“What you allow is what will continue.” That said it all for any relationship.

@diederickkruse8695

Жыл бұрын

Jesus

@diamondfox6985

6 ай бұрын

Amen

@jameslaiola4976

3 ай бұрын

❤

6 ways to tell she's toxic: 1. Blameshifting, inability to take accountability for her toxic actions and behavior. 2. They play power games. Communicates insecurity and immaturity. 3. Achievement becomes competition. Doesn't encourage you, support you, genuinely celebrate your wins with you. 4. Excessive envy and jealousy. Constantly mistrusting you (projecting her own untrustworthiness), violating your boundaries. 5. She's controlling. She's controlling of people, situations, the information you're allowed access to, and even people's perceptions of you after you break up (smear campaign, character assassination). 6. Uses you for money, is non-reciprocal with money as well as effort, validation, honesty, etc. A personal note: I experienced all of the above and more from my toxic ex, who is a professional therapist. Don't blindly believe appearances, or credentials. People in any profession can be toxic. Believe their behavior. Covert narcissists and psychopaths can be especially adept at manipulating perceptions by controlling information and constructing appearances. They get their needs met through deceit and trickery rather than authenticity and actually earning it. Imagine getting treated like this and then further being sh*t on afterwards by her calling you creepy and cringy and her leaving the relationship feeling superior to you. The only solution to these toxic people (women and men alike) is to distance yourself from them and find someone worthy of your love and kindness and who actually adds to your inner peace.

@Bowserguy62

Жыл бұрын

Yep my ex did all this except number 6 we both had good jobs out of college but everything else holy shit yep that was all her.

@CourtneyRyan

Жыл бұрын

Wow, thank you for sharing this!

@AllHandlesRTaken

Жыл бұрын

Here too, but you don't know until you're in.

@moleahy6880

Жыл бұрын

Women who are therapists, psychiatrists, and psychologists are some of the most screwed up. I think that's why they are attracted to the fields of mental health. Best to avoid them outright.

@YesPlease1

Жыл бұрын

@@moleahy6880 While it's hard to make blanket statements about entire groups of people, it is completely factual and fair to say that there is an over-representation of toxic/damaged people in the professions you listed due to selection bias.

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU

13 күн бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@IkamiLog

13 күн бұрын

Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@elizabethwilliams6651

13 күн бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU

13 күн бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@IkamiLog

13 күн бұрын

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

I’ve just ended a relationship with my girlfriend due to all of the things that you mentioned. It has completely damaged my mental health and to the point that I’ve made the decision to steer clear of getting involved with another woman for a long while. Great video!! Thank you 🙏🏻

@jbone3777

3 ай бұрын

I’m trying to find the strength to do the same right now. Glad it worked out for you man.

@happylarry274

3 ай бұрын

Wish I could do this too

@feelnrite

Ай бұрын

Women will only tear you down and leave you weak. I steer clear.

@mukesh.dhimar

24 күн бұрын

I'm with you. At the minute, I can't imagine getting together with anyone else. My ex was a monster. She was so abusive to me. If it was the other way round and I did and behaved as she did towards me, I'd be put in jail.

@dragan3290

14 күн бұрын

Just say F it!!! I don't know you, need you, want you anymore! I got sex and I can do better!! I'm off to find a decent girl! Watch her reaction but leave and stay strong 💪!!!

I don't see myself getting a girlfriend any time soon, but it's always nice to listen to positive and healthy-minded women like you, and even get good advice.

@CourtneyRyan

Жыл бұрын

Hopefully when the time comes this is helpful! Thanks for watching, I always appreciate your comments 😊❤️

@drip369

Жыл бұрын

Self improvement and awareness advice found here, and it's valuable until the day you die. You got this Storm Eagle 💪 💪

@drip369

Жыл бұрын

@@joshsaundh4851 lol it's spam bro. A cam girl spam bot

@machinesofgod

Жыл бұрын

The funny thing is that when you start thinking they aren't coming around anytime soon, then they start coming around 😅

@donnellgravette6181

Жыл бұрын

@@CourtneyRyan I was just with a female who always played the victim. She use to always day ppl done this did that point the finger, intentionally cause arguments then play ms little innocent etc I had to cut her off. All of ur videos remind me off this girl I use to be with.thank you for putting these videos out to get us guys aware of traits of these type of women. She was even jealous of the jobs i got closed I wear, she caused break uos in my friendship with my homies

Ha! My ex scored a perfect 6/6. It’s amazing how much toxicity you subconsciously overlook in another person because you’re blinded by love. Thank you Courtney, have a great day!

@aaron-damonkassner4715

Жыл бұрын

Glad you’re out of it! I was in the same situation a few years ago and never looked back

@jltgp6703

Жыл бұрын

@@aaron-damonkassner4715 Thanks man! Same to you. All we can do is learn from it and move on.

@davidfails2866

Жыл бұрын

Love is blind

@External2737

Жыл бұрын

I had a marriage that was 6/6 too. Love makes us men stupid.

@davidfails2866

Жыл бұрын

@@External2737 mine was 5/6 the whole money thing I wasn’t really an issue that I was aware of at least

Being a drama queen is enough reason to end the relationship.

Cheating in a relationship is an unforgivable betrayal of trust that can not be remedied, at least for me. There is no excuse for it and, again for me, marks your character as a person as flawed beyond redemption, in the regards to a relationship; thanks to alomd genius for saving me from that bloody cheater..

@daniellasanchez7521

8 ай бұрын

can i see their infos pls, i'll love to see my partner's phone too

@mathateress

8 ай бұрын

geniusallmod

@mathateress

8 ай бұрын

@G m a l l.

