All the years … and you are the best. Unregulated parents lead to unregulated children. Hi there multi generational trauma survivors.. 😂❤❤ We are on a wild journey, may we all love and love to our full potential.

@emilyaichele9527

4 ай бұрын

❤

@Mika-El-

4 ай бұрын

🤍🕊

@marcsee4072

3 ай бұрын

Not all children of unregulated parents are necessary unregulated

@alierem4266

3 ай бұрын

May we also have a source of guide as him walking next us all when we need this most valuable support on our journey of life. Just imagine, if we had benefit of a super knowledgeable person as him in our major directiinsin life. Just marvellous.

@jac1161

2 ай бұрын

Loving for me, is not the problem,. I love hard core and with the empathetic understanding of others' root wounds. Where I struggle is, BEING and FINDING that love in return.

I am from Bosnia. I am 29 years old. I have gone through loss, trauma, stress, and violence, and when I listen to this man, I feel better and understand my condition more clearly. It becomes clear to me what causes the bad feelings I experience. He explains things very well, unlike the others who pretend to be smart. I pray we all do well and heal.

I love him. I have been listening for 3 years now, and it has helped me more than anything else ever has.

@luciantempest1291

2 жыл бұрын

He is awesome, I don’t even like religion but I’ll listen to the 2nd part because I like the way he explains it

@ImSimplyAHuman

2 жыл бұрын

Amen! Ditto!

@DonTwanX

2 жыл бұрын

@@luciantempest1291 OMG me too! He makes the Bible stories come alive, and I’m definitely not a Christian. He makes me reconsider my antagonistic view of Christians. He’s the real deal. He loves everyone.

@DonTwanX

2 жыл бұрын

I quit therapy after a few months because my therapist said CPTSD is not real because it’s not in the DSM5. He was telling me not to look at the past and use “the Secret” to manifest the life I want. And I’m like “riiiiiiiiiiight”. The professional class of therapy is not as effective as the KZread community of self healers. Tim bears his soul, blemishes and all, so we can relate to his complex trauma. It’s so cool to have a good preacher who doesn’t pretend they are perfect and have always been perfect, and will even admit they have a mental disorder. I’m sooooooo grateful for Tim’s message. Real healing! No bullshit!

@cynthiacoutu3782

2 жыл бұрын

Me too ! My life is changing so much for the better !! 😊

You talked me through a horrific CPTSD attack. I’ve got no one I’m a survivor of CSA. I realize I’m shouting into the void but. Thank you. You talked me through this.

@Truologye

4 ай бұрын

That's amazing!

@Mooserinde

4 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry that happened to you

@YasmynTVx

3 ай бұрын

Sending digital hugs your way 🧸

@JillCee

3 ай бұрын

I just had a flashback and saw this topic. Your comment is very helpful encouraging. I pray that you and everyone who reads this will find the support system that you need and long for.

@tammyhavlik1015

3 ай бұрын

Not a void. Sending sympathy and prayers 🙏

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@steceymorgan814

2 ай бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@patriaciasmith3499

2 ай бұрын

Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@elizabethwilliams6651

2 ай бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@steceymorgan814

2 ай бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@patriaciasmith3499

2 ай бұрын

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

I love how he explains WHY we tap or rock, etc, rather than wondering if it's new age hocus-pocus.

Listening to your complex trauma series brings tears to my eyes. You have explained my behavior characteristic better than I could ever put into words. All along I just thought it was bad anxiety & I was weird. Thank you so much for making me feel validated. 🙏🏼❤️

@nicolebernal2628

Жыл бұрын

This has explained so much.

@marylarneyrn1854

9 ай бұрын

Ditto. Thank you for sharing. 😊

@sonyarobson7874

6 ай бұрын

Same for me, thanks for putting it into words :)

@LR-yu3mx

4 ай бұрын

Very valuable to me!

@mknels1299

4 ай бұрын

❤

No therapist has ever explained my behaviour. I finally understand!!! ❤❤❤

@nancybaumgartner6774

2 ай бұрын

It’s tragic , because this used to be the lion’s share of our training during the 80’s. It was eclipsed by the medical model starting in the early 90’s when mental health became a lucrative industry and hospital systems gobbled up grants for services .

