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@nnnev_

2 ай бұрын

It's hard to get rid of toxic people, and once you encounter new people, this video just shows if you should get close which helps avoiding toxic people again. It's a hard decision to leave them in any kind of way, so it's the best to be prepared. Youre all like a therapist to me, And I appreciate it

@AishaMCoupons

2 ай бұрын

Interesting video. Didn't like the voice.

@clawtygerz7983

2 ай бұрын

I'd rather choose & appreciate a : Pick me girl If you can't handle me at my worst Lovebomber Time traveler Than being stuck with : A hard to get girl A gold digger A ho And someone who lies and cheats.

@jackiecastillo2484

2 ай бұрын

Ya I rather be alone than having to deal w the wrong person. So I'm not gonna date.

@gloriaburd7609

2 ай бұрын

Very informative; not crazy about the voice, though.

"Turns out, I'm all of them"

@imaboostedanimal2774

2 ай бұрын

Everyone is most of them to some extent, i think. It only becomes a problem if it's in the extremes

@WilonaMinaWalker

2 ай бұрын

You obviously don't get the reference ​@@imaboostedanimal2774

@nekrotiz

2 ай бұрын

I'm guilty too😂

@PurplEBubluE

2 ай бұрын

all of it is my crush 😭

@mikeoxmall69420

2 ай бұрын

The infinity red flags

I think another type of person that would be smart to stay away from, is a very depressed person that trauma dumps in almost all conversations. Not to say depressed people can't be in relationships (heck, I am), but being exposed to so much negativity for a while stirs up this chronic insecurity about how your SO is doing, and that it's your responsibility to keep them happy when it might be totally unrealistic. Then you forget to take care of yourself. I just stopped an emotionally vulnerable friend from entering this sort of relationship because I've been there myself and holy hell was it a roller coaster ride.

@livex38

2 ай бұрын

I agree, had the same experience in the past and almost lost a part of myself.

@DominantBtch

2 ай бұрын

I think you just have to be a selfless person to date this person.

@Fury2580

2 ай бұрын

​​@@DominantBtch selflessness also has its limits though. A relationship should balance the weight of responsibility between both parties to keep the relationship healthy, otherwise it's like trying to win a team game as a solo player. Of course understanding your partner's short-comings is crucial as well. People should always grow from a relationship.

@RealNorbol

2 ай бұрын

Yeah, I really don't want to end up as that kind of person which is why I tend to not tell anyone about my problems.

@noahwalker8359

2 ай бұрын

Trauma dumping is something to think about, but really it becomes bad once it’s projecting insecurities from the past to their partner. That’s when it’s time to walk away.

NARCISSISM. Narcissistic crush was the worst of my life experiences. Pain, trauma, long recovery. This is pure evil hidden inside, not person. Avoid.

@user-yj4sh1zu4h

2 ай бұрын

I wish they came with a red flag on their head itself

@ChocoParfaitFra

2 ай бұрын

Same, I can’t trust men now thanks to my ex. Also it disturbs me because it was a long distance relationship and he didn’t do exactly the things that narcissists usually do so I’ve always wondered what kind of person he is, even if my therapist said he’s a narcissist 😂

@DuchessofEarlGrey

2 ай бұрын

Narcissism is a neurological disorder. Being evil is doing something wrong when you know it's wrong, to serve your own purposes. Narcissists don't see their actions as wrong. Not to say their negative actions are acceptable, of course.

@RTZ_199M

2 ай бұрын

​@@ChocoParfaitFradont be discouraged dear❤ maybe you met wrong person but dont judge them learn to forgave becouse were humans after all if you learn to forgave you will learn how to love again and live a fulfilling life ❤

@ampm8210

2 ай бұрын

Agreed

Timestamps 1). The pick me 0:22 2). If you can't handle me at my worst 1:04 3). The ghost whisper 1:37 4). The mirror, mirror on the wall 2:15 5). The lovebomber 2:59 6). The time traveler 3:45 7). The serial monologuer 4:10 8). The social media stalker 4:42 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

@myrxgg

2 ай бұрын

You edited this like 5 times 😂 but thx

@A55a551n

2 ай бұрын

​@@myrxggeach time more information was added to the comment

@IceESole

2 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!..🙌🏽🥰

@A55a551n

2 ай бұрын

@@IceESole not a problem

@Lacey-hz9tp

2 ай бұрын

I hope you have a good day too thanks 💙

Another take: Don't date the extremely toxic person. At first, the relationship may seem fine, but when you're at your lowest point, they'll dump you like you've never existed, and when you try to fix it. They're not here for you. Happened to me once, now I'm fully aware

@HEATHENS5074

2 ай бұрын

never got the apeal about ppl dating toxic ppl

I'm afraid being one of them without realizing it, need therapy after this to fix myself.