@mathateress

8 ай бұрын

comm

@daniellasanchez7521

8 ай бұрын

thank you for the detals

Here are some extra ones 7) she insults you and attacks you when she is upset with you. Not able to control her emotions and justifies her mistakes. 8) she tries to separate you from family and friends. 9) she is manipulative of you and situations. 10) she neglects you and doesn’t show you love. At some point it crosses the line from to toxic over to abuse. If you find yourself in love with an abusive women, cut it off and move on. Find healing and find someone who will value you.

@jordangarberg7744

9 ай бұрын

Who hurt lil mango?

@michajastrzebski4383

8 ай бұрын

11) she thinks that a group called "women" has any right to define what a "good man" is, or what's best for men. Its only for us to decide.

@klankie1

8 ай бұрын

who hurt you?@@jordangarberg7744

@ForeverFrengers

6 ай бұрын

Number 7 was especially problematic with my ex. Such disrespectfull an verbally abuse behavior, and I wouldn't have it. Most important thing in a relationship is trust and respect. She deserved neither and I'm glad I got rid of her.

@Karll541

5 ай бұрын

I’m not attractive enough to get a woman who’s emotionally stable so I’m stuck with psychos

My GF broke up with me about 7 weeks ago and she displayed all of these traits, was with her 3 years, I went to great lengths to help her thro those years with every aspect of life for her to blame me for the relationship ending. Never again will I deal with that crap

@uaking21

Жыл бұрын

Almost exact same situation. Great learning experience

@DanTheManIOM

Жыл бұрын

Very similar here. Close that chapter and LOCK IT SHUT !! LOL.

@Doshanko

Жыл бұрын

This. I stayed single after that. Each time a girl wants to be in the relationship with me, that's when all the red flags reveal themselves. Ain't looking, just chasing my goals. Life has never been better

@hankhill3417

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like a narc discard

@BLUExEYEDxSLICKT

Жыл бұрын

Same here man but 6 years for me and I was lied too and only used to help win her kids back and then eventually discarded when her use of me was up. Went from I was her life to smear campaigning me left and right and playing victim none stop. She discarded after even helping her once again even long after the relationship ended of her reaching out for my help as always. I’ll just soon have to move to get totally away from her and her drama she always causes.

Hits the nail on the head. I actually went through counciling because I thought I was the problem. Come to find out from my councillor I wasn't the problem, she was. This video is 100% accurate and things to run from.

@otdreamer193IRONFIST-yx6gn

Ай бұрын

That’s their goal all along because they won’t take accountability for themselves so they make you the scapegoat.

@The_Prince_Of_Crows

Ай бұрын

People tend to flip things around on the other person. Both genders do it. The fact you were willing to consider yourself part of the problem speaks volumes about your character and willingness to be open. You will be alright, you just need to find someone on your level.

@mukesh.dhimar

24 күн бұрын

I went through the same thing.

Have been in love with a lady who was so toxic for me and has hurt me numerous times over the last 4 years. Tomorrow is the last day I am ever going to speak to her. Wish me luck

@mukesh.dhimar

24 күн бұрын

I hope you got rid of her..

@davidabest7195

16 күн бұрын

How have you held up? I had a similar realization with a woman i have been with off and on for 20 years over the holidays. I went NC on new years day havent spoke to her since. It was hard but over the months I changed from feeling like it was my fault to actually having anger toward her bc as the lust and affection fades I can clearly see the patterns of abuse over the years and how badly she just used me.

@jeffreysuda1765

9 күн бұрын

Still there wimp. Balls up

@lawrence809

8 күн бұрын

block her. over and over if you have to. It takes 21 days to form a new habit.

The best thing a man can do is be ready to let any girl go when it’s necessary. I’ve seen way too many of my boys stick around and put up with lot of emotional manipulation and abuse. Just because a girl is very attractive on the outside they think they can’t do better. No girl is worth your peace of mind. Being willing to walk away ironically makes it less likely you’ll have to since you’ll actually be able to set healthy boundaries.

@PuntedKitten

Жыл бұрын

Honestly, I think a return to patriarchy is necessary at this point. Nothing short of an organized movement to course correct.

@inconnu4961

Жыл бұрын

amen. bro!

@georgevavoulis4758

Жыл бұрын

You be shocked at the number of straight guys who are so fed up with TOXIC FEMINISTS that they get sex from gay guys now .

@RobertJohnson-lh6dg

Жыл бұрын

A beautiful vagina can put the best of us in a trance

@HopeUnquenchable

Жыл бұрын

@Bryant Vargas, I am a woman, and I approve this message 👍

I had a ex-girlfriend who was competitive, jealous, and controlling. She was horrible. I'm glad I broke up with her and moved on. She was attractive and that''s all she had going for her.

@CourtneyRyan

Жыл бұрын

Glad you moved on! Sounds awful lol

@marcmays48

Жыл бұрын

Women like that become less attractive over time. Looks fade, but an ugly personality is timeless. 😝

@sedalionthunder6295

Жыл бұрын

I feel you here, similar experience. Hope your ok now 💪

@mdcmdc1

Жыл бұрын

It is true...a bit of skirt, a pretty girl and you tend to ignore all the red flags.

@JishinimaTidehoshi

Жыл бұрын

That's your mistake. You dated a woman because of looks!!!

Just went through a breakup about a month and a half ago, and she exemplified a few of these points. Past traumas, unnecessary jealousy, and controlling.

@sumitpatankar5832

10 ай бұрын

i feel you

@mufaspismail9885

9 ай бұрын

I feel you 😢

@mufaspismail9885

9 ай бұрын

She played victim card against me.