@DaveE99

28 күн бұрын

@@nancybaumgartner6774 what model is this considered then?

Now, he's SHOWING US what "doing the Lord's Work" looks like!!! No spinning around 3 times and chanting affirmations...giving steps for recognizing & healing. 🔥💯 THANK YOU, SIR

@JenniferNewLife144

2 ай бұрын

Right lol

This man is incredible they should teach this in schools

@NuitHadit

4 ай бұрын

Please stop suggesting to teach this in schools. They already obliterated education. This needs to be addressed in therapy, not in schools. What they will do with your idea is going to be so twisted, that it will have all the unintended consequences you never imagined. The school system might need to change to accommodate different learning styles, but thats different.

@Mushroom321-

3 ай бұрын

YES!!, right!!!, I agree!! 🙋🏾‍♀️👆👆😲 kids WOULD definitely be MORE regulated in schools . 😼

@westernsellers9148

3 ай бұрын

Nope schools teach you Mathematics Science How to socialize P.E... You can learn these things on KZread

@veronicalagor4771

3 ай бұрын

@@westernsellers9148Think that’s why they said schools “should”, implying they currently do not

@mjdancefanatic3538

3 ай бұрын

First of all, schools do teach Conscious Discipline and regulating emotions. We have to because parents and the family unit are not. The school is not where you should be learning this....home is. Parents think the school should do everything. That's not where we truly learn. It starts at home.

Recently diagnosed with childhood ptsd that I've kept covered up as much as possible for years. Starting watching these extremely helpful videos in the past couple of days. Prayers answered when in this video he is incorporating Jesus and the Bible. These two have been separated in my previous searches for answers. It's either one or the other... yet knowing in my heart it's all connected (science and God). Love this thank you so much.

Such critical information for understanding reasons trauma survivors consistently make poor choices and decisions. Living a life regulated by the limbic system explains why I often lose spaces of time, causing me to think I had selective memory, or possibly early alzheimers. When I'm fully dysregulated, I have no sense of time, including the absence of memories, related to that time.

@Josh-bs9fx

2 жыл бұрын

So accurate R Mcd! I feel the same way.

@KellenAdair

4 ай бұрын

The poor decisions and choices I can relate to. And why I froze. Time? What's that? All I want do is understand the breach of my former self by my Narc. bros. better, so hang out on U-Tube day and night. Getting older. I wonder about Alzheimer's, too. They've tied up so many year's of my life. The criminally insane!

@susansilvey1614

4 ай бұрын

Sounds like absence seizure

He is correct in that it is not a moral deficit (in most cases), but rather the effect of traumatic experiences. Some of which last your whole lifetime. Almost EVERYONE these days is affected, like never before. This world has become such a toxic place, it is unavoidable.

@taylorharbin3948

2 ай бұрын

I think it has always been this way with the human race but we didn’t have the same insight.

@Marge719

Ай бұрын

@@taylorharbin3948 Well, man has always been capable of evil, yes. However, our world economic system has never been as tight as it is now, along with the financial chains of interest upon interest, which afffects everyone. Plus, technology is in the hands of the wrong people. Man has never been as enslaved as in these days.

Be your own safe person. Learn to be ok without anyone. Learn stoicism. Be the rock for others . That responsibility will be a healthier response to dealing with our own trauma. I find being around dreg ululated people makes me rise to being the stable rock . Rise

@NuitHadit

4 ай бұрын

Amen

@InfiniteCelestialBeauty

4 ай бұрын

Thank you jesus

@Truologye

4 ай бұрын

Exactly.

