it fucking sucks, because you had imagined everything together. and suddenly its gone. i don’t know what to think or how im gonna through it. i thought i was doing well but recently it’s been so difficult to handle this
@realiscreates
4 ай бұрын
same bro/sis happened to me less than a day ago, youre not alone 🙏🏽
@aryaanggara4757
3 ай бұрын
Same
@shiuli6161
3 ай бұрын
I am going through the same thing. Imagined my whole life with him. And now I don't know what to do without him.
@emisstudying
3 ай бұрын
Same here
@matybaybump4565
2 ай бұрын
I feel you I think the best is to allow yourself to FEEL the feelings you try to avoid. Accept them all: accept you miss them, accept you loved them so so much, accept you was ready to give them everything but keep moving forward. It's okay to want to unhear their name, to want to unsee them, it's alright. But you have to keep moving forward. Accept all the feelings you're feeling right now but never stop doing things you love because the more you refuse to feel, the more it's going to be difficult to go through the fact they left you out in the cold. NB: My english is pretty..meh but I hope you get it and you feel better !
@SamuelLee-kc3rh3 ай бұрын
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
@paulinebricks3441
3 ай бұрын
its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my husband for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let him go, so i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back
@SamuelLee-kc3rh
3 ай бұрын
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
@paulinebricks3441
3 ай бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
@SamuelLee-kc3rh
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
@Trxg11
2 ай бұрын
I'm going on over 3 years, I'm screwed
@calebmckinney30114 ай бұрын
Past is the Past. Let it go. Yesterday you can Never get back. Tomorrow you can Not control. Take control of Today. Your thoughts, your feelings, desires, your anger. Let it go. Tomorrow, Today no longer exists, it isYesterday.
@WeRemember11114 ай бұрын
I’ve been single going on 3 years, I’m past old relationships but self exploration is so important. Learn your boundaries, change the toxic traits you may feel you have and embrace who you are. You should be your strongest relationship, so no matter how many no’s come your way, when you finally get a yes, you don’t push all that trauma onto someone else. ❤ Your doing great and your an amazing person, I know it’s hard right now but I promise you the reward is worth the pain ❤
@akshatananthu95274 ай бұрын
I left a relationship because I felt like I didn't have my peace in it. 4 months later, however, it doesn't feel like I'm getting the peace I wanted by leaving the relationship. I can't stop thinking about what I lost when I left the relationship because it doesn't feel like I had even gained anything by leaving it. Every day, I live with doubt and regret even though I know that I made the right decision to leave. I'm terribly lost and confused. You say time will heal this wound Joey, but each day feels worse than the last. I hope things will turn around soon enough.
@PeacefulPetal
4 ай бұрын
I hope you both feel better soon❤, may you find happiness soon
@ranichow
3 ай бұрын
Same here. He was so draining and negative and critical judgemental of me intentionally saying things to hurt me and then pretending to be sorry it got so disgusting. I still recall how disgusted and drained I used to feel and still cry about what did I do to deserve such treatments. It's not like I want him back but more like why did he do all of that how can I not attract someone like this again and overthinking every detail going thru every hurtful memory again and again
@balkee42
2 ай бұрын
Same. I got dumped cuz i didnt put a ring on it after many years. I just didnt have peace about it i guess. But now shes gone i feel like i coulda made wrong decision
@kasrahere
24 күн бұрын
I wanted to end mine cuz it was with a woman and i wasn't even bi. I liked her energy and aura more than like you like a friend. We broke up and got back together for 3 times and i've drained her so much. I always blame myself. I don't regret putting an end to it but at the same time i do. Actually she ended things and we didn't have a closure at all. She just started acting super cold and got a girlfriend. And when i look at the picture i'm in such a shitty situation still thinking about her and stalking them. I don't know what to do. It's been a year. And time didn't heal shit
@Marcel-is6xo4 ай бұрын
It’s been 5 months after my break up, the woman I loved wasn’t in love with me anyone. I’m going through hell and hope to get over it soon. I really like the idea of ‘create your own closure’ cause I think that’s what I need to finally move on. Thank you for this video.
@13sprintuser
4 ай бұрын
4 months from me... was hoping I'd be farther along by now, guess not... chin up, rooting for you brother
@alen-commentnazi8774
2 ай бұрын
U feeling better?
@rowedaalaa5991
17 күн бұрын
Same story here dude but It's been a month for me, I thought I would get over it, I never had the closure I wanted
@eddy.trujillo4 ай бұрын
8. Focus on the potential. Meet new people and friends you wouldn't have met, take in valuable experiences you couldn't have had, and create unique memories and connections that only a breakup could've given you access to. Though it's painful, these things help you assign the breakup a positive value; you'll see it more for all it gave you rather than just for what was lost.
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
Absolutely love that
@Coffee-cr7yv
3 ай бұрын
thank you for writing this, looking back over the past couple of years i don’t think i’d have anywhere near the same amount of experiences if i didn’t go through a breakup, and i definitely wouldn’t trade them away.
@balkee422 ай бұрын
My gf of over a decade broke it off for good recently. Already got a new guy and said its taking a turn for the serious. Im 43. Life feels weird af now.
@amjdso90314 ай бұрын
I just needed someone to talk to me that friendly, as the nights get lonlier
@user-ot7px3ew4x
4 ай бұрын
Can I be your friend
@amjdso9031
4 ай бұрын
@@user-ot7px3ew4x yeah sure why not
@AndrewHerr-kb9le
4 ай бұрын
me too, you play video games?
@user-vg2jc2bt1r
Ай бұрын
Let's be friends
@adepressedmanunitedfan4 ай бұрын
When I thought I'm not alone anymore, and now I'm here because she left me
@summericecoffee
3 ай бұрын
I hope you heal
@El_Armandini4 ай бұрын
My gf just broke up with me 2 ago after a really short but amazing 1 year and 2 months, I know it was really short but it was just incredible. The thing is we wanted different things and I was really fine with doing things she liked like living in many countries in the future but I also wanted to have a house together in one place have a family and get old together. But she thought I wanted to do it only for her which kind of was but I wanted it because it made me happy being with her. When she was breaking up with me I asked her that if we love each other we can go through this together… but she said sometime love is not enough, it just broke me. I respect her decision but still… it hurts a lot and I know this is all going to be better but still it hurts really bad.
@LeinadSretlaw
3 ай бұрын
That is the same thing she said to me sometimes love isn’t enough that was hard I feel like she was the one and I ruined it because I had all these problems going on and she finally got tired of it. I’m trying so hard right now.
@aryaanggara47573 ай бұрын
Thank you brother, I almost killed myself. thanks to your video I started to rethink about life and try to have a happy family. (sorry my english not good)
@DavidBrendan77994 ай бұрын
How to get over an ex? OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND! You are welcome!
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
Haha that’s one way to look at it… or not look at it 😂
@jessiefianu6881
3 ай бұрын
This is hard. I broke up with my ex cos he ghosted me for months till I reached out to him. His only reason being the distance and he couldn't communicate. I think about him from time to time and wonder what's he's up to, hopefully, he's better wherever he is but still can't get him off my mind and I feel traumatized by the experience to the point where I'm looking for him in the guys I talk to, hence, my reason for staying single.
@FrankBrady-bd9dj
21 күн бұрын
@@jessiefianu6881i hope you're feeling better and everything is going better now, I feel the exact same and I've been through it before but I feel like everytime gets harder and harder for me and its just so hard to accept things but I know that I'll find someone that wants to grow with me rather than separately
@jjxd3n_3 ай бұрын
I broke up with her because she lied to me, she was very narcissistic and manipulative. I feel stupid for even missing her. I try to remind myself of how I felt during the majority of our relationship and I was always unhappy. I was doubtful of us even getting married, although she was all for it. The term “find somebody that loves you more than you love them” isn’t always the move. They will place you on this pedestal that you know you don’t deserve. She will suffocate you with love and you start to realize that it’s more of an obsession than love. It almost makes me feel like I was never really loved. It was an infatuation, you don’t lie to the people you love. You don’t sneak things behind their back and try to gaslight them when they figure it out. People are crazy, never try to fix someone that it is broken. They will cling onto you and drain you for all that you have. You will lose yourself and ultimately your soul. Your sanity will be questioned, anyone reading this. Look out for people with BPD or NPD, they are master manipulators of the mind and will lie just to keep you around. I may be wrong but this is the problem I’ve ran into twice, just keep your guard up💯
@thestrengthreport7517
Ай бұрын
It happened to me, my ex girlfriend was extremely clingy and emotional unhinged. I loved her a lot and that relationship took me down a dark path. The crazy thing about it is that at the end of the relationship she cheated on me, blamed me for everything, then magically became the sane individual. While I ended up the psychological wreck. Crazy people will make you crazy. I learned my lesson and never again will I go down that path.
