefully a percent he’s getting from the story/book is going to the victims family

This can happen so, so quickly... I am 49 years old now, but at 22 my drunk mates and I got into a fight with some others drunks in Ibiza. Over absolute BS that that I can´t even remember..... I wasn´t a fighter at all (never threw a punch in my life before) but was well built at the time. While in the mix, I swung at a guy and knocked him out cold - he dropped like a rag doll. We were all kicked out of the bar, and went to our crappy apartment. The very next day, I was arrested because the guy (Hans, from Holland) was in a coma because of me.... His chances of survival were slim, and I was charged with attempted manslaughter carrying an 8 years sentence. Hans´ parents actually came to visit me in prison and we had a conversation that I will never forget: they actually forgave me. 4 weeks later Hans made it back to life, was going to be 100% ok, and he refused to press charges on me because of what his parents told him about the conversation they had with me earlier. He has been my best friend ever since, 26 years in. In a few months´ time, both our families are going to celebrate my 50th in style. He still calls me a p@ssy for not hitting him harder than I did :) Be careful boys....a One Punch Kill can happen to ANYBODY.

@tavish2789

Жыл бұрын

this is a great story wow

@TheRemkoe

Жыл бұрын

Good that you are friends now! Greets from the Netherlands.

@mkprivate7523

Жыл бұрын

@@tavish2789 fortunately it ended up being a life changing moment, while getting the best friend i could have ever hoped for - but chances were 95% towards him dying; and me becoming a legit murderer. To those young lads out there today: PLEASE avoid that stupid punch....Size doesn´t matter - if you hit a guy in the right spot he will drop, and you might have killed someone. Walk dafuk away!

@LordBranniganThe

Жыл бұрын

Whoa 🤯

@carpo719

Жыл бұрын

that is either one hell of a story or one hell of a story!

This should be shown to kids in school around the country.

@kephrenh

Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, they won’t listen, just like most of us didn’t listen when we were young. There is that blind arrogance that any kid has that make them believe that it only happens to others. But I guess, it might those few kids who do listen

@nathaniel.7172

Жыл бұрын

@@kephrenh some will listen, some won't

@alexfisher4207

Жыл бұрын

We watched an interview of this guy in form in year 8

@lewisbower0094

Жыл бұрын

bit pointless really, they all carry knives these days and can’t throw a punch to save their lives

@HA-fx5bw

Жыл бұрын

Around the world.

My friend was killed by a single punch in Vancouver at a nightclub, she got separated from her friends and this woman who had been trying to fight with her ran up and punched her from behind and she fell and died. She was quiet and sweet and kind and hardly ever drank. Her killer showed no remorse and got probation and no prison time. Thanks for what you're doing Jacob, thank you for connecting with the family and allowing them to have those tough conversations with you and for trying to prevent things like this from happening again.

@M.Montgomeryz

Жыл бұрын

That is so fucked up! That makes me sick to my stomach to know that girl will never pay for what she did. I send you peace and condolences. Thank you for sharing this is a good reminder for people to just walk away. It’s not worth it

@monkeykingyo6359

Жыл бұрын

I don't mean to be insensitive but how does someone get no prison time for murder with intent,my condolences to you and your friend but respectfully I just can't wrap my mind around that, probation for murder? The system is truly a failure.

@M.Montgomeryz

Жыл бұрын

@@monkeykingyo6359 it really is. She must have some kind of corrupt lawyer or something.

@meggy0

Жыл бұрын

@@M.Montgomeryz thanks so much, and yes it is, and it's so not worth it.

@meggy0

Жыл бұрын

@@monkeykingyo6359 she basically contented that it was an accident with no intent and it was just a punch and it was too hard to prove intent. She was a single mother to a toddler and pregnant again by the time the case went to court, and she had no family, so it meant her kids would end up in the foster system and that played a factor. And, yes, our legal system is severely broken.

I think this is the absolute epitome of humanity. I’ve never heard such eloquence, sobriety, humility, remorse, composure… I’ve never heard anyone speak like this. He doesn’t talk with self pity even though you can see the emotion in every second. I don’t want to say this is beautiful because that sounds trite and easy. But it’s something like beautiful. Crying my eyes out quite frankly…

@RecaJ333

Жыл бұрын

“Something like beautiful” I like that. I understand exactly what you mean ❤️❤️

@DjBlakkTux

Жыл бұрын

it is beautiful though. what he did back then isn't. but the way he handled the situation afterwards clearly is.

@stevesetzer3361

Жыл бұрын

I was crying as well.... to hear his pain, guilt and then the loss of his mother, Wanting to have been a better son. He has had a journey. Lived a lot in a short time.

@TimSurway

6 ай бұрын

Brutally honest about his feelings.

For every guy that’s ever been drunk and stupid - this could have been you. It could have been me when I was a teenager. On either side. Breaks my heart for their families.

@constantnipples2428

Жыл бұрын

very rare to happen like one in a billion chances of dying over a punch

@foxernator

Жыл бұрын

@@constantnipples2428 1 punch, person goes down - head to concrete... it's a lot more common than you think.

@DoobiusPiff

Жыл бұрын

not at all, yeah i was also a stupid teenager but never a bully this guy simple bully go round with his mates assaulting people now acts like the victim....

@thatsthejobbb8587

Жыл бұрын

Happened in Sydney a few years back with two brothers! One had just flown out to meet the other, had a great relationship and were about to take on Australia as expats. The brother made it through after a long hospital stay. Can't imagine the impact it had on that family!

@annofcleavers5791

Жыл бұрын

@@DoobiusPiff Correct,he was a drug dealer as well.

"Even if someone forgives me today, it's okay if they don't forgive me tomorrow". This shows the level of self reflection this man has been through.

@enlightenmentworldunited8545

Жыл бұрын

He still dead

@swingingmonk

Жыл бұрын

Spot on!

@cmcc3721

Жыл бұрын

I don't think it takes much reflection to appreciate the fact that just because the parents of the young man he killed said they forgave him on the Tuesday, they might actually hate him and not forgive him again by the Wednesday. He did kill their son after all.

@cmcc3721

Жыл бұрын

@@linkinnonya7822 Any person in that situation is always going to wonder if A) they truly mean it and B) Will they change their mind. I mean anyone that's riddled with shame and guilt obviously. Not those who are not.

@PowerMoneyRespect619

Жыл бұрын

@@cmcc3721 the reality of it is that you could genuinely want & mean to forgive someone and the next day see a powerful reminder of your lost son and then you're in this spot where you feel trapped by two strong and opposing emotions. This is a complex situation and there is no simple answer.

I've always avoided fights even when I was a kid. I knew even then that there were consequences and that someone could get really hurt. A part of me still fantasises about smacking someone alongside the head when they act like massive assholes but with stories like this I realise that it's just not worth it. Someone could die, I could die, be thrown in prison and live with the guilt. Your life can be paused by something so immature. To all you dudes out there especially - take it easy brothers.

@jibranshabir4173

Жыл бұрын

You stealed the words out of my mouth

@roman-co1hg

Жыл бұрын

@Spots Corner damn mate, where did you live where it is so rough?

@clockworkNate

Жыл бұрын

There are times though if you're not the one punching, you're the one getting punched.

@Alien-ky3td

Жыл бұрын

@Spots Corner Lol wtf? Who asaaulted you?

@nocturnalrecluse1216

Жыл бұрын

Same. A moment of satisfaction isn't worth a lifetime of guilt.

Big thumbs up to James parents too. Forgiving your child's killer in whatever circumstances is too hard.

In 2007, a troubled 22 year-old kid jumped infront of my car on a highway in Brooklyn, to end his life. I was his instrument of death. While I wasn't LEGALLY liable for this, I STILL live with it in my head, and no one ever even asks me about it. It wasn't my choice, but I was apparently chosen to be there. I hope that, someday, this can be explained to me, because part of me died with that kid. 💔

@fuckuimnoreply

Жыл бұрын

i hope you can forgive yourself someday… you deserve to life without being burdened by this

@MinaMcKay

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry that happened to you. I cant imagine

@SStupendous

Жыл бұрын

Goddamn, that is horrific. Hope you're recovering man

@TheKitkat4000

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry this happened to you, it would have been someone else's car if not yours. You were just at the wrong place at the wrong time I hope you can recover from this, you don't deserve to feel the guilt for this

@RileyBanksWho

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry someone did that to you.

