Thank you so much for having me Mark! Really enjoyed this conversation

@GPPTX

5 ай бұрын

Wow...gorgeous, classy & extremely intelligent. Thank you for sharing you're time.

@Helenananana217

5 ай бұрын

Sadia i LOVE You pls reinstate your ig

@Carly4now

5 ай бұрын

All TRUTH! Thank you so MUCH! 17:57

@twinpyramid5985

5 ай бұрын

Thank you Sadia!!!!

@flashback1123

5 ай бұрын

Agreed! More smart guests would be a good rebalance

"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up alone, it's not... the worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone". Robin Williams

"As the attraction decreases, the transaction increases"....I hope nobody missed that line cuz that shit is critical.

@johnviera3884

4 ай бұрын

for men. for women it’s irrelevant

@amazinggrace313

4 ай бұрын

Any woman who’s honest will tell you she didn’t tell not one lie In that statement.

@QueerdoLoc

4 ай бұрын

Sounded like some pimpin jingle

@Pangaea83

4 ай бұрын

So cynical and vapid

@Pangaea83

4 ай бұрын

Attraction in what sense? She so surface-y

"People don't want to accept people on their level." Nothing but absolute truth.

For those of you like me who didn’t grow up with a solid value system, you can in fact build it yourself. I just want you to know that. It doesn’t have to come from your family. God bless.

"If it has a negative effect on children, its not good for society" great saying😊.

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys

@whitelabrat

4 ай бұрын

So this is complicated though. Is it harming children or is it just harming how society thinks children should be? Those are not the same. People have an idea of what kids should be exposed to that ranges from what tech is good to what education they should get. But often people have no actual idea what is good they just know what they understand or what they think is good for them. The most obvious example is education where how we educate has improved but because people do not understand the methods they want a return to education systems that didn't produced results for kids in a modern society. So is it actually bad or are we as a society just attached to an outcome or method that is maybe not optimal but is comfortable because we understand it? It is possible that traditional marriage is breaking down because it was never as great a system as we thought. It is possible that the changes we see in some kids behavior is because they are growing up into a world that is nothing like what we grew up in and those changes can be huge in just one generation. Sometimes within the same generation so much changes that how people interact with the world changes also.

@NeonNerve

4 ай бұрын

​@whitelabrat subjecting children, to any sexualization is unacceptable and damaging. Period.

@runningfox9750

4 ай бұрын

Someone's said her own father has two wives.....hmmm is that "good for society" I wonder?

@runningfox9750

4 ай бұрын

​@@tiffanyapril5458she's an actress. Apparently one who's manipulating Mark if he actually believes she's got psychology credentials! Ha!

Now we need a panel discussion with James the divorce lawyer. 🤯

@ryanalopez3078

5 ай бұрын

Exactly.. that would be point counter point.

@unclefreddy2009

5 ай бұрын

I think they would agree more than disagree

@ryanalopez3078

5 ай бұрын

Hmm I think men have more rights in court during divorce than they did 20 years ago

@davidrichardson9032

5 ай бұрын

THIS

@StephieGsrEvolution

5 ай бұрын

How about Esther Perel? She actually understands marriage and psychology.

After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

@erni192

3 ай бұрын

I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??

@KatharinaAkcan

3 ай бұрын

Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .

@KatharinaAkcan

3 ай бұрын

She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸

@KatharinaAkcan

3 ай бұрын

After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.

@Connie-Hugley

3 ай бұрын

Great to see you guys talking about her, she changed the game for me.

This interview is fantastic and eye opening. I grew up in a fatherless home and it wasn't until many years of counseling and self-improvement that I realized why I was attracting the same type of low quality women who were toxic. I had to change my thinking, set boundaries, figure out who I was and what matters most in order to change the type of women I was attracting. Sadia is spot on when she says men who idolize sex can be manipulated and it kills attraction. Women don't respect men they can manipulate. This is why men who desire a lasting, healthy relationship should never be intimate with a women until AFTER they are sure she the person they want to be with for the rest of their life.

@roykong7024

4 ай бұрын

Well put sir 👏💯

@lamarrwilliamson3246

Ай бұрын

man less not forget the most important thing of all It's not your 😼, it's only your turn,

I think the internet really skews us. There’s always some well spoken person feeding us information about something and we can easily latch onto it and take it as 100% fact without giving it much thought or testing the hypothesis. This interview definitely gave me food for thought, but it also just makes me want to get off the internet and just live my life and see how it goes for myself, lol.

@audreybertelson1972

4 ай бұрын

Some of what she said is BS and some is very true in my opinion she speaks with a lot of conviction so it's hard to remember that's just one person's point of view

@WellActualllyyy

4 ай бұрын

sort of like this lady who isn’t actually a psychologist and is just pulling shit out of her ass Highest divorce rates per capita: Maldives 5.52 Kazakhstan 4.6 Russia 3.9 Belarus 3.5 China 3.2 Moldova 3 Ukraine 2.9 Lithuania 2.8 Cyprus 2.6 United States most promiscuous countries: Australia Brazil Greece Chile New Zealand Germany Italy Switzerland Thailand South Africa

@S.O.A_Zero

4 ай бұрын

​@@audreybertelson1972With a ton of experience in many cases

@kuhataparunks

4 ай бұрын

A widely misattributed quote but profound is, it’s the mark of an educated mind to entertain a thought without accepting it.

@_WayofLife_

4 ай бұрын

Bro you literally put into words exactly what I felt about this interview

Moral of the story: get a prenup or don't get married, period.

@camvworld5674

22 күн бұрын

Better yet, don’t sign marriage papers to begin with.

@stansmultifandoms5686

5 күн бұрын

From your comment you didn't seem to have absord what Ms. Khan was saying. It's not to get a prenup or not married at all but to make sure you're a healthy mentally and physically so that you make the right decision when it comes to a life long commitment like marriage.

Thank you! You are the real deal. You speak wisdom. Those that judge your exterior and do not listen to your words, clearly live a shallow existence. They are the ones who need to hear it the most!

I don't envy anyone dating but just fyi there are still plenty of regular people getting married because they love each other and want to build a life together. Its not all gold diggers and superficial porn addicts.

@Etrielle

5 ай бұрын

I was thinking the same. The generalisations make me somewhat angry

@djcrackademiks1191

4 ай бұрын

@@Etriellewhere’s your anger coming from?

@eleanorrigby1629

4 ай бұрын

​@Etrielle I think these issues are very real and are... but I agree. There are huge demographics and communities who don't play into this model. I live in one such demographic and I know so many good men and women, single and married. Though I do see how our culture seeps in and the sexual revolution has totally messed w all our brains.

@petemorton8403

4 ай бұрын

The more you build the family strong, the more tempting for her to take it. Never a "We" with a wife, only a "me"

@Kingsolo580

4 ай бұрын

Frfr I was thinking the same thing I understand what there saying far as an overall aspect but it all just depends on how you was raised in my opinion.

She’s absolutely right about how women must be attracted to the man. Absolutely right. And “attracted” is not necessarily just physical attraction.

