1. Stopped drugs and alcohol 2. Stopped chasing acute feelings of joy 3. Stopped staying up late 4. Stopped restricting my food intake 5. Stopped allowing myself to be inactive 6. Stopped getting fully invested in fantasy world - tv, videogames etc Might want to listen - each item is qualified

@TheManLab7

6 ай бұрын

I do enjoy people doing these but I always wish there were time stamps so I can get straight to them. Maybe that's someone I should do if I remember.

@brendalg4

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for the list, but this is not what he lists in the description. Before people go looking for the description.. it doesn't have time stamps either

@spaaarky21

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for summarizing. Listening to this was making me depressed.

@Dkm1988ny

6 ай бұрын

Well, looks like I’ll be depressed forever then…. 😩 (Thx for listing each habit to stop doing, btw.)

@ana999100

6 ай бұрын

@@Dkm1988ny As you wish....

For me the worst thing about being depressed _is pretending that I'm not depressed_

@susanportrey3223

10 күн бұрын

Omg yesssss. It takes so much energy to pretend

@formulaic78

5 күн бұрын

​@@susanportrey3223this is what Jim Carey talks about, saying that being depressed is taking a rest from faking being the character you show the world. I set myself up very early on as the quick witted Chandler type. I was able to stay in chandler mode only through drinking, but eventually that caught up with me and now I can't drink anymore. Trying to still be Chandler is exhausting, but accepting that I get nervous around others and start tripping over my words etc is hard to do, so I keep trying to force this persona, or just stop socialising in order not to.

@njc1903

2 күн бұрын

Good one.

@tracesprite6078

2 күн бұрын

The flip side of this is, when you admit that you are depressed, to not exaggerate this and start saying things like, "I've been depressed every minute of my life." Yes, you may have had a lot of depression, but you have also experienced other emotions and it is helpful to notice them, too, and to have confidence in your level of resilience.

@InEnglish-sg2cc

Күн бұрын

Come on, bro, who cares

I’m 70 and I’ve been depressed since my childhood. I’ve coped and dragged myself through life. I have bright spots, many in fact. The bright spots have kept me alive but now I no longer care if I live or die. I think I’ve stayed alive to not hurt family. I can’t seem to crawl out of the hole. I keep hoping.

@shuiwahlee5836

2 ай бұрын

🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

@rossrobson1045

2 ай бұрын

I'm 36 and have been severely depressed for 12 years nothing seems to get better for me, if I'm like this still by the time I hit 50 then I'll most likely end my life

@TheInnerPact

2 ай бұрын

I can relate. ❤

@goodlooking6704

2 ай бұрын

Sending warm hugs 🤗.

@yvettemundo6283

2 ай бұрын

I pray you can feel better sometime soon. Try to find Jesus’ love and forgiveness for your life. Doesn’t mean we don’t get sick, but we have God’s protection and strength thru the trials. God bless you 🙏

Alcohol and cigarettes addiction actually destroyed my life. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

@Qing__001

12 күн бұрын

Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.

@Bastianbishops

12 күн бұрын

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them

@SusanaGomez-mp8sk

12 күн бұрын

YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@Edennnn926

12 күн бұрын

Congrats! I'm really happy for you that your friend decided to help you. I always admire those who beat their addiction. Knowing it's possible to fix your life knowing there's people out there that have done what I thought was impossible gives me hope I will make it through as well. Those who share their experiences don't know how much it helps when you're about to give up, it gives you the strength knowing somone who actully know what it's like to go through this tell you it's possible, it's not the same somone telling you you can do it when they have no idea what it's like, but hearing somone who knows what it's like that helps a lot since you understand it firsthand and made it out gives so much hope. so thanks for sharing.

@TomSanders-qv8bv

12 күн бұрын

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

Your ability to relate to people because of your own 'broken' parts is why you're the only doctor I subscribe to... you've removed the hierarchy between doctor and patient. Thank you for your work.

@knightstar1312

6 ай бұрын

Same here

@reahtoni8069

6 ай бұрын

make it a great day. Do Mandel is amazing too

@reahtoni8069

6 ай бұрын

Dr.Mandel

@reahtoni8069

6 ай бұрын

this doc is great with his real life teachings

@lilmissjoodypoody

6 ай бұрын

I agree. I also subscribe to “Patrick Teahan” and “HealthyGamerGG” for this reason (Patrick has lived experience with childhood trauma and Dr K with gaming addiction and ADHD).

I am the female version of you. You describe your brain and depression just how I have experienced mine for 55 years. I'm going to try 2 things from your video. 1. Accepting, finally, that my brain is wired differently than others and be ok with that fact. 2. Force myself to get out of my house and go for a walk everyday. I really resonated with you when you said you struggle with feeling like doing nothing and needing to do something.

@conny.rapp.tattoo

6 ай бұрын

Also, read Goggins books. They helped me understand the healing power of self-discipline.

@dssoper

6 ай бұрын

1000% resonated with that part too!

@freshliving4199

6 ай бұрын

Depression is just a very good reminder that there’s something missing within you. The day you realize what’s missing is the last day you ever experience depression again.

@RK-su4hs

6 ай бұрын

cleanse + nourish = health

@trainorsue

6 ай бұрын

This: "I really resonated with you when you said you struggle with feeling like doing nothing and needing to do something." I wrote it down as he said it. I've never been able to actually master this and I struggle with it a lot.

Nostalgia is one that I’m trying to break myself away from. I get obsessed and it leaves me with an empty hopeless feeling.

@user-sh2tr9jd3n

16 күн бұрын

Absolutely. Nostalgic feels have been a curse for me. Also loneliness is really really hard.

@rhonddavincent2803

12 күн бұрын

Nostalgia is a trap, it keeps you in the past. Maybe join a group , get a new hobby, start going to church. I'm 78 and am still working as a draughts person. Keeping busy, exercising, or working is good for your mental health. Getting to know Jesus will be the best thing that you could do. He gives us new life. The worst thing that you can do is live in the past, you'll miss the present and your future . I'm a hermit type person, but I have fought back against it and life is good, being busy and reaching out to God and other people. It is never too late to change habits. You can do it. God bless🤗

@michealgeorge57

12 күн бұрын

Psychedelics did great for me. I'll refer you to my source. They deliver discreetly.

@michealgeorge57

12 күн бұрын

Jostrippy

I can’t believe you described my life…. 100% day in & day out… No joy No happiness No friends/family No inner peace No God given talents or abilities No focus No strength No hope

@vedranmedic8695

26 күн бұрын

Same here

@StunningTransformations

21 күн бұрын

I’m praying for you

@peterhalyckyj1588

20 күн бұрын

Same here. Sick of it. Trying all manner of things at the moment

@amber40494

20 күн бұрын

Great list! My life for 70 years!