@SpaghettiKidd

2 ай бұрын

Already checked a few boxes. Gotta take a good look at myself.

@neowolf09

2 ай бұрын

Self awareness is the first step to healing. It was the hardest one for me and my toxic issues. Wishing you both the best. You can do it. ❤ ​@@SpaghettiKidd

@d4darwin458

2 ай бұрын

Yeah I used to be a time traveller But I guess I had to go through that to be who I am now so yeah😄

@indridcold8433

Ай бұрын

I avoid everybody and have no friends, nor a girlfriend. But, I am not planning on therapy for this. I find that having no friends nor a girlfriend has no negative impact on my life at all. In fact, I found an enormous amount of benefits from having nobody in my life. Perhaps you should consider social isolation. I chose social isolation because I can not tell who would be a good friend verses a fake trying to get close to somebody so they can take all they can at the slightest bit of need or weakness. Do not get therapy. Just forget trying to find other people. They are not worth the effort. Nobody needs friends Nora romantic interest. They are just unneeded luxuries.

@Dolritto

Ай бұрын

Guilty of love bombing and time traveling, I feel deeply ashamed of myself and wish her all the best after.

Don't date extreme people-pleasers. They won't tell you if something is wrong, they'll just agree with everything you say and be passive. You won't really know if they are happy or not. But when you break up and you'll try to fix at least your friendship with them, they'll tell you how they didn't like you at all, that you were so bad partner and what everything what did you do wrong. But you won't really know about all these things until one moment when they throw at you everything. It happened to me and it hurt because I was really trying hard to be the best partner I could. But he just didn't tell me something is wrong. Sorry for grammatic errors xd

i think you should avoid people that expect something from you that they don't have, like they say i like someone who cares about me, but they don't care about you

That "Social Media Stalker" part hit HARD. I had a great relationship for 3 years or so; not perfect but I did my best to keep it together, even through the pandemic and a few conflicting opinions. Eventually she found some posts on social media about my previous ex from like 6 years earlier, and started making the worst assumptions about me. I made a poorly-thought out comment that she should "stop letting her assumptions breed with each other", and things were over pretty quickly after that. I truely appreciate this advice, thank you.

@Psych2go

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for haring! Thank you for sharing your experience. It's unfortunate how social media can sometimes amplify misunderstandings. Have you had a chance to reflect on what you've learned from this situation?

I’m dating the opposite of the time traveler. He’s said he has a lot of trauma from his past so discussing or asking about his past is a boundary for him but we also don’t talk about the future much. He says he wants to live in the moment, which when we are together is fun but it makes me feel like our relationship has no real future.

@grand-dadmiral

2 ай бұрын

I dated someone much the same. The inability to look into the future predicated commitment issues I wish I saw sooner. It had no future.

@VenusVariation

2 ай бұрын

It doesn’t. That’s prob why he doesn’t want to talk about it. Why not forgo this person to date someone you CAN talk about the past (in a healthy way), present and future with??

@elvinfp

2 ай бұрын

He needs to see a therapist for sure. At least he's self-aware about having trauma... but his refusal to talk about the past or future is absolutely not healthy. I'd say if he's not willing to seek professional help and work on himself, there's no future in this relationship, just as you said. Have a talk with him, if you can. Maybe you can help nudge him in the right direction.

Personal take: If you feel that someone you want to date or even befriend or already know feels/seems or just is judgemental, see if you can help the person to acknowledge this flaw and show that they’re genuinely working on it, if they don’t care or don’t want to or can’t notice this and can’t be bothered to do something about it, run away, because they will zap you of energy and confidence really fast.

@CircumcisionIsChildAbuse

2 ай бұрын

finding where our judgment comes from will bring you to our insecurities. a person who judges others harshly- judge themselves harsher than you can imagine. thats why it doesnt exhaust them to constantly argue- they do it nonstop to themselves. imagine hitting yourself over and over again- and then meeting someone who doesn't. it won't take many hits before they get annoyed. but it will take a lot of hits to annoy the other person.