@messy5513

3 ай бұрын

I see risk in this approach for those still on their healing journey from complex trauma. It's a fine line and I'll share what my perspective has become after years of healing my own childhood trauma. Hopefully it makes sense. Stoicism can be healthy, and is also 1 degree away from being avoidant and completely negating personal needs. Ask older siblings that have healed their CPTSD after growing up in a traumatic home. Often they learned to completely destroy the value of their own needs being met to instead become pseudo-parents to their younger siblings. They are often seen as stable, responsible, generous, caring, and sometimes stoic in the face of adversity. The point being, stoic responsibility is not always as healthy as it may look from the outside. In many cases I've seen, the person is deeply repressed having killed off genuine parts of themselves for the sake of taking care of others. Stoicism can be a very attractive form of coping to those that are still on the journey to recovery because they can emulate the way stoicism looks on the outside by numbing their emotions. One way I've recently gained clarity on how to define this is with the 3 forms of self-worth: 1. Innate worth (your mere existence makes you worthy of life and love) 2. Earned worth (your contributions to others and community gives a sense of value among society) 3. Social worth (your efforts working alongside others in shared purpose creates an intimate social worth) The example I gave above is a person that has learned to completely rely on the second and third forms of self-worth while surviving on a non-existent sense of innate worth. They have destroyed their sense of self-love that comes from simply being alive. They no longer see any value to their existence outside of what they give away to others. They no longer receive. There are many examples of people that have been like this that have helped lots of people, and destroyed themselves in the process. A socially acceptable act of self-hate. I believe healthy stoicism is built out of a deep connection to yourself that leads to incredible emotional resiliency. A common lookalike of stoicism can be built out of emotional numbing by further disconnecting from your own authentic needs and wants through becoming a caretaker. The latter is just another form of codependency masked as emotional health.

@kaitlincox9714

3 ай бұрын

Sounds like a codependent response.

I am completely blowed away with these presentations! I really believe the The Holy Spirit knew how bad I needed these! Thank you sir!

@johndickerson6946

4 ай бұрын

I am so excited with your content ! I’m busy with my children right now but when I have time I want to write you an email. I feel I am being led to build up myself while going through recovery to develop a recovery ministry… your entire library and opportunities to learn through courses if I’m not mistaken has me so hopeful and optimistic! I look forward to communicating soon…God bless you and thanks again!

@jshelley4592

3 ай бұрын

Right with you

@MV-kk3nh

Ай бұрын

Ditto Amen and Amen!!! 🙏🏼🙌🏼❤

I cannot seem to find any people that feel safe to me. Im mid 50s. Despite years of hard and honest personal work, I can only relate in small bursts, a social occasion dysregulates me for days. Maybe i am autistic, as well as C PTSD. I have barely any hope of finding an intimate other i dont feel actively harmed by daily.

Have learnt so much from these videos. I have lived the affects of complex trauma my whole life so I take it for granted and these videos make me understand myself better. Thank you!

I'm glad I met this guy via KZread. He's so good 👍

I have an intense startle reflex, so this is vital information for me. I often wondered, since the mention of firework’s connection to past the trauma of war, WHY in the world would there be an intense fireworks display, EVERY JULY 4th celebration, on the grounds of our Veteran’s Administration Hospital field. It drove me so crazy that I had to leave, but no one could answer me as to why they would put vets thru this absolute triggering, cruel horror! What are they thinking!?!

@JasonYoung-dg6rk

4 ай бұрын

Satan mocks the truth by using it against itself.

@lisasunshine773

4 ай бұрын

That’s beyond cruel

@ItsMefromSnuffys

2 ай бұрын

They’re NOT THINKING… YOUVE MADE A GOOD POINT you are right that needs to end

OH!!! This explains why the cognitive behavioral techniques I learned were completely useless when I panicked! I didn’t have the ability to rationalize to control my emotion, as CBT says.

@bucii01

4 ай бұрын

I am Finding my therapist is trying CBT with me and is not addressing my inquiry to check this is a possible reason for My increased panic attacks. I fit every check box of CPTD base don childhood traumas and a very bad marriage at a young age. Therapist are not addressing CPTD bxs it is easier to Medicate due to an easier more common disorder

@rachaelcaruso7096

4 ай бұрын

@@bucii01 So your panic attacks have INCREASED since seeing your present therapist?? If so, you owe it to yourself to move on. I believe that the ones who are busy taking notes during sessions (and subsequently unable to respond when we ask questions) are writing our symptoms to sell to Big Pharma to make drugs instead of addressing what Tim says we need in order to heal: human connection. The way that therapists focus on their philosophy whether we’re improving or not can hurt our self-esteem. Also, rhythm would be a possible way to intercept my panic attacks. Do you think rhythmic patterns would help you during yours? Also, I believe Tim Fletcher has programs to help people based on the actual science (which is astounding, since he comes from the side of religion and they come from the side of professionals supposedly based in science)