@russkiy6ot

5 ай бұрын

And yet she’s not holding women accountable for their behavior.. for whatever reason. It’s natural for women to destroy/take everything they can from men they don’t respect?

@tybenz2533

4 ай бұрын

No, but predominantly in general

@shellbell8062

4 ай бұрын

I agree, and it's really interesting when it's laid out like that because it's not something that you consciously think about. We tend to think that attraction is so important for men that we don't really think that it's equally as important for women. A high level of attraction for a woman makes you much more cautious of reigning in your less attractive qualities; as you respect the man and don't want to lose him. It's interesting how women need that to keep them on their toes.

@sheldonwilliams4952

4 ай бұрын

She is wrong it is not attraction it is interest If two people of the opposite sex are interested in the same thing or share a similar situation at the time they began to like one another. Attraction doesn’t come immediately. Song’s are written about this phenomenon all the time “firsts we were friends then became lovers

@shellbell8062

4 ай бұрын

@@sheldonwilliams4952 that’s a very weird leap in logic. Many songs are also written about love at first sight. Songs are essentially poetry and have nothing to do with reality. I can confirm as a woman that attraction is essential. It’s pretty much always instant. In the case where it’s not, often it feels like compromise or settling. Real connection happens very quickly. Yes you need time to validate whether the relationship will go the distance; but the attraction itself is instant.

Ms. Khan, you are a truly amazing person. I am a 54 year old canadian male who has been working hard for three years to sort out my basket-case of emotions and thoughts. This video has helped me a lot, I actually feel better about myself for having watched it. It has encouraged me to keep up the work, I have wanted to quit many times and even regretted starting this journey. Thank You!

@RobertMajor-jq2ke

3 ай бұрын

Been doing it for 6years I know what you mean bro it sucks

Mark, I really enjoy the diverse backgrounds and lives of individuals you have on.

that last point is so valuable - seek partners with similar upbringings and/or values to yours ⭐️

@HiGlowie

5 ай бұрын

Agreed. Sadly now more and more people are degens

@Melynnest

4 ай бұрын

Yeah but prospective partners could just be bullshitting and agreeing

@elinoreberkley1643

4 ай бұрын

yeah, birds of a feather flock together.

@70schick36

4 ай бұрын

Interesting. The opposite could be true. Diverse backgrounds are far more interesting, IMHO. I knew I would not end up with someone from my same culture or religion. I didn’t seek that out but I knew it to be true. It was. Christian and Muslim. Just celebrated our 20th anniversary. Love each other more every day. Still Christian and Muslim. With extreme respect and love for each other.

@aciuschristophores7789

4 ай бұрын

Muslim and Christian actually have mostly in common compared to Muslim/Christian with an atheist (which is most people today). Having put God/faith first in life automatically aligns you both in most of the important ways. Congratulations on your 20th!! @@70schick36

It's cool how her outfit blends with the background.

@jamescheaye927

4 ай бұрын

She came prepared

@kimkeck6266

4 ай бұрын

He does that specifically for each interview!

@scarlet__eye9489

4 ай бұрын

Dudes a photographer, he knows how to put up a good looking set 👌

@amykyns15

4 ай бұрын

Lol

@ImGoingToMakeShowsWithOprah

4 ай бұрын

I was literally just thinking that 😂

Great interview. Very insightful. More like this please!

Great inteview, lots of insight! Thank you! Sadia has a beautiful voice;)

I had a couple serious relationships with absolute gorgeous women, but every time things went south for that very reason! I am not good looking but brought good money to the table. Eventually I gave someone who was really always attracted to me and boy I found what I was missing. She accepts my flaws and I hers. Being honest to each other as partners has made our lives an absolute perfection!

@heyhey11793

4 ай бұрын

Would you cheat on her with a more attractive woman?

@cyberspace7208

4 ай бұрын

Happy for you.

@caseyrobbinssf2040

4 ай бұрын

Well. I don't think all girls/ women are like that.

@coolcreamykiwi

4 ай бұрын

She is so self absorbed its really remarkable, she has been spoon fed arrogant honey from birth, she has become a speaker with the sould purpose to hear her own voice, I feel bad for her patients...

@justinginter1234

4 ай бұрын

Once more, in English please

I come from a broken home … never seen a man treat my mother right but guess what, I have never loss hope that I would make an amazing wife. Not for his money, for his companionship… for his partnership. For his love. I agree with a lot of things you’re saying, but that one, naaaa. Women that come from broken homes deserve love too

@kimthoa8533

4 ай бұрын

You're definitely an outlier. Women from broken homes deserve love too, but they definitely need to do some self-work if they haven't fully healed from their traumas. I think that's what Sadia means. All of us deserve love, but the outcomes of our relationships are usually a result of our unconscious habits that are unfortunately programmed from childhood (unless we become aware of them and take action to make changes).

@dmorcos001

4 ай бұрын

I was with a woman who came from a broken home. Does she deserve love? Absolutely. But she needs A LOT of work before she should commit to someone else.. not making that mistake again.

@slkrick3319

4 ай бұрын

So where's your husband Ma'am?

@ghostakita5438

4 ай бұрын

@@kimthoa8533❤👍🏽❤

@mallyb132

4 ай бұрын

I partially agree with these comments only because even though I also come from a broken home, I have aunts and cousins who have been married for decades since early adulthood. No infidelity that I know of, however, seems miserable. Almost as if they’re waiting for their partners to die. Staying married to someone doesn’t equal a successful marriage. Whether you come from a broken home or not. I don’t have the answers, but it’s not a one-size-fits-all-all. Keep in mind there are people in relationships who are afraid to leave. The kids sees this and more than likely the cycle repeats.

“We can turn off empathy and replace it with desire and pleasure” needs to be in a textbook

@blackopal3138

Ай бұрын

I think itis probably not very accurate, though. Think about it. Or I'm missing something.

This was a helluva video. So helpful thank you so much.

My life began when I met my wife at 35. The married life suits me fine and I enjoy the daily grind when I have my best friend by my side. Guys.. The grass is NOT greener on the other side.

@jasonolinger7585

5 ай бұрын

it means cheating is not always as good as it seems. But you can say that about anything.

@aaroncoal28

5 ай бұрын

@@user-up2pe1fw1l Meaning you are going to have days in the tedium of marriage where a woman at work or a lady at the mall might give a moment of pause.. But don't entertain it.. The destruction it would cause will far outweigh the fleeting moments of pleasure. Embrace the tedium and then fulfillment will come in tending to your own lawn. When you are old you will have that companion that carries you.

@Gentorizu

5 ай бұрын

The grass is greenest where you water it.

@HelpMeFindTheseSongs

5 ай бұрын

I'm 38 years old, single, and keep a steady rotation of new women. All my married male friends and family members tell me they're jealous. The grass is greenest wherever you want it to be 👍

@oiBashyy

5 ай бұрын

@@HelpMeFindTheseSongs when you need to rely on one of those women, see what happens, theres no loyalty in a rotation, your married friends are much better off than you.