@2736492821

2 ай бұрын

I love psychtogo but I downvoted this vid cos it feels black and white and just not the thing this channel seems to be promoting. Conversely, I love yr take!

@xxxarimaxxx

2 ай бұрын

This comment thread I'd incredibly insightful

@CircumcisionIsChildAbuse

2 ай бұрын

@UCVGDVfJH3UjWh2L7xCE3kBQ for it NOT to be black and white, you're looking at individual therapy. Black and white is what you get with statistical averages. The averages erase the individual, and the individual is the grey area.

@CircumcisionIsChildAbuse

2 ай бұрын

@@xxxarimaxxx Meh, comments keep getting censored

If you cant handle me at my worst, I cant blame you, that shit is rediculous. I honestly used to do the mirror thing, its a mark of someone who is insecure, its like, they might like me if im more like them, it doesnt work. As ive gotten more confident ive stopped doing it, and im happier for it.

Another one that should make into the list: The Stick-To-You-Like-Flypaper. The clingy and possessive types--the ones that ORDERS you to stay away from your friends and other loved ones. "Wanna have quality time with your friends and loved ones? Why bother when you have me?" These people gonna be receiving the "thank you, next" straight up from me. Lol.

28 year old Virgin With Autism, Bipolar Depression, Anxiety, OCD,ADHD, schizophrenia traits. When had break down @ 21 years old the Doctors told me Odds are very Low and we need to get you to hold a Job for 1 year also majority in your mental health history Homeless, In and out of mental health facilities ECT. I've been oddly stable since 24 So far about to cross 1 year Market with 400$ week retail job

@MrERRada

2 ай бұрын

I wish you the greatest of blessings. I have autism, bipolar, anxiety, ADHD, with schizophrenic traits as well. I'm in my 40s, life's not easy, but I'm truly blessed. No wife, no kids, but my life has been blessed. Stay strong my friend, God walks with you. 🙏

@Finnkiller4147

2 ай бұрын

Good job. And good luck :)

@VenusVariation

2 ай бұрын

Wishing you luck! You are a survivor! Can’t wait to hear about your thriving too!

@karolinakula9859

2 ай бұрын

This brings me some hope ❤ I'm 19, asexual, autistic with hashimoto, had depression for several years at this point I also had an alcoholic mother (she got sober when I got 18) also deal with anxiety and amnesia (mainly anterograde, long story short after covid my hashimoto worsened, that's how it got diagnosed). But somehow the world blessed me this year with an extremely understanding boyfriend (24) he's been unemployed since finishing high school and has his own issues (one of them also having an alcoholic mother, lovely). We can now deal with everything together, yet it's still very hard, because I tried going to University but after 3 months I got burnt out, he also tries applying for different jobs, but keeps getting rejected so yea. I hope that everyone like us will find their way of living and having fun. I also wish that in the future there will be better support and we'll be able to live peacefully and still be ourselves. 🙏

@zweisteinya

2 ай бұрын

Blessings on all you brave souls

Be careful and stay healthy guys ❤

That part about the "time traveler" hits really hard for me.. Sometimes its hard to let go of the past or worry about the future. Something i still struggle with to this day. Compared to now i'm alot more aware of this feeling & i'm currently working on it. Im trying my best to live in the present by being grateful of my past achievements & thinking of certain events or person who have changed me for the better. Also I've been focusing on things i enjoy or are of special interest like music production & life sciences

I have met a lot of serial monologuers. A lot of times I was around other people and they would talk and talk nonstop and they would not let me talk. Every time I try to speak they would constantly interrupt me. It’s very upsetting for me and I don’t want a relationship with a partner who does that.

Love being here🥺❤️this page saved my life 3 years ago

@Psych2go

2 ай бұрын

This is the best comment ever.. you made my day! Thank you for being here and believing in our work! Do you remember what was your first video you watched?

@nnnev_

2 ай бұрын

IM SO PROUD OF YOU FOR STAYING HERE!! Keep it up, I believe in you!

@niexey

2 ай бұрын

@@Psych2go my first watched video was based on the different types of fathers and how their relationship affects their daughters and i found my issue worked on it and so far im happy🥺❤️

@mariakatsalirou4900

2 ай бұрын

Same

@Mariam-qu9hm

2 ай бұрын

​@@Psych2go you're saving the lives of so many❤❤

I was caught by a lovebomber...Kinda. She toyed with me for about 3 weeks and then just said "Actually, I don't like you. It was all just a joke and I wanted to see how far I could take it" I thought "am I a joke?" ever since then I haven't talked to a new girls because of this fear of being completely played.

