8 signs you’re dating a loser Point No1 - You’re tired of hearing his complaints Point No2- He lacks confidence Point No 3- He is just cruising through life Point No4- He is cocky and full of himself Point No5 - He doesn’t respect women Point No6-He’s over 40 & living with his parents Point No7- He lives off your pockets Point No8-He never keeps to time. Thank me later😉😁

@lmusima3275

Жыл бұрын

He’s over 40, broke, stagnant, unmotivated, wears his trousers 👖 hanging down no belt, hat 🧢 on backwards

@Kim-ok5tn

Жыл бұрын

​@@lmusima3275 you're cringe. What man do you see with his hat on backwards

@edennis8578

Жыл бұрын

​@@Kim-ok5tn American men who think it's cool. There are even fashion articles that advise men to wear their baseball hats backwards.

@ngamphundarkhaling6848

Жыл бұрын

thank you 😍

@KindHarmony

Жыл бұрын

Thank you.

Is it a bad thing that I watch your videos to learn about the guy I should NOT be?

@bri.decode

Жыл бұрын

No! It's good

@bekimalaura8452

Жыл бұрын

Good

@designshop7264

Жыл бұрын

Very good idea

@debrasullivan7479

Жыл бұрын

Nope, that's called self improvement and strength in character...proof that your not a loser. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@stellamaris3651

Жыл бұрын

This is how you get the love of your life AND KEEP HER!

It's not your responsibility to build your man up. You're not Bob the builder. Put down your shovel! 🔥🔥🔥

@bekimalaura8452

Жыл бұрын

Yea

This is the refined version of "I Don't Want No Scrub." 😂😂😂😂

@kimciszek-kane397

9 ай бұрын

😅😅😅😅😅

I dated a man who gave a facade at the beginning of the relationship of having his life together....turns out, he was a dreadful mess.....dreadful. Lazy, demanding, so unmotivated, no energy, got fired for saying stupid things and stealing, constant complaining, entitled, and all around trouble. I got out of there to make room for better.

@getrealp78

Жыл бұрын

Me too! Just got out of a relationship like this. I feel so relieved now!

@synnsayneenterprises

Жыл бұрын

As you should.

@babegurl1231

11 ай бұрын

My Prayers that we as woman find the love of our life that God wants us to have !! For us a woman to Be happy and Successful!!

@Sarahhenderson11

8 ай бұрын

Sounds like men with a strong Neptune ( a planet in astrology). Unfortunately most Neptune types don't reach the high octave of the energy ( ie awareness, Intuitive gifts, spirituality, purity etc). I stead they share these characteristics - prone to delusion and deceit, prone to substance addiction ( Neptune rules substances), lazy, creative but do t know how to channel the energy, prone to theft, they are also quite non material but parasitic -but it depends if the man has other strong planet influences which may increase material drive. However, Neptune domiant men on their own are non material as Neptune is an outer body planet and not so much into earthy acquisition of material items.

@starrjohnson1327

8 ай бұрын

I got rid of one too. The beginning was fun. I found out he was living a double life. He burned bridges with so many people. Now he's homeless and on drugs. Very sad.

What is just as sad is the women that fall for these men.😤🙁

@jowilliams2323

Жыл бұрын

So true!

@sulusu4812

Жыл бұрын

Those that fall can rise.

😂 "my lovely elegant ladies...run" This has made my week!

@eloquencewithabimbola

9 ай бұрын

Run, and never look back.😂

Dated a loser for 8 years. Finally left and I'm so glad I did.

@sulusu4812

Жыл бұрын

So happy for you. 🤸💛

@graciakinyanjui6937

Жыл бұрын

so happy you left

@alizamacarthy6491

Жыл бұрын

I truly envy you

@mukaniwatkins2598

Жыл бұрын

That is too long!!!! And should of left after 1 year.

@mariap3472

Жыл бұрын

What take so long?