@stephani633

18 күн бұрын

This is me too..

I have to make these same choices. It is my healthy brain 🧠 diet. My list includes 1. Time in nature. 2. I need to pray regularly 3. I need to reach out to friends and not be a recluse 4. I need music 5. I need to help someone each day. 6. I need to eat healthy food 7. I need to go to bed early and get up early. 8. I need to move. 9. I need to get dressed everyday and look nice. 10. I like to be fresh and clean.

I love hearing someone else being honest about their struggles. It’s good to know we aren’t alone and we do recover.

@JC-du6sn

5 ай бұрын

Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

@unoriginalname771

Ай бұрын

I don’t recover, I’ve already accepted a happy and fulfilling life is not in the cards for everyone. It is what it is

@realsydney7327

Ай бұрын

Vigorous exercise every day, 10 mins, that's all. Socialize, that's important and get into work if you can, anything. Those 3 things help a lot. The exercise causes some kind of stuff to circulate in your body that is anti-depression and it is powerful.

I think depression is a completely natural human response to really opening one's eyes to the modern world/society in general and asking some very real questions.

@greghayes9118

6 күн бұрын

I agree, this is proven by the change in mental state one experiences when people go camping in the wilderness.

I’ve battled depression for 42 years. Antidepressants have saved my life. I can be off them for a few years but then have to take them for a few days to weeks to function and not become psychotic. I was in therapy for 16 years. I had plenty of childhood trauma, was a single parent, suffered divorce and death of a child, alcohol abuse off and on. The challenges never end. I’m in my 70s now and the biggest challenge is overcoming inertia and staying optimistic. Eating well and getting enough sleep are critical. You also have to manage your money well and avoid alcohol and unprescribed drugs. I don’t know how much longer I’ll be able to live alone and don’t want to think about it.

@michael5089

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I'm 55 and have severe depression, depersonalisation, anxiety to name a few. Life is very hard. I send you my best❤🙏

@clr1121

4 ай бұрын

Jesus loves you and cares about you.

@dijaworldworld3895

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story it helps so much and know that you matter because look how your comment has helped ❤

@michael5089

4 ай бұрын

@@clr1121 ☺️🙏

@azkbyzk

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, you saved so many life by your testimony

As an academia / neuroscience inclined depressed person, I really feel so much more at ease to know you succeeded despite depression.

@elisalazar9880

6 ай бұрын

PhD doesn't make a person, I have known doctorate students acting very immature and unhealthy I would even say some get their PhD by wrong means. It depends what is your reason behind pursuing it and what you do after it..

@cerulean93

Ай бұрын

I'm a neuroscientist in academia - it's not easy, but it's very possible to pursue this career. The earlier you establish a strong toolbox for handling your mental health the better.

@yuyukawa9104

Ай бұрын

@@elisalazar9880 be a neuroscientist

My 2 sons have mental health issues and my wife sees a therapist. I started watching your videos seeking understanding. I shared your videos with my wife and she says you're very relatable. That's high praise. Thanks for what you are doing. It's quality help. Peace

@sharynmain2432

6 ай бұрын

Well done to you… and I say that because some people cannot even generate that… you as a family will collectively benefit. Also nice to see a male give a perspective in a therapeutic setting 😊

@blaze36344

6 ай бұрын

Thanks to you for trying to understand, from personal experience it makes a world difference to have who's supposed to love you try to understand and support you :)

@traygoodie

6 ай бұрын

Your family is very lucky to have you 🤍

@gal1885

6 ай бұрын

Very compassionate and empathetic of you to care so much about understanding what your wife and sons are dealing with.

@freshliving4199

6 ай бұрын

Do you accept responsibility for the mess that your family is in?

Thank you 🙏. I’m a 56 yr old woman who is beyond crippling loneliness and all my time is spent helping others. I phoned the Samaritan yesterday and hung up as I felt so so ashamed . I think people usually assume middle aged women have someone to talk to. Thank you for these tips that help you through

@docrob5320

2 ай бұрын

No. Most middle aged women don't have friends. We've all spent the last 20 plus years looking after kids, home and men and ignoring our own needs wants and desires in the mean time. There are zero community activities geared towards women, gone are the women's auxiliaries and the quilting clubs, so yes tons of middle aged women are lonely. I have found that if you can find a fabric store or local craft store in your area, most have get together days...our local needle point shop does...also volunteering helps get you with people, community gardens, if you are religious churches and temples are a good place to start too. Also get together with some older women. I sew every Thursday with ladies 20 years older than me, they are fun. Good luck, big internet hug. Hang in there

@Hafhafnhaf

2 ай бұрын

68 and in the same boat. I agree with the other reply. Honestly I have no idea how to flow up and see replies after I send them but wish I could.followntgis thread.

@Hafhafnhaf

2 ай бұрын

@@docrob5320thank you. I am in the same situation only also divorced which was due to my poor thinking and depression. I was desperate. I am trying to find a way to stay alive and not suicidal all the time. There only fabric stores left are the corporate craft store, JoAnne. I made every mistake possible in attempting to improve my depression and loneliness. I can't undue any of it. This is life.

@kittenandgoat

2 ай бұрын

I don't have any proper friends - I don't get lonely - I am quite happy pottering about by myself - but people try to make me feel guilty and weird - and try to get me involved in stuff which find so uncomfortable.

@user-zo1fr1vk8e

2 ай бұрын

Sending you connection and my peace to you.

Depression is awful. I’ve had depression on and off since 1997. I try to accept it’s just part of my life and I just have to get through it each time. Still feels horrendous each time

@realsydney7327

Ай бұрын

Vigorous exercise every day, 10 mins, that's all. Socialize, that's important and get into work if you can, anything. Those 3 things help a lot. The exercise causes some kind of stuff to circulate in your body that is anti-depression and it is powerful.

I really appreciate that you don’t edit your videos to be cut so that you make no mistakes and that you don’t even seem to breathe! those videos that are very popular by most content creators, to edit them in such a way that makes them speak fast and error free actually creates a bit of anxiety for me. where your videos are very realistic and comfortable and authentic and I super appreciate the ease and realistic setting you create, feeling like you are right here and we’re having a real conversation. The Content is fantastic and super helpful!

@marionannmacredie

6 ай бұрын

Absolutely!

@stacatalina

6 ай бұрын

Piggybacking onto this comment: I also appreciate that your videos don't utilize flashy graphics or stock photos/videos or background music to help "illustrate" your points. I find that stuff distracting and they take away from the message, even if it's a valuable one. I hope you don't ever go that route. Your content is down-to-earth and promotes a positive message that many of us need to hear, especially in these times. Thank you for your podcast!