@svetlanafilipovic2745

Ай бұрын

🤢 give yourself the time to forget all about that "person"

Thank you for this video. I've been single 6 months now and I don't think I'll be in a relationship anytime soon. I'm still soul searching and I'm okay with that❤

I'm not perfect, but I am always trying to be a better person. One thing I always pass on is someone who's nice to me one day & mean to me the next. ✌✌

I haven’t watched this channel in so long. WHAT HAPPENED TO THE GIRL VOICE??😭😭😭 congrats on the transition I suppose

@Psych2go

2 ай бұрын

Amanda is still here! We have a small team and wanted to give others a chance to shine too!

@nnnev_

2 ай бұрын

It changed since the last video I thinkk? I still like this one tbh but I agree the old voice is quite nostalgic

@vezziGD

2 ай бұрын

@@nnnev_ I’m not saying the new one is bad by any means! I’m just surprised cuz I always associated this channel with the old voice actress.

Mannn this type of information is what keeps me single. thanks :/

@shibanimmanohar687

2 ай бұрын

Your comment is epic shit!

As someone with BPD, DSED, DPD and MDD I'm destined to die alone, I hope this is my last breath, I'm not prepared to be alone my whole life but I don't wanna ruin someone else's life, they deserve someone better, I deserve to disappear, take care, guys! Thanks for this vid ❤

@SbkJay98

2 ай бұрын

You deserve to live. Dont cross out your future already. You have a purpose and there is someone for everyone. You can still grow and develop and thrive. If you want love you have to work on yourself to get the right kinda love and true love takes time to find because there could be someone else out there thinking the same way as you and that bc could be your purpose but you can’t give up now.

@IceESole

2 ай бұрын

👻

@Shadowfan911

2 ай бұрын

This is kinda dark 💀💀💀

@M.4y

2 ай бұрын

Heyy. Also BPD human here. It took me a while, but I'm slowly healing. You'll get someone and be honest with your mental illness when you're dating. That's what I did and I met the right people who really care:)

@Richiko06

2 ай бұрын

There is someone out there for you! And your life is worth living and you are loved! Even if it may not seem like it Jesus loves you too! God gives us the desires of our hearts according to His will! True love is one of them hon! God bless you I’ll be praying for you. I’ve been right where you are. 😢it gets better!

I'm a love bomber, but I don't manipulate. I just love giving someone a bunch of love and treats(if they don't give it back though they don't deserve it yk?), my problem is is that if I do smth that upsets them or if they seem mad I take responsibility even if it wasn't that bad bc I'm scared of losing someone I love truly

@drew.uptown

2 ай бұрын

ditto

@mikloridden8276

2 ай бұрын

Was about to say! I just love giving out and showing love, people don’t like that tho unfortunately. We are labeled either simps or manipulators oh well 🌹

@redheadbelle

2 ай бұрын

Love bombing, focussing very much on your crush, wanting to know a lot about them, mimicking them bcs you truly like them, showing admiration/wanting to impress seem natural to me when you are in love. Watching out for potential red flags though is crucial like withholding attention if you disagree with sth/turning cold/mad. Love is exciting and refreshing but accountability is key.

@redheadbelle

2 ай бұрын

@@mikloridden8276that’s a difference. I love being g showed that Iam loved and love romantic gestures, I really do appreciate them ❤🌹 To love is super! The video educates on whether after the love gestures, the behaviour may change. That’s why it’s important to recognize it from the beginning bcs trauma bonds are surely not a healthy way. Love should be healthy and always genuine. ❤

@Theoneandonlyrealspiderman

2 ай бұрын

@@redheadbelle yup. The thing is, tho is that I did date this person that I gave all my love to, and even now that we aren't together, I still try to make them feel happy, the consequences to that is its a one way train, but when you leave they chase after you. Giving love to someone just feels so right, though, only if you find the right person.

