HOW TO SPEAK ELEGANTLY | Conversation Mistakes to Avoid | Speak like a Lady

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Ladies, did you know people judge us immediately by the way we speak?
People can assume all kinds of things from our level of education, social class and how well or ill mannered we are.
In this video, I take you through 14 crucial points that you must take on board if you want to portray an image of respectability and class when speaking.
How we speak is so important. If you make certain mistakes, it can cost you the image that you have worked so hard to acquire.
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  • @africanTHEfire
    @africanTHEfire2 жыл бұрын

    This is your most didactic video yet. The topoc placements and the instructions are so specific I actually was inspired to take notes. The tip about breaking the eye contact monotony was inspired! Looking away and pretending to cough etc . That's not easily thought of. And it is commendable you added that training is required. The same way a woman trains her body so it tapers and refines to what she wants it to project, so much more must she train for how her speaking conveys. Excellent video again

  • @lilymaniquis8460

    @lilymaniquis8460

    2 жыл бұрын

    Manners,manners

  • @nelogorgeous31

    @nelogorgeous31

    2 жыл бұрын

    This us great, I just subscribed for more of it. Thanks for sharing

  • @fattyhenry1106

    @fattyhenry1106

    2 жыл бұрын

    Watch you for the first time. You are doing a great job keep it up..blessiings

  • @donnajacksunn489

    @donnajacksunn489

    2 жыл бұрын

    Right

  • @janetjohnson9690

    @janetjohnson9690

    2 жыл бұрын

    That's the problem I have. And Feel like I'm rude by interrupting.

  • @adamola2105
    @adamola21057 ай бұрын

    HOW TO SPEAK WITH ELEGANCE 1. don't use fillers 2. speak in a measured tone 3. vary your pace and tone 4. don't raise your voice 5. don't speak too much 6. maintain eye contact but don't stare in a bizarre manner/don't interrupt 7. avoid excessive use of hand gestures 8. avoid the use of slang 9. never use profanities 10. don't be monotone 11. don't be stiff. smile and be expressive 12. show your listener you are actively listening and not passively listening 13. widen your vocabulary 14. don't cackle with laughter

  • @kimoakes1503

    @kimoakes1503

    4 ай бұрын

    Thank you for listing these its very helpful

  • @gigglezillakids7379
    @gigglezillakids73792 жыл бұрын

    "...don't continue to rant on for minutes on end...people will start avoiding you." ITS SO TRUE! I avoid people who talk too much and don't actively listen. It's exhausting listening to people who talk and talk and talk. Thank you for this video!

  • @JuliaShalomJordan

    @JuliaShalomJordan

    2 жыл бұрын

    Amen.

  • @user-oc7ox2pl1w

    @user-oc7ox2pl1w

    Жыл бұрын

    Nah cuz I used to do dis and one day I was doing it to someone and she literally left like she just nodded and walked away💀

  • @gigglezillakids7379

    @gigglezillakids7379

    Жыл бұрын

    😩 Dang.

  • @aliceolawuyi260

    @aliceolawuyi260

    Жыл бұрын

    👍👍👍👍 I get bored with people that talks too much….

  • @montsedilaz5799

    @montsedilaz5799

    10 ай бұрын

    Specially if they’re always saying something negative or always complaining 🫠

  • @samanthamyers2878
    @samanthamyers28782 жыл бұрын

    I'm 50 and I'm trying to level up every area of my life. Including my education. Thank you for this, it is so needed in this day and time.

  • @elizabethkendra3878

    @elizabethkendra3878

    2 жыл бұрын

    same here.... we shall get there..Glad that there are like-minded ladies like you who believe in learning, re-learning and unlearning

  • @malasingh3427

    @malasingh3427

    2 жыл бұрын

    Me too dear.

  • @thaisportela4841

    @thaisportela4841

    2 жыл бұрын

    Wow people in your age struggle more with changing their self. Congratulations!

  • @gabriellepalandy7575

    @gabriellepalandy7575

    Жыл бұрын

    I don’t know you but you’re amazing

  • @ashaki555

    @ashaki555

    Жыл бұрын

    Share sentiment

  • @MK-hh1vo
    @MK-hh1vo Жыл бұрын

    A lot of this takes me back to childhood. I was raised to be a "Lady". I would get punished for speaking too loud, using slang, improper grammar, sitting improperly, unnecessary running, bad table manners and a host of other things that were considered "unladylike". The other kids teased me for being "prissy" but as I got older I saw the value in being considered a "Lady". I'll always be thankful to mother. I've found it especially useful as a Black woman. Thank you for taking this on and teaching others the value of poise and presentation.