@DanEngell

6 ай бұрын

Hear hear! Malissia, that's a great comment. Also, I've never said "Hear hear" before.🙂

@MalissiaCreates

6 ай бұрын

@@DanEngell 😄 is it here here or hear hear? I’ve never used it either. Thanks Dan

@MalissiaCreates

6 ай бұрын

@@stacatalina yesss good point! Sometimes videos that have a really great message actually create sensory overload by the way they deliver it.

You failed that psychology class, but all that matters is you got back up again, and look where you are now. You give people hope. That's not a failed person! I wish you could see yourself the way people who watch your videos see you. You are a really important person.

@JC-du6sn

5 ай бұрын

Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

@rockingmom3

5 ай бұрын

Michael Jordan was cut from the high school basketball team

@claireedgley7897

11 күн бұрын

This is what I thought! Despite the F in the Intro course, he's pushed on, pursued, and still managed to become a qualified psychologist. That's a win to me! 🎉 It's probably doubly impressive managing to do it with chronic feelings of a lack of motivation and mental energy or clarity. 😊

Spot on, my man. I've been fighting this for over 40 years now. medication didn't work. Therapy didn't work. One day I just got fed up with the pathos that was my life. The first epiphany for me was that I actually found comfort in the chest pain that came whenever I would start slipping or when things went bad. It's difficult to describe, but it had become my friend. It was the one thing I could count on being there when everything else was gone. Yeah, it's jacked. I consciously made the decision right there to turn that security blanket into a warning light. Whenever I felt it, I would make it an immediate priority to stop what I was thinking, feeling, or encountering and address the issue. It helped and still helps to this day (quite literally this day, which explains why I'm watching this video). Edit: epiphany #2 was, at least in my case, selfishness increased alongside depression. I have no idea if there is any correlation, but the deeper I went, the more I thought about myself. It was like borders started to be drawn, and I became my own island and only cared about what was on that island, nothing more. That isolation kept me locked into my own head and thinking about my own problems, which turned into a demented positive feedback cycle.

@PolishBehemoth

2 ай бұрын

your second epiphany explains so much of the homelessness here in texas. No matter how much help you offer these people they only want to take more. Non stop selfishness. They never want to get bettwr uet blame everyone for their problems. Brilliant epiphany you had.

@marija4650

2 ай бұрын

I relate to your 2 epiphanys on also a demented level, sending lots of interent love your way ❤🏝🫂

Serotonin the happy mood chemical is made in the gut.. I didn't know this and have had depression on and off over the years. Then i discovered that i needed to have a healthy gut, ie good intestinal flora , which promotes serotonin, by taking acidophilus capsules . At our mental health centre they warn us against eating foods high in sugar and highly processed food too which can wipe out the good healthy gut bacteria . Also after a course of antibiotics that kill off good as well as bad bacteria , its so important to take acidophilus capsules too. So many people i know over look this basic but vital info

A few extra points I would like to add to your list: Avoid watching the news; Avoid toxic people or toxic relationships.

@veraluka3100

5 ай бұрын

yes that is also very important I did that years ago they are still whine about it and dont understand why I did it explaining was not an option cause they did not understand or did not want to

@wakeuptoreality20231

5 ай бұрын

Social media should also be avoided

@jimhutcho1083

5 ай бұрын

I can second this, following the war in Ukraine 24/7 on various news channels affected my mood late at night I realised

@JustForFun-mt9og

5 ай бұрын

Toxic people and relationships are comparable to having an anchor around your neck.

@lamb-tika-cod4934

5 ай бұрын

​@@wakeuptoreality20231I haven't logged on fb for about 8 years haha

Wow. Feels like something finally “clicked” for me hearing this. I’ve been spending months watching productivity channels, obsessing about my mental health, feeling “different” and “broken” and suddenly you just put it in a way that makes sense

biggest wake up call for me was that I'm not everyone else. I can't always act "normal" because my results will be different. Very needed. Be yourself

As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of: -Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great -Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks") -Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed -Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it -Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model. -Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. -Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose. -Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves -Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor. -Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it -Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs. I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful. The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going." Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence. You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.

@gailmcnamee1216

4 ай бұрын

❤p

@Medietos

3 ай бұрын

Good, thanks, although helping family isone of my biggest causes of stress and depression: because they haven't received it , wanted it and appreciated it. Wjat is worse than knowing how to help but see them go towards ungoing catastrophe because of unresolved childhood trauma, ignorance and drifting in the minds habitual crappy survival mode?And I am depressed at having wasted the best years sacrificing my life, energy for them without results or meaning, even ptobably enabled them to go on , by my co-dependent love without healthy grounding and borders, compensating by constant natural health-studying in order to make up for burnt-out short memory. Hoping to get love, connection and help in return. Which never happened. Helpng en the same, with no results of respect and appreciation.I want change and help now..

@lucydayLucida

3 ай бұрын

@@Medietos I can relate to much of your comment. Finally realising that no one I've burnt myself out trying to love and care for would lift a finger to help me is both crushing and somehow liberating. Following through on the same level of care for myself is an ongoing struggle unfortunately. I'm trying psychotherapy but it seems to be going nowhere.

@katscotty

3 ай бұрын

These ideas are very inspiring and some of them new which is so useful. I really think you need to start a You Tube Channel. Thank you! 💜

@adamdean4025

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for YOUR list too!

You hit the nail on the head when you talked about not wanting to do anything, but not wanting to do nothing either. This happens to me every day, and as you say, is super frustrating.

@darnellanders8768

5 ай бұрын

Same here. I have learn though that deciding and building up the courage to venture out I in most cases feel much better having done so than if I had stayed home. Most have to be in the company of others just for validation but I just don't rely on just that. I sometimes just go to the park for a walk listening to my music on Bluetooth..

@TwelveBravo

5 ай бұрын

⁠@@darnellanders8768I’m the same. Getting out of the door is the hardest part. I think it all stems from anxiety, and a fear of just sitting still with my thoughts. Alone with my thoughts is not good sometimes.

@Simbiryanin1

5 ай бұрын

Yes! That's it! The same with me

@darnellanders8768

5 ай бұрын

@@TwelveBravo And mind U there is a saying that if one doesn't enjoy their own company then how can one expect others too?? To calm your thoughts U must realize that it's okay to not need validation from others rather its people places and or things to know that U exist and in knowing that U exist for the very reason God created U. I know folks who are addicted to people places and things.. Not a good thing at all. Because as U know all good things and bad things will come to a end.. And if U are not more grounded in God when they occur the sting will hurt that much more.. With all the corrupted and vile things going on in the world it's no wonder we have more fear and anxiety but we can't allow that to rule us keeping us in fear of our very being to the point of not venturing out becoming a hermit. We now just need to be more aware of our surroundings while out and about. To spite some folks and their flaws the world has such beauty to explore .. The beauty of nature is unconditional.. Never take it for granted.. We have access to it everyday..