@jjxd3n_
Ай бұрын
@@thestrengthreport7517 I’m so sorry that you had to go through that man. I know it must’ve been hard for the person you loved and cared about to switch just like that in front of you. I understand exactly where you are coming from, it hurts deeper than words can explain. Dealing with these kinds of people will leave you questioning your own sanity, your own morals, and your naivety. It is common for people to believe that they can fix, heal, or deal with a mentally unhinged person but ultimately you will be damaged beyond repair in the end. The mind games that they play will leave you spinning in circles questioning your every move. Ultimately to have you second guessing everything in your life afterwards. It truly isn’t worth the mental damage these individuals bring, and I’m happy you were able to step away and acknowledge that this was not for you. Many people run back to toxic relationships so it is wise for you to run away from it. You tried your hardest to help this person, so despite what she has tried to blame on you it was not your fault. You gave her love as authentically as you could form it, she made the mistake of taking it for granted and using you for it. That was someone who was not worth it, a poor investment. Continue to run and watch out for similar signs, rebuild this love in yourself first. You deserve someone in your likeness with pureness in their heart and sanity. I pray you are able to find this one day my friend🙏🏽 God Bless
@jack-gx4 ай бұрын
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
@Jose-lz6cw
4 ай бұрын
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
@jack-gx
4 ай бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@Jose-lz6cw
4 ай бұрын
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@jack-gx
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@heyitsant
3 ай бұрын
@@Jose-lz6cwthat’s basically witchcraft magic
@pooldeadpool153519 күн бұрын
This is my first break up from my first real realtionship. Ive already watched 4 of your videos and while its not anything that i havent already heard it is said in a way that makes a lot of sense. My biggest problem right now is that i see her everywhere in everything i do. Not literally, but the radio, my alarm clock, my bed, my couch, the painting she made on my wall, the necklace she gave me. And thats all before leaving my apartment. Im currently staying at my parents' because i just dont want to be home right now. She has the same job as me too, so even work makes me think of her. Now im laying in an unfilmaliar bed and the last bed i slept in that wasnt mine was her's. I thought a change of scenery would help, but my mind still correlates everything to her. We like a lot of the same stuff so everything i enjoy reminds me of her in some way. Granted we only broke up 2 days ago so i wouldnt expect to get over her so soon, i just didnt realize it hurts this much. She was a lot of firsts for me and i never thought heartbreak would be on that list.
@racingdriveras4 ай бұрын
6 Months have passed, she has a new boyfriend within a month, Dumped me through text. Im okay tho, just craving love and validation. Joined a basketball team which was good for me. But still got so much questions. Almost have no friends, just looking for them but scared to go out and meet new people, and dont know how. Time will heal, Also 'just date' no one wants to go on a date, im not meeting people that want to. and dating apps don't work for me. But i will be okay. Just give it time💝💝
@user-ot7px3ew4x
4 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry about .... My 5yrs relationship just ended...my ex boyfriend left me for his ex girlfriend after finding she's Rich It hurts so much.😭😭😭😭 Sending ❤❤ from Nigeria
@summericecoffee
3 ай бұрын
Do you wanna become friends? I can use a good friend too!
@racingdriveras
3 ай бұрын
@@summericecoffee sure, you got discord?
@casicc1330
2 ай бұрын
I personally used dating apps (for example 'boo') to find new friends. And two people I've met there actually changed my whole life within 1-2 months and helped me to change my environment and be surrounded by new people. Don't give up, I believe you'll definitely find the place you are destined to be in ❤️ just keep trying. I wish you all the best!!!
@toppat_royale4 ай бұрын
Broke up. We weren't compatible. Everything was amicable. I wonder if it's wise to still keep contact?
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
I think that’s a personal question for you, but in my experience the feelings have always been there even if they aren’t at the front. I would still let go.
@toppat_royale
4 ай бұрын
I see. I still have those extensive conversations saved on WhatsApp and Telegram, I'm having a dispute whether to keep or delete them.@@joeykidney
@ayushi98494 ай бұрын
there's no thought popping UP, it's just literally there the whole time,playing like some kinda bg music
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
time will help. Which is such an annoying answer but it truly does
@timbtms
4 ай бұрын
Totally relate brother, we will survive that
@Blablablahhhdgdrc4 ай бұрын
People told me : wrote the bad things when you start fantasizing..but i just feel drained thinking about the hurt i put up with...
@Sethineator9 күн бұрын
it sucks because you imagine everything in your life with them then you lose yourself
@stephencurrent791223 күн бұрын
I just love the music behind this.... the instrumentals just touch a part of my soul .
@eden-xp6jd12 күн бұрын
i did the right thing, keeping her as a friend is always been a bad idea, idk whats her intention but in order to make myself healed, i have to let her go fully
@ben_angel2 ай бұрын
The thoughts of her being sexual with anyone else is what kills me every. Single. Time. How do I stop thinking of it??
@palapalak.8907Ай бұрын
I don't cry anymore... the pain is easier now. I do nails, hair, massages. I stay very, very busy!
@laavanyamalik47373 ай бұрын
Joey thank you, specifically, for the last part. We don’t change the flower, we change the environment it’s in.
@ryanrodrigues32001Ай бұрын
I have been dating her for almost an year, i loved her with all my heart and even came to a point were we planned our future ahead and 2 weeks before we hit our one year mark she broke up with me. The reason being she was scared that what if her parents do not approve of us and she was scared to take our relationship ahead, she said its better to end now than in the next 5 years, now i kept fighting for her and i was even ready to talk to her parents regarding this but not at the moment as we still have time as i am currently 22 and she being 21 but she never listened and replied saying "I know that it can't continue, i do not want you to keep hopes". This really broke me into pieces thinking how can someone change that quickly and everything was completely normal a day prior. ------- I have never loved anyone like how i used to love her.
@JuliaRoseThorn4 ай бұрын
Stay you crew ❤ thank you for this
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
love this crew
@bradygorman651021 күн бұрын
Honestly one thing that's always helped me short term was some simple material upgrades. Relationship ended and you cancelled a big expensive date? Take that money and get better bedsheets for yourself, some better-fitting shirts, a plant or wall picture you've been eyeing for a while. Guys are more object-oriented than women so making little changes around your house and apartment can help, or plan a trip, give yourself something to look forward to while you have to put a lot of mental energy into planning something. All these other steps are great too, this is just one other thing that's helped me.
@realcryptobenny7 күн бұрын
I have been single for 2 years and I just can't seem to move on...I feel lost and unwanted...
@lunablue78444 ай бұрын
Thank you so much… really needed this right now
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
I’m glad it found you
@la_petite_carotte4 ай бұрын
Wonderful advice! It was healing watching this video. Thanks!
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
Thanks so much!
@notyourwilloe24 күн бұрын
What if you don’t want to move on? Because that’s when it becomes real.
@luguy83474 ай бұрын
You’re so smart and beautiful. You go through so much, yet you’re here for us.
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
I’m going through it all alongside with you:)
@luguy8347
4 ай бұрын
@@joeykidney I wish you peace of mind.
@lachlanjeff4 ай бұрын
What's a heart? 😅 I've learnt, if you don't let anyone in. You can't get hurt again 😅
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
Then you’ll just end up hurting yourself
@Domie79802 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I left my ex yesterday because he treated me poorly during the whole relationship. I know I deserve better but it still hurts so much. Your video and your calm voice made me feel at peace for a moment
@Pricelesspreneur2 ай бұрын
I’ve been separated for 6 years and it’s still not any easier. My husband says he doesn’t want a divorce but he’s to afraid to disappoint his family to be with me. His family is awful. I know I should probably go ahead with the divorce but I keep holding out for …nothing. It’s truly a nightmare.
@danawei-ce1jt4 ай бұрын
but i still love him more than anything. the worst part is that im scared ill forget. im scared that things wont remind me of him anymore. i never want to forget him but at the same time i know its over. half of me wants to text him, call him or anything but i know that i cant, hes trying to move on too. everything in my room reminds me of him. everywhere i go hes on my mind. hes the person i thought i was going to spend the rest of my life with and even now i still dont want anyone else.
