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@leadingwithlovematriarch

24 күн бұрын

They are now using religion to deny someone sex! When they attend no church nor do they honor a God very unhonorable just new narc tactics!!!

@charlie-girl72

24 күн бұрын

You can feel by the kind of energy though. They are a narc. Scary

@user-rc4lh3jf2o

21 күн бұрын

Thank you for your video

@Me-mn4nw

21 күн бұрын

I had just given premature birth two days before and spent the previous night in the hospital because our newborn amost died from SIDs. I was awaken to my now Ex stark naked on my side of the bed, grabbing my head, trying to force me to give him oral which Id never done before. He had waited a whole two months after raping me and putting me in the hospital causing me to be bedidden, extremely high risk, and giving birth prematurely. May He rot in HELL!

@umesultan7148

17 күн бұрын

Can someone be a cerebral and somatic narcissist at the same time?

In the beginning of your relationship, everything feels so grand like your floating on cloud nine. The phone calls are frequent and consistent. The affection and passion is there. The warmth is there to the point you start to fill comfortable, vulnerable and transparent. Then in a blink of an eye your partner switches up on you and starts neglecting you of the basics things you need in a relationship. Your partner starts to do the opposite of what you saw and felt in the beginning. Everything starts to dimish on your partner's end....Affection, Conversation and Intimacy is withheld from you. Then your partner lashes out on you for bringing up your concerns in your relationship, and says you're the one with the problem. Then later on in the relationship you find out that your partner is entertaining other people while the whole time your self esteem becomes affected and you end up developing anxiety because you don't want to cause narcissistic injury. Protect your mind, body and soul. Love yourself❤

@texasgma3578

23 күн бұрын

Yes to all you said. I once went two weeks without him speaking to me at all. I guess it was beneath him. 🙄 Always punishing me for some perceived slight. Gave me an ok birthday present (household item) but says “last year I didn’t think you deserved anything.” I couldn’t remember what I could have possibly done a whole year ago.

@user-qy4um6zi1s

23 күн бұрын

100%

@chanel82593

23 күн бұрын

That’s it… all that.

@ravanjanae

23 күн бұрын

@@texasgma3578my ex did this as well him ghosting me for a week was my punishment until he did it a second time and I never reply or give him a reaction

@marlabrown8022

23 күн бұрын

All of that and they have the balls to say “you’ve changed”.

After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

@erni192

11 күн бұрын

I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??

@Brenda_Jones56

11 күн бұрын

She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸

@Brenda_Jones56

11 күн бұрын

After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.

@Mary-L.Reyes23

11 күн бұрын

God is more than enough for us, and his mercy is new every morning

@Brenda_Jones56

11 күн бұрын

It's always sex with a narc, it's never making love..

@gwenbiedler8181

23 күн бұрын

Exactly!

@vanessalewis758

21 күн бұрын

I craved love from my ex 😢 17 years with demands

@terri7707

21 күн бұрын

God does this hurt

@Slim1423

20 күн бұрын

Sex is irrelevant with the Narc, it is nothing more than a reward for your compliance or a way to bring you closer to them. Sex serves no reward to the Narc because it represents love or affection, which the Narc hates and doesn't want to give to you. What is the point of being with a Narcissist, other than wanting to be miserable for the rest of your life? The Narcissist is just following a script or a movie role like a actor, in everything that they say or do with anyone they are involved with....

@Slim1423

20 күн бұрын

@vanessalewis758 i really hoped you moved on to someone better, that can truly love you.....

Absolutely no emotion. Robotic sex. The lights are on but no one is at home.

@miraclehands9040

24 күн бұрын

Wow what you said- no one is at home. it’s so shocking.

@Sweet-fn6po

24 күн бұрын

@@miraclehands9040 I believe that. It’s like they are doing a menial task and daydreaming about being some where else.

@Slim1423

21 күн бұрын

They are just following a script, playing out an acting role in sex.

