Divorce Lawyers Give Relationship Advice | Glamour

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It's estimated that about half of marriages end in divorce. Why are so many people getting divorced, and how can you prevent splitting up with your spouse? We asked four divorce lawyers what they've learned in their practice on how to keep your marriage alive.
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  • @GreekFreakyJoker
    @GreekFreakyJoker5 жыл бұрын

    "I still get teary eyed in weddings". Well duh, those might be some future clients.

  • @pinkstar9430

    @pinkstar9430

    5 жыл бұрын

    GreekFreakyJoker lmao I don’t think that’s why!

  • @YellowPaint100

    @YellowPaint100

    5 жыл бұрын

    GreekFreakyJoker umm hmm! In his head rubbing his hannnnds .... like Birdman (squawww) 🤣

  • @SADK-bn4qy

    @SADK-bn4qy

    5 жыл бұрын

    Ok. This is funny!!! 😂

  • @wordsme

    @wordsme

    5 жыл бұрын

    GreekFreakyJoker so funny

  • @Gluteus.Maximus

    @Gluteus.Maximus

    5 жыл бұрын

    Two beautiful dollar signs getting married 😢😭

  • @LilyLeeTracy
    @LilyLeeTracy5 жыл бұрын

    I’m so single I don’t even know why am I watching this

  • @fatimazohramou8459

    @fatimazohramou8459

    5 жыл бұрын

    hahaha me too plus im 17😅😅

  • @keithlarsen7557

    @keithlarsen7557

    5 жыл бұрын

    Well allot of their advice is who or what to marry.

  • @Andrei2000PC

    @Andrei2000PC

    5 жыл бұрын

    We can start something:P

  • @majinraptor

    @majinraptor

    5 жыл бұрын

    Andrei2000PC tone back the desperation bro

  • @blacksharkswimmer3729

    @blacksharkswimmer3729

    5 жыл бұрын

    Cute

  • @rhiannonb1253
    @rhiannonb12533 жыл бұрын

    When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

  • @mimil.2606

    @mimil.2606

    3 жыл бұрын

    @C. Lord exactly once they show the signs and repeated actions that’s a time to show it’s time to go

  • @Sunshine-mb7ox

    @Sunshine-mb7ox

    2 жыл бұрын

    Follow your intuition and don't ignore the red flags!

  • @cashrules520

    @cashrules520

    2 жыл бұрын

    Heard this before and it's so true. Trust your instincts..

  • @ilikepancakes2368

    @ilikepancakes2368

    2 жыл бұрын

    I don’t mean to sound condescending but I never understood how people have a hard time believing this? I know how easy it is to idealize someone but at some point, you have to look at reality in the eyes and see things what they really are.

  • @animussss625

    @animussss625

    2 жыл бұрын

    Everyone has good and bad sides ,you just need to realise if you can live with it

  • @andreav2125
    @andreav21253 жыл бұрын

    If you wouldn't want that person as a roommate, don't marry them. This one thing would eliminate a fair number of divorces.

  • @mimil.2606

    @mimil.2606

    3 жыл бұрын

    True and maybe to help see in the future live with them for a while and seriously observe traits and quirks they have that bother you and communicate on it. If they won’t change it’s a sign you are better off as friends or benefits type ones that only show love but can’t stay in one room for a long committed time. An I think that is easier then lying and try working things out of truly neither person can do better. An honestly I think some people have own issues that are meant to probably be solved on their own and not need help by others so that’s a thing too. It’s all about communication and maturity if you can’t handle the truth that you shouldn’t be married at that said time period or never in the future if you can’t grow then it’s better off not dating .

  • @andreav2125

    @andreav2125

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@mimil.2606 Yeah, essentially people don't change. Often people are blinded by attraction, and choose to overlook red flags. People can learn and change little things if they're open to it, but basing all your hopes on your partner changing is not a good sign. Being happy with someone as they already are is a good indication that they might be a good match. If not, pass.

  • @charliedallachie3539

    @charliedallachie3539

    3 жыл бұрын

    I’ve heard cohabitation before marriage is bad but at the same time how else are you going to know you’re compatible, I guess spend occasional weekends together. I’ve heard of some married couples that sleep in separate beds. Doesn’t mean the marriage is going bad, just different sleeping habits.

  • @ZzzZ-sb9ju

    @ZzzZ-sb9ju

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@charliedallachie3539 I agree.

  • @mimil.2606

    @mimil.2606

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Nathan Taffijn I know that I wasn’t saying it’s ok to change people I was explaining why some people may do that it could just be a coping mechanism. When unable to take the heartbreak of breaking up but you have to accept it and you can’t try being a hero and think you can help everyone boyfriend girlfriend whatever they are to you if given consent you shouldn’t step over that line.

  • @aisuxtime
    @aisuxtime4 жыл бұрын

    Jokes aside, they’re dishing out solid, reasonable advice.

  • @rali2774

    @rali2774

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, its better than the married therapist.. they said the reality

  • @quorumlab

    @quorumlab

    4 жыл бұрын

    Tiel Noembreux it’s true

  • @c.l.1820

    @c.l.1820

    4 жыл бұрын

    It's pretty common sense advice

  • @minhle-qd8qf

    @minhle-qd8qf

    4 жыл бұрын

    Joe S obvious to you but maybe not to all. Not that people are stupid, they are just clouded in the situation.

  • @TheBusbyBabes

    @TheBusbyBabes

    4 жыл бұрын

    c. l. And its pretty common sense to not marry so...

  • @8oujiRui
    @8oujiRui4 жыл бұрын

    A thread: divorce lawyers make great marriage counselors

  • @Le.K

    @Le.K

    4 жыл бұрын

    No they don't. Their business is for you to get a divorce.

  • @aryamonmukherjee5303

    @aryamonmukherjee5303

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@Le.K established divorce lawyers know there's plenty of people who'll marriage and divorce to keep their practice going. They don't care if they lose a few, if that means giving out solid advice based on their experiences over the years.

  • @fatmaabdelhad1

    @fatmaabdelhad1

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@Le.K So if they give out bad advice for marriage their business is just gonna go stonks?

  • @nicolletrampe29

    @nicolletrampe29

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Le.K He means they see the real deal problems of what made people feel they had to make such a huge decision to get divorced, so they have good insight to what to avoid and solve problems maybe before they're unsolvable

  • @badgerden7080

    @badgerden7080

    3 жыл бұрын

    So let's put them out of business by not getting married in the first place.

  • @jamesnash6101
    @jamesnash61012 жыл бұрын

    "Doing a prenup forces couples to talk about finances before they get married". Great advice because most couples don't talk about money before getting married. This should include a financial disclosure to reveal any and all hidden debt. And that includes student loans and credit card debt.

  • @missantrafalgar782

    @missantrafalgar782

    2 жыл бұрын

    Really, I'm not married or live with my partner but we know our financial situation. Why is it hard for people to talk about it ? (Curious)

  • @jamesnash6101

    @jamesnash6101

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@missantrafalgar782 in my opinion, most people don't talk about finances because we have been programmed to think it's a private matter, and in most cases that's a wise decision. However, when you get married your finances are no longer private. Because you entered into a partnership/contract. Benjamin Franklin famously advised fire-threatened Philadelphians in 1736 that “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” When we say that prevention is better than cure, it essentially means that it is better to stop something before it happens instead of having to repair it or deal with its consequences after it has already been done. That proverb was applied and practiced in 1736 and it is still relevant today

  • @aiahzohar5636

    @aiahzohar5636

    2 жыл бұрын

    Then most marriages probably wouldn't happen.

  • @The_DLK

    @The_DLK

    2 жыл бұрын

    These things can and will be thrown out if needed to, and mostly men are the breadwimners as wen tend to marry up to take care of the "children and the house", so yeah a 100% losing game, you win if you get a 50%50% and that is considered a fairytail thing.

  • @jamesnash6101

    @jamesnash6101

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@The_DLK even with a strong prenup?

  • @antoniasinfield5841
    @antoniasinfield58413 жыл бұрын

    This needs to be featured in women's magazines much, much more, instead of the wedding dresses, cakes and rings. Is it romantic? No. But it could save many marriages.

  • @haraldhwick

    @haraldhwick

    3 жыл бұрын

    It doesnt oil up the economy so prolly its a hard no.

  • @kennydawson265

    @kennydawson265

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@haraldhwick thinking the same

  • @ninthcrusader2355

    @ninthcrusader2355

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@haraldhwick Shhhh I'm studying to be a divorce lawyer.

  • @rene3759

    @rene3759

    3 жыл бұрын

    Not just women's magazines men's too. Instead of the ridiculous pick up artist nonsense.

  • @whocares2465

    @whocares2465

    3 жыл бұрын

    Not just save marriages but by creating a more stable and realistic approach in relationships looking to take the next step.

