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@MuffinlyJaimes

4 жыл бұрын

What if two obsessed people fall in love? They are both obsessed with each other but it's a no good relationship and they both know it? How would you say one of them break up with the other one?

@VixenVulpix266

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Psych2go, you get me 😊😊😊😊😊

@janemuller2066

4 жыл бұрын

@@MuffinlyJaimes Honesty is the BEST Policy. Only the ones in the relationship know the extent of the obsession & possible consequences of breaking up. There are help from Professional Counsellors who can guide you

@kaalen_wilson

4 жыл бұрын

418,000th View!!😁

@joannehaggerty1123

4 жыл бұрын

I absolutely dodged a bullet by not marrying the person I was engaged to. This can be a very dangerous relationship to be in.

Sometimes they don’t love you they just love that they have you. It took me a few years to figure that out lol

@elised7915

4 жыл бұрын

Ghost Ant how can you tell the difference?

@ghostant4612

4 жыл бұрын

Sunny Doodle It kinda just goes along with this video. Like, if you don’t text back quickly they freak out. They might be super clingy sometimes. They talk about marriage way too soon. They put you on this pedestal like you’re a trophy not a significant other.

@8izzy

4 жыл бұрын

Had an extremely obsessive ex and it was so suffocating, glad I got out of it but seriously it took me over a year to figure out why I felt so bad with them

@ghostant4612

4 жыл бұрын

come into my van I’m glad for you! I know that same suffocating feeling and it’s not fun at all

@cloud-zd7zm

4 жыл бұрын

same, at least i realized it soon enough to leave them with no further harm

People usually love the idea of you, not you.

@farrzana1121

3 жыл бұрын

Pls explain. I dont understand if he... yk 😓

@malt4249

3 жыл бұрын

yikes. here i am thinking he could love me for me

@okibye4863

3 жыл бұрын

@@farrzana1121 well, they like you in a specific way, meaning, they like you when you do what pleases them, and that's basically their idea of who you are, but in reality we all are humans and have downfalls and imperfections too. People who love you would accept your imperfections but ppl who don't would only like you when you're at your best :)

@okibye4863

3 жыл бұрын

@@malt4249 well, depends, obviously. But loving someone is a huge thing, you have to accept and love their best and worst. People usually give up during the worst phase tho lol

@farrzana1121

3 жыл бұрын

@@okibye4863 well, how do you show love to the person who is at the worst phase? like we know how to show love during their best phase like complimenting them. But how to show love during the worst phase?

Coming out of an abusive relationship I started to see a lot of people don't actually love you they just love having you there. I'm a very submissive person so I do alot of what my partner would like. I offer a lot more than is necessary and I help with more than needed. But I realized a lot of the time they just want to have someone to control and take care of them

@maevependragon

2 жыл бұрын

Saaaame!

i remember being the obsessed one. Really is a torturous cycle and it’s not easy to get out of once you’re in it. I look back at things and really wish I was a more mature person, but life happens and videos like these help me learn about myself.

i hate unread messages but it’s because i have a huge fear of being abandoned. so i’m still learning how to get over that.

@SaotomeMary

3 жыл бұрын

Same also I feel like I did something wrong if I’m unanswered

@Ispalalo

3 жыл бұрын

glad im not alone

@srijeetasikder2678

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@iceeblaze

3 жыл бұрын

Same girl

@jasminehernandez4914

3 жыл бұрын

@@SaotomeMary do you have anxiety my boyfriend is exactly the same and always worrying about me leaving him I’m doing my research idk if he’s crazy and obsessed and I should leave now or something

Basically someone who lack self-love, self-care, and rely on external things to make them happy are those who can potentially be obsessive and even destructive too.

@quelquundautre3292

3 жыл бұрын

But if their love is genuine, it will give them a needed point of you to improve their self esteem while giving them lessons about what love is like so that they can apply a similar method to themselves (this is hope more than opinion)

@Ispalalo

3 жыл бұрын

that's me, but im slowly learning to be better and give my partner the genuine love he deserves because i DO really really love him, but self problems bring me down I think being both obsessed AND genienly in love with someone is possible, but what counts the most is if the person is willing to change their obsessive behaviour for their partner and themselves

@Peanuts76

3 жыл бұрын

And thats me, i have ASPD, repressed anger and had childhood trauma made me like this

@Ispalalo

3 жыл бұрын

@@Peanuts76 I’m sorry to hear that love 💔.. But things WILL get better, I promise you 💖 Ik a lot of ppl say that but things really DO get better. I just hope u can hang in there ❤️❤️ Meditate or seeing a professional helps, but professionals usually only help when the person themselves is willing to 💖

@Peanuts76

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ispalalo yeah, im the scapegoat in my family, my old brother a doctor, he's the goldenchild, had psychopaths traits, now he's more forgiving, was lil different when he were young, he even throw a kitten from second floor, when he was like mid 20 year, he gave me violent trauma, punch me right in stomach when i was like in the high school, just because i went home late, with no talking, like i didn't have old brother..... And then my older sister, a 100 persen classic NPD, manipultive, abusive, even use all my siblings to smear campaign me, flying monkeys, manipulator, gaslighting, so sensitive towards a lil critics, sometimes so arrogant, incapable of saying i'm sorry, have no emphty at all, so sensitive towards money, Always stingy for a coins and lil cents, basically, enemy disguised as angel, she's the most toxic one eventho she hold a good job, that's why she could had any boyfriends, even when she's on late of her age (35 years old), she's so triggering to me, being highly empathetic was always enabling her toxic behaviour, i hate it why i become a highly senstive man, i easily cry when i see people hurt, been depressed alot, witnessing people suffering always made me sad..... My already passed dad was also violent eventho he's a succesful businessman, my mom a neglectful narcissist, she had mental ilness when she was young, not abusive, but certainly still make all her child like a trophy, and supply..... So toxic, only my lil brother thatt dont ever witness all the fear and violent things when my dad was still around (now he's dead) all the neglect, all the high expectations, all the manipulation made me like this..... I guess i had bipolar too, i have manic episodes and severe depression, all the CPTSD symptomps was there, it's so hard to stand up for your self and make boundaries, because how damaging all the trauma and all intermittent love fear and manipulation i suffer....

Watching this video has made me realize how obsessed I can be in relationships. I’ve had 6 failed relationships partially due to my obsession. I will talk to my psychologist more and learn coping skills to ensure I manage myself better and do things for love rather than obsession.

It's really hard when you have so many insecurities and fears... having that anxiety and being in a relationship it's really draining if not managed correctly. I want him to be safe, healthy and happy always, and I use to prioritize him over me. Everything he likes, everything he asks for, everything he needs, there you have me trying my ultimate best to give it all to him. But that comes with supressing all my insecurities and fears just because I'm scared it will drive him away. So scared for him to find out how much I cry when he suddenly disappears and doesn't tell me, when he doesn't say good night or when he acts distant. How much I miss his red heart emojis, his singing recordings, his calls, his random questions and proposals.... I just have to pretend to be brave and bottle it all up myself, and keep offering him my whole heart. We really shouldn't antagonize really insecure or over average needy people. How great would it be if your partner knows your fears, your insecurities, how much does it affect you and slowly try to teach you how to carry a healthier relationship? Now, that's what I would call real love.

@rebeccaadole685

2 жыл бұрын

I can relate but I’ve come to realize you’ve got to love yourself as well and just as much. You’re also worthy of love. Too much attachment to another can only bring about too many expectations and in the long run, disappointments and major let down. I suggest you try to keep yourself occupied by finding something you like to do. Possibly as a hobby, or an extra skill. Focus on yourself for a change. And try a little emotional ‘spacing’ from your loved one. If he does notice the change and bothers to ask, openly tell him how you feel. No pretense, whatsoever. Say it as you feel. If he really loves you he’ll try to be there for you, otherwise he won’t. And that’s perfectly okay. Genuine Friendships I believe aren’t meant to make us feel so drained and unhappy. But whoever is meant to be yours, won’t ever make you feel unloved or inadequate. Love yourself! It’s really important. Only then can you realize and know what it is exactly YOU WANT. Good luck!