@miraclehands9040

21 күн бұрын

It’s all purely carnal.

@kathibeatty7948

20 күн бұрын

And the lights were on, as was the TV he watched while doing so. Me and the History channel. Then when done, he would thank me as if I was a service.

Sex with a narcissist is soulless ….😔

@irenehamilton2981

24 күн бұрын

They barely even look at you

@jamesmill325

24 күн бұрын

You do not understand yourself and your own emotions.

@lynfawcett221

24 күн бұрын

Wham bamb, thank you ma'am. He was fulfilled, I never was. I faked it and he never realised.

@hettykoster9447

24 күн бұрын

@@irenehamilton2981 I know … It’s soulbreaking …

@ElizabethMuellerNovelist

24 күн бұрын

No wonder I felt so dirty, so used! So glad it’s OVER!

Narcissists are such broken people who need years of therapy but refuse to get help.

@Sheri-sb1yr

13 күн бұрын

They NEVER change therapy is a WASTE.

@gwenbiedler8181

13 күн бұрын

Yes, and they look at those they hurt as the problem!

@melisentiapheiffer3034

12 күн бұрын

@@gwenbiedler8181 they know they are the problem.

@MC-mk6gs

6 күн бұрын

And they yell and scream at us if we call them out you need help theysay

@MC-mk6gs

6 күн бұрын

​@@Sheri-sb1yr💯

And that's why staying alone is the best

There’s always something negative with the Narcissist, they need control 😫🙄😩

@lesliehirschfeld9226

22 күн бұрын

And as any sane adult knows to deceive yourself into believing you actually have control is not only childish but as witchcraft it is demonic. I'm sure that no weapon formed against me shall prosper....I have friends in higher places. So y'all buzz off.

@TheNinaGina

22 күн бұрын

Narcissists are reincarnated Demons ....in Humans body....

@Slim1423

19 күн бұрын

Narcissists suffer from something called NPD, or aka "Narcissistic Personality Disorder " . It can be a hereditary disorder, or something that may develop in childhood from the loss of a parent or from being overly spoiled as a child. Narcissists are very paranoid, and think everyone thinks as they do. The worst thing is they see nothing wrong with themselves or either they are aware of what they do but don't care to do anything about it. Now, if you get fed up and leave them or divorce them, they will either try to get you to change your mind or they will act like they are the victim. A person i know that was in a narcisstic marriage that lasted over a decade, would frequently ask this question to me, " What did i do " ? After reading up on Narcissism, i told them you weren't the problem, they (the Narcissist)were the problem. A Narcissists has to work their problems out on their own, you can't change them no matter what you do. Narcissism is hard to treat with Psycho therapy, and some Narcissists can even manipulate the Mental Health Therapist! So, your best option is to leave the Narcissist, and don't return to them ever...

1. After we got "married," he stopped holding hands, kissing, hugging, and talking. 2. He does not like "it" with another human. Only he can "satisfy himself" via porn. 3. He NEVER initiated; constantly rejected me. 4. When he experiences a "malfunction," he blames me. 5. He expects me to do what a porn actress does, but I have not viewed porn. Never will. 6. He reserves "it" for anniversaries only, but five anniversaries have gone by with nothing (thankfully). 7. I feel strange "being with" such a sick-minded, disordered person. 8. Imagine how shocked I was when I found out he committed adultery! The cognitive dissonance attacked me on that one. 9. I had to add this to the list. I just remembered that, out of nowhere, he gave me an "electronic device" in the shape of a male's ***** for Christmas! I was mortified! I reacted in a way he didn't like. I threw it in the garbage. Now I realize he probably got it for himself.

@naturalhealingmexico

25 күн бұрын

Rejection it's a way of punishment they use to control us, take our self confidence and self steam away. Also to create codependency... It's all a mind game.... They know exactly what they are doing, it's not by coincidence...