@jamesmcgarry7310

5 ай бұрын

sometimes, we have to force ourselves to get out and do something. It is healthy for us and we feel better for doing so. Staying active, accomplishing things (even the most simple things), exercising and being outdoors will work wonders ! Stay strong. God's Blessings ALWAYS. 🙏🙏🙏 💚💚💚 ✌️✌️✌️

Coming out of freeze mode, I realized that while not chasing joy, I also was not achieving the 'must do now's'. This morning I tried to think of a few good times or things that have happened in my life. Every one that came to mind was tinged and overtaken by a connected failure or slight, or rejection. That got me out of bed and to work on my to-do list. Once active, my ruminating and severe anxiety/depression went away. It came back on every break I took. I, too, have been a lifelong sufferer of depression. At my age, my time left is rather short. I am adament that, like you, I find my way to a largely balanced mindset and life.

I CANNOT BELIEVE how you were able to help me with my own depression after watching your video. I am in awe right now! I never looked at my depression as a chronic health condition that needs to be dealt with this way so concisely and matter of fact. I am just realizing that I have never accepted that I have to live with it for the rest of my life. I’ve always hoped it was conditional and that I would be healed from it but wow, I can now accept my fate more graciously now that I have seen how it can be managed. Thank you SO MUCH! from the bottom of my heart.

@DrScottEilers

3 ай бұрын

I’m so glad it was helpful ❤️

@annwethenorth

3 ай бұрын

Please don't. It's not true. Silent prayer works.

@stevekaylor5606

2 ай бұрын

Anyone can be Imago Viva Dei; treat others with kindness and agapeic love. This is mental health!@@annwethenorth

@stevekaylor5606

2 ай бұрын

Scott has a mental + emotional cathexis - which is what mental health is!

@bichu232

2 ай бұрын

@@annwethenorthGo away anne

When you said how sorry you are that we are like this, it was like a dam burst, you made me cry but they were healing tears, that the doctor doesn’t just understand the mechanics but actually KNOWS - you are very special person and I thank you deeply for helping us

I'm 67 and I'm sure I was born with depression, I've only worked this out recently and why I think this is because looking back over my life I've never felt real happiness like I see other people enjoying their life . There isn't any photo's of myself smiling, you see children laughing, happy over nothing but that was never me, and all my life I felt cheated of not having that , could never understand what is wrong with me 😢 I did eventually find some joy in my children, my pets but also a deep sadness when it ended ( Children become adults, pets die ) I am a very compassionate person and feel genuinely for others who suffer and especially animals therefore I am constantly saddened easily and it is a real struggle to always having to be me and not being able to change that . Thank you for your kindness and helping those who so desperately need someone who really, truly understands 💜

@dewdrops9253

5 ай бұрын

Same here 😪

@janbasterfield8200

5 ай бұрын

@@dewdrops9253 💜

@jupitorman

5 ай бұрын

Same l remember being at school when l was about 8 all l did was cry every day in the playground one day l didn't cry but the next started all over again now l am on medication 65 years old live on my own

@janbasterfield8200

5 ай бұрын

@@jupitorman 💜

@Klikka1

5 ай бұрын

Same, but I realized that I was phsychologicaly abused by my parents my entire childhood. Must clean out the toxic people from your life.

Dr. Scott is BY FAR the best person or channel on KZread- he feels like one of the ONLY ones actually bringing hope to the hopeless! I'm a single Mom and implementing his simple to understand strategies have helped me more than any therapy or medication over many years. He makes changing seem possible, he understands the difference between depression and being or seeming "lazy" at certain times- I'm not a lazy person at all but I do have periods I feel very shut down and this causes shame spirals where I get SO upset with myself. I really hope Dr. Scott realizes how much he's helping so many of us that find him SO DIFFERENT than anyone else in this space and just in general! And he's also honest that there's no magic fix, but that we can slowly, little by little, change our mindset and change our lives. Plus he's just so fun to look at and Listen to!!! All my Love, admiration, and gratitude to you Dr. Scott!! PLEASE keep doing what you're doing! And listening to your own journey and experience in this video helped so much, I will start using these new tips starting tomorrow. Literally the best channel on KZread, I've told all my friends and family to subscribe and watch! ❤️🥰💖

@DrScottEilers

6 ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️

I’m in my 7th decade on the planet. I have depression episodes. They are cyclical. I’ve lived long enough to know that the episode will cycle out. As a person of Christian faith, I have Biblical tools to lean on also. Warmest regards, fellow depression sufferers. Hang on and then hang on more until the cloud lifts.

Dr. this is genius! Other doctors would always give me meds for depression, but nothing worked. Through trial and error, I did all those things on my own, that you just described, and it worked. I do need to get outside more. I wish some doctor would have said this to me back in the day instead of my waisted years figuring it out on my own. Thank you 😊 l think this advice will help many people 🙏

Here are some of the things I do to help when I am having a depressive episode (in addition to what you already mentioned in your video). 1) avoid silence. I make sure there is music playing or an audiobook so that my own skull chatter has to compete with it for its soapbox. 2) to help with sleeping, especially when I cannot quiet my mind, I *listen* to a movie I have seen a hundred times before. I have a few favorites. I would be willing to bet that many people have a few favorites they have seen many, many times. I listen to it while I am trying to go to sleep, but I don't watch it. It must be dark so I either cover the screen or let it run in another room and use a remote speaker where I sleep. Then I try to visualize the movie while I hear it. It pushes out disturbing thoughts because it takes a lot of my brain to see the movie in my mind. Seeing images in my mind is very close to the sleep state and getting to sleep from there is much easier. 3) I try to find something creative to do when I am awake and not working. Not a video game or any kind of *participative experience*. It has to be something creative like pour painting, 3D modeling and printing , writing or woodworking. It can be hard to bring myself to do it when I am depressed, but it is helpful when I can. This is related to your idea of accomplishments vs, joy-seeking. 4) Do something nice for someone else. Sometimes I don't like myself enough to do something nice for myself, but I still want to help others, and that feels good. I can see in their eyes (or imagine it if I can't see their eyes) that they appreciate me and sometimes that rubs off on me.

@lindavernon8051

5 ай бұрын

These are such great tips. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your discoveries.

@JC-du6sn

5 ай бұрын

Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

@mansivasant7526

5 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you for sharing the tips. I'm definitely going to use the movie tip.