OMG I'm dating a loser nd fortunately for me the relationship is still new nd I'm definitely walking out ASAP 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

The tittle of the video is already enough 😂

@bri.decode

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, liberals are dangerous

@debrasullivan7479

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, I seriously needed that laugh at this moment!! It snapped me right back into reality. 😊❤

@oumryeternity7871

Жыл бұрын

@@debrasullivan7479 😂can't wait to watch the video

Losers are nothing but a pain in the neck to everybody else. No one should help them. There are enough problems in this world without them being a burden on decent people. I certainly think this is a video that young women need to watch. Thank you for sharing ❤

I should have seen this video about 20 years ago, but as of 10 ago Ive been free from burdens of a negative man.

Dated a loser and abuser for 1.5 years, out of it for 6 months, and never again!

A KING IS WAITING FOR YOU 👑

My mistake.. falling in love with his potential which never manifested.. great topic. Thank you.

This one is a MUST watch😊

@bri.decode

Жыл бұрын

True !!

You are right about most. However, not everyone is going to succeed no matter how hard they tried. You mentioned a loser, is someone, who cannot succeed. I have known people who tried, tried, and tried again and right back to zero. Let's encourage and hope everyone trys different things and take risks. Thanks.

@snm5207

Жыл бұрын

I don’t believe in this. I don’t believe people can-not succeed. If they keep adjusting and keep trying, they will make it.

@ccb6013

Жыл бұрын

Whether or not that's true, it doesn't mean that a man in that position should be focusing on dating, and it certainly doesn't mean that a woman should get caught up in him.

@hamzz6824

Жыл бұрын

What you all are forgetting is that success is relative. What’s success to one may not be enough for another.

@pob-4810

10 ай бұрын

@@snm5207that’s not true at all. There are things in life that no matter how hard you try it is IMPOSSIBLE to achieve the result you want. Success isn’t always guaranteed

Thank you Aunty Vivian. So insightful as always ❤

I could'nt go out with a looser the man i want has to have a good job good family back ground.. this is why im on my own i know the signs

@sulusu4812

Жыл бұрын

Good! Shine🌟🌟

My dear 😢😢😢 today u prophesied me after some years, thank God I managed to reconsider myself and stepped out of that toxic man, thanks for your advice to the fellow women God bless you

Thank you for showing a photo of Trump when you were discussing men who disrespect women and call us horrible names just to make himself feel more superior. Perfect!

You are spot on when it comes to losers. I must say if you feel the need to have surveillance on your mate please just leave him immediately! The stress will have your life turned up side down. Enjoy life not worrying what the offender is doing.

Awesome Ms Vivian. Love this video. Thank you so much for sharing this.

Message brilliantly passed across. The wise will work with it.

Thank you for this knowledge that you are giving to us women ! Sometimes we know just needed to be reminded that we don’t need to settle!!

Thank you so much Vivienne ❤

Vivienne, thank you so much for another great video ❤

This is going to be refreshing. ❤

Great researching on your part.

You're such a blessing, thanks a lot

I'll be waiting to watch this

New to your channel! I was searching for a channel that would have information on high tea’s and I found you! You are an extremely eloquent woman. Your delivery is flawless! I’m looking forward to watching your past and present videos. God bless!❤

Some women prefer to marry a loser than being single. Unfortunately, society is very harsh towards single women over 30 or 40. At least she can say I have a man at home.

@designshop7264

Жыл бұрын

She needs to focus on self-esteem and not be phased by society's opinions

@melindaferreira9879

Жыл бұрын

I actually understand this.. it speaks to brokenness in a woman but it happens a lot.. almost happened to me.. thank God i extricated myself from a situationship.. i stayed in for almost 13 years.. he qualifies as a loser unfortunately.. i also jave a close relative who can qualify in many ways im ashamed to admit🫤

@melluques8475

Жыл бұрын

Same for men🤷‍♀️

@LiiLaGiusta

Жыл бұрын

True but very sad!

