I kicked all the toxic people out of my life. Went no contact. Blocked them on all fronts. Moved on, doing what I love to do and healing myself.

@mohininair1979

3 жыл бұрын

Same here..better off a loner now..happy with my space..spiritual person.

@nandlabh6349

3 жыл бұрын

Good me too but it's very hard some off them are they our family members n relatives.

@7lamb

3 жыл бұрын

Me as well and loving it, did the same exact thing with no regrets. Peace at last.

@mirelam9601

3 жыл бұрын

Me too.

@ingenuity168

3 жыл бұрын

Smart!

Bottom line: establish tight boundaries, protect your time and emotional energy and learn to say NO !

@dawna4185

3 жыл бұрын

excellent advice!!!

@dashiajames1882

3 жыл бұрын

That's like my favorite word..!!

@iamchannelll

3 жыл бұрын

Not as easy when been taught to have no healthy ego boundaries and your a people pleaser ect

@dawna4185

3 жыл бұрын

@@iamchannelll thankfully we have the ability to erase that mindset and create a new, healthier one....not easy but totally possible with some work!

@janycebrown4071

3 жыл бұрын

We teach people HOW to treat us 🙂

As a person who is a good-hearted person, I have been around toxic people, but instead of trying to change them, I let them rant or throw shade and I totally ignore it and nine times out of ten, those toxic people are usually met with karma and karma shows them no mercy.

@blandpaintings3701

2 жыл бұрын

I really hope so! Karma seems to take so fucking long

@deltaradiance9034

2 жыл бұрын

@Hk Hype life is a war. You need to see it that way You can't see yourself as the innocent. Just see yourself as someone whose fit enou to live in it. Seeing yourself as innocent creates the victim mentality.

@wyslanniknewworldorder9525

2 жыл бұрын

@@deltaradiance9034 _"life is a war. You need to see it that way."_ _"You can't see yourself as the innocent. Just see yourself as someone whose fit enou to live in it. Seeing yourself as innocent creates the victim mentality."_

@Nikhil-yv6dc

Жыл бұрын

@@blandpaintings3701 pray to god u will defeat every toxic person

@guest19901990

Жыл бұрын

​@@Nikhil-yv6dcit doesn't work on everyone

Never misinterpret my kindness as a weakness... I will take you down!!!!

@yayyay3060

3 жыл бұрын

👍you go girl 👏

@cherylthompson2731

3 жыл бұрын

@@yayyay3060 😘

@bkind2025

3 жыл бұрын

Isn't that how they treat kindness.....we have more strength than we know...stand in that power

@Mike-ib7um

3 жыл бұрын

😂 same. I told someone "Come at me, I dare you. I'm pretty sure you won't be a happy camper." 😂 Funny part we were camping.

@cherylthompson2731

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mike-ib7um ❤️

So many of us non toxic people innocently believe that since I'm genuine kind honest caring and wish well for others that others will treat me that way as well...how wrong we are...what a rude awakening..the hardest thing tho is when it comes from one's own siblings and parents

@lauramalizia9636

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. For too long I was like this.

@lisalucero1035

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly you are so right!!

@jillwylie6767

3 жыл бұрын

I have been there myself ,they just can't stop the constant calls and it is destroying my life. Only God can sort out the awful situation. I'm tired of it

@zakithiganyaza9168

3 жыл бұрын

@@jillwylie6767 atleast sounds like u r not staying with them

@LoveGod1987

2 жыл бұрын

I’m waiting for a miracle to get away from them all including that garbage fiancé

When someone shows you who they are, believe them, end of story!

@pennysavage419

3 жыл бұрын

That is now my motto!

@7lamb

3 жыл бұрын

I like that ty!

@fumarate1

3 жыл бұрын

right on.

@claire1880

3 жыл бұрын

But the trouble is that toxic people don't show them like they really are!! You discover it when it's too late...

@yayyay3060

3 жыл бұрын

@@claire1880easier said than done, I know but it's never to late Claire, take a deep breath and step out the door, don't ever look back, you are free to be you 💖

One doesnt 'attract' toxic people. One just 'allows' toxic people to stay in one's life. Simple truth. I've learnt that the first instance someone disrespects me and treats me less than, I'm going to move on from them. The thing is people ALWAYS know they are disrespecting you but they do it anyway. So best to move on from them before they keep hurting you. The first red flag ALWAYS becomes the reason why you eventually break up from them anyway.