@sochxrri16
3 ай бұрын
I feel you, I really do…hurts like hell :(
@user-up1si9gn8e23 күн бұрын
My ex broke up with me yesterday because he lost feelings but that video really helped me thank u sm
@THEBEST-py6ok4 ай бұрын
Love this .... Joey thank u so much for all ur advices .... it really help me ... Continue and I wish u more success in ur life 💫💫
@user-qb6rt8nb6p2 ай бұрын
Today my girlfriend broke up with me. This video may help idk. She loved me so much but she change her type of man i one day. I m sad.
@James16jj8
Ай бұрын
How are you holding up bro?
@gabsterthegamer73688 сағат бұрын
The problem is that I'm in his friend group, and if I Go through no contact then I won't have any friends that I can talk to everyday.
@avengerhappygaming32032 ай бұрын
How do I replace my school or the way where I go home or my tuition where I see her a lot of times... It's impossible for me to forget her... Trust me... She plays into my mind when I close my eyes... Open my eyes... Do whatever... Everything I did was for her and now... I can't do anything... The only thing that's in my mind is death... I want her back... But she said she has lost her feelings... I'm dead bro...
@mihailmatov330921 күн бұрын
You really have a way of connecting to people and helped me let some of my emotions out. Im thankful
@deadvalentine10002 ай бұрын
I have BPD, which sometimes causes me to lose my temper and say terrible things. While it's no excuse, I completely lose control when my abandonment issues are triggered, leading to verbal outbursts. The anger consumes me, and I often don't remember what I said. I could accept being left if they cheated or under other circumstances, but losing two amazing people due to my temper is devastating. It's making me doubt if I'll ever be able to maintain a healthy relationship. Growing up with an abusive childhood and an absent, alcoholic father has shaped my people-pleasing tendencies, low self-worth, and unclear boundaries. I don't know how to move on. I've never been a player, but if love hurts this much, maybe low-commitment situationships make more sense. I'm doing therapy, cold showers, meditation - the whole gamut - but when I'm triggered, nothing seems to help. When I lose control, I really lose control. I don't know if I can go through this again. What's the point of life if you can't love?
@manisdef90164 ай бұрын
Thank you Joey! I really needed this, last Monday I cut off the contact with a boy. He didn’t seemed interested in me and was acting weird. I found out he was seeing another girl… I’m heartbroken, i hope this helps ❤️
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
I’m glad you took that step for yourself
@JayTechZM2 ай бұрын
It's been 3 weeks, and there's so much news I'm being told about how she wanted us to be a secret, how she's gotten back with her ex that treats her less than human...and them sneaking around in the office. It just hurts, thinking about them together when I don't want to just makes me angry and sad that they're people like that. I know I'll be okay, but going to work and sensing her presence has been hard.
@random3rsifO_OАй бұрын
“It's sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew.” :( Just blocked her on everything since I found out shes dating someone. Im glad shes happy but, it just hurts.
@josephlin71432 ай бұрын
Nearly a year together. The relationship was very healthy. We called everyday, we both listened, I took her out on dates. Great emotional and physical chemistry and same core values. Good open communication and conflict resolution, I loved her parents and they loved me. We broke up because I wasn't sure I was going to stay in the US long term and she didn't want to risk getting even more hurt later down the road. Even though I had a job and was planning on staying a several years, it's wasn't enough for her. (I'm Canadian) 3 months goes by and I make the decision to stay long term, only to find out she already moved on to someone else - Going on international trips and making new memories together. It made me feel so cheap. Like I was easy to get over, like our time together meant nothing... It feels like a betrayal. One second your best friend is there talking to you till 2am and the next she's gone, doing all those things with someone else...
@kengy98614 ай бұрын
I hope you can find someone love you too joey. Thanks for this videos 🙏 ❤
@gameslicer1002 ай бұрын
I know time is the best medicine, but she left me at such a period where I have little to no time left to face one of the biggest challenges of my life. Where I should be preparing, being ready for it, she made my colorful life pointless suddenly with huge deals of betrayal.
@kendramoore8263 ай бұрын
I really liked my best friend and my love for him was so gradual and pure. There was a week where we crossed the line of platonic friends, and now he’s on his own path and doesn’t want to hang out like we used to. It feels like a friendship breakup because it just seems like we don’t vibe at all anymore. He liked me at one point too, but I got friend zoned, and now it feels like I don’t even have a friend left. Honestly feels just as bad as a breakup.
@jajssjhhddd5046Ай бұрын
I felt like my ex was my life and we did everything together. Recently going on dates and hanging out sucks because I know that with them would be so much better and I could imagine what we would be doing different. But I am convincing myself of that. Because if it was so good we wouldn’t be broken up. The mindset is the most important
@kakistick2 ай бұрын
Thanks for the videos man. you don't understand how much you're helping. ❤
@Adumbtheidiot24 күн бұрын
What helped me is, just get mad, I got angry at her over messages and it feels so refreshing afterwards
@loui510s74 ай бұрын
I don't think the "No Contact" rule always should be followed. Me and my ex broke up last december, but we never broke contact, because we still wanted to be good friends, and that's what we are now, tho we don't talk as much anymore. It is also very hard to follow this rule when you have the same classes...
@jessiefianu6881
3 ай бұрын
My ex on the other hand didn't want friendship when I requested for it and didn't even fight for a second chance even though I brought it up. For someone who claimed I was his best for 3 years, this really scarred and traumatized me. It's been over 10months and I still feel the pain. I tried reaching out to him via email, whatsapp and countless phone calls all to no avail and I've not gotten any closure. Love sucks
@thestrengthreport7517
Ай бұрын
@@jessiefianu6881I had to cut communication with my ex because she was just using me as someone to sleep with while she was out talking to other men. It hurt me to do that but I had to realize my worth and the pain of being used like that outside of a relationship. Sometimes men cut contact because it’s easier for us to get over the pain and move on.
@Raptordexs2 ай бұрын
👇People who treated "Talking to a professional" watching Joey
@user-or8zf2mh2r3 ай бұрын
That's what I do. I avoid my ex at all costs. I'm over him, but I met this other guy just as a friend. However, we didn't get along within 2 weeks our friendship had taken a turn. I don't even go to the gym at the same time that he does. I even changed my number. That's how much I don't want to hear from him.
@professorjo1959Ай бұрын
Not only my girlfriend My whole world is collapsing 3 years away from my family A war happening in my country Lost most of my friends before seeing them when i get back because they're died during the conflict Living alone After all that had a breakup 💔 I truly feel dieing while im still breathing i can't even cry!
@Tyliriouz28 күн бұрын
That’s why I’m tryna make friends to to play games with too avoid the pain. Yet that’s a problem she doesn’t understand.
@Périgord_919 күн бұрын
Sad music is not a good choice at all
@RaajMndl2 ай бұрын
Great video man! The way she broke up with me definitely blindsided me and she made me feel so guilty about mistakes, making me feel I was responsible for it, while she never took any actions and accountability for her mental health problems. Within two weeks of breaking up, she hooked up with a guy, and her bedroom still had the things I gave her, like the card I wrote for her was right next to her bed, the condom wrapper was on top of it, she lied to me about not seeing people and cried on my shoulder that she's very sad . The way I found this out was, I had her keys, went into her apartment when she wasn't there, and found all this out, I was again devastated, but that was closure for me
@ReuploadsRelivingWrestlingАй бұрын
Broke up about a month ago. Stopped contact going on two weeks and I feel like shit. She had changed prior to the break up, more distant and less affectionate. I tried to keep things going but then saw one day she was leaving comments on other men's pictures and that was the final straw for me. I still miss her and think about if what I did was right.
@junioremmanuel58744 ай бұрын
Thank you mr joey
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
thank you!
@unconscious_gaming2Ай бұрын
In 13 and just got broken up with I thought about our future all the time I had our 1. Month anniversary marked in my calendar next thing I know I’m single and I haven’t been myself since but your videos really help me to cope and get over it thank you Joey.
@JamesHowlett-qy3yq4 ай бұрын
I was watching amazing spiderman on tv and i suddenly remember this guy😅
@avi_s0ncin02 ай бұрын
It’s so frustrating because I originally ended my relationship because I simply had come back home from the country I went to for a year abroad and where she lives and realized I wasn’t going back in the foreseeable future. But then I started to notice all these things about our relationship that would have been a roadblock regardless if it wouldn’t have been distance that ended it. It’s still so difficult tho, I struggle so much even trying to listen to the bands and artists we both loved, or even remembering the conversations and memories we had together without getting sentimental. I also know that im not anywhere near a position yet physically let alone emotionally just quite yet to start dating again, and im really unsure if i’ll be able to connect with anyone like i was able to with her. I kind of just wish I could stop worrying about the past or finding love in the future, and just focus on myself and getting my life back together. I wish I could just let go of love for a while and not try- just let it happen naturally again when it does, but I’m so worried it won’t unless I actively get on apps or social media again, which I really don’t want to do.