I grew up from the womb in a war zone. I am unable to connect & never found a safe person. I often know what's expected of me & at best I can act the part needed in that moment. That leaves me in a state of an inauthentic self. I can not be around ppl for any length of time and I suppose I will always be by myself. Don't feel sorry for me that will only bring me into shame. I don't drink, use drugs or have much of an emotional outlet. I am married to a narcissist for 23 years. I am alone Ive always been alone. Still I survive and I can't see God, God cannot hug me, but I am more comforted by God than i am with ppl. I know that God loves me, but i wish I could be like other ppl that are coconsidered normal❤

@Kristie7

2 ай бұрын

You are not alone. I feel exactly the same way and tend to attract narcissists. I’ve been married and divorced four times😢 so kinda giving up on an intimate relationship. Thank God I have Jesus, my children, and two grandsons. ❤ I’m 54 and just learning why I am the way I am. Hang in there. Healing is coming. 🎉

@hellawitzgerald7530

Ай бұрын

Im sure your intentions are noble and there is something to be said about the healing power of being of service, nevertheless, there's a thin line between that and codependence

@viviennecuriel9262

Ай бұрын

Hello Leslie. I can relate. There's no magical answer. But you're definitely on the safe track now. Please don't feel stuck. And ya know what? None of us are NORMAL. Everyone has SOMETHING WE HOPE TO CHANGE. But even those who appear "NORMAL" are just the same as everyone else. Please LOVE YOUR "SELF." Stick with GOD'S WORD, AND YOU'LL NEVER GO WRONG. REMEMBER...GOD IS ALWAYS "ON TIME" BUT ON "HIS TIME" NOT OURS. . . SO BE PATIENT AND LISTEN TO HIS "STILL, SMALL VOICE." LOVE, VIVIENNE. (I'm sure you know all this. But sometimes it's nice for someone to give a little virtual hug online. =) .... Oh yah, and try getting out and meet new SAFE people!

Boy do I need this. ❤😂mood swings like crazy. It’s brutal.

This gentleman is an encyclopaedia of knowledge of mental and spiritual ( body, emotional) health. ❤

The “Tim Talks” have untangled my confusion from my childhood and it is as if I’m looking at the world through new glasses.

I’m so grateful for you and all you share.

I can't tell you how much you helped me through my Healing journey by providing all of the answers, and helping me heal my deepest wounds especialy that I'm a self-healer, and therapy ain't well developed in my country. Thank you Thank you Thank you

Wow I do this , I call it going away . I close up deep into myself . The whole world goes away . I can sleep and sleep.

@taleandclawrock2606

4 ай бұрын

Me too! Its the only way i can feel safe.

This was one of the most clarifying things I have ever heard about what happens to me, and funny enough how the body is wise enough to try to heal itself. Thank you so much for this.

I deep you to understand this at the deepest level. You have no idea just how much these videos have helped me unpack and deal with some of the very descrutive behaviors learned due to my complex trauma experienced throughout my childhood. Truly, God bless you for these.

Beautiful explanation of the story of Peter; we all have failed somebody. Our "failures" help others experience the torment of disapproval with love and hope.

Connection is missing everywhere, not only in the WEST.

@MimiMkenya

Ай бұрын

Yes but the West is the worst. I'm an immigrant from Kenya and Oh my Lord the individualism in 🇺🇸 is absolutely insane.

@Maggieshenoy

Ай бұрын

@@MimiMkenya , I never really felt connected in my birth country, but I found a sense of interdependence as well as mental, emotional and spiritual growth in the West.

You're work has been so eye opening and beneficial to me. I am so grateful for your work.

That’s the first time I recall that I’ve heard someone actually give a reasonable and clear schematic for rebuilding and repairing the broken processes beneath C-PTSD. I’m stunned and delighted.

Thank you so much for this. You have helped me so much by this presentation. I feel real hope for the first time in a long time…I did not understand why I react the way I do and felt really down on myself. I will follow you because I really need to for myself.