  • @donparkison4617
    @donparkison46175 жыл бұрын

    To sum up what they said. Dont marry the person you think your partner will one day become, but marry the person they are right now. Too many people fall in love with a fictional version of their partner and that is why they get surprised and hurt when that person never materializes. You are not training a dog, you are spending your life with an individual and if you want to change that individual in significant ways, then it means you dont really respect them and your marriage is doomed.

  • @melissagourgue3916

    @melissagourgue3916

    5 жыл бұрын

    Don Parkison that’s right!👍🏾

  • @annamullis1477

    @annamullis1477

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yep! Marriage is not rehab.

  • @CRFSUIGENERIS

    @CRFSUIGENERIS

    5 жыл бұрын

    Well said.

  • @matzacomn

    @matzacomn

    5 жыл бұрын

    a very eye-opening comment

  • @awadoll222

    @awadoll222

    5 жыл бұрын

    Amen to that

  • @DrAdnan
    @DrAdnan5 жыл бұрын

    Why am I watching this- I’m not even in a relationship 😂.

  • @dominicthedefiant3210

    @dominicthedefiant3210

    5 жыл бұрын

    Educate yourself for the future

  • @bebez1647

    @bebez1647

    5 жыл бұрын

    I’m gonna be single forever......😭

  • @datahacks

    @datahacks

    5 жыл бұрын

    Sad.. 😂

  • @welisanerich5376

    @welisanerich5376

    5 жыл бұрын

    Me too 😂😂

  • @edwnx0

    @edwnx0

    5 жыл бұрын

    relationship advice doesn't have to be limited to romantic relationships. 🤷🏽‍♂️

  • @user-be5qg7mr1s
    @user-be5qg7mr1s2 жыл бұрын

    everyone needs to watch this.." people don't change MUCH after marriage"

  • @SUNNYDAILYNEWS

    @SUNNYDAILYNEWS

    2 жыл бұрын

    Woman want men to change after marriage, men want woman to stay the same...

  • @cocablack

    @cocablack

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@SUNNYDAILYNEWS idk what's with people and making them change, it hard to change someone it's easier to change what's in you

  • @angelg3642

    @angelg3642

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@cocablack Often the people who are willing to change themselves are well aware of their own issues. The ones who won't change are the ones who think they are perfect the way that they are. Which is absolute bollocks. We are all imperfect and we all learn to become better, if your significant other doesn't have that growth mindset then don't marry that person. It's an absolute waste of time and you'll lose everything because if they are selfish for their own benefits then they will be selfish when it comes to yours

  • @westcoastbred7745

    @westcoastbred7745

    Жыл бұрын

    Well I'm definitely changed and he stayed the same. Married a narcissist

  • @infinity4evr
    @infinity4evr3 жыл бұрын

    My parents have been married for 60 years. Their example was respect, mutual interests, similar goals, a good sense of humor, respect, commitment, intelligence, wisdom, and above all, respect.

  • @TaraSmiles7

    @TaraSmiles7

    3 жыл бұрын

    I love that you listed respect 3 times. Exactly right! I always say the 2 things you need for a happy marriage (and I'm in one for 14 years now) is mutual respect and true commitment to the marriage. But the other things you listed are so important too...(especially a sense of humor!)

  • @infinity4evr

    @infinity4evr

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@TaraSmiles7 After writing I realized that I hadn't mentioned love. But then I reasoned that love is probably the natural byproduct of these other qualities and many others, of course. My parents love each other dearly, but I know they do because of how they manifest that love..

  • @heavyhaul8621

    @heavyhaul8621

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes but there were better women back then.

  • @infinity4evr

    @infinity4evr

    3 жыл бұрын

    Heavy Haul I agree that both women and men need to be reminded of how they are actually supposed to act in a marriage contract.

  • @googlecritic2773

    @googlecritic2773

    3 жыл бұрын

    They LIED A marriage like that is BS

  • @bendizzy1923
    @bendizzy19234 жыл бұрын

    It must be so awkward for these lawyers to be invited to weddings.

  • @BonBonHassan

    @BonBonHassan

    4 жыл бұрын

    BenDizzy19 “what side of the family are you?” “Oh I’m a friend of the bride and groom” “Cool, what do you do for a living?” “... I’m a divorce lawyer.” •o•

  • @hebakhalid437

    @hebakhalid437

    4 жыл бұрын

    Abby Lol he can say he’s a lawyer

  • @kiranboyinepally4198

    @kiranboyinepally4198

    4 жыл бұрын

    LMAO wouldn't want one coming anywhere near a marriage. Just looking at them would prolly give u doubts and cause u to ? the future.

  • @kiranboyinepally4198

    @kiranboyinepally4198

    4 жыл бұрын

    #Check out the Netflix show Adam Ruins Everything. Its great:)

  • @greatestever7623

    @greatestever7623

    4 жыл бұрын

    They love it.....cuz that’s a potential client right there they be handing out business cards left n right

  • @I.areejmm
    @I.areejmm5 жыл бұрын

    The first lawyer is really smart, well spoken, tv type of person. I could spend an hour listening to hem. He should start his own KZread channel

  • @ohminsun

    @ohminsun

    5 жыл бұрын

    Totally!

  • @roosvanwijhe3525

    @roosvanwijhe3525

    5 жыл бұрын

    Same!!!!!

  • @bigstunna2049

    @bigstunna2049

    5 жыл бұрын

    Agreed

  • @sagirius19

    @sagirius19

    5 жыл бұрын

    Agreed

  • @Berries20

    @Berries20

    5 жыл бұрын

    Areej Al-Mubark He indeed has an KZread channel! He's James J Sexton and also replied to another comment here, but I can't seem to find it.

  • @codedxxx
    @codedxxx3 жыл бұрын

    Look at those suits. Business is booming.

  • @greentea8678

    @greentea8678

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lmao 😂

  • @nyaintunyaintu509

    @nyaintunyaintu509

    2 жыл бұрын

    Oh goodnesses 🤣😂

  • @kyson333

    @kyson333

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lmfao that was funny man 😂

  • @sanskritiverma8010

    @sanskritiverma8010

    2 жыл бұрын

    HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!

  • @JARVISK600

    @JARVISK600

    2 жыл бұрын

    Facts

  • @calmradio687
    @calmradio6873 жыл бұрын

    I got married later and looked for a man that has the qualities to be a good husband, leader and father. Romance is important but so is being practical. Today I'm happily married.

  • @abyysswalkerr

    @abyysswalkerr

    2 жыл бұрын

    Great advice

  • @constructofeternity

    @constructofeternity

    2 жыл бұрын

    If you ever get divorced, let the comment section know.

  • @NS-uq9st

    @NS-uq9st

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love❤❤❤❤❤

  • @rachel14rod

    @rachel14rod

    2 жыл бұрын

    Feel free to give me advice.

  • @DrJ-hx7wv

    @DrJ-hx7wv

    2 жыл бұрын

    What woman doesn't want this? You actually said nothing

  • @LSergei983
    @LSergei9834 жыл бұрын

    "Marry well and you'll be happy. Marry badly and you'll become a philosopher,"- Socrates

  • @j.i.s.l178

    @j.i.s.l178

    4 жыл бұрын

    🙄 🤔...

  • @BuzziMuzzi

    @BuzziMuzzi

    4 жыл бұрын

    Did he actually say this? I can’t imagine Socrates saying this lmao

  • @Cindy-qc7lo

    @Cindy-qc7lo

    4 жыл бұрын

    He did indeed: "By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher."

  • @Sombra_Azul_

    @Sombra_Azul_

    4 жыл бұрын

    Don't marry and become an everyday millionaire....

  • @johnjude7910

    @johnjude7910

    3 жыл бұрын

    😌😌

  • @helenmurray3276
    @helenmurray32765 жыл бұрын

    I could watch an hour of this.

  • @beny9345

    @beny9345

    5 жыл бұрын

    literally

  • @meegol

    @meegol

    5 жыл бұрын

    there literally is an hour of this kzread.info/dash/bejne/X52M2c2weaivkqw.html

  • @vb9268

    @vb9268

    5 жыл бұрын

    Especially the James Sexton comments : really good insight.

  • @prettyo.1385

    @prettyo.1385

    5 жыл бұрын

    Im ur no 1k comment liker wohooooo

  • @george32323

    @george32323

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yeah you don’t want to spend 500 bucks to see them in person

  • @orestes67
    @orestes672 жыл бұрын

    “An exciting girlfriend or boyfriend might not make a good spouse.” and “you marry who you dated.” Solid gold right there. In my very little experience, everyone I know that has been divorced always think their spouse will change when married and it never happens.

  • @marcsanders1078

    @marcsanders1078

    2 жыл бұрын

    I've never been engaged, but I've heard similar advice many times. Last girlfriend wanted to be everyone's friend, had to have dinner parties every other weekend. She got on my nerves very fast !