@cad0420alice2 ай бұрын
Did everything for a year. Nothing changed. Sucks so bad because I don't like the early stages of dating except I already have a crush on that person.
@shoutouttoaza36003 ай бұрын
my stroy is so fucking wierd that i think i am gonna make a movie on it
@margaritovasquez9204 ай бұрын
How do i give my girlfriend space i screwed up and she wanted a brake to fix myself but how do i stop myseld of thinking about her worrying about her cuz i was to text her but shes ghosting me
@Jazz12211Ай бұрын
How would you best heal when the love of your life (and fiancé, dating for 3 years) starts binge drinking (as a result of grief) which leads to physical abuse towards me. So much so, that the relationship has to end, and she could still not take responsibility. It's so hard to lose a best friend and partner because they transform into somebody you don't recognize. You still see their heart and love and trust them. And yet, they are unable to comprehend the severity of their behavior? It's been 5 months and i still miss her so much
@nilsgroger7431Ай бұрын
Thank you, just thank you
@Boyinnabasement20 күн бұрын
Really wanted to marry her but I guess all good things have to come to an end right ? I miss her but I suppose I just have to cherish the experience and love we had and move on fr
@emisstudying3 ай бұрын
My life right now… 2,5 years down the line. Supposed to get engaged this summer. Life happens
@Slaninka161215 күн бұрын
Do you think, I can be friends with my ex just after we broke up? She alredy found someone else and I dont like this guy. I feel like she is a good person and we broke up in a good way and now she is dating someone who is like far worse than me and I hate the reality.
@lowkey_minir60Ай бұрын
My ex broke up with me because of me honestly not listening , honestly she was my first girlfriend and I was still adjusting into the dating life what i saw the relationship lacked communicating and yesterday everything clashed we couldn't even hold a conversation she broke up with me I tried to bring her back she forgave me. Then Said "she is a person with a lot going on in her life , and feels like my type is not her and that I deserve better" I tried to switch that up but she reply with "block me".
@thelastchimp86704 ай бұрын
thank you joey
@anjalithakur926Ай бұрын
My boyfriend left me just 2or 3 days ago ....he was cheating on me with his ex for 3 months "he was not over with".....he said he was the one who started thing and that he is the one ending it ......even after forgiving him for all his mistakes.....never blaming him fir anything....he still left me ....just because of his ex ....i gave up my self respect for my love ....but he didn't seemed to care about it at all.....and i dont know what to do now .....
@JellyMach4 ай бұрын
Two weeks. It’s harder every day.
@realiscreates4 ай бұрын
she left because her parents didnt accept our relationship so instead of fighting for us she decided to end it permanently..
@repulse_wkey4432Ай бұрын
I broke up with my girl cuz of alot of problem we are simply incompatible look ik it hurts leaving someone you love but it’s not meant to be especially if it’s your first rlt she now has a new bf in less than a month and he’s my close friend but just move on let it go you’ll lose feelings within a couple of months just don’t care anm
@Drageypoo4 ай бұрын
I miss Joey
@ChristinaChristina-qt9jk3 ай бұрын
joey, I am new to you and i came to this video first. You probably already have the answer to my question in another video but i don't have the time to scroll all the videos. So I was wondering how long your relationship was before you went through this hard breakup? how long was it before you got into your current relationship? I have been in this current relationship for 5 1/2 6 years and while we are still living together and are together but I am going through a deep depression because I know we are going to end so Im trying to learn to prepare so the depression doesnt get worse. I cant bare the thought of all the time i invested in this man and I will be gone like the blink of an eye for him when it ends because he is a narcissist.... please help answer some questions - I was brought to you for a reason....Im struggling on how to handle the inevitable thank you, Christina
@HaroldJanx4 ай бұрын
Thanks a lot.
@eclipze97373 ай бұрын
Idk man i neglected my friends because i was too focused on her and now after she left i have no friends and the loneliness at night is way too hard to handle
@thedude12922 ай бұрын
The first real love of my life cheated with a friend and left me after i moved to another country for her six months ago and two years together, we just got a new apartment togehter and one week later she is gone. She said she cant be in a relationship with just me and she felt everything is too much for her and she just came to accept that, so she did what she had to do. I have no idea how to deal with all this, every person i know in this City i know because of her, every Place i love is her Place and i cant go there anymore, same goes for the People i called Friends here. I feel like i am all alone. Last night i was close to end my life cause i saw no other way out, i am so afraid that i can never recover from this and trust another person this much for the rest of my life. I guess only time can tell..
@lily_liya3 ай бұрын
Joey, you're such an angel..it worked n helped...You always help me! i'm grateful to you, always and forever! And i'm your forever fan! Blessings
@g-force_flameog75413 ай бұрын
Hey Joey, I hope you or someone down here can respond haha. So I have this hoodie with flying patches because I'm an air cadet, I know so cliché right? But it's the hoodie my ex stole for the relationship and gave back afterward... Is this holding me back? I can't bring myself to wear it anymore but it still has previous meaning too. Each patch has a story, yet it's all clouded by the larger thought of her. what do you think is my next step?
@shaunfontaine86873 ай бұрын
Feels like a pain that will never go. I can't sleep, hardly eating, I'm trying, spending alot of money eating out so I'm surounded by people and I'm not in my tiny flat alone. I have no desire to cook for myself, which is something I love to do. I have to force myself to shower, eveything feels so pointless. I keep battling every day trying to survive it, sometimes it feels like I just can't live anymore without that person. They were everything to me, why do I do this to myself? I want love and family and a person, a partner, but each time this happens I have to ask myself is it worth the pain if it's gone oneday? I know I'm not alone but it sure feels like it.
@chichman83
3 ай бұрын
you're not alone, it's been two months since the breakup and it's still not good..many memories. it's even worse because the ex lives right next door.. we're neighbors
@jessiefianu6881
3 ай бұрын
The one person who made me believe in love gave up on me, ghosted me and couldn't tell me he was tired. I had to find out the hard way and I haven't been the same since then. And it's funny how I can't share with anyone other than a platform where no one knows me. I believe you will get better with time. Sending you lots of love and hugs.
@Theweirdgirl_Tori12342 ай бұрын
I got cheated on with 2 people😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
@ChristinaChristina-qt9jk3 ай бұрын
hopefully this isnt another you tuber channel that does not care to respond back to comments?!?!?????!??? we will see
@shaunfontaine86873 ай бұрын
That Starbucks thing resonates, it's the same with me, not Starbucks but other places and doing other things, I'll try the replacement thing where I can, we used to go into what you would call a thrift store and buy second hand things, she was the only person I would go there with but now I can't even bring myself to walk past it.
@brysiax32 ай бұрын
This is so hard, bcs I feel like such a loser. We weren't even really together. I had a crush on him, he had a crush on me, but I have a boyfriend whom I love so intensly, but he isn't ready to open our relationship and be polyamorous with me, so I had to say that to my crush and he blocked me. He's also after a break up with his gf of 2 years and not handling it well. And I can't stop thinking about him. I'm just heartbroken bcs I know that if I stop obsessing over him, it'll be over. I will never see him again. And it makes me want to cry just thinking about how true that is.
@bikramjitsingh73894 ай бұрын
How to accept the fact that she is happy without me? 😅
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
Accept the fact that she left without you
@muhammadamirsyahmibinazlan9684 ай бұрын
It hurts me when my girlfriend behaviour change after she gets a job in overseas. We LDR for 1 year already and 3 more years to go. She looks me as her problem in our relationship. Even she also annoyed when i need her attention. It’s suffocate me a lot. I don’t know what to do now because it hurts to let her go 😢
@finalityxd3 ай бұрын
dont even know if im gonna get a response or not but, I guess this is that happens in a long distance relationship, we were both literally obsessed with each other and couldn't spend a minute away, it was lovely and wonderful throughout the year until like, roughly the middle of everything, weve been together for almost a year now and since she is basically my first real lover and relationship I guess my feelings are thoughts are obviously gonna be stronger and maybe heavier but, she just doesn't pay attention anymore, shes super dry, doesn't really care about me anymore, has removed some matching stuff we had, it even hurts more because shes said so many times that we were gonna marry but here we are, and I mean the thing is we arent really broken up, yet I guess... it just really really feels like it, and we used to talk about our mentality, emotions and feelings a lot but she has avoidant attachment stuff and now out of the blue doesn't wanna talk about much anymore, especially mentality and feelings so I've had literally no one to talk to but my own thoughts and head, it hurts, a lot, I really do want us to work out more than anything but it all just feels so heavy now, literally last Sunday and Monday I vomited because I just felt so stressed about this whole thing, and I guess I'm watching videos related to topics like this one to like, prepare myself for the worst, I have written a long text about how I feel and I want to read it out in a voice note to her but I just feel like its gonna be too overwhelming for her and shes just gonna end it because of it, I'm just scared to look for others I guess because shes made me feel loved and feel things I've never felt before and actually treated me right but now there's nothing, not even a compliment, we haven't talked verbally for like almost 2 weeks now aswell, only texting, I hope I will be fine and thank you.