That heart-shattering feeling when you find out that, the obsessed person they're talking about is you 😶

@itsthefairy3582

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@narenderkumar4732

3 жыл бұрын

😂👍

@dicksonyurmouf5477

3 жыл бұрын

Fr I’m disappointed in myself that’s why my last relationship didn’t last long and even now I’m doing this to someone I’m talking to. I can see that I’m the problem I need to chill

@manavthakur9077

3 жыл бұрын

@@dicksonyurmouf5477 Ya I also did that. But then I've realised that life isn't about fighting the world, but myself. It's Me vs Me. It has always been that way. So whenever I lost control, I'd take a pause and rethink of what am I doing, and what am I supposed to. I have accepted that I'm toxic and now trying to overcome this.

@highestdog

3 жыл бұрын

Ahhh making me hate myself even more now 😫

SUMMARY 1. they hate unanswered messages 2. they are emotionally immature 3. they take without giving 4. they romanticize the relationship 5. they control you with guilt 6. they are obsessed with status 7. they make false promises

@sweetpotato4831

4 жыл бұрын

Ty that was what I needed to know ( ˘ ³˘)♥

@glenv9511

4 жыл бұрын

Kitsumu And, r/niceguys.

@Cipher_Paul

4 жыл бұрын

@@glenv9511 I thought Nice Guys would give everything just to have sex? It wouldn't check the 3rd point.

@joshy2joshy

4 жыл бұрын

3. They take or give too much*

@yorkish

4 жыл бұрын

@@Cipher_Paul nah that's fuckboys

Watching this to know if I’m obsessed with them, not the other way around lmaoo

These videos are so amazing. Not just for me to make sure my partner is treating me right, but also so I can make sure I’m participating in the relationship in a healthy way as well. We have a tendency to forget that we can wrong others and are quick to place blame on someone else. I’ve always been of a mind to stop and consider how my actions may be impacting my partner. Take the time to remind your partner or partners that you care deeply about them and that you’re lucky to be able to experience life in the same time period as someone special like them. Best of luck to all of you in love 🧡

_when you watch these videos and now you're panicking over whether it's crush, love, infatuation or obsession_

@narenderkumar4732

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@cal4331

3 жыл бұрын

yes and most of the comments freak me out

@SimonaOmina

3 жыл бұрын

Might be limerence

@dekippiesip

3 жыл бұрын

Vid is bad because they first had to define 'love', then 'obsession' and subsequently explain why the 2 concepts are mutually exclusive. They don't defend the premise of the vid title, so that's just sloppy.

@miZ_dream

3 жыл бұрын

​@@dekippiesip i don't think replying to my comment is the right place to discuss your opinion. but anyways, it's here, and _wow_ i never saw it that way. it's been a while since i've seen this video so I cannot say if i agree or not, unfortunately.

I realized that I might have had an obession with my partner. I would become jealous if they spent time with friends or did their own thing. I am learning. It is okay to have my own life in a relationship and that is kind of fun.

@countjracula

4 жыл бұрын

same here

@22DAMN11

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@Localidiothere

4 жыл бұрын

Hey, it's good that you are changing for the better. I wish you good luck in it ^^

@shaannn8037

4 жыл бұрын

This is me too, I tend to make a joke that I am obsessed with him, which I am, but it’s only recently that I’ve noticed it as it has become an issue in our relationship. I am working on it though, and he’s working on his issues (he can be emotionally detached sometimes), but I’m just glad we’ve brought our faults to light and are now trying to manage them ☺️🙌🏻

@twilightlight_

4 жыл бұрын

Good for you, i still haven't found the right one yet, but realizing that you're one and trying to change is the very answer. Hope you and you're partner is doing good now!

when u realize ur the obsessed one and ur the problem

This woman's voice is SO soothing and comforting. Wow. It imparts a sense of compassion to the topic

Unconditional Love is based on maturity, not obsession. Knowing and accepting that things won’t always be so smooth between the two and that there will be some rough patches, yet we choose to love our partners regardless. Unconditional love is not based on mere moods and desires. Lasting, unconditional love is a choice. It not always just “happens” and you don’t always “fall in love” automatically. It is developed through constant care, patience, sacrifice, and acceptance. It's NOT the story of Romeo & Juliet or some romantic novel, It's real stuff.

@robertzsombok7661

4 жыл бұрын

love is patient, love is generous, love is kind and love is working on it.

@OnlineLifeGuide

4 жыл бұрын

@Kit Cat You're very welcome :)

@OnlineLifeGuide

4 жыл бұрын

@@robertzsombok7661 exactly!

@ChocoParfaitFra

4 жыл бұрын

Most people don't know how to love, they should teach it in schools because parents aren't always the best teachers

@nonodlamini

4 жыл бұрын

You encapsulated love so perfectly. I’m still learning to love, heal and accept myself completely before I go on to claim I love someone else. Pray for me yall!

When you realize you were the obsessed one and hate yourself just a bit Edit: Thanks everyone for your kind words ❤️

@damienoloughlin6068

4 жыл бұрын

@Jennessa Sample Big oof. I felt that.

@pvnk2106

4 жыл бұрын

you can change for being a better person ^^

@cyqry

4 жыл бұрын

@@atlassample4313 Admitting to your faults is a good first step. When you do get close to someone, its worth mentioning your concerns to them, so that they can point out when you start veering into bad habits... if you don't tell them, they may not want to warn you in case you take it badly.

@durszl

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah same

@aristaa6467

4 жыл бұрын

yeah me too... I've known this for a long time though and I'm really trying to fix this defect...and I think I have, at least to an extent. My partner seems much happier and relaxed (in comparison to before, not that he used completely miserable) and I'm glad I decided to confront my fault.

This is actually very thoughtful.. I have known I have done something wrong or obsessive in my ealier relationships. This proves it. And I feel sorry for my ealier partners...

This is such an eye opener for me! As a Scorpio, I’m really trying to detach from the stereotype of being possessive and obsessive. Understanding that I should just go with the flow and not really rush things so early. Thank you so much for this video.❤️

@SeudXe

2 жыл бұрын

Zodiacs arent even real just focus on improving yourself.

@animesimp6610

2 жыл бұрын

What do zoadic signs have to do with this-

@SeudXe

2 жыл бұрын

@@animesimp6610 Fr imagine rejecting a good person just because of a zodiac

@mostamazingtop6

2 жыл бұрын

Don't let space racism control your life

@lillianhalo3012

2 жыл бұрын

@@SeudXe FACTS FACTS

Me watching this even tho I know no one is obsessed OR in love w me

@collinscartoons2887

4 жыл бұрын

Bea._. Kpoptrash Same

@anadraguleanu8710

4 жыл бұрын

Same here!

@victoriajames6634

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@gemopunzalan8173

4 жыл бұрын

Me too😂😂😂

@staph8022

4 жыл бұрын

same what a mood we all have hoping someone would be obsessed with us

Me: **sees title** Also me: **chuckle** I don't even have relationship

@kuuly3334

4 жыл бұрын

same :(

@grometheus4556

4 жыл бұрын

Same.

@hscar-no8oz

4 жыл бұрын

Same 😂

@SinPandoaa

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@deadchannneldontclick3544

4 жыл бұрын

Same but I have a friend who is a teacher at my school.

I didn't actually date this huy but he had a bad case of limerence. He would call 6-8 times a day even if i told him i was busy and would constantly text. I'm pretty sure he dedicated a song to me, offered to buy me things ( even though we had just met ) , said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me , etc. And he really hoped that i felt this way too. The fun thing is we haven't even known each other for that long ( at the time ) and we never met in person. I was introduced to him through an ex friend ( i knew my friend in person ) and he started playing match maker and decided to pair the two of us together even though he knew I'd just gotten out of a toxic relationship. So mentally, i already wasn't doing well. But this dude saw a few pictures of me and lost his mind. He was a nice guy but it was beginning to be too much. Our first ever phone call/conversation consisted of him laying down all his qualities as a boyfriend and his devotion and loyalty. I was freaked out because we just JUST MET. i don't talk to him anymore but sheesh those were weird times.