I used to work with James a few years before he was killed. I still remember being told what happened and being in total disbelief and visualising Jacob as a monster. This shows just how much of a normal guy he is and its even more scary how something like this could happen out of nowhere!

@C.U.N.Tahiti

Жыл бұрын

When did this happen? What year?

@rossmonty1911

Жыл бұрын

Telling lies makes baby Jesus cry Chris

@chrisbarber8768

Жыл бұрын

@@rossmonty1911 no lies mate, I worked with him 2 years before he was killed. I'm not saying we were close friends, just I worked with him. Seeing the video pop up on KZread gave me a little shudder but I just thought this guy is actually just a normal young guy.

@chrisbarber8768

Жыл бұрын

@@C.U.N.Tahiti 2011, which I only remember because I found out at a beer festival and I still have the glass!

@adamaenridi7272

Жыл бұрын

@@rossmonty1911 Not that I don't believe you, but Jesus is kind of a tough guy and I've never seen him cry. I'll make sure to ask him about it next time he comes around to cut my parents lawn.

"Even if someone says they forgive me today, It's okay if they don't forgive me tomorrow" This hits hard. I remember saying I forgive someone and the next day just knowing that I don't forgive them. I had only said it so I could help them not live in this crippling cycle of guilt, justified or not. Took much longer for me to actually forgive them and by then we were so distant that it isn't worth telling them anymore.

@head85

Жыл бұрын

Just would like you to know that the first time matters. Take care of yourself. And others❤️

Ok i’ve bursted into tears when he said his mom died a week before the results. Poor guy, hope he can cope with all this and hope he’s getting therapy

@misteral1083

Жыл бұрын

For me it was just afterwards - "Look mum, you right..." The whole thing is heartbreaking for everyone concerned.

@mjanny6330

Жыл бұрын

He makes enough money off his crime, I'm sure he'll be fine. Unlike the man he killed.

I once met a person who spent almost 30 years in prison. He said to me "Don't ever let 30 seconds get you 30 years". He said he never thought of going to prison because he was an athlete. He wasn't a criminal. But one day his sister's boyfriend slapped his sister in front of him. He punched the guy and when he fell he hit the back of his head with a chair and was dead in an instant. That's how quickly he went from baseball prospect to inmate. It ain't worth it.

@LernestW

Жыл бұрын

I do agree but man, I'm not going to passively allow my sister to be physically harmed or abused, let alone in front of me. This says more about a wildly unjust sentence (based on information provided) than it does the situation. Standing up for and helping others, especially those at more of a disadvantage than you is paramount.

@cameronraney8184

Жыл бұрын

@@LernestW yes that could have been overturned if those are the facts and all the facts. i'm pretty sure there is a law included that if you are so angry that you aren't thinking clearly

@barringtonmorris90

Жыл бұрын

Sister set him up

@JachAnen

Жыл бұрын

@@LernestW Well you could still do something, what these kind of stories tend to have in common is aiming the punch at the head. Had he made a gut punch, it's unlikely he would have fallen over like that and would have enough control still to avoid landing on something, but probably not ready to hit back so he could be escorted out. The risks from going for anyone's head is too great and should be reserved for only the worst situations

@raphaelkoch1573

Жыл бұрын

@@cameronraney8184 depends where it happens.

He wears his pain and remorse in his eyes, such a sad story- One single action can really alter your life or somebody else's!

@TommyT_

Жыл бұрын

You've proper fell for his feel sorry for me act ent you

@LimerickWarrior1

Жыл бұрын

@@TommyT_ He has never blamed anyone bar himself for what happened. So he doesn't need an act as he admitted he did it. I have no idea where you are going with this BS line.

@sjeb1967

Жыл бұрын

​@@LimerickWarrior1 spot on 👍

@opium42069

Жыл бұрын

One puuunch!

@jimfixer9589

Жыл бұрын

@@LimerickWarrior1 - I have no idea what BS was in the judge and lawyers heads in only giving him a 2 and a half year sentence... looks like they gave him a "boys wil be boys" type of sentence... I've never been violent in my life... apart from killing spiders and moths in my room, the sentence of 2 and a half years for lashing out at someone and ending their one and only life is utterly pathetic, it sends a message to the public that if you do get into problems you'll be given a break for it. A dead person doesnt get a break, the dead person doesnt get leniency in his/her sentence... he/she also doesnt have lawyers arguing that "oh he's there's no priors so lets only impose death for a few years"... You take a life, expect to lose your own life.

Gut wrenching. One moment that changed his life forever, one extremely quick moment of anger and now he lives with the regret for the rest of his life, which is one of the toughest things. A powerful message that it can happen to absolutely anybody. I’ve stopped a couple of fights on nights out, even talked people out of it and watching things like this is reminder of why I did it.

@samantharossiter8808

3 ай бұрын

I’m a nurse in a brain injury unit - I see the consequences of “one punch” injuries all the time - you either die from your injury or you survive albeit with devastating consequences there is no in-between!!!!!! We had a lad who survived a one punch injury but he was left unable to walk or talk!!!!! He was peg fed and his life was cut short he had two kids!!!!!!!! He died last week!!!!!!!! Think of your brain like an egg in a shell - if you hit the shell or shake it hard enough the brain gets shaken; blood vessels tear; bleeding occurs; the pressure rises in the brain and the person suffers major damage or death!!!!!!

I feel like he is still depressed and there is not a single day he does not think of this when he goes to sleep💔

I remember this happened to one guy where I live. And the victim who died, his family made the guy who hit him feel so bad that he committed suicide. Two lives lost from one punch. Be careful out there guys. Never worth it.

@snippertripper2160

Жыл бұрын

If this happened to my son the person who done it would be conmiting suicide too.

@TheStonerosesHQ

Жыл бұрын

You can’t blame the family for making the guy who killed their son feel bad though, his suicide is not on them. I get your point though, this guy is a good example of people who are decent but make one bad decision which ruins lives

@TaylorElizabethHunt

Жыл бұрын

Poor guy. Guilt kills too! Heartbreaking

@General_Gaddafi

Жыл бұрын

Yeah 2 lives, but now the family will feel guilty that they made him guilty to a point of committing suicide which is a crazy domino effect

@BenQotsa

Жыл бұрын

Who is this?

You can not only see the guilt in his eyes, but you can feel it in his speech. Every pause mid sentence and his tone all heavily show how his heart is weighed down by the pain he caused.

@AreMullets4AustraliansOnly

Жыл бұрын

It’s not his fault. He may have caused the pain but how could he ever have known that James would die. It’s just a horrible horrible thing all-round. Two lives lost, almost.

@Hartinmouston5158

Жыл бұрын

Some mistakes are so hard to survive.

@albinomauren

Жыл бұрын

@@AreMullets4AustraliansOnly Well said.

@youtubegarbage7876

Жыл бұрын

If he had just injured him, he'd still be bragging about it. UK guys are gross.

@AreMullets4AustraliansOnly

Жыл бұрын

@@youtubegarbage7876 guys who suckerpunch people and get in fights are gross, or maybe stupid is a better word. But we expect 18 year old guys with lots of guy mates to be stupid, the point is information wasn’t as accessible back then. I know one punch can kill because I get sent articles by my news app every couple of months saying it’s happened again, and because I’ve seen enough videos and read enough comments to know about it. This guy didn’t have that, I can only really feel bad for them both, and i’ve got a lot of sympathy for the puncher. One thing we can all agree on is that it’s probably done a world of good that he didn’t languish in prison for longer, because instead of having one more lost person, we have this man who can now come out and warn others. He got what he deserved, and that was a chance at redemption. One more thing, it’s probably a good thing that boxing gyms and martial arts gyms exist, to teach kids and adults how dangerous they really are and to have responsibility over it. I can only say that i’ll avoid fights at all costs, and if someone’s attacking me on concrete you better bet i’m fighting or running for my life, ego isn’t worth killing someone or getting killed over.

