5 Ways To Manipulate a Narcissist & Shut them Down
Master Co-parenting with a Narcissist":
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chapters
00:00 introduction
01:20 .1 Try to be 2 steps ahead of them, not just 1
04:33 2. Give them drip supply
07:14 3. Be very unpredictable
09:36 4. Set clear boundaries with yourself
11:03 Course Announcement
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@dianahill5116
23 күн бұрын
Religion is a derivative of narcissism.
narcissists actually expect you to tolerate behavior they would never accept. they are insecure bullies that turn into petulant cowards when the tables get flipped on them. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
@lolabear6788
25 күн бұрын
Well said
@carparthero
25 күн бұрын
@lolabear6788 thanks for your kind words. all the best. -cheers, steven
@tzipporah7635
25 күн бұрын
Truth. If I had a dime for every time my ex would freak out about my reaction to his behaviour that he would deem abhorrent, I'd be rich😂 I can guarantee you, they would NEVER tolerate the way the treat others🙄 Your neighbour in Kingston, Ontario✌️
@MikinessAnalog
25 күн бұрын
"Narcissists actually expect you to tolerate behavior they would never accept" im stealing that lol
@user-df3eo9qx9p
25 күн бұрын
So true. I've seen the bully side and the coward side. I saw through him quite early and didn't tolerate his nonsense and abuse tactics. I don't think he was expecting that. Whenever he sees me now, he scurries away. What I've learned about narcissists they overlook is that their good arm keeps jerking hard and fast upwards straight for their nose. Former neighbor from Waterloo, Ontario
Yep if you pay attention long enough the patterns and cycles will become very evident.
@audrablue515
25 күн бұрын
Yes. Once you know what they are, their behaviour is glaringly obvious and you wonder why you didn't see it before. You also wonder why nobody around them can see it. I think it's mainly because they are one of the worst types of people and the Average Joe doesn't want to believe that anyone can be that awful. Normal people can't conceive of how they behave and their belief system. It doesn't really make sense when you think in terms of the human race growing and evolving and surviving.
@raymondclapsadle9310
25 күн бұрын
It’s like those Magic-Eye pictures; once you see it, you can’t unsee it. At that point, their attempts at manipulation become almost laughable.
@Empress.420
22 күн бұрын
It's all the same no matter what pod they are in. 💯
I defeated the freaking narcissist. He thinks he's too smart, but I think he miscalculated me. He didn't expect I could outsmart him. Actually, they are not that smart. He thinks by yelling so loud, he can overpower me. He doesn't know I will open the door and windows for the neighbors to hear the nasty narcissist. The neighbors are the witnesses. I embarrassed him left and right. One of the neighbors asked, "Are you ok? I replied, "No, you should see the narcissist went hiding for months from our neighborhood. Thank God the coward is gone.
@incognito595
24 күн бұрын
You Did An Excellent Job! Bravo! Cowards Fear Exposure!
@damien30283
24 күн бұрын
👏👏👏
@mimimckenna7286
10 сағат бұрын
And they ARE cowards.. really doesn't take much to scare the crap out of them.. I found that recording everything they said or did was my best ally.. it wasn't illegal where I lived but even if it was I would still do it over again..a fine is easier to pay then the price you have to pay from a narc in your life
"Think the worst and you'll be certain" always works with a narcissist.
@darkwebgirl
18 күн бұрын
This is beyond true.
They always try to start an arguement. Never bite. Always act like you didn't notice and keep talking normally.
I sometimes just smile and pretend to agree. They do NOT expect that. I dont consider it defeat to even play to their vanity. It IS reverse nanipulation, in a way, because I can get what I want. It might not be ideal, and it doesnt always work, but in my case, i kind of enjoy seeing how confused he gets.
Exactly! There are times where it's necessary to play the narcs game strategically to counteract their ill moves. "Say hello to my little friend" 😅
The only good thing about narcissists is they are very predictable. Once you learn this stuff you might be amazed at how easy it is to stay a play or two ahead.