The whole "lovebomber" description hit hard, although I don't think I'd actually use that term to describe what happened. So imagine admitting how you felt to another person, then that person gently rejecting you and quietly exiting your life. The mature thing to do is to move on, right? Only the problem is the person never actually left your social circle, they just avoid you, but simultaneously try to control your life from the outside. Any attempt to move on is deliberately sabotaged. Calling them out on this results in a doxxing and an attempted "cancellation". This was one of the most traumatizing experiences in my life, any person who shows the least bit of interest in me (even if unintentionally or in my head) is now a massive trigger, like it legitimately hurts and I'll turn to alcoholism to dull myself.

@svetlanafilipovic2745

Ай бұрын

Why would someone do things like that?

@svetlanafilipovic2745

Ай бұрын

Does anyone around understand problems in the head of that person?

I THINK I NEED TO WORK ON MYSELF BECAUSE MOST OF THE POINTS GIVEN HERE ARE MYSELF. I REALLY NEED A RETHINK OF MYSELF. THANK YOU PSYCH 2 GO💙.

@VenusVariation

2 ай бұрын

It’s always empowering to realize we may need to change something about ourselves! I wish you the best on your journey

I absolutely love this content. My girlfriend is none of these, but she's closest to the "serial monologer." If you didn't say the stuff about it being difficult to have a conversation with them, and them not listening to you, she would be the serial monologer, and I'd be perfectly fine with that because I don't really like talking that much, I prefer to think more than speak. I love her so much because we're polar opposites on things like this, and we're similar in things that you'd want to be similar with your partner on. It genuinely feels like she completes me and understands me.

I overlooked the “social media stalker” as just being cautious but in reality they’ll turn your world upside down and start making it seem like you’re the one that can’t be trusted lesson learned.

another one is a control freak where that person always is controlling you and stopping whatever u wanna do like going shopping and etc

Always thought after seeing most of vids in yt saying about standards that if someone can't handle you leave... And now i came to know what are real standards ☺️

I’m still trying to find out why I have manipulative tendencies. I’ll be honest with that. It’s not my intention to be manipulative, but I kinda am. I’m aware of these tendencies and want to stop. My main issue is that I’m too trusting. Even with trust issues, I trust people too much. I also feign innocence, mainly to make me a better role model for myself. I feel that if I hide my dirty/inappropriate thoughts from other people and play dumb, I can see myself as less immature. This is because I am actively growing and wanting to help others. But with these manipulation tendencies, it’s very difficult. My version of love bombing is physical touch in appropriate places, excessive joking, and continuous games. What lies behind that is the continuous dirty thoughts rushing through my head. I haven’t acted on them by far and everyone says I’m too innocent to have those thoughts, but I’m actually not. It just makes me feel more secure to hide my insecurities and wear an innocent mask. This doesn’t mean that I’m mean or rude behind the mask, in fact I’m quite the opposite. With or without the mask, I’m still kind and caring, though a bit more stubborn without the mask. I enjoy the sun, doing simple chores, and spending quality time with my family. Heck, even my dog ACTIVELY cuddles close to me! That just shows how much I’m trusted. But I feel that I should be ashamed for being trusted. I’ve obliviously crossed many boundaries because I’m not given warning that specific ones existed. However, I believe I do so because I’ve had my own boundaries crossed. For example, I could be accidentally revealing someone’s secret because they would make fun of my disability to get away with sneaking into class, yet didn’t remember I had publicly announced to my school, “I have autism.” (Whether this is a scenario or an experience I will not say.) Anyways, I’ve got to go to bed on Thursday, April 25, 2024 at 9:57 PM as I type this last paragraph. Have a good night, fuzzies! And please, don’t look for trouble.

Thank you, now I know why everyone hate me so much ❤

i really love this type of videos :)

The artwork in cartoon is so addictive ❤😊Thanks again ;)

Thanks bro! I have never been dating anyone so I will help!

I relate to so many of these. I have so much to learn

I watched this video to see if i was any of them so that i could improve myself and i am not. But i did find out one of my friends is a love bomber. Thanks so much! Your videos are awesome

I bet most of the people went here not to know which people they shouldn't date, but to check if they are these people

Literally everyone has some personality trait like one of the above. This seems like an excuse to just break up with anyone over the smallest bad feelings. No one is perfect dont be nit picky.