@Iamawesomelovedandblessed444

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@emmaflores1515

3 жыл бұрын

Touché!

@vindyaratne

3 жыл бұрын

I agree ☝️

@katzwhite5962

3 жыл бұрын

Love what you say 👍🏿

@katzwhite5962

3 жыл бұрын

@nycowgirl34 So true. I've had so many toxic people around me. I have cut them out, but now I have very few friends. I would keep these people as friends because to let them go would mean less people I knew so I kept these bloodsuckers around me for too long fearing lonliness. Not having family around in the country I live in was another factor in keeping those people close.

I wasted a decade of my life tolerating toxic people!! But now I started to say No! 😇

@pennysavage419

3 жыл бұрын

I have wasted 50 years putting up with toxic people! They were my family and in laws. It is easy to dump a friend but not so easy to get rid of family! 1st of all you don't realize they are toxic for a long time and when you do how the heck do you get,away from them!?

@sage9836

3 жыл бұрын

I did -20 years of adult life - manipulated, overworked, burnt out. I got out.

@victoriaogletree4669

3 жыл бұрын

@ Penny Savage, I'm glad you asked. The situation only seems complicated because we must learn about ourselves. I would listen to this message again and again. I have taken notes. The answers are there but our emotions deceive us. That's how you get hit. Trust what these people are saying. I am reading: the Soul Fast Workbook by Cassandra Mack, MSW, she's on utube. And Inner Intergration, also on utube. She dies an excellent job on topics like these. But step back and take in the truth of God's Word to encourage you, you need balance. These are the last days that's why there is so much evil in the earth and Jesus is coming back for believers. All of this is spiritual then it comes in the natural. I really hope this helps.

@shine2678

2 жыл бұрын

@@victoriaogletree4669 yes.. I agree..

@hikerhobby1204

2 жыл бұрын

If you listen to people long enough, they’ll tell you exactly who they are. Listen.

My dad gave me some good advice about this situation, when you're alone, you know who you can trust. And he also told me when you're by yourself you know who your friends are. Ok, I'm a loner or lone wolf. I'm happy with that!

@darrenclarke4671

3 жыл бұрын

My sentiments exactly!

@jesuff183

3 жыл бұрын

🐢

@tiarailic4086

3 жыл бұрын

Yup😊

@jesuff183

3 жыл бұрын

@charie Fronda hi Charie where are you from

@fumarate1

3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes your better of alone.

I don't tolerate toxic people any more.

@christianbenn316

3 жыл бұрын

That,s the way to go & you are better off without them

@deniselopez6226

3 жыл бұрын

I need to learn to do this

@Syncere20

3 жыл бұрын

@@deniselopez6226 I need to learn how also.

I was an easy target. Agreeable, generous, put other's needs before mine. It took years to appreciate my own worth and say NO!

A friend of mine who is kind and wise illuminated something for me when she explained that malignant narcissists love to attack people who have already suffered a great deal. It gratifies their sadism.

@Missy-vc3mz

3 жыл бұрын

Sociopaths smh

@darrenclarke4671

3 жыл бұрын

And there are to many of them!

@grape512

3 жыл бұрын

@Richard Gos There's always someone claiming that people are narcissists just because they're talking about narcissists. There's not an indication that the other people in this thread are consistently plotting against good people.

@grape512

3 жыл бұрын

Since I only had a general idea of what sadism and sadomasochism is, I decided to look it up and found out that there's something called Sadistic Personality Disorder and according to Wikipedia (for what it's worth ;) "Sadistic Personality Disorder" is an obsolete term (wth?!!!). I've been looking up personality disorders for about 1 1/2 years because people were telling me my ex-fiance had personality disorders and I was surprised that Sadistic Personality Disorder never came up before. Reading about it is an interesting piece of the puzzle regarding my ex and our history...

@grape512

2 жыл бұрын

@A M If you were referring to my comment to Richard Gos, he tried to claim that everyone in this thread was a narcissist just because they were making brief comments about narcissists and no, it did not make sense for him to do that based on the tiny amount of information he had. It's somewhat common for people to do what Richard did and accuse people of being narcissists because they were talking about narcissists (I've seen it fairly often on youtube and Quora).