@stormrodgers2613

9 ай бұрын

Saaame! Haha!

@sumitpatankar5832

9 ай бұрын

@@mufaspismail9885 story of our life

Lot of broken human beings walking around. Even more toxic ones.

It happens all the time. Toxic is the new norm & worn as a badge of honor, especially in social media. Yesterday, I saw a woman sporting a top saying " "Proud Bitch" & her toddler daughter wearing a top "Future Bitch." with people huddled around her stroller commenting how cute that was. I guess she got her validation?

@JMLoll

Жыл бұрын

Yikes!!!

@burnrubber7547

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like a lot of women in the uk sadly.

@Nick86ITA

Жыл бұрын

a very well choosen mate/father/husband , and a very bright fullfilled future for the little girl....

@kennethlapointesongwriter3330

Жыл бұрын

Lol. Yup, as an older guy I would agree. Current society---it's 'cool' and 'awesome' to be completely bloated and puffed up on yourself as the most important thing around. Pathetic and has horrible results.

@tugboat2

Жыл бұрын

I would honestly be embarrassed FOR that woman if I saw her t-shirt (smh)

I never dated a toxic woman but my brother has. When they broke up, she sent 20 really nasty text messages to my brother. I lost all respect for her. I'm glad my brother is out of that relationship.

"She never takes accountability." So basically every woman ever.

@chuckvladyslav6300

Ай бұрын

Yes

@gabitapapa

26 күн бұрын

I have to be honest that people always say this person is toxic or this.... and if we think like that pretty much everyone would be single hahaha we are always toxic 😩

@chuckvladyslav6300

11 күн бұрын

@@gabitapapa no. It's just women

@3093DaNieLe3093

5 күн бұрын

Toxic woman,not all are like that do not generalize

This is so true. There are so many women like this, they simply never became women, they stopped developing at an early age emotionally. Thank you so much for validating what I already knew. God bless you.

Hands down the biggest red flag is when they associate being dramatic and confrontational as a form of affection. If she WANTS you to get into bar fights with random dudes over her instead of talking things out like a gentleman, GTFO IMMEDIATELY

@hansscheltema3348

Жыл бұрын

I used to be one of those guys they would hit on in front of their men

@SanDiegoBiz

Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, half the women out there today, do exactly that

@carlohumfing6432

Жыл бұрын

Then just ask her to first have a knife fight with some random girl in the bar. ;-) If she's alive after that, you tell her that you are not into murderers, while you already have dialed 911... ;-D And if she says no to that, you do what most of women do: You blame her of not really loving you and tell things like "How you did I ever fall in love with you? It's over. I go." and then just leave her. :-D

@TheJamalThomas

Жыл бұрын

Half I’m thinking more like 75/80%

@jeffhunt8506

Жыл бұрын

Biggest issue with women is trust. If she flirts with others constantly. She's probably not worth it.

Toxic people never change in my experience

@BLUExEYEDxSLICKT

Жыл бұрын

Nope… they just change victims and it’s many many victims that she will always blame and never herself.

@chukamakalaka

Жыл бұрын

@@BLUExEYEDxSLICKT borderline personality disorder is what that is called aka Amber turd disorder

@ze_kangz932

Жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right about that

1. Love-bomb stage 2. Anchored (ex. kids) 3. Toxic behaviors start 4. Gaslighting to keep you or get you back. 5. Either leave or this Narcissist Cycle continues. I’ve been dealing with the worst for 8 years. I’ve filed divorce 2 times and ended both to “reconcile” and once she gaslit me to come back it started all over again. Take my word men. Just leave and don’t look back!

@juniors2sexy

Күн бұрын

And hovering

Most guys know these toxic signs but they ignore them.

@jimzucker

Жыл бұрын

And girls are on the looks for guys who either don't know or are willing to enable their toxic behaviors

@moonrivercamper

Жыл бұрын

Because they are dependent and afraid to loss that toxic girl friend. Men now a days are now getting weaker.

@bacgroundmoney332

Жыл бұрын

Yes in hopes they change or they buy your forgiveness aka buying material items

@michaelhill2933

Жыл бұрын

​​@@moonrivercampersaying "men nowadays" is a sexist sterotype "some men"

@geomora3281

Жыл бұрын

Love is blind he said,

My woman is the complete opposite of this. I'm so glad I'm in my early twenties and found Mrs. Right so early in life. Cheers to many more, my love. Thank you, Courtney.

@DiamondScuff

Жыл бұрын

Dont worry. Even opposite women from this can be dangerous. Women need a warning label like bleach does.

@womenwhowantmenbackakawwwm8232

Жыл бұрын

@@DiamondScuff same goes for most men.

@DiamondScuff

Жыл бұрын

@@womenwhowantmenbackakawwwm8232 Yeah. But itleast the "most men" are very obvious. Women disguise it way better.

@BLUExEYEDxSLICKT

Жыл бұрын

Be careful I thought the same thing and after that 4th of the 6th year my ex the sociopath narcissist true colors started to show little by little. The mind game manipulating sneaky evil beast came out and she tried her best to destroy me. They are so nice and charming at the beginning. Then they do a whole 360 change on you and then you’re enemy #1 and they smear campaign you like crazy and try to turn everyone against you.

@realityitis4

Жыл бұрын

@@BLUExEYEDxSLICKT yea which is why I tell my guys push back sex as long as you can to like the 6 or 9 month mark, scout the shit out of your potential gf, and truly try to get a read, even when you do have a read, you can never be sure, is this just all and act

I'm glad I went no contact with my ex! I valued myself too much to stick around and put up with her manipulative BS!! I started learning about cluster B personality disorders a month before walking away from her. And started to see more & more red flags hoping that she wasn't a narc or a borderline, but she was a borderline with a lot of narcissistic traits. When I accepted that she would never change no matter what I did. So I just ghosted her. It was one of the best things I've done for myself!