"If you forgive me today, it's ok to not forgive me tomorrow." Words of wisdom. Never push somebody to forgive, it often does more harm than good unless the victim is 100% ready.

@___Zack___

Жыл бұрын

@@Kelvin-ed6ce Yeah right, clown 🤡

I had two classmate in high school that both ended up getting prison time for things like this. One of the victims died and the other was in the hospital for a long time and had vision and mental issues afterward. Another friend got sucker punched and was Dead on arrival at the hospital, luckily, a doctor checked him and he had a very very low pulse still and they actually saved him. When I was older, a cousin's friend decided to fight with someone. He thought he was a tough guy because of his martial arts training, well, the other guy had a gun. He lost his life that night. The fighting is not worth it. I am glad this young man learned from what happened and is helping others to understand.

My friend died this way, he had just started university.. only 19.. he was trying to stop a fight he wasn't involved in.. hit once and went down.. he was one of the happiest and kindest people I ever met.. he always looked after everyone and had the biggest smile.. so positive.. Last year another guy we both knew was kicked to death in our hometown.. again, another sweet guy who didn't deserve anything like it.. he was a pacifist.. It only takes one punch. Or one kick. Don't be this guy. Just walk away.

@PrinceAndrewFucksKids

Жыл бұрын

Teach you a lesson. If it doesn't concern you, don't get involved.

@LuhJay3

Жыл бұрын

Don’t be the guy in the video or the guy helping?

@hman2912

Жыл бұрын

Too many idiots who should never drink and just want to show how tough they are. You see them in bars and you just know they want to start something. Sorry to hear about your friend.

@BirdDawg1

Жыл бұрын

Ever heard "Mind your own businesses"?

@abolisher

Жыл бұрын

@@BirdDawg1 😂

My uncle was killed by a single punch. Cracked his skull on the concrete. The man who punched him was in and out of jail the rest of his life. Kudos to this guy for turning his life around and showing remorse.

@joesphsmiththethird4432

Жыл бұрын

My uncle got into a bad situation and multiple people surrounded him, one hit him on the back of the skull and he died. One punch.. all it took.

@enlightenmentworldunited8545

Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear about your uncle.You have my condolences 💐

@GrandMasterKai

Жыл бұрын

oh please he was a shitty guy and hasnt turned anything around

@timothyheddlepop5568

Жыл бұрын

Think karma will get him sweetheart

@Brandon68plus1

Жыл бұрын

Concrete and fighting don’t go together take it to the grass or be a bigger man and walk away.

i remember coming out of my flat new years day to pick up a few bits from the shop and finding the area around a nearby taxi rank taped off by police. I was saddened to learn an older chap lost his life trying to break up a fight (getting hit in the process). It's a damned shame that something so frivolous in the moment can affect so many lives so deeply. im glad hes been given a platform to spread his message to walk away rather than risk harming someone else so seriously and the personal impacts if you're the one swinging.

I've practiced martial arts for a good amount of years by now. One night while being drunk, i hit a guy in the breastbone. He went pale, puked and fainted, he didn't move, no matter how much you shaked him off, he wouldn't react. I swear my life went through my eyes. Thanks to god, he gained colour again and started to move. Since that day I decided to never let a moment of anger get the best of me again. Thinking the worst could've happened gives me the chills.

This is gut wrenching. I also believe that movies and pop culture in general tend to create these kinds of situations. You see huge fights where everyone gets wrecked and throws dozens of punches but only come out of it with a little busted lip. While in reality one punch can be fatal. This representation makes it that people underestimate how fragile we actually are

@studiocelestedesign

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. Very well stated.

@rayjones95

Жыл бұрын

Well said ma'am! My husband was a hothead with a reputation in our rural county for it. He was In a large city working, and his cousin started a fight in a bar, and my husband beat a bouncer who punched his cousin during the ensuing brawl, and beat him badly. He was arrested and charged with felony assault because of the injuries the bouncer received( broken jaw and orbital socket) 2 months later, during his trial, we saw the bouncer, his wife, and twin daughters who were around 6 yrs old, a beautiful family. I'll never forget the look in my husband's eyes and how much it upset him. I asked him why he was so upset, and he said because he is the reason that guy is no longer Superman to those 2 little girls! Thank God, that was the last fight he's gotten in! There are many life changing consequences caused by fighting, and they aren't always obvious!

@steviejrr

Жыл бұрын

they can't be fatal, it's like a 1 in 1000 chance to kill a person with a single punch, especially if it's in the middle of the street with nothing for their head to hit on. There's thousands of fights every night around the world, yet I guarantee under 5 people die from punches.

@megalodon1726

Жыл бұрын

@@steviejrr if it's in the middle of the street, they could hit their head on the street and die!

@flippalovell

Жыл бұрын

@@steviejrr 1 death in a thousand punches is a lot considering how common punching is. Means there are likely a lot of people that die this way each year.

For me it seemed like two persons died that day. He still looks wrecked. Hopefully your journey of forgiveness is/will be successful. Thank you for spreading awareness. 🙏

@cassanateli

Жыл бұрын

Well the video is about how he turned his life around so no he didn't die at all, he learned to live

@Chelletryingtosmile

Жыл бұрын

@@cassanateli pain and anguish is written all over his face.

@MaIikBlishtar

Жыл бұрын

I don't think he always looks like this-- he probably cried a lot during this interview but it's all cut out

@fusionsportdaily1650

Жыл бұрын

You gotta start by forgiving yourself. It's a fluke. He's clearly harmless in the manor that he meant not to kill. It was a freak accident. A lot could've been in play before the punch that led to the death. I.e brain aneurysm, blood clot...etc

@BirdDawg1

Жыл бұрын

Well said.

Makes me think of a friend who’s brother died on bike, he found out that his dad had learned that it might not be a solitary accident, as some young people would throw things on car and bikes from a bridge near by or smt… My friend asked his dad what he would do if one day someone would come to him and confess that they were responsible for his son’s death, he responded he would hug them and tell them he forgives them, when I heard this I cried so much, my friend’s father is really a beautiful person.

I knew a guy back in Philly who was acting up after a night drinking. He got kicked out of a bar and wouldn’t stop running his mouth. A guy he knew was trying to calm him down and get him home safe but at some point had enough of the verbal abuse. Hauled off and punched him. He fell into a stop sign then hit the curb. Woke up in a hospital a week later after severe brain hemorrhage and needed surgery. Has a huge scar on the whole side of his head. He had to learn how to walk and talk all over again. He’s never been the same and his friend who hit him wishes to god he’d have just let the trash talk go. It’s never worth a lifetime of guilt and self hatred just cuz some guy is acting tough.

I'm 37 and have never gotten into a fight. Even most guys looking for a fight will not attack you out of the blue but rather try to get a justification for it like bump into your shoulder and see if you take the bite. I don't care if someone sees me as a coward or a lesser man for it, I always just think it's not worth it. Just keep walking.

@holliswilliams8426

Жыл бұрын

I agree, the thing is if you swing a punch at them you realise later that you have broken your hand and then it takes a long time to heal.

@melindamercier6811

Жыл бұрын

You’re certainly the bigger man for it, despite how our twisted society may see it. Only a mental juvenile picks a fight for no reason.

@LonelyCinderella123

Жыл бұрын

@The Fire Dragon lol nice trolling

@BrianDenton3

Жыл бұрын

That's not cowardly at all. It's the right thing to do. Only fight if you have no escape.