I use to be obsessed and possessive with someone, I'd always be angry and jealous when he talked to someone else other than me, I had violent thoughts about the person they talked to. Even just him looking at someone else sometimes got to me. (reason being due to abandonment issues) I was always scared he'd find someone else or someone would try and take him. I tried driving a wedge between his friends and us so my mind was safe that he wouldn't leave me. Healthy relationships require boundaries, I didn't respect any of his at all back then. It was a horrible part of my life but that was years ago and now I've changed for the better, I realised how toxic I was back then and regret all of it. Surprisingly we both still talk to each other as friends now and are on good terms.

I feel personally attacked, this hit home way too hard.

@jaycee9972

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@lavender_milk312

4 жыл бұрын

How(sorry I never had a lover before please don't get offended)

@nenidetic

4 жыл бұрын

@@lavender_milk312 do you really think people will get offended by the word "how"?

@lavender_milk312

4 жыл бұрын

@@nenidetic because everytime I say how in the comments they attack me

@patpulliam9501

4 жыл бұрын

I get it, its because you found someone you love and they "love" you, and now your hearing this so now you know she/he might just be obsessed. Am I right? Sorry if I'm not.

I've had this exact kind of relationship, he was very clingy to me, immediately got sad or angry whenever I left him for 1 second. He was always very controlling, and I felt very pressured by him. I'm very happy with my decision to leave him and find someone better. No one deserves someone like that in their life. This video just further proves I made the right decision. 😄

@nattysamar8631

4 жыл бұрын

I’m very glad you did :)

@jetisnotthereyet

4 жыл бұрын

I'm very proud of you!

@LVSnailSandwichContent

4 жыл бұрын

@Sabrina Magri obsession/addiction

@TheFablesKing

4 жыл бұрын

I can relate to that and feel the same way as you. 😅😁

@missmoxie9188

4 жыл бұрын

YES!!!!!!

Thank you for making this Video. I recently got out of an ugly relationship. This Video helped me realise that he wasn't in love, he was obsessed. Thank you for this video this helped me get over what I thought I did wrong but was never in the wrong. This has saved me from false guilt that I have for my previous relationship. Thank you again.

@SampaioGameplay

2 жыл бұрын

Some 3 or 4 years from now(just in case...) let him apologise to move on if u can ...

Love IS a small obsession over someone, but doesn't become a threat if you want what's best for someone and your actions speak louder than words. Some people neglect your messages at all and change partners constantly. That's also some form of a short-term obsession.

Anyone checking if they are obsessed with their crushes?

@bluebunnyarcticwolf2927

4 жыл бұрын

I am lol

@uncoolgrace

4 жыл бұрын

Yup I am

@bluebunnyarcticwolf2927

4 жыл бұрын

I do some of these things ToT

@bluebunnyarcticwolf2927

4 жыл бұрын

Only 2 of them tho

@colettelee1162

4 жыл бұрын

I was relieved when the video said crushes resemble obsession at first! lol

Title: are they in love or obsessed with you? Me: neither.

@blauesmondlicht8891

4 жыл бұрын

Hope you will find the right one someday

@no.noah.for.dinner9841

4 жыл бұрын

Mood

@stefaniehadi1801

4 жыл бұрын

I'm single lol

@kinzee_jacq

4 жыл бұрын

felttt

@srishtitripathi1865

4 жыл бұрын

Same I'm single but one thing she said i can relate that i want a romantic relationship like in movies but i don't believe in love at first sight

I was worried that I was obsessed. And it turns out that I am. I never understood why my relationship ended and I know now why. I needed this. Thank you.

She always brought up "It's supposed to be like the movies.." "That's not what happens in the movies.." I'm heartbroken..

@ezrairene5503

3 жыл бұрын

Bruh, sorry to be rude but i can sense that something is wrong with her

@DaysofKnight

3 жыл бұрын

@@ezrairene5503 A skewed expectation based on movies because her ex boyfriends always treated her like trash on the street and tossed her aside so she started dreaming of a relationship like the movies, and it never panned out that way when I started dating her, even though I did my best to be the best she'd ever had (I was the best, but also even I still made mistakes, and she made mistakes). In the end, she was too immature and not ready for a relationship. Where as I, knew exactly what I wanted and tried my best to change for the better and work on us and improve the relationship so it lasted a long time. But here I am, miles away from her now, and heart broken..

@ezrairene5503

3 жыл бұрын

@@DaysofKnight oh my, i feel sorry for both of you. I hope my previous question doesn't stir up any unwanted feelings.

@DaysofKnight

2 жыл бұрын

@@ezrairene5503 It's still very fresh, barely even a month yet.. I lost my "One" so.. You didn't bring any unwanted feelings up, they haven't even left yet..

@khushaalarora480

2 жыл бұрын

@@DaysofKnight Hopefully, it gets better for you, whatever way possible...

Are you really in love or just afraid to be alone? Edit: The replies like picking fights with people over the internet with different opinions. It's amusing

@Psych2go

4 жыл бұрын

This is so true! Many of us hate to admit the truth. What are your thoughts after watching this video?

@ayshii5226

4 жыл бұрын

It made me think about how many of us can misunderstand if we truly love a person, we can misjudge these feelings as obsession, lust, fondness or even a simple crush. We should take the time to really tell if what we feel really is aimed at a particular person, as a whole. Not aimed at your idea of them, their body, their reputation, money and etc. Love is love, and you'll know it, when you feel it:) Thank you for this amazing video! I love Psychology and getting the chance to explore it in this channel is wonderful

@jessw.6250

4 жыл бұрын

So true! I for one am fine being alone... it’s better! In my case anyway

@sumitshaw7798

4 жыл бұрын

All my life I feel I've been alone..and now that I have a relationship it is like I like her company so much that I have become obsessed over her..now we are having troubles in the relationship but I'm scared to break up!! Because I think that I'll again end up being lonely and she will find someone in no time.

@jessw.6250

4 жыл бұрын

Sumit Shaw Aw that’s sad. Are there (other) reasons for the break up...is it you that wants to break up?..If the answers are yes then I think you have to think real hard at life before her... were you ok with being alone? Bc, I know the hardest part is losing that person but you can’t think about her finding someone “fast”. Bc, you CAN too ;) You just really have to do what is best for *(your well-being)*

90% of teenage relationships are only obsession Edit: omg thanks for the likes guys

@radsubs1808

4 жыл бұрын

according to who 🤣🤣

@radsubs1808

4 жыл бұрын

Ѕhaðow Hυητεг you can’t just make up a random percentage and claim it as fact tho, this isn’t an estimate this is deadass a random ass number.

@radsubs1808

4 жыл бұрын

Ѕhaðow Hυητεг im a teen yeah, and someone with the username “Ѕhaðow Hυητεг” is definitely a kid too, or a weirdo, either way no judgment. and you cannot base a estimate on where u live or what you think, unless ur in them relationships, or know every single kid in the world then you cannot base this on something with no evidence

@md.iftekharzawad8830

4 жыл бұрын

@@radsubs1808 Come on man. Look around while growing up. You'll see what I mean.