  • @maryjflanagan1922

    @maryjflanagan1922

    3 ай бұрын

    I was accused of being White. 😊

  • @onevenus6040
    @onevenus60402 жыл бұрын

    I struggle with interrupting others, I have recognized that but the reason I do it is because I know that I'll forget what I want to say in response to their conversation, so I have a little book to make notes in and share my thoughts during a break in our dialog

  • @chihir0047

    @chihir0047

    2 жыл бұрын

    I have this issue and I realized it’s because I’m thinking of how to respond instead of intently listening that this happens. When you intently listen you’re response is always better than half listening and thinking of what you were about to say. I really hate being interrupted so I try my best to just listen and realize not everything needs responding to

  • @LataushaTheAuthor

    @LataushaTheAuthor

    2 жыл бұрын

    That’s crazy because I am the same. I’ve been working on it. Listening is more important than speaking.

  • @ThisIsMissCheeky

    @ThisIsMissCheeky

    2 жыл бұрын

    If you’re focusing on what you’re gonna say then you’re not listening. Completely forget about what you were gonna say, that’s how you become a good listener.

  • @gwendiit.9296

    @gwendiit.9296

    2 жыл бұрын

    You're not alone. Me too. It's a very bad habit that I've been trying to break. It's not that I'm not intentionally trying to be rude- regardless of my intentions, it offends people , and it has to stop

  • @reece1929

    @reece1929

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the suggestion.

  • @francesada2476
    @francesada24762 жыл бұрын

    I can't be the only one who listened till the end, because I love the way she spoke

  • @batchanzie4077

    @batchanzie4077

    2 жыл бұрын

    😆😆same here

  • @letscuthairtoday9038

    @letscuthairtoday9038

    2 жыл бұрын

    *You must be one of the few lol…* _To me unless it’s a vid like fixing a car issue or a specific recipe am following, you rarely can get me to just watch such a vid from start to finish. And especially if it is longer than 10 minutes! No way._ I like to scroll real quick down and a lot of times I get lucky; always one person who feels the need to put a time stamp summary! You have no idea how much i LOOOOOOVE these people! Even if there is no time stamp, just the points in summary. Kinda like when you go watch a music video and someone has taken the trouble to copy and paste the entire lyrics! Oh, i love ‘em!*

  • @royalhighness6263

    @royalhighness6263

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree 💯💯

  • @iamthereginatetteh2

    @iamthereginatetteh2

    2 жыл бұрын

    Me too. 😃😃😃. At a point I had to check if I was actually watching everything 😃😃😃

  • @kalabafunga5878

    @kalabafunga5878

    2 жыл бұрын

    😅😅😅🙋🏾‍♀️😍😍😍

  • @Lafamiliavera
    @Lafamiliavera Жыл бұрын

    As a gentleman, i must admit that “liberation” gave room to “degradation”. We pride ourselves in being free, but we have become slaves of a system that degrades us, reducing our self-worth. I love how you make it a point to incarnate elegance with your behavior and poise. Cheers to you!!

  • @NachoAE360

    @NachoAE360

    Жыл бұрын

    You’ve perfectly described our current society. I couldn’t agree more

  • @janeallnew724

    @janeallnew724

    Жыл бұрын

    That's so deep.

  • @cinnamonstar808

    @cinnamonstar808

    11 ай бұрын

    ITS A DIFFERENT ECONOMIC TIME. women had to "lower themselves" because men own properties. 1. you stay home forever with parents 2. you get married you could not tell any man; to go kick rocks. I am all for civility with both sexes. We all know how to be nice. But when the moral police and the elegance police shows up. its concerning. THOSE PEOPLE will turn our world into a "Black Mirror" episode. "liberation" came about because the prior way was suffocating. if that demographic was happy. = no change would have occur. 1+1 =2 Frankly, society did not benefit from it. = just look at the volume of wars . everyone was elegant, yet wars and riots were every 4 seconds🤣😅

  • @dayramena6124
    @dayramena6124 Жыл бұрын

    “Most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand… don’t be this person” This truly spoke to me, thank you! I struggle with interrupting my friends so much, when I catch myself I IMMEDIATELY apologize and tell them to please say something next time bc it’s something in trying to work on.. but it’s still so hard for me I don’t understand WHY. I’m working on healing this toxic habit, and this video really spoke to me thank you!

  • @sab20245

    @sab20245

    Жыл бұрын

    Same

  • @christanlawrence23
    @christanlawrence232 жыл бұрын

    Please speak about the importance of (and how) to mantain elegancy even within your home. Many times we tend to lose that especially in our comfort zone - worst if we live on our own. Elegancy is not for show but it is a lifestyle. ~Jamaica🇯🇲

  • @kingstonstreet3726

    @kingstonstreet3726

    2 жыл бұрын

    🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲

  • @xerxeskata4291

    @xerxeskata4291

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yea Tassia

  • @ka.ariyah

    @ka.ariyah

    2 жыл бұрын

    Especially with your kids, yelling and bring agitated brings out the worst!