  • @NazriB

    @NazriB

    11 ай бұрын

    Lies again? Educating Couples Ezlink Card

  • @Steveman27

    @Steveman27

    7 ай бұрын

    @@NazriB Who are you to say those were lies? Maybe those things were true. I think you're just trolling.

  • @celbelle
    @celbelle3 жыл бұрын

    Only marry someone you would trust during a divorce

  • @NeenaBeena

    @NeenaBeena

    3 жыл бұрын

    I recently got divorced and this is great advice lol 👍

  • @Peace2dagawdz

    @Peace2dagawdz

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@NeenaBeena why did you divorce

  • @ChiasmMarksTheSpot

    @ChiasmMarksTheSpot

    2 жыл бұрын

    THIS IS PROFOUND

  • @susieqhayes1

    @susieqhayes1

    2 жыл бұрын

    I would not trust myself during a divorce.

  • @stephaniemartin-ward4578

    @stephaniemartin-ward4578

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@susieqhayes1 Same.

  • @tomemery7890
    @tomemery78904 жыл бұрын

    Don't only judge a potential husband/wife by how they treat you. Look just as much at how they treat others. A few years down the line when the honeymoon period is over they are likely to treat you the same way.

  • @nataliaturner4845

    @nataliaturner4845

    3 жыл бұрын

    💯 filed under: "things I wish someone had told me when I was young" 😔

  • @odwangxokela4090

    @odwangxokela4090

    3 жыл бұрын

    Are you married sir?

  • @mrjanssen3856

    @mrjanssen3856

    3 жыл бұрын

    That's actually very good

  • @mrjanssen3856

    @mrjanssen3856

    3 жыл бұрын

    Luckily my wife treats her friends with much love and care

  • @mrjanssen3856

    @mrjanssen3856

    3 жыл бұрын

    And they adore her for it, as do I ...

  • @hipsepipse
    @hipsepipse5 жыл бұрын

    My parents both studied law and they used to give out a book called "Die rechtlichen Folgen der Ehe"(The legal consequences of marriage) as engagement presents.

  • @ah5721

    @ah5721

    5 жыл бұрын

    🤣

  • @younghoegod2741

    @younghoegod2741

    5 жыл бұрын

    hipsepipse your parents are German?

  • @varaidzosallychitimira5095

    @varaidzosallychitimira5095

    5 жыл бұрын

    Can I get a copy of the book?

  • @anuragsundriyal

    @anuragsundriyal

    5 жыл бұрын

    Haha perfekt 😂

  • @Impactmoon

    @Impactmoon

    5 жыл бұрын

    Genau

  • @Satan666Official
    @Satan666Official3 жыл бұрын

    Biggest thing I learned is to not get too comfortable. Stay in shape, eat healthier, and don't put yourself down. You will be in a better mood once you take accountability for where you're at.

  • @ericbraddock4056

    @ericbraddock4056

    Жыл бұрын

    I've never been in a marriage situation yet it sounds so relatable. Can we talk, please? If you don't mind of course.

  • @shanenicole9552
    @shanenicole95523 жыл бұрын

    I married someone I wanted growing up. Someone who has a plan, is supportive and loving, pushes me to be better, treats his parents and friends with respect as well as not friends with shady people, a GOOD Father, there is more. Also, I realized if I wanted that I needed to be that so I worked on myself. He's more than I asked for and appreciate him Soo much I also realized I'm glad he is someone who is willing to sit down and talk about serious things and how we as a couple can resolve it.

  • @SuperBrianMak

    @SuperBrianMak

    2 жыл бұрын

    "...if I wanted that I needed to be that so I worked on myself." That's such a great piece of advice so many people forget...and congratulations!

  • @user-kf9db8sd5l

    @user-kf9db8sd5l

    2 жыл бұрын

    So what did you bring to the table?

  • @eruditeindian7662

    @eruditeindian7662

    2 жыл бұрын

    In a simple way you married/trapped a simp after banging the entire town

  • @helen8602

    @helen8602

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@eruditeindian7662 freak lmao

  • @eruditeindian7662

    @eruditeindian7662

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@helen8602 mind your own business you freaking woman.

  • @patriciaa4451
    @patriciaa44515 жыл бұрын

    "You don't even get a pamphlet". Same with a baby.

  • @kitcoffey7194

    @kitcoffey7194

    5 жыл бұрын

    At least licenses are required for marriage though!

  • @painrelief3441

    @painrelief3441

    5 жыл бұрын

    You don't get a birth one, get one free when you get twins.

  • @zerohour2703

    @zerohour2703

    5 жыл бұрын

    Just marry under Islamic laws, both sides get there rights and no more

  • @justadjustor8993

    @justadjustor8993

    4 жыл бұрын

    I really hate that excuse because there are books, research, articles, magazines, videos, movies, documentaries, etc. etc. etc., And they're all mostly easily accessible if you have the internet.

  • @happythedude_3992

    @happythedude_3992

    4 жыл бұрын

    And immigration to europe

  • @hannanigukkie
    @hannanigukkie5 жыл бұрын

    "Your expectation is need to be communicated early" agree.. they really give good advice..

  • @MarchNightly

    @MarchNightly

    5 жыл бұрын

    I also really love the advice about "don't expect the person to change". You gotta either be fine with the fact that your partner is an imperfect human being and love them fully despite their flaws, or decide that they are not the kind of flaws you want to intertwine into your life through a legally binding contract.

  • @kontrarien5721

    @kontrarien5721

    5 жыл бұрын

    Heard it said that women marry men thinking that they'll change, while men marry women thinking they won't.

  • @enzoorciuoli328

    @enzoorciuoli328

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@kontrarien5721 opposite attracted

  • @RetrieverTrainingAlone
    @RetrieverTrainingAlone2 жыл бұрын

    The day we got married was definitely the happiest day of my life...still married and in love 20 years later....

  • @Naturally2Sexy

    @Naturally2Sexy

    2 жыл бұрын

    I am legitimately very happy for you. I hope one day to find that same level of happiness.

  • @sanskritiverma8010

    @sanskritiverma8010

    2 жыл бұрын

    i WANT THAT!!!

  • @Luka9m

    @Luka9m

    2 жыл бұрын

    So was i until the 25th yr when i got cheated on. It can happen anytime.

  • @unpopular_opinion8615

    @unpopular_opinion8615

    2 жыл бұрын

    You hit the lottery that the guy was talking about, congrats!!!

  • @smootheasy7938

    @smootheasy7938

    2 жыл бұрын

    So why you watching this video?

  • @uchihaitachi6849
    @uchihaitachi68493 жыл бұрын

    Marriage is like saying "I love you soo much, I wanna get the gorvenment involved"

  • @BrianFlemingSpeaker

    @BrianFlemingSpeaker

    2 жыл бұрын

    😂😂😂 That’s funny! And a great way to put it.

  • @jareddegen9937

    @jareddegen9937

    2 жыл бұрын

    This is the most accurate statement.

  • @TheRibofJESUS

    @TheRibofJESUS

    2 жыл бұрын

    No, it's to become their legal next of kin. You aren't "related" to your mate when you aren't married to them. Duh.

  • @jareddegen9937

    @jareddegen9937

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@TheRibofJESUS oh yes its government that decides family not any thing else more important..... ya need some Jesus.

  • @TheRibofJESUS

    @TheRibofJESUS

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@jareddegen9937 Your comment is foolish to me. If marriage was never legally binding, people could just constantly lie about their "relationship status", abandon their families, and do whatever when it comes to anything pertaining to family. Also, a marriage certificate is a public record so people can know if the person they are dating is in another relationship or not, whereas if it didn't exist, people would have no way to truly know. Strong families with the same last name wouldn't even exist.. It's really not that complicated to understand. The "lgbtq" community were fighting for a right to get married for a reason, even though I don't agree with them.

  • @citygirlwest2422
    @citygirlwest24225 жыл бұрын

    I’m actually shocked that Glamour did this. I thought it was pretty insightful, and I’ve never seen this idea anywhere else.

  • @wunder1385

    @wunder1385

    5 жыл бұрын

    mgtow

  • @skubydubydu

    @skubydubydu

    5 жыл бұрын

    It's done in a lot of places but yeah unexpected for Glamour

  • @Thomasfrohwitter

    @Thomasfrohwitter

    3 жыл бұрын

    Hello Sara

  • @ElectricPulse100
    @ElectricPulse1005 жыл бұрын

    “Marriage is expensive, and for that reason I’m out” - Barbara shark tank

  • @nuck-

    @nuck-

    5 жыл бұрын

    Hi, I’m out and for that reason I’m Jenny.