@GalinaUm

5 ай бұрын

WOW this is really precious; thank you so much for posting this!

@felixlau6761

5 ай бұрын

Do you know Pema Chedrön? I recommend her meditation workshops / audios. Making peace with your mind helps you accept silence and vice versa. My journey to healing started when I could just listen to the silence and be an observer of my mind instead of judging these things. So, maybe it makes really sense to avoid silence, but avoiding yourself and your own mind could be the downside of it. Personally I couldnt stand silence half of my life, always distracting me from myself, the journey to yourself also begins in silence (which maybe comes with some pain). So interesting...

Wow. The first doctor I have ever encountered who is one of us. You understand. ❤

I feel like this list is really good advice for all people regardless of whether currently having issues or not. Depression can come or go with everyone and it helps to be reminded of tips and tricks but also triggers. You're the best Dr Scott !!

I’m so glad I found your channel. You’re speaking straight to me. Thank you!

Wow, you've just described everything I've been through my entire life. What you have put in this format is something I've discovered through trial & error. I'm 64 years old and it took me a few decades to realize all of the same things. You are 100% right as far as my severe depression disorder. It's so great to hear you describe this & give functional solutions to everyday living. I have to admit that sometimes I stop doing some of those 6 things and yes I fall right back into the darkness of just existing. You've given me a little push today to start paying more attention to those 6 things. Thanks so much.

@joansikorski9591

6 ай бұрын

It’s 71 and have been treated for depression and anxiety since I was 30. I have been on pretty much every medication and even ECT. It’s treatment resistant and I can relate to the feeling of just existing and even passive suicide feelings at times. There’s an urgent need to study effective elderly depression treatment.

@bethb.6813

6 ай бұрын

I'm 68 and still having trouble with that 6th choice, the attraction to fantasy worlds. I have a rationale for it though as I am in a period of transition without as much agency as I will have later. But I will have to face it then. I knew it as a problem, but Dr. Scott Eiler's analysis I think may be useful when I decide to buckle down on that one.

@cathlaurs9754

6 ай бұрын

Me too.

@mark-xx1lt

6 ай бұрын

Same here.@@bethb.6813

@bizzarroworld1518

6 ай бұрын

I can honestly relate...

Having ADHD with emotional dysregulation, I can relate to all of this. And your number 6 isn't weird at all. I don't watch TV or play videogames as much either, especially episodic TV. I don't like to be emotionally invested in fictional characters long term. I like movies. And I was telling myself this week that I need to use things that I can achieve as a dopamine booster rather than resorting to youtube and the like. Thank you for sharing. I truly appreciate it.

Good to hear advice from someone who feels like I do--not just "feeling depressed", but living with depression.

Thanks for these videos. You are one of the only KZread doctors I can relate with and have good videos that get the point through.

You are the only person that describes what I have been going through my whole life. Thank you so much for sharing. Like you, when I’m depressed I have to do something productive. I have stopped social media or kept it to a minimum. I looked at other people’s lives then I felt so defeated. I’m in the process of making my own family by choosing who I let into my life. It’s an ongoing process!

@timweberHB

6 ай бұрын

Don’t compare your insides to others outside. It’s a loss every time. We am do it. That’s who I am commenting

It’s early in the morning and I found your channel late last night. Thank you!! I can see some things I did not realize I was doing and going through. Working on changing to a positive one day at a time. Now I’m a new subbie and look forward to viewing your videos and taking action to get better

Thank you so much for sharing, and sharing so clearly and in a totally relatable way! Possibly the best thoughts on managing depression I’ve ever heard!

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@Jennifer-bw7ku

5 ай бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@elizabethwilliams6651

5 ай бұрын

Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@steceymorgan814

5 ай бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@Jennifer-bw7ku

5 ай бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@elizabethwilliams6651

5 ай бұрын

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

I`ve been battling depression & anxiety for about 15 years and had some really dark episodes where I thought there was no reason to live anymore (last one 2 years ago) but lately, I`ve been working intensely on my mental health. I`ve changed my lifestyle quite a bit and things that have been most beneficial to me are: - having a healthy environment (living close to nature and spending as much time as possible outside) - having healthy habits: meditation, joga, mindfulness, journaling, reading, rest,... - living authentically to my dreams and desires - following my values and interests - ending toxic relationships (that triggered my depression) - learning about psychology, mental health & mentality - healing unhealthy patterns, traumas, triggers hope this is helpful for anyone, sending you much love!

@hoasen7994

5 ай бұрын

Thanks. I am in the similar situation for 2, 3 years now. I think being in a toxic relationship started to cause my situation

@jamesmcgarry7310

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your great advice ! It helped me ! Also, most importantly, keeping God and Jesus the priority in our lives, trusting in Jesus & God's plan for us. Be kind to yourself... you DESERVE it ! God's Blessings ALWAYS. 🙏🙏🙏 💚💚💚 ✌️✌️✌️

@behappy7544

5 ай бұрын

Thank you for that. There are some really great ideas there. I will definitely try. ❤

@timberrr1126

4 ай бұрын

Take 4,000 units of Vitamin D3 daily with Vitamin K2 M7. Also, Magnesium Malate. It erases depression.

@grounded9623

4 ай бұрын

I totally agree with your list. I thought it was interesting that you identified Toxic Relationships as the trigger. I'm in the same place. Unfortunately, its my new boss that's the issue and I'm too close to retirement to quit and too old to be hired by someone else - feels like being a trapped animal. No way out.

I am crying with tears of gratitude. Everything you shared has helped me to clean my introspective lens and to forgive myself and significant dear loved ones.

@DrScottEilers

5 ай бұрын

I really appreciate you sharing this ❤️

Thank you so much for your suggestions. They have helped me tremendously and I refer back to it when I'm slipping into another depressive episode.

I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression disorders. I tried Everything!! The thing that has helped me the most is learning how to sit with it. Then encouraging myself to do things. I seriously had to learn to sit with myself first. I didn’t die.😊

@tamcon72

6 ай бұрын

This is similar to a method in self-help: Accept and redirect. You acknowledge that you have a feeling/experience of something you don't like and accept it in a neutral position. Then, as the feeling/experience fades, you direct your focus to something desirable and productive.

@CMoore8539

6 ай бұрын

@@tamcon72 Exactly Right. Most people have trouble with acceptance. It’s never easy.

@datroof2262

20 күн бұрын

You didn't try everything, now, did you? Did you try methamphetamine? Works for me! The quicker-picker-upper...it ain't Bounty paper towels, if ya catch my drift and I think you do!