I'll add my own testimonial. When I was a bachelor and was dating my present wife, my grandmother once said to me: "The fact that your girfriend is so much in love with you makes you more likely to be happy in your relationship. If a women doesn't love you firmly, you're preparing for yourself nothing but misery down the road. Therefore you should do whatever is possible to make your present reletionship develop in to something stable and institutionalized (i.e. marriage)".

@smallypuppy22

4 ай бұрын

Most men don't grasp this concept anymore. I was head over heels , completely in love with my last boyfriend, would have done anything for that man kind of love. He left me, called me "sick" in the end and didn't answer me anymore. Most men nowdays just want a really hot chick by their side. I'm glad you worked on your relationship and it has gone well.

@flawlessfatherhood

4 ай бұрын

Sounds like she was pushing you towards marrying her granddaughter. I'm glad you're still married tho.

@chidinmaokobah602

4 ай бұрын

I don’t agree with the manipulating part.. it’s not the fundamental sha..

@chidinmaokobah602

4 ай бұрын

This is why I must marry right. So my kids will understand what love is

@flawlessfatherhood

4 ай бұрын

@@chidinmaokobah602 U can TRY to marry right. Only time will tell.

So much wisdom!!! This helped me a ton!

I thought her ideas were absolutely spot on with every topic Mark tossed out. One of the most informative interviews I've ever heard on the topics. Thank you Mark and Sadia for this jewel.

"Psychologist" while Sadia touches upon psychological concepts (briefly) she does not speak like an academic as she posits anecdotal examples to make her points with little evidence. Please take caution when listening to such 'content creators' and use your critical faculties.

@mr.tellithowitis106

4 ай бұрын

Yup. She’s a fake 304. Anyone who actually reads real psychology such as psychologist Jordan Peterson can see right through her. I’d listen to any other scholar before this hypothesized “psychologist”. Her persona doesn’t shout “intellectual “ at all.

@Cynthiabecker24

4 ай бұрын

Agree. Saying one's a psychologist doesn't make it true. She is just a content creator, posing as one.

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She is NOT a real psychologist. Should be reported if she is claiming to be one. They don’t speak in extremes like her. Pls be wary of this woman she justifies child marriage ‼️

As a guy even when I was in my 20's I never subscribed to the mindset of trying to find the most attractive woman. I saw so many examples of guys getting dragged through the mud and accept being treated like trash just because she was attractive. I have always been attracted to authenticity and connection. What makes a woman really attractive to me is her sense of humor, and a high level of empathy and compassion. Looks for me only go so far, Character and accountability and the ability to reciprocate energy in the relationship. Honestly that is all I want........her actions and words have to match, unfortunately it's been extremely hard to find. great interview, Sadia's perspective is spot on.

@ElCazador66

4 ай бұрын

1000% true, dude! And as I grow old, women who are considered very pretty are even a turn off to me tbh, I mean that kind of artificial/vain beauty, natural beauty is always desirable on the other hand, and most average looking women are pretty in their own way, what stands out is the personality and the character as you said. To fall strictly for looks is a huge, huge trap and I've known many broken men because of this.

@MrBlade110

4 ай бұрын

I left my sons mom because of this exact reason. I am a 6 figure earner so I’ve had my licks..

@2Cenery

4 ай бұрын

Love and learn. We all know what we need but as a man, it’s natural to desire a pretty woman. However, good that you found this ideology at a younger age.

@zacfromArkansas

4 ай бұрын

I hope you find that one day. You just described what I love about my wife. Please don't become discouraged, there are quality women out there. My wife has genuinely made me a better human being. She has more integrity, honesty, and depth than most men I've known.

@AnnaleeBelle

4 ай бұрын

Keep looking for that sense of humor!! That alone adds SO MUCH to our marriage. We’re both empathetic and sympathetic as well, but that sense of humor really saves us. Good for you for being young and knowing what’s truly important. 😊 Also… I met my husband when he was 37 and I was 25. He had a lot of doozies, but our relationship now is just the freaking best and we grow to live each other more every day, even at 10 years in. ❤

Very interesting broadcast, thank you!

Been loving these relationship psych interviews. Really enlightening and fascinating

I grew up in a single parent home, met my husband when I was seventeen, we had three children bought a home then married. I didn't know that it was an option to marry without inviting all of our friends and family, 28 year later we are still together. I prioritized having a big wedding and that's why we waited. Looking back now I would have married him within the first few months together at city hall! Im not sure I can pin point exactly why our marriage and love has lasted other then I truly couldn't even imagine my life without him. I have so much respect for my husband as the father of our incredible sons, I love this man. My husband is wonderful, I feel blessed that my boys have him as a father! I am grateful he is my husband my forever love!

@itchynail

4 ай бұрын

the key factor is that you grew up on the remnants of patriarhy. So even one parent childhood couldnt ruin that set of longing for a man, a husband

@prinnycupcakes4992

4 ай бұрын

@@itchynaillol what remnants of patriarchy… 30 years ago it was as strong as it is now. maybe in another50 years it will be gone but it’s far from gone and far from sing a remnant… Some people are just lucky like this OP to find a partner that works and keeps working in the long term…

@sarasoleman1661

4 ай бұрын

You are so lucky!

@frankgallo2946

4 ай бұрын

You are a diamond 💎 and hard to find

@jrky8857

4 ай бұрын

​@@prinnycupcakes4992The "patriarchy" will never be gone, because it's just a nonsensical feminist redefining of what life is. Go to an abandoned island and try to survive with a small group of 25 or so people. "The patriarchy," aka reality, will be revived within the year, if the group survives that long. Not everything is about some imaginary oppressor/oppressed relationship. The reason it works for OP is because it's a relationship based off two people coming together to complement each other's natural abilities and not trying to redefine reality with Frankfurt school textbook nonsense that doesn't work in real life.

I like how poised she was. And she was very direct, only answering questions when asked directly. She left him alot of time to share his opinion (the interviewer).

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys

This is the most attractive female Ive ever seen on media. Smart, honest, healthy, and very beautiful. Keep up the great work and discussion!

Great interview/conversation. Very informative.

She was really sharing game. There were so many real takeaways. This was an amazing interview.

@madalinamit4694

4 ай бұрын

It seems like that to an outsider that does not have psychology knowledge. Most of the stuff she says is BS tho.

@QueerdoLoc

4 ай бұрын

You can pick that up in any seduction book

@Marcus_MG42

4 ай бұрын

Not really actually. She is a pseudopsychologist.

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys

the woman who is truly in love with you is the one who would appreciate when you write her a poem or a love letter.

@4everu984

4 ай бұрын

I received 3 poems, Haiku’s actually, in 20 years. It means everything, and always correlates to when We are doing great. He is a man of few words so all words matter.

@michaelsotomayor5001

4 ай бұрын

Finally after about fifteen comments, a reasonable one. How are people listening to this hack is beyond me 😂 maybe they need someone to pander to their insecurities about women. It’s a cudgel that actually cripples them even further. Sad but true.