WE ARE LIGHT!!!! AND THEY CAN'T STAND IT!!! 🤛🏽

@11940ful

3 жыл бұрын

@Richard Gos my heart is too good to be one. 😂

@11940ful

3 жыл бұрын

@Richard Gos i don't think this topic is meant to be used as a joke. People like me suffer greatly from these toxic people. 😭

@jacquelinejames1444

3 жыл бұрын

It's to 🌞 bright for them.

@11940ful

3 жыл бұрын

@@jacquelinejames1444 😉

Loners have the most positive traits. Happy to be a loner

@janycebrown4071

3 жыл бұрын

I love being ALONE 💕

@PRETTYKITTY445320

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed we do😊💖🙏🏽

@javiermotis3859

3 жыл бұрын

In Spain we say: "Mejor solo que mal acompañado"

@rainpain3655

3 жыл бұрын

The real reason why you attract haters or toxic people is not actually because they hate you its actually because they love you for something that their not Those people are your real fans, theres something about you that they wanna be so that's why they envy you

@rainpain3655

3 жыл бұрын

@BillG Dontjabme I know which are which dont worry 👍

I am avoiding them at all cost I don’t mind losing them, I used to believe people can change but they don’t no matter what.

@darrenclarke4671

3 жыл бұрын

I'm learning the same thing over the past few years.

@mew-tt7wj

3 жыл бұрын

@@darrenclarke4671 I’m in the same boat

@cherylthompson2731

3 жыл бұрын

No. But you can change the way that you react to toxic people and how you feel about them."

@azzking9305

3 жыл бұрын

My whole family is toxic, I’m struggling to either cut ties and have no family or to keep them but be miserable

@cherylthompson2731

3 жыл бұрын

@@azzking9305 Cut them out of your life! I did with mine. Glad I did."

I was a social worker and after I retired I gradually became aware that I was still social working toxic friends and family members. My turning point was when I had a life threatening illness 5 years ago and afterwards while still weak I noticed that my toxic partner and relatives were even more demanding of my time and resources. I started to link my poor physical health with always doing for others and putting myself last. I simply stopped! I informed them I would no longer be available to them and pulled away completely once I realized they would never respect my boundaries. My life is really good now! Since they took so much and contributed so little positive, I am much better off emotionally, physically and financially. I find beauty in living each and every day and can concentrate on my positive friends and family members.

@MusiceWoman

Жыл бұрын

God Bless you Janet. So sad to read about what happened to you. Glad you started being kind to yourself.

@Ikaros23

9 ай бұрын

My experience is that the more we care for or love a toxic person. The more tyrannical they become. The best move is to simply ghost them. That is terminate all communication.

Everything that is "too much", even in good traits can be our toxic traits. Self awareness is a must.

@Missy-vc3mz

3 жыл бұрын

"Self awareness is a must..." Powerful words!

@lorenzo_bo

3 жыл бұрын

YES! a good trait to its excess becomes a narcissistic trait because its idealistic, out of limits

@wyslanniknewworldorder9525

2 жыл бұрын

@@lorenzo_bo *DOSE* remember the *DOSE* of those traits!

To Whom it Concerns; Be Aware of those that are "Drama" creators. Your intuition will tell you.

@sickathanyouraverage4404

3 жыл бұрын

The drama is to lure you in so running away from it is crippling to them.

This video is great guide for removing toxic people from life. We must focus & pay attention to ourselves instead of focusing on them.

@vittoriacolona

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly being kind and polite does not equate to allowing people into our lives. And remember not all toxic people are just mean and cruel. They can just be negative with a victim or can't do attitude towards life and expect others to take care of them or solve their problems.

@rgangan84

3 жыл бұрын

@Vittoria Colonna Toxic people are those, who manipulate, abuse and drain our energies through their actions. The mean & cruel attitudes are behavioural tendencies, which has background for behaving in that manner. Negativity can be changed with positive and acceptable actions and decisions, but if manipulating tactics are repeated, with egoistic behaviour, damaging personal and professional life of a person, with different nonsense behaving patterns, then nobody can trust in such toxic people, nobody would care to solve the problems of such toxic people. If you can't do good to anyone, then you shouldn't do wrong to anyone. Those who do wrong, pay the price for their karmic actions.

@johangroot4641

3 жыл бұрын

❤️❣️👍❣️

@janycebrown4071

3 жыл бұрын

Life is way too short to be around people who harm us ❣️

@rgangan84

3 жыл бұрын

@@janycebrown4071 We must invest our precious time in improving ourselves and we shouldn't worry about those, who did wrong to us, as they will realise about it, when they will pay the price for their Karma.