@radsubs1808

4 жыл бұрын

Ѕhaðow Hυητεг why are both of you acting as if i’m a 11 year old who doesn’t know shit. like bruh i know what relationship are like, i’m not saying they all prefect but you’re completely stupid if you think that this person who made up a completely random number has thought abt the estimates and facts n shuts behind it, stop bs this is just a random estimate which is 100% undeniably wrong. you literally have no reason to argue with me for asking him where he’s getting this statistic from, it didn’t involve you, or you telling me i’m a kid, or as you said “ur kid”

I'll be the first to admit i was definitely obsessive with my first long term relationship, both of us in the relationship were. It took a long time to see how unhealthy the relationship was but thankfully we went our separate ways and are getting the help we need. Thanks for the videos Psych2go they're super insightful and give hope for us trying to better our lives 💗

Im glad I'm slowly becoming a better person and learning about myself so I can better my relationship I have with my partner. I suffer from mental issues as well as it being so recent. However she knows and understands, and is willing to help me. I'm also learning that accepting help is also a great thing. It's tough but we all got this

Me: Take care of her Always be there for her Never leave her side Always make her happy Make sure that she's alright if not then do anything to make her happy again It’s okay if they ignore you sometimes Treat them with respect Listen to what they are saying and don’t ignore it Always stay positive Don’t make up a fantasy *and yet I’m still watching these videos to find out if wether I’m doing it all correctly or no*

@skryvazena6548

3 жыл бұрын

I was like you, but changing 'her' with 'him'. I'm here to see whether I'm loving or just obsessing. We're not together. He's not feeling the same. I let it be now. I'm still missing him but I think we're not right for each other.

@Lieblingsmensch-un1bv

3 жыл бұрын

@@skryvazena6548 yeah, same situation here but she left me for her ex from 4ish yrs ago. Was left more confused and hurt than being able to move on. Its a slow process but I see it as she lost someone that would have done their best for her cause I only wanted to make the both of us happy but she left the second we weren't super lovey dovey anymore and went to someone else. Looking back on it I realize I was more emotionally there for her than she was for me and it honestly hurts.

@Ispalalo

3 жыл бұрын

damn you're such a good boyfriend and she should know that

@Ispalalo

3 жыл бұрын

@@Lieblingsmensch-un1bv 💔💔💔💔 im so sorry to hear that, but you are so strong for going through that and mature to realize she really did someone who could have given her the world. just because you 2 were not lovey dovey for a bit and she gets back with her ex for that is so selfish, arrogant, attention seeking and immature of her. you deserve the world, and if she can't even give you a city, you gotta move on and find someone else. take your time

@Lieblingsmensch-un1bv

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ispalalo much appreciated chief, I'm just focusing in my job now instead and it helps

Can we all just take a moment to realize that the person doing the voices is absolutely beautiful?

@Psych2go

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@iceychill2125

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@slixlixx

4 жыл бұрын

Go outside

@LovingSoul61

4 жыл бұрын

Right!

Sometimes they’re just obsessed with you and want to use you for their own personal gain. I figured that out in high school.

there’s a difference between being obsessive and toxic tho- a lot of people with fear of a abandonment can be obsessive with their partners because they’re afraid they will just leave or not really care for them. it can be very internalized and it certainly can be worked on. most of the times it comes from a place of care rather than possession

1:00 "Your partner is only after one thing" Me: and it's disgusting. the video: "Control" Me: ...Oh...

@dwof4014

4 жыл бұрын

you seem confident in your answer. if you know what you said is the truth, i think you should leave them because that aint good sis 😐

@mewkishikawa9298

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂 i thought so too

@nataliaisa_newb

4 жыл бұрын

dwof She actually referenced a meme, but okay.

@dwof4014

4 жыл бұрын

꧁NataliaIsA_ Newb꧂ i know, i just took it more seriously

@milinaanilim8774

4 жыл бұрын

hahahahahaa "oh..youuuuuu.."

Being manipulated by guilt is something that took me a long time to see, definitely a big red flag that went unchecked because it doesn’t seem like a serious problem at first. it becomes routine, you get used to not doing certain things for the sake of your partner’s insecurities

@SonyaKhanOfficial

4 жыл бұрын

Holy shit, it makes sense now, idk how to leave, we’re working on things and even made a list together on what to work on but rn i’m like wow, this is plain obsessive behaviour 😭 My gut feeling be right!

@naya8330

4 жыл бұрын

AwakenWith Samah111 always listen to ur gut! honestly girl it took me years to even realize it was going on. we eventually agreed that it wasn’t going to work out n afterwards i started putting the pieces together. i also went to therapy and it really helped

@levonsanchez7804

4 жыл бұрын

I'm struggling with guilt myself from my ex. I feel like I still have to tell him things that aren't even really important because he always made me feel like I had to explain everything i did in detail. Especially if I talked to a Male. He considered it flirting or cheating. How do I move on from this???💔💔💔

@naya8330

4 жыл бұрын

Levon Sanchez I’m so sorry that you’re going thru that, what I did was to try my best to focus on myself. I know it’s hard to deal with the guilt but you’re not responsible for someone else’s insecurities! Take time to heal and constantly remind yourself that you can only be responsible for yourself❤️

@primeegino1205

4 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness, I had just read this and I'm way beyond shocked of how similar my situation with you guys here. I've thought how he manipulates me by making me feel guilty about things so I would instead listen to him. I'm crying, thank you for your words. I will be doing what I should have done from my the first red flag

We were both obsessed. Now that they aren't obsessed with me anymore, I have to be a good friend and watch them obsess over fictional characters again like in our relationship. I want to be a good friend. Get over my obsession and just spend a day with them in real life, so I'm going to go see them, even though my heart will be aching the whole way through. We dated online for over 7 years. It was a good 7 years, a typical relationship with great days, late night chats, sprinkled with arguments over dumb stuff... It was good, but now it's over, and a new chapter begins.

@poemsbysjm3968

2 жыл бұрын

True love❤: kzread.info/dash/bejne/nmqexZdwZ7eTYdY.html

A little more obscure but helpful for anyone who may have a healthy relationship on the surface but it still feels wrong: they're good to you, but only within the confines of who they think you are. If you go outside of that mental image, they express frustration or negative feelings. Almost as if you've betrayed them. They care about who they think you are, not who you really are.

i wouldn’t say i hate unread messages, i would say it makes me uncomfortable because i overthink practically everything. i wish i could stop thinking sometimes. i’m learning and praying that God gives me patience and security and that he does the same for my future partner

@nicholasdipilla6993

3 жыл бұрын

@karley we are all the same a bit on this point , insecurity is something that take a while to work on but it can be changed...meditation is really good to help anxiety too

@nicholasdipilla6993

3 жыл бұрын

@karley you need to work on yourself and know your forces if you want to become more secure.

@watertank505

2 жыл бұрын

Think, Mark think!

@alondralima9442

2 жыл бұрын

I only got insecure after the trust was broken soooo😬🤷‍♀️

@mictizon2322

2 жыл бұрын

Same

Imagine someone loving you in the first place Can’t relate

@jessicajennifer9827

4 жыл бұрын

Same sis🤣😂😂😂😂

@gemopunzalan8173

4 жыл бұрын

Me too😂😂😂

@timothy9734

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@-k1ts0-97

4 жыл бұрын

I never loved someone but people liked me for some reason? And that just made my self-esteem worst so, you're lucky.

@jess5427

4 жыл бұрын

Ssammmeee

I just dealt with this situation with one of my classmates from college a few months ago. She seemed nice at first, but she was very obsessed with me. I never dated her because she already had a boyfriend, but she sure as hell acted like she had a huge crush on me, and was extremely obsessed with me. That is extremely inappropriate. She called me constantly and most of the time they were at the wrong times. She always texted me and she would not stop bothering me. I would be busy studying and she still would not stop texting me when I would say that I am busy. Last time I checked, the words "I'm busy" are supposed to be the universal sign of "I can't talk right now". She also noticed how big of a nerd I am, and she tried to make me her tutor for the semester because she was extremely behind in the class, and I was already halfway through my semester and the work for the class, and she didn't even start the work. She tried to make me her tutor, but I can't do that. She relied on me when she could have just gone to the school's tutoring center. I had the feeling that if I did do that, she would have taken advantage of how smart I am, used it to get a good grade, and never talk to me again. I never gave her that help because I couldn't. That is why colleges have tutoring centers. She had an immature high school behavior, too. It's friggin college. Stop acting like an immature child and grow up. I even skipped class a few times to avoid her. That on top of needing a break from my bad professor. She was even late for one of her classes to say goodbye to me as I was walking to my car. She only had two minutes until class, and the building where it was at the opposite direction I was going, and she ran like the wind to catch me just to say bye to me. She was late because she couldn't think before she acted. I haven't spoken to this girl since the semester came to an end, and she has not contacted me since then. I hope this does not happen to me or anyone else again.

love means accepting the good, bad, and ugly of someone, which takes time. Before this we all have to obsess to mentally stimulate those love chemicals. We break our own hearts with the idea of them which is mostly false due to that idealistic obsession.