This is absolutely BRILLIANT and right-on. As a 62-year-old with severe C-PTSD who has endured decades of many forms of trauma, I'm shocked at how his description of the dynamics involved match exactly how I experience and describe it. My only issue with this presentation, and most others on the topic, is that they all assume the trauma is in the PAST, that something in the present that ISN'T a trauma only REMINDS a person of past trauma. But in many (perhaps most) cases, trauma is REPETATIVE and ON-GOING. It is actual PRESENT traumas that are identical in nature to ones experienced countless times in the past. So, it's NOT a "false alarm" situation. This is a fundamental error trauma therapists miss or overlook. Thus, the advice they give is not always appropriate.

I'm finding this to be a very beneficial guide to understanding myself and understanding others. Understandable may be distinct from acceptable, but understanding is where we need to start.

I really appreciate this 60 part series, it really highlights all the areas my upbringing was lacking which are also the places where i need to grow

Its like you are describing every personality trait i have in this series. This is really confronting. Thank you for the videos

@leahflower9924

2 жыл бұрын

That's whats so weird when he knows your life but doesn't know you it's like a psychic fortune teller lol

@olgakim4848

Жыл бұрын

@@leahflower9924 No, it’s because so many us, no matter what gender, race, color, culture, have experienced the exact same things. We are one race, one species. Humans look different with different languages, cultures and traditions, but our brains are wired the same and we all want the same things. That’s why racism and bigotry is so stupid. Anyhow. Cheers! ❤

@theresalecompte5829

4 ай бұрын

​@olgakim4848 100% I'm so happy I heard this from you. You're the only other person I've seen say this besides myself in all the years I've been looking at comments in blogs. Thank you for that. I know I'm not the only one who sees this but it's about time someone else says it too. 1 race & it's HUMAN!God Bless you!

I was diagnosed at 12 and by 3 different drs by 16 with manic depression and biplorar disorder. Im also extreamly sensitive to sensory inputs "loud noises, textures, touch like wind blowing on my bare skin etc. When i was young we lived by a stop sign motorcycles would stop n rev their bikes REAL LOUD the feeling that ran through my body was so intense all i could think about was pulling whoever it was off the bike and smear their face across the concrete road. Certain yells, to make people talking in a room, high pitched crying instantly triggering. My drug addict drunk mother sobbing triggering i told her to knock that shit off i can listen to your problems but not when your whinning and crying. Most emotions just feel like anger i have a really hard time knowing what emotion im really feeling in turn it just turns straight to anger bc that i can show and articulate and dont feel vulnerable. I find when very intense things happen in my life that cause very intense emotions and pain in my body i usually dont know what to do i cant handle it for very long i end up hurting myself, iv turned to drugs, alcohol, and iv attempted to just exit myself to make it stop. Sounds bad i would rather end my !ife then feel all those different emotions and feelings i just cant think straight i cant believe x is happening cant tell the difference between reality i feel like im just imagining the shit instead of eccepting its real and happening

@nancyllanza1500

4 ай бұрын

Hi I feel your pain!! My heart goes out to you.❤

@sheiladuke3289

4 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@LawnCareLady

2 ай бұрын

May God heal and deliver you, friend 🧡. Jesus knows your name.

Is youtube spying on us... ?? How does the bloody feed give me specific videos depending on my mood?? This is not a joke! If someone has the same experience please tell me so, caus i am feeling paranoid as F!

@scapps8173

4 ай бұрын

You are correct.

@SammiSweetz

3 ай бұрын

Same here

@blackimpala6748

3 ай бұрын

There are complex mathematical algorithms at work behind the scenes based on other videos you are watching. So that's the less conspiratorial take on this. On the other hand, I personally believe Google and iPhone platforms do listen to us through our phones. And have for a long time. I know of articles written in the early 2000s about company executives taking the batteries out of their cell phones for private conversations. I don't worry too much about it because they are doing it to everyone and have been for a long time and it's mostly done for advertising I believe. God bless. 🙏

@laurenbailey3858

3 ай бұрын

Yes.