@ma1a7944 ай бұрын
Hi Joey, my first relationship ended because she went work in another country for one month and when she came back she was diferent and we talk and decide to end the relationship, we finish a one year relationship because one month, we did have plans for our future when we are getting marry, What names were we going to give our children, everything we lived for one and another for a entire year and than boom my world came down, i ask her for space and she give me that space but one day she send me a message and we start talking all over again... but in one way i was happy and on another way i was sad because i felt the fellings all over again, i really dont know what to do? im struggling a lot and its getting worse every single day, maybe i should go way and dont talk to her anymore or go live in another place because i go out and anywhere i go i have memories with her, do you have any advice for me? thanks for your time.
@taytoe.o3 ай бұрын
My situation is so complicated and ig i’ll explain. So i keep breaking up with my ex-girlfriend and getting back with her, but today i said that im breaking up and i dont wanna date ever again. The thing is this girl M likes my ex, L. They might date which makes me jealous even though i dont like either of them. I js wanna die so bad right now and i kinda want her to move away
@hyperion7522 ай бұрын
And now she is a single mom 😂
@user-kj9kl7kx3n3 ай бұрын
Bro thanks I was looking for solution to just let go and I did but when the night comes bro I really think of her😢😢😢
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it fucking sucks, because you had imagined everything together. and suddenly its gone. i don’t know what to think or how im gonna through it. i thought i was doing well but recently it’s been so difficult to handle this
@realiscreates
4 ай бұрын
same bro/sis happened to me less than a day ago, youre not alone 🙏🏽
@aryaanggara4757
3 ай бұрын
Same
@shiuli6161
3 ай бұрын
I am going through the same thing. Imagined my whole life with him. And now I don't know what to do without him.
@emisstudying
3 ай бұрын
Same here
@matybaybump4565
2 ай бұрын
I feel you I think the best is to allow yourself to FEEL the feelings you try to avoid. Accept them all: accept you miss them, accept you loved them so so much, accept you was ready to give them everything but keep moving forward. It's okay to want to unhear their name, to want to unsee them, it's alright. But you have to keep moving forward. Accept all the feelings you're feeling right now but never stop doing things you love because the more you refuse to feel, the more it's going to be difficult to go through the fact they left you out in the cold. NB: My english is pretty..meh but I hope you get it and you feel better !
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
@paulinebricks3441
3 ай бұрын
its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my husband for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let him go, so i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back
@SamuelLee-kc3rh
3 ай бұрын
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
@paulinebricks3441
3 ай бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
@SamuelLee-kc3rh
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
@Trxg11
2 ай бұрын
I'm going on over 3 years, I'm screwed
Past is the Past. Let it go. Yesterday you can Never get back. Tomorrow you can Not control. Take control of Today. Your thoughts, your feelings, desires, your anger. Let it go. Tomorrow, Today no longer exists, it isYesterday.
I’ve been single going on 3 years, I’m past old relationships but self exploration is so important. Learn your boundaries, change the toxic traits you may feel you have and embrace who you are. You should be your strongest relationship, so no matter how many no’s come your way, when you finally get a yes, you don’t push all that trauma onto someone else. ❤ Your doing great and your an amazing person, I know it’s hard right now but I promise you the reward is worth the pain ❤
I left a relationship because I felt like I didn't have my peace in it. 4 months later, however, it doesn't feel like I'm getting the peace I wanted by leaving the relationship. I can't stop thinking about what I lost when I left the relationship because it doesn't feel like I had even gained anything by leaving it. Every day, I live with doubt and regret even though I know that I made the right decision to leave. I'm terribly lost and confused. You say time will heal this wound Joey, but each day feels worse than the last. I hope things will turn around soon enough.
@PeacefulPetal
4 ай бұрын
I hope you both feel better soon❤, may you find happiness soon
@ranichow
3 ай бұрын
Same here. He was so draining and negative and critical judgemental of me intentionally saying things to hurt me and then pretending to be sorry it got so disgusting. I still recall how disgusted and drained I used to feel and still cry about what did I do to deserve such treatments. It's not like I want him back but more like why did he do all of that how can I not attract someone like this again and overthinking every detail going thru every hurtful memory again and again
@balkee42
2 ай бұрын
Same. I got dumped cuz i didnt put a ring on it after many years. I just didnt have peace about it i guess. But now shes gone i feel like i coulda made wrong decision
@kasrahere
24 күн бұрын
I wanted to end mine cuz it was with a woman and i wasn't even bi. I liked her energy and aura more than like you like a friend. We broke up and got back together for 3 times and i've drained her so much. I always blame myself. I don't regret putting an end to it but at the same time i do. Actually she ended things and we didn't have a closure at all. She just started acting super cold and got a girlfriend. And when i look at the picture i'm in such a shitty situation still thinking about her and stalking them. I don't know what to do. It's been a year. And time didn't heal shit
It’s been 5 months after my break up, the woman I loved wasn’t in love with me anyone. I’m going through hell and hope to get over it soon. I really like the idea of ‘create your own closure’ cause I think that’s what I need to finally move on. Thank you for this video.
@13sprintuser
4 ай бұрын
4 months from me... was hoping I'd be farther along by now, guess not... chin up, rooting for you brother
@alen-commentnazi8774
2 ай бұрын
U feeling better?
@rowedaalaa5991
17 күн бұрын
Same story here dude but It's been a month for me, I thought I would get over it, I never had the closure I wanted
8. Focus on the potential. Meet new people and friends you wouldn't have met, take in valuable experiences you couldn't have had, and create unique memories and connections that only a breakup could've given you access to. Though it's painful, these things help you assign the breakup a positive value; you'll see it more for all it gave you rather than just for what was lost.
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
Absolutely love that
@Coffee-cr7yv
3 ай бұрын
thank you for writing this, looking back over the past couple of years i don’t think i’d have anywhere near the same amount of experiences if i didn’t go through a breakup, and i definitely wouldn’t trade them away.
My gf of over a decade broke it off for good recently. Already got a new guy and said its taking a turn for the serious. Im 43. Life feels weird af now.
I just needed someone to talk to me that friendly, as the nights get lonlier
@user-ot7px3ew4x
4 ай бұрын
Can I be your friend
@amjdso9031
4 ай бұрын
@@user-ot7px3ew4x yeah sure why not
@AndrewHerr-kb9le
4 ай бұрын
me too, you play video games?
@user-vg2jc2bt1r
Ай бұрын
Let's be friends
When I thought I'm not alone anymore, and now I'm here because she left me
@summericecoffee
3 ай бұрын
I hope you heal
My gf just broke up with me 2 ago after a really short but amazing 1 year and 2 months, I know it was really short but it was just incredible. The thing is we wanted different things and I was really fine with doing things she liked like living in many countries in the future but I also wanted to have a house together in one place have a family and get old together. But she thought I wanted to do it only for her which kind of was but I wanted it because it made me happy being with her. When she was breaking up with me I asked her that if we love each other we can go through this together… but she said sometime love is not enough, it just broke me. I respect her decision but still… it hurts a lot and I know this is all going to be better but still it hurts really bad.
@LeinadSretlaw
3 ай бұрын
That is the same thing she said to me sometimes love isn’t enough that was hard I feel like she was the one and I ruined it because I had all these problems going on and she finally got tired of it. I’m trying so hard right now.
Thank you brother, I almost killed myself. thanks to your video I started to rethink about life and try to have a happy family. (sorry my english not good)
How to get over an ex? OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND! You are welcome!