  • @ofbirkinsandmen6025

    @ofbirkinsandmen6025

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@nuck- i was going to comment the same hahah

  • @mrsyoung8503

    @mrsyoung8503

    5 жыл бұрын

    Yes

  • @Chocolate.barbie444

    @Chocolate.barbie444

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yooooooooooooooooo

  • @BaileyBlurbs

    @BaileyBlurbs

    4 жыл бұрын

    LMAOOO

  • @laurarozamunda
    @laurarozamunda2 жыл бұрын

    4:18 Oh I loved his last piece of advice, Hold onto that sense of being your wife/husband's cheerleader. Its true that supporting and encouraging each other is how your individual growth brings the two of you closer, not pushes you apart.

  • @richardkeizer1692

    @richardkeizer1692

    Жыл бұрын

    It's true what about a cheating partner

  • @JenPurple2022
    @JenPurple20223 жыл бұрын

    Marriage is a legal contract, take it seriously. Also, never sign a contact with someone who is dishonest. Knowing his/her finance is the most important thing before getting married.

  • @badgerden7080

    @badgerden7080

    3 жыл бұрын

    Exactly! It's a contract to be with a person who can turn on you at any moment.

  • @lanyg.6492

    @lanyg.6492

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@badgerden7080 that part

  • @danmcclaren5436
    @danmcclaren54365 жыл бұрын

    It’s funny because these lawyers are giving advice to reduce divorces, which could hurt their future business. Kudos to them for actually doing this.

  • @dyrichard

    @dyrichard

    5 жыл бұрын

    Just like doctors, I guess. They’ll be there when we need em.

  • @krollpeter

    @krollpeter

    5 жыл бұрын

    Their advice was also aiming at 1. making sure there is still business in for them 2. and that you don't make their life too hard.

  • @wholesome122

    @wholesome122

    5 жыл бұрын

    dan McClaren contrary to popular belief everyone isn’t necessarily out there to screw people over. Also, marriage law will still continue to exist regardless of divorce rates

  • @Brandi_777

    @Brandi_777

    5 жыл бұрын

    They know no one is gonna listen... they won't lose clients people will continue being fools for love unfortunately.

  • @lukamagicc

    @lukamagicc

    5 жыл бұрын

    W a 53% rate of something almost all people partake in happen. I’m sure the Business is just fine lol

  • @anastasia10017
    @anastasia100176 жыл бұрын

    I think the fact that nobody has any concept that marriage and engagement are a signed contract is wierd. as the lawyer said, people think choosing the cake is more important than the financial contract they are signing and how it can affect their lives..

  • @14ndc

    @14ndc

    5 жыл бұрын

    Exactly!!!! I always told my mom I don't see myself marrying anyone. She always said "I will change my mind" or "don't you want to walk down the aisle in a beautiful dress".😑 Mind you she's been divorced twice already and wants to get married again. I always told her that marriage is nothing but a contract and signing a paper as a sign of love, is stupid.

  • @Echiomega

    @Echiomega

    5 жыл бұрын

    well, seeing people around you getting divorce isn't really making you want to get married that's for sure.

  • @midnighteevee4246

    @midnighteevee4246

    5 жыл бұрын

    Marriage is something pushed so often in the media as being all about beauty and love. Of course the first thing in peoples mind’s isn’t a contract, especially if they’ve never been married before

  • @SungJongiesMine

    @SungJongiesMine

    5 жыл бұрын

    midnighteevee I think it has more to do with what you experience in real life. My parents have a wonderful marriage and my grandparents had a wonderful marriage so I see how marriage is a great thing with the right person. If all I knew was divorce growing up then I’d probably think differently.

  • @BreaMason

    @BreaMason

    5 жыл бұрын

    Engagement isnt a contract. You can call it all off at anytime. It just disappointing that you got that far and someone didnt want to do it

  • @AVL-Tree
    @AVL-Tree2 жыл бұрын

    Another advice: being like-minded in morals, faith, principles *BEFORE* marriage helps. One litmus test like: "can men and women be 'just friends'?" opens up a discussion on where that person stands. Saves time and prevent a lot of heartaches and headaches.

  • @jennifercadonia3552

    @jennifercadonia3552

    7 ай бұрын

    Do you think men and women can be friends? Also what gender do you identify as?

  • @annies2143
    @annies21432 жыл бұрын

    My dad was a lawyer and doing divorces took a bad emotional toll on him. He ended up avoiding divorce law at all costs

  • @SLCtica
    @SLCtica5 жыл бұрын

    My parents have been together 35 years since they were 22; They grew up in the 70's. Observing them I realize that you have to accept and love the other person. I observed that they forgave easily, spoke honestly, and often diffused tension with humor. Both were willing to lose some (even if they were right), because at the end of the day they love each other, and no petty thing topped that sentiment. Lastly, the respect they show each other is probably the most striking thing about their relationship. Growing up my parents got mad and had disagreements like anyone, but I never once saw them yelling at each other or mistreating each other in any way. They grumbled, they stewed, they needed time alone, but somehow 35 years later, there they are: still holding hands when they walk down the street together.

  • @zafe2264

    @zafe2264

    5 жыл бұрын

    Indira Gutierrez This was so touching! ;-; Thanks for sharing; I'm wishing you and your parents the best. 💕

  • @Editorknowsbest

    @Editorknowsbest

    5 жыл бұрын

    Well said. So many young people today don’t have self respect, let alone respect for others. Also, social media brings out the narcissist in people. Selfishness is the enemy of any good relationship. Marriage takes a certain amount of selflessness

  • @joela6019

    @joela6019

    5 жыл бұрын

    That's a beautiful thing that your parents have each other. But I think they're one of the lucky ones. I feel that what people don't understand is how people can grow for the better or for the worse. Some people don't understand that if growth is neglected then they will not understand how to either grow with each other or to grow as a person period.

  • @QuietlyCurious

    @QuietlyCurious

    5 жыл бұрын

    Girl, that was touching. Make sure you say that at their golden anniversary *knock knock*

  • @x0xxx007i

    @x0xxx007i

    5 жыл бұрын

    Indira Gutierrez Yeah well people today are not like your parents. People nowadays are worse, especially people my age.

  • @JJ-yu6og
    @JJ-yu6og4 жыл бұрын

    Be their cheerleader and be connected to them. That means: Empathy and understanding. Not narcissisism or selfishness.

  • @malorie8557

    @malorie8557

    4 жыл бұрын

    It's weird! A marriage should be about making each other better and working to improve you as a whole.

  • @commenttator9758

    @commenttator9758

    4 жыл бұрын

    Jojo Jo if they can do that, they don’t need divorce

  • @malorie8557

    @malorie8557

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@wintersolstice4793 of course but everyone has their flaws that CAN be worked on. Like mine? My parents way of communicating was yelling. My now husband never communicated that way and I would often over step my boundry by yelling at him. It took someone who loved and understood me to open my eyes on that type of behavior and now you'd never see me communicate that way. For example.

  • @carmelsmemoirgarden1165

    @carmelsmemoirgarden1165

    4 жыл бұрын

    I'm selfish. I truly understand that right now i can't be in a relationship. Which is some ways kinda sad, but also sobering to recognize my fatal flaw.

  • @bernaldulce

    @bernaldulce

    4 жыл бұрын

    Nice

  • @mgu1N1n1
    @mgu1N1n12 жыл бұрын

    Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!

  • @aiahzohar5636

    @aiahzohar5636

    2 жыл бұрын

    An ex-wife of one of my brothers used to regularly punch and scratch him, even broke his arm once. Police didn't care. My mom and dad discovered none of the domestic violence counseling centers in our part of the state would take a male client. Took a family intervention to get my brother out but he still lost his house (he paid for). Our society has abandoned men.

  • @ManThePlow

    @ManThePlow

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Nikhil 7 .......Yup...... I make my mother mow her own grass now.

  • @rachel14rod

    @rachel14rod

    2 жыл бұрын

    I don't think it exists in india. So I spread awareness about narcissism.

  • @robertallencarl4770

    @robertallencarl4770

    2 жыл бұрын

    good men is always safe.

  • @lazynow1

    @lazynow1

    Жыл бұрын

    or just invite Ted Buddy over for dinner...he will solve the problem for you...

  • @MDF4072
    @MDF4072 Жыл бұрын

    Just never forget about the prenup agreements.

  • @ms.chanandlerbong8359
    @ms.chanandlerbong83594 жыл бұрын

    *"53% of marriages end in divorce in New York state"* I bet Ross Geller made quite the contribution

  • @nikkiperez5152

    @nikkiperez5152

    4 жыл бұрын

    dramione stan best comment on here hands down

  • @zinebmekki7595

    @zinebmekki7595

    4 жыл бұрын

    hands down to the best comment 😂😂😂

  • @MJAY-N7129

    @MJAY-N7129

    4 жыл бұрын

    Hahaha 😂😂😂

  • @Anish23420

    @Anish23420

    4 жыл бұрын

    WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!