@LinaGuadagnuolo63

3 ай бұрын

I was about to say an absolute 'YES' but let me qualify it with this. It also listens to your conversations with other people and what you watch on TV, the tunes you sing in the shower, the children coming in and out of your life, the apps you use for banking and oh souch more. Whenever something comes up on my phone suggesting I might like, it feels like the 'spies' are reading my thoughts. So YES it spies but it also predicts and perhaps manipulates your very desires and thoughts.

When he mentioned Oprah 😮I'm put!! She bad bad bad!

@TheTobs50

Ай бұрын

😮Think Oprah's name was used for marketing purposes by the author of the book referred to. I also have serious misgivings about Oprah.

@Lorena-qn3rg

29 күн бұрын

Yes same, like to think he wouldn't use but he is above that talk...I'm not there yet lol

@jodywhite8388

25 күн бұрын

I almost left too at the mention of the Oprah! She’s the worst!

Thank you for having the best way of describing deregulation. I have never heard it explained this way. I wish I had found this video so much sooner. Just wow. I'm still shocked.

This was so helpful I'm amazed how complex the brain is.

Very important information. For many life-changing. Thank you.

Oh great, connection--the one thing I feel like I have no control over...

@adimeter

2 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@KellenAdair

4 ай бұрын

I've been Isolated so long, I'm going to go to a Coffee Chat though someone from church. I need more safe and healthy people in my life. It's time to do that!

Music is so powerful to uplift the mood, rock back & fourth while showering, journaling keeping records of good & not so good, dancing & massage it is impossible to be upset while both !!!

You say the rythm of the mothers heartbeat heard and felt in the womb is unconsciously associated with safety. But what if the mother was disregulated a lot during pregnancy. Wouldn't the rythm then be associated with stress?

Amazing. This information brought me to a breakthrough that I've been looking for 40 years. Thank you, with all of my heart.

Wow this info is life changing. Thank u so much so that I can help heal myself n my family! How powerful to combine psychology with spirituality! I use alot of coping strategies for my anxiety n now I am starting to sing alot of worship songs throughout the day n when I feel a panic attack coming on n it works wonders!

This is extremely interesting and informative. VERY on par with the many Facebook groups I used to belong to a few years ago, and began to learn about narcissism and psychopathy, thereafter found KZread Channels of Dr. Ramani, Dr. Carter, and Andrew of Narc Daily. Thank you for your work and in presenting this valuable information. ❤

Life with a psychopath was difficult to predict. Beside the reg. array of abuse, there was also intentional sadistic abuse. There was really no way to prepare for an evil mind. As I say, evil is as bad as you can imagine and then some. I was the specimen in a wide variety experiments. The only good thing was there were no alcohol or drugs involved. I now see that they developed an addiction to my suffering. Finally contact is nonexistence.

@danae-rain3019

4 ай бұрын

I've had therapists insist there must have been alcohol or drug issues behind my parents cruelty. Nope. I wish I could blame their viciousness on a substance. They were both lifelong teetotalers.

@DogsReignSupreme

4 ай бұрын

Sounds like their knowledge of evil is mostly theoretical. Pretty much the same as for substances. I think it is a control thing. Little bit of gaslighting from the therapists?? What is evil? As bad as you can imagine and then some @@danae-rain3019

@meredithheath5272

4 ай бұрын

Indeed - there are so many "degrees on a spectrum" of narcissism and psychopathy. It is very interesting that my abuser was Very intelligent, in that the abuse was very subtle but near constant so that I gaslighted myself into thinking that I was living a somewhat "normal" life. His daughter from a previous marriage was quite more direct, but, in the earlier years of our marriage, I didn't see her that often so, didn't realize what a psychology sadistic individual she was. Whole family - her mother from my ex's first marriage was also "very out there" - burned their house down!!! Yep!!! How uneducated I was to not see the whole picture until too late. Another thing that fit so well into that whole predatory family was they knew that I had come from a poor, poorly educated, dysfunctional family, so that bad behaviors were normalized - I put up with far more than I otherwise would not have put up with, had I been more educated. This is new information which is now piled on to what I already have learned!! "Every day's a school day!" I hope others can work their way out of the trauma; I think and hope that our inner chemistry can change for the better, as we learn and grow ❤❤❤❤

@meredithheath5272

3 ай бұрын

I'm not surprised - the term "narcissist supply" can, sort of, describe your situation. Once I began to learn the vocabulary of psychology, things really began to come together so I could realize just what i was really dealing with: Things were NOT my imagination, afer all. Terms such as "gaslighting"; "victim blaming"; "projection"; "love bombing"; "devaluation"; "emotional sadism"etc....