@user-qo5co7gh1v

4 ай бұрын

I literally scrolled through the comments checking if anyone said this and you did, Thank you

@lisahinton9682

4 ай бұрын

@simomarbouh6619 I think you misunderstood her. She distinctly mentioned _in the courting phase,_ women are turned off by this. Once you're well into the relationship, I wouldn't have a problem with receiving a poem. But when we are first getting to know each other? Eww, just ewwww..

@michaelsotomayor5001

4 ай бұрын

@@lisahinton9682 not everyone thinks like you. Sometimes we are a minority in our thoughts. Try being more open minded. It only benefits society.

I love almost every interview he does, but this spoke to me in so many levels it’s amazing!!

@CCobraProductions

2 ай бұрын

I couldn't agree with you more.

Such a great interview! Love learning psychology and why people do what they do ❤️

@dorothyanyango2197

21 күн бұрын

Me too. So thought-provoking.

@Purplegreen45

5 күн бұрын

you should start with an actual psychologist, because you just got duped by uneducated actor...

As a biologist, anybody who makes claims about psychology based on evolutionary conjecture is not a responsible and professional psychologist in my opinion. You could hypothesize an evolutionary reason for a phenomenon (and make sure you know it's only cojecture and not claim it to be the truth, as these things are mostly unprovable), but you first have to establish that the phenomenon exists. You can't do it the other way around. That's not science.

@bottledwater4484

4 ай бұрын

I don't think anyone has ever told her she sounds like Depok Chopra.

@fundamonium

4 ай бұрын

You realise psychology is essentially a pseudoscience?

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys

@rushmetofood

4 ай бұрын

thank you! entire interview sounded like a rant of an uninformed teenager! just because someone is saying something with confidence does not mean they are not simultaneously pulling it out of their ass.

@ranandiebraut7425

3 ай бұрын

She is Muslim

The mindset of a rapist is to have sex with a woman who doesn't want to have sex with him?????? Since when? Sex has nothing to do with rape, its about power, control and anger.

@multitablez7825

5 ай бұрын

yah not sure why she thinks that. victim of r4pe cannot consent, even if they want to. She has no idea.

@saphire9823

4 ай бұрын

She's not backing up anything she says because she's a grifter

@9395gb

4 ай бұрын

That's what she said. It's aboit power, control and controlling someone who doesn't want you or consent to it. You repeated what she said.

@multitablez7825

4 ай бұрын

so someone in therapy wants to have sex with their therapist.. and the therapist goes with it. that's not rape? it is rape, even though the victim wanted to do it. doesnt mean its not rape @@9395gb

@Hunter-2689

Ай бұрын

??? It is about sex though or else they wouldn't have sex with them. But it's the power/violence fetish that drives it.

I just went through a rough break up and I absolutely needed to find this video

Great interview thank you guys!

For some people marriage is a romantic ideal. Maybe some people that have come from broken homes believe they can restructure their life and have children , the house and financial and emotional security, something that they've never had. It's an Ideal

@SolorockinOne

4 ай бұрын

And let’s just be 💯… Men are the some people.

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys

Saying you don’t believe in feminism because women can be jealous sometimes is crazy

@Cotillion308

4 ай бұрын

Women are jealous all the time.

@ArcaneEiro

4 ай бұрын

Reasonable people always look crazy in a shattered society.

@thatii5867

4 ай бұрын

It's actually quite undestandable as us women we can be manipulative. So I get where she is coming from, take the side chick and married woman kinda trend. Where married women would rather blame side chicks for their failed marriages, than to blame the underlying problems. And to see how some women would also go their way to shame other women. So, feminism can be one sided at times🙌🏼

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys

@Wildmanmercury

4 ай бұрын

She doesn’t see her own bias and cultural influence very clearly, seemingly. I definitely agree. It’s quite a sweeping statement. Pakistan is one of the worst places for women’s rights. I think of the murder of Noor Makadam and the male staff in Pakistan just watching her be abused by her husband without doing a thing. (Her husband ultimately decapitated her.) She is also only speaking about heterosexual relationships. Narrow scope in this talk with some interesting points and thoughts.

Fantastic interview. Very insightful.

This video should not only be liked and shared. It must also be bookmarked. I feel every man looking for a relationship should come back to this video for a refresher every time he starts dating a new woman.

Perfect compliment to the James Sexton video. Nice work. I like your usual guests, but I hope you explore this angle more also.

@MM-ow2md

4 ай бұрын

I have to disagree. I don't like this path of interviewing mainstream professionals who are using this as a marketing opportunity - such professionals can be seen on traditional media easily by anyone. James Sexton was fine...but interviewing others may not be a great idea. I thought the whole idea of SWU was to give voice to the UNHEARD.

@jooliagoolia9959

4 ай бұрын

Things evolve @@MM-ow2md

@Alexandra-uk4vr

4 ай бұрын

​@@MM-ow2md While I see where you're coming from, I'd hope they can find a balance between hearing the stories from the unnoticed and allowing professionals in fields linked to interpersonal relationships to shed light on these modern social dynamics. The two segments have the potential to compliment each other in a meaningful, eye-opening way, providing different perspectives that help us further understand the correlation between our behaviors and what's led us to them.

@InTheOuter

4 ай бұрын

@@MM-ow2md Good points also, but I think offering a proffessional viewpoint as to what causes the breakdown of these relationships that leads to the unheard ending up like the do is good to fill on the whole picture. Each to their own

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys

For someone who claims to be an academic she over generalizes a lot. And when she talked about how bold romantic gestures like writing a woman poetry are feminine and women are not attracted to it, it would have been better if she said SHE is not attracted to that. That it is maybe the women she hangs with who might be attracted to men they have to remind of their anniversary instead of applying this to all women. Many women love old school romance and saying that the masculine way to show love is to be negligent romantically is extremely inaccurate.

@Jay_490

4 ай бұрын

She does tend to over generalize. Alot of women have said they like it when their man is romantic and deep with them but not with the general public. They want the romance, kindness & warmth & from their partner. They want their partner to exclusively share that with them only. I’m pretty sure that’s how it’s always been rough exterior soft interior. What even makes a romantic relationship if there aren’t sweet exchanges.

@gcogco305

4 ай бұрын

It sounded like a woman bashing interview.

@don_specialfx2632

4 ай бұрын

I understand this comment but u seem to have "over generalized" her point yourself. That example was meant to explain why "nice guys finish last". Her main point was that masculinity is the attracting force for the woman, in the long run. An effeminate partner isn't generally attractive except that particular woman wants that type of man.

@SeniorAdrian

4 ай бұрын

I mean this woman from what i've seen from her she clearly is brainwashed. She lives in Dubai for a reason. She is hunting for money. She thinks poetry it's a waste of time. I don't think she obtained her diplomas legitimately. She is way to superficial.

@user-qq5du7iv4t

4 ай бұрын

​@@gcogco305nah

So refreshing! The truth being told without any filters!.. it’s been a long time…

refreshing point of view,, thank you Sadia!