I just got tired of going through the motions and decided to eliminate a good amount of people out of my life. Energy vampires. People want to intentionally or unintentionally pull you down yet still insist on being a part of your life. I owe them no explanation. I have to do what’s right for me. You can’t have goals, dreams, aspirations or be excited about anything around these people. They take you for granted and always have something negative to say about you or what your doing.

These are example of "good" people with no boundaries. Boundaries, boundaries, people!!!!!

I'm moving out. I can't take it anymore. It's sad that your own family members are toxic. 🎻🐾🎼💕🎶💞

@sandrapeer3562

3 жыл бұрын

Ain't that peculiar . Amen.

@catherinebirch2399

3 жыл бұрын

The worst kind are those who seem to have your best interests at heart.

@yasmincaan5845

3 жыл бұрын

I agree !

@fumarate1

3 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the Earth school,or the School of hard knocks.

@alicassidy8913

3 жыл бұрын

Tough lesson to learn... Just because they're related doesn't mean you have to put up with them.

Sometimes toxic person is the closest or the oldest friend, and when I find out about their toxicity after being aware of it..it's disheartening, but still I have to find ways to save myself. By simply distancing them and sharing less or nothing with them about myself. I cannot remove them from my life but surely I can remove them from my inner circle.

@cycleofficial4744

2 жыл бұрын

you can remove anybody from your life, do it now. protect your energy at all costs.

The older I get the more I understand why I don't have many friends. I can focus when I'm alone and reflect. In the quiet reflective time I recognize what manipulative people do. I had an ex tell me he couldn't believe I was so nice and actually trusted people. He thought I was faking it until he learned that was genuinely me. It took me years to understand he told me so much about himself in that statement and many other similar statements. Now, I'm BIG on boundaries with family especially. I don't fear being alone. I'm quick to let go of people who don't energize and bring joy to me as well. If it's not a fairly balanced relationship I exit.

Thanks for this video, I realize now that it hasn't been my fault when a lot of my relationships (no matter what kind) go wrong. I do too much for people, I give and give and seldom get anything back.

@jmsmurfy9

3 жыл бұрын

I can definitely relate!!

@indigoblue9194

3 жыл бұрын

We’re in the same boat.

@meganlancaster5889

3 жыл бұрын

No it's not your fault listen to how you feel if you feel bad that is not what you need to be around. find the people or things that help you feel good. You deserve to have joy. You are amazing don't listen to toxic people.

@christinamitrovich7554

3 жыл бұрын

Agree. I am the same and I was wondering what was really happening here to me.

@slenderman-tz6tm

3 жыл бұрын

Same I give so much

Sometimes you fall into a situation or place with toxic people through no fault of your own and it may be difficult to escape that situation, like school, a bad workplace or even home.

@mingphung632

Жыл бұрын

how you think u can get out of those situations without leaving

The comments are so awesome. I love reading the insights and lessons from this community. We are truly not alone. ❤️

As an empathetic listener, I've fallen victim to a narcissistic and mentally damaged person once. NEVER. AGAIN.

Yes it’s too painful when they disregard all of your efforts to make things work & insult you & make fun of you publicly 😕

Man I literally have all the traits you mentioned, no wonder I've met so many toxic people !!

So basically toxic people are the ones that try to exploit your good traits, and the only way to avoid toxicity is by setting boundaries..

@azzking9305

3 жыл бұрын

The best way is to avoid them completely

@ang.the.alchemist

3 жыл бұрын

@@azzking9305 exactly so you don't get caught in the loop of negativity and crazy making

@kevinmesch6607

3 жыл бұрын

Well-operated boundaries are the best..... good insight!

@7lamb

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@sanjaychoudhary6381

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

I have been in a few toxic relationships and finally realized that they were not worth the frustrations and anxieties anymore. This post is so awesome. Now,I am loving single life and being detoxify. Thank you for sharing this. Peace and blessings, 🙏🌈❤😎💎.

I am friendly and open and often enjoy talking to people, but am extremely selective of who I become close to.

Since I cutted of toxic social circles , my physical mental and financial health got heavily boosted

No time for toxic ppl anymore! First few signs and they are gone out of my life by me cutting the contact completely

The way I handle toxic people is avoid them.