  • @MJAY-N7129

    @MJAY-N7129

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@Anish23420 Hahaha, touchie 😂😂

  • @kkenny
    @kkenny4 жыл бұрын

    1. Understand that marriage is a serious legal commitment 2. Know exactly what you want in a spouse, and realize they may not change 3. Definitely talk about your finances 4. An exciting girlfriend or boyfriend might not make a good spouse 5. If you do have to get a divorce, try to stay calm

  • @souos-4701

    @souos-4701

    3 жыл бұрын

    He just said that

  • @nothumanff5900

    @nothumanff5900

    3 жыл бұрын

    Ha 50% husbands money for giving a shot

  • @CherryBlossom-yn7oq

    @CherryBlossom-yn7oq

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@souos-4701 Yeah, but in case no one wants to watch the whole video (lol) , KennyK here gave us the points. It's faster to read. Edit: sure, you might miss the rest they mentioned, but for some, these points are enough)

  • @rositalesmana186

    @rositalesmana186

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@nothumanff5900 well that’s what prenup is for.

  • @drartemisa21

    @drartemisa21

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks! I was looking for this hehe

  • @victorbryan8269
    @victorbryan82692 жыл бұрын

    "A good bf/gf may not make a good spouse" understated advice

  • @AppleAbston
    @AppleAbston2 жыл бұрын

    Ms. Linda's energy gave me: "I'm over it, I'm tired of these people coming here - please listen to us so I can go on vacation. Y'all stressful." 😂 Got it aunty 💖

  • @kayla0792
    @kayla07924 жыл бұрын

    Why am I getting recommended this? I am a twelve year old seventh grader.

  • @katherinegaines9252

    @katherinegaines9252

    4 жыл бұрын

    3 12 better to learn early lol!

  • @ericamannebach4964

    @ericamannebach4964

    4 жыл бұрын

    Life is complicated and youtube is preparing you.

  • @kaydee6555

    @kaydee6555

    4 жыл бұрын

    Teach em while they are young

  • @littlepaperscollection5515

    @littlepaperscollection5515

    4 жыл бұрын

    You're a good target 🎯 audience for this hunny... Better know this shitz as young as possible

  • @ripples1072

    @ripples1072

    4 жыл бұрын

    Stay private on the internet for your own safety, youngin.

  • @loomonda18
    @loomonda184 жыл бұрын

    This is solid advice that no one talks about

  • @AlexIsUber

    @AlexIsUber

    4 жыл бұрын

    Should be talked about more than setting up retirement account and other bs

  • @chronometa

    @chronometa

    4 жыл бұрын

    People don't take the time to figure out themselves first.

  • @JasmineNothanks
    @JasmineNothanks3 жыл бұрын

    I'm still madly in love with my husband. After 10+ years together & 4 kids, I wouldn't trade him for the world.

  • @aiahzohar5636

    @aiahzohar5636

    2 жыл бұрын

    10+ years? Give it time.

  • @kittykitkat4968

    @kittykitkat4968

    2 жыл бұрын

    Glad for you

  • @floramanning6594

    @floramanning6594

    2 жыл бұрын

    May GOD protect your love.

  • @JasmineNothanks

    @JasmineNothanks

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@lifesabeach5405 I bet you're wrong. I wouldn't be here if he didn't. I'm a catch and he knows it.

  • @canadude6401

    @canadude6401

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are one of the few lucky ones if you can say the same thing in 20 years time.

  • @SikSh0oter
    @SikSh0oter2 жыл бұрын

    I blame Disney. All of these early princess cartoons teaching girls to find their perfect prince charming, which is usually the same generic person through every movie (how many times have we heard "Ugh, all guys are the same"., "You're so much like my ex"., "I just wish I could find someone different"). The problem is they keep going for the same type of dude and yet wonder why they constantly are getting heart broken. That's early programming. Also notice how most Disney princess movies end with the wedding and happily ever after. Even after knowing the prince for a short amount of time. I guarantee that if they had sequels, it'd be a whole different story

  • @rachel14rod

    @rachel14rod

    2 жыл бұрын

    You're awareness is right on track. Respect.

  • @olgac.h.1278

    @olgac.h.1278

    2 жыл бұрын

    Well, they marry princes (ot the first guy who comes around), and they save them (oftentimes risking their own lives). Disney princes are not the main characters. You're not supposed to get to knoww them. But you are supposed to see they're worth it. It's not real life. It's a tale! They tell you the story with symbols.

  • @karencloskey7147

    @karencloskey7147

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree- not everybody has the personality or maturity to be in a marriage. There is nothing wrong with being single but Disney movies don’t focus much on single characters.

  • @PhilMante

    @PhilMante

    2 жыл бұрын

    Disney gives impressionable young women a misrepresentation of men in the same way pornography gives impressionable young men a misrepresentation of women.

  • @sanskritiverma8010

    @sanskritiverma8010

    2 жыл бұрын

    !!!!! VERY GOOD!!!!!

  • @Chocolate.barbie444
    @Chocolate.barbie4444 жыл бұрын

    Why am I watching this and I've never had a boyfriend?

  • @peacheskong2245

    @peacheskong2245

    4 жыл бұрын

    You??? You look so pretty

  • @cc3184

    @cc3184

    4 жыл бұрын

    Preperation

  • @09bonita09

    @09bonita09

    4 жыл бұрын

    You want a gf? 😍

  • @chelsea2059

    @chelsea2059

    4 жыл бұрын

    The literal thought that just ran threw my head. Lol

  • @emekanwachukwu2834

    @emekanwachukwu2834

    4 жыл бұрын

    Same sis..same

  • @_alanawalker
    @_alanawalker4 жыл бұрын

    Now that I think about it, a prenup doesn’t sound that awful or selfish. In a way it’s making sure that you don’t have the burden of your spouses debt

  • @HjCrawford

    @HjCrawford

    4 жыл бұрын

    Right!! Ive always hated when someone started barking about a prenup, but now I understand it better. And I absolutely think differently! 🤷

  • @derpderpson8803

    @derpderpson8803

    4 жыл бұрын

    I never saw why it was that big a deal

  • @jzhvaeduh

    @jzhvaeduh

    4 жыл бұрын

    It means you don’t think either of you are going to last, and you’re already preparing for a divorce.

  • @ikaustralia

    @ikaustralia

    4 жыл бұрын

    Except it can easily be ruled out in court if deemed unfair.

  • @jzhvaeduh

    @jzhvaeduh

    4 жыл бұрын

    Faizaan Naseem having kids out of wedlock is statistically a disaster. I’ll happily not take that advice. That only works for couples who don’t want children. You CAN’T compare marrying someone to going into war. You don’t trust people in a war not to at shoot you, you expect it. But you should not prepare for your partner to backstab/cheat. Just don’t get married if you’re that insecure

  • @sly.al.6404
    @sly.al.64043 жыл бұрын

    "Here, a gift for your wife!" "I don't have a wife.." "Ahh, true happiness."

  • @cacerxszz2907
    @cacerxszz29072 жыл бұрын

    Me watching in 2021: Just marry the person you see yourself with in an apocalypse.

  • @Andre-eu5xd

    @Andre-eu5xd

    2 жыл бұрын

    Weh?

  • @walkerpercy8702

    @walkerpercy8702

    2 жыл бұрын

    Lol, well played

  • @dcyphyr

    @dcyphyr

    2 жыл бұрын

    Looking for a friend for the end of the world.

  • @ArtisChronicles

    @ArtisChronicles

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@dcyphyr great headline, hope it attracts the right people.

  • @anewloveofficial9137
    @anewloveofficial91375 жыл бұрын

    You should never ignore the red flags while dating if you don't want to get screwed in the future. Don't jump right away for marriage, just take it slow, and make sure that you're on the same page with your partner.

  • @im_learning_bicth

    @im_learning_bicth

    5 жыл бұрын

    COUGH ariana grande COUGH

  • @expendable4h002

    @expendable4h002

    5 жыл бұрын

    A New Love Official Exactly. Love is a thin between love and hate. If you don’t feel either emotions, the marriage won’t last.

  • @charlieangkor8649

    @charlieangkor8649

    5 жыл бұрын

    Seems like for every behaviour your date does, there is an article saying that it’s a red flag.

  • @Lifesizemortal

    @Lifesizemortal

    5 жыл бұрын

    "i need this damaged person in my life" said 54%

  • @zerohour2703

    @zerohour2703

    5 жыл бұрын

    Just marry under Islamic laws, both sides get there rights and no more

  • @starcherry6814
    @starcherry68146 жыл бұрын

    I want these people to arrange my marriage

  • @rocklanddivorce

    @rocklanddivorce

    6 жыл бұрын

    I'm in! I'll see if the other two are available to help!