In California, one cannot be called a Psychologist without a license and a doctorate in psychology. She is more aptly called a psychotherapist. Although (some) other places allow one to be called a psychologist without a doctorate, it can be confusing to a larger audience.

@theylivewesleep4682

5 ай бұрын

Agreed. Some of her comments are flawed and based on her opinion rather than factual. This would explain it.

@s.a.8106

5 ай бұрын

In Germany you need a Bachelor, than a Master degree followed by another qualification of 5 years to be allowed to use professionally the title "psychological psychotherapist". ( I know the title is weird 😁)The differences between the nations when to use which title are interesting.

@azriel1668

5 ай бұрын

True , u can cook but if u don’t go to school for become a professional chef or koki, ur not qualify to work in 5 star hotels

@vltruane

5 ай бұрын

I would say about 98% of what she saying is pretty much factual. I’ve been studying this subject for a couple of years now. The data is pretty clear. You don’t need a degree to be right, lol.

@FrancescaTarot33

5 ай бұрын

Thank you ! I feel uncomfortable to see her as a reference taken by many youtubers called psychologist when she clearly don't seem to talk more than her clichés.

This has been the most therapeutic video I’ve ever watched in my life. I’m 55 yrs old. She echoes thoughts I’ve had, fears and realities I didn’t want to face.

@JPizz2008

4 ай бұрын

They’re opinions, not reality. Perspectives, perhaps.

@zzygyy

4 ай бұрын

​@JPizz2008 the reality is humanity is going to hell in a hand basket. Decline of the western civilization.

@BanditsandBusiness

4 ай бұрын

Yup. Absolutely blown away by this interview

@brandonrothsman2665

4 ай бұрын

@@JPizz2008unfortunately her opinions which are based in reality and the science of the mind, are very true. Be smart to listen at the very least

@fuzzboi

4 ай бұрын

@@JPizz2008 Given by her profession, and that she most likely have gathered those “opinions” from speaking with a lot of people. To me that carries a lot of credibility.

such an amazing and insightful interview

Very informative!thank you

Sadia is intelligent and well-suited for this channel, making a lot of wonderful points. There are also lots of broad generalizations and oversimplifications masked as hard truths that do not accurately reflect all segments of society and all cultural interpretations of monogamous relationships. Overall, I find it hard to recommend this as a psychologist's interview, but it's an interesting discussion on relationships that I hope people interpret critically.

@christinasanders5625

4 ай бұрын

Well said.

@christinasanders5625

4 ай бұрын

Intelligence is not the same as education. She is lacking proper education in psychology. But yes, she is intelligent.

@jaredmello

4 ай бұрын

@@christinasanders5625yes. She has a degree in education and is a relationship coach who masquerades as a psychologist. As a coach myself, I don’t mind people speaking their mind on topics, but I draw the line at deceiving people about your credentials.

@disarchitected

4 ай бұрын

Usually they are talking about themselves, and have entered this profession to heal themselves. 20:20 she does say the stuff she is saying represents a particular extreme although most of what she is saying is present to a lesser or greater extent in all relationships. People in ‘normal’ relationships wouldn’t have need of her services, so she is talking about the more extreme end.

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys

I repented from porn, alcohol, pot, cigarettes, Facebook, Instagram and toxic relationships over the past year. Its been very difficult, but its been worth it. Turning to, believing in and trusting a higher power has been the key. Finding and fostering relationships with those who've done the same is essential. Exercising and eating natural foods are crucial too. Again its difficult but worth it.

@strikephorce

4 ай бұрын

“Indeed, those who believe and have done good deeds, their Lord guides them with their belief, flowing beneath them rivers in gardens of bliss” Quran 10:9

@jenjamison790

4 ай бұрын

Wish I had the courage to do the same. Keep moving in the right direction towards love and light 🧡♥️

@Realkimaningugi

4 ай бұрын

grow In faith,Love and Hope.Repentance is a lifelong process. Yahuah bless you

@bellafontejohnson-bm8ep

4 ай бұрын

Shit I smoke fent & rock cocaine. Still have a full time job been there for as long as i been getting high. I guess it’s a mindset thing 😊😊😊😊

@kieeeda

4 ай бұрын

@bellafontejohnson-bm8ep that’s not quite the flex you think it is ma’am…or sir..whichever you prefer…

Awesome interview!

This is a goldmine of information

The bit about perceived attractive women not having many friends, regrettably is so very true. Add being a successful entrepreneur and it’s even higher. I have 3 older sisters, and I have always treated them with love and care, and yet they have tried to sabotage me in both my personal life and business. Sad, and very lonely.

@ultimatewarrior659

4 ай бұрын

Maybe we should get together..I'm lonely too

@natashasays

4 ай бұрын

I hope that's the truth in why I never seemed to find loyal female friends in the past. Now that I've gained tons of weight from taking antidepressants (which saved my life) I find it much easier to get along with other women and don't seem to be the target for passive aggression much anymore. Maybe it's just age, though, or the fact that I am a happier person, so who knows.

@ladymystique453

4 ай бұрын

Can we be besties?? Lol

@mariecait

4 ай бұрын

My two older sisters leave me out a lot. I tell them and they call me dramatic. There is nothing more painful than being ostracized by loved ones. I’m not sure why they do it but I think there’s a sick pleasure they get knowing I’ll be hurting while they’re happy. My chosen family is my cats. I have no friends either because I own my own condo and many of my friends are still struggling. I’ve helped them all and helped pay their rent but it seems that made them only resent me more. It’s not in my nature to be cruel to others ever and I am so broken our society doesn’t address the family unit more and how important community is to all of our lives.

@ultimatewarrior659

4 ай бұрын

@@mariecait sounds like you and I have a lot in common..let's become lovers so we will never be alone again!

I would argue against the last point to some degree. I think if one party comes from a broken home and the other from a stable home, but the former has done the work to heal and perhaps has a "chosen" family, it can be a beautiful relationship for both parties. Trauma can harm you, but if healed, it can also provide perspective for those who struggle to understand difficult people. Likewise, a healthy family dynamic can tremendously heal someone who lacked it. This, of course, requires self-reflection and empathy from both parties. I think a lot of these blanket statements should be seen as generalizations and not rules.

@kellywoodwardcore5360

4 ай бұрын

Absolutely! With awareness, healing and intention people can certainly heal and create healthy homes for themselves and their children.

@joelmolinapalau6811

4 ай бұрын

Like that assumption of women not liking men to give them poetry. As far as my experience goes, many women friends or partners of male friends seem somewhat happy with their mild, thoughtful, romantic male partners. And then, you have women who love horror movies and watching real crime documentaries after a hard day, that become a perfect match for people like me, and we don’t complain as much and often as regular people do. Among all these generalizations, I go with the ones of men wanting submissive behavior from women while knowing that also some other men are more attracted to strong, independent women.

@sherolie

4 ай бұрын

I agree. I think if both parties work on their crap and most people DO have them, it can create a beautiful bond that is authentic.