@DonDeLem

Жыл бұрын

I do the exact same thing. Someone calling me a "pussy" after the fact doesn't affect me at all. They actually get more upset if you just agree with them 😂

This one hit hard for me. When my cousin was 17, a man punched him unprovoked at a party and left him in a coma for several months. He's now in his 40s and has the mental age of an 11yr old. He'll always need a carer. We wonder about the life he could have had, and the life that the perpetrator is leading after just a few years in prison. I can only hope he shows as much remorse and desire to do right as this man here.

@bobbyrayofthefamilysmith24

Жыл бұрын

Crazy, I've never understood why people do unprovoked attacks. I was knocked to the ground from behind completely unprovoked and hit my face on the ground. Complete stranger I'd never even said a word to. What's the point? What does it prove? It's not like it even proves how "tough" you are since it's a cowardly thing to do. Terrible what happened to your cousin.

@NeglectedField

Жыл бұрын

@@bobbyrayofthefamilysmith24 Well, one reason is that some people have had such a bad upbringing that they lack impulse control, appropriate channelling of emotions or even a basic moral compass to the point they're basically feral.

@davespanksalot8413

Жыл бұрын

@@NeglectedField I live in a rough area and I remember Roy from across the road was in the middle of a street fight when he wailed “I just get so angry, but I don’t know why”. Quite often it’s even as “simple” as someone not having ever learned the words to describe their feelings nor the ability to recognise and match those feelings to a description, which leads to inarticulate frustration, then physical expressions of those feelings, and violence, etc, etc. That’s why emotional education strategies are often very successful.

@bobbyrayofthefamilysmith24

Жыл бұрын

@C C what?

@bobbyrayofthefamilysmith24

Жыл бұрын

@C C ah I get it. Basically it only makes sense to the nutcase doing such things.

Jacob, you are paying for James's life through this awareness and work in prisons. Thank you for doing that. May God bless both your souls.

Much respect & thanks to this man for sharing his story. His telling it is not only a testament to his constructive journey from a bad place; but also a tribute to James & his family, by passing on some learning from the horrible incident.

I worked as a bouncer for 4 years in my local city Center. 4 cases of manslaughter, that’s how many cases I witnessed during that time, people severely underestimate how easy it is to kill someone and it’s almost always the fall that does it. They go down, smack their head off concrete and they’re gone.

@divine1gore

Жыл бұрын

Insightful comment

@illuminati7767

Жыл бұрын

Its pretty hard actually. 4 cases in four years? Says it all. The punch didnt kill them the concrete did.

@johnhanselman6371

Жыл бұрын

@@illuminati7767 hmmmm Punch someone while they are driving a car and you can say the punch did not kill him the crash did.

@illuminati7767

Жыл бұрын

@@johnhanselman6371 it did

@TheMichaelseymour

Жыл бұрын

all pubs should then be made to have "kiddie pavement " - cos the amount of morons that act like children is pretty fitting really

“Even if someone says they forgive me today, it’s okay if they don’t forgive me tomorrow.” What an eloquent way to put that. I feel sorry for that young man. You can tell if he could give up everything he owned to change that moment he would. In a heartbeat.

@jaimelock3966

Жыл бұрын

he is still dumb af for what he did

@oldironsides4107

Жыл бұрын

My grandfather accidentally killed a dozen railroad buMs In the 30s. Over the course of 2 years or so. Some he strangled another he crushed the bums head in with a rock. The other ones he threw down a well. He claimed he never meant to do it but they really just irrated him so much. I think ge served around 2 to 3 months in jail on some weekends. He compared them to nuisance creatures. The well was also packed with over 2 hundred cats. We never drank out of it and told not to look in it as he refered to it as his killin” well. I now know why he called it that. It was a well for killing

@grilledcheesehater44

Жыл бұрын

@@oldironsides4107 accidentally?

@Jonathan-A.C.

Жыл бұрын

@@oldironsides4107 What in the fuck

@joe1972

Жыл бұрын

@@Jonathan-A.C. srsly 🥴

You can see how this man is suffering. I know his victims parents have a life sentence and that is horrible but its obvious hes living a life sentence too. Very sad all round. As a man in my late 40s when i think back on my youth i feel extremely fortunate that things didnt go that wrong. God bless everyone out there. Stay safe.

This story is so impactful. Probably one of the best videos I’ve watched this year.

My husband was killed with one punch. This needs to be talked about more!

@abolisher

Жыл бұрын

Could you explain what happened to him? It’s good when you can relate and hear the stories of some of the victims.

@SlickArmor

Жыл бұрын

I'd like to hear the story too.

@felicehappy

Жыл бұрын

So sorry for your loss

@H3len50

Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss. xx

@Sentarry

Жыл бұрын

I guess they got deleted

Back in 2006 when I was 21 years old, I threw a punch at a guy in a crowded night club, cause he was pretty aggressive towards my girlfriend at a time, he fell on the ground immediately, flat on his face , and as security was approaching quickly and the crowd started moving like a freaking whirlpool , a high bar iron chair, very heavy, prob pushed accidently , fell over and slapped him on the back of his head . He ended up in a coma for 33 days. I was arrested , spent 40 days in investigation prison thinking about that guy every freaking second, will he survive, will he be functional , have I become a killer, how will I explain this ever to anyone and not be judged ? But most of the time, I was thinking of ways to take my own life cause I couldn't live with the harsh reality of not knowing . Thank to God, he woke up, took him a week to start talking and I got released. First off I went to see him in a hospital , his family was there, few friends also, I approached the bed and started crying so hard like I never did before, hugged him and he hugged me back, he was very weak but he didn't let go, neither did I. We never become close friends but now from time to time when we see each other walking our kids, I feel grateful for this opportunity but there will always be a sting in my heart when I think about this. My point is , move away from conflict, keep your head cool, think about consequences, think about you family .

@maxtroy

Жыл бұрын

That’s why punching someone in the face or stabbing them should be considered attempted murder IMO There is no difference between you and this guy, but y by the grace of God.

@junglebud3622

Жыл бұрын

@@maxtroy punching someone should not be attempted murder. Stabbing someone for sure should be.

@maxtroy

Жыл бұрын

@@junglebud3622 why? What if I stab someone in the leg and say I didn’t want to kill them, I just wanted to hurt them.

@iloveyoushima4953

Жыл бұрын

@@maxtroy Big difference, the guy in the video had no reason to do what he did.

@bunmonk1903

Жыл бұрын

Murder requires intent to kill. There was no intent in either of these situations.

Bless you for owning and sharing your story for the benefit of others. Glad there is some kind of reconciliation happening. ❤️🙏🏻

A very strong message that young men need to know now. Heart goes out to all

His eyes are red and glossy from the get, and you can see him fighting the tears at so many points. He is feeling for the gentleman that passed, not just for himself. This is a man who carries SO much remorse... more than most of use could even handle. Prayers for both familes and all involved or affected by this unfortunate event.

@daquaviousbingleton9763

Жыл бұрын

Nah pray for the victims family no one who sucker punches has good intentions

@ErikGuin

Жыл бұрын

@@daquaviousbingleton9763 True!

@chrisbowser

Жыл бұрын

He can’t even bring himself to say the guys name… he only feels sorry for himself

@timothyheddlepop5568

Жыл бұрын

So he should acting like a wild man

@timothyheddlepop5568

Жыл бұрын

Think he has been bummed

Big respect for Jacob. He came and did a talk like this at my college when I was younger with the mother of the victim. We were learning about restorative justice but I know they’ve visited places to teach teenagers how to not make this mistake. This is evidence of a man who has learned from his mistakes and pushed to make the world better. Incredible man 👏

@jimfixer9589

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you've got it all figured out. If someone killed one of my loved ones and only received a 2 and a half year prison sentence I would find it difficult to share your 'progressive sentiments', as well-intended and appealing as they sound, no doubt the justice system would likely incarcerate me for longer if I exacted my own revenge... so here we are, in a system which treats law abiding people worse than the rule breakers and thugs...

@tiannadaly7440

Жыл бұрын

@@jimfixer9589 he said himself that he was lucky to be put forward for restorative justice and he never expected forgiveness. We should be grateful for another life saved.