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
Haha that’s one way to look at it… or not look at it 😂
@jessiefianu6881
3 ай бұрын
This is hard. I broke up with my ex cos he ghosted me for months till I reached out to him. His only reason being the distance and he couldn't communicate. I think about him from time to time and wonder what's he's up to, hopefully, he's better wherever he is but still can't get him off my mind and I feel traumatized by the experience to the point where I'm looking for him in the guys I talk to, hence, my reason for staying single.
@FrankBrady-bd9dj
21 күн бұрын
@@jessiefianu6881i hope you're feeling better and everything is going better now, I feel the exact same and I've been through it before but I feel like everytime gets harder and harder for me and its just so hard to accept things but I know that I'll find someone that wants to grow with me rather than separately
I broke up with her because she lied to me, she was very narcissistic and manipulative. I feel stupid for even missing her. I try to remind myself of how I felt during the majority of our relationship and I was always unhappy. I was doubtful of us even getting married, although she was all for it. The term “find somebody that loves you more than you love them” isn’t always the move. They will place you on this pedestal that you know you don’t deserve. She will suffocate you with love and you start to realize that it’s more of an obsession than love. It almost makes me feel like I was never really loved. It was an infatuation, you don’t lie to the people you love. You don’t sneak things behind their back and try to gaslight them when they figure it out. People are crazy, never try to fix someone that it is broken. They will cling onto you and drain you for all that you have. You will lose yourself and ultimately your soul. Your sanity will be questioned, anyone reading this. Look out for people with BPD or NPD, they are master manipulators of the mind and will lie just to keep you around. I may be wrong but this is the problem I’ve ran into twice, just keep your guard up💯
@thestrengthreport7517
Ай бұрын
It happened to me, my ex girlfriend was extremely clingy and emotional unhinged. I loved her a lot and that relationship took me down a dark path. The crazy thing about it is that at the end of the relationship she cheated on me, blamed me for everything, then magically became the sane individual. While I ended up the psychological wreck. Crazy people will make you crazy. I learned my lesson and never again will I go down that path.
@jjxd3n_
Ай бұрын
@@thestrengthreport7517 I’m so sorry that you had to go through that man. I know it must’ve been hard for the person you loved and cared about to switch just like that in front of you. I understand exactly where you are coming from, it hurts deeper than words can explain. Dealing with these kinds of people will leave you questioning your own sanity, your own morals, and your naivety. It is common for people to believe that they can fix, heal, or deal with a mentally unhinged person but ultimately you will be damaged beyond repair in the end. The mind games that they play will leave you spinning in circles questioning your every move. Ultimately to have you second guessing everything in your life afterwards. It truly isn’t worth the mental damage these individuals bring, and I’m happy you were able to step away and acknowledge that this was not for you. Many people run back to toxic relationships so it is wise for you to run away from it. You tried your hardest to help this person, so despite what she has tried to blame on you it was not your fault. You gave her love as authentically as you could form it, she made the mistake of taking it for granted and using you for it. That was someone who was not worth it, a poor investment. Continue to run and watch out for similar signs, rebuild this love in yourself first. You deserve someone in your likeness with pureness in their heart and sanity. I pray you are able to find this one day my friend🙏🏽 God Bless
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
@Jose-lz6cw
4 ай бұрын
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
@jack-gx
4 ай бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@Jose-lz6cw
4 ай бұрын
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@jack-gx
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@heyitsant
3 ай бұрын
@@Jose-lz6cwthat’s basically witchcraft magic
This is my first break up from my first real realtionship. Ive already watched 4 of your videos and while its not anything that i havent already heard it is said in a way that makes a lot of sense. My biggest problem right now is that i see her everywhere in everything i do. Not literally, but the radio, my alarm clock, my bed, my couch, the painting she made on my wall, the necklace she gave me. And thats all before leaving my apartment. Im currently staying at my parents' because i just dont want to be home right now. She has the same job as me too, so even work makes me think of her. Now im laying in an unfilmaliar bed and the last bed i slept in that wasnt mine was her's. I thought a change of scenery would help, but my mind still correlates everything to her. We like a lot of the same stuff so everything i enjoy reminds me of her in some way. Granted we only broke up 2 days ago so i wouldnt expect to get over her so soon, i just didnt realize it hurts this much. She was a lot of firsts for me and i never thought heartbreak would be on that list.
6 Months have passed, she has a new boyfriend within a month, Dumped me through text. Im okay tho, just craving love and validation. Joined a basketball team which was good for me. But still got so much questions. Almost have no friends, just looking for them but scared to go out and meet new people, and dont know how. Time will heal, Also 'just date' no one wants to go on a date, im not meeting people that want to. and dating apps don't work for me. But i will be okay. Just give it time💝💝
@user-ot7px3ew4x
4 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry about .... My 5yrs relationship just ended...my ex boyfriend left me for his ex girlfriend after finding she's Rich It hurts so much.😭😭😭😭 Sending ❤❤ from Nigeria
@summericecoffee
3 ай бұрын
Do you wanna become friends? I can use a good friend too!
@racingdriveras
3 ай бұрын
@@summericecoffee sure, you got discord?
@casicc1330
2 ай бұрын
I personally used dating apps (for example 'boo') to find new friends. And two people I've met there actually changed my whole life within 1-2 months and helped me to change my environment and be surrounded by new people. Don't give up, I believe you'll definitely find the place you are destined to be in ❤️ just keep trying. I wish you all the best!!!
Broke up. We weren't compatible. Everything was amicable. I wonder if it's wise to still keep contact?
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
I think that’s a personal question for you, but in my experience the feelings have always been there even if they aren’t at the front. I would still let go.
@toppat_royale
4 ай бұрын
I see. I still have those extensive conversations saved on WhatsApp and Telegram, I'm having a dispute whether to keep or delete them.@@joeykidney
there's no thought popping UP, it's just literally there the whole time,playing like some kinda bg music
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
time will help. Which is such an annoying answer but it truly does
@timbtms
4 ай бұрын
Totally relate brother, we will survive that
People told me : wrote the bad things when you start fantasizing..but i just feel drained thinking about the hurt i put up with...
it sucks because you imagine everything in your life with them then you lose yourself
I just love the music behind this.... the instrumentals just touch a part of my soul .
i did the right thing, keeping her as a friend is always been a bad idea, idk whats her intention but in order to make myself healed, i have to let her go fully
The thoughts of her being sexual with anyone else is what kills me every. Single. Time. How do I stop thinking of it??
I don't cry anymore... the pain is easier now. I do nails, hair, massages. I stay very, very busy!
Joey thank you, specifically, for the last part. We don’t change the flower, we change the environment it’s in.
I have been dating her for almost an year, i loved her with all my heart and even came to a point were we planned our future ahead and 2 weeks before we hit our one year mark she broke up with me. The reason being she was scared that what if her parents do not approve of us and she was scared to take our relationship ahead, she said its better to end now than in the next 5 years, now i kept fighting for her and i was even ready to talk to her parents regarding this but not at the moment as we still have time as i am currently 22 and she being 21 but she never listened and replied saying "I know that it can't continue, i do not want you to keep hopes". This really broke me into pieces thinking how can someone change that quickly and everything was completely normal a day prior. ------- I have never loved anyone like how i used to love her.
Stay you crew ❤ thank you for this
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
love this crew
Honestly one thing that's always helped me short term was some simple material upgrades. Relationship ended and you cancelled a big expensive date? Take that money and get better bedsheets for yourself, some better-fitting shirts, a plant or wall picture you've been eyeing for a while. Guys are more object-oriented than women so making little changes around your house and apartment can help, or plan a trip, give yourself something to look forward to while you have to put a lot of mental energy into planning something. All these other steps are great too, this is just one other thing that's helped me.
I have been single for 2 years and I just can't seem to move on...I feel lost and unwanted...
Thank you so much… really needed this right now
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
I’m glad it found you
Wonderful advice! It was healing watching this video. Thanks!
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
Thanks so much!
What if you don’t want to move on? Because that’s when it becomes real.
You’re so smart and beautiful. You go through so much, yet you’re here for us.
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
I’m going through it all alongside with you:)
@luguy8347
4 ай бұрын
@@joeykidney I wish you peace of mind.
What's a heart? 😅 I've learnt, if you don't let anyone in. You can't get hurt again 😅
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
Then you’ll just end up hurting yourself
Thank you so much for this video. I left my ex yesterday because he treated me poorly during the whole relationship. I know I deserve better but it still hurts so much. Your video and your calm voice made me feel at peace for a moment
I’ve been separated for 6 years and it’s still not any easier. My husband says he doesn’t want a divorce but he’s to afraid to disappoint his family to be with me. His family is awful. I know I should probably go ahead with the divorce but I keep holding out for …nothing. It’s truly a nightmare.
but i still love him more than anything. the worst part is that im scared ill forget. im scared that things wont remind me of him anymore. i never want to forget him but at the same time i know its over. half of me wants to text him, call him or anything but i know that i cant, hes trying to move on too. everything in my room reminds me of him. everywhere i go hes on my mind. hes the person i thought i was going to spend the rest of my life with and even now i still dont want anyone else.