@phoenixrisin2269

4 ай бұрын

@@joelmolinapalau6811Romance is for men

@phoenixrisin2269

4 ай бұрын

You can not heal someone else’s trauma. That is your personal responsibility to heal yourself before you get in another relationship. You especially can’t heal someone from childhood trauma so that’s a definite no go. Personal responsibility and accountability is an XXs kryptonite! 💪

The risk for a woman to give up 20-30 years of her life to marriage is NOT the same as the risk for a man. A middle aged woman who is divorced has WAY less prospects, professionally and personally, than a middle aged man who is divorced.

@muneebiqbal5584

2 ай бұрын

Just because the middle aged woman is more reliant on the relationship succeeding, it does not mean she is owed something more.

@crazeekids9744

2 ай бұрын

@@muneebiqbal5584 if there is more risk, then women should plan accordingly and have safety nets in place.

@arthurlisi9296

2 ай бұрын

@@muneebiqbal5584that's not what he's saying

@I.D.I.O.C.R.A.C.Y.

Ай бұрын

Lol. Just stop. Women have way more support in society than men.

@angryagain3801

Ай бұрын

Totally disagree, What country are you posting from? A middle aged woman doesn't have WAY less prospcts professionally if they have already established a career and have in-demand skills. Maybe you're thinking of a stay at home wife, one who doesn't work? On that I can agree.

fantastic conversation

Ain't nothing like another morning watching another episode of Soft White Underbelly.

@conniehanses

5 ай бұрын

Here Here...💙🌎

@ArmandoTarziu

5 ай бұрын

Besides the false sabt(Sunday),and teh wide spread of spiritism(yog, karma, ouiaj bord, reiki,hipnosis), last final decie wil be ,atht satn himslef wil come as Hrist, sayinghe changed teh day of rest! And this decie wil be poerful for al those who dont read teh Bible for themseles,as it wil be flowed by great miracles and healings,everywere he wil apear! But teh Bible dosnt live su without wraning to this and cleaerly says aht when Jesius coems " All eyes wil see Him" ,so everyone on earth, wilse satans fake only here and there! -read Mathew chaoter 24! Another direct warning to teh spirit f the anthirst is in 2 Joan 7" anyone who says atht Jesus doenst coem in flesh/body, is teh spirit of the anthirst"! And i would sugest you get abook caled " The great cintroversy" by Ellen White, is ana mazing book, wich depicts the war betwen good and evil,from Lucifers afl til teh very end,and in the last few chapters, is everything about what we live, and whats toc eom, pure undiluted truth, with valiuble insights! God bless you all!

If anyone is familiar with the late Patrice O’Neal, he literally spoke on this same topic of being a man your woman can respect damn near a decade ago and here we are having the same conversation. This interview literally proves the brilliance of Patrice and his quest to wake men up and try to even the battlefield. Great interview and hope to continue seeing this type of work.

@555reaper

4 ай бұрын

The Game stays the same, the only thing that changes is the faces and the places.

@legoswami

4 ай бұрын

Rest in Peace Patrice

@alexandrialadd3125

4 ай бұрын

Love Patrice what can I search to find what he said?

@sailingbikingandmore2765

4 ай бұрын

The Black Philip Show

@kurtvanluven9351

4 ай бұрын

After being treated like trash by most women I have met, I do not give a Sh@@ what women want.

I also believe the divide in love and care is being sabotaged deliberately. If we love each other less, if we are seperated, we are easier to control.

So many gems 💎! Thank you

I disagree with her comments about girl code being fake. Idk maybe it's a generational thing but I find my female friendships incredibly rewarding. And generally when I interact with girls I don't know they are always friendly. Maybe she's not a girls girl idk.

@craigslist6988

5 ай бұрын

people vary. Mark is also wrong that "guys will just complement each other". Guys obviously get competitive all the time, talking smack about who is better at blah blah blah. Same as women. It's almost like people's individual personality matters more to explain what they'll do than their sex. Wow, groundbreaking... if you've been transported here from the 1800s. It was a ridiculous exchange of no critical thinking and vague meaningless statements. The commenters impressed by this probably get excited when they eat a balony sandwich.

@hadasabriciu3462

5 ай бұрын

I think she herself lives in a very superficial world - and she extrapolates that and talks as if the whole world is as superficial as hers.

@nakalawatson233

4 ай бұрын

Yeah I agree she spoke in a lot of generalizations and something just seems off in general. It also seems as if she exclusively interacts w rich af ppl so there’s that lmao.

@dreamlover5569

4 ай бұрын

😂😂😂​@@craigslist6988

@yzma6142

4 ай бұрын

I agree. my female friendships have poured so much life into me

Her charisma is her ability to speak calmly with a sense of trying to say something true

@RearrangeGinger

4 ай бұрын

She says a lot of true stuff. Out of experience, this woman speaks exactly what I've said. Naive men will get walked on over and over. Our society has put attractiveness as #1 trait. Too many simps letting women have unrealistic standards.

@islesanctum833

4 ай бұрын

'trying' to say something true? The video is full of truth

@murphymomof9

4 ай бұрын

From what I heard, she was speaking a whole lot of truth. 👌

@TheOpenSociety777

4 ай бұрын

​@@murphymomof9maybe from and islamic perspective but this isn't very applicable to Western men & women. Take a second and think about how women are treated in islam and how this woman is promoting the "virtues" of transactional relationships.

@iamamodel7

4 ай бұрын

@loic721, well put. I could only stand about 10 minutes. She's merely a regurgitator of stuff we've all heard before. She presumes to know how men think based upon those men who are dominant in social media, not the majority of us.

Thank you so much sadia ! keep doing what you doing ! i am practicing all your advices and my mariage is becoming better day by day

Amazing conversation

I think men and women all want is someone that we enjoy being with. Someone we can call our best friend and being sexually attracted to. That one person at the end of the day that we can call home. Feeling safe , comfortable and happy ❤

@mv8908

5 ай бұрын

If men really wanted that then father abandonment wouldn't be such a common thing throughout human history..

@showcase0525

4 ай бұрын

​@@mv8908 I'm missing the link between the original comment and your reply. Help me understand this please.

@GottEddy

4 ай бұрын

​@@mv8908Who hurt you?

@mv8908

4 ай бұрын

@@GottEddy who hurts the most? Men

@GottEddy

4 ай бұрын

@@mv8908 You better check your privilege

Seems like this video is more for pushing a narrative than being a thoughtful piece.

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She justifies child marriage btw and is NOT a real psychologist ‼️‼️ pls be wary guys

@stephanies5686

4 ай бұрын

@@tiffanyapril5458do you have links to support that?

@dwight4k

4 ай бұрын

@@tiffanyapril5458 Do you have proof?

@InnerGiggles

4 ай бұрын

100%

The point with shared values is truely so essential. These values will influence every decision you make in life down the road, and you will only keep going into the same direction, if these values match.

Absolutely Legendary! Gratitude from the core of my heart to everyone who made this possible.

Beware of any person who speaks with an air of authority in such broad generalizations. Love, attraction, and relationships between men and women come in a thousand different combinations for an infinite number of reasons.

