I don't normally comment on KZread, but this video was just too good! Thanks for making me laugh and putting a difficult topic into a situation which everyone can understand and connect with. I am also impressed that he stayed calm and cool under pressure with his slideshow errors. Bravo!

@DottyGale8

7 жыл бұрын

Chris Synnott I agree with you on everything you said - including how calm he was with the errors.

sitting at work watching this and crying. I wish I had someone to talk to about my anxiety. My family doesn't get it...they usually tell me to get over it. And I try! but fail miserably.

@Heidilambach

5 жыл бұрын

You are not alone

@jenniferskillings6561

4 жыл бұрын

I feel that the best way to deal with it is to surround yourself with people who are going through the same thing. People who don't understand it will not be able to help you. Think of it this way...you are building a cheerleading team with others who suffer the same so you can cheer each other on. I haven't done this yet but I'm going to start working on it right away!! Any suggestions for my team name???

@kingh2310

4 жыл бұрын

Same here, it's worse for me because I'm a guy and also I suffer from some back problems too. My family just tell me to get over it

@Alllrise

4 жыл бұрын

Try Pink Himalayan salt. Most anxiety comes from a deficiency in minerals and pink Himalayan has 84 minerals our bodies don’t get completely.

@LillySombr

3 жыл бұрын

How are you doing now?

I've been having paralyzingly debilitating anxiety for a decade now, and it's gotten so much worse since my friend was murdered a month ago. I'm in the loop from the first thing I wake up in the morning to when I reluctantly fall asleep at night. I'm constantly afraid that I'm not taking deep enough breaths or breathing enough in general. So I end up overdoing it and feeling like gonna pass out which only makes it worse. It makes me feel a bit better to hear these confirmations that I'm not alone in this terrifying experience.

@justynamaria0333

4 жыл бұрын

Seek help!! You need to take care of your mental health. I encourage you to google mental health resources in your area. Renember, you don't have to live like this and you CAN take steps to feel normal again!! You'll be ok. Find someone you can confide in. I believe in you 🙂

Do you guys feel really weird at a moment (for me it last no longer than one minute) when the fear is gone? I don't know how to explain it, but sometimes I feel like I was worrying so much, that when the anxiety is gone, I'm feeling uncomfortable and I feel the need to find something to worry about...

@maylag

7 жыл бұрын

Lola Prus RIGHT? ! Because we get so used to the feeling, and you know it's wrong and unhealthy to feel like this but how do you stop it? :(

@lolaprus9991

7 жыл бұрын

I don't know yet, but I believe we will find a way to escape this circle of anxiety :) I hope so, even though right now I'm stuck with it ;/

@thisblackgirloverhere9013

6 жыл бұрын

Lola Prus I’ve been there. Anything can become normal to you if you practice it long enough. The good thing is, that that normal feeling will start to feel normal to you too.

@KiRa-fy6uq

6 жыл бұрын

After I have an anxiety attack and realize it was silly I actually get full of energy for some reason

@boris9047

5 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah, our dear friend anxiety, we feel alone when it's not there. I don't believe in erasing it 100%, it's not what I want and it's actually not good for us because there are real problems and dangers in life. It's however a good idea to dampen it so it doesn't become an obstruction in life. I believe that way of thinking can help, because you don't need to get rid of the worrying (the friend will not be gone), just decreasing it a bit to a more manageable level.

Thanks you ! Very inspiring :) Anxiety is almost never talked about in our society, mental diseases like depression are barely talked about freely but anxiety is way too often underrated. Like you said, we are all struggling at some point with our own custard trap, putting on a "daily happy" mask making it pretty impossible to detect the pain people have to bear everyday. We need more talks like this to uncover the veil and learn to help each other reaching a more solid ground like you said. Thanks again, I needed to hear that today ;)

@rojanjoshi9133

7 жыл бұрын

poI

@Heidilambach

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your wise words, I agree, this was such a great talk. I wish you all the best and I will walk my way to solid ground and green grass together with you!

@Onlinesully

4 жыл бұрын

The subject matters are discussed quite a lot

From now on, when I’m having a bit of a rough day with anxiety I’m going to stop calling it anxiety attacks I’m going to say “I’m stuck in custard”

@PaulaJoW

5 жыл бұрын

Me too! It somehow helps to give it a name and add a little comedy.

Great talk, Neil. Dealing with mental health seems to be a lone fight, sometimes. Happy to know that you talk about it openly and share your experience with others. That is brave.