@holmanlazo6928

3 жыл бұрын

Rather than avoiding is best to lead by example. That’s also a double check tool to help you identify toxic people you may inadvertently be dealing with on a regular basis.

@sigmasiren777

2 жыл бұрын

It’s definitely worked for me!

“Your life is your own race. The moment you compare yourself with someone else, you’re only insulting yourself.”

@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan

3 жыл бұрын

Yes and disrespect ourselfs

To whoever reads this, I wish you health and success!

@lizzyjesus.9738

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much 🙏 and wish same

@myworld6458

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@321conquer

3 жыл бұрын

You too, it is not an neither exchange nor business it is for me for my training in giveness...

@mrs.christiehannaalexander33

3 жыл бұрын

Thanx & same to you 😊

@lorettaknox154

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much.

This was the story of my teens until about 27 (ish). I'm 31 and still have bad habits of being too giving of passive, but I'm working on it. I was abused as a child, and it created a pattern of thought that I strive to break free from, but I'm not perfect. Toxic people approach me often, but stick around less and less. It's encouraging...and I was so jacked up and suicidal when I was 26, I needed to change so badly, and I spent a couple of dark years on my own after moving away from my habits and previous relationships. It's much better now, and if I could do it, anyone can. I'm on natural medicines too, which are healing.

@andrewboyddotcom

3 жыл бұрын

Good on YOU 😂

@victoriaholler2949

3 жыл бұрын

Positive now. May I ask what natural medicines you are taking?

As soon as even think realize they are toxic. Cut the connection and run DO NOT LOOK BACK

Can relate to so many stuff from this. Have attracted toxic colleagues at my workplaces in the past. To avoid this, now I stick to my original nature- reserved and quiet.

My toxicity level was high due to childhood. In many cases I had no idea 🤷🏾‍♀️ I was being abused. In the last four years I’ve cut off toxic relatives and friends. For me maintaining strong boundaries and learning to say no has helped. Also don’t let people disrespect. Stop 🛑 it at the first sign.

Well, this is a huge problem that I have from a long long time..... Being benevolent. And yes, some toxic people came into my life and messed up with my psychological well-being. But I say NO MORE OF THIS! no more toxicity in my life.

I had a man that aways put me down. Also my biggest fault sharing information with the next person I met!!!! Which as taught me never to do that again once you share information with a toxic person they put on a false face!!! Then eventually when you're with them there spinning you into there Web!!! So lesson's there is if you enter a new realationship is to never tell them about your past and get to know them first 🌈💙

@Missy-vc3mz

3 жыл бұрын

Sage advice

@andrewmoore2019

3 жыл бұрын

NEVER tell people to that are close to or frequent in your life your problems or struggles. They will use the information to pin point your weak points and use them against you once the scenario is right. People also give you what you're accustomed to. So if they see that abuse and low value treatment is your norm , they somehow thinks that's a green light to dish out more of the same . Humans are a pack of swine for the most part, they will kick you when you're down. Don't tolerate shit treatment , speech or pity predators whatsoever .

@7lamb

3 жыл бұрын

@@andrewmoore2019 very well said...

Omg.....i got my answer i always take these traits as my strength i recently walk out from a toxic relationship

@sandhyalinda4915

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@michaelsmusic3532

3 жыл бұрын

Me too❗ But I'd rather be lonely than abused. Even though I'm a male I was the victim of domestic violence and emotional abuse for almost 10 years. It got so bad that I'm currently seeing a therapist and taking antidepressants. My parents died and I'm clean & sober so I had to get rid of all my party 'friends' Don't have any kids ect Anyone relate and want to chat ? 🎥 If so go to my channel by clicking on my picture ID My Facebook addy is listed there 😁 Thanks for reading this I love you all ! - Michael

@hosurh5695

3 жыл бұрын

Congrats

Thank you. I have today after listening to you blocked a very toxic person who has been around for most of my life. It is going to feel strange for a while but I feel liberated.

Yea we are patient, passionate, and we believe theres.good in people, and we nurture and encourage, its sometimes our downfall

@jonathanwilliams365

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed

#6 and #7. I have a been a survivor and achiever my entire life I am now in my 60s and facing the fact that it’s my own mother that was the toxic one. No one would believe the things she has done to me including casting me out at the age of 14 and watching the abuse from my father. She is still alive and I’m trying hard to set boundaries beginning with no contact which has made her more persistent and angry, trying to destroy what little I have left. As a child I believed everything she said. I let her chop off my beautiful long hair, had no friends, stayed in my bedroom. She never visited me in the hospital after she ran out of the house with my brothers leaving my father to abuse me. Later in life I now think she enjoyed my struggles including raising my son alone. I didn’t believe my grandmother when she said my mother was jealous of me. A child does not know her mother is toxic.