@lildude677

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! Your comment is like a breath of fresh air

@deathrat

4 ай бұрын

Great point

@YoungKing50

4 ай бұрын

There is 8 billion of us on this floating rock, while there is many reasons why men and women may fall in love- most of the patterns start to become a trend you can monitor and see if the reasons that follow also become a trend. This is called study and science, hence where the generalizations come from

@ladymystique453

4 ай бұрын

I mean.. considering that she has a PHD in psychology.. I would say that she can speak with an air of authority. Lol.

@SonoranOrigin

4 ай бұрын

Yeah, the amount of generalizations was very disappointing. Especially her views on feminism and her and Mark's "men at the gym" analogy which was hilariously wrong. Men hate on other men constantly and think being emotionally supportive is a "weakness."

This speaker has made some huge leaps in confounding correlation/causation and also in making sweeping generalizations.

@jgjggkhl4719

4 ай бұрын

Because she"s a fake. I can't understand why more people aren't seeing this. Mark got played or he's playing his audience.

@katerinahikesalot1644

4 ай бұрын

I stopped 5 mins in because she has a very clear traditional, conservative perspective. She actually said that if women are attracted to men they will be submissive to them (and I’m assuming she did not mean in a fun way!). I don’t know where she was trained, but I am relatively fresh out of a masters in psychotherapy program, with additional training in sex and couples counseling in the US. I disagree with almost everything she said.

@jeffjackson3356

4 ай бұрын

@@katerinahikesalot1644 you’re the one who’s been indoctrinated with liberal bs

@mathewdaniels2640

4 ай бұрын

This.

@saphire9823

4 ай бұрын

I agree. & I'm a psychologist

She is 100% dead on, on just about everything she said and she doesn't sugarcoat it. I appreciate that immensely!

Such intelligent woman and such health conversation!! I am thankful to have had the opportunity to witnessed this conversation.

Mark, I loved Soft White Underbelly's content 3 years ago, but I'm even happier the channel is pivoting in this direction. Great stuff!

@liukang85

4 ай бұрын

what direction... he's still mainly interviewing hookers and addicts or not (I'd prefer him to actually interview seemingly 'everyday' people as well and not just go for either famous people or as addicts and prostitutes...)

@sweetrwf

4 ай бұрын

@@liukang85 Luikang, this woman he is interviewing is neither a hooker or an addict, you can say she is a seemingly "everyday person".

@victor75208

4 ай бұрын

​@@liukang85he probably thinks that SWU is taking the red pill

@AxisandAllies72

4 ай бұрын

@@victor75208 you’re inept.

@AxisandAllies72

4 ай бұрын

@@victor75208 you’re inept.

I don’t think girl code is fake, because I belong to a tight sisterhood of friends- girls I have known for 15+ yrs. That said, I was beyond shocked when a former work friend tried to hook up with our other work friend’s husband! He is a decent man, so he shut it down and reported it to his wife. That was the end of our collective relationship

@sitdowndogbreath

4 ай бұрын

How about the ones you don't see hot shot how about that

@Purplegreen45

5 күн бұрын

that's called maintaining relationships lmao, girl code is pop psych trash.

Everyone is meant to be used not abused

Bitter pill to swallow Harsh truth Very refreshing Thank you sadia

If she actually calls herself a "practitioner psychologist", which includes clinical psychologist or counselling psychologist, in London she would be registered in the UK with the HCPC. I checked and she's not listed anywhere on the HCPC (UK) website. But if she just calls herself "psychologist", at least in the UK, you could have a grade 3 education and walk around saying herpy derpy durr without any registration necessary.

@blajmonica

4 ай бұрын

She does not live in UK anymore, she is based in Dubai. Check her there lol

@mr.tellithowitis106

4 ай бұрын

That’s because she is not a real psychologist. Sharpe and F&F already exposed her. Back to the Figueroa streets she goes!

@kaylahenderson2400

4 ай бұрын

ooouhh where did sharpe say that at? podcast?@@mr.tellithowitis106

@frankgallo2946

4 ай бұрын

It happens often in the US. Everyone is a dang doctor without the experience and degree. Big time red flag 🚩

@Amiyah2love

4 ай бұрын

@@mr.tellithowitis106who is sharp f&f ?

A few too many generalizations or assertions stated without reference to evidence based professional material. This interview might have been titled an individual person’s views sprinkled through with psychological terms

@AlpinePreparedness

4 ай бұрын

Yes… not a highly educated opinion.. just an opinion

@deak4032

4 ай бұрын

Unfortunately many psychologists (not all) have god complexes. They think they know everything there is to know about everything, ever. 😂 Many of them have not been through personally what their clients are experiencing. So they revert to their generic, college textbook jargon to explain away others pain. In a way that causes further damage and is not received well.

I have a very successful marriage so far ( been together 9 years and married for 7 years) for the Topic on why get married at all or get married after kids, well I did it just cause (like Mark said its the next step) and to have important things in our names together and work as a team to make a better future for our family. I view it as a way to better ourselves but also to show him that I’am committed to him and that I love him, im truly lucky to have the man who treats me the way i want to be treated. With love and respect ❤️

Holy shit....this is eye opening...this vid if viewed properly will save many lives

A lot of outlandish claims and broad generalisations without the appropriate amount of nuance regarding many of the topics. She’s incredibly articulate and I found many of the things she said interesting but it’s never as black and white as she claims. And while genuinely wish her the best in all her future endeavours in life, I’m always cautious and sceptical when someone doesn’t at least acknowledge that there are deviations to their ideologies. That’s not to say there are not instances where things are black and white and general but it’s to say in this case humans are not that robotic and shallow. Only life experience will make this clear for most people and a lack there of or a deficient/skewed perspective of it will to make you think it’s all this simple. Needless to say, great interview.

@Nubbby

4 ай бұрын

I felt this same way! She had a lot of great points but when she spoke on women, I felt confused at times because what she said did not resonate with me.

@LMak27

4 ай бұрын

This!!! Exactly this!!! She's been online everywhere in the last 12-18 months and even though I find myself partly agreeing with most of what she says, I feel like there's certainly a halo effect going on because she's pretty and well articulate. Some of her very generalized points are taken as gospel but to me they lack an awful lot of nuance. Whilst I wouldn't in anyway imply she's some kind of grifter, I've largely found that she's been unchallenged in many points that I feel require elaboration.

@whorebag0003

4 ай бұрын

This is why I’m shocked she’s been given so much attention she’s not that bright, she likes to generalize and she’s always talking about a small percentage of the population, probably bc she lives in Dubai and is surrounded by those kinds of people

@Pseudonymforapseudonym

4 ай бұрын

You have great intuition. This woman is actually a fraud. All her degrees are photoshopped and none of them qualify her to practise “psychotherapy for relationships and trauma.” You can have a gander at her website. “Psychologist” is not a protected title in the UK unfortunately, so she is charging £250 for 50 minute “therapy sessions” after doing some basic psychology modules online. It’s appalling to scam people during a cost of living crisis which speaks volumes to her lack of ethics. I won’t even go into the hypocrisy of her own conduct, language and the way she carries herself. Be weary and trust your intuition.