I am from Greece and try to heel from a narcissist who destroyed my feelings, my self esteem and my personality… thanks for making clear for me, all these things that I could not understand before…
I’ve noticed something about the narcissist, they are scared to be alone , I know a gurl who kept using people for money and rides but would dispose of them and not pay back the money , when she ran out of people to use she would go down the line apologizing and hitting back up the people who she did wrong , even in real life I noticed how she’d always need someone new to talk gossip with when she wasn’t getting the praise she needed from the previous friend , narcissists are infact cowards .
@stephaniepiazzese2602
17 күн бұрын
I’ve had this happen just recently. I’ve blocked her, exposed her, and gone no contact. She used me for about a year,,, being like a sweet sister to me in my loneliness and aging times. It happened so subtly. But praise God,,,, i had begun watching these teachings and the lightbulb went on. ❤
I clicked so I can leave this comment: I am not interested in manipulating a narcissist. I do not need to clap back on a narcissist. They will be their own downfall, and my help is not required.
@naji465
25 күн бұрын
Well said
@lindaj71
25 күн бұрын
Not necessarily. They can live very long and never change. It’s different if you can leave…if there aren’t children involved.
@Wytch_Hunter
24 күн бұрын
This video is about how to handle a narc in the court system when you have no option for the sake of your children.
@belaro8821
23 күн бұрын
In one way i do agree, In my private life I just would close the door to them. But if you must have a relation to a narcissist due to your job/profession, you can't just walk away and need to know how to handle them.
@hochminus-iy7ro
8 күн бұрын
True and if you plan to manipulate a narcissist for revenge, I would argue that is not the right way to heal and can backfire in multiple ways, even if you succeed. But there are situations where you can't get away or where other people are involved (like children), so that you need to be able to manipulate them to some extend to prevent further damage.
I wish I had known this divorcing in 2015. It was so shocking that a person I had spent half my life with and still loved and needed to leave, acted in ways so known to me only now. The vengeance of a seemingly disinterested partner I chose to divorce was stunning.
@anneofgreengables1619
24 күн бұрын
Same here, divorced in 2005. Absolute hell.
@MargaloBird
18 күн бұрын
Yep. My 1st was very verbally abusive. The 2nd was the covert narcissist...spent 9yrs with him and had a kid..to find out that he had been molesting my girls the whole time😡😡😡🤬🤬🤬🤬
The only way to easily manipulate a narc is to not tell them anything about your life. It drives them crazy when they ask you questions and you just say, "I don't have anything to say about that." Also, not reacting to their crap, no matter how they behave is also their kryptonite. I have to occasionally see my narc and as he doesn't want to look bad in public, I only meet him in public, so I'm almost guaranteed he will behave. When I don't give him what he wants, he starts to wind up the victimhood and the complaining and then comes the insults and bad language. Of course, this is all done in a manner that doesn't raise red flags with any strangers that may be around him at the time. Once he starts with that behaviour, I say, "I'm bored with your nonsense. You're boring. I'm leaving." And then I walk away. My phone number is blocked from him as well as my email address and I'm not on social media so he can't slag me off that way. So I'm pretty much bullet proof these days. When I have to see him again, he acts like nothing happened at the last visit. What a walking cliche he is. I enjoy saying those dismissive phrases to him because he has no comeback and as I'm walking away, he doesn't chase after me. Saying that doesn't change his behaviour as he's always trying to find the chinks in my armour (there aren't any). But it doesn't stop him from trying. My secret is that I know he won't succeed but he doesn't know that because his narcissism won't allow him to change tack and try something new. Must be tough being a moron.
@incognito595
24 күн бұрын
Good Job! Bravo!
@damien30283
24 күн бұрын
👏👏👏
@francalatona591
14 күн бұрын
Love the part you say, "I'm bored with your nonsense. You're boring. I'm leaving.".....leaving them there in the dust.😉
We need to keep our individuality and no need to compromise it for anything.
Exactly Danish! You're on point, totally. Decietful, that's who they are. Resist them and they will flee from u.