  • @beckwilde

    @beckwilde

    6 жыл бұрын

    send help

  • @b617_3

    @b617_3

    5 жыл бұрын

    Pathetic

  • @mfriedrich2012

    @mfriedrich2012

    5 жыл бұрын

    Star Cherry They can't do that. But they might be able to organize your divorce party though. Arrange a huge cake, some Beyoncé music, some 18 year old pool boys, and discounted gift subscriptions to Boxed Wine Enthusiasts and Cat Fancy magazines.

  • @mynameisbob7059

    @mynameisbob7059

    5 жыл бұрын

    They'll set u up for failure so you can walk in their office

  • @joelabella750
    @joelabella7503 жыл бұрын

    It’s a good thing that I was never got married nor had any children and now it’s been a very bliss & quiet life for me for the last 30 years. It’s always a Saturday waking morning for me and I make a coffee for myself and cook a nice breakfast over reading the newspaper.

  • @athomewithtroy1690
    @athomewithtroy16903 жыл бұрын

    Great advice I've been married 13 years and we are super detailed about money and role expectations so no one gets disappointed🙂

  • @huckaf
    @huckaf5 жыл бұрын

    We should be given this kind of advise to a whole other things too! Degrees, Housing, Finances, etc.

  • @wronggg

    @wronggg

    5 жыл бұрын

    Education would ruin the scam though.

  • @cecil123

    @cecil123

    5 жыл бұрын

    I wonder how long this comment has been 666 for?

  • @huda2379
    @huda23795 жыл бұрын

    I've never been in a relationship but ironically I'm already bracing myself for a divorce.

  • @beebuzz959

    @beebuzz959

    5 жыл бұрын

    Awwwww! Hang in there! It's good to be preventive, but also think positively!

  • @sofenayasmin1435

    @sofenayasmin1435

    5 жыл бұрын

    OMG SAME!!! 😂😂

  • @jacobhorton9832

    @jacobhorton9832

    5 жыл бұрын

    Well you definitely need to with that attitude!

  • @canthearyou4

    @canthearyou4

    5 жыл бұрын

    Relate too so much i think you are me

  • @keiahnigbruder1453

    @keiahnigbruder1453

    5 жыл бұрын

    Jacob Horton no u

  • @marif2993
    @marif29932 жыл бұрын

    them: i can’t believe he’s so vindictive the lawyer: well what were they like during the marriage? them: they were vindictive

  • @corrinvoeller9491
    @corrinvoeller94913 жыл бұрын

    I’m a marriage therapist and completely agree with what they said. It’s about who the people are and what the goals are that can make something successful.

  • @ashleypaintingwithfriends4149

    @ashleypaintingwithfriends4149

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yeah your right truly right

  • @GRehillMusic
    @GRehillMusic5 жыл бұрын

    I'm 33 and single so I've technically avoided my first divorce.

  • @lumox7

    @lumox7

    4 жыл бұрын

    Technically, I've avoided three divorces. Sorry lawyers.

  • @351528

    @351528

    4 жыл бұрын

    Lol! Well I'm 49 and single so I guess I've avoided two divorces. Lucky me!

  • @MorgaineRiddlePrince

    @MorgaineRiddlePrince

    4 жыл бұрын

    32. No partner.

  • @MegaCadette55

    @MegaCadette55

    4 жыл бұрын

    Congratulations on your achievement!

  • @obray00

    @obray00

    4 жыл бұрын

    37 no marriage. Life is good

  • @malvavisco10
    @malvavisco106 жыл бұрын

    If you can get through a divorce with respect and dignity, God bless you.

  • @sergiodelrioreyes7655

    @sergiodelrioreyes7655

    5 жыл бұрын

    God doesnt bless divorces xd

  • @MyCrimsonMischief

    @MyCrimsonMischief

    5 жыл бұрын

    Sergio del Río Reyes i’m so glad you have such certainty on what goes through God‘s mind.

  • @andrakarsten226

    @andrakarsten226

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@MyCrimsonMischief It's literally in the bible. Unless your wife is unfaithful you can't divorce.

  • @sergiodelrioreyes7655

    @sergiodelrioreyes7655

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@MyCrimsonMischief as Andra said it's in the Bible, as well as a million crazy things that nobody with common sense would take seriously

  • @MyCrimsonMischief

    @MyCrimsonMischief

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@andrakarsten226 how sexist is that, How about you live your best life and stop concerning yourself with other people's misfortune.

  • @nicolas.pascal
    @nicolas.pascal3 жыл бұрын

    2:35 good advice! Don’t look for someone to date, look for someone to marry.

  • @gagamonster1049

    @gagamonster1049

    2 жыл бұрын

    Why is that good advice. Why does all love have to end in stupid marriage? If you love someone it doesn’t have to be signed into a contract. Nothing lasts forver

  • @varsha1451
    @varsha14512 жыл бұрын

    When Allah shows you the true colours of some person,then don't even try to paint a different picture of them. It's that simple.

  • @DrumWild
    @DrumWild5 жыл бұрын

    There are two problems. The first is that the other person might not change. The other is that they might change.

  • @DiscoFang

    @DiscoFang

    5 жыл бұрын

    DrumWild - Bingo. But there is a 3rd problem. All these seemingly rational thinking lawyers all sat on the gap in the cushion. They were being directed so likely scripted too.

  • @fabianbladez123

    @fabianbladez123

    5 жыл бұрын

    The point about change, is that most people usually don’t. The person you meet on the first date is the same person 10 dates in, 10 weeks in, 10 months in and so on. You may learn new things about them as time goes on, but these things are not “new” to them, they have most likely been the way they are, long before you dated them.The way they act and behave during a divorce only comes as a shock because most people never think that the person they loved so much could be “that way” to them. The truth is, most people ignore and accept their partners flaws when things are going well, but sooner or later they start to bother them. This is not to say that the person you meet on the first date doesn’t have the capacity to change or grow, but only if they are the compromising and mature type of person. If the person you met was loud, immature, rude, demanding or whatever, why would you think they would act differently later on?

  • @pauls4742

    @pauls4742

    5 жыл бұрын

    Your right about that. The challenge is to be open-minded and mature enough when you first meet to recognize what type of person you're dealing with. I was married for 20 years and was shocked by the behavior of my ex during the divorce. As you said, I ignored and accepted her behavior when we were married for the sake of getting along.. but it did bother me. During the divorce I was no longer going to accept or tolerate her bad behavior and it was a shock to see how callous and ugly she really was. I'm happy to be free of that woman.

  • @BagsNBaguettes_327

    @BagsNBaguettes_327

    4 жыл бұрын

    💯

  • @Chocolate.barbie444

    @Chocolate.barbie444

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yessssssssss

  • @alibentz8692
    @alibentz86924 жыл бұрын

    When I got engaged to my now husband I asked, “what do you expect of me as a wife” he said “oh I don’t know.” And I was told him we needed to figure that out if we wanted to get married.

  • @usffan5775

    @usffan5775

    4 жыл бұрын

    Bjs 3x a week, and make dinner a few times a week. You'll do great, good luck

  • @smiles9599

    @smiles9599

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@usffan5775 lol and what does she get in return will he return the favour back.

  • @usffan5775

    @usffan5775

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@smiles9599 how would I know what a woman expects of a man in a marriage? I'm divorced, maybe you should give me some pointers

  • @smiles9599

    @smiles9599

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@usffan5775lol I'm not married but I guess the same back and respect. Appreciating her.

  • @magsyak2923

    @magsyak2923

    4 жыл бұрын

    Idky this made me laugh

  • @darenadilchovska1015
    @darenadilchovska10153 жыл бұрын

    The first lawyer...he is just "one love". This man REALLY understands what this job is really about...about deciding already existing problems,but never in the same time loosing your faith in life. He really knows how to enjoy the journey without minding the rain ♥️

  • @davidodonovan1699
    @davidodonovan16992 жыл бұрын

    This should all be common sence, but regardless, should probably be shown to all teenagers, as soon as they start wanting to get into any kind of romance. Not to freak them out, but just to have them aware.

  • @cam0987

    @cam0987

    2 жыл бұрын

    TOTALLY agree

  • @davidodonovan1699

    @davidodonovan1699

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@cam0987 yeah😉🧡

  • @machupikachu1085

    @machupikachu1085

    2 жыл бұрын

    Like firearm safety! :D

  • @MegaShredder101
    @MegaShredder1014 жыл бұрын

    The guy in the red tie trying to get more customers😂😂😂

  • @StephJ0seph

    @StephJ0seph

    4 жыл бұрын

    *clients

  • @Blackstreak8

    @Blackstreak8

    4 жыл бұрын

    Exactly

  • @sully2932

    @sully2932

    4 жыл бұрын

    What makes you say that? Out of curiosity

  • @jeanie1137

    @jeanie1137

    4 жыл бұрын

    And he’s very convincing. 😂

  • @aleshyabarbour6389

    @aleshyabarbour6389

    4 жыл бұрын

    Lol that's the same thing I thought 🥴😂

  • @JoieDeVivre35
    @JoieDeVivre355 жыл бұрын

    This is so overdue and the realest advice you can get. Thank you for this.