@StarSurvivor1585

Ай бұрын

That's a whole additional layer of sickness. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you have seen someone or will see someone to help heal this.

Dear Tim, do you have a video about high sensitive persons? Thank you, and may God bless you for your work.

@luckyluckyloulou6100

2 жыл бұрын

You mean CPTSD….Ross Rosenberg Sam vaknin Etc…

@zusterMalikaLithgow

2 жыл бұрын

@@luckyluckyloulou6100 thank you. But I would like to hear from Tim Fletcher what he has to say about high sensitivity in the light of complex trauma.

@zusterMalikaLithgow

2 жыл бұрын

@Lavinia Blajovan Thank you, Lavinia, I already started listening to them.

@jacquelinekemp4074

4 ай бұрын

highly sensitive = emotionally immature, people who haven't learned to control their emotions

@Cat-qo3ht

3 ай бұрын

That's absolutely not the definition of someone who is a "Highly Sensitive Person". It's about their brain being wired, from birth, to be extra sensitive to internal and external stimuli. They feel deeply, think deeply, and are moved in a large way by the arts, music, etc. They are typically more sensitive and emotionally intelligent towards other people, sensing what others are feeling. They understand subtleties where others miss them. And that's just a small synapsis of what an HSP is. ​@@jacquelinekemp4074

This is one of the most useful lectures I've heard in ages! Thank you for helping me to understand the freeze response.

This guy is amazing. I'm learning so much from him.

connection is definitely important - really believe that

Excellent explanation, thank you. The limbic/dysregulation/ rhythm could also explain eating disorders…

@KellenAdair

4 ай бұрын

It explains why I've been a rocker all my life.

These are actually incredible videos. Thank you!

Always a joy and a privilege to listen to you. It is of tremendous help to hear what you are saying. Thank you, thank you. ❤

THIS is the video i needed from this playlist, i always thought i was borderline BPD like my father, but this makes much more sense for why i have been using substances to help regulate my emotions.

This is so amazingly helpful!! On so many levels Working with patients to be able to understand this process is such a gift THANK YOU

Absolutely brilliant presentation...to reach the layman. A God sent angel! Thank you.

What a fantastically explanatory video. Answered so many of the questions iv struggled to answer !! So grateful for this ❤

This video may have saved my life. Thank you so much!

This is my friend, exactly. Sharing w/ him now. Thank you!!

My dear husband is in this state, he has been keeping things bottled up parental damage , he is a very sensitive and needs help which he won't step up to his need....I'll keep trying to get him there Sweet man that he really is. It's tough but so am I

@jacquelinekemp4074

4 ай бұрын

HE needs to seek help & not rely on you

@missi7196

4 ай бұрын

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@MimiMkenya

Ай бұрын

Unfortunately you can't fix him, he needs to put in the work to heal his childhood trauma. You can alert him when he's dysregulated, but it's his duty to heal 🫶🏾

Thank you for sharing this freely. Everyone should know about this. This is a great help.

I haven't even watched the video. It may contain valid ideas and information. This guy generally has a good understanding of what he talks about. I'm simply providing some feedback about the language used in the title, the language that we use to talk about this subject. It's something I see all the time and I think the way we talk about it this subject can set us up for success or failure from the start. The way we set up the premise. The foundation is very important. You can't build your house on sand, so to speak. Yes, that is a biblical reference. YOU CAN'T CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS! It will never work that way. Emotions are automatically triggered through the autonomic nervous system based on the data that is fed into it. Experiental data from our environment, and preexisting data based on beliefs from past experience. We can't (completely) control the environment. Your home and inner circle, yes. But work, other people, the planetary ecosystem, etc, no. Of course not. The other factor that feeds into the autonomic response is the beliefs formed by prior experience. That's where you come in. You can control those beliefs. They are formed automatically, by our genetic survival instinct, throughout our youth. We are programmed. They call it conditioning. When we can become aware of that conditioning, we can re-examine those beliefs. It can be difficult and often requires consciously re-experiencing those events. My hat is off to anyone who can do this easily. You've been doing the work. You can never control your feelings. The best you can do is accept and listen to them. Make friends with them. Allow them. Sit with them. Observe them. Smile to them. Listen to them. Control is an ego function/need. Getting rid of your ego is impossible too. Make friends with that too. Smile to it. It is also a survival mechanism and you wouldn't exist without it. That's shadow work. Controlling our feelings implies judgment of them. Certain ones we want and others we don't. That's just not how anything works. Those feelings drive your intuition and creativity. You damage yourself by chasing any of that away. Yes,, sometimes they are unpleasant, I agree. But they are necessary, God given, divine messengers. Not something I would ignore. Make friends with the "enemies" within. Best thing you can ever do. That's shadow work, that's the Tantra Mantra too. Everything is exactly as it should be