As someone who realizes I can be obsessive, it takes a lot of willpower to just trust the process and to not overthink things. I never guilt trip because that’s not who I am but sometimes it’s really hard trying to accept the fact that someone can just leave you the next day. But I constantly try to improve myself and I’d say I can not act on obsessive feelings

@trashbin7800

3 жыл бұрын

Watching this video made me realize a lot about my past self. I've been trying really hard to improve and now I'm falling for my best friend but trying my best to not let her know.

@EpicFoXD333

3 жыл бұрын

same

@papicthulu

3 жыл бұрын

THIS!! Good job on your part. It's so important to recognize our issues and learn how to become a better person. Happy and proud to see it

@highestdog

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with you and the replies. I was dating one of my close friends and we fell apart because of me being too obsessive, I’m really worried about him and how I treated him. He’s another person, it isn’t easy and I am recovering by trying my best to learn and move on.

8th sign of obsession: Someone threatens to stalk you. Yes, this really happened.

@nabilahrahim5354

4 жыл бұрын

Yesss, this is so true cuz im facing this rn urghh!

@lotussong1

4 жыл бұрын

NABILAH RAHIM Yikes, sorry to hear that. I’d change my phone number. If the person starts to stalk you, get a restraining order ASAP.

@bfbfourmylove

4 жыл бұрын

Shit, I've been stalked by my friend who was crushing on me before quarantine happened

@lotxs

3 жыл бұрын

Me tooo 9th sign of obsession:- they'll always make you feel that you are wrong and making issue out of small things

@manglalsang6126

3 жыл бұрын

Damn I can relate.... 😶😑😶

I am self aware enough to know that at one point what I thought was love was actually obsession. Over time it grew into love, actual love. Love isn't selfish or jealous, and because I've been on both ends I see the differences. I was obsessed with an ex of mine, but i thought it was love and no one could tell me otherwise. But then I realized I wanted him to be happy. Even if that meant I wasn't in the picture. I wanted him to find true love even if I wasn't the person on the receiving end. It was when I started being happy for him in romantic relationships with someone other than me that i knew i truly loved him unconditionally. It was a life changing lesson.

@RYUtheLION

Жыл бұрын

Wanting someone happy is great and being able to respect their space eventually is great but you gave up on them and that is the reality like it or not. If you TRULY connect with someone time means nothing. Doesn't mean don't go have fun and have friends\parties\meet people at times but the person you connect with didn't know you for the first 25 years and had other experiences before you, meaning waiting 25 more years again is nothing and a easy thing to do eventually. Unless your goal is NEEDING kids and marriage soon than personally don't understand people who just give up so easily. Its weak behavior evolutionary wise to give up. Modern world tries to keep things more so called peaceful so weak genes and no determination is rampant. Obviously violence should be avoided overall in modern times but for most of history the strong and intelligent killed rivals and or kept genes strong through determination. Important to give space for all but women are about how they feel. Looks and what they hear is important at first but its what they feel that matters long term of course and women can say anything to you and it does NOT matter how bad because if they miss you eventually or you spark something again they will forget what they said overall. Humans think words mean something and they do in the moment sometimes but everyone constantly changes :).

This is most of my dating history.... heck. This makes me really worried about my own views on love because I literally don't know how to figure out the balance between realistic and reasonable. (realistic meaning not romanticized, and reasonable meaning having standards and upholding my self worth).

@NuNuxxa

2 жыл бұрын

I think one of the ways to differentiate whether your thoughts/actions/views on love are realistic and reasonable is whether you are able to also provide what you expect from the other person. Also, does your expectation come from an insecurity? So, e.g. do you expect your partner to text you regularly whilst he/she is out with friends because you hate them being away from you (obsession) or because you are worried that something may happen to them because they're out late at night (reasonable). I hope that helps? I'm happy to give some more examples if you need more clarification. But something to highlight is that as humans we should take time to monitor and be aware of our thoughts and actions (in daily life not just where it concerns love and relationships). Our fears and worries stem from past trauma - some fears/worries are reasonable and can remain and some are reasonable but should be worked on. I hope all of that makes sense to you - if not, I'm happy to explain further. Just message whenever! :)

@serentrippityp7893

2 жыл бұрын

@@NuNuxxa yeah- I don't need the clarification. I already know a lot of my perceptions on love are messed up because I haven't had any healthy relationships. I'm wildly insecure, and I'm working on it, but I really struggle with seeing "love" as a sort of escape, which is clearly bad. I know all the things I'm thinking of are love and support and stuff I can very easily give someone, but that doesn't mean I'm not obsessed with the concept of being in love. I'm not even in love with someone I know or any specific person- it's just a craving. I have a lot of trauma and baggage I'm carrying around, so I struggle between the "I don't deserve/I can't handle love, so I should stay as far away as I can" thoughts and the "I just want to be loved, why is this so hard? Can't I just skip to the happy part?" thoughts- neither of which are healthy outlooks. I don't need an explanation or a clarification, I just need to figure out how to fix all the flawed thought processes I've developed over the years as some kind of coping mechanism.

The fact that you're just needy and clingy turns out to be an obsession makes me so sad.

@stefanny1938

4 жыл бұрын

Same, I'm clingy but I guess it's obsession...

@realjennyrae1304

4 жыл бұрын

@@stefanny1938 There's a difference between clingy and obsessive -- it's the amount of control you try to place over your partner and a very deep sense of fear/anger/sadness when you don't get that level of control. Clingy is just needing more attention/love than maybe an "average" person, and that can be understood and play out in a healthy way in a relationship with the right boundaries set. Some people are fine with more clingy partners and are the type to want to give some extra love to satisfy them. Clinginess can turn into obsession if you have a partner that's distant and as a result you become obsessive trying to get them to love you back. I'm clingy myself and I've probably been obsessive in previous relationships, it's about finding a partner that balances your needs and desires well with their own. Sometimes people don't mix and can bring out the worst in each other, that's all.

@stefanny1938

4 жыл бұрын

@@realjennyrae1304 Yeah, I mean I feel like he doesn't love more enough and I get sad sometimes, I show him so much love but I'm the one who says" I love you" the most... I feel like I'm being selfish sometimes, when he talks about his ex's before, I did get sad but I didn't say anything and i feel like I'm getting used to it ( no he doesn't talk to them anymore except one) also, he has insomnia so he stays up late a lot and I'd stay up with him until like 5am just for him. But today he went to sleep early, and I couldn't sleep and I miss him so much like I wanna text him, it feels different when he's not texting me I know I should be glad that he's sleeping early but I just miss him and I can't sleep today ugjj

@realjennyrae1304

4 жыл бұрын

@@stefanny1938 I'm in a long distance relationship and one thing we do is go to sleep together in a phone call, and maybe that could help you sleep better knowing he's there. But if you feel like you "have" to do certain things for him to like you more then there's an issue -- trust issues that could be deserved or undeserved. If something he does upsets you, tell him and talk it out. I've been in relationships where they told me I said "I love you" too much, but now I'm in one where i can say it all the time and get a happy "I love you too" back. You need to figure out what you want and communicate that, and if it doesn't work out, it's better than being in a bad relationship.

@makaylamarshall9743

4 жыл бұрын

I think there’s a very clear distinction between obsessive and clingy. To be obsessive you need many if not all of these factors. I don’t think that clingy partners would over-romanticize relationships and/or only date them for status. I dunno I’m not the one with a degree in psychology but I think obsession is more in depth than clingy.