@mrjumppanda

Жыл бұрын

​@@jimfixer9589 Of course youd be incarcerated for 'exacting your own revenge'. Jacob committed manslaughter, you're talking about premeditated murder, completely different kettle of fish.

@humanbean3

Жыл бұрын

@@jimfixer9589 Exacted "your own" revenge? what does this even mean? That Jacob was exacting revenge? That if you decided to kill him out of "your own" revenge, you'd get a longer sentence? Did I understand that correctly?

@Jurdok1

Жыл бұрын

@@jimfixer9589 How bout you piss off to America with that cowboy vigilante justice shit. Like a mistake you make in split second is the same as planning and executing someone. Get your head straight.

This is so refreshing to see and hear. This young man is incredible and I wish him well. So many today don't ever care about the pain and suffering they cause. Its also helped me understand this need that people have to connect and share their pain and loss with the person who has caused such tragedy. I have always thought I wouldn't want to give the abuser or the killer more, I have never thought it might just save them. So thank you LADBible

@adamsharp201

Жыл бұрын

This young man is incredible!!!!???? He should be in prison for years. Stand by your actions and stop with the crocodile tears

@adamsharp201

Жыл бұрын

@@TheCraydee I was being sarcastic

I lost a friend as a youth to one punch. His name was also James. Its very interesting to see the other side of things. Who knew this could happen as a kid. The raising awareness is very important.

As an ex prison officer I know an inmate who was in the same situation. He was given a life sentence and I really felt for him. He was a genuine guy who felt remorse for what happened. 2 lives ruined because of one punch

@PorlacrestaLolvide

Жыл бұрын

life sentence for that? i know nothing about laws but that sounds insane, what country do you live in?

@B1GK1NG

Жыл бұрын

@@PorlacrestaLolvide United States. If you murder someone you’ll get a life sentence

@MrInfernalSoul

Жыл бұрын

@@PorlacrestaLolvide If I had to guess I would say Texas, USA

@therexbellator

Жыл бұрын

@@PorlacrestaLolvide I would take some of these stories with a grain of salt. Either there are details being omitted (intentionally or not) or they're just made up. Even the worst lawyer in the world would know that a fist fight that turns fatal would be at worst first-degree manslaughter charge. I hesitate to even stipulate if the person had a history of violence and criminal activity, such an act would not be a life sentence which is reserved for the most heinous and premeditated crimes. While killing someone unintentionally is terrible, it defies the imagination that a court system would destroy a life for what is an unintentional crime. Prison isn't just about punishment but also rehabilitation.

@SpitfireMLG

Жыл бұрын

@@PorlacrestaLolvide a life sentence doesn’t necessarily mean ‘until you die’ in a lot of countries. Under the law a life sentence can be like 20-40 years, etc.

You can tell by looking at him and listening to him that there isn’t a day that goes by where he doesn’t think back to that very moment. He’s clearly became a better person as a result of what happened. Never too late to turn one’s life around and do positive things in the world.

@timothyheddlepop5568

Жыл бұрын

You should write a song about that .. beautiful

@lucyterrier7905

Жыл бұрын

Right. He's happy his rear end isn't in prison right now.

@TommyT_

Жыл бұрын

Yes because he regrets wasting time in prison.

@BB-uu9oo

Жыл бұрын

@@TommyT_ most people who commit manslaughter live w immense guilt. They don't go into a fist fight intending to kill anyone. Your lack of empathy says more ab you than him.

@TommyT_

Жыл бұрын

@@BB-uu9oo Hilarious 16 minute video of this guy acting and you fall for it. 8 word comment from me and you know anything about me?

Oh wow. What an honest and heartfelt account. You still deserve to be OK. Good on you for educating others on the dangers of a single punch.

He's obviously using what happened to become a better person and help others become better. Some people have very bad intentions and get away with their actions and some people like him, just make stupid mistakes (like lots of young people make) and they have terrible consequences. You can't change the past, you can only learn. I hope he heals from the guilt, this man truly has a big heart and tons of humility. 💕

I want to watch this, but I can't bring myself to. I suffered a traumatic brain injury from 1 sucker punch. It destroyed my life. I have epilepsy, next to non-existent memory, severe PTSD, cognitive and dysexecutive function issues, balance issues.........the list goes on. I was 2 days from starting uni to be a nurse. I bought food for a homeless guy, and some arseholes didn't like that, and sucker punched me.

@sarahvegangarden4822

Жыл бұрын

That's truly grim. I hope things get better for you, friend. I think you may find this video helpful, if you do choose to watch it. Blessings.

@JustNicole6400

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry 😞 You are stronger than you know. The brain is incredibly resilient and I hope you can heal as soon as possible. This guy has not had a happy life because of his actions, karma will always come for people who hurt people.

@AndroidSpirit

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry.

@alhen9023

Жыл бұрын

Lol

@H3len50

Жыл бұрын

I have no words other than I am very sorry this happened to you as you sound like an amazing guy and the world needs more men like you.

Former EMT here, it's incredibly common for a single punch to either kill or seriously injure people. I've been trying to tell people this for a very long time but the culture just continues to think fist fighting is acceptable and not a deadly threat.

@treyk74

Жыл бұрын

More people in the United States are killed with fists than guns. Really says something about how ignorant people are thinking fist fights aren't deadly.

@Sandlin22

Жыл бұрын

"Former EMT"..........sure

@cloudyeight

Жыл бұрын

@@Sandlin22 why would someone lie about being a former EMT? It's not like it's a rare job. Lol.

@DiamondsRexpensive

Жыл бұрын

@@cloudyeight Oh don't mind this person. They probably never lived in a society where people do things and probably lurk in their mother's basement to this day.

@yeoldeseawitch

Жыл бұрын

@@cloudyeight cap

So overwhelmed to hear this, tearing up. Making the best out of your life is a wonderful decision you have made. May you find joy once again.

When I hear stories like this it makes me feel like we are failing a lot of young men, these things shouldn't be commonplace, getting into fights shouldn't be such a casual event. Boys need to be instilled with a better sense of responsibility, not just for their own sake but the sake of others. I'm glad people like Jacob are out there trying to help, even if he had to learn hard truths in the worst way a young man ever could.

@urbly2638

Жыл бұрын

It is in our biological nature. Men fight. Always have, always will.

@tabemsins

Жыл бұрын

@@urbly2638 It doesn't mean we can't change... Humans are still evolving, as everything else is. Maybe if parents weren't too fucked up themselves they would be able to instruct better their children. How do you expect to be a parent and guide another human on their journey if you don't take care of yourself? We need to change, and we need it fast.

@Kingkong-gy5qt

Жыл бұрын

I don't have 16min to waste on a man crying 😢 shit what did he do.

Just 5 minutes in and Jacob sounds very measured, very grounded, and very wise, like he’s been looking inward and processing everything in a very frankly shockingly honest way that not many people can achieve.

@KayosHybrid

Жыл бұрын

@DnB and Psy Production I'm saying he's verbalising insight into this experience so candidly I rare ever hear from people all these years. It's commendable and a sign of true full understanding

@END-yt

Жыл бұрын

@DnB and Psy Production Not a normal guy, a piece of garbage drug dealer

@WalkingPaceWP

Жыл бұрын

The average guy will never be able to live with the thoughts Jacob has on a daily basis.

@TheScottishSprayer

Жыл бұрын

@@WalkingPaceWP yeah, this guys demons would get the better of some folk. Seems like a genuine nice fella too.

@WalkingPaceWP

Жыл бұрын

@@TheScottishSprayer I hope the victims family can have bond with him and see their sons life through the actions of Jacob. They never truly have to forgive him but in reality, it could have been their son in his position. Freak accidents happen and when lads fight its up to the gods. Thankfully I never get in that headspace when I drink, but I personally believe you need to already be a certain kind of person if alcohol makes you violent. I just hope Jacob stays on a sober path, or at the least, a non violent path.