@VenusVariation

2 ай бұрын

Yes most people have instances or specific situations like this but on a continuum, most people are not often like this NOT AS a whole character trait.. if the ppl you’re picking are; you need to re-check your toxic meter

I don't see why dating someone insecure is something you shouldn't do as it doesn't necceserily harm you, dating or having a romantic relationship should be about showing special gratitude and fondness for someone you love and recieving it back, NOT a way to climb up status ladders or to be held like some kind of trophy, thinking otherwise feels like something a person with some kind of personality disorder would do

this channel always give me some good advise! =>

Sigh. I'm a total mirror. When you look at yourself, it's just an endless reflecting void of nothingness. Asking yourself if it's worth finding yourself and if I even want to find myself. It's an interesting journey.

@IgnitedSteel6

2 ай бұрын

I feel this. I'm not a total mirror, but I definitely feel that way a little bit sometimes. I'd like to find myself.

The "Houdini" isn't necessarily a commitment-phobe but likely someone with an Avoidant Attachment style (Dismissive Avoidant or Fearful Avoidant)-- It's not that they don't want the commitment, it's that they're afraid of and don't know how to handle emotional intimacy and conflict, so they distance themselves when certain feelings come up. It's more complex than that, of course, so I encourage anyone interested to watch some Heidi Priebe and Thais Gibson videos on attachment styles. They're both very informative. And avoidants should REALLY be in therapy to work on themselves before, during, after, or instead of being in relationships. Relationships can trigger a lot of trauma wounds and bring up shame, which can be great to talk about in therapy, but sometimes that all makes it unhealthy to be in a relationship with someone. It can be so difficult and stressful to be in a relationship with an avoidant who hasn't worked on themself and at least learned how to communicate.

From my last experience in a relationship, my ex scored 4 out of 7 from this video. Thank you.

It seems my attempts to simulate an expression of my love have backfired

I never dated anyone but I used to have this friend who was always depressed. He was always so negative and pessimistic and he would always talk about wanting to kill himself. He would make me sad and I would try to be there for him but there was nothing I could do. Being his friend never helped him to get better, I only made it worse because I was mean to him at times. I felt bad that there was nothing I could do to make him happy, and I am happy we went out separate ways because he is not mentally healthy and he has too many problems. I wish the best for him and I hope he gets help, and it’s also better to not be friends with him cause I was also toxic to him.

Pretty much what I learned from this is that I most likely won’t get someone, due to not having a personality and copying someone elses

I mean sometimes people are going through a very rough time dealing with stuff, nobody's perfect.

Ok so quick tip ask someone if they have a ex and why they broke up cause if they cheated on their ex don't date them it highly likely they'll cheat on you

I think also the kind of person who doesn’t reciprocate in a conversation, for instance you are the one who only talks or shares and they give no response or exchange. It can be daunting in a relationship too 😂

I miss the old days when you dated someone because you both like each other for who you are now it's about what can you offer me

@hanarielgodlike9283

2 ай бұрын

I KNOW RIGHT!

@crow3370

2 ай бұрын

@@hanarielgodlike9283 the dating world is not what it once was

@VenusVariation

2 ай бұрын

Life also didn’t seem so difficult and dating someone you like is fine so long as you’re willing to take the risk (barring abuse exceptions), being getting into in a committed relationship is where these types of awareness things come in.

@crow3370

2 ай бұрын

@@VenusVariation true

I like the Golden Goddesses reference in the thumbnail👍🏼.

I don’t think any of these are me, but I’ll keep an eye on myself just in case.

A ghost whisperer broke me. But nice to know it wasn't me

There are people that keep lying and seeking attention in expense of other peoples trust

I find people attractive and I hate how I'm like this. I don't want to find people attractive. Desire hurts, and I don't want to desire a partner. I hate looking at people and thinking that they're attractive or someone I'd like to get to know more. I'm definitely not someone that needs to be in a relationship. I hope whoever finds me as a potential partner looks away and finds someone else

victim to two people of multiple types: one being the pick me/media stalker and the other being the lovebomber/constant trauma dumper. the latter is not listed in the video, basically means in any conversation they vent about any inconvenience. thats fine occasionally but not when its every time i speak to them. now im aware as hell

I must say... for me.. ITS A BINGOOO

I mean... it's not black and white though. Nobody's perfect. Surely 95% of people may accidentally display some of these traits to a lesser extent, every now and then. That doesn't mean 95% are not datable. It doesn't mean you're not datable. It doesn't mean that you should dismiss anyone who have good intentions, is able to reflect on their own behaviors, and is fundamentally a good person. Also, it doesn't mean that you can't be in a relationship just because you sometimes talk too much, occasionally humble brag, or think get lost in daydreaming about the future. This mentality is a great way of ensuring that you'll be forever alone. It's not about neither you nor a partner being perfect, but about both being kinda okay, while actually trying to get better. The point should be to avoid the malicious and uncaring people. The ones you'd rather not be in a relationship with if you could consider it objectively (which is hard when you're already attached). Unfortunately, I think that was pretty under-communicated in this video. Also if you're even worrying about whether some of these describes you, most likely you're at least not a bad person. Watch out for red flags! But remember: flags comes in all colors and hues. It's not all black and white.