  • @Guitarfreak931

    @Guitarfreak931

    5 жыл бұрын

    Don't believe everything you hear

  • @JoieDeVivre35

    @JoieDeVivre35

    5 жыл бұрын

    This is all true been married 12 years

  • @jessejameslatimer8686
    @jessejameslatimer86862 жыл бұрын

    I'm 29 and never getting married. My last relationship would always talk about marriage but I just knew it was never going to happen. I do not want to get married. People tell me you just haven't found the right one yet... you can't find the right one because everyone changes in time.

  • @lotuswolf1518

    @lotuswolf1518

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wth So men also have pressure to get married

  • @gagamonster1049

    @gagamonster1049

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yep

  • @roadkillanonymous4807
    @roadkillanonymous48072 жыл бұрын

    A man I know is fond of saying “marriage is the number one cause of divorce”. He is now my father in law haha. To make things even better, I’m a minister with the authority to solemnize marriages in my province. I officiated his second wedding a few years after marrying his daughter!

  • @baizawai
    @baizawai5 жыл бұрын

    when you get married they should require people to understand the legal ramifications

  • @DJBremen

    @DJBremen

    5 жыл бұрын

    A cornerstone of contract law is informed consent with every single other contract let alone one as significant as this. Its not a bad idea.

  • @JordanBeagle

    @JordanBeagle

    5 жыл бұрын

    When you die you should understand the legal ramifications

  • @wronggg

    @wronggg

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@DJBremen Marriage is a scam. By explaining the scam in detail, you'd be scaring everyone away.

  • @80PercentAshamedOfU

    @80PercentAshamedOfU

    5 жыл бұрын

    Call me pessimistic but I doubt it would matter. People are too blinded by romance and/or convenience for them to make the right decision.

  • @baizawai

    @baizawai

    5 жыл бұрын

    @Blair Waldorf When I bought a house, someone sat down with me and explained everything I signed. I'd say buying a house was less impactful than getting married. Why should we explain one and not the other?

  • @cyanscrewdriver2092
    @cyanscrewdriver20924 жыл бұрын

    A tip before marriage: Make sure your internet connection is very slow and see what reaction comes out of your partner

  • @melocoton7

    @melocoton7

    3 жыл бұрын

    Another good thing to do is go on a trip and watch how they act when something bad happens or something doesn’t go as planned. Do they freak out? Become hostile and aggressive? Are they flexible and find a solution? Watching a person in a moment of crisis is the best way to see their true character

  • @mihir9608

    @mihir9608

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@melocoton7 true. Anybody can be happy if life is comfortable but its only when things go south we see the true colours of people

  • @PikachuInTheSky

    @PikachuInTheSky

    3 жыл бұрын

    Maybe even use this as a sign in early dating stages

  • @ChiasmMarksTheSpot

    @ChiasmMarksTheSpot

    2 жыл бұрын

    Haha! I appreciate this. Especially because I'm an abnormally patient person - except when the internet is slow or the phone connection lousy 😂 But it's true that if I let someone get close enough to me to find that out, they better be warned I have only been able to remedy my frustration to a certain extent...

  • @moonkatmagic5599

    @moonkatmagic5599

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes! You learn a great deal about people when they don’t get their way a few times

  • @tz8565
    @tz85652 жыл бұрын

    I've said it before and I will say it again....people are unpredictable. That sweet little angel may change 10 years later.

  • @wingknight7132

    @wingknight7132

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yep that's the truth'

  • @marks2997
    @marks29972 жыл бұрын

    Last line is really important. If you can find someone who talks you up and is positive about you, you won the jackpot.

  • @anniestreet9003
    @anniestreet90034 жыл бұрын

    All this is telling me, is that chef's and musicians get divorced a lot.

  • @Losshe

    @Losshe

    4 жыл бұрын

    Lol good point

  • @jadehalliday6636

    @jadehalliday6636

    3 жыл бұрын

    And pilots!

  • @EmyN

    @EmyN

    3 жыл бұрын

    Lol

  • @Diza519

    @Diza519

    3 жыл бұрын

    😂😂😂

  • @deuteriumjones

    @deuteriumjones

    3 жыл бұрын

    I cook saxophones for a living.

  • @yeshalloween
    @yeshalloween4 жыл бұрын

    I’m loving being married. 9 years, 4 kids. I daydream about my man sometimes. He’s the best

  • @guadalupemeixueiropalacios3184

    @guadalupemeixueiropalacios3184

    4 жыл бұрын

    yeshalloween why are you watching this then?

  • @aprilrawls8929

    @aprilrawls8929

    4 жыл бұрын

    Guadalupe Meixueiro Palacios lol

  • @TheTallMan50

    @TheTallMan50

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@guadalupemeixueiropalacios3184 2 weeks and still no reply. 🤔

  • @davidpierce9949

    @davidpierce9949

    4 жыл бұрын

    Just 9 years. Give it 10 to 15 more. Sometimes it takes a while.

  • @indiaxlovee

    @indiaxlovee

    4 жыл бұрын

    David Pierce not everyone is miserable in marriage lol some people have great lovey long term relationships

  • @ExposeDarkness
    @ExposeDarkness2 жыл бұрын

    Been married for nearly 12 years. Most difficult and rewarding thing I have ever done in my life.

  • @agnieszkajakubczak2408
    @agnieszkajakubczak24082 жыл бұрын

    This is great video. I got married last year after being together for 11 years, 8 years living together and 3 years engaged. I must admit that I am proud of myself and my husband that we spent 3 months before we got married on making sure that we look in the same direction in life like finances, children, career and so on. We trusted our photographer, DJ, venue manager etc. that everything is going to be fine on our wedding day, so I didn't quite focus much on wedding details.

  • @umangjain5460
    @umangjain54604 жыл бұрын

    "Marriage is a lottery worth trying....." Spoken by a guy who makes his living out of divorces.

  • @EngPMgt

    @EngPMgt

    4 жыл бұрын

    This ensures his business continuity 😂 without marriage there will be no divorce, no divorce means no business for him 😅

  • @google1030

    @google1030

    4 жыл бұрын

    Anna Rivera what's it called?

  • @vandyke2025

    @vandyke2025

    4 жыл бұрын

    #MonoIsHere - I love you Seoul divorce corp

  • @StevieSparkZ

    @StevieSparkZ

    4 жыл бұрын

    I look at it like a casino for the divorce lawyers. You enter in a casino on your own accord just like you would enter a marriage on your own accord.

  • @xxjoeyt07xx

    @xxjoeyt07xx

    4 жыл бұрын

    A mortician could say life is worth living...

  • @madimurray1441
    @madimurray14416 жыл бұрын

    I'm literally getting married in 3 days. I've never felt so sure about anything in all my life.

  • @beanwardferret6510

    @beanwardferret6510

    6 жыл бұрын

    Madi Murray I hope your wedding was amazing 😀

  • @bringiton5282

    @bringiton5282

    6 жыл бұрын

    How's it going so far ?

  • @djizzah

    @djizzah

    6 жыл бұрын

    good luck with that

  • @rebelwarmann83

    @rebelwarmann83

    6 жыл бұрын

    good luck... u better man then me cuz I can't do it!

  • @haley2121

    @haley2121

    6 жыл бұрын

    Pls Give us an update!💛

  • @catjack90
    @catjack902 жыл бұрын

    Plot twist: They are purposely giving the wrong advice so they have more clients XD

  • @dataanalyst9343

    @dataanalyst9343

    2 жыл бұрын

    I hate you

  • @aloowalia2849

    @aloowalia2849

    2 жыл бұрын

    I hate you (2)

  • @nilsfrederking62

    @nilsfrederking62

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wasn´t it obvious ;-) ....only 47% of married people who want to stay together and that does not mean that all couples of these 47% are happy, some have simply too many obligations, bought a house together, want to stay together for the kids, fear to not find another partner etc.

  • @aloowalia2849

    @aloowalia2849

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@nilsfrederking62 yeah that's obvious

  • @lotuswolf1518

    @lotuswolf1518

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@nilsfrederking62 societal pressure in countries like India

  • @romanticdonkey468
    @romanticdonkey4682 жыл бұрын

    The first attorney was great. I’d enjoy listening to more of what he has to say.

  • @sarahevans4769
    @sarahevans47695 жыл бұрын

    Show idea:these Divorce lawyers do a Match making show👏🏻👏🏻

  • @BreaMason

    @BreaMason

    5 жыл бұрын

    They would lose their jobs

  • @kateadams1990

    @kateadams1990

    5 жыл бұрын

    I`d watch that. Could be interesting!