@naomigetachew7214

11 ай бұрын

your right am 30 year's old dating a 42years old man from US. this is how i end up in this relationship he good man in his behavior but he has no motivation at all too Chang z why he live even when i push him he live with his mother he only work 5 hr a day i want children h real family life he say he will Marry me but when i think about z life am gone h after i marry him i feel that i will not gone be happy even though i love him am afraid not too make life time mistake marriage is a,life time commitement for me i do want devorce when i think about break up with him am afraid off being left over What if i don't find a man who will marry me i don't know what too do

Excellente vidéo Vivi..j'espère que toutes les femmes du monde écoute ces belles paroles ❤

I saw the red flags but it was a ver y bad sentimental moment for me.That relasionship was the worst episode in my life: 12 years!!! I’m still working on myshelf because he finished with all my energy.Be carefull,take care of you.Thank you for this video,you are helping us more than you think ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤(excuse me for my english,I’m trying to improve it)

@akonmargaretkalu6386

11 ай бұрын

12 yrs? Why?

Great advices I which to know all this thing a long time ago, thank you, knowledge is always welcome, not matter what ❤️😉

You are simply the best.

I love your speaking skill, I mean your articulate😍

Great video Vivian. Blessings 🙌

Thank you for sharing ❤

❤thank you very much I had learned this lately ❤

I’ve discovered your channel recently and I think you are incredible! And you look gorgeous in this green blouse 😍 On the video- it’s sad that, unfortunately, I can identify most of the patterns I’ve experienced from men as a woman. It’s so frustrating.

Thanks for the wisdom sis❤❤❤

So elegantly said Vivian and so true that it made me laugh so many times, great advise

Well said... more wins sis

Well spoken!

Thank you for this video, I really appreciated it, because it sounded so much like my ex, and a few before him. I'm taking it slow with someone that's been interested in me for years, and some of what you said sounded like him,but not all, but that doesn't mean that I'm not going to stop keeping an eye on his actions, and listening to his words. My ex ran up my credit cards, by waiting until we would get somewhere like a restaurant, and after we had finished our meal, he'd ask me if I brought my card, and I would ask him why, and that's when he chose to tell me that he didn't have any money to pay, and he knew that I don't like making scenes in public, so I'd have to pay, because if I paid only for my half, which I've never had to do with a man, not even my male friends, so I would pay. He'd also wait until we needed something, and couldn't wait any longer to get it, and he'd wait till we were at the register, and he'd do his routine. One day he asked me to go out to dinner, and I saw that he was bringing out my credit card book, and I told him that I couldn't put anymore on my credit cards, and he got angry, and he stayed angry through the whole meal, but I didn't care. I once had to take out a loan, because he was to cheap to pay a bill, and it needed to be paid, and he said that he'd paid half of it back, and I accepted, and he tried to get out of doing that when it came down to pay, and I wouldn't let him do it. He always yelled at me for spending MY own money, and I told him that if he was a real man who knew how to take care of his woman, then I wouldn't have to pay for anything. He never had money for anything that I needed, or wanted, and he'd let some bills slide, but he always had money for poker, or anything else he wanted. He took me off our joint checking account, because I saw where the money was going, but good thing that I had my own account. I'm on disability, and I told him that I didn't have the money to pay big bills, and he would say that he had my back ,but that was only to stab me in it. Whenever I would get a job, he'd get me fired from it, and he'd ruin things when I tried to work from home. I stayed with him, because I didn't have a place to go,and he knew it, but a friend told me about a place that helps you with housing, and I jumped on that chance with a quickness. Also ladies, you know that you're dating a loser if every thing he says is his, mine, I, and never we, us, or ours. He still has a single mindset. Also he'll expect you to act like his wife, without being his wife, and I suggest that you don't ever do that. You don't cook, clean, etc... give him any wifely benefits until you are a wife.

@snm5207

Жыл бұрын

Even wives should not become servants to men. He can pay for a cleaning service and feed himself.

@mwajahmed

Жыл бұрын

Wow! So sorry you had to go through all that. Thank God you left him and found a place to stay

A loser would have shown his loser qualities from the beginning. Why would someone go ahead and date them and allow them to move in?🤔

@sulusu4812

Жыл бұрын

Because of core beliefs we might learn as kids. Not good , but as kids we're all like sponges . So to learn about it is good.

Thank you my sister 💜

Just discovered your channel. I like it!

Thank you for such a channel it is a critical skill that modern society has somehow lost over generations.

Vivian I love ❤️ your content. It often makes me laugh. Thanks for encouraging women to work on ourselves. Still working on my etiquette and poise.