You forgot one of the most toxic: The Red Flag Supervisor: That person who overanalise people and put them into cathegories, looking for a potential red flag and deal breakers. Those kind of people are so in fear of being hurt that they will leave you at slight sign of imperfection.

@teodoraslozoraitis7409

2 ай бұрын

That is so true. I learned that the hard way. It was in sociL media though, but the experience was really nasty The person who i thought was cool, opinionated and had a no-nonsense attitude turned out to be just a hateful, arrogant, self-righteous a-hole. At least i learned from the experience, haha.

All the above is true.

The ghost is a person who sees you're not worth their time.

The mirror mirror on the wall kind of people are soo frustrating to date especially if u are someone that loves a lady or guy that know wat they want and have their own lives apart from just dating you

Unless I misinterpreted #2, a different way of viewing it would be that it’s a means of exposing conditional or superficial people. Because every relationship has it’s ups and downs, so those who stick around through the thick and thin together helps strengthen their bond. Therefore, I’d rather be with someone who sticks with me throughout the entire race than waiting at the finish line. Yet, this should never be used as an excuse to guilt trip anyone into being or staying with you if the feeling isn’t mutual though.

Very good examples, thank you.

I've both been ghosted and been the ghost, sometimes life gets crazy busy, but that's with strangers maybe made friends on the Internet, but if it's a relationship or close friendship that's a different thing imo. More communication is important in such a situation.

@colinzink6487

2 ай бұрын

ADHD has this effect on me, I love others dearly, but sometimes I get caught up in the moment, I forget about others. I know it’s no excuse but has happened quite a bit with friends.

@neowolf09

2 ай бұрын

@@colinzink6487 that and when you make so many different friends in so many different places it gets hard to keep up with tbh.

@colinzink6487

2 ай бұрын

@@neowolf09 Yeah, I am more nomadic if anything too, I’ll always change places where I hang out too. The best streak I got is my best friend I knew since third grade. But we’re good friends too so that’s nice.

Me having BPD and being half of these. I don’t social media stalk or monologue, 😂😭

I think of a more focused and dedicated person

love bomber but just because I feel the feeling so strongly I genuinely can't help myself I feel like I gotta tell them over and over again and then I get worried I'm being annoying or that they'll see me as a red flag for it 😔

One simple way to look at it after a while: Is what you have NOW worth keeping? Not what was, not what could be--NEVER what could be--but how the partner is now? If your partnership is not healthy and fulfilling after you feel like you've truly got to know them, don't assume it will get better. Try if you feel it's worth it, but don't assume you will succeed and suffer for an extended period for someone who won't change.

I have the 3rd problem 😢, time to go better myself

Dude mine is a "if you cant handle me at my worst" and a "ghost stalker" like ligit

I hate that my being desperate gets mistaken for love bombing lol. Nope im just kinda traumatized from have narcissistic family and now im a over pleaser and am afraid if i stop gifting and showering love, theyll tire of me...

Two of these I definitely needed to hear. Thank you so much for this perspective.

@Psych2go

2 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful! :) did any of these points remind you of someone you know?

There are two more examples I can think of. First: The lazy one. A person who is too lazy to support anything you like or want to acchieve. Sometimes they even try to forbid everything you want to do, even inviting friends or doing hobbies. Second: The not serious one. Somebody who always tells you that she/he is acctually in love with somebody else and you are only the emergency option so that person is not alone. By the way, I think most personality traits that were described are not only about lovers, but also about friends.

Funny how I was told there is someone for everyone...

But what if I feel like one of those types and am scared that the person I love so much will dismiss me even if I really want the best for both of us?

Thanks for sharing these tips

And another proof im perfectly dateable. yet im still alone, fearing rejection

This isn't comprehensive, I am super depressed and sad/mad with myself all the time. I make for a sweet person but an awful boyfriend for how stressful I can be. (As such Im no longer voicing it to anyone because I can destroy people. Im a chrinic trauma dumper, goodbye)

My ex was a copycat. Always ordered what I ordered, said we had the same phobias, even both had the same health conditions. Sigh, low self esteem I think.