This video was right on point. 100%

Avoid toxic people. Thanks for sharing.

We teach people HOW to treat us. Be very careful and be true to yourself 🤗

@pennysavage419

3 жыл бұрын

I wish I would have learned that 50 years ago.

@janycebrown4071

3 жыл бұрын

@@pennysavage419 You will never be this young again 🤗 It's never too late 👌❣️

@soulonice99

3 жыл бұрын

@@janycebrown4071 Thank you for this particular wisdom. Life is short ...

@janycebrown4071

3 жыл бұрын

@@soulonice99 No problem 🤗

@anitakendter7553

3 жыл бұрын

That is so true. I’m learning this right now in cognitive processing therapy.

I’m a realist and an empath so opening up to these toxic people was my first mistake 🙏

@ben5966

8 ай бұрын

Same bro

As a scientist, I'm a listener, a problem solver and a giver. Now I see why they come to me, like a magnet. People have a habit of telling me their deepest, darkest secrets. A collection I do not want, the load is heavy. These are not the people I want in my life at all. They do affect my creativity.

@vilmoskovacs9477

3 жыл бұрын

May I join for your group, as a the same personality described bellow, despite I’m not a scientist.

@theodoreroberts3407

3 жыл бұрын

@@vilmoskovacs9477 I have no group nor do I have any control over who is in or out. Anyone else want to chime in?

@kdphotos4691

3 жыл бұрын

Why would you even remember their secrets, much less carry them with you? I am told the secrets of others and forget them quickly which is why people tell me. They know I really don't care enough to remember their deepest darkest... I will go to my grave with a lot of other people's secrets. I consider it an honour that they told me at all. It is a compliment.

@theodoreroberts3407

3 жыл бұрын

@@kdphotos4691 DID I SAY I WANTED OTHERS SECRETS??? NO, I DID NOT! they blert it out! I don't want it, I have no use for the information, I don't need to know.... This hapoens a lot in my life. I use to ask why. I asked a friend, she told me I should be proud people think of me that way, I'm not! At the very least, it's uncomfortable.

@kdphotos4691

3 жыл бұрын

@@theodoreroberts3407 - then tell people you don't want to hear it. Works for me and when people try to push it, I hold up my hand and say, "I said, I don't want to hear it." No one is forcing you to listen to their secrets. You can also forget them as soon as you hear them as I wrote before.

Well, i checked the boxes for all 7 reasons! I have had more than my share of toxic people and toxic relationships in my life. This video helped me understanding of how my positive personality traits were those that a toxic person gravitates towards.

THiS WHY I AM HAPPY ALONE TOO MANY TOXIC PEOPLE HAVE MADE ME A LONER

The most trustworthy and kind people are most likely to deal with toxic people

Thanks for this video and all the comments… I’m thinking to get my relatives that I helped out of my life too. They never stop backstabbing me so it’s better a lot better to cut off the relationship and continue being happy😊

We grow up having good values, being decent peoples in general and being told that people will appreciate and respect you for who you are but never thought that toxic people would be the one taking advantage of us ... smh 😔

I walk away now. It keeps you in a space of peace.✌

When I was young wrong friends I had at the time looking back now I could have done better thing in my life a lesson to learn

You attract toxic retreads because you are a good person.😖

@debbiebolek2117

3 жыл бұрын

I agree I always want to give that person a second chance. But it ends up being a mess. People don't admit their wrong doings and ends up a devastating situation. I'm done with helping. I need to be humble everyday to keep my soul in peace 💞

@sararodriguez9975

3 жыл бұрын

You can be a good person, and not being naive

@patrickglennon6834

3 жыл бұрын

they mistake kindness for weakness, it's pathetic that you have to correct them.

@azzking9305

3 жыл бұрын

Pretty much

@darrenclarke4671

3 жыл бұрын

@@sararodriguez9975 it sometimes takes a few rodeos to figure that out, like myself.

Thanks to this teaching, my daughter is on her way to FREEDOM. She now realizes that her goodness and well roundedness and yes, even her strength was a magnet for a toxic leach. And I guess, so is the rest of our family as we are her village!