@akv1735

15 күн бұрын

Trust me, you don't have depression, you have defeated depression

Thank you for helping me make sense of my very broken world. I am 50. I've been fighting depression since I was 19. Lost my husband of 20 years in May of 2021. About 90% of my time is in a swirling black hole of suck. 9% is flatlined but I get 1% of daily laughter in there and I'm working on raising it to 2%. Thank you for making enough sense that I listen to your whole video. Whichever one I may stumble across. Please keep at it and thank you.

@dngrwllrbnsn_

6 ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss. Such "departures" are really really bad for us depressed people. Yuck! My fiancee in China was in a serious car accident a month ago and I have not heard ANYTHING from her since. In a very unusual way I learned of the accident and I did get a photo of her in the destroyed car being extricated by a rescue worker,. So I know the accident is real and she was alive at least immediately afterwards. This has totally stopped me in my tracks! I've dealt with lost friends and relatives. But a missing fiancee? Yeah, I like what you said, "...swirling black hole of suck."

@kimgordon3695

6 ай бұрын

🙏🙏🙏 there is a wonderful future Paradise, when your husband will be resurrected & you will find Joy. (Revelation 21 : 3 - 6) 🌴

@Kristen-ek9rz

6 ай бұрын

I'm 52 and in the same situation.....the fear can overwhelm me. I wish you peace and wellness.@@unsocialbutterfly5760

@Kristen-ek9rz

6 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish you peace and well-being.

@JC-du6sn

5 ай бұрын

Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

I love the description of being a high maintenance, complicated person at the end of this. Beautiful!

Thank you. You really put things in perspective for me, im 51 and have struggled with anxiety and depression for most of my life. This is the first time I can relate.

After I considered suicide for the first time while in the forth grade, I've been in and out of counseling for a good chunk of my life, (I'm now 47) with no real solutions or help given that was effective. Your videos have made more sense and have been more effective than anything that I've ever heard any therapist, psychiatrist or psychologist say to date. Words don't exist to express how thankful I am for your willingness to get this information out. God bless.

@ruth_southernstar

6 ай бұрын

I feel exactly the same way x

@dngrwllrbnsn_

6 ай бұрын

I've never benefited from "talk therapy" and think most of the practitioners are frauds. It is refreshing to run into "the real deal" like this doc. Perhaps the "product" of schools of psychology are ineffectual. But docs like this one who depart from the academic thought are spot on.

@mel3256

6 ай бұрын

Try looking up Micheal yapko, video how to recover from depression. It addresses exactly what you are talking about

@danab172

6 ай бұрын

Something had to have happened to you that you didn't deserve to want to die at age 9, yes or no? I can relate, I was considering suicide at age 11.

@dngrwllrbnsn_

6 ай бұрын

@@danab172 I'm glad you are still with us!

Talking about your past struggles is a major goal for continuous self care. Thank you for sharing your story.

Thank you Dr. Scott for all the valuable content you put out there. While I have lived with the same basic problems as you and have made some reasonable strides to improve my mental health I need to hear a reassuring voice from time to time. To me that is U Tubers such as yourself. What you do is important. Thanks!

I identify with so much of what you said here. Thank you so much for sharing. Best of wishes to you as you continue forward with your self-learned self-care practices and dropped habits, and to all of us on similar journeys.

OMG. I completely understand #6. Either 3 or 4 years ago, I broke down crying in my therapist office because of having to accept that magic is not real. Not that I actually believed it was, more the acceptance of the world I live in, which will never be like the worlds I read about. I’m a 46-year-old woman. Kinda ridiculous. So yes, I understand #6.

@sagek7949

5 ай бұрын

The exaggerated response to small triggers is a part of it. I remember being depressed because my favorite politician died or when my favorite sportsman retired or when my favorite actor divorced his wife.

@24tommyst

5 ай бұрын

Most people believe in magic. They just call it prayer, miracles, blah blah blah. Don't beat yourself down.

@JC-du6sn

5 ай бұрын

Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

Wow, thank you Scott for summing this up. I am a 58 yo male and suffered almost all of my life under depression until some 10 years ago when i also did a few adjustments and with time and age i realized how one can literally grow & "wise out" of that condition. Alot of what you said i have also resonated with.... I might however have taken it to different levels such as detoxing my environment in dumping things like toxic people and social media - Not watching any "fear porn" news on TV (or dumping TV in general). Getting very physical is an elementary part of improving - I hit the weights 3-4 x a week, go to self defense courses. I gave up smoking & alcohol such as any other drugs i loved to use such as Marijuana .. I started to paint in my idle times at home in the cold season, gave up processed foods and cook everything from scratch... Meditate almost every morning..There`s a lot one can do and i want to encourage anyone out there and say, your fate is not sealed with this situation as long as you find the point to finally lift your ass out of it and do things step by step. Love & good luck to all!!!

@tishamonroe7418

6 ай бұрын

Go Scott!! I am WFPB and cook everything too. But I need to stop listening to the horrible violence and depressing reports. living in Chicago doesnt help, it is a nightmare now. I do boot camp 5 days a week at 5:30AM

@JC-du6sn

5 ай бұрын

Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

@schmingusss

5 ай бұрын

@@JC-du6sn stop peddling here.

Dr. Scott, I found your channel by chance and the algorithm got me to you. My son who is 30 has chronic anxiety and bouts of seasonal depression. Unfortunately alcohol and some substance abuse.Just like you said you had.I hope that he is willing to listen to this video.Also because you are successful ,even though you have struggled just like my son is struggling with this chronic anxiety and lack of interest etc.. Thank you for what you do.

THANKS SO MUCH for your honesty and openness in discussing such a vulnerable subject.

I'm not into video games but I noticed reality TV shows puts me in a spiral of depression so yep had to cut that out completely! Thanks so much for all your amazing videos!! Me and my 13 yo daughter watch them and we've learned so much in dealing with our own mental health issues ❤

All of the above, I can understand. I'm in a severe episode of my MDD and anxiety disorder. I recognized the "fantasy" world you talk about in 2011. I was binge watching Gray's Anatomy and it made me spiral down. That was the first time I realized that I was effected by said "fantasy world." I do have to be mindful of books I choose also. TFS

@carlosidelone8064

6 ай бұрын

May God reward your efforts to work on your mental health.

@CMoore8539

6 ай бұрын

I just finished All of the episodes. Now I can’t find anything else worth watching.😊 Any ideas?

@secretsquirrelaimee7721

6 ай бұрын

@CMoore8539 no, sorry. I don't watch it anymore

@Kristel280

6 ай бұрын

​@@CMoore8539 binge watching anything makes you sick.