@sochxrri16
3 ай бұрын
I feel you, I really do…hurts like hell :(
My ex broke up with me yesterday because he lost feelings but that video really helped me thank u sm
Love this .... Joey thank u so much for all ur advices .... it really help me ... Continue and I wish u more success in ur life 💫💫
Today my girlfriend broke up with me. This video may help idk. She loved me so much but she change her type of man i one day. I m sad.
@James16jj8
Ай бұрын
How are you holding up bro?
The problem is that I'm in his friend group, and if I Go through no contact then I won't have any friends that I can talk to everyday.
How do I replace my school or the way where I go home or my tuition where I see her a lot of times... It's impossible for me to forget her... Trust me... She plays into my mind when I close my eyes... Open my eyes... Do whatever... Everything I did was for her and now... I can't do anything... The only thing that's in my mind is death... I want her back... But she said she has lost her feelings... I'm dead bro...
You really have a way of connecting to people and helped me let some of my emotions out. Im thankful
I have BPD, which sometimes causes me to lose my temper and say terrible things. While it's no excuse, I completely lose control when my abandonment issues are triggered, leading to verbal outbursts. The anger consumes me, and I often don't remember what I said. I could accept being left if they cheated or under other circumstances, but losing two amazing people due to my temper is devastating. It's making me doubt if I'll ever be able to maintain a healthy relationship. Growing up with an abusive childhood and an absent, alcoholic father has shaped my people-pleasing tendencies, low self-worth, and unclear boundaries. I don't know how to move on. I've never been a player, but if love hurts this much, maybe low-commitment situationships make more sense. I'm doing therapy, cold showers, meditation - the whole gamut - but when I'm triggered, nothing seems to help. When I lose control, I really lose control. I don't know if I can go through this again. What's the point of life if you can't love?
Thank you Joey! I really needed this, last Monday I cut off the contact with a boy. He didn’t seemed interested in me and was acting weird. I found out he was seeing another girl… I’m heartbroken, i hope this helps ❤️
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
I’m glad you took that step for yourself
It's been 3 weeks, and there's so much news I'm being told about how she wanted us to be a secret, how she's gotten back with her ex that treats her less than human...and them sneaking around in the office. It just hurts, thinking about them together when I don't want to just makes me angry and sad that they're people like that. I know I'll be okay, but going to work and sensing her presence has been hard.
“It's sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew.” :( Just blocked her on everything since I found out shes dating someone. Im glad shes happy but, it just hurts.
Nearly a year together. The relationship was very healthy. We called everyday, we both listened, I took her out on dates. Great emotional and physical chemistry and same core values. Good open communication and conflict resolution, I loved her parents and they loved me. We broke up because I wasn't sure I was going to stay in the US long term and she didn't want to risk getting even more hurt later down the road. Even though I had a job and was planning on staying a several years, it's wasn't enough for her. (I'm Canadian) 3 months goes by and I make the decision to stay long term, only to find out she already moved on to someone else - Going on international trips and making new memories together. It made me feel so cheap. Like I was easy to get over, like our time together meant nothing... It feels like a betrayal. One second your best friend is there talking to you till 2am and the next she's gone, doing all those things with someone else...
I hope you can find someone love you too joey. Thanks for this videos 🙏 ❤
I know time is the best medicine, but she left me at such a period where I have little to no time left to face one of the biggest challenges of my life. Where I should be preparing, being ready for it, she made my colorful life pointless suddenly with huge deals of betrayal.
I really liked my best friend and my love for him was so gradual and pure. There was a week where we crossed the line of platonic friends, and now he’s on his own path and doesn’t want to hang out like we used to. It feels like a friendship breakup because it just seems like we don’t vibe at all anymore. He liked me at one point too, but I got friend zoned, and now it feels like I don’t even have a friend left. Honestly feels just as bad as a breakup.
I felt like my ex was my life and we did everything together. Recently going on dates and hanging out sucks because I know that with them would be so much better and I could imagine what we would be doing different. But I am convincing myself of that. Because if it was so good we wouldn’t be broken up. The mindset is the most important
Thanks for the videos man. you don't understand how much you're helping. ❤
What helped me is, just get mad, I got angry at her over messages and it feels so refreshing afterwards
I don't think the "No Contact" rule always should be followed. Me and my ex broke up last december, but we never broke contact, because we still wanted to be good friends, and that's what we are now, tho we don't talk as much anymore. It is also very hard to follow this rule when you have the same classes...
@jessiefianu6881
3 ай бұрын
My ex on the other hand didn't want friendship when I requested for it and didn't even fight for a second chance even though I brought it up. For someone who claimed I was his best for 3 years, this really scarred and traumatized me. It's been over 10months and I still feel the pain. I tried reaching out to him via email, whatsapp and countless phone calls all to no avail and I've not gotten any closure. Love sucks
@thestrengthreport7517
Ай бұрын
@@jessiefianu6881I had to cut communication with my ex because she was just using me as someone to sleep with while she was out talking to other men. It hurt me to do that but I had to realize my worth and the pain of being used like that outside of a relationship. Sometimes men cut contact because it’s easier for us to get over the pain and move on.
👇People who treated "Talking to a professional" watching Joey
That's what I do. I avoid my ex at all costs. I'm over him, but I met this other guy just as a friend. However, we didn't get along within 2 weeks our friendship had taken a turn. I don't even go to the gym at the same time that he does. I even changed my number. That's how much I don't want to hear from him.
Not only my girlfriend My whole world is collapsing 3 years away from my family A war happening in my country Lost most of my friends before seeing them when i get back because they're died during the conflict Living alone After all that had a breakup 💔 I truly feel dieing while im still breathing i can't even cry!
That’s why I’m tryna make friends to to play games with too avoid the pain. Yet that’s a problem she doesn’t understand.
Sad music is not a good choice at all
Great video man! The way she broke up with me definitely blindsided me and she made me feel so guilty about mistakes, making me feel I was responsible for it, while she never took any actions and accountability for her mental health problems. Within two weeks of breaking up, she hooked up with a guy, and her bedroom still had the things I gave her, like the card I wrote for her was right next to her bed, the condom wrapper was on top of it, she lied to me about not seeing people and cried on my shoulder that she's very sad . The way I found this out was, I had her keys, went into her apartment when she wasn't there, and found all this out, I was again devastated, but that was closure for me
Broke up about a month ago. Stopped contact going on two weeks and I feel like shit. She had changed prior to the break up, more distant and less affectionate. I tried to keep things going but then saw one day she was leaving comments on other men's pictures and that was the final straw for me. I still miss her and think about if what I did was right.
Thank you mr joey
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
thank you!
In 13 and just got broken up with I thought about our future all the time I had our 1. Month anniversary marked in my calendar next thing I know I’m single and I haven’t been myself since but your videos really help me to cope and get over it thank you Joey.
I was watching amazing spiderman on tv and i suddenly remember this guy😅
It’s so frustrating because I originally ended my relationship because I simply had come back home from the country I went to for a year abroad and where she lives and realized I wasn’t going back in the foreseeable future. But then I started to notice all these things about our relationship that would have been a roadblock regardless if it wouldn’t have been distance that ended it. It’s still so difficult tho, I struggle so much even trying to listen to the bands and artists we both loved, or even remembering the conversations and memories we had together without getting sentimental. I also know that im not anywhere near a position yet physically let alone emotionally just quite yet to start dating again, and im really unsure if i’ll be able to connect with anyone like i was able to with her. I kind of just wish I could stop worrying about the past or finding love in the future, and just focus on myself and getting my life back together. I wish I could just let go of love for a while and not try- just let it happen naturally again when it does, but I’m so worried it won’t unless I actively get on apps or social media again, which I really don’t want to do.