@airjordan4ever

8 ай бұрын

Wow, I was dating a cluster B person!

I was in a toxic relationship for 10 months and this girl is exactly right on point listen to her!!!

One of my exes ticked all these boxes. She had been abused by her dad, and her mom told her she was Queen/Princess/Perfect so that led to narcissism. She became cruel and Machiavellian, like a super-villain in her manipulations. Fortunately my work paid for 5 weeks of counselling to resolve the issues post breakup.

@michaelnacar

9 ай бұрын

They use past history as an excuse to behave in that type sander victimized 😅 and a half conditions mentally unstable to use as an excuse for behavior

@johnsparks9641

5 ай бұрын

My ex had the same upbringing. Unfortunately after three years, I am starting counseling. We have a kid together and she dumped me at the beginning of this month for a 50 year old shiny new toy.

@mattblom3990

5 ай бұрын

@@johnsparks9641 I am sorry to hear that.

@johnsparks9641

5 ай бұрын

@@mattblom3990 Thank you. It's hard but I know it will get better.

Excellent advice, Courtney. My ex displayed 4 of these toxic behaviors on a regular basis (that is why she is my ex).

@damiennroddy

Жыл бұрын

Mine showed 5🥴🥴 took* 5 years but once it clicked I cut it off👌🏾

@puscifer99

Жыл бұрын

My ex was 6/6, granted I'm Autistic so it's harder for me to pick the signs.

First time listening to you and this was so worthwhile. I filed for divorce 8 months ago and 5/6 of your points I was subjected too. What finally ended it for me was the lack of loyalty she showed. She never had my back. Used condescending language toward me in front of friends. Of course the last 8 months have been perfect. But I know it is just manipulation trying to reel me back in to her web of dysfunction

Unfortunately my wife is toxic. But we have a 14yr and a 6yr old. She thinks she knows everything and can never be in the wrong or apologize. The funny think is though my kids always pick me over her in every situation 😊

@johnnycortez3435

13 күн бұрын

My wife and I have been together for 25 years now. We both went through our toxic phase. She was controlling and I was the jealous type. We both suggested divorcing a number of times but we both really loved each other. We decided to go to couples therapy. And I have to tell you. The more honest you are the better the results. The therapist saw right through our passing the puck routine. She would even separate us to get each other’s point of views. Then put us together and discuss our points of views and each other’s flaws. She basically told us that we were both toxic 😂😂😂. But, she told us that if we don’t fix this now. That we will simply carry it with us to our next relationship. So my wife and I painfully started on the road to better ourselves. We are finally in a great place together now after 10 years. It’s like really learning who you really are and meeting your partner for the first time. We can’t believe how insecure we use to be and how many years were wasted cause of it. Don’t wait, get therapy now. I can honestly say that every single couple needs to try it at least once. You will be amazed at what you learn and be honest with your therapist. They will know if you are not. It’s not their first rodeo and they really have heard everything. 😂😂😂😂😂 great video!❤😊

I would also like to give advice from my experience. If there is a "voice" in your head telling you that your relationship isn't gonna work you should probably listen to it. It really doesn't help being around someone you don't feel comfortable with no matter how nice they are or how good they look.

@forrealforreal588

Жыл бұрын

Solid advice

@ccptube3468

Жыл бұрын

That's a Perfect Advice! I suffered greatly in past ignoring my instincts!

I recently got my self esteem absolutely destroyed. She projected her insecurities on me and blamed me for things I never did or have done in my life, while trying to hold me accountable. The worst thing is I kept apologizing in the hopes she wouldn't leave, because I thought I'd never find such a perfect match again. I guess this was the "lovebombing" or "mimicking" phase. In the end she just wanted to feel validated, most likely due to a previous toxic relationship. It took me many months to stop internalizing blame, and I still can't let a woman in my life, even when a few times beautiful women were hitting on me. My brain has gotten over internalizing blame, but the trauma is still there. I hope you continue what you are doing, it helps a lot.

@lonelypigeon7562

Жыл бұрын

let that chick go......one day, you probably identify her in a news story in the "police/fire section" as an assault victim or worse....

Nice work! Thank you! #1 unfortunately reminds me of my dad. Every problem happens and it is always my mom's fault. I never noticed my father recognizing his responsibility. I did talked to my dad about this issue but he seems to ignore my report.

Two independent councilors told me after 1st appointment, as broken as she is, she can't be fixed. She tricked all through the breakup process and did everything to destroy me in every way, including getting full custody to then teach my(our) kids narcissistic behaviors. Really sad. All I want was to raise my kids in a healthy manor. Had no idea how someone can "love" me and then wind up trying to kill me. True stuff. My kids think I'm the broken one.

I've been single for 5yrs now after a tough break up & was finally open to dating again but I found myself encountering a toxic girl. I didn't see it at first because after her affection I was hooked & was blinded. I found myself trying to help her & eventually becoming a simp. The lesson I learned was be cautious of who I bring into my life & leave ASAP if I notice any toxic behavior. Thank you Courtney for this video.

Ugh this hit close to home. Whenever I achieved something good for myself, my ex felt the need to knock me down.

Thanks for this. It helps a lot to realise it couldn't work and moving on was the best decision, and fight back the pain. 🙏🏻

Yes, all of them. Was married to a covert Narcissist. Mentally messed with my head.