Its helpful to know tactics of war for example acting weak when you are strong, demanding the opposite of what you really want, acting friendly when planning an attack, denying even when there is evidence and so on because it is actually a war you are in. Ty Danish for your education, very appreciated.
I think manipulating them doesn't make you to be like them but but help you to get what you want in a case where there's children involved, where is impossible to go no contact.
@i.l.9546
24 күн бұрын
Exactly ❤
Yeah, no thank you! I prefer just to keep them out of my life permanently. because truth be said I don’t have any feelings for them anyway. My life is calmer and happier.
You're so well educated on these people. Thanks for sharing all the great info, Danish! 😊❤
So grateful I am able to move on differently now. I kept my integrity yet my heart broke for what I didn’t understand. I’m glad you got free from that chaos too.
There it is.... the starting point of breaking the psychology in a manner it may be rebuilt.... If they can they will. ....corner this. Guide it home to a natural state. ✨️
When I went through divorce with my narc husband I didn't even know the term narcissism. During marriage I felt he doesnt love me, well, nobody can to be forced to love so I decided to divorce. What followed was such a cruel behaviour even against our children that lead me instinctivley to the conclusion that I will have to fight him with his own weapons otherwise I would have lost everything and everyone that matters to me. So I lied and conned by purpose to protect my children and me. He of course didn't expect me to be like that and went into victim but I knew he wasnt the victim but my children would be if I didn't fight. It was a very satisfacting experience because it worked. I was able to save the home for us and to get custody for the children. Afterwards I learned about narcissm and when I met the next man whom I regarded as possibly narcisstic I was armed and could finally get away without being in danger using the 'it is not about you it is about me' tactic. HG Tudor and Sam Vaknin say that every empath has narcistic traits within them but never uses them to harm someone. But when you know you are dealing with a narcissist its good to have those traits bc they can save your life.
I am so sorry. And our recovery breaks the chain of this pattern. Being present and seeing our children from the inside out in truth is the gift I move towards daily. Accepting my beautiful self first sounds easy and is so dang challenging after narcissistic abuse. It is possible and I’m choosing it. Thank you for sharing and your journey.
Thank you Danish From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
5:58 🤭... 👏👏👏 // 10:05 Leave the room, if they physically allow you to, and take a break in a place they can't get in. Buy coats with many pockets so you can squirrel emergency stuff in them. Too hot for a coat? Having a small, secretly stored 'jet bag' ready is not a bad idea either, for those Really Bad Summer nights. // Everything you said felt accurate IMO, Danish. TY for what u do 😊
This is the only way we need to be wise and defeat their moves of lies to start normal and healthy life
Thanks, Danesh. I found you in the nick of time. I left the abusive narc with my daughter 10 months ago. He has lost control and is trying to regain it with legal action. I am 100% invested with all you have to say.
Am trying to come out of this abuse but is not easy..... I lost everything
Whenever narcissist shout or get anger in my heart I feel like scared, fear, crying, I can't explain properly. Sorry!! But feel like sudden change in my mood I can't concentrate on things or my kids
@shubnamshaikh3742
25 күн бұрын
Same with me
@paulettelamontagne6992
25 күн бұрын
LEAVE
@fatimaahmed445
25 күн бұрын
Can't i don't have any financial halp from my family and i don't want to leave my kids and i know narcissist have a win win situation nar... is already divorced narcissist have a experience about that and also rich narcissist have a connections with peaple i don't have any knowledge my education is incomplete my parents sead after marriage i can complete my education but never happened and narcissist watch me 24 hours of the day narcissist work from home and knows every coin where i am using. After 9 years of marriage i get to know try to understand the situation i get know i am leaving with narcissist and there is no treatment first i am in denial now I accepted i am leaving with nar . Allahs tests very difficult @paulettelamontagne6992
@fatimaahmed445
25 күн бұрын
@@paulettelamontagne6992Can't i don't have any financial halp from my family and i don't want to leave my kids and i know narcissist have a win win situation nar... is already divorced narcissist have a experience about that and also rich narcissist have a connections with people.h@paulettelamontagne6
@redefinedliving5974
8 күн бұрын
Had the same feeling. It's self-rejection. Your body is used to betraying itself but your body also knows something's wrong. You cannot concentrate because you are unconsciously torn between the two.