  • @evaeva-ju5pd

    @evaeva-ju5pd

    2 жыл бұрын

    Oh my god you just called me out. When I'm out I am more conscious of my behaviour but not in the comfort of my own home.

  • @cookwithrafia1828

    @cookwithrafia1828

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@ka.ariyah true

  • @SusanNwokedi
    @SusanNwokedi2 жыл бұрын

    As a Public Speaking Coach and speaker, I agree with you 100%. I just liked, shared, and subscribed to your channel. I love it! Keep up the good work.

  • @fridahkarimi2065

    @fridahkarimi2065

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hi@Susan Nwokedi I request to talk to you.

  • @QueenYardie2

    @QueenYardie2

    Жыл бұрын

    Please can you coach me on how to speak in the public

  • @florencebalogundavids6501

    @florencebalogundavids6501

    Жыл бұрын

  • @briann5001

    @briann5001

    Жыл бұрын

    For the love of God, and Men and healthy heterosexual relationships, ladies please DO NOT lower your voices.......that is it wise , a prince is not looking for a princess that sounds like a man 🎩

  • @briann5001

    @briann5001

    Жыл бұрын

    Do not lower your tone. Not good "general advice". While this may be helpful to a minority of women in business or work, certainly will not help her secure a good man who is looking for a women that actually sounds like a women who by nature have non lowered voices

  • @Melaniegallegos76
    @Melaniegallegos76 Жыл бұрын

    great things from this woman, so much advice !! but we know that lots of things doesn't end up at conversations but somewhere else. then comes relationship, sometimes a few quarells but lots of men think of sex... i don't know who taught them but it's like that, i think most of them or all of them. one even forced spanish fly drops on me, just how it feels for women? but i have to admit that the expereince was absolute top, top

  • @castaway2680
    @castaway26809 ай бұрын

    Absolutely love this channel! You don't need money to have elegance, manners are worth their weight in gold!

  • @overworked123
    @overworked1232 жыл бұрын

    Listening is probably the most important element of good communication.

  • @OgemaryNweke
    @OgemaryNweke2 жыл бұрын

    Elegant women are poetic, and they leave lasting impressions 👏👏

  • @Tues658
    @Tues6582 жыл бұрын

    I am a guy, but I took a lot from this to practice for everyday speaking. I had to share this content with three female friends cause I couldn’t be selfish to keep it. Thank you so much for this content.🙌🏾 All the way from west Africa Liberia, 🇱🇷 you’re my female mentor 😊

  • @chijiokeomaliko5081

    @chijiokeomaliko5081

    10 ай бұрын

    is there any channel for men?

  • @lovelylauz02
    @lovelylauz02 Жыл бұрын

    People interrupting me when I talk is the MOST frustrating thing! I am an introvert, so I don't talk about trivial items or chat just to talk - I have something to say. So when someone interrupts me, I register that as a sign that what I am saying is not interesting or they aren't listening to me. That is a great way for me to rarely speak to that person or keep what I speak to them about very surface level. I find it highly disrespectful to be cut off mid-sentence as though what I am saying doesn't matter. This video needs to be is most women's weekly video rotation. We can all be better at speaking and listening. Love the Hemmingway quote! Thank you for this rich content!

  • @minalld2873
    @minalld28732 жыл бұрын

    It all starts with being connected , invested ,and present in your conversation. Most communication issues derive from focusing on the self, being listened to but not “listen.” It takes patience and availability. Emotional maturity is important in the process.

  • @BBGshop7

    @BBGshop7

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen.

  • @Allegory101

    @Allegory101

    Жыл бұрын

    Emotional maturity

  • @celgrl28

    @celgrl28

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree, if we are truly connected, present, and listening to understand nearly everything else falls in to place The conversation will feel authentic and less pretentious.

  • @sonyaguadalupe4898
    @sonyaguadalupe48982 жыл бұрын

    Ladies remember not to judge others because that's most important!

  • @Lena-fg4vj
    @Lena-fg4vj2 жыл бұрын

    I will teach these to my kids. And I've taken a few pointers for myself. One thing I would add is to be genuine. That is, be that way at home with your husband instead of just putting on a show for others. Then it truly becomes the real you, and you set a wonderful example for your children and they naturally learn these skills from you, skills that will help them succeed.

  • @raegen5618

    @raegen5618

    6 ай бұрын

    VERY IMPORTANT!! Thank you!

  • @lovelyraincoat475
    @lovelyraincoat4752 жыл бұрын

    I love how much content you put into your videos. Some youtubers on elegance put just enough content in to make an interesting video, not to actually educate. Your videos are always so comprehensive.