I wish had this video back in the day. I think a part of the reason I don’t really date is because I don’t really trust myself to end the relationship or properly stand up for myself once I’m attached. I don’t think Amber became toxic until after they were married.

Personally, I am no longer interested in a relationship right now. I am only 22 years old. I think its best for us guys to simply just focus on career and hit the gym constantly (this goes out to guys who are seeking relationships in their early 20s). This will bring a much better ROI in the long term as opposed to staying in toxic relationships and wasting time in unhealthy relationships where everything is one-sided. Now I am not against having a relationship but it is very difficult to date/ find the right person these days. God will eventually send the right person at some point.

@ericvalverderosado2046

Жыл бұрын

Im 22 as well…i’ve been seeking like hell from 16 to 20…the last heartbreak really turned down my will to go get some girl…sometimes i hate being single and some I feel really fortunate of not feeling obligated to give my time to someone or deal with her BS…Checking how i dress, eating healthy 5 day a week, grinding for my grades, fixing minor aesthetic issues and better my social skills is more fulfilling than figuring out some girl’s mind that’s not really into you…some girl will look at you anyways, they pop in your life unexpectedly

@jaysouthmusic8230

Жыл бұрын

Very well said and I totally second this

@jleano609

Жыл бұрын

22-23 or so is when things started to turn around for me dating wise. I’d left college and had landed my first job. Suddenly I was very attractive to girls still at college 18-21 yo or so. Hypergamy is a thing, girls want to date UP. That’s why guys have to wait and build their value. When you are just dating at school or college unless you have great looks, status or game you’re just another guy to the girls around you. You have to transcend that environment to get noticed, so yes, work on yourself but keep a weather eye out for girls who are interested. As you grow there will be more and more, as long as you have a good social circle. This starts with a solid male friend group. Cultivate that.

@mattwood8659

Жыл бұрын

I don't think people should be in relationships until they're about 25 and have matured, developed and figure out who they are as a person.

@mrche8786

Жыл бұрын

Very well said and I agree, wait for God to send you the right person

What you allow is what will continue! This is so on point and what opened my eyes.

i have a couple of these and didn’t realize it because i didn’t focus on taking care of myself and working on insecurities. i am taking charge of myself and growing to stop these toxic behaviors.

If she plays games with you (not the fun kind), she’s toxic!

@kc270352

Жыл бұрын

it's fun to her lmao

@karlvonboldt

Жыл бұрын

@@kc270352 😂😂😂

@Winterdogmusic

2 ай бұрын

Damn right

I've followed you for almost a year now and yeah, the second anyone plays games and gaslights, I'm out! I've been through too much mental turmoil and to me, she's proving shes the low hanging fruit

@CourtneyRyan

Жыл бұрын

You’re awesome, Tommy! I appreciate all your support in the comments. Totally agree with you! 🙌🏼 no time for games

@tommygunn6901

Жыл бұрын

@@CourtneyRyan back at ya! 😁✌

@varun.shenoy10

Жыл бұрын

Hey Tommy, I have noticed you from both Courtney's channel and Amanda Silvera's channel. Keep up the good work brother 💪👊😎👍

@tommygunn6901

Жыл бұрын

@@varun.shenoy10 thank you very much my guy!😁✌

Wow Cortney I know someone right now who definitely is toxic and showed narsaistic behavior right now I was going to start dating her but after I got to know her better I quickly changed my mind ASAP!!!!!

My wife smashed two 48 inch florescent light bulbs over my head then blamed me for the mess on my shop floor.

On the topic of games my biggest pet peeve about dating apps is that women's bios always say "no time for games," but they are 100% the ones that play the games, so apparently they do have time for it.

@womenwhowantmenbackakawwwm8232

Жыл бұрын

Saying, “they are the ones who play the games” meaning men do not is such a generalized statement- it’s toxic.

Thank you Courtney. I definitely agree that toxicity comes from unhealed trauma. my best friend's last relationship had most of these issues and they definitely were due to massive insecurity issues.

Excellent video, Courtney. Definitely experienced and you are 150% right.

I was so blinded by all you've said by this woman that it destroyed our marriage 😢. I did see the red flags and ignored them all and now reaping from what I sowed.

@LastRebel1978

18 күн бұрын

It’s called codependency. You’re not alone brother. Stems from childhood trauma or hero complex.

Never let the ups and downs along the way, stop you from doing what you know is meant for you to do.

@carlosverde-datingtips7001

Жыл бұрын

I hear ya - stayhappylittle mermaid! Great tips - by Courtney! This is why you have to be very careful who you get involved with - because they could possibly ruin your life, and the career that you’ve worked so hard for. That’s why you also have to pay really close attention early on in the relationship, to see if you can spot any red flags before it’s too late. I’m sure John Depp wish he had - now! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

@marcmays48

Жыл бұрын

@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 RE: Johnny Depp-- Birds of a feather, flock together. They were both wacko, which is why they ended up together. On the plus side, with more issues than Hugh Hefner, they created enough drama to keep some of us entertained by it all. 😜

@carlosverde-datingtips7001

Жыл бұрын

@@marcmays48 I hear ya!

@simontmn

Жыл бұрын

@@marcmays48 Both mad, but only one an abuser.

@clarusjason4389

11 ай бұрын

True saying dear

if she's playing games, that's reason enough to leave her.. even if you love her as hard as it may sound, you gotta distance yourself from her, cuz that shit will end up eating you alive. stay strong and always remember there's someone put on this earth for you, you just gotta look and see 🙏🏾

Thank you Courtney. Totally agree with this list. Many of these signs are also possible indications of a cluster B diagnosis, which points to your trauma point. Heard is diagnosed histrionic. And many of the men here may have dated someone who is Borderline or Narcissist. I can tell you, based on my own experience, just run when signs are pointing to someone like this. This isn’t to be cruel. It just isn’t our job to fix them.