Takers look for givers has to be the most profound statment I've ever been told. It is so true ! It is better to be alone than to be with people (so called friends) that make you feel alone !

it's the narcissist that should be working on themselves,not you.But because of their selfishness that will never happen. You have a soul,they don't.

Good, kind and empathetic people don't attract toxic people, they are targeted by toxic people. Trust your intuition and limit your time and interactions with needy, selfish, toxic people. The people that leave you feeling drained are the people you must avoid as much as possible. Don't let toxic people change your lovely nature, you just have to avoid and distance yourself from them as much as possible.

@Tobzzzz_

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for this…this video makes me feel bad for being a nice person.

Toxic people are so mentally draining. I would feel physically exhausted after talking to them. I had to block them to protect my health

@battlevain

11 ай бұрын

Totally agree. If they leave you feeling drained, limit contact with such people.

This was me in every way. It shattered me psychologically. Friends, family and even total strangers. I will never be the same happy go lucky person. Now they have to try to figure me out. Most do not even bother to approach me. This way I see who is real and who is full of it.

The points are spot on. I live with toxic people 24/7. Can't get rid of them. Gaslighting whole day long. Really draining emotionally. I have learned to set boundaries, what i will and will not tolerate even if it hurts my friends.

As I come to the end of my second undergraduate program, I have been very attentive about who I want in my life. I look at my social media contacts and I'm deleting negative people from my lists. I also maintain healthy distance from toxic people in my real life too. I noticed my associations have become really thin, and my phone isn't notifying me of anything like it used to. The quiet has given me more time to focus on my own stuff without distractions. It's been kinda nice

My best friend actually told me he hated that i have such a supportive family whenever i have hard times. A few ppl wanted me to fall on my face thinking i have it to good in life. Sad for them

@azzking9305

3 жыл бұрын

It always surprises me when so many people wish ill on others

@seangonzalez9025

3 жыл бұрын

@ThatOneGirl It hurt and definitely made me become more distant. I keep conversations short when we do communicate now.

@TheFeliciakelley

3 жыл бұрын

And you considered him your best friend.

@seangonzalez9025

3 жыл бұрын

@@TheFeliciakelley Did but we since became distant after the realization

@kdphotos4691

3 жыл бұрын

People do that a lot when you happen to be attractive visually. They project assumptions that your life is easy when it is rarely the case. For women, some men will deliberately be abusive to women they find attractive because it gives them a thrill. They do not care about the person who happens to live in that body they are using. If I see an attractive woman, I know she has had to put up with some nonsense from men.

All the 7 is me🤦‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️ no wonder this people ended up making me feel as if am the bad one once I stand up for my self

@susanakinyi3030

3 жыл бұрын

me too .my goodness have wasted my time crying asking" why me why me" all the time . not any more

I walked away from the Toxic people in my life. Friends who were controlling, and Abusive. My life is better now.

Im blown away by how accurate this is!!!!!!!!!!!!

When I tell you I attract so much negativity, hate and toxicity I’m not kidding. Even random strangers I have no idea who they are I’ll smile and they always dislike me for whatever reason .. I get called slangs , I get talked about my appearance, I get overlooked ignored, laughed at whatever it is it’s usually NEVER positive. I don’t do anything at all to trigger this I try my hardest to be a kind sweet girl and even when I get thrown hate at I still never respond or if I do it’s with kindness. Even my older brother is hateful towards me and my older sister gets praised and easily loved my strangers. I have been called the “ugly sister” numerous times. I have sm anxiety to leave my house especially when with my sister .. I try to love myself but my ego and confidence is nonexistent and people still break me down. I have very few friends and they cherish me sm because they know my heart but still I don’t understand why I get constant critized and belittled ? I don’t understand how my sister can similarly smile at people and she gets praised while I always get belittled for doing absolutely nothing. It hurts my heart so much. She always get favorited even if she’s not even trying and I have gone the extra mile for people and only have gotten dislike in return. Even if I don’t go the extra mile I still am not liked. I just don’t understand at all why I am a hate negativity magnet when I’ve had sm light and love for people for the longest time. It makes me sick and a lot of days I’m crying over it repeating these hateful words others have said to me .. I know people say “ignore it” or don’t listen but it’s hard when more than 1 person tells you the same thing and I just start to believe it and think there’s truth to it. I just feel pathetic most days and idk what to do.

