Well said!!!. my parents moved to America many many years ago. I was raised here, though I was born in India I came at the age of three. My mother always said the best thing she ever did was come here. My mother is a widow. My father passed away when my brother and were very young. In America, she raised two children on her own educated them, and now we are settled with our own families. In India, she would be considered bad luck because she is a widow, but I’m America. She considered a hero because she raised two children on her own educated them fed them, gave them a proper home, etc..

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Kudos to your mom, can imagine the struggles she might have gone through to raise her family all by herself in a foreign land. Yes India during those days was pretty regressive hopefully things have gotten better with time.

Good one Chechi. Thank you for putting this together. Can’t agree more. 💕

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

My pleasure 😊. Thank you Suvarna

Very meaningful talk! Thanks Vidya! Appreciate very much!!!

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Glad you liked it. Thank you Keerthi.

Awesome video. I have been in the US for 16 years and these are things I love about American culture as well. Very well put together. Thank you for the efforts. Few examples I want to share: 1. About kids working - I have seen middle school kids take care of pets while the pets family is out and go to their house twice a day to feed the pet, take them out for poop and pee and play with the pet to cheer them up. And when kids do this they plan this all by themselves by creating notices to communicate about their service, the pay, they find customers in the community. 2. My 6 year old son has learnt from school that certain words which are common back in India like stupid, shit, heck all are bad words and they remind and don’t look pleased if any elders by mistakenly uses them. So heartening to see our kids teaching us. It is never late to learn. I am sorry I didn’t want to type those words here but there was no other way I could think of to communicate my point 😂 3. Another example is everyone on the table at a restaurant gets a menu and choice to order their own food. Growing up in India food was always decided and ordered by the dad in the house. 4. I think one of the main reason why American women command so much equality is also because they are financially independent which is so important for women. The concept of why does the woman need to earn if the man is earning enough in some of the Indian homes makes the woman having to stretch her handout for money everytime she needs it. It is not like spending one’s own hard earned money. 5. Holding the elevator door, other doors as a courtesy 6. Respect for pets - I am not a pet person but I still feel good seeing the respect they get 7. People sleep early by 8 pm/9 pm and wake up early by 4 am/5am and start office by 8 am, finish office by 4 pm/5pm. This keeps them healthy. 8. They give almost importance to everyone’s time. Doctor appointments, restaurant wait times are all accurate. Also with all these good things if someone asks why are divorce rates high here it could be because women have the power to make decisions, society and family supports her decision if she wants a divorce. They are more practical and don’t want to remain in an unhappy marriage only because they have kids. And as you said there are many families here you don’t divorce but it’s mostly negative numbers that are highlighted. So heartening to hear that your son appreciates when he is given food. I could understand your feelings ❤❤

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

All very valid points. You said it so well. Totally agree with everyone of them. I have never thought about #3. Definitely a valid point.

@cheersbloom

2 ай бұрын

@@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam one other point I remember now is - body shaming is not a norm here. In India before people greet you the first comment they will say is ‘thadi vachu allo’ or ‘shenichu poyi allo’. No one asks first how are you doing?. So much so that I had a malayalee neighbor visit me once for the first time and she saw my 4 year old son for the very first time and said ‘enthu shenichu annu irikyanne, onnum kazhikyan kodukarillye!’. I am stumped at how to respond to such things even now

Great vedio!

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏

Very informative and I have experienced the same. I also wanted to add may be controversial. I go to an American church and I am involved with them on a personal level and one thing I appreciate is that, they treat their adult children with a lot of respect. I feel Indian parents treat their children as kids at age 60 too. They struggle with the change of dynamics as the kids become adults. I have seen this in many different families.

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Sherin. Totally agree with you. We were just talking about this last week.

Absolutely agree to whatever you mentioned . Good one .