  • @elenaboabes4539
    @elenaboabes45392 жыл бұрын

    You can't imagine how much I appreciate this video of yours!! 💯

  • @WomanOfElegance

    @WomanOfElegance

    2 жыл бұрын

    Aww thank you🥰

  • @sharons.785
    @sharons.7852 жыл бұрын

    I am so excited to come across this video. I just sent it to ladies in my inner circle whom I am struggling not to AVOID for all the reasons mentioned; Constantly interrupting, horrible listeners, talk way too loud, abrasive, harsh tone, over use of hand gestures, and so on. Found Useful tips to improve myself as well. Thank you so much! You nailed it!!!

  • @KishaJohnsonMcrae
    @KishaJohnsonMcrae2 жыл бұрын

    Wow, this was an awesome and very well articulated video. I see many people struggle with interrupting others when they speak. I myself battle ADHD and this is one of many struggles because executive functions responsible for working memory are impaired, leaving folk concentrating on responses rather than listening. I'm better than I was and educating moms why their children do this to help them. All is not lost because videos like hers make you want to seek help to get to the root. At 51, I'm striving in my faith walk, and being beautiful in my elegance is my goal. Thank you.

  • @luchiadvocate
    @luchiadvocate2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this video. A lot of work was put in here and handed down to us for free because you genuinely care about us and want us to be a better version of ourselves. As a lawyer in active practice, I cannot overemphasize how important elegance and class is. I shall consciously work towards becoming better I promise. Thank you. 💕

  • @staceyjones2696
    @staceyjones26962 жыл бұрын

    Great tips. This is what so many women need to hear. Finally someone who teaches etiquette

  • @shaunipersaud5004

    @shaunipersaud5004

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much..there is alot of mistakes I leart I make from this video..I always look away after a brief look with persons I talk to.. but I am there present

  • @ac6155

    @ac6155

    2 жыл бұрын

    Not only women, etiquette should be used by everyone (god knows guys need them)

  • @marilynbyers6392
    @marilynbyers63922 жыл бұрын

    We live in such a rude society This was such a wonderful video - anyone can benefit from watching this!

  • @bookbutterfly2408
    @bookbutterfly24082 жыл бұрын

    Also, to expand your vocabulary: try watching historical -- especially Victorian or Edwardian -- dramas. I'm an avid reader and journaller, but I still discover new words or new ways to express an idea whenever I watch a well-written period drama.

  • @devonnebeckham5553

    @devonnebeckham5553

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love this!

  • @baileysmooth97

    @baileysmooth97

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes each week I tried to learn a new word and implemented in my conversations one of my favorite words I picked up over the last is nonage it means immature oh, and another one of my favorite words is you you is most singular and plural and often people do not know this so you say you people people get offended which I laugh to myself because I'm like I'm talking to the Marketing Group something about you people in the Marketing Group How Could You mistake that as negative when all of your of different ethnicities but then again satistics say that only 40% of people United States have graduated from high school

  • @Chahlie

    @Chahlie

    Жыл бұрын

    Also if you read a lot of Agatha Christie, Margery Allingham- all the ladies of the golden age of crime writing- you will find when you pick up a modern novel that the sentences are very short and stilted. Then if you move on to someone like Oscar Wilde you will never go back :)

  • @prayerlover7672
    @prayerlover76722 жыл бұрын

    Really excellent video. As a public speaker, this is not about pretending to be whom you are not but adding value to self. Be unique and elegant

  • @antoinettemunn3453
    @antoinettemunn34532 жыл бұрын

    My boyfriend said that I have a crass and unladylike way of speaking. I never was told this before so I am going to try really hard to work on it. It’s really sad for me to realize these were things that I never learned and it was never brought to my attention

  • @blestnp

    @blestnp

    2 жыл бұрын

    People sometimes are a reflection of their network And circle. Your BFs comment is out of love and concern.

  • @moden2012

    @moden2012

    2 жыл бұрын

    Your comment is well written. Be blessed

  • @blestnp

    @blestnp

    2 жыл бұрын

    When the student is ready, the teacher appears.

  • @queenliloxox

    @queenliloxox

    2 жыл бұрын

    His comment could also be him trying to create an insecurity with negative intent . but that's for her to figure out . learn this if you want to and use it when you want 2

  • @AN-fg4cd

    @AN-fg4cd

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@queenliloxox Exactly. While knowing this, he proceeded to being her boyfriend. All of the proper etiquette really doesnt matter in the end...overall happiness within is what really counts. Everything else is just to please people in the world, and they can turn their back on you in a heartbeat.

  • @alyssazuraihmiller
    @alyssazuraihmiller2 жыл бұрын

    watching this makes me realize i do everything we shouldn’t do ugh 😩

  • @bookbutterfly2408
    @bookbutterfly24082 жыл бұрын

    My father had a teacher that always said "if you find that you resort to swearing, that means your vocabulary isn't big enough". I personally think that instead of swearing, it's better to take a second to think about the message you're trying to express. Obvious, but underrated tip.