Wowww, you just solved my problem in life ... I'm tired of being taken advantage of ... THANKS for sharing ... Thanks once more!

I am very kind and generous and deep thinker till I attracted by one group of bullies. It took me one hear to recover and rebuild my self worth, self confidence.... But I am totally cut this group of people off from my life.

Wow!!! So true. Words i could've used 40 years ago. Good video. Thanks for the post.🙏

You just described what I've been through 😬😬,but they say when you know better you do better

@cruiseanthony6197

3 жыл бұрын

Another fabulous video. So great ... How are you doing ? Greetings from New Zealand 🇳🇿 and you ?

Whelp..this video just summed up where my resentment stems from..lol..to generous,to giving,no boundries and very,very drivin.i do lack self worth..This may just have changed my life..thank you

The story of my life..my ex girlfriend was so ungrateful and toxic I had to dump her, and even people I don't even know are quick to take advantage of me and be toxic..when u are too nice to some people, they think u are week and vulnerable!

Great video. Thanks. I've had to deal with many toxic people. Raising my ESI and particularly realizing my own worth really helped me in recognising and removing them from my life.

Wow!! I've been exposed. Great Video👌

This is deep and it's sad when you give from your heart and they abuse you but when you take it back they don't understand

This video is so timely. Can't believe over 85% of this is about me 😒😒 but am picking up and getting on😊😊

@sammaloney1746

3 жыл бұрын

Time to grow up and join the fight for good, wouldn't you say? Seems to me the universe is calling you!

@maerina_khongsai

3 жыл бұрын

Same bro...lets stay strong😇💕

Thank you for this🙌🏾🙏🏾

I can relate. But I’m now learning how to handle them. I know now how to set boundaries and try to turn their negativity into positivity. I tell them my own drama with a twist on how I made it. When they realized that they can’t take me to the ride, they leave me alone and they walk away... 😉

I almost 😅 all of these things but b/c I read books & listen to KZread’s on this topic, I can smell “toxic” a mile away. When I smell toxic, I leave skiiiiiiid marks!!!!!

I have far too many of these traits, and let too many boundaries crossed. I have attracted far too many crazies also. Good video. Letting go of those mistakes is tough though.

This is a fantastic video. Almost served as a complete rescue in my case. Thanks a lot BD, and kudos too for making such a helpful clip.

Mediating in positive energy makes one to not ever want negativity or toxicity in our lives anymore. Get a candle and speak to the universe that you only attract goodness, safe and kind surroundings in your life

I had to withdraw from all famiy members with rare exceptions. Because of this I found the peace and joy rushed back like a flood. However, the devil keeps trying to bring them back through certain pressures. Every time I am in the company of these people even for a short time I sense that gut ickyness returning as though I want to leave. I say my polite goodbyes and go a very long time again of not seeing them. We would think that people would change as they grow older, its not true, if anything they become solidified and even grow worse.

I’m so happy I just left this situation, I swear I was otw to prison. On GOD!

I have met a lot of toxic people in my life. I feel so small when I am with them. It's like I should be generous whenever friend A is with me. Friend B requires me to entertain her. I feel am nobody when I am with Friend C. Those were the feelings I feel when I am with them.

@ljo0605

3 жыл бұрын

Listen to those feelings and what your instincts are telling you

It's the accuracy for me. 😊💖🙏🏽

Wow this explains things clearly. Just what I needed to know now. I will now be more aware my qualities and only share to those who are genuinely nice to me.

I am no doubt a super magnet for toxic ppl 😂 thanks for your video, finally I know why 😁

This definitely sounds like me. I always felt sorry for the unfortunate and wanted to help everyone be better... but they hang on tight to you, drain and drag you down... If I don’t see you making an effort for yourself I cut You loose! 🤔

I found this very helpful. Most importantly it didn't condemn ones good intentions and behavior. I needed it to be firmly highlighted that it is necessary to be careful about dishing out one's good nature. One has to face reality on what it can attract and that there are toxic people who one should not give the power to. Don't be paranoid or go from extreme to another but accept the fact that there are toxic people and just be careful and in control around them Very helpful for me.

Toxic people always take your kindness for weakness. Self-assertiveness is your best defense mechanism and tool against toxic people. You have to know where to draw the line and when to protect yourself when dealing with toxic people.

I needed this video. Thank you.