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much

Well said... liked the whole video... your top is also very pretty

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much

As a person living in the US (Virginia), for the last 6 years, I completely agree with your points 👍

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

Hi Vidya.. Im a teacher, a regular viewer of ur vlogs. Iam a native of kozhikkode dt. I've been to US twice to visit my sister in LA. You know, im totally in love with that country. Ive seen and experienced all that you've said mainly appreciation, work habits, husband wife relation etc etc.. We cant imagine all these in our country especially in kerala. We keralites are very much ego driven and I've felt many a times that most people are like frogs in an empty well. Simply wasting time peeping into lives of others. When I go on praising US culture to my collegues and relatives they just raise their eyebrows.. Lucky that you live there. Hope my next generation gets a chance to live there.. Keep going with such informative contents. Really appreciate your multi tasking skills😊

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Aww, totally understand what you’re saying. Back home people rarely acknowledge that there are good aspects in other cultures especially western cultures. In fact every culture has its own pluses and minuses. Thanks a lot for your kind words and support. 🙏

Loved it!

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Well said vidya... Nice vlog god bless u

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much 🙂

Good video. Out of all the things, I like the respect for rules, how they teach from early on.

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Yes totally agree.

Well explained!!!!

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

22 күн бұрын

Thank you

Hi Vidya, great content... really appreciate the thoughts and efforts. I would like to add few more - 1. value for time be it anyone's. 2. being able to accept someone NO wholeheartedly and respect the NO( here YES is a yes and NO is a no, they mean what they say). 3. being able to appreciate some one's individual space/opinion/ dislikes/likes. 4. Treating kids as kids and adults as adults , be it their own or others. 5. Being able to find happiness own their own without depending on spouse/ kids. 6. Respecting own and others body.7. being able to accept a person's idea without being much biased about their attire/gender/ethnicity/what ever. basically being able to respect an individual( this might be different in different states or places but a general teaching to respect another person and treat them equally does exist) I can go on and on..

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

OMG #2 and #3!!!!! That’s so relevant even amping the desis here. #4 was on my list, moved to part 2 as the video was getting long. Agree with everything you said.

Agreed with all your points. As you mentioned about your son say thanks for giving foods, same thing my son says I feel so much proud of him 😊

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

That is so sweet of him. Thank you for sharing.

Very logical and informative points. Good Vidya

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot Bindu chechi

One of the things I still find hard to say to my family members, even after having lived in Europe for 30 years is ‘ I love you’. Somehow, expression of love is considered very superficial in Asian cultures 😞

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Yes, totally get what you are saying. I grew up in a family where physical show of affection was also absent. We kids started hugging our parents and grandparents after watching hindi serials on Doordarshan.

Superb ... So informative #

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot

Absolutely right!

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you

Loved it....❤

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Bhavya

I love the fact that they hold the door open for someone coming up next. Irrespective of gender!

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Yes, it is an expectation and makes it easier for the other person.

Great information

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

26 күн бұрын

Thank you!

I live in Australia 🇦🇺 and fully agree with you. Thanks for the video and info👍

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

(The 7th point is so true) Totally agree being 48 years in the US. ...Very good ....Well done.. Thanks.

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much.

Honest views. I also had similar views when i visited the US for the first time thirteen years ago. You hv presented this video content very well. Appreciate your efforts .

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

25 күн бұрын

Thank you so much

Wow!! As of first week of April, I completed 24 yrs in the USA. Recently stumbled on your channel. Must say, quality content and very informative as well. You have a warm personality. Nalloru vibe comes through. Keep rocking 🙌🏼✨ Cliche line Natil evdeya enna pole, which part are you in? I live down South.

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Wow, time flies fast, right? I still remember the first day I landed at JFK, crossing the Verrazzano bridge was like 🤩. Thank you so much for your sweet words and support. Welcome to the family.

Great.. please do similar videos also.

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Sure will do. Thank you.

Totally agree Vidya. We live in NewZealand with similar culture and we love it. 😊

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Rekha

One of the best thing is including differently abled children and parents whenever possible. They will not stare or criticize them or their parents.

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Yes totally with you on that. In general there is a lot more compassion towards people and less judging.

There was an orientation session to all the kids in my little ones class right before the day a special child joined them. I like the way there are inclusions in this culture for disabled ones, people from other ethnicities and color. Not sure if it is so in the high school and among the grownups.

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

That’s so sweet. Yes it is like that most of the time in higher classes as well.