  • @swizzledizzler9417

    @swizzledizzler9417

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes!! 😍 I love using vocabulary. It a good way to develop witty humor

  • @mcfrisko834

    @mcfrisko834

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree and disagree. Many of us have fantastic vocabulary. We just LOVE to curse

  • @bernadinetinker3028

    @bernadinetinker3028

    2 жыл бұрын

    Loss of control?

  • @DiamondsRexpensive

    @DiamondsRexpensive

    2 жыл бұрын

    Right, you can insult people with more creative ways. Without them knowing even.

  • @mcfrisko834

    @mcfrisko834

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mementomori1022 How?

  • @drk7919
    @drk79192 жыл бұрын

    I'm in the library working on my thesis and I've just stumbled upon your channel. I've binge listened all your videos and you're heaven sent. Thank you so much and helping us women glow and grow.

  • @VySharieff
    @VySharieff2 жыл бұрын

    My tone and emotions is my biggest issue when I speak. The way you speak is so soothing. New subscriber💕

  • @glynis3798
    @glynis37982 жыл бұрын

    Very valuable information, and your are a fantastic role model! I'd also like to add that while on your journey of speaking elegantly, try to be as authentic as possible, keeping in mind the different cultural nuances. It's ok to allow your personality and culture shine through while maintaining elegance of speech. I don't think we need to adjust so much to the point that we present as robotic or arrogant. Sometimes a good cackle can be therapeutic! 🙃

  • @SaintBirdie
    @SaintBirdie Жыл бұрын

    I love that you are also addressing charactor habits. The world is so overdue a level up

  • @octaviabraye1654
    @octaviabraye16542 жыл бұрын

    This is great. Some environments have taken away the poise and etiquette we have been given. We must never underestimate the influence of our environments. I agree we have to train ourselves.

  • @janinedomingo9562
    @janinedomingo95622 жыл бұрын

    I'm so happy to find this channel, I'm so glad there are more and more women like you these days that teach elegance

  • @user-oe2ph8wl5s

    @user-oe2ph8wl5s

    2 жыл бұрын

    What a cute imoji, where did you get it from?

  • @readingrestperiod9191
    @readingrestperiod91912 жыл бұрын

    Thank you. These all boil down to a high level of self-control and awareness with an outward focus. These are wonderful tips for anyone involved in public relations (you are your best advertising) and public speaking.

  • @raschelelliott7667
    @raschelelliott76672 жыл бұрын

    I watch your videos to learn how to speak properly I use a dictionary afterwards. Also I watch how you speak and facial and tone of voice You are giving us something we so desperately need an example to follow God bless you for doing this it’s truly a ministry

  • @TameraXone
    @TameraXone2 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful! I am guilty of the fillers and is already working on that as I type. My husband and I was even talking about it the other night. Point taken! New sub!

  • @CharlotteReneeLocs
    @CharlotteReneeLocs2 жыл бұрын

    So glad I found this channel. I can’t wait to become my best self in 2022!

  • @bdacostap
    @bdacostap2 жыл бұрын

    This video was informative and elegant as you. The 14 points raised are very valid and should apply to everyday life whether at home or work. When you speak loud or raise your voice one comes across as Angry and people become fearful of you. Show respect to others and don't use acronyms, not everyone will know the meaning. Thank you.

  • @nurv9648
    @nurv96482 жыл бұрын

    Hi, I really appreciate your way of teaching elegance to ladies in all ways not only looks but also through behaviours, speech etc. Most of the channels which aim the same topic talks generally not in detail. Thanks

  • @deltinadalphinis2957
    @deltinadalphinis29572 жыл бұрын

    This is amazing advice and much needed for many of us...however you can be as refined and elegant as you want to but if you lack character, if you lie, steal and cheat, that will be found out and undermine your elegance. Your outside will take you there but only character and integrity, having the humility to be kind to everyone, without regard will maintain you. An otherwise great video.

  • @omokaroojiire

    @omokaroojiire

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Deltina Dalphinis Now, that's true Elegance!!!

  • @bebeoliver4607

    @bebeoliver4607

    2 жыл бұрын

    Amen

  • @joangash421

    @joangash421

    2 жыл бұрын

    Great advice

  • @ZoraNealesStudent

    @ZoraNealesStudent

    2 жыл бұрын

    Amen.