Neil, thank you for sharing this metaphor. The more people that openly share personal experiences of mental illnesses, the less stigma they will carry. This is the first time that I've heard someone explain what I have been feeling my entire life so perfectly. I'm beginning to understand that people are patterns. One of my patterns (or cycles) is: Anxiety - Illness -Depression. It's exhausting. The exciting thing is that I can see that pattern. Now the challenge is to break it...

Well done. It's refreshing to hear someone speak honestly and naturally. Healthcare professionals have tools, but the average person has the experience. I think we all want to relate and not feel like we're the only ones with a problem.

insightful! I really liked the part where he said that when you're triggered by something that makes you anxious, that's the time where you do something different like drink a glass of water, meditate, etc to get your brain to associate that trigger with something more positive!

A wonderful talk on a truly life-draining and tragic problem. Thank you Neil.

I feel as if I've been in a custard mine-field for the last year or so. Now I feel I have tools to deal with my intense anxiety and stop living in fear every day. I honestly felt my shoulders come down from my ears and my body relax somewhat just listening to your talk. I look forward to checking out your website. I can't thank you enough!

I was having an anxiety attack before going to sleep, came across this video and I feel calmer now. He is right about anxiety tiring us out, especially if you have physical problems as well. Main thing is to take awareness of your thought patters, and try to change your personality every single day. You will feel better at the end of day knowung you've put in the effort

@Onlinesully

4 жыл бұрын

Wolfie Glad it helped you sleep

greatest talk I have seen on TED so far...and I have seen almost a 100.....3 cheers from India

Neil - I'm nearly through reading your book, and after working on myself for over a decade, I can say it's one of the best summaries of lots of different coping tools that I've ever read - and it's really funny too - Douglas Adams would be proud. I'm glad I found your work and I'm going to work on many of your suggestions. Thank you!

@aclusterofstars

4 ай бұрын

whats the book called? would love to read it!!

I'm a hypochondriac and I fear death & I hate living this way. It's very exhausting & im only 20 yo. This helped!

@tactics-mnk6084

5 жыл бұрын

P. T Skydive, bungeejump, stand on the edge of a cliff. “Don’t fear dying, fear not living.” It is normal for humans to fear it though, but we will all die someday.

@RM-dk8de

3 жыл бұрын

Mirza Masura same here! Do you feel this way often?

@profetional4574

3 жыл бұрын

How are you now

@cantmissevershot5843

3 жыл бұрын

Hello. I struggle with hipochondria too. I'm 18

@foujdaars

2 жыл бұрын

Atleast you know you illness at 18 or 20 but I got to know it at 30. You start working on it, you will get over it.

I've watched a lot of these Anxiety videos on TedTalks and this is easily one my favourites. Great work Neil.

Thank you for making me laugh, oh how I've missed laughing

@shubhamrajpara4816

7 жыл бұрын

I miss laughing too. I hope you're having a good life now

@sarahgisellewood

7 жыл бұрын

Taryn Nieves

I loved this live and I still love it. Great talk mate.

Funny and excellent. My anxiety is mostly based in physical sensations, too.

@sonofgodsdad3227

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah same. Most of the time I don't even feel anxious but I feel heart racing and mind fog...

@Heidilambach

5 жыл бұрын

I agree, beautifully delivered. I wish you the best in your way to solid ground :) I also have physically sensations as the "base" for the feeling of anxiety. But I am sure we can make it all the way to the green grass ;)

@83loveanimals

2 жыл бұрын

Do you also have visions of yourself getting hurt or feeling bad. I have fear of death

@AhmadTalkss

2 жыл бұрын

What are physical sensations

@renbane1725

2 жыл бұрын

@@AhmadTalkss some reactions that are felt physically like a drop in stomach or a stab in the heart...caused by anxiety

Within the first 2 minutes you perfectly captured and articulated my 12 year old son’s life with anxiety! Thank you for such a great video.

Incredibly clever guy I can tell. This really helps me, thank you.

fantastic talk! Very insightful and really opened my eyes. Thank you!

Thank you so much for this wonderful talk. You're helping a lot of people here. Much love and appreciation. xx

Thank you Neil looking forward to reading your book, " Walking on Custard & The Meaning of Life". 🙂🌸

I want to hug him ❤️ amazing speech !

Thanks for this Neil! I can absolutely relate. And I love that you mentioned neuroplasticity--it's a concept that is just fascinating to me. We CAN rewire our brains?!?!?!? Mind blown.

This resonated. Thanks for sharing Neil!

That was really brilliant. Especially about when negative thoughts come into your head over nothing. I do it constantly.. so now I'm going to try your advice about paying attention to the thought and breaking the habit.

This video made me happy, its so good! It's a relief to know we are not alone with our own problems. Life is all about learning..

he is such a cute human!