My ex had major toxic behaviour concerning nummer 1,3 and 5 plus being verbally abusive and kept physical intimacy locked away unless I was able to fully accommodate her. I fired her ass 2 months ago and have never been happier. I'd rather be single the rest of my life than deal with such high maintenance nudging behavior!

I really appreciate the pointers and tips you give, it’s helped me regain my self worth and not get used. I don’t struggle getting dates, I struggled with picking the right one. You are the best Courtney!

If I look back on dating and relationship experiences, a lot of the time toxic behaviors I encountered were really just immaturity on behalf of the girl, or lack of strength of character to actually say they weren’t attracted or invested in taking a relationship further. Women are non-confrontational and rarely direct. If you take the lead, but they can’t follow, then they are not going to be a good dance partner, simple as. With experience I learned to read the signs and test their attraction early on by playing it cool and not being try-hard. If a girl likes you and has character, she’ll let you know. If you have to put in work, that speaks volumes. Simple rules. If she’s below 22yo, don’t expect anything much from her, most girls are incapable of flying straight at this age. Any girl that can is highly unusual and worth pursuing. Ages 22-27 are when most smart girls start to fly right. Again, if a girl is prepared to behave during this time she’s worth taking seriously. Any girl who gets to 27 and is still a handful will always be a handful. And don’t be fooled by girls 27-32 who are suddenly seemingly flying right but were party girls before. They’ve hit epiphany phase and are looking for a sucker to settle down with most likely. These are the most dangerous women of all. As said, a woman less than 27 years old who is ready to exit the carousel for you is what you should be looking for, and if she’s 20-23 with green flags like good family, hard working and naturally submissive then take her very seriously.

@Malitubee

9 ай бұрын

I’ve never heard this put so perfectly

@armyparrot9353

5 ай бұрын

What about 40+?

My Ex had no secrets. Everything that happens btn us, was the next day talk of the neighborhood. She could always play blame games, manipulate her family and me, never helping but abusive even in public.

My ex has every single quality that you've listed. She was so insecure it was exhausting...if she wasn't arguing then she was complaining.ALL THE TIME.

Thanks for your videos, I recently got outta this 1 sided relationship where I was getting used for attention! I binged get watched a bunch of your videos and it opened my eyes!

@paulmagson

Жыл бұрын

You not wrong bud if the girl is dating a guy 6 foot tall she's using him for attention, she will say in her head to other females look what I got! this guy has a big noodle, wasn't ever about love? just recognition, & attention! For me when I see a really small girl and a tall guy! looks so strange, they're girls? they think differently with what they want.

Yes you helped me! Thank you ! I don't feel guilty or caring anymore for both of them girls ! Thank you so much for helping me get rid of them 2

I had a woman flirt with me openly for 7 months, even saying things that made other people side-eye how forward it was. I ended up asking her on a date and she assumed all I wanted was sex, that she was flirting with me, but that she very recently decided she wasn't available for dating right now. So I felt confused and kind of hurt that I was led on and that reciprocating HER interest was treated like I did something wrong. So I dropped it. I ran into her at an event and she was quite forward again, touching me, hugging me, staring deeply into my eyes inches away from my face. She started texting me a lot, sending me racy photos, and even wanted to drop her sweatshirt on my porch because she got too warm on her run. We ended up making out a couple times over the next two weeks, and it felt like it was going somewhere until she called me and started talking negatively about one of my friends and I told her it hurt to hear her talk that away. She told me I shouldn't take it personally and that I will learn that in therapy and that she had to get off the phone. I told her how upset that make me and that it felt like she was gaslighting me and broke it off. Then I run into her again a few more weeks later and she's right back to hugging me and staring into my eyes and I feel like such a sucker. She is very attractive to me, creative, etc, but there is something very wrong with how she treats men or at least me. When we spend time physically together everything feels good and even special, but I feel like she mostly wants to text. If we hang-out in a group she expresses interest in spending time with me separate from the group, and when I make an offer to spend time with her she says yes, but never follows up about the times I've presented to her, or told me when best works for her. It feels like I'm some kind of tourist attraction. Like all my creativity and silence and how well my friends like me and do cool things for our community is interesting, but that once they get to know that I'm a real person with feelings and needs of my own that everything becomes foggy. I feel good about my friends, career, hobbies, finances, health, etc, but man I hate dating, lol. I want to stop taking each interested person so seriously and just date a ton of people until I find one with some mutual respect, appreciation, attraction, and communication style I guess. Not someone entitled to toying with sexuality and emotions. I feel like she has goodness in there somewhere, but I'm feeling like most of what I know about her is a mask to protect her own traumas and ego.

@dhanrajmohan701

9 ай бұрын

That song like her bro 😅

@willwetherell7265

9 ай бұрын

Run

@m.l.5230

3 ай бұрын

She's a Narc!

there's a woman I talk to, we've had a couple night outs but I ended things cause she was talking to other guys, a couple months later she recently reached out and said she misses me and still likes me but still sleeps with other guys 🤔 not gonna chase, gonna let her do her thing 😂

I just got out of a relationship with a girl who disappointed me several times and kept coming back to me after I drew a boundary or pushed her out of my life. Even after she ghosted me I finally learned that you shouldn’t allow what you don’t want. It’s weird how some people will dump you but keep coming back to you. I learned to understand I deserve better. She didn’t feel andything doing me wrong so many times but came back with praise and flattery every time she came back. Man people are weird and you don’t need to try and figure them out. Live your best life and be content already and you will eventually get what you desire.