Jacob you probably wont remember me but I was doing my GCSE's with you at the college, i've never forgotten when you first told me about this and how its always stayed with me to what i hope made me a better person than I could have been, I was with you when we got our results the final day at the college that summer and later shaking your hand wishing you the best saying goodbye by the tram stop. Just as I knew back then I can see just as clear now that you're a good man and it warms my heart to no end to know you're still campaining and doing good in this world. You do us all proud and make a shining example of what change in the world can be. I really hope to see you again one day mate. Will.

@KiraHunter2310

Жыл бұрын

You didn’t bother with him when he was locked up though did you

@Cash-Kyle99

Жыл бұрын

@@KiraHunter2310 bruh watch the video, he was locked up before he done the GCSEs again 💀

@olafschoen4774

Жыл бұрын

@@KiraHunter2310 btch who hurt you

@skylined5534

Жыл бұрын

@@KiraHunter2310 Jesus H. Christ.

@afistfullofmustard3006

Жыл бұрын

@@KiraHunter2310 worst comment ever

Much respect for this man. My heart goes out to all involved

I respect the fact he's taken responsibility & is sharing his story in the hope others can learn from it & realise one punch can kill! He appears genuinely remorseful... The best thing we can do with our mistakes is learn from them & be better!

@sethhowerton1489

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, still fucks him up from the looks of it.

"even if somebody said they forgive me today, it's okay if they don't forgive me tomorrow". What a powerful incredible statement.

I don't think I've ever seen a more remorseful human being. Fair play to Jacob, really is a good guy. But, the guts and hearts on James' parents and the ability to actually produce forgiveness... that's indescribably respectable.

@techroach6343

Жыл бұрын

As a parent I would have earned his trust and then deep sixed the bastard in a long painful way. It's a disgrace that they forgave their child's killer.

@SherLock55

Жыл бұрын

Good guy? This "good guy" used to go around with his mates looking for fights because they enjoyed it and they were also drug dealers, sure he has turned his life around but good guys don't need to turn their lives around, they don't go out looking to bash people for fun. I respect that he turned it around but wouldn't have been necessary if he wasn't such a piece of shit early in life.

@MAarshall

Жыл бұрын

He punched a guy who was arguing with his friend, he never saw it coming and never had a chance to defend himself. Cheap shot coward.

@peanutbutterbruv

Жыл бұрын

@@SherLock55 I have a sneaky feeling you did not grow up where Jacob did. I grew up somewhere similar and 19 year olds like him were not the exception.

@SherLock55

Жыл бұрын

@@peanutbutterbruv I grew up somewhere worse, I know the type real well. And what is your point exactly because it was normal for young men to do what he and his friends did that makes it ok? SMH

The honesty. Wow. May he find peace.

Powerful. This again will help others.

My cousin Steve was stabbed to death in Spain and this all started with a couple of drunken guys kicking the wheelie bins over. My cousin came out of his apartment all angry and aggressive which led to him being stabbed many times in front of his girlfriend on his doorstep. The apartment was located below the main road and he tried to make the stairs to the road to get help but died halfway up. One minute there is peace and then there was despair, horror and grief. The guy who stabbed him ran off and wasn't apprehended until 8 months later. He committed suicide in a Spanish prison.

@MICKEYISLOWD

Жыл бұрын

@@christga100 A thumbs up is OK with me. If more people read what happened they just might think before they act. Take care:)

@edwardtherhea6818

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad the killer died a pathetic, lonely death.

@metamorphicorder

Жыл бұрын

I mean either way he comited suicide, or... he didnt. Bad things happen in prison. And either way the story is instructive.

The flashbacks he's getting is clearly visible. That trauma that hits you back just breaks you everytime

@nicholasjohn7964

Жыл бұрын

Do you show this much compassion for his victim?

Powerful testimony we can all learn something from. All the best for your future

" even if someone said they forgive me today, it's okay if they don't forgive me tomorrow. " I am greatful to have this to remember for the times needed.

There are so many young men who need to see this. Ultimately it’s a very sad story, but perhaps people viewing this would alter the way they look at fighting. Well done Ladbible

@ryu7964

Жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has kept shifting, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway" and "Yes", are the words that enable me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I say: "Yes, I apologize to myself anyway." And I apologize to others, if it is my choice. And I use these two methods. In which I either apologize to the people personally or within me, whichever I choose.d

@diablohorer

Жыл бұрын

Men AND women. Just 4 months ago a 26 year old girl shoved an 87 year old lady to the concrete in NYC (don't remember her name but she was a well known vocal coach, she died from her injuries 5 days later)

@talkingrealitypodcast9715

Жыл бұрын

@@diablohorer fair point, I feel like this is a problem we associate more with men, however, you make a very good point 🙏

I think this is the kind of story that *everyone* (especially all men) needs to hear. Too many people think that violence is a game, at least as long as it's done with one's bare hands and doesn't involve any weapons. In truth, the human body is quite fragile, and you can do an awful lot of damage to another person-even unto death-with just your fists or other body parts. People need to understand that *violence is no laughing matter,* and stop treating it so cavalierly.

@garydixon6315

Жыл бұрын

Media portrayal of violence contributes to this problem alot... Thugs and bullies are revered , while men who are quiet and reserved are thought of as beta males or somehow less of a man... untill the perception changes nothing will change.. It takes more of a man to walk away.. True saying...!

@Jesusluvz

Жыл бұрын

The human body CAN be quite fragile. People somehow survive after taking a shotgun blast to the chin all the time. Hell, a man took an entire rebar through his brain and lived for years afterwards while still being able to speak and everything. This is just a freak accident. Nothing more.

@kariay50

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@jiggnorth3593

Жыл бұрын

I know more violent women than I do men but other than that you are correct for sure.

@hearmeoutbro

Жыл бұрын

Why all men? I know more violent women than I do men.

I feel for this man. Me as a man who got into a few pub brawls whilst drunk could have done the same. We do stupid things when young and drunk. Some people get very unlucky. The person who dies, the person who lays the punch, both families and friends all suffer. No winners, just pain for all. Respect for his remorse and honesty and rip to James. Again, no-one wins.

Thank you 🙏🏻

Man got 30 months in jail but will spend the rest of his life reliving that one moment of madness. Props to him for trying to turn his life around & to the parents for their understanding.

@HashiAkitaPuppy

Жыл бұрын

LOL, he deserves life in prison, he is a monster.

@zahidshabir4038

Жыл бұрын

I think his life was pretty normal before the kill. He just got involved in a random drunk argument and ended up throwing a punch on the other guy who ended up getting knocked out in one hit. I mean that could have been anyone who got a little angry with someone while drunk. The thing is that the punch happened to be a lucky one (lucky as in it happened to hit the right spot to kill him not lucky as in it was a good thing that had happened). I mean if anyone was riled up they could have drunkenly unconsciously hit someone and not know what they were doing since their mind wasn't even in the right spot when they were involved in the argument. It's not like the guy had a messed up life leading up to the kill he was just drunk one night and punched someone in a fight with them and it was a one hit KO.

@oahuhawaii2141

Жыл бұрын

@@zahidshabir4038: Jacob wasn't in the bar when he got the call to get involved with a fight his friend had started. It seems Jacob wasn't drunk, and I get the feeling he sucker-punched his victim.

My twenty eight year old brother was killed in 1995 when the driver of an approaching vehicle fell asleep and hit my brother's car head-on. I was 26 at the time. The devastating, suffocating pain I felt was unbearable. I have never forgiven the other driver because there was nothing to forgive. It was an accident. Twenty seven years later, I am still occasionally flooded with sorrow and sadness. I will always love my brother and I will always miss him.

@merochicago77

Жыл бұрын

❤️

@subrosa9467

Жыл бұрын

fuck man, that shit is so scary to me. losing a sibling isn’t something I could live with. Thank you for sharing this.

@pHofsevn

Жыл бұрын

May he rest in peace ❤❤❤

@TheMarioMen1

Жыл бұрын

This has nothing to do with one punch killers or the video in any way, why did you share this? 🤔

@felixbostley5358

Жыл бұрын

@@TheMarioMen1 venting is an important part of the healing process... Please don't be a douche. The similarity is it was an accident and it sucks.