@Kristel280

6 ай бұрын

Greys was one of my big favorites but I can see now how it made my brain used to drama. It's overly emotional and unrealistic. If Alex Karev makes his way into your dreams at night, you have gone overboard with it.

This was an excellent video. I love that you say that you're not an "easy going person" and you're realistic and honest about who you are and what does and doesn't come easily to you. I can totally relate to that and it is refreshing to hear someone else say it! It helps me to see that it is OK to be that way because, well, it's reality! It is really such a key thing too because it is a way of managing your expectations for yourself, and for emotionally vulnerable folks like us this is important. Many times I have felt bitter that things that are easy for others are not easy for me, so I feel encouraged by hearing that someone else has accepted their own innate challenges - you are showing me how to do it for myself.

Really appreciate your take on lifting the mood and the reality of the situation. I found listening to you really helpful today. I'm feeling very low worrying about my mum dying and how I will cope when she does. Hearing you speak about your experience, knowing that you've also suffered many years with depression validate your ❤❤️ advice

Today, my therapist has told me there is no point in going on with the therapy because there's not much more he can do for me, and I need another type of help. Actually, he's right. Many of the things you're describing are not exactly the triggers for my depression. They are my coping mechanisms. They get help me to get through the day. But they definitely are equally anchoring me right where I've been stuck till now. I've been struggling with this for three years only, after a loss, I am unable to overcome. And I have already run out on my mental or physical energy. So I can't even imagine now hard it must be bearing something like that for your whole life.

@kenjones7719

6 ай бұрын

Been there. What worked? Emotional Freedom Technique. But here's the thing: my therapist came to the conclusion that depression is a spiritual problem and he arrived at that after 40 years of practice. I concur. Keep in mind that you are not your depression or anything to do with it, including lying thoughts. You are so much more.

@thefuzzfactor2989

6 ай бұрын

​@@kenjones7719Problem: finding a therapist that sees this too. God bless u on your journey.

@annastone5624

6 ай бұрын

@unbreakable_jules Have you looked beyond the loss to childhood trauma? Sometimes something that can’t be resolved overlays a deeper core issue.. wishing you lots of luck and kindness on the path

@kenjones7719

6 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, there are very few. Once I uncovered childhood traumas with EFT, I simply returned to my spiritual practice which I had neglected for many years. That changed my values and I found peace. @@thefuzzfactor2989

@margaretjohnson6924

6 ай бұрын

Sad when a therapist gives up. I only found a few good therapists who did not give up on me. But, I believe the medical community needs much more research into mental health and true causes of and remedies for depression in a holistic way.

It's great to hear that you have recovered and can use that information to help others ! I used to volunteer on a help line and used to hear callers saying "I wish my psychiatrist understood me !"

Thank you for opening up and sharing your experience, in turn making many people feel less alone, including me.

I can’t thank you enough Scott. Your work, approach, tone, empathy, it all means so much. So honest and effective. A true lifesaver. Thank you 🙏🏼

I suffered depression anxiety and mental disorder for over 24 years. It's just amazing how psilocybin mushrooms treatment actually saved my life. 6 years clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

@JaimeGlaze

5 ай бұрын

Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

@FranciscaPargo

5 ай бұрын

I've been looking to try shrooms for depression, just very difficult to get a reliable source here in Switzerland. Really need!

@mattjeffery09

5 ай бұрын

Yes! very sure of Dr.alishroom

@SusanaGomez-mp8sk

5 ай бұрын

I hate that psilocybin gets grouped with drugs like cocaine and heroin. Mushrooms are a remedy, not a vice! I went on a microdose treatment for a couple of months and within the first week, every sight of a cigarette got me questioning why I was doing all that to myself. It really works.

@nicholda436

5 ай бұрын

How do i find him ? Is he on Instagram

Number six is interesting. I'm 47 and I've been depressed and melancholic my whole life. The thing is, I don't watch tv, I've never even seen an anime program, and I don't game or do the WoW thing. Ever. But I am a writer/illustrator of children's books, and that absolutely takes over my life. My wife is a school librarian, and my son is twelve...so I'm home all day by myself writing and/or drawing. Knowing you certainly can't diagnose someone over the Internet--could it at least be possible that my job is acting in the same capacity as you say fantasy worlds acted upon you? I would be disingenuous to deny that I often spend twelve or thirteen hours a day at the drawing board...and then go back to it when I can't sleep at night. I know that sounds horrible, but what the heck else can a fellow do when he can't sleep, can't eat, can't stand to watch movies, and has chronic pain from birth that keeps him inside? Oy. I probably just answered my own question. Consider me subscribed to this channel.

@armondlevinia9221

6 ай бұрын

I can totally relate. Try joining an artists or writers group for the external stimulation. Even twice a month could help.

@stephenrodgers9698

5 ай бұрын

I don't think so. I feel my absolute best when I'm in a creative flow state. I think there's a difference between consuming fantasy and creating it.

Thank you for sharing your story. I can relate. I just turned 77 two weeks ago and have suffered from depression for many of those years and have been in therapy for many of those years too. My childhood was traumatic due to being physically, sexually, verbally, and psychologically abused by a violent alcoholic father and neglected by a prescription-addicted mother. I have my good days and my bad days, medication helps me function on those really bad days. I appreciate your honesty, it is helpful and appreciated.

@amrasangaran6041

2 ай бұрын

Please hang in there. You've done extremely well. Looking at your age. You are truly blessed. Accept the fact that God is on your side whether you acknowledge that or not. Coming out of that kind of trauma and still standing, you are amazing. Keep on keeping on. God bless.

I found many of the things you said not to do on my own by trial, error and desperation . It is wonderful to hear a confirmation! You are a breath of fresh air!

You do an incredibly spot on description of the torture of chronic profound depression!

as a formerly depressed person (still have occasional bad days where I grapple with it), I relate so much to a lot of what you've described here. It took me a while to realize that certain aspects of my lifestyle when I was young, was not doing me any favours...

I dig your vibe and relate. I'm 40 and have also struggled much of my life with depression. I've been much overall for the last four years since i took up meditation and mindfulness practices and psilocybin mushroom therapy. But as of late, I'm no longer doing any of that and sinking back into a lonely darker place. Thanks for your hard work on making and sharing this content, ive subscribed and will try and find the light again

Your honesty about your own struggles is what will change people lives! I am SO grateful I have found your channel 😊

I have been struggling with depression for 20 years. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD. While ADHD medication has changed my life, I have adopted almost exactly the same principals that you mentioned. I didn’t drink much, but stopped almost all drinking, when I finally realized how detrimental it is for anyone with depression. I think you are spot on with that people with tendency towards depression need to take extra care of themselves. You can’t choose the cards you’re dealt. I would add one more topic: mindfulness. It has done wonders for me. Also cutting down on nearly all digital leisure content and social media. This frees up so much mental space and provides you with more time for true accomplishment.