Truly enlightening once you fully understand what he is saying

Insightful talk thanks. The calm and rhythmic way in which it is delivered is by itself highly appreciated.

this is absolutely amazing. I am currently going thru a huge mess. I wish it 2-3 yrs from now. Its that bad.

222 comments. God led me here. Thank you for this Tim, it has shed some light on why I have reacted poorly to certain situations over the years. You’re a blessing brother, keep doing the good work.

@JasonYoung-dg6rk

4 ай бұрын

And it’s 2:22. 🤯

You have helped me enormously, love you. Thank you!

Brilliant!!!! Best KZread find this year

I wanted to say thank you for the insight I have received from the videos that you have made I have been in therapy For 30 plus years I'm 53 years old and the insight that I have gained from you has been paramount to the time I've spent in therapy I am so grateful to you thank you so much

Your talks are pure medicine, thank you!

This video was God sent this morning. Thank you for your words.

What an insightful, powerful message! The conclusion (referring to 'CONNECTION') reminds of Dr. Henry Cloud's discussion about 'THE POWER OF THE OTHER'.

Beautiful, this presentation really helped me. Thank you.

Very powerful information. Appreciate your knowledge and kindnesses to sharing with us.

It is absolutely true. According to my undisclosed needs, utube sends me appropriate videos. I am not paranoid but grateful 😊

Oh this is really good!!! Thank you so much Mr. Fletcher!!

I have just discover your channel, I think is great!! Thanks Tim!!

@Truologye

4 ай бұрын

Me too!

A clear description and easy to understand. I have learnt much about emotional attachment styles through attachment style theory… from Secure and Insecure types (being Dismissive and Fearful Avoidant, Anxious Types). The combination of these two are really powerful. Thank you Tim 😊

God bless your amazing work You are a true blessing to the people💜🙏

Ive always struggled as a child with ocd and adhd and this really helps

Thank you for being you and sending this message.

You're helping me through military sexual trauma experiences in 1997. Been taking workshops since and prayer and meditation BUT NOBODY HELPED ME ACROSS THAT BROKEN Bridge. Finally You're helping us bridge that humongous dark scary gap😮😊❤ with a simple step by step tool kit.🎉

I LOVE THE VISUALS with it !!, & your tone !, THANK YOU !! 😃😼

Thank you for this. It is REALLY needed

Brilliant explanation. The opiod part was a huge revelation for me.

Great man. Need more people to gain knowledge on this. Bless your soul thank you.

Thanks for all your videos💓

the best simplest explanation I've ever heard :)

If you had my son’s life story from 19 months to 5 .. and see him now he would prove everything in your lecture! Rhythm, routine & my (primary parent since 5 yo) regulated mood, behavior & attitude no matter how stressed is largely how my autistic son is a different child! Now I will say most of what I did although very similar to your lecture was just instinctive. Great lecture man!

Excellent breakdown is both hugely intellectual but very much easy to understand. Many thanks

I am really grateful to you for these high quality contents, thank you!

This man us like finding GOLD 😍

Sending u tons love and appreciation from Korea. You helped me alot from my childhood trauma.

You provide the human manual that is missing so essential truly amazing 💜🙏

@Truologye

4 ай бұрын

Exactly🎉

Love this video!!!! Thank you!!