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RECORDED ON APRIL 2nd 2024.
Dr. Bella DePaulo is the leading expert on single life and has been described by The Atlantic as “America’s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience.” Dr. DePaulo coined the term “single at heart.” After two decades as a professor of psychology at the University of Virginia, Dr. DePaulo moved to the West Coast, where she is currently an academic affiliate in the Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of California, Santa Barbara. Her latest book is Single at Heart: The Power, Freedom, and Heart-Filling Joy of Single Life.
In this episode, we focus on Single at Heart. We talk about who the “single at heart” people are, their psychological traits, gender differences, the opportunities singlehood offers, and how single people deal with solitude. We discuss whether they feel the need to have kids, and their psychological well-being and life outcomes compared to people in romantic relationships. We talk about social and political discrimination against single people, and where the stigma against them stems from. We also discuss casual relationships, how to interpret statistics about people who do not have sex, new forms of relationships, and what people in relationships can learn from this.
Time Links:
00:00 Intro
00:32 Who are the “single at heart”?
07:57 Their psychological traits
12:16 Gender differences
13:25 The opportunities that singlehood offers
19:36 Dealing with solitude
23:05 Do they feel the need to have kids?
24:56 Psychological well-being and life outcomes
30:46 Discrimination against single people
34:36 Where the stigma stems from
41:02 Casual relationships
42:59 Statistics about people who do not have sex
46:14 New forms of relationship
48:27 What people in relationships can learn from this
49:50 A final message for single people
50:33 Follow Dr. DePaulo’s work!
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  • @jonstewart464
    @jonstewart4642 ай бұрын

    Finally, someone's written a book about me! Surprised not to hear the term 'aromantic' which is how we seem to be self-identitying online these days. Helen Fisher's work is relevant here too. Thanks for this great interview, I'll be buying the book.

  • @TheDissenterRL

    @TheDissenterRL

    2 ай бұрын

    Thanks, glad that you liked it! I also have an interview with Helen Fisher on the show, by the way: kzread.info/dash/bejne/eK2OrNyYXbHKmpc.html

  • @Dman9fp
    @Dman9fpАй бұрын

    Being single forever is not for normies. For us wierdo's (in a good way) who can handle the extra high's & lows, and especially those who have mental conditions that it would take somebody with almost inhuman amount of willpower & patience to deal with us at our worst sometimes--- easier and simpler to adapt to the single life. Is it sad? Sure maybe if you try to fit everybody into the same mold. But for some of us (or many, if 10% of people truly have b.p.d. or n.p.d.) this is our normal, and likely always will be, and it's okay

  • @ReverendDr.Thomas
    @ReverendDr.Thomas2 ай бұрын

    No woman has EVER claimed that being single (by which I mean residing alone) is full of "Power, Freedom, and Heart-Filling Joy" (at least not without blatantly lying).

  • @craigwynne8209

    @craigwynne8209

    2 ай бұрын

    You must have a very limited circle.

  • @lauren12ful1

    @lauren12ful1

    2 ай бұрын

    oh wow - I doubt you have talked to every woman in the world. You are sorely mistaken. Expand your horizons. Especially talk to some previously coupled women who have been married/living with abusers who have spent YEARS lying about their "assumed" happiness.

  • @jonstewart464

    @jonstewart464

    2 ай бұрын

    Err, this research seems to say the exact opposite🤦

  • @craigwynne8209

    @craigwynne8209

    2 ай бұрын

    @@jonstewart464 Yes. Most of the research that says married people are happier fails to include people who are divorced or widowed. That kind of trauma will reduce one's happiness substantially. Additionally, many who claim to be happy may feel compelled to say it because that's what society requires.