@spiroguru

Жыл бұрын

thats my story with my ex....

@Manmadecontent

Жыл бұрын

This true

I was under control for one year while I never left her alone, since that I decided myself to keep waiting until the right one deserves myself as his equal and respectful partner, I’m not in the rush and refused many bossy good looking girls .. I need a normal brave loyal lovely woman. It’s a kind of mission impossible but never know

Hi Courtney, it took me 20+ years but I am finally rejecting the toxic behaviour. Most women have impossible standards to meet, when they are average at best. There are good women out there, I have met a few usually through having the same interests or background. The future of society / reproduction is at stake. Pandering to women does not help anyone. Thanks again Courtney for all your work, Neil.

And another great one!!! You’re like a supportive friend to all of us!!! Love these tips and videos, Courtney!!!! Keep it up with the great content!!!! ❤️🙏🏼🙌🏼💯

00:27 She is always the victim 🗯 01:25 - 02:37 Playing games 🏹❗ 04:18 Achievement becomes competition 💪👊 05:37 Excessive envy or jealousy 😠 06:39 She is controlling 🤚🤫⚠️ 07:30 - 08:31 She is using you for your money💶

@williamheinsinger7390

Жыл бұрын

Boom 💥 💥 💥 💥 💥 💥

@ericperez7115

Жыл бұрын

Thanks. I hate the new video format.

@Valentinfj

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome. 🤝

@YieldOfDreamz

Жыл бұрын

1 - An accountable woman? LOL.....I have this bridge to sell you 2 - What else would she do with your boring behind... 3 - I am a boss chick.... 4 - Eh I guess so on this one..... 5 - Of course...she sees you as a weak simp beta 6 - What else are the bottom 80% of men good for other than cash. Certainly dont like us....

@animehitz2679

Жыл бұрын

@Anonymous Apple if ur girlfriend scores a good job and gets a bonus or gets a promotion you would be happy for them . in a woman who is toxic's case , she doesnt like that u keep achieving more especially if she herself is lazy to work and because it reflects bad on her ( you keep working hard for better opportunities while she is wasting her life being picky or lazy) and she may be jealous and be jealous in the future and keep putting you down for every other small mistake u make in the future for her to say " he is good in his work but in other things in life , he sucks and i am better , i have my W" that is what is wrong with jealousy

I seen two damaged people against each other. One swears the other has issues, well, in blindness, too has issues and in denial. So will keep attracting same kind of women, even while fingerpointing at other men like himself!

Someone please pay this lady 😭🙏 she's so right 💯💯

Don't even know why I watch videos like this anymore as I have ZERO interest in dating, never mind getting married.. Single and DELIGHTED to be that way and am STAYING that way.

@marcmays48

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for supporting the channel. The internet does come with an 'Off,' switch, should you feel the need to use it. Just sayin'. 🙂

@drip369

Жыл бұрын

Yeah this channel is mainly about improving yourself and improving your awareness while it can translate its way into dating, family, friendships, and work life

@EMichaelBall

Жыл бұрын

You never know - and you can date long term without considering getting married.

Very level-headed and sincerely done video. As a man who has had relationships in the past, these are really the red flags I encountered that led to their end.

Well put together Courtney! I found your post be very informative.

This is the first video I have watched from you Courtney. I can relate to this from work. It's a co worker who hates me for no reason, not friendly toward me and flees as soon as I walk in. Because I am friends with her friend, she thinks I am going to steal them away from her. Ryan.

This woman Courtney is a gem, I’d love to date someone like her. Very educated and wise. Also you are very right about toxicity comes from trauma and immaturity. Trauma is where most of our actions stem from, that’s why so many people are dysfunctional. I teach my friends and family this as often as possible. You have to make an effort to be healthy in every area of your life. It takes sacrifice and it’s uncomfortable but it’s a necessity to grow. Hilarious when you said scum of the earth, I say that often 😅

I had a girlfriend during the Dark Time (what I call the time before I met my wife) who couldn't get along with my friends and family. She even struggled with her own friends. She was what I call a spotlight personality. She needed to be the center of attention in any setting. This worked out fine when it was just the two of us. Under those conditions, she behaved well and communicated well. But whenever I tried to mix her with anyone else, she struggled to get the spotlight on her. I just couldn't mix her in with any of my family or friends without a tussle over who was going to be the center of attention during the social occasion. This proved unworkable.

I dated a female narcissist for more than three years, and she easily scores 6/6 on this list. This list only scratches the surface of how psychologically damaging different toxic behaviours can be in an unhealthy relationship. I would spare this experience for many, so I suggest we keep learning and take seriously those signs. Don't compromise. You are worth more than that.

You nailed it. I've seen several of these behaviors in girls that I've had relationships with. All of those relationships eventually came to an end.

Great tips! This is why you have to be very careful who you get involved with - because they could possibly ruin your life, and the career that you’ve worked so hard for. That’s why you also have to pay really close attention early on in the relationship, to see if you can spot any red flags before it’s too late. I’m sure John Depp wish he had - now! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

@CourtneyRyan

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely! Thanks for the comment, Carlos! 🙌🏼

@carlosverde-datingtips7001

Жыл бұрын

@@CourtneyRyan no problem - Courtney! My pleasure. 😁❤️

Spot on, Cortney. Yes I have experienced this as well. I could write few short stories about it...

@ghosttheprogram6973

Жыл бұрын

You should Maybe others can connect with you and share their experience too

Thanks for the heads up. Great video.