Hi! Is it time traveling to be worried or scared because you have betrayal trauma from the past and don’t want it to happen again in your next relationship?

@VenusVariation

2 ай бұрын

Not exactly (most people learn from their mistakes & choices so they obviously never want to repeat them consciously - this is normal) it could als mean you might not be ready for a relationship. The time to have or get into a relationship is when you are absolutely ready for RISK of bent with someone and working at a new one instead of comparing it to the old one or always thinking of the past.

At first I thought of my new acquaintance, then realized it's probably me, who she shouldn't date. In fact, I imagine romance without some of these traits as incredibly dull and one to avoid...

what a beautiful voice and accent!!!!

I don't want kids, so dating is not my problem. Not to mention my mental defects and my heart turning to heavy stone.

Im kinda insecure nowdays, this is because whenever i watch your videos thinking they're gonna help, i usually dont get any things that match up with me unless it relates with staring and humor. Not to say they dont help, it just that they dont match up with me. Can you guys make a video about insecurity's and stuff please?

@TheGoatsCoathanger

2 ай бұрын

unrelated to the vid btw, just wanted to put this input in whatever video was the newest

Imo the worst red flags are people who value someone on the basis of superficial things like partners who are here for you only because you have money and they are gone once you have less money such people are too unreliable to form a healthy relationship. Same for people who constantly need attention all the time with ultimatums like "it's me or your [insert random hobby]" instead of trying to understand things and communicate clearly. If I date someone who appear to have those behavior patterns I'm out

My girlfriend is a time travel type, Our high school prom isn't until the month of May and she keeps asking qme out to it when the day isn't even here, And she keeps showing photos we took in 2022 and it's like she took them yesterday. It's really aggravating

Hey, psych2go. I've having trouble with focusing on things like reading my bible or writing a story, especially when there's noise. Can you make a video on how to improve focus and ignore distractions?

@MorgueInTheVoid

2 ай бұрын

Listening to Green Noise and Pink noise is said to help improve focus and concentration! You could try playing it in the background while you're reading, or have it play off your phone while you sleep! 😊

@VenusVariation

2 ай бұрын

I love that you are trying to focus on reading your Bible too!

@savannablankenship2427

Ай бұрын

@@MorgueInTheVoid Gee, thanks for the advice

Me: using this knowledge to push away my admirer

@user-kr3lh4mx8g

Ай бұрын

Plot twist, I've done it even before watching this and I don't know at that time that it is actually redflags

My first thought whe i saw the titlle: "Am I one of them?" After i watched the video, the answer is: Yes, I am. (more than one)

Being a proficient dater I think this is a great video to help avoid longer term problems, well done @Psych2go!!

I'm great at finding ghost whisperers.

I love bomb. But not to manipulate with the hot and cold method. Im just very emotional from having no happiness to being happy all of a sudden and that's my way of showing I care and I wont ever leave. Im sad Its a red flag because now I have to hold back my feeling to not discomfort others.

Don’t date the Idealist (rose colored glasses) type: The kind of person who dates you because they love the idea of you but they don’t actually love you. Sometimes they project their own personal idea of the perfect SO with unrealistic expectations. So much that they are disappointed when the person is not what they wanted and to correct this idea they try to change them. But no one can change a person less the person wants to change, this leaves the person they’re idealizing feeling like a doll to be personalized. In some cases this could be potentially dangerous, because they’re hung up on their own ideas they can’t see the red flags or people for who they truly are. Which could lead to a toxic and abusive relationships.

I'm a serial monologer a lot. But I am truly doing everything I can think of to stop. But I still catch myself doing it. It's frustrating because I want conversation, I don't just want to talk. But I also have a lot of thoughts I want to express. Any ideas that might help?

@VenusVariation

2 ай бұрын

Learn how to be silent when others are speaking to you, listen to what’s said & make sure to repeat it back to them what you heard & don’t interrupt them wiggle they are talking. Also, not every thought is for sharing with others. If they listen to you then you also should lose to them and discern what should or shouldn’t be spoken of.

Thank you so much for this video.

My question is, if any of these types of people see the error of thier ways and genuinely want to better themselves do they deserve love still?