Great message

Thank you so much my sister ❤

Thankyou queen❤

You are amazing! And so fun!

Unfortunenaly, I met these people in my adult life and I avoided them. Be single when you met these guys is blessing from the heaven...beleave me!

Loved Run, Bob the builder. Thank you for this video 😂❤

The thumbnail is so good😂

Life lessons from the Legend that is Miss Vivienne. Wonderful and received with thanks from a lady who did run. Very very fast and far away. Into the arms of my King, who placed me upon the throne that he built. The man of my dreams. Thank you Miss Vivienne for teaching these lovely ladies that there are gentlemen out there who are worthy of the wait.

This was fun to watch

Lovely.. "He will be wearing one small Gucci belt with matching Gucci bag"..

you attract what you are. this has inspired me to make a video response.

Alternating between TV and naps 😂😂

Beautiful eye opener dear

I wish i knew this earlier. Thanks

great message

Clicked because the thumbnail is funny. I’m not disappointed. Young women need to hear this.

The title alone has me in tears😅

3rd video I saw of yours,love this one gf❤❤❤❤❤

You are looking great my lovely sister 💕😂

Vivienne, I can’t even think that anyone can accept these type of men. By the way!!! That’s the woman’s fault not the man. A woman that accepts that situation doesn’t love herself, at all. Thank you for the work you do to bring us all these advices. After all you have a funny side in your comments. When you said “take a grow up pill” 😂😂😂 also, “ run as fast as your legs can carry you” anyway, it’s all true

Thank you Ms Vivienne. Always a pleasure hearing from you .

Thank you for the informative video, I learning a lot ❤

Thank you Vivian. I like your dress. You are really elegant.

I love this content 👏 👏 👏

By the way you look beautiful, if I hv to go through all of that, it's already a red flag, every women hv intuition, use it.

Thank you so much for making this video!

You have made me laugh and very interesting From Uganda 🇺🇬

It is such a heartbreak to me, because now I realized that why my love was one-side love and dream only. I was trashy, with juvenal clothes, I didn't take care about my health, body. Still I live in a toxic family. Fighting with depression. Now I am working so hard, to be the best version of myself. Gave up on smoking, made a carreer plan, exercise, and learn every single day from videos how to dress up. I transformed myself, I have a new wardrobe now, learnt how to look expensive on budget. I want to be healthy, 100% woman. ❤ But it is so painful to find out the reasons, what could be the problem.

Great video

Beautiful words.. sometimes we need to try help this person to change his life first before we decide to leave him.. every one of us need chances..

@nerlyb7032

Жыл бұрын

You help them. I’m not Barbara build the bear. After all he is a man.

@yvettembih5415

Жыл бұрын

It never works. They never change

@fatimaaddy6535

Жыл бұрын

Does he not have family and friends?

“A loser” sounds like a narcissist

Don't leave out if he's a liar and a cheater!!!!

This is just the truth

Thank you

Bravo. 👏🏿 👏🏿 👏🏿

I pity the women who fall in love with them...🙄🙄🙄

Thanks...

Gucci Gucci 😂

as a 77 year old male, yep these traits apply to both sexes been there done that seen lots of it on both sides

Well, I am a loser then... and, I am female.

I’m guilty of the first 3 signs and this explains why I’ve always had problems with women

Hello Mam, interesting video with lots of truths. Man(n)and also woman should not forget one thing. Life is not a pony farm and contains many a nasty surprise. There are situations where a rock becomes a grain of sand within a second. To make a rock out of this grain of sand again takes more than one day. This costs a man everything he has. In this time until his resurrection it can be that he is weak, vulnerable, depressed and the partner has to step in financially. Only this time will be temporary and he will be stronger, together with her, than ever before. I am a man who knows this unpleasant way. Greetings Lutz

🤣🤣🤣totally bonafacio van Atta. Too funny

Thumbnail made me laugh so bad 😅😂

My new mantra “I am not Bob the builder”. 🤭

A weekly allowance!!!😭😭😭

Well said. I hope this is a small group of men in your area

2, 3 & 6. Yup that's me.