Courtney, you speak like my wife. Comforting, knowing many Earth Angel's are amongst mankind helping. You included. Thank you dear one.

Yes, I experienced all 6 of them from a single person, And many many more... Practically she is a narcissist.

@ghosttheprogram6973

Жыл бұрын

Oouch

I’m 24 and never been in a relationship but I do have my stuff together and I am financially stable

@EMichaelBall

Жыл бұрын

Most women aren’t worth the squeeze. The burden is on the woman to prove their worth. Probably worth not marrying unless God gets involved, and I don’t mean meeting in a church.

Great practical guidelines for relationship. To put it bluntly what you’re trying to say is.” you can be in a relationship or a relationshit.

This was a great video. I was trying to figure out why my ex split up with me 6 months ago and continues to text me and block me. After watching this video it all makes sense. She is toxic and narcissist

I appreciate your intentions with your content. It caught my attention and I myself am in recovery and recomposition of body and mind after a long term breakup. Your content helped me realize I wasn’t ready to date yet and to get back into therapy. Thank you for making me feel ok to be honest with myself as a man, accept that I had to move on without her.

Thank you. A girl I'm dating fails 6/6. "Oh she's hot, but a psycho"

@EMichaelBall

Жыл бұрын

Looks fade, especially when she takes off the makeup.

I'm glad to hear that women are becoming more aware of the problems men face in the areas of relationships that cross boundaries and illuminate problems.

I've experienced all of them. My relationship only lasted 9 months. She also had endometriosis and acid reflux. She had her gall bladder removed.

@Clvrkz

Жыл бұрын

How is that relevant? lol I guess the acid is toxic?

Solid video Courtney. I agree with all the signs. I think you should also make a separate video on the kinds of games women play. I think guys should get a number of signs of the games women play to help them avoid these kinds of women. This is especially crucial in the early stages where some of them would only say or do things just to string you along cuz maybe she wants free meals or attention but either way they're not very serious about you. But I realize direct communication has flown out the window in today's society and we need to bring that back. But I also acknowledge that if someone is going to play some game with us, then our confusion will never matter to them. So it's up to us to find that information and use it to help protect ourselves.

Thanks for sharing Courtney. I think you missed a massive one here which is: IF SHE CONSTANTLY CRITICIZES YOU (clear cue of her own internal insecurities)

That's the key statement right there ! "What you allow is what will continue" !

Yup, the money thing resonates fully. I recently dated a girl who claimed she was a healthy feminist but still only wanted to spend my money. When I started saying "you're buying" to her "I'm hungry" or "let's go shopping" she would frown and say she doesn't have money to spend. I really let this thing drag on for more than I should have.

@Pedal2WeldMetal

8 ай бұрын

My femnazi ex did the same thing. Will not date a feminist again

Thank you for making this video. I saw so many traits that my ex-wife frequently demonstrated during our relationship, especially the controlling aspects and the money traits. It may have cost me a small fortune to get the divorce but I am so glad to be out of that relationship now

Thank you for your time and effort in the content you share with us. This world needs more folks like you. 🍻

Yes I’ve experienced everything you talked about.

1. If all she does is complain. 2. She can’t find the silver lining in tough situations nor problem solve to figure out how to get out of a pickle. 3. She doesn’t see your SOUL; she only sees your profession and financial security. 4. She doesn’t listen or support your dreams/goals. 5. She belittles you in front of others. She should be discussing issues privately and to you directly. 6. She is passive aggressive with issues; she makes you guess or assumes you should know what is wrong. 7. She doesn’t encourage or support “me time” that includes hanging with the guys, gaming, hobbies. 8. She doesn’t have a life of her own that fulfills her own soul and is relying on you solely. 9. Can’t compromise or ever see your point of view. 10. Wants to bail at the smallest inconvenient vs a team mindset.

I like this video. Everytime I call out women on their toxicity they just call me a misogynist. But is it really misogyny or is it just truth?

@baeseulgi1742

Жыл бұрын

It’s because you most likely make sweeping generalisations based off on gender

@womenwhowantmenbackakawwwm8232

Жыл бұрын

I bet you’re the type to constantly and only see the flaws in women and definitely start looking inward because I bet you have some too

@TheQuietStorm08

Жыл бұрын

@@womenwhowantmenbackakawwwm8232 there are some good qualities about women but all I ask for is accountability and i find that some women don’t take accountability and blame men instead of looking inward like you said. We all need to look inward

Number 1 is very terrifying. Some women can be very manipulative better than men. Some women are very good at gaslighting, make you feel guilty that you don't do something for her. Be smart and ditch her fast.

@CourtneyRyan

Жыл бұрын

🙌🏼 spot on Court!!

@drip369

Жыл бұрын

Narcissist. Yes. Terrible. Stand up for yourself on day 1 and watch if her behavior changes. If it wasn't a test, she's a narcissist and needs to be on her own to either learn or endure her own punishment lol CCC Courtney Compounds Courtney

@marcmays48

Жыл бұрын

Yes, if she gaslights you, drop her faster than a molten lava rock. You'll be glad you did! 😂

@drip369

Жыл бұрын

@@marcmays48 woah bro hahaha why pick it up to begin with? Steam and painful breathing is typically a natural sign to call in the professionals hahahahahaha

@marcmays48

Жыл бұрын

@@drip369 Yea, if only they came with warning labels. ⚠️. The only surefire method I've found is to watch out for unique hairstyles. When the hair ain't right, the head ain't right! The crazy ones might be more fun in bed, but that's about it, and they sure aren't worth the drama which inevitably follows. 😳