@candykandy

3 жыл бұрын

I thought the same thing and felt bad that I didn’t acknowledge how useful and knowledgeable his talk was first 😂

Well, wow, thanks man, that was so good, funny, real and very helpful! I will share it! 🥰🙏🏼

Lovely! Thank you so much. I will use your tip.

Maybe this is off point but how is it so many Brits are so casually hilarious? Here he's talking heavy subjects like anxiety and suicide but it's kinda like watching stand-up... easy to see how he could keep his anxiety hidden, so happy for him that he's found healing and is sharing it with us.

Thank you. I really needed this today. :)

For years, I had been saving up to buy my first home. I lived with my mum while I saved, but when she died, I had to move out quickly. I could have afforded to buy a reasonable house, but my girlfriend invited me to live with her, which I did. We did look at a few houses together, and I chickened out of viewing some more. When I received some inheritance from my Mum a few months later, I was in a great position. I was overwhelmed with what I could afford. But a voice in my head told me to keep saving. Then, a couple of months later, I found out that my job may be moving from where it was, 25 miles from my girlfriend's, to nearer to hers. I convinced myself that I should wait until I knew where my job would be based before I bought somewhere (even though I realistically knew it would be moving). Before I found out where it was moving to, I got priced out of the market. I had seen the prices rising, but the 'voice' told me to keep saving, as I would be able to 'catch up' and afford the standard of house that I saw when I first inherited. Then my girlfriend dumped me, making me homeless. It's only as I look back that I can see that I was suffering from anxiety. I'm indecisive, I overthink, I bite and pick my fingernails and the skin of my fingers. But if I had been asked if I had anxiety, I would have denied it. I didn't think 'I'm afraid of buying the wrong house, so I don't think I will try', but my brain concocted irrational excuses so that I wouldn't get in to anxiety inducing situations. I didn't even realise I was doing it. The anxiety also warped my thinking. I 'forgot' that house prices generally increase, or at least I thought that if I saved as much as they were increasing by, then I was 'doing well'. But I didn't realise that for each month I didn't buy a house, I would eventually pay more for it when I did. I now know that I was anxious about making a 'wrong' big decision. I've never had to make a 'big' decision in my life. All the 'big' changes have been forced upon me, and I haven't had many options to take. The realisation of this anxiety has really depressed me, as I realise how my life could have been so different if I had discovered it sooner. I had two long-term relationships and regret not marrying either of my partners. I was too anxious about making a 'wrong' decision by marrying one of them. While we were dating, as long as I didn't propose then I had the option of marrying, but once I had a proposal accepted, I could never 'go back' to how it was. It's certainly true that anxiety is on a spectrum. One of my partners had anxiety, which I did research so that I could support her. Not once did I think that what I was reading applied to me. It's certainly been an eye-opener and I so wish I could turn the clock back 5 years (or more) knowing what I know about myself now.

Feel the fear, and do it anyway! Great book helped me immensely. What you resist will persist. Good Talk. Blessings.

@Onlinesully

4 жыл бұрын

Beyond Beauty69 Glad the book helped you.

Finally got to watch it Neil! Great talk and concept for a really important topic.

Boy does this make so much scenes. Well done.👍❤️🙏

Absolutely brilliant - it totally made sense to me - thank you so much

Def gonna listen to this again. Great explanation about anxiety..

Many good points to remember. Thank you😊

This was very helpful as well as humorous. Thank you!!

I have severe anxiety & relate to everything u say & ive been extremely depressed for so long. You made me laugh so hard during this 😂 - thank u

@Onlinesully

4 жыл бұрын

kara winston How do you manage a livelihood and a home and food and daily regular living ?

So good! Thanks for sharing this wisdom

Amazing. This needs to be seen by way more people

Wonderful! Thank you so much

Love it, I'm sharing this one!!

Thank you Neil.

This video has helped me a lot, thank you.

Great to see the TEDx Leamington Spa talks online at last and this is a great one. Well worth a watch for anyone who's ever felt the pangs of anxiety.

Great talk. Good pointers on changing thought reactions

Thank you!

Thank you for share your experience :)

yes it's mindfulness meditation

Brilliant! Absolutely brilliant 😁💖💖💖

Going through the same and I started observing and deviating my mind from it, which isn't that easy but yes doable, it's an unpleasant mind game with an unwanted partner which we are forced to play 😎 I would like to escape it too!

Well done, Devious Custard ;)

Very insightful and inspiring talk, cheers mate

This was so good 😭

hi neil. just finished your book and gotta say it was great. i could really relate to it and its answered many of my questions. really big help towards relieving my anxiety. (the jokes did get a tad annoying though, have to agree with your inner critic lol!)