Love feels easy like you are in the flow and feel natural. Obsession feels forced like you are trying to make it happen. The one who is obsessed will fade away after time, the one who loves you will stick with you throughout time ❤

@TheTruthSayer90

3 жыл бұрын

agreed, forced is just bad and unnatural, you can feel if that is forced or not when you try to do something in the relaitonship. with the right ones, it will feel comfortable.

@miramilk6871

3 жыл бұрын

There are cases where the obsession can grow to be actual love, though. For me it took time away to really assess my behavior. Even though I was broken up about it at the time, it didn't take me long to understand. Now that the other person and I are talking again I've noticed that I still have similar feelings for them, but I handle them in a healthier way; I don't get jealous of their other friends anymore, I give them the space that they need, and I don't give more than I receive like I used to. It doesn't feel forced. Not every obsessive friend/partner gets a chance to do things differently, and not all of them are able to, but I'm grateful for the second chance I was given.

I'm not in a relationship with her yet but I feared that I was more obsessed than in love with her. This video makes me feel better cause now I know that I love her

I had all of the seven signs. This was the reason of my relationship falling through and I’m glad to be learning from my mistakes.

Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers, single fathers, pet mom out there! How are you guys celebrating today?

@andresherrera9625

4 жыл бұрын

Cooking with her a lot :)

@tanzimislam6845

4 жыл бұрын

Though I can't really express my love for her But I do really love my mom Be happy always ❤️

@jengable4888

4 жыл бұрын

Psych2Go ...laundry, bike ride, contacting legal assistance for my daughter, and finishing an assignment that I submitted earlier. I hope others had a fun filled day ...filled with joy +love ❤.Happy Mother's Day...everyone !

@charlynnaruto-8064

4 жыл бұрын

My mom died so i celebrate with my grandma ❤💓❤💓💓

@cloud-zd7zm

4 жыл бұрын

me and my two mothers watched films today! we did also cook lunch together!

There’s a huge difference between wanting to love someone and wanting to own someone.

It's kinsa sad and heartbreak. That your partner didn't love you truly.

I am going to be incredibly blunt and downright honest, I see a few of those signs in myself and I actually hate myself for it, seeing all of this this kind of makes me know what to do better in my current relationship because I don't want it to be ruined by my own hand

Man, I just realized that I'm obsessed. Not with a partner, but with my friends. I have horrible anxiety (diagnosed, mind you) and I always worry when they don't text me back immediately, or I check every five seconds. I know it's dumb, but a part of my brain is convinced that they hate me and only put up with me out of pity.

@haphephobia

3 жыл бұрын

Same.. They just started matching pfps with someone. I'm dying.

@jja120

3 жыл бұрын

@@haphephobia im so sorry bb

@haphephobia

3 жыл бұрын

@@jja120 It's okie, I'm getting over it

@nessie7306

2 жыл бұрын

Me too,

@rock2946

2 жыл бұрын

I feel that. Something that helps is turning off the phone and doing something YOU like to do. Take time to think about yourself, what you need to improve, how to love yourself, how to cope, etc. When the thoughts start invading, just say "whatever" or "okay Karen" (btw, for those with intrusive thoughts, this may help too).

If the other person isn’t reciprocating your love as they used to then it turns into obsession. Stay woke, people. You don’t just turn obsessive out of the blue especially when you noticed that you weren’t like that in the beginning, but rather you gradually became that. They started offering you less now that they have you and it made you crave more for what it once was. It hurts to see these people blaming themselves to be the problem. Please refuse to be a victim of love bombing. Don’t self-diagnose but be self-aware. Please know your worth. I’m not saying everything is the other person’s fault but everything is a two way street and for every action there’s an equal reaction.

@Emc8362

3 жыл бұрын

This is so true. Thanks for saying that. I'm sure it isn't only me who's been bumming myself out bc of this video.

@greenandgold8310

3 жыл бұрын

This is exactly how I feel about it. I do realize that I became obsessive but it resulted from things not being what they used to be and me chasing how it was. That and a slew of other things. Regardless though I do realize how obsessive I was and do feel like I was lacking severely in self love and self worth which made it very hard to leave but I honestly can say I see where we both went wrong.

@Pauglin

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot. I wouldn't find that connection without you. The fact that she just didn't love me back as much as I loved her makes sense. I didn't want to lose her so I just became more obsessed. I have a hard time recognizing obsession from love. For me it seems like obsession is just stronger love. How can you love someone so much that you never want to lose them but at the same time not be obsessed? I just don't get that.

@senif684

2 жыл бұрын

Honestly- the first time I’ve ever even heard those words in that order of a sentence and started crying. Over the past 4 to 5 years I constantly blamed myself for the way I am, and wowww it makes so much sense. It all started when my ex fell out of love with me 9 months into the relationship, and never told me. But I could see it in their eyes, the way they would talk to me, the way they wouldn’t even look at me. Even the way that she would look to the side when we kissed. Ahhh thank you for helping me come to this realization- of course, part of it is on me, but I think that also contributed to my obsession

@ethancaine1646

2 жыл бұрын

Man this is my case exactly. The hard part now is that while she lost feelings and is now doing well after the breakup, I can’t imagine not having her anymore. Hard times.

Let's see if I am in love or obsessed. I love that your videos always come up right after I've started to think about these topics. I am using all of your videos to psychoanalyze anyone around me as well as psychoanalyzing myself.

All this actually gives me better clarity why my 7 year relationship failed. Even though this video is old I’m super happy to have seen this now, thank you.♥️ :’)

Who likes unanswered messages, especially if it's a break from the partner's usual communication pattern? People who genuinely love each other romanticise their relationship to a certain extent. A mixed bag of good and weak points.

@andreicocor4383

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I agree with you. The things said in this video are true and right until a certain point

@aries2242

3 жыл бұрын

I think the video is not saying that the only other option is to be completely ok with being unanswered or left unread. Of course it's not a pleasant feeling but sometimes it happens because people have things to deal with in their own lives. They're talking about people who, in the most obvious/extreme case, can't absolutely stand this or have little to no tolerance for it. And still, this is clearly in a general sense. Everyone has their own unique circumstances. A person who is not obsessive will likely better be able to deal with the occasional unread/unanswered message and move on (granted if there truly is no grounds to think that their partner is actually avoiding them).

@kaviasizach8490

3 жыл бұрын

@@aries2242 fax

@abinayaelil574

3 жыл бұрын

It's sad that some people don't believe in movie-like real life love stories..

@aries2242

3 жыл бұрын

@@kaviasizach8490 No printer 😎

My ex definitely romanticise the relationship. He believes that a relationship shouldnt have any arguement at all. Everytime after we argue, he would post status to facebook and say something like "is relationship supposed to be like this?" I mean ugh

@_iam1533

3 жыл бұрын

Hey. I have the same story! And I thought maybe real relationships have no arguments at all and I stopped telling anything to avoid arguments!

@vivt.9619

3 жыл бұрын

well relationships dont necessarily need arguments but they also dont have to never come with one as well. if your partner and u are happy and havent had an argument, it's not smth that indicates that something is wrong, but also it's ok to have occasional healthy arguments

@LeniTjahjadi

3 жыл бұрын

@@vivt.9619 yeah my comment was about the halthy arguments, he doesnt like it. He wants no argument at all

@taleseylad1249

3 жыл бұрын

@@LeniTjahjadi I don't think anybody likes arguments but that's part of a friendship or whatever.

@rebeccaayammine

3 жыл бұрын

What the hell, immature....

I’m not changing my mind about going back to my relationship, we had a wonderful time, but it was time that we weren’t a couple anymore.

Love is a quandary between having a burning desire yet not being attached to the outcome.

It took me awhile to realize how poorly I was acting in my relationship. I used to want them with me constantly because I was scared they’d leave me forever otherwise (this stems from abandonment issues). I didn’t realize it at first but once I did I corrected the behavior immediately. That made our relationship so much better and I’ve learned to trust them ever more because of it :) Love, and relationships in general, are a learning experience. So long as you acknowledge what you’re doing, and correct it, it will get better! And it will bring you closer together!