  • @ArnoldJamesXT
    @ArnoldJamesXT5 жыл бұрын

    Don't make life changing decisions based solely on short term emotions

  • @NetSkillNavigator

    @NetSkillNavigator

    5 жыл бұрын

    Correct

  • @windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823

    @windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823

    5 жыл бұрын

    just like suicide.

  • @MarcelHamilton91

    @MarcelHamilton91

    5 жыл бұрын

    The most important comment on this thread

  • @lotuswolf1518

    @lotuswolf1518

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes so dont get married

  • @onee
    @onee3 жыл бұрын

    I luckily live in a country where when you divorce, everything gets split 50/50 AFTER your divorce. So, if your net worth was 5 billion dollars before the divorce. You do NOT split that money. You only split the money you made after your marriage.

  • @cardiyansane1414

    @cardiyansane1414

    3 жыл бұрын

    It’s not usually the pre marriage finance that causes a problem.. it’s the money made while married. Usually one spouse has put in more money than the other , or sacrificed carrier to raise kids and lost out financially . This is where the bitterness lies

  • @kepspark3362

    @kepspark3362

    2 жыл бұрын

    Which country?

  • @Aprilium

    @Aprilium

    2 жыл бұрын

    Luckily I live in a country where after a divorce everyone goes their way with what they personally made during marriage. No splits whatsoever, you leave with yours, the other leaves with theirs.

  • @mhmok4684

    @mhmok4684

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Aprilium Spit out bro, help your brothers out. Because some of plan on having families we just don't want to get f*#ked in the aftermath. We're always told "Don't do marriage" but that's so simple to say, and it assume people are ready to be single forever and never settle down.

  • @aiahzohar5636

    @aiahzohar5636

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Aprilium Smart country!

  • @jeupshaw
    @jeupshaw2 жыл бұрын

    James Sexton is one of the most level headed, clear and concise people I have seen on KZread.

  • @Yourlocalintern
    @Yourlocalintern4 жыл бұрын

    KZread recommended this after watching Say Yes to the Dress.

  • @lifeunderbudget

    @lifeunderbudget

    4 жыл бұрын

    I got this recommendation after watching Supernanny 😂

  • @bibii6741

    @bibii6741

    4 жыл бұрын

    YES and paternity court

  • @curoseba5363

    @curoseba5363

    4 жыл бұрын

    😅

  • @andreeacrime

    @andreeacrime

    4 жыл бұрын

    Wtf same for me

  • @consistentlychristy2991

    @consistentlychristy2991

    4 жыл бұрын

    I am so interested in the aftermath of those say yes to the dress weddings like how y’all doing after the i dos and credit card statement?

  • @skyblueincommunity
    @skyblueincommunity4 жыл бұрын

    "... hold onto that sense of being this other person's cheerleader..." Beautifully said. Best relationship advice I've ever heard.

  • @alexbeerune

    @alexbeerune

    4 жыл бұрын

    Jesus Mea Lux shut up

  • @JesusSaves827
    @JesusSaves8273 жыл бұрын

    Half of all marriages end in divorce. The other half end in death.

  • @hellothere2639

    @hellothere2639

    3 жыл бұрын

    Tbh, i want mine to end in divorce.

  • @eauneau

    @eauneau

    3 жыл бұрын

    😳

  • @Avian98X

    @Avian98X

    2 жыл бұрын

    And 100% of lives in general end in death, soooo...

  • @hellothere2639

    @hellothere2639

    2 жыл бұрын

    All the people that are alive right now, will be dead in max 150 years.

  • @bricklayerlzdp9825

    @bricklayerlzdp9825

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@hellothere2639 wrong i will enter stasis in 30 years and will awake in 200

  • @lukew1383
    @lukew13837 ай бұрын

    What stuck out to me the most in this video was the last line, "Be your spouse's cheerleader". I paid for my spouse to go to graduate school when we were engaged. I didn't have to. After all, our finances were still completely separate. But I wanted her to succeed and better herself. Not because I wanted her to get a better job when we were married, but because I wanted her to be happy doing what she would do with her life. That was a huge reassurance to myself that I was with the right person. 7 years and 3 kids later, we're stronger than ever. I know there's lots of time for me to screw this up, but I like my odds.

  • @guppy8073
    @guppy80735 жыл бұрын

    I like the body language of the guy in the red tie. All of them seem nice, but he has an open impression.

  • @TuningAnApple

    @TuningAnApple

    5 жыл бұрын

    Open stance, leaning forward, hand gestures all show someone who is engaged in the conversation. Body language is a powerful thing.

  • @robertct06

    @robertct06

    5 жыл бұрын

    TuningAnApple these are fake. It’s just rules taught in business and other “professional” jobs. I’d prefer someone who doesn’t seem interested, but he actually is; maybe it’s because I’m the same way.

  • @JonnyBeoulve

    @JonnyBeoulve

    5 жыл бұрын

    I thought the same thing. it's amazing the difference between him and the guy in blue. No disrespect to the ladder, but there's a calmness and openness with the former that is difficult to describe but certainly tangible.

  • @AyupChuck

    @AyupChuck

    5 жыл бұрын

    Roped in. Hook line and sinker. Lol you bot

  • @52hello25

    @52hello25

    5 жыл бұрын

    I thought he came off as confrontational. I would have preferred him to tone down the energy quite a bit.

  • @slappy8941
    @slappy89414 жыл бұрын

    Marriage is the only game you can win by not playing.

  • @DrBeeSpeaks

    @DrBeeSpeaks

    4 жыл бұрын

    Slappy I like that! lol

  • @youparejo

    @youparejo

    4 жыл бұрын

    Noice

  • @keranhuang

    @keranhuang

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yes

  • @mlguy8376

    @mlguy8376

    4 жыл бұрын

    russian roulette is another - similar outcomes!

  • @darkvioletskull

    @darkvioletskull

    4 жыл бұрын

    Yessir

  • @dougn2350
    @dougn23502 жыл бұрын

    Germany actually proposed a law that marriage was a term contract that automatically expired after 5 years. It could be renewed if both parties agreed. Guess who fought that law? Divorce Lawyers!

  • @lotuswolf1518

    @lotuswolf1518

    2 жыл бұрын

    Most marriages r like that anyway

  • @thedimarcoguy

    @thedimarcoguy

    7 ай бұрын

    Germany for the win

  • @Natashea
    @Natashea3 жыл бұрын

    Here studying because I want a good solid marriage. Homework is necessary✍🏾

  • @GodSoLoved.Yeshua

    @GodSoLoved.Yeshua

    3 жыл бұрын

    My advice, seek Jesus. A relationship with Jesus is vital, a man will not meet all of your expectations.

  • @deded846
    @deded8464 жыл бұрын

    0:08 "it's worth buying a ticket & taking a ride" *unconsciously shaking his head* contradicting body language vs verbal context.

  • @owllip773

    @owllip773

    4 жыл бұрын

    LOL 🙈

  • @clarrinspells5140

    @clarrinspells5140

    4 жыл бұрын

    Your so right, didn't even catch that.

  • @enkiimuto1041

    @enkiimuto1041

    4 жыл бұрын

    Nice spot, this should be higher up

  • @Baylaruse

    @Baylaruse

    4 жыл бұрын

    4:17

  • @SuperFang1

    @SuperFang1

    4 жыл бұрын

    Lol good catch.

  • @heroshyma69
    @heroshyma695 жыл бұрын

    Can't get divorced if you don't get married.

  • @PowerfulLighting

    @PowerfulLighting

    5 жыл бұрын

    Modern problems, require modern solutions.

  • @nuck-

    @nuck-

    5 жыл бұрын

    Women will find a way.

  • @cylereyes8195

    @cylereyes8195

    5 жыл бұрын

    And for that reason...I’m out. This has been shark tank

  • @sacramentallyill

    @sacramentallyill

    5 жыл бұрын

    Common law marraige?

  • @Crazywaffle5150

    @Crazywaffle5150

    5 жыл бұрын

    @Necuno Its not the easy

  • @swordoftree
    @swordoftree3 жыл бұрын

    Number 4 is very eye-opening and important specially in this day and age. Most people don't realise that. In fact, they outright reject it and think boyfriend/girlfriend is the best person to marry.

  • @KKISCRAZYFUL
    @KKISCRAZYFUL2 жыл бұрын

    My dad is on his second marriage and my mom is on her third. My grandparents are also divorced. I don't think I'll ever get married but my current boyfriend if 6 years and are living are own lives while supporting each other and I'm happy to continue doing that as long as we both want to. The only thing we want involves healthcare and being able to make decisions for each other if the other is unable to.

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