  • @talicialee

    @talicialee

    2 жыл бұрын

    👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @mattatyisrael2882
    @mattatyisrael28822 жыл бұрын

    Hello Vivian, I am grateful to have come across your channel. I am an African American male, a single father with a 15 year old daughter (same ethnicity) I love your videos: “How to speak elegant” “How to be confident” and the video about “ High value” Although I consider myself a high value male, I do have my flaws and I can definitely benefit from watching your insightful videos! Question? My fifteen year old daughter struggles with a lot of issues; Self hatred, low self worth, depression etc. Unfortunately, they’re no well rounded, inspiring women who can be a positive influence in her life. How can I help my daughter become the beautiful, confident, lively happy young lady I hope she could become?

  • @Olesia_Kurilo

    @Olesia_Kurilo

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are caring father 🙂🙂🙂!! Bravo! May you daughter love and respect herself!!! Send love for her!!!)))

  • @mattatyisrael2882

    @mattatyisrael2882

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@sandracorley3944 Parenting coach? I wish you were in Phoenix!

  • @diamondjackson1105

    @diamondjackson1105

    2 жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful thing to be humble of enough to admit!! I'm sure you're a gem of a father. I wis you the best and your daughter as well!

  • @mattatyisrael2882

    @mattatyisrael2882

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@diamondjackson1105 Thank you!

  • @uduakobongjoshua96

    @uduakobongjoshua96

    2 жыл бұрын

    Please, kindly encourage your daughter to read the bible she will find gems that will give her hope.

  • @avakim8021
    @avakim80212 жыл бұрын

    It's absolutely necessary training. Thank you for taking time making this video!

  • @anneokonkwo2723
    @anneokonkwo27232 жыл бұрын

    These are great tips, can't say less. Sometimes the simple etiquettes are forgotten because of our environment. Great reminder!

  • @BecomingIrresistible
    @BecomingIrresistible2 жыл бұрын

    This is a wonderful video, I love the work you're doing to help ladies in this area! 👏👏

  • @veronicalgraham
    @veronicalgraham2 жыл бұрын

    Great tips! Especially tip #1. I can't tell you how many KZread videos (and otherwise) I've turned away from after continuously hearing "um, uh, like, so", etc. After awhile it starts to sound like nails on a chalkboard, so I just tune out. Thanks so much for sharing!

  • @audreymongrue4062
    @audreymongrue4062 Жыл бұрын

    Vivienne, thanks a million. I really love these tips in the handbook. One word: Brilliant!

  • @lchoward1599
    @lchoward15992 жыл бұрын

    Most charming and beneficial for self-improvement by a true lady of elegance. It is so awesome to play and replay, to reflect and ponder her words of wisdom. Becoming your own best self.

  • @lisahobbs2312
    @lisahobbs23122 жыл бұрын

    I too struggle with interrupting others so I will work on this and my vocabulary as well.

  • @DavisNationLlc
    @DavisNationLlc2 жыл бұрын

    I have a friend that always cuts me off and he likes to dominate the conversation and even tries to tell me what I’m trying to say w/o letting me finish.

  • @karenwarner7688
    @karenwarner76882 жыл бұрын

    Love this! This is one of my pet peeve especially for persons in the work sector that need to interact with customers. Keep it coming!

  • @LB-ku6ry
    @LB-ku6ry2 жыл бұрын

    Wow. This is the most honest video in elegance that I’ve seen with straight forward information and examples. Haha. I really loved it. Thank you!

  • @pep9803
    @pep98032 жыл бұрын

    I need this I am ready to get ahead and this is the only thing I feel holding me back. Thank you so much for this!

  • @adinamedrea5303
    @adinamedrea5303 Жыл бұрын

    Dear Vivienne, I discovered your channel yesterday and you are already an inspiration to me. Thank you! Regarding subject 7 I would like to point out hand gestures are used mostly when the brain has a hard time expressing ideas. Hand gestures usually stop when the person starts reading more books because the brain is training its vocabulary and linguistic area, therefore the brain will be able to express ideas very easily when speaking and will not feel the need to support the communication through gestures.

  • @Allegory101
    @Allegory101 Жыл бұрын

    You are so classy, articulate and expressive and polite! I came to youtube to learn about this and this is for sure one of the best videos. Thank you! ❤

  • @Olesia_Kurilo
    @Olesia_Kurilo2 жыл бұрын

    Take notes and read it and practice every day. That's inspiring. You are the Queen, Vivienne!!

  • @EvaVas03
    @EvaVas032 жыл бұрын

    I have to avoid the cackle with laughter. I'm a cheerful individual, but sometimes this makes me look overbroad. I beat myself mentally after doing this. Thanks for the respectful insight on how to better ourselves.

  • @projectikamva

    @projectikamva

    2 жыл бұрын

    Me too 🤭

  • @a.b.2405

    @a.b.2405

    Жыл бұрын

    Same here. But I try to tone it down depending on the environment I’m in. If I’m inside my own home, I don’t care.