@mysticalkatie1847

3 жыл бұрын

how did you correct it? i'm very obsessive and it's starting to hurt our relationship. i love him, i really do but im very obsessive

@yaurfeiussystuhncc

3 жыл бұрын

🙌

@tracy9758

2 жыл бұрын

Same thoo omg..just that, still working on a 'trust'..

@rye.c

2 жыл бұрын

Good on you for correcting the behavior :)

@abbybelledent4134

2 жыл бұрын

@@mysticalkatie1847 well if He said he wanted to leave and you gult Trip him then yes but if not you have a phobia

A lot of people don’t “love” their favorite celebrities. They’re obsessed with them...

@devashrijoshi9079

4 жыл бұрын

You're ON POINT about this!

@TheLovelybbe

4 жыл бұрын

Aka toxic k pop fans

@abbied.

4 жыл бұрын

Deedee yeah unfortunately. I’m part of the K-pop fandom and it makes me sad for the artists to see fans who are way too obsessed. 😔

@ameeramela-kamara6669

3 жыл бұрын

Deedee I’m a Kpop Stan myself and this is true. There are people that are very obsessed with Kpop Idols and even stalk them

@user-oc2ub1cy8v

3 жыл бұрын

@@ameeramela-kamara6669 Those are saesangs

I was together with a guy just like this before, I ended it and I still haven’t really recovered, even tho it’s been months I’m still terrified.

POV:you came to check if they are obsessed but found out that you are the one obsessed and they are truely in love. 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀

Interesting. These kinda seem similar to signs of narcissism.

@siletsahar

4 жыл бұрын

These people usually are narcissists

@HitTheLofi

3 жыл бұрын

Oh give it a rest with these buzzwords guys

@natureandphysics403

3 жыл бұрын

Narcissism is a desirable and rewarded trait in society.

@glowyfrench7975

3 жыл бұрын

@@natureandphysics403 not really you see everyone shaming narcissists

@isabellahomberger5030

3 жыл бұрын

@@siletsahar I can confirm this. I think I might be one... Edit: I watched some videos on narcissists and I just have some narcissistic qualities sometimes.

My mum has a obsessive boyfriend I keep telling her yet she never listens to me..

@lyosha3027

4 жыл бұрын

I hope it gets better for u! And ur mom

@EvilEnsembleStars

4 жыл бұрын

@@lyosha3027 Thank you

@EvilEnsembleStars

4 жыл бұрын

@% Holy Garanja Probably..

@EvilEnsembleStars

4 жыл бұрын

@% Holy Garanja Please give me some And thank you I needed to hear this, I have bad thoughts sometimes(not only because of my mum)

@no-gracias9863

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe show her the video?

I like how in the intro she takes a leaf off and it doesn't even come off but she has the leaf

I so happy rn cuz I just realised that some people came to me saying it's love and i just hated the way they acted and pushed them away. And now watching this makes me realise that what I hated was actually those obsessive acts😂😂 I'm a genius. I didn't become a victim

@ENFPerspectives

2 жыл бұрын

It’s weird that you call yourself a genius but good that you saw the red flags.

@macadamia668

2 жыл бұрын

You are able to identify and point out the flaws on people's logic. That's just being critical and something people rarely have nowadays. Glad you sticked to your gut.

@xaladrez7811

2 жыл бұрын

@@ENFPerspectives I wasn't serious when I said the Genius part 😂😂

I don’t blame most people for being obsessive initially, I blame society with its toxic idealistic perfect couple childhood movies or whatever because that’s where most of us women got the idea of the perfect guy or So called Prince Charming . When nobody is even perfect.

Most relationships start in an obsessed mode, those who fail to mature into love should breakup or else they'll end up in divorce or abuse.

@soupyun

4 жыл бұрын

Truest comment ever

@zeishaalex6374

4 жыл бұрын

mallu🙄😜 I have seen u in mallu analyst comment box🤗

@deepadcruz6483

4 жыл бұрын

@@zeishaalex6374 പിന്നല്ലാ! Mallu analyst fan 💙

@deepadcruz6483

4 жыл бұрын

@@soupyun so sad that obsession is marketed as true love

@zeishaalex6374

4 жыл бұрын

@@deepadcruz6483 and in recent malayalam it's potraying heavily. No I should say in Indian films. Crappy romantic drama😏

Aka "7 Signs You're Dating Someone With Narcissistic Personality Disorder."

It makes me happy that I don't fall under this. I actually thought I was obsessed with but luckily, this video proved me wrong. Even though I like someone, I don't care too much about involving myself in their private life.

Love is about freedom Obsession is about captivity Choose freedom, not the shackles.

Some people just don't know how to be alone, or absolutely fear abandonment and fear that they will never find another person because of very low self esteem.

@thechablo4301

2 жыл бұрын

It’s me. I’m “people”

@ichoosemysanity6467

2 жыл бұрын

I get angry thinking about this stuff because I am always single. And everybody else never is it gets annoying. I just try to act like I don't see it.

@kriskayn2024

2 жыл бұрын

@@ichoosemysanity6467 the trick is that most of em are unhappy too

@MiaBlossomTV

2 жыл бұрын

Bpd sucks

@tonitv9991

2 жыл бұрын

no, some of us are women with biological clocks, dealing with an abundance of trash men who aren't mature and ready to start a family. when we see a gem, we try everything to scoop them up because they're so rare!

I was obsessed with someone once: it was extremely unhealthy. The only difference with the video is, we weren’t dating at the time: it was like love at first sight, I guess. I admired her from afar. I don’t talk to them anymore, though, and my feelings for them have (hopefully) vanished.

@keshsans536

2 жыл бұрын

Dude youtube will confuse you.... This is just too much sometimes.i like a girl too and these videos make us over think

I got out of a toxic relationship like this but also have been experiencing this with friendships, it only took me longer to realize because I didn’t think there were as many parallels as there are between the two types of relationships.

Im too possessive. I hope my ex is happy now that she’s not with me. I’ll try to fix myself and stop being so possessive

@atomamalgam7607

4 жыл бұрын

super uplifting

@Lynnie0831

4 жыл бұрын

Good luck !!!!!!

@itsmemattagain9841

4 жыл бұрын

finding myself in the same situation mate, good luck for us

@amyself8147

4 жыл бұрын

The first step to change or stopping any addiction, is to admit: so you are already well on your way! Good job and keep it up!! :) ;)

@oggdx

4 жыл бұрын

Amy Self :)) thank you 💕

hmm what about «friends» that are obsessed with you and obsessed with trying to prove they are better then you..?

@DarshD

4 жыл бұрын

They're like rivals from Pokemon games... Red vs Blue. Ignore them and minimize contact if they keep annoying you... no other way to deal with them.

@keiron.4612

4 жыл бұрын

Nobody is better than anyone in look at the heart of a person that's what I love

@DarshD

4 жыл бұрын

@@keiron.4612 Well said. Everyone's important and unique

@keiron.4612

4 жыл бұрын

@@DarshD even abusive parents there not unique

@DarshD

4 жыл бұрын

@@keiron.4612 parents comparing children are the worst. Abusive are also bad especially drunk dads beating children for no reason

I wish I didn't know what this feels like but I do. Looking back at all the emotionally unavailable, mentally juvenile relationships I've had makes me realize I was being used. Only when I left them did they "realize" I was something they'd miss. It's disappointing but a learning experience, if nothing else.

the realization that you escaped an obsessive relationship but also see from a distance that a friend is also enduring one that also doubles as a dangerous empath + narcissist combo i wanna help them get out of there but their partner is the only thing that stops me

I wanted to see If i'm just obsessed rather than in love with him

@sparklyxshine4796

3 жыл бұрын

when you realize you are not that obsessed one,that you really like him ❤️ now im more as sure

@sapphire8644

3 жыл бұрын

Bruh I’m too insecure to be obsessed with him and show it.