This really impacted me. I agree this should be shown to kids across the country.

This really brought a tear to my eye. The fact that one silly decision in his brain led to a lifelong sentence of guilt is so sad. Its so sad that someone's son was just there at the wrong place at the wrong time too.

In a lot of these stories I get the feeling that the person is making excuses for their actions or trying to reflect themselves in a slightly better light but this guy seems to have taken the full responsibility for his actions and everything that comes with it.

@JoeCool90

Жыл бұрын

@@n-as1012 ? What do you mean? Why does he have to use language that YOU want him to?

@aceyyyy

Жыл бұрын

@@craigyboy4770 that's not true, even if they know the punch is coming and it knocks them out, their head is hitting the ground hard, that's what does the damage

@sneekz07

Жыл бұрын

@@craigyboy4770 You're doing too much. He told us everything we need to know. He went in swinging without even asking what was going on. The rest is self explanatory.

@b1nary_f1nary

Жыл бұрын

​@@n-as1012 Why would he have to use that word?. What I saw is a man who doesn't even know the right words to use to refer to what happened to the other lad because it's so horrific in his mind

@yyg4632

Жыл бұрын

@@n-as1012 why would he feel so guilty if he didnt see the guy as a victim? Words and body language have nuance. You should be able to put together the idea without hearing the exact words you need.

I'm going to show this to a group of year 10 boys who I teach next week.

@eyes5226

Жыл бұрын

as a y10, please do - you’re doing gods work as a teacher and I hope you help kids my age even more than you already do

@stevebailey5591

Жыл бұрын

@@eyes5226 Thanks, I appreciate that.

@mrsw5623

Жыл бұрын

Please look into the victims family more than this does too for the sake of the kids

@stevebailey5591

Жыл бұрын

@@mrsw5623 I understand what you're saying but I think Jacob's journey as a perpetrator will probably be far more relatable to young men whose sense of masculinity is still forming. The victim's family are on a whole other journey which, of course, is far harder than Jacob's but which might be less enlightening for the audience I'm talking about.

I'm almost 40, and I did something when I was 15 that makes it hard to fall asleep at night. It was an accident, but now I'm paying for it everyday for the rest of my life. Regret is torture sometimes.

@VerifyThese

Жыл бұрын

You killed someone or something? I’m joking, you don’t have to tell us, but if you haven’t already, make peace with yourself.

@why_so_serious

Жыл бұрын

What have you done?

@roadkillavenger1325

Жыл бұрын

@@why_so_serious I killed an extremely friendly dog. Okay? I hit it pretty hard in the rear with a stick because my uncle threatened to kill it if it ever got near his house. I was only trying to dissuade it from following me to his house. it turned around and walked away, so I thought everything was okay..... But the next morning I was informed that the dog was found dead laying on the steps of me and my friend's hangout spot. I was trying to save it's freaking life and ended up killing it myself by accident. It absolutely kills me to talk about it. I wish I could take it back every single day. From that day on I started treating dogs like they were my own child. It changed my life. I can't even go deer hunting anymore because I can't stand to hurt animals. Yes, it made me a better person in the end, but I have no other regret that bothers me remotely as bad as that dog. I might not even be responsible for it's death because I have no idea what happened between the time I hit it and the time I found out it died, but my gut tells me that I'm to blame. I can't take it back. I wish to God I could. I'm being haunted by that poor dog. I was a horrible person that day. I'll never forgive myself. Ever.

@20the20

Жыл бұрын

@@why_so_serious this is the youtube comment section, not a confessional booth. stop being such a nosy chump

Жыл бұрын

what are you doing to try to make up for it?

I had a bad dream before that I took someone's life accidentally, and it made me feel like it's the end of my life because of the guilt.

@coviloku7104

Жыл бұрын

Similar dream and I was a wanted man in my dream and cops were finding me. I felt so unwelcome in this world when I did that in my dream. I was so glad when I woke up and what a relief it was. And it makes me appreciate little things, the good things in life.

@biohazard8295

Ай бұрын

Worst nightmare even also for me. It's worse than dreaming of monsters or aliens, because i felt an incredible void in my belly and heart.

@BarbieVoiceofTruth

Ай бұрын

@@biohazard8295 true

@BarbieVoiceofTruth

Ай бұрын

@@coviloku7104 correct

It ended the victim's life, but clearly wrecked the life of the guy who in a stupid drunken moment, made a bad decision. A tragic story.

@NazriB

Жыл бұрын

Lies again? One Inch Punch

@jaimelock3966

Жыл бұрын

it s not tragic it s just dumb and you see these people everywhere praising their ignorance. The brain stem is as small as your thumb

@poopyfartboi

Жыл бұрын

@@NazriB what tf are you talking about?

@banned0404

Жыл бұрын

@@NazriB bodoh ke?

@0170barney

Жыл бұрын

@ poopyfatboi Hes talking about lies again. One inch puch.

I know the feeling, I was involved in a car accident with a pedestrian using the roadway to skateboard at 8:30 at night. We were just both in the wrong place at the wrong time and it ended with his death. It was ruled an accident but I remember everything like it happened just a few seconds ago. I also remember thinking in the following months how I deserved to die for what I did and I thought somehow that would make a difference. Like a life for a life kind of thing, but as time progressed I slowly became more self reflective and realized that sometimes things just happen that we have absolutely no control over and all we can do is try to survive the event and pick up what's left afterward. I still struggle with it sometimes and if I am watching a movie or TV show and someone is hit by a car I will zone out into the memory.

@JackieBaisa

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. Life really can literally change in a split second. It's devastating. I'm glad you've become self-reflective (instead of self-destructive). I hope you forgive yourself and go on to live your best life. Living steeped in guilt is no way to honor the other person. Thanks for sharing your story. I can only imagine the pain. Take care.

@stevejanowiak1982

Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that, brother. That’s gotta be rough. Peace to you.

@steviejrr

Жыл бұрын

Will never understand how ppl wanna end their life, most stupid thing to think of.

@xenophagia

Жыл бұрын

@@steviejrr Well I truly hope that you never end up understanding. At the same time, I hope you do learn to understand that being an edgelord serves no purpose and is just cringey. I also hope that if (god forbid) a person you care about becomes suicidal , you are not the person they call for help. At least until you learn a little bit of compassion. You're clearly young and don't have the maturity to speak on things like this. It could be beneficial for you to learn to keep your mouth shut/keep your fingers off of that keyboard before attempting to speak on something you don't understand. It's very important to know when not to speak and know that just because you can say something, doesn't mean you should.

@tylerkelley3400

Жыл бұрын

@@steviejrr maybe you won’t have to

Good for him for being so sincere

Another powerful piece from LADbible. I feel for both party’s here. This is a recurring event in today’s society. We have all been absolute bell ends, on both fronts….Just think before your actions…one punch really can change everything!!

I’ve lost a friend to a street attack after drink was involved and he got hit twice and died. He was always one of the ‘harder’ friends. It’s crazy how fragile our bodies really are. People don’t realise how bad street fights can end

@kafoop

Жыл бұрын

This is why I carry a firearm and avoid confrontation at all cost. Literally a simple hit can kill you, even if you are trying to get away from someone. I just do my best to never put myself in those positions, be respectful, and I am fully ready to use my firearm if someone attempts physical violence on me. Shit is just not the same as it was anymore, and I’m not going to die or eat from a tube because some drunken fool wants to come at me. You are catching rounds if you try that dumb shit

@capri2673

Жыл бұрын

@@kafoop That's not an option here in the UK.

@thefridge7335

Жыл бұрын

It's crazy how fragile masculinity is

@kafoop

Жыл бұрын

@@capri2673 You poor souls lol. Well either run or hit them hard and fast where it counts lol feel bad for y’all brotha

@LimerickWarrior1

Жыл бұрын

@@thefridge7335 Let me guess trans or a vegan?