The narc, I believe, has a very long life. I’ve observed this both as a private caregiver, and as a person who was in a romantic relationship with one long term. They are so STRONG WILLED,,,, it’s as though they refuse to die, even when their body is shutting down. They have to have the last word, the last grab, the last atttack on your dignity, even while they’ve lost all dignity. It is that strong will,,, that preserves them. The last narc in my life was a family friend, who had dementia, and stayed in my home till his passing. He’d made everyone’s life miserable HIS WHOLE LIFE,,,, the Hospice health care professional was so helpful, as she told me this : WHATEVER A PERSON HAS DONE THEIR WHOLE Life, THEY WILL DO IN THE END OF LIFE, ONLY WORSE. “ so,,, just saying. I’ve found this to be very true. It has helped me to know this, and I hope this helps someone. 😢
Pehle pata hota to mujhe bahat help milta .kisiko bol nehi paye 24yrs .🙏🙏🙏❤️
When I had to deal with a couple narc's and when it got really bad, i found that recording everything they said or did was my best ally..you got a camera phone.. use it.. they're terrified of the world knowing what they usually do in the shadows
Perfect timing! God bless you!!
Thank u Danish! I watch all ur videos, i have learned a lot, these are so informative and my healing process has increased day by day, i hope ur mission against narcissists will be succeed one day, Insha’Allah! ❤
Narcissists are everywhere, having to listen to them is
I find your videos helpful and thank you for sharing some of your knowledge. I have subscribed to your channel and I get all the notifications. I currently trying to heal. I am going through the separation and soon to be divorce of a narcissist who has abused and neglected me for 30 years. I don’t think I will ever heal. He has left me a shell of a person. There is nothing left.
Thank you very much. That was great lessons
Yes, I know what he will do every step..think the worst and youre never caught off guard
Thank you for brilliant advice Danish.
Thank you for sharing these valuable information
This has been so helpful since I am going through a difficult divorce with a narcissist right now. Thank you for the education!!
I had to stay 2 steps ahead of husbands ex-wife for many, many years. We had the 4 kids living with us. I didn’t understand the depth of narcissism at the time, but I knew she was ALWAYS ABOUT HERSELF. It was exhausting for sure.
Thank you. Great advice 😊
Thank you so much, Danish. I started watching and studying your videos about 6 months ago. At the beginning your explanations helped me to understand, that I in fact was in a relationship with a narcissist. By hazard we got separated. This lucky chance literally shooke me up. I still am a sort of spot of attraction to narcissists, but I am working hard on myself. However, I am very grateful to have learned that it is not me getting crazy but it is a demonic game with special strategies... Thank you for your positive contribution! Wishing loads of hope and energy to all those who have gone through such a bad time with a narcissist. Namasté.
Sometimes it is a good idea to manipulate a narc if someone canot leave the relationship,but the best idea is to leave them go no contact and live your life
❤ I always enjoy your show you change the way you look a lot today on this video video. Your hair was lined really nice and straight lying on your beard. You have you have great hair and a great program.
Amazing absolutely amazing thank you brother for your content because the advice aspecialy I'm some spiritual circles is the exact opposite and it does not work. I really am grateful for you brother 💜
You can get a 50/50 chance to "win" against a NPD in a argument unprepared in one way. Sink to their level and act like an NPD all the way. NPD traits are adoptable and everyone has a bit of narcism in them, so tap into that and use it.
BH wants everyone to think of it as a Knight in Shinning armor. They play hero or tank in their own little sick house 🏠 game. *On point! Thank you again.