All good points. I have been living in Australia for 32 years now, agree with this. ❤. New subscriber.

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for subbing! Really appreciate the support.

Nice video, new subscriber

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you and welcome to the family!

All the points you said I agree with it . I am in US last 27 yrs . Two more things I want to add I worked late night all these yrs . The safety of driving at night any time where I live I appreciate that another thing I noticed our children grown up here most are very honest to their parents. If they don’t like they will tell us .Not pretending to please others.

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

Ай бұрын

Totally agree with you on both the points.

Regarding compliments, I have been to different places in a saree and have always , always got compliments from people here but only got stared at or frowned upon by another Indian . 😆

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Aww, that’s so sad. I think as a culture we are overtly critical of others. Another good thing that we all should learn from here is, “If you have nothing good to say don’t say anything.” I’m tired of explaining this to people back home where they think they are entitled to voice their opinion good or bad. 😀

This is a good one , people must be amazed who don’t live in USA .

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Juvy. Most often we only hear about the bad things and western culture gets a bad rap. There is so much good in every culture.

Hi Vidya, it was a nice Vlog .. I lived in Europe for 23 years moved to England recently.. I have almost the same experience here in many areas you talked about.. Your vlogs are very informative ❤Keep on vlogging💕

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Kavitha.

If kids don't say thankyou or sorry, elders will say where is the Magic word...:). I have heard this parents saying to kids. Another few things I like is they will treat everyone as same, not based on what you do for living, how big is your house, what car are you driving etc. Another thing I love is they will never ask about your personal matters.

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Exactly. OMG your last point!!!! That is liberating that you don’t have answer to the whole world.

Nice video. You look pretty in this video. This top is from?

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you. It is Liz claiborne from macys.

Appreciate your efforts to make mallus aware of the good culture following in US I was wonder stuck as people passing by give compliments on my height during my recent US trip

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Yes, totally agree. I got a small taste of this in India when I attended St. Teresa’s college in Kochi for a couple of months. Kids and teachers there are like people here, they dish out compliments to strangers passing by. I was super shocked initially and didn’t know what to think of it or how to respond. 😀

Yes so true about our people wont even look into your eyes. Please do more motivational type videos

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Will do. Thank you.

Well said, so true about the American culture 👏

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot.

I liked all the culture shock The best was appreciation saying thank you please and I am sorry when you wrong and owning your wrong doing right from a toddler age.time out for children so they learn bad behaviors not acceptable you get consequences Do on and so forth You did a great job by putting together and see happy you were when you heard your son say thanks it does make us so happy to hear One more sharing and giving which is hard but parents do try to instill on kids at young age Thanks so much I hope lots of love of indian parents read your vlog

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Totally, they instill good behavior in kids from the get go. Kids friends who come over ask if they can help with putting away dishes etc. I also love the way they make kids clean up the toys in someone else’s house after the party before they leave. We were very particular about this with our little ones.

Correct 👌👌♥️♥️♥️

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

Nice

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thanks

I agree with every point you said -been here in the US for 26 yrs as well! Especially in India there is a wrong concept about life here and u have explained it well

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Yes, totally with you on that. Back home people are quick to dismiss others pov whereas I feel there are good things and bad things in every culture.

Your are absolutely right in your view points. I 100% agree. One more thing I feel Americans do right is they offer you help without you requesting. For instance if they see you coming with loads of stuff in your hand they come running to open the door for you. You feel guilty and walk fast or run they will tell you “don’t rush take your time”

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Yes, that’s so heartwarming. They don’t have to go the extra mile every time yet they do.

beautiful bangle!❤❤

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

22 күн бұрын

Thank you! 😊

👍👍👍

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Thank you Amme

👌👌👌👌❤️

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

🙏🙏🙏🙏

❤

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

Where was the English subtitles?

@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam

2 ай бұрын

Please click on the cc icon (on the top right of the screen if you are watching on the phone or bottom right if you are watching on laptop/tv) to see the subtitles.

@CC-yy7xt

2 ай бұрын

Ok, thank you.​@@WhatsUrHomeStoryMalayalam