@aidanbliss4595

4 ай бұрын

yeah I agree some of her points seemed a little outdated, but still really fascinating and a great watch!

I was excited to watch this because I love psychology and SWU interviews in general. So, I’m kinda disappointed her answers seem to be more based on her opinions rather than actual psychology based answers.

@neigeepierrot4694

5 ай бұрын

I see that too and she also doesn’t back them up

@lanacrystal8147

5 ай бұрын

Yes she really needs to interject some “most people” and “I have found” or “the majority of people I see”.

@yuriination

5 ай бұрын

THIS. Absolutely. You can even tell as soon as the opening clip. That was a red flag 🚩 straight out of the gate with that misogynistic quip about women are only marrying for money. She likes to paint with a broad brush. Correlation isn't causation. Im curious what changes in her "stats" when she factors in poverty, racism, sexism, underfunded access to good education, access to women's access to birth control and abortion and mental health education and access OVER THE LAST 50 YEARS. This is absolute religion fueled, shame based, manipulated biased data, HACKERY. The female version of Jordan Peterson.

@GoldPeakLLC

5 ай бұрын

@@lanacrystal8147true, can be anecdotal facts but hard to disagree with.

@lisanevins3605

5 ай бұрын

Apparently she is not a trained Psychologist or a registered one to practice. Has no formal scooling on the subject not even a B A. But rather a grifter grifting. Didn't take less than 5 mins for me to put the brakes on this one. "Rape is about men wanting to have sex with a women who does'nt" wtf. Me doesn't just consist of men raping women, it can be to other men , a child. & rape is about kany different things. Ya I'm not buying what she's selling. Generalized, brief, false, uneducated answers. I live in Canada , she would need 6 years post secondary education and a Provincial license( written test similar to a bar exam) to practice. Don't pay & fall for the gift people.

Very good interview lots of intelligent thoughts shared here for those that are willing to listen.

What a great interview! Thank you Sadia and Mark

@19:00 - "Everybody has conditions. Some of those conditions are far more transactional than others. And how you know how transactional it is is how attractive the person is. If they are genuinely attracted to you, it gets less and less transactional. As the attraction decreases, the tranasction increases." MIND.....BLOWN!!! 🤯🤯

@zaccatacc

4 ай бұрын

This is literally the black pill.

I am married and my husband and I are not religious. It saddens me to hear that she says she doesn't know why anybody would get married if not for religious purposes. My husband and I have been best friends and lovers for 15 years and have a strong and wonderful marriage. Modern marriage doesn't require religion. We got married in a quiet and private ceremony that was very special to us to express our vows and commitment to each other. We have three children and are deeply committed to our children, our family and each other. Having a strong marriage doesn't require religion or duty. It is respect, love, growth, commitment and joy.

@heitchgeeeeeee4870

4 ай бұрын

Totally agree! I’m not religious, never have been and I’m getting married to my to-be husband in one month who I’ve been with for 8 years and I am so excited. We also do not plan on having children. Our marriage is a symbol of our unity, and commitment to love and stand by one another for the rest of our lives. I (the woman) was also who first raised getting a pre-nuptial agreement and stressed its importance. Some of the points Sadia raises I think hold true, but others feel like broad generalisations.

@tiffanyapril5458

4 ай бұрын

She’s not a real psychologist nor should she claim to be one. Simple google search. No credentials someone should report her honestly. She justifies child marriage too

@flakeyjay

4 ай бұрын

I might hedge drinking from this therapists water she made a lot of broad generalizations before she clumsily corrected one of them. Yes men are struggling but it's of their own creation. They come from a privileged position as males and are struggling to evolve which might require they grow up and take responsibility for their short comings instead of looking to blame women as a whole for their dissatisfaction in life. You clearly married the man you saw the values you were most attracted to and took the risk. Wish ya well and continued health in your relationship.

@gunsandpoker7432

4 ай бұрын

Your relationship is an anomaly, so far. Get back with us in 10,20,30 yrs from now. The odds are against you. The stats prove this.

@user-il9tx9di4b

4 ай бұрын

Wonder what her background is? She is not American. It is her opinion and even though she is clearly educated her background and values cloud her professional opinion. It should be important that she knows that?

Mark ... you are a blessing to many ..you give and give ...I'm glad you are getting an opportunity to give to YOU !!😊

With despair, true optimism begins: the optimism of the man who expects nothing, who knows he has no rights and nothing coming to him, who rejoices in counting on himself alone and in acting alone for the good of all. - Jean-Paul Sartre

That was an absolutely riveting and incredible interview. There were many times while your guest was speaking that I cringed or felt deep pain as her words spoke directly to my experience. Very insightful very intelligent and also accessible and kind. I hope that she has one or more books in the world to share her insights.

@ralphfraz

2 ай бұрын

I watched this interview while processing getting dumped by a girl I thought was the dream. IMMENSE thanks to Sadia for making SO MANY THINGS CLEAR. ESPECIALLY when she Said "Trauma is contagious, you'll end up traumatizing the person who's trying to love you" .. This felt like watching scared straight for relationships and I will never again let beauty blind me from red flags

I stopped at 24:00. As someone that was married for a very long time, came from a divorced family, and lived through the experience of my younger sister healing after a violent rape, I cannot agree with her ability to clump a lot of people together and generalize so much. I am guessing she is representative of social media therapy.

@mar2406tube

5 ай бұрын

she just wants to make money by being controversial, she is full of BS

@eddievaliant8956

5 ай бұрын

If you stopped at 24, you missed a lot. She has strict marital values and believes that marriage should never end in divorce at least for the sake of children. She's not really "clumping" people together, she's stating facts such as p0rn disensitization or marriage based on merit and not looks or wealth. You're already fixated on what you want to hear because of your personal experiences. Had you listened to someone who came from a divorced family and were married a long time, you may have enjoyed it. May I make a suggestion of the divorce lawyer Mark had on about 4 months ago. You might like his video.

@ismanovska

5 ай бұрын

Finish she does make good points..there was a few spots where I didn't agree but she does a good job

@saphire9823

4 ай бұрын

I feel like maybe she's a grifter. Psychologist myself and I've worked in the field of anti-violence for the last decade. There are a lot of sweeping generalizations and it seems her world view is certainly shaped a certain way. I have to say that there are a few things I agree with that she says but some things are just simply false, I just don't have the time to challenge them in the form of a KZread comment

@mar2406tube

4 ай бұрын

@@saphire9823 she always springles some true facts, so all she says would come off as ligitimate... But for sure her viewpoint is exceptionally herself and herself only... human behavior is morr nuanced and complicated than her black and white thinking..

I am a girls girl. However I am happy with my life and have always had self love. I want other women happy as well.

An extremely attractive woman myself, trust me when you get older and hit the wall, it doesn't get easier. It actually gets harder if you don't have your husband all set and everything. I was married to close to 20 years and had to divorce because he became abuse of due to hidden drug use. At that point I was in my '40s. Once I hit about 45 my body and face started changing and things just aren't the same.