I am abused by my own mother like first she was an angel for me but then suddenly i realized that she has a probelm taking all i have punish me for i didn't do telling people that i didn't even think to do that thing still now she neglect me from my own sister by telling her that i neglect the family like i am the bad person cus my sis isn't here shes outside the country she neglect me from my aunt's family members and isolate me from nebourhood so many things she humiliate me every chance she had and then she pretend that she didn't know or she didn't do on purposely so many things i am trying my best to get out of home but everybody knows her like she is a good mother no one knows that am abused by her ... God will help me mercy on me i always feel like am the wrong person alwys feel like i do wrong things
@andyserkiz3384
24 күн бұрын
I was in a similar situation. I've left the family and I'm not in contact with anyone. A narcissistic family is like one unit. They use shaming as one of the main tactics. Your only way out is to individuate and live according your own rules. You don't even know what these are. You need to find out. Daily journaling for several years helped me a lot. Ultimately, it's about knowing who you are.
You are the god in this field🤩💫🙏👏👏👏
Thank you 🙏
Thank you
U must be strategic in dealing with narcs truly. Never be predictive like them.
Their coward they can't fight a good fight. They actually already a loser. I cannot go down on their level cuz I'm nothing like them. I'll go give my love, attention, energy to someone who needs it and enjoy life .. God will punish them so the abused can relaxxx🙏🤍🌟🙌God will be our defense Life is short to battle with petty demons hahaha
Proverbs 19:8 8 The one who gets wisdom loves life; the one who cherishes understanding will soon prosper
He didn’t love my boys he used them to torture me haven’t seen them since 2018 I did everything for him 😢
A.a .person in our life who praised by others is readily to do any thing for them . Wheather it costs to go against to their own people.or to disgrace to their own ppl.can it be a sign of narcissist.we all siblings are ill and on medication.
What's the 5th method?
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Make a video on how to live with narcissistic husband and mother in law if you have kids from narcissist husband and can't leave them.
My son narc likes to thieve me of my personal by belongings, he hides things he has stolen, and when I go looking for them and accusing him of the theft, he replies at me saying I don't what I'm talking ablout [
😢 narcissist manipulates you years after years you can't do anything..
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Hey,I am dealing with narcissistic in laws and they are not letting my husband talk to me. It's been 9 months now. I am a mother of 6 month old. I want to have a 1:1 session with you to know how to deal with my in laws but the cost is too high. Can you please respond to me??
@baishalideb5565
24 күн бұрын
letting your husband ???? your husband isn't a child ...he will talk to you if he wants ...point being he doesn't want to ...or he is spineless....either case leave him ...your husband is the problem...not your inlaws!!
@NeekATL
6 күн бұрын
It could be that he told his parents you were the narcissist... It’s a common tactic. Just got out of a relationship with a narcissistic girl , I saw all of the signs, but ignored my intuition at first. trauma bonding is a very real and scary thing, but we must humble ourselves to get through it. Otherwise, we just repeat the cycle.
Actually I deleted all my social media platforms he's getting me nowhere
Its just getting worse...last night God was with us, to save me punch from narcisstic crazy and demonic person
By the way, could anybody pls define the term "drip supply"? English is not my mother tongue and I have difficulties to find this term. Thank you!
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Add some substance abuse and omg...its sheer insanity..God Bless...yeah the yelling, screaming swearing..
They are all ego, if you want to play or use a narc just use their ego. Its easy, just play to their ego. Look at their friends and sicophants, they all play to the false ego.
And rhe 5th way is?,????....😉👍❤️
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Hi Danish, my name is Dean. I have 4 children with my narcissist wife. Can you please help me getting full custody of my children. Can you help me find out narc specially divorce attorney in Detroit area?
I’m dealing with my husband 😢
The one I knew is off to abuse others
Not playing the game
A lot of work with no reward 😕
You have a great vocabulary, but you talk so fast That I have to turn or go into my settings and slow you down to 75. I’m not as smart as you use these words and you roll your eyes so cute when you do it I think with your hair if you if you did a line it would look really great all the way around your beard and then a real sharp line on your forehead.