"That's such a hard question," yet her answer is so simple, profound, and relatable :)

Don't lose your purpose in life, but you only get to know this after difficult trials in life. Life is hard.

@handangul7335

18 күн бұрын

So truely expressed. Seeing now for my son, has been painful but this journey is to learn. Even if it comes with highly costs..

I was in a relationship like this,I thought giving up my values and nit withholding my boundaries would keep the relationship. I only dealt eith anxiety and depression throughout the relationship, I thank God i got out before it led to marriage. Know yourself,withold your values,and don't let your boundaries down for anyone whosover or whatsoever!

@fizahaque

13 күн бұрын

My husband is asking for space while I literally am being met over and over again with what the lady says in this video. I can so much relate to the point where I have been begging him to stay. Only to see him walk out of the door multiple times and trigger my abandonment issues. But when it comes to him it is always justified and he once again needs space and I ALWAYS check up on him. This time however I vowed to let him come to me first cause I am TIRED of doing so over a year now and being the person to keep pushing despite being done myself. And then getting punished instead of being appreciated for it. I am just taking time out to spend with my loved ones since I have been neglecting my own parents in the process. Financially I am also thinking where all the money goes considering he keeps getting fines and got into an accident twice this past year. He seems to be so absent minded and forgetful that it feels like I married a different man than the one I fell in love with. He was so active, considerate and understanding. Idk who this man is anymore other than feeling like I am talking to a wall and who prefers his alone time with cigarettes more than me biggest any concern i voice is seen as nagging and how I should have more understanding instead of slacking off. Idk anymore aside from reflecting myself.... Any tips will be much appreciated!

sounds like she did learn a lesson.

Oh wow ! This woman is very wise. She could write a book and I hope she’s posted these revelations where many young people and singles read this ! 👏 You summed up what you learned wonderfully !! I hope she reads this someday . 🌿👏🙏 keep saying this all your life , it is a powerful truth you’ve learned through pain . Bless you .

@queent3343

19 күн бұрын

She's just living her life. Live yours and this knowledge will happen to you too.

He asks great thought provoking questions.

She has a nice smile 😊😊 And dude , u deserve more subscribers, ur content is so soothing Keep uploading 👍

Am listening it after spending 27 years wth similar partner. And am regretting it daily. What's more irritating tht I realised it after 23 yrs! Today's generation is much confident n clear.

In the sum of the length of this video, we as a society have gained much from this lady. We can tell that she has built up a lot of confidence, self-assurance, and pride in her standards. Such that they will hold her firm in her convictions. That she has discovered an innate ability to recognize what she wants as she continues onward in her journey. To me, this lady has inner and outward elegance. The inner because she has a good heart that will only allow her to love herself the way she should. The outer beauty is really because she is well-spoken, able to project a confidence that carries strength, and she epitomizes a look of pure beauty and charm. To the man that one day captures her heart, he has found a gem.

FACTS I’m so happy this young lady learned this lesson before wasting her life away on someone that didn’t deserve her ❤

@markyg236

12 күн бұрын

You have absolutely no idea which values she held that he didn't. Maybe she valued polyamory or material things. Perhaps she didn't deserve her partner.

After seeing my parents have a bad marriage and going through divorce. It made me really skeptical about marriage and I would only get married for the right reasons. Thankfully I met someone right for me and changed my view on alot things. All I can say is don’t miss out on potentially something good because of having bad experiences in the past.

She seems cool. I like her personality

Love this wise lady! Wish i could have seen this video years ago, before i got married.

As a divorcee myself, I absolutely agree with her.

You can never know the other person or yourself completely and marriage reveals more of each partner. The promise is to stay in the relationship even after knowing your otherside and finding what is good for your family life than for your own. Not possible without a Saviour Jesus.

@rpaafourever7908

3 күн бұрын

No, after you are married both people need to put in the work of knowing themselves and each other.

Very enlightened interview❤

I want to thank this lady 🙏🏻 such a valuable lesson

Wow... So many male chauvinist comments! Wise words. Young adults should learn this before making such a big decision.

It’s hard to believe that these people don’t have a lot of time to think about his questions. But their answers are always so thought provoking. And this lady nailed it perfectly with what I believe is a top reason for divorce

One of the better interviews I have watched from you!

She should of figured herself out before marriage thats for sure.

Her answer sounds like it came from a lot of wisdom behind it.

Brilliant questions and answers!

So well spoken.

Turned 31 this year, been working on my values/boundaries for 2 years now. I honestly feel so late, should've started on it much younger. But guess I'm still more fortunate that I'm starting to figure it out now before getting married or going through massive life altering events.

The thing is, the person she was married to probably thought she was genuinely herself, and was depending on her knowing her true self. It’s likely that they got blindsided as she revealed her true self. These words of validation may or may not be deserved, especially when you understand that someone’s misery could be completely a result of her immaturity. The praise is all sweet and validating when you take it at face value, but that shallow behavior was something she could shake off and leave, this often result in an everlasting heart ache for someone trusting in her to know herself and what she wanted.

Thank you for this. Thank you ♥️

It should be called Partnership instead of marriage.

SO HONEST AND TRUE TO HERSELF ♡☆

She is a more wiser n strong woman nw

Yes, stick to your values and you can't go wrong

In other words, his fault. All bs, just bs

Was there even any negotiation on her part? I'd like to hear his perspective about their relationship.

@queent3343

20 күн бұрын

Doesn't matter. She wasn't badmouthing him. She was talking about her story.