@bennybongosbigolebonanza894

3 ай бұрын

Thanks for this comment, I’m the exact same.

@dragapro

2 ай бұрын

are you comfortable saying what meds?

@nokrome

2 ай бұрын

@@dragapro I started with Concerta and am now trying Vyvanse/Elvanse. Both meds have a tremendous assistance in me getting my life in order.

@datroof2262

20 күн бұрын

Similar. My ADHD medication has really helped. I use meth since I was diagnosed with ADHD...self diagnosed...but it's been truly amazing. I'm happier, more productive...and I kinda...well, I'm kinda into the psychosis, to be honest, so....win win.

Wow, Scott, the way you formulate that fantasy worlds trap is uncanny. I am somewhat prone to depression, and often have a hard time explaining to friends/family why I would not watch certain movies, shows etc. They trigger rumination at best, and major depressive episodes at worst. Just as surely as stimulants or alcohol or carbs-heavy/intermittent diet. Many decades ago, I have very painfully discovered these lessons about managing depression myself, by trial and error. It feels great to hear someone who has independently come to the same conclusions. Thank you for sharing your findings for the benefit of those who seem to be wired the same way!

So very helpful! Thank you so much for such great tips and for being so authentic and such a great, transparent presenter and dr.

Thank you for being candid enough to share the depression you endured - and particularly what you stopped doing to aid your healing. I am at the point in healing from CPTSD due to narcissistic abuse to know that there's things I need to stop doing to aid in my healing and "raise the baseline" as you said. Thank you! I greatly appreciate people like you who so willingly help others. Thank you! 😊

I appreciate your authenticity and message coming from personal, successful practices and introspection. I've heard these forms of advice over the years (I'm 75), but hearing them all in one place, from a different perspective, and so easy to digest, was extremely worthwhile. You've given me my homework. I'll start with developing healthy sleep habits, because that is what's negatively impacting me the most.

Your description of what it feels like living with chronic depression is so spot-on. It's therapeutic just listening to it has a therapeutic effect in itself.

Thank you for sharing this. I can’t express enough gratitude for the specifics about how you failed psychology because you had a panic attack. So brave and so helpful. I left a final in CS because my anxiety made it nearly impossible to focus. I later re-took the class with a much better professor and proudly completed the course. I also performed poorly in a psych class even though it was tied to my major. I found it shameful. But you make these failures relatable and show that they don’t define the rest of your life. 🙏

Thank you for posting - all of this makes sense, I'll be trying these and I feel like you could be my twin brother - it's incredible how fast I fall

Man Dr. Scott you are the TRUTH!! Everyone IMO should watch this video if they have struggled with depression... even just a little bit. About #6, sometimes I just need to go somewhere that's not here for a little while. To relieve stress or whatever. But I know its not real and I don't live there, I just need an escape. I'm sure you know what I mean. I have never heard a better talk on depression, maybe because I have experienced some of the same things you have. Thanks a lot for this!

It is so so refreshing to take in all of what you said. I am a 47yo male with a great career, amazing friends and family, an otherwise positive outlook on life yet that depression since I was born will still sometimes show up. I’ve learned to not be afraid of it, not judge it and I remember that it too will pass. It took a long time to get here, a very long time. But everything you said is so spot on. 👍🏼

@DrScottEilers

5 ай бұрын

Yep that’s pretty much my approach. “Oh, it’s you again. I’m glad you won’t be staying long this time.”

@andrewomar9887

5 ай бұрын

You're amazing!

@geraldinedonahue2249

4 ай бұрын

I feel the exact same

Thank you for being real and having shared some of your coping mechanisms and plans for wellness. I realize that I my mechanism earlier in my life was focusing on my work and achievement outside of raising my family to deal with the hollowness I felt inside. I just always added new challenges to satisfy my brain and avoid relationship disappointments. I have some work to do to overcome my depression.

Wow! THANK YOU ❤Your intelligence and compassion combined is a beautiful thing. Thank you for making the hard choice so you can be well, friend

It's definitely a daily fight. Thankyou, from the bottom of my dry grey heart, for helping us all. T.

I think this is the best video over depression I've ever watched. I totally recognize the difference between being totally sober and occasional drinking as well as the difference between long term success vs short term hedonism. When you achieve something it's still with you while hedonistic behavior is not with you anymore, as soon as the effect is gone.

Thanks for this. It's both moving and actionable. Hearing "I am high risk, high reward and that's just how I'm built" really unlocked something deep for me.

You've put into words everything I experience every day. Your list is all the things I've struggled with implementing, for decades. I have good psych support but live in an isolated, LONELY environment I did not choose. I struggle and try to do the best I can.

The 6th one is so powerful and relatable! I’ve struggled with it my entire life and can’t seem to describe why i feel good and bad at the same time trying to find an escapism in fantasy worlds, esp. in movies and kpop and idols. Thank you for your sincere sharing, Dr. Scott. What you’re doing now is exactly what I aspire to do - being the person I needed in the past for others. Hope that makes sense to you. Please keep making good content for us. Also, please keep taking excellent care of yourself too. Much love and respect.

Thank you Scott for this very personal and powerful video. I’m a therapist and will share this with several of my clients. Continued success.

I have got to say the biggest thank you ever!!!! I am one of those trying out the third option and continually crashing. I'm currently off work following an episode (one of many) and I'm sick to my stomachache of it)) You resonated entirely with me and I need to make that 100% decision to look after myself. I think 2024 will look quite different, well I hope so anyway. Wish me luck. Thank you thank you thank you, have the most wonderful Christmas my friend ❤

Appreciate your transparency. To differentiate between "patterns of abuse" and full-blown addiction is a paradigm shift for me.

The sounds of the countdown is so soothing and the scenery is beautiful!!! I appreciate for your videos that I’ve watched so far, and I turned on the post notifications since this channel is really relevant to me! 🎉❤ Although, there’s no such thing as failing unless you tried! It’s a fact that I learned this year :)

This helps me understand friends and people who suffer from depression a little better. It makes sense to try and get people who suffer from depression and even those who don't to go out and get some fresh air. It can brighten anyone's mood. It is just that some people need that extra invite.

Thank you for your honesty. I am already doing some of these, and this video helped me realize more that I can do and stuff to cut out. VERY helpful. ❤

This is one of the most interesting video that I ever watched! I’m going to watch it again . Thank you so much for sharing this with us!

Thank you for being so open with us! Over decades of depression, anxiety and insomnia, I have arrived at a very similar lifestyle.