WONDERFUL TALK

My entire persona is unfortunately ironic because I'm emotionally insecure but this video was actually solid. Thanks Ted xx

thank you ❤

@cipymcdonalds5248

6 жыл бұрын

Simonida Lazic what song is good for me to dedicate to my gf

Wow! I’m speechless

AT LAST SOMEONE WHO UNDERSTANDS WHATS GOING ON IN MY HEAD. next problem now l have to work out how to fix it

Fantastic...very well put. Wickedly funny

I have coped with this problem to and still do from time to time. Fear is the main driver, fear of being alone and dying lonely and not being loved by anybody or appreciated by anyone. I have been reaching breakthroughs lately and come to one conclusion. We are not grounded and nobody(parents, teachers, physicians) seems to realize this is causing the anxiety, fear causing people to even do suicide. Our mind is ALWAYS on the run. Mindfullness is not the way, but is better than nothing, yoga, meditation, sports can help you improve the anxiety, but the underlying problem is never adressed. All these coping strategies can give some relief, but the grounding in this culture is totally neglected as our survival strategies are linked to using our brain to sustain ourselves in a material and economic way. almost immediately we force our children to prove their brain capacity or their body capacity(sports). We don't realize that this way will never give us any peace of life(not mind) peace of mind = stop worrying, but this is not good enough to give you a peacefull feeling which will last your entire life. The challenges in this highly competitive world where we even have to deserve the love of those who should be supposed to love us unconditionally(our parents) has to be gained as we feel their pressure to do our very best mentally and physically (school and sports) we feel unaccepted just being ourselves and realize that true unconditionnel love will not be in the cards and we will have to work hard mentally and physically to look the most beautifull and bright and physical as we can be

@foujdaars

2 жыл бұрын

Sahi hai 👍

I have anxiety for no reason for about a week . This sucks I just want to feel normal again

@mangoyacho

4 жыл бұрын

This too will pass - hang in there.

@veeohletah

4 жыл бұрын

Sue Ridder thank you for you kind words

@pranavarulekar7409

4 жыл бұрын

Same

I love this!!! You are speaking for me :D We are the Custard Club!

@naliakaperesopiyo7596

7 жыл бұрын

Team Custard!!

THIS IS ONE OF THE BEST VIDEOS I HAVE SEEN ABOUT DEALING WITH ANXIETY. I HAD PROBLEMS WITH IT FOR A WHILE NOW AND WHAT HE SAYS MAKES SO MUCH SENSE...

Brilliant talk.

Every point was relatable

Awesome lecture

This really resonated with me right now - thank you so much for this.

awesome! Gd Bless!

love this talk.. such a great take on it..and I love the bit about it being difficult and it gets worse before better as so many people stop when things feel worse.. I did.. and I'm glad I realised that it's normal for it to be difficult..but the pay offs are getting to actually feel alive xc

I like you alot dude you were so yourself n open and funny!

This talk was great! I could listen to him for hours! Funny and great examples to explain a very difficult subject.

Thank you for your TED type talk. It was most inspiring and I feel better about myself now. I suffer from the custard march too, I was about to go back into the denial cycle as well. I have a choice in how I react, thank you for reminding me.

Fantastic

don`t worry about, its just Steve

I absolutely loved this: the jokes, imagery, and the way anxiety was described. Great job

This is a top video guys

Amazing Neil!! I loved it. Very well done!

Despite having 3 lakh views why has this enlightening stuff got only 5k likes...

It really is a solo journey ❤️

If it weren't for this talk, I would've been all the way in the custard. Thanks for giving me insight. Thanks for giving me the tools to fix myself.

Anyone else has spent *many* years in a custard trap?

Humour is my Passion 😇 Thank you🙏🏼 for you way of feeling... Delicious 🤤 ❤️ 😋

good and beautiful thanks my dear soul friend

Yes, very good, good description, good ways to proceed!

Should do stand up comedy very funny as well as insightful and useful.

could you add spanish subs? i would really apreciate it!

Great talk and perspective using the custard lol the past two months have been bad for me personally but little by little I’m find more solid ground. Be kind and forgive yourself for any mistakes you may blame yourself for, take positive actions when times get hard! It’s crazy how the mind flips normal scenarios into distressing ones be strong guys 🤙🏼✨

Wish I was Rich. I could have been a motivational speaker if it wasn't for my Anxiety and Depersonalisation disorders. Spend my days with regrets.. What a Life I lead

enjoyed the talk-- thank you

Amazing talk Thanks!

Fantastic talk, really helpful.

Great talk, love it : ) !