Did everything for a year. Nothing changed. Sucks so bad because I don't like the early stages of dating except I already have a crush on that person.
my stroy is so fucking wierd that i think i am gonna make a movie on it
How do i give my girlfriend space i screwed up and she wanted a brake to fix myself but how do i stop myseld of thinking about her worrying about her cuz i was to text her but shes ghosting me
How would you best heal when the love of your life (and fiancé, dating for 3 years) starts binge drinking (as a result of grief) which leads to physical abuse towards me. So much so, that the relationship has to end, and she could still not take responsibility. It's so hard to lose a best friend and partner because they transform into somebody you don't recognize. You still see their heart and love and trust them. And yet, they are unable to comprehend the severity of their behavior? It's been 5 months and i still miss her so much
Thank you, just thank you
Really wanted to marry her but I guess all good things have to come to an end right ? I miss her but I suppose I just have to cherish the experience and love we had and move on fr
My life right now… 2,5 years down the line. Supposed to get engaged this summer. Life happens
Do you think, I can be friends with my ex just after we broke up? She alredy found someone else and I dont like this guy. I feel like she is a good person and we broke up in a good way and now she is dating someone who is like far worse than me and I hate the reality.
My ex broke up with me because of me honestly not listening , honestly she was my first girlfriend and I was still adjusting into the dating life what i saw the relationship lacked communicating and yesterday everything clashed we couldn't even hold a conversation she broke up with me I tried to bring her back she forgave me. Then Said "she is a person with a lot going on in her life , and feels like my type is not her and that I deserve better" I tried to switch that up but she reply with "block me".
thank you joey
My boyfriend left me just 2or 3 days ago ....he was cheating on me with his ex for 3 months "he was not over with".....he said he was the one who started thing and that he is the one ending it ......even after forgiving him for all his mistakes.....never blaming him fir anything....he still left me ....just because of his ex ....i gave up my self respect for my love ....but he didn't seemed to care about it at all.....and i dont know what to do now .....
Two weeks. It’s harder every day.
she left because her parents didnt accept our relationship so instead of fighting for us she decided to end it permanently..
I broke up with my girl cuz of alot of problem we are simply incompatible look ik it hurts leaving someone you love but it’s not meant to be especially if it’s your first rlt she now has a new bf in less than a month and he’s my close friend but just move on let it go you’ll lose feelings within a couple of months just don’t care anm
I miss Joey
joey, I am new to you and i came to this video first. You probably already have the answer to my question in another video but i don't have the time to scroll all the videos. So I was wondering how long your relationship was before you went through this hard breakup? how long was it before you got into your current relationship? I have been in this current relationship for 5 1/2 6 years and while we are still living together and are together but I am going through a deep depression because I know we are going to end so Im trying to learn to prepare so the depression doesnt get worse. I cant bare the thought of all the time i invested in this man and I will be gone like the blink of an eye for him when it ends because he is a narcissist.... please help answer some questions - I was brought to you for a reason....Im struggling on how to handle the inevitable thank you, Christina
Thanks a lot.
Idk man i neglected my friends because i was too focused on her and now after she left i have no friends and the loneliness at night is way too hard to handle
The first real love of my life cheated with a friend and left me after i moved to another country for her six months ago and two years together, we just got a new apartment togehter and one week later she is gone. She said she cant be in a relationship with just me and she felt everything is too much for her and she just came to accept that, so she did what she had to do. I have no idea how to deal with all this, every person i know in this City i know because of her, every Place i love is her Place and i cant go there anymore, same goes for the People i called Friends here. I feel like i am all alone. Last night i was close to end my life cause i saw no other way out, i am so afraid that i can never recover from this and trust another person this much for the rest of my life. I guess only time can tell..
Joey, you're such an angel..it worked n helped...You always help me! i'm grateful to you, always and forever! And i'm your forever fan! Blessings
Hey Joey, I hope you or someone down here can respond haha. So I have this hoodie with flying patches because I'm an air cadet, I know so cliché right? But it's the hoodie my ex stole for the relationship and gave back afterward... Is this holding me back? I can't bring myself to wear it anymore but it still has previous meaning too. Each patch has a story, yet it's all clouded by the larger thought of her. what do you think is my next step?
Feels like a pain that will never go. I can't sleep, hardly eating, I'm trying, spending alot of money eating out so I'm surounded by people and I'm not in my tiny flat alone. I have no desire to cook for myself, which is something I love to do. I have to force myself to shower, eveything feels so pointless. I keep battling every day trying to survive it, sometimes it feels like I just can't live anymore without that person. They were everything to me, why do I do this to myself? I want love and family and a person, a partner, but each time this happens I have to ask myself is it worth the pain if it's gone oneday? I know I'm not alone but it sure feels like it.
@chichman83
3 ай бұрын
you're not alone, it's been two months since the breakup and it's still not good..many memories. it's even worse because the ex lives right next door.. we're neighbors
@jessiefianu6881
3 ай бұрын
The one person who made me believe in love gave up on me, ghosted me and couldn't tell me he was tired. I had to find out the hard way and I haven't been the same since then. And it's funny how I can't share with anyone other than a platform where no one knows me. I believe you will get better with time. Sending you lots of love and hugs.
I got cheated on with 2 people😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
hopefully this isnt another you tuber channel that does not care to respond back to comments?!?!?????!??? we will see
That Starbucks thing resonates, it's the same with me, not Starbucks but other places and doing other things, I'll try the replacement thing where I can, we used to go into what you would call a thrift store and buy second hand things, she was the only person I would go there with but now I can't even bring myself to walk past it.
This is so hard, bcs I feel like such a loser. We weren't even really together. I had a crush on him, he had a crush on me, but I have a boyfriend whom I love so intensly, but he isn't ready to open our relationship and be polyamorous with me, so I had to say that to my crush and he blocked me. He's also after a break up with his gf of 2 years and not handling it well. And I can't stop thinking about him. I'm just heartbroken bcs I know that if I stop obsessing over him, it'll be over. I will never see him again. And it makes me want to cry just thinking about how true that is.
How to accept the fact that she is happy without me? 😅
@joeykidney
4 ай бұрын
Accept the fact that she left without you
It hurts me when my girlfriend behaviour change after she gets a job in overseas. We LDR for 1 year already and 3 more years to go. She looks me as her problem in our relationship. Even she also annoyed when i need her attention. It’s suffocate me a lot. I don’t know what to do now because it hurts to let her go 😢
dont even know if im gonna get a response or not but, I guess this is that happens in a long distance relationship, we were both literally obsessed with each other and couldn't spend a minute away, it was lovely and wonderful throughout the year until like, roughly the middle of everything, weve been together for almost a year now and since she is basically my first real lover and relationship I guess my feelings are thoughts are obviously gonna be stronger and maybe heavier but, she just doesn't pay attention anymore, shes super dry, doesn't really care about me anymore, has removed some matching stuff we had, it even hurts more because shes said so many times that we were gonna marry but here we are, and I mean the thing is we arent really broken up, yet I guess... it just really really feels like it, and we used to talk about our mentality, emotions and feelings a lot but she has avoidant attachment stuff and now out of the blue doesn't wanna talk about much anymore, especially mentality and feelings so I've had literally no one to talk to but my own thoughts and head, it hurts, a lot, I really do want us to work out more than anything but it all just feels so heavy now, literally last Sunday and Monday I vomited because I just felt so stressed about this whole thing, and I guess I'm watching videos related to topics like this one to like, prepare myself for the worst, I have written a long text about how I feel and I want to read it out in a voice note to her but I just feel like its gonna be too overwhelming for her and shes just gonna end it because of it, I'm just scared to look for others I guess because shes made me feel loved and feel things I've never felt before and actually treated me right but now there's nothing, not even a compliment, we haven't talked verbally for like almost 2 weeks now aswell, only texting, I hope I will be fine and thank you.
Hi Joey, my first relationship ended because she went work in another country for one month and when she came back she was diferent and we talk and decide to end the relationship, we finish a one year relationship because one month, we did have plans for our future when we are getting marry, What names were we going to give our children, everything we lived for one and another for a entire year and than boom my world came down, i ask her for space and she give me that space but one day she send me a message and we start talking all over again... but in one way i was happy and on another way i was sad because i felt the fellings all over again, i really dont know what to do? im struggling a lot and its getting worse every single day, maybe i should go way and dont talk to her anymore or go live in another place because i go out and anywhere i go i have memories with her, do you have any advice for me? thanks for your time.
My situation is so complicated and ig i’ll explain. So i keep breaking up with my ex-girlfriend and getting back with her, but today i said that im breaking up and i dont wanna date ever again. The thing is this girl M likes my ex, L. They might date which makes me jealous even though i dont like either of them. I js wanna die so bad right now and i kinda want her to move away
And now she is a single mom 😂
Bro thanks I was looking for solution to just let go and I did but when the night comes bro I really think of her😢😢😢