I had a pal who got punched for absolutely no reason by a guy in a kebab shop in North Yorkshire. He hit his head on the tiled counter top on his way down and spent weeks in a coma, nearly died. The monumental prick that did it served no time and actually bragged about it despite the worktop doing the damage. There's some true wankers out there.

@AC-wz9tx

Жыл бұрын

Scarborough?

@daquaviousbingleton9763

Жыл бұрын

Like this guy

@airshredder7314

Жыл бұрын

we call it a coward punch in Australia.

@Jumbo344

Жыл бұрын

@@daquaviousbingleton9763 Clearly not ..

@Anteater23

Жыл бұрын

@@Jumbo344 13 months is basically nothing for killing someone.

Thank you.

Honest,brutal and upsetting. Honestly feel for everyone involved.

It is never worth getting into any confrontation especially when drink is involved. A friends sibling died just a couple weeks ago from this exact thing and the thought of how avoidable it could have been is devastating. Isnt worth it at all.

@michaelhawkins7389

Жыл бұрын

oi Resonant please make more music :( I love your Mount blade vidoes

@michaelhawkins7389

Жыл бұрын

@ConfusedOilPainter its because he was in shock...

@donhectorsalamanca

Жыл бұрын

When alcohol is involved, you are not thinking rationally. The risks dont cross your mind

@kasualbeauty309

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes there is no avoiding it

@scottnever8732

Жыл бұрын

sometimes no matter how hard you try to avoid it it happens, a wise man said to me that ' win or lose you won't change that persons opinion , so what's the point?'

I've met a few people in my life that this has happened to. It's far more common than you would think. More awareness need to be spread and people need to learn to walk away from a fight if possible.

@eelick1978

Жыл бұрын

@@kikc say hi to Bono for me ;)

I feel so bad for Jacob and James and their loved ones. It’s heartening that Jacob is using his life to try to prevent other such deaths or maiming. I wish him all the best.

use this and what u have left to do good, for the family youve hurt, for the person youve killed, and yourself, i believe in ya

@helenjeanotterstroem7240

Жыл бұрын

Yes, couldn't agree more, right on the nail. Live your life now in the best possible way.

I was so shocked when I learnt that you can just accidentally kill someone with one punch. That is so scary. Can't imagine having to live with that.

@Lafoochen

Жыл бұрын

A lot of times it’s once someone gets punched and get knocked out, they arnt able to brace the fall and hit their head which is usually the main cause of death

@micciki4001

Жыл бұрын

Human is really frail, it happened in my friend's high school, two guys having a fight, all it takes was just one punch in the stomach and the other guy starts peeing before eventually RIP

@micciki4001

Жыл бұрын

@@Lafoochen one punch on the right spot can be deadly, to the lower side of the liver as example

@joebloggs6922

Жыл бұрын

It's the impact of the fall not the actual punch that kills them. If you are knocked out and you fall like jelly and hit your head on the kerb then you are screwed. I saw one story and where this happened after one man punched another out of pure self defence and went to prison for ages.

@thereportoftheweek.6978

Жыл бұрын

@@Lafoochen incorrect depending on the blow they're dead before hitting the ground the brain hits the skull with brute force. Unlike TV simulations lead you to believe your head needs to be cracked open with lots of blood in order to die.

It's incredible how your body will suffer from an experience like this. He's like 2 years younger than me, but he has been worn out by grief and stress. I can't begin to imagine what he feels like, besides what we can see. I wish him strength, and I wish for better days for him, his loved ones, and the victim's loved ones.

@marks2997

Жыл бұрын

A gentle reminder that he took someone’s life and made the decision to throw that punch. Before you offer another round of sympathetic comments, ask yourself if you would say the same things if you witnessed the incident? Best wishes.

@brandonstott3841

Жыл бұрын

@@marks2997 young lads do stupid things out on the lash, no excuse for it but these situations happen all the time, it’s just horribly unlucky someone had lost their life in this instance. Violence should be avoided at all costs, as there’s always the risk and this bloke learned the hard way

@olafschoen4774

Жыл бұрын

@@marks2997 ive only been in a fight once, which was when i saw two guys rolling on the ground fighting, and i thought one of them was a friend of mine. I ran up to them and pulled him off, turned out not to be the guy i thought. He tried to hit me first and then i hit him once in the face, he fell to the ground and i just ran back to some friends. Im honestly not a bad guy, but if luck werent on my side that day i couldve had the same faith. So its not as black on white as you make it seem i think

@Kawabongahlive

Жыл бұрын

@@marks2997 emotion gets in the way of rational, productive solutions to situations.

@brandonstott3841

Жыл бұрын

@@imjohnfreeman not exactly what I said, and I wasn’t saying he should be excused for what he done. What i’m saying is these situations happen everyday from lads acting like idiots, so in this instance it’s tragic all around that someone lost their life and for him to live with the guilt of one stupid mistake.

This is a lesson to pick your friends carefully and surround yourself with good people

13 months for murdering someone? What a joke.

@poopdong360

Жыл бұрын

Yeah talk about “justice”

This happened to a friend of mine at a bar 6 years ago too. Sadly he was epileptic and the punch gave him a lethal seizure. They never found the guy who did it either.

@nonkululekongqola4568

Жыл бұрын

Im sorry for your loss

@ryu7964

Жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has kept shifting, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway" and "Yes", are the words that enable me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I say: "Yes, I apologize to myself anyway." And I apologize to others, if it is my choice. And I use these two methods. In which I either apologize to the people personally or within me, whichever I choose.h

@eriomnyc6073

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry you lost your friend Edward

This should be played to pupils at school in the final year. Extremely sad events that changed lives forever.

@yyg4632

Жыл бұрын

Yes. Very good idea.

Dude has been so much, then to find out he lost his mom. Great story. Thanks for sharing.

Wow! I was touched by this story. I believe people deserves a second chance, forgiveness. I wish the best of luck to this person that had the courage to tell his story.

When you're 18 you only care about your friends is absolutely spot on. When you're older you get the wisdom but how do you get through to a group of 18 year old friends the consequences of their actions.

@anglerfish1001

Жыл бұрын

Most 18yr olds just want to have fun. Not commit violent acts. The violent ones were few and far between and were pricks.

@el34glo59

Жыл бұрын

@@anglerfish1001 Not true at all.

@anglerfish1001

Жыл бұрын

@@el34glo59 What’s not true?

These interviews are incredible. 16 Minutes is one of my favourite interview series currently available. Letting the subject speak organically, not focusing on the interviewer. Provocative, raw, real stories of real people who matter, who have struggles and demons and experiences that are valuable. Conversations that need to be had. Real life, real people. I commend ladbible for actually legit fucking legit journalism????? Please make sure you continue to uphold these interviews as interviewee focused, organic storytelling from real life experiences, people who aren’t heard from very often, and non exploitational.

@kingcouch4799

Жыл бұрын

Brudda you talk like a dictionary

@fucksusan.fuckcensorship.874

Жыл бұрын

@@philipreid2542 fr im new to the series and the title dont even say that anywhere its "minutes with" is the series title. The persons point still pretty valid. I used to love channels like vice before it became another buzzfeed propaganda channel. These types of interviews reminds me of Andrew of channel 5 news. He justs lets the story speak for themselves. the "real" news outlets nowadays publish glorified opinion over actual peoples stories, and on top of that instead of letting the people speak these loser journalists act like they have the place to speak for whole groups of people. So i highly respect this kind of unbiased content where the story tells itself and the narrators/interviews arent just interjecting their own agenda. Think about when controversial public figures get interviewed the hosts goal is never to get the real side of the guest, its to get them to slip up. Jordan Peterson is a good example of when interviewers try to inject their own narrative but he doesn't let himself get backed into a corner. Wish there was more down to earth content around like this stuff.

@herman-phillipkleingeld2578

Жыл бұрын

Check out " the soft white underbelly" channel. Better than the knockoffs

Wishing you all the best.