@hayze_ablaze

17 күн бұрын

"I wanted it to work so much that I was willing to overlook aspects of him and myself that didn't align" She DID compromise, but too much on values that she later learned were actually non-negotiable. She learned to compromise less, to compromise smart. Very important and ultimately makes her a better relationship partner than a person who fails to be loyal to their boundaries.

This resonated deeply ❤

She’s so right on about the importance of truly knowing oneself before you even consider adding another person in your life. Remember folks were living longer than previous generations (for so many reasons) so SLOW DOWN! 😉

Remember in the movie knocked Up When Paul Rudd is at dinner with his wife and Seth rogen and his wife's sister and he says that he wishes he could have backpacked across India before getting married? Backpacking across India can last a lifetime when you are single. ENJOY IT!

Agreed 👍

I'll be honest... that laugh of hers is freaky and gave me chills, along with her repeating her values. You see that she is still single! Major cringe and bad vibes. Life isn’t easy, and you must make compromises. Relationships are never one-sided.

😊🙏 very true .

She will Leave her Values when she will Hit The Wall...

@zed3063

19 күн бұрын

Like your mum did

She didn't love him, she loved the way he loved her and once that dwindled and she didn't get that all the bullshit followed...women don't get married for love!

@queent3343

20 күн бұрын

She loved the idea of marriage. It didn't work out. End of.

@CarrieTraversie

19 күн бұрын

You don’t know this.

@haunzdugdeep2156

19 күн бұрын

@@CarrieTraversie listen to what she said

@pacifica97

19 күн бұрын

Stop generalizing 😒

yea, I wasnt into polygamy he was. i hear ya

she will never find true love if she doesn’t know what the word compromise means.

@imogen4535

20 күн бұрын

You don't know what her non negotiables are

@langustajableczna

20 күн бұрын

you can’t compromise on everything. There are non-negotiables for every person. If one wants children, but the other doesn’t there isn’t a way out. Similarly to religion

@queent3343

20 күн бұрын

Sounds like her marriage was so full of compromise she lost herself.

@CarrieTraversie

19 күн бұрын

Compromise in marriage/relationship is about what movie you watch, or what couch you buy, where you go on vacation. Maybe even bigger things like where you live. You should never compromise on your core values.

@pamelatriffon4408

18 күн бұрын

Sounds like she did compromise. She even compromised her values to make it work. But it didn’t work.

Matthew 19:9

@rpaafourever7908

3 күн бұрын

Common sense 20:24

no, staying married is everything. The lesson will come when shes 67 and can't retire because she won't have enough money saved nor a high enough income to keep up with the inflation + cost of living adjustments after her career peaks. idk why middle aged women think they're going to get infinite promotions.

@rpaafourever7908

3 күн бұрын

For incels maybe.. staying married to the wrong person who isn’t interested in you or their growth, is not it for most normal people.

yeah.. no - she has it backward you don't "change your mind" once you get marred marriage is for ever you work all this out BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED not "while" you are married women have this all wrong which is why men are walking away not approaching not marrying we're wisening up to the reality that women regard marriage as we regard a job - you can leave any time for any reason and here's the catch.. you get cash and prizes for breaking your vows unacceptable you will only hurt yourself your family will be collateral damage especially your children selfish proud narcissistic

❤Twin!❤

Women view divorce as personal development. Incredible.

@rpaafourever7908

3 күн бұрын

lol incels keep crying

Not the point of the vid, but it's like he's standing asking the questions in an apocalyptic sci-fi screen set.

Getting married for most western women today is like just another “box to check”. Clueless as to what marriage means. No fault divorce gives them gifts and prizes to file for divorce. It’s all about women, narcissists

Most people don't know themselves, that's why they want someone else

@rpaafourever7908

3 күн бұрын

She didn’t want someone else, she just didn’t want him

❤❤❤

I keep trying to click the thumbs up button on your videos but it just wont work. Whats going on??

❤🎉

Self-centered vibes from this one.

@chriszinger716

20 күн бұрын

For sure

@queent3343

20 күн бұрын

Of course. Confident women can only be self-centered. If she was self-centered earlier, she wouldn't have gotten married just to fit a social construct.

@zed3063

19 күн бұрын

The most anti-female comments always come from Muslims. Why does your name not surprise me..

@hazeleyezluv

18 күн бұрын

Did you hear her point? Nevermind. 🙄

I hope the man took half your stuff

It was jermaines fault, it's always jermaines fault!!

Oyy y don’t have any interview with muslim people, I wanna know what they have to say about life

Well I was one I neaver wonted too get married and you don't know them and I have too look afere self traveling learning woman and men oh get married have babies and know a lot off girls thing haveing babies thy dont know what there in fore and girls die every 45 minutes and time is short so make the most off it running a house buying food cloths paying bills and know things there going too age yea all the time like your face and and body ageing all the time,and be friends be fore eny thing else you will know when it happen's you can fall in love at eny age,true,❤❤❤

So many women are 'finding themselves' and filing for divorce now. In reality he was NEVER her first choice, she settled for 'a nice guy' because of her desperate need for baby rabies AND financial security. Women love the wedding day and the dress, because it's all about them. Daily marriage bores them for the most part. Female love IS mainly conditional always..

@rpaafourever7908

3 күн бұрын

Haha and male love is not?? Men don’t ever want to evolve because the status quo suits them! The first part of your comment was true though, just like unevolved men choose women mainly for looks, unfettered access to sex and reproduction.

She gave absolutely no idea which values she held that her partner didn't. Maybe she valued polyamory or material things. Perhaps she didn't deserve her partner.

She got married but didn't want to be a wife So she decided to break her husband's heart

Typical