  • @mongalix8
    @mongalix82 жыл бұрын

    So glad I found this channel. So much to learn and love the suggestions you gave.

  • @dinahlarbi7285

    @dinahlarbi7285

    2 жыл бұрын

    I really enjoyed your video! Very practical ideas!

  • @laceyrhodes8151
    @laceyrhodes81512 жыл бұрын

    I remember going through modeling classes… and training classes preparing for pageants.. and this was a course I took that I def needed to re reference!

  • @salamiaishat1016
    @salamiaishat10162 жыл бұрын

    Your quality of being eloquent and perceptive is something! keep it up ma'am!

  • @akinyiwambui
    @akinyiwambui2 жыл бұрын

    Thankyou for this, I came across it on the very day I realized I need to polish my speaking.I dressed elegantly but my speech keept on lowering that, I need to work on it.

  • @ohsostylish60
    @ohsostylish602 жыл бұрын

    Excellent video Vivienne, Thank you!

  • @yiwo-numenyi-nnely-shey
    @yiwo-numenyi-nnely-shey2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much for this video 🥰 I've learnt a lot, my kid sis was around while I was watching this video, we couldn't stop laughing cos we realize the work we have to put in regarding the way we communicate.

  • @esmeraldagonzalez3691

    @esmeraldagonzalez3691

    2 жыл бұрын

    ***Pardon; Learned not Learnt *(In a very elegant tone).

  • @nthabisengmatolo6345
    @nthabisengmatolo63452 жыл бұрын

    Greetings and thank you so much for this video. It’s crazy how I have always been so scared of being seen as uptight. Little did I know some of those traits were being elegant. Now I need to work on fixing all the wrong things I learned. Thank you so much for this video.

  • @treasurebaby1122
    @treasurebaby11222 жыл бұрын

    This is wonderful. Everyone needs this lesson.

  • @sweettoothmarie7304
    @sweettoothmarie73042 жыл бұрын

    What a beautiful presentation! I'm all about this lifestyle and this has been so informative. Thank you for sharing 👏♥️

  • @amandadasilva675
    @amandadasilva6752 жыл бұрын

    I wish my mom taught me this . She only taught me dining elegance. I never knew it went beyond dining. Definitely will be visiting your channel alot now that I'm a new subscriber.

  • @elohoroghorodi196
    @elohoroghorodi1962 жыл бұрын

    This is very enlightening. The part of listening actively and listening completely is something I really need to learn, in fact, everything..*smiles* Thank you.

  • @mariaessien4499
    @mariaessien44992 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for this video. You’re a wonderful refinement mentor ❤️

  • @WomanOfElegance

    @WomanOfElegance

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @beebsblue
    @beebsblue2 жыл бұрын

    Guilty of at least 3 of these 🙋🏽‍♀️ Amazing tips thank you 💖

  • @traceygartrell3419
    @traceygartrell34192 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for the reminder about elegance which I was taught when i was younger by grandmother

  • @BlessingAnyiam
    @BlessingAnyiam2 жыл бұрын

    KZread recommended this video to me so many times that i had to click on it! Wow, i am impressed by your teachings on etiquette.

  • @noramosesgoddey
    @noramosesgoddey2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks. I can't wait to apply some of these in my next video👍

  • @TM-ys8dy
    @TM-ys8dy2 жыл бұрын

    On several occasions, I have been referred to as being “proper”, shortly following an introduction, and would feel somewhat embarrassed. After listening to you, I believe what others were trying to say was that I am elegant.

  • @dee-deeosinuga3910
    @dee-deeosinuga39102 жыл бұрын

    I don't even know how I got here but this is the most inspiring 17:44 minutes I've had today. Thank you. ❤ I've just subscribed to your channel.

  • @WhatIveLearned5.9
    @WhatIveLearned5.92 жыл бұрын

    Love this content! We most certainly are in need of such content. Thank you very much!

  • @megismith3908
    @megismith39082 жыл бұрын

    You should do talks at girls’ high schools and find a male friend to talk at boys’ schools too!

  • @angelinamuyengwa1076

    @angelinamuyengwa1076

    2 жыл бұрын

    I think she herself could also talk at a boy's school so no need to find a male friend to do it Yes!

  • @beverlyrobertson9723
    @beverlyrobertson97232 жыл бұрын

    I'm so thankful that you came and discussed how to be a lady. I've developed such bad habits. But I want to change. Your brief tutorial was extremely helpful and I will become a woman of elegance from what you shared. Each point would mold me to becoming a wo.an of elegance. Thank you, again. Sincerely, Beverly

  • @WomanOfElegance

    @WomanOfElegance

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much ♥

  • @TRSmith-ts7id
    @TRSmith-ts7id2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Vivian. I appreciate you for providing such gems. I’m practicing now. God bless you.