@Sunshine_str

3 жыл бұрын

same. What helped to really assess my feelings towards my guy was too take a few days without communication. If you can do it longer, the better. I also had to re assess my behavior of neediness towards him. After U realized that I became needy, I quickly apologized. I took a few days off from communication with him as well. I was anxious all the time, though. But after a free days to a week, I realized I do love the man. All I want is his happiness, I'll give it to him freely without demanding for the same thing. Having him in my life in whichever form is enough for me. As long as I can put a smile on his face and heart

When you realize YOU'RE the obsessed one...

@nidhiprakash9421

4 жыл бұрын

Same🤧🤧

@rainydays9400

4 жыл бұрын

Me, i feel bad with him. I always want to be in touch with him because we are in long distance relationship but now i realise that i am toxic and obsessed with him.

@yannabanana5083

4 жыл бұрын

Same 😒

@fluidsings7870

4 жыл бұрын

Sora Ryu It’s really good that you’re aware of that, kudos to you

@cartonriley

4 жыл бұрын

@@fluidsings7870 Ikr? 😇

After watching this video, I’m more sure about how toxic and immature I am in a relationship. Despite all of the wounds that I caused to my partner, they still stick with me and spot the good sides in me. So I’m now learning how to change, how to be more mature day by day so I can treat them better, for what they really deserve to have. I know I was a bad partner, but I’m happy that I figured that out and decided to change😊

Obsession can be deadly. I've experienced so many horrible things. It took me long enough to realise that it was not Love.

Me: *sees title* Also me: Bold of you to assume someone there's someone who doesn't ignore me

@collinscartoons2887

4 жыл бұрын

King of the Multiverse Forever Can relate

Me after watching the video: Guess I don't have a girlfriend anymore.

@JJJ2Boys

4 жыл бұрын

Carton Riley literally such facts

@creispy_chu

4 жыл бұрын

Never had one.

@sc4rlotte456

4 жыл бұрын

i mean some people can be just very attached and insecure. you should talk with her and tell her how you feel, maybe they still love you and just have another problem.

@abidecker2010

4 жыл бұрын

A lot of these problems are also from previous trust issues. She may love you but is worried you dont love her back, therefore doing these things.

@no-gracias9863

4 жыл бұрын

No

Its hurtful when you realize you are the wrong one. I need to change

I think I'm in love with the narrator's voice she's so calming and clear with what she's talking about, you could be an audible reader with a voice this soothing :) x

In my opinion, this is one of the biggest factors of distinguishing between love and obsession - the level of respect for individual boundaries. The former has respect for it. The latter, not so much, if at all.

@33Jenesis

4 жыл бұрын

I was searching for comments mentioning boundary issue :). IMO this is the root of the issue, not respecting (the obsessed party) and not setting (the one being obsessed) boundaries. It takes a lot of maturity to spot boundary issue early on and to respect it or enforce it.

@thewhizkid3937

4 жыл бұрын

It has something to do with a control mechanism of sorts. They are probably insecure with themselves so they attach themselves to you. Maybe for the image, while you may not feel the same. You know take for instance, why would anyone want to take a picture with you ?

@devashrijoshi9079

4 жыл бұрын

What if.. someone is willing to give that respect to you & you don't even possess feelings for that person to begin with? Actually, I'm having such case but I noticed easily that this guy Ik doesn't really give a f*** to my feelings & is someone who just wants to talk with me because he feels lonely. Okay I do that. I wanna help him too but when he gets better, it just feels like he want me to be there to just "lift up his mood" while Idk why I was never even interested in him although I do felt what he was feeling. Seemed like a past image of mine who has to work on to but I think it's just his nature which wouldn't gonna be changing that easily... *sign*

@BrotherTree1

4 жыл бұрын

@@devashrijoshi9079 I'm not a professional by any means so if it were me I'd just take what I'm about to say with a grain of salt as this is coming from my own learned experiences. In my opinion, you are under no obligation to reciprocate your feelings back to him, especially if you're honest about it with good moral, health and wellbeing reasons. Now that doesn't mean turning him down with malice and impoliteness/disrespect. I'd say be honest with how you feel about him, even if they're ill feelings. You can admit that "you see your old unideal self when you see him in his current self and not fulfilling his potential" and that it hurts you, especially if there's very little self-responsibility taken to make improvements for oneself - I see no malicious harm in that (rather it's harmful in that it sucks and feels shitty to be told that you can do better than who you currently are... but that's not a malicious or "bad" type of harm). I think it's crucial to be honest/truthful whenever possible because it ensures that everyone relevant or involved is on the same page... and whoever likes it or not, that's their problem. That said, that doesn't mean being rude and cruel and telling him to get f**ked or anything like that (unless he acts and/or has consistently acted upon criminally immoral behaviour, then that's pretty reasonable disgust response in those circumstances I'd say). That level of hatred, especially for long periods, probably won't do you any good for your sense of stability/balance, peace and strength either. So yeah I say be honest with your words whilst being as reasonably polite as you can, what he can improve on in your honest opinion as suggestions, remind him that he's responsible for his own life and actions (in the most encouraging way possible though, with negative and positive aspects included), and wish him the very best. And if he doesn't hassle you anymore, then I think there's no need to go after him if you don't want to or think it's good for your wellbeing/sanity. If he still hassles you... then what I've explained is a good start to standing your ground and enforcing respectful boundaries in my opinion. If he appears to take it well, that's great. If not and acts rudely/disrespectfully to your own eyes (you assess what you can tolerate), then ask him that whilst his feelings are understandable his behaviours aren't and that it's his choice to either make matters worse or make matters less worse... but "I'm not going to hang around and accept your behaviour as my responsibility". Having said all that... it's your choice. My advice can be taken, partially taken, or dismissed altogether. It's your choice. What I will say is that it's understandable to feel/be scared, confused and angry about this situation - because, to me, it indeed sounds like a sticky problem. I wish you all the best and hope it is resolved in the most helpful manner possible. And if anything goes maliciously pear shaped, get out and call the police. Apologies for the long winded reply... I hope it helps in some way, however small. And, if you want, please correct/advise me if I'm wrong about how I've interpreted your situation. Cheers.

Damn, I used to be an obsessive partner to someone, we weren't in a offical relationship but we treated each other like we were one. Actually, I treated our relationship like that. I texted them everyday, just wanting to know how they were doing. If they didn't respond within the next hour I'd get angry or anxious although I never texted them about it. I also gave them things, I never wanted them to give me stuff because I wanted to show that I was a good potential partner. But all their responses were one-sided and at times and they got uncomfortable too. Eventually they cut ties with me saying that they didn't love me. I was really hurt for several months but now I realize that they left me for a good reason. I didn't love them, I was just obsessed... I hope one day I'll have the confidence to apologize.

@nanaihkon2285

3 жыл бұрын

I get you. I'm a love obsession, I don't know how that developed. But I just knew it right now, now I wanna cut offs with him. I don't know how:((

@memesthemaker8429

3 жыл бұрын

I'm also love obsessed and I ruined my relationship that way sadly

@AcostaDonatella

3 жыл бұрын

I think we've all been there......it's my first love. Then I realized that I didn't love him, I just went over to the feeling that my crush for a very long time finally noticed me(I didn't tried things to get noticed though, he went to me)..........I don't want to loose him, so I did everything(except for the texts or calls). I give everything to him, I am a one call away too.---and at the end, he ghosted me(leave without explanation).

@etypings9542

3 жыл бұрын

Damn, i can't relate to you man but i really hope that you'll get the chance to apologize. I left my obsessive partner because the relationship was too suffocating, lost all of my friends and when we fought, i get upset and end up taking it out on my family. I wasn't happy and we were in an on and off relationship. (Just sharing this so that you can get an insight on the other side of things ^^)

@bulb2428

3 жыл бұрын

U dont know how much i relate to this and its kind of sad. Hoping ur better!

This kind of thing was what got me out from going in a relationship with one of my friends. He didn't act like he loved me, just like he just wanted the image he had of me, and I'm glad I noticed that and turned him down before things got harder.