  • @jshipp6756
    @jshipp67562 жыл бұрын

    I have a tendency to talk with my hands and touch others. This video is a wonderful reminder of how conscious I should be of my behavior & how it effects others

  • @TXgigimom64
    @TXgigimom642 жыл бұрын

    What a great video channel! Thank you for bringing some class to KZread, and helping Women be a better version of themselves.

  • @lungilezama2531

    @lungilezama2531

    2 жыл бұрын

    Adjusting to this level would take me another 50 years. After listening to this I'm sure now, I belong in the bush.

  • @ogechioliver954
    @ogechioliver9542 жыл бұрын

    I learned a lot in just one video. Thank you!

  • @SheilaMurugu
    @SheilaMurugu2 жыл бұрын

    Love this! so much to learn even as an adult!

  • @olatugaoluwatosin8104
    @olatugaoluwatosin8104 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much! Stumbling on your page, is one of the best thing that happened to me today! Definitely turning on all notifications!

  • @Lucy-ql7tt
    @Lucy-ql7tt2 жыл бұрын

    Brilliant tips for life 🙌🏾

  • @yuanitamusiga6100
    @yuanitamusiga61002 жыл бұрын

    As we work hard on our outer elegance & appearance, let's not forget our insides, our hearts, where it all starts for out of the abundance of our hearts, we speak & act. A perfect outward look with a dark heart is the mother of narcissism

  • @AJ.943
    @AJ.9432 жыл бұрын

    Love the channel! This is wonderful content to share with all women. Subscribed. You’re fabulous! ♥️

  • @cynthian3175
    @cynthian31752 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your words of wisdom. Some of what you said I had always believed. I am glad to have finally found someone like you on KZread.

  • @FineNaturalHairROCKS
    @FineNaturalHairROCKS2 жыл бұрын

    These tips are interesting; however I’m struggling with not speaking up when I’ve got something to say. As a human rights lawyer, I need to be able to access my voice and thoughts in a way that some people may not necessarily like. I wonder if we can redefine what being a modern lady looks like? Just some food for thought 💛

  • @A2521000

    @A2521000

    2 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely ❤️

  • @omokaroojiire

    @omokaroojiire

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Fine Narural I think she is basically describing "Professionalism" . These are basic attributes that are expected from professionals, so you are probably well versed in elegance!!!

  • @esebams6211

    @esebams6211

    2 жыл бұрын

    Casting pearls before swine, identify your listener. Don’t need to correct everyone all the time. Don’t stress yourself

  • @tastyrecipesonabudget1689

    @tastyrecipesonabudget1689

    2 жыл бұрын

    May I ask the area of human rights ? I’m looking for someone for something important. Ty

  • @FineNaturalHairROCKS

    @FineNaturalHairROCKS

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@tastyrecipesonabudget1689 all enumerated grounds under the human rights code but my focus is on anti black racism

  • @maggiesands785
    @maggiesands7852 жыл бұрын

    I really love this. You are confidence in the flesh. Thanks for taking the time to do this.

  • @lenorethelight3447
    @lenorethelight34472 жыл бұрын

    This was good! When I laugh, I laugh so I’ll be mindful of it. The profanity is something I’ve been working on for a few years. I’m a jokester so 🤷‍♀️ but I’ll work on it. I think I can be an even better listener. Thank you ma’am

  • @deborahcurtis1385

    @deborahcurtis1385

    3 ай бұрын

    Profanity is often a reflection of a great deal of stress and frustration. Psychologically people find that when they swear they can bear greater pain or frustration and keep going. As you emerge from less difficult situations, you get to moderate your language. Be kind to yourself especially if you've struggled to overcome considerable difficulties in your life. Work on it, but at the same time reward yourself for how far you've come. IMO this approach works better than constant self-deprecation. Be strong! Be proud!

  • @paolagch2977
    @paolagch29772 жыл бұрын

    Any politician, public figure needs your coaching, oh God the world would be a more decent place to be 🤗❤️. Thanks for bringing your gift to the world!!!

  • @josievelasco3695
    @josievelasco36952 жыл бұрын

    Ma'am!! I emphatically concur with you! Thank you for your uplifting exhortation, and obvious, heartfelt desire to fill the world with "Women of Elegance".

  • @karencollins2440
    @karencollins24402 жыл бұрын

    Wonderful video. I'm so happy I happened upon your channel today, and I look forward to watching all of your videos.

  • @WomanOfElegance

    @WomanOfElegance

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks so much❤❤

  • @Angel_Hearted50
    @Angel_Hearted502 жыл бұрын

    This is truly help. We definitely can learn from one another. Bless you!

  • @RealPurpledot
    @RealPurpledot2 жыл бұрын

    Awesome 👏 Thank you for sharing this. I love the way you speak and carry yourself. 💜

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