@Vickiinthesouth

25 күн бұрын

My ex husband has been on trial for rape and he's into wearing a mask etc. That makes the other person not human and he's in control as evil punishment

@fallon7616

25 күн бұрын

Same 🤷

@user-qo1bu4gt2l

25 күн бұрын

It's my story😢

@prophet1782

25 күн бұрын

You r smarter now. move on.

Omg 😲 the wanting sex straight after a fight ...they are sick.

@cornishmade100

25 күн бұрын

Mine used to cause a fight so he could make up by having sex

@user-kd7hr9jr3j

25 күн бұрын

Very sad, but true! May God help us find true love!

@clintonnagy1662

25 күн бұрын

OMG. Yes. I noticed that. Thought that was soooooo weird. Wtf????

@azamudio128

25 күн бұрын

Unfortunately I've endured all of this treatment..im still married,but i am liberated..sex free!!!..thank God!!..i stand my ground..im also old now, wasted all my years with him ..and yes, he is worst than ever! but has no control of my body anymore...🙌 yay!

@user-kd7hr9jr3j

24 күн бұрын

Why don't you divorce, aza?

I experienced marital rape several times. It destroys the self esteem. They see you as an object.

@blueStarKitt7924

13 күн бұрын

🤮😡🤬😔 May you heal and find peace.🙏❤

They're hell on Earth.

@terri7707

21 күн бұрын

I want out of this.

@paddyh6530

21 күн бұрын

@terri7707 you have to go through it Terri to get out of it, one day you'll see them for who they are and you'll wonder why you ever stayed and put up with the BS

@lindahouston5635

19 күн бұрын

After I finally left, my life is so much happier! The difference is amazing! It took a while to adjust, but I was surrounded by people who loved me, and that really helped!

@melisentiapheiffer3034

18 күн бұрын

Yep

@JoyceDemattia

12 күн бұрын

Don't give them credit . They are creepy, act like they are famous, give me a break, all lies,while they are taking you to the cleaners

Yes, “used” is exactly the right word.

It’s like kissing a dead fish!! Hugging him feels like I’m hugging a tree! & freakishly quiet! Not a peep! Not even breathing sound!

@betzabeteta2967

13 күн бұрын

Hugging a tree is better even the tree move their leaves.

@Mentalhealthmattersthemost

12 күн бұрын

As sad & true as this Statement is, it's funny. I know exactly what you mean. 😂 hugging a tree! I stopped hugging. If I don't hug, I don't get a hug. 😂

@shellbell8062

12 күн бұрын

So true! I used to think of the fish analogy myself. Yuck. And when I hugged him he would awkwardly pat me on the back and get away asap. When I would hear his key in the door my heart used to sink. I can't believe I stayed in it for so long.

@77sunflowers

Күн бұрын

They're incapable of giving or receiving real human love :(

@Mentalhealthmattersthemost

Күн бұрын

It's really Spiritual. It's a demonic spirit, think about this, demons can't and aren't capable of showing loving, affectionate emotions, those hideous, evil monsters, can't be loving. The real deal is that the person has been thru some trauma to their Soul, either during their childhood or even their adult life and the enemy attached itself to their soul & shut them down to either being healed to be able to love like Christ. They themselves need help. It's impossible for a person that has been traumatized to love in a healthy way. You can't therapy it, drug it, fuss at it, kick it, love it, reason with it. The person needs to be delivered, set free from that possession. Same lil demons, new times.

Also ‘bait n switch’ they act different pre commitment . Evil egocentric monsters.

He wanted sex almost every day (if I wanted or not)and it was very painful for me because he was agressive. He put me in humilated positions. After I fled from him to another state I never wanted to deal with sex anymore. It feels like everything is broken from inside.

@ifyagotajaburadumsheep1752

22 күн бұрын

That’s marriage you shouldn’t of got married

@lindamaygregory

22 күн бұрын

​@ifyagotajaburadumsheep1752 don't be so ridiculous- what a stupid thing to write.

@danaparfitt2491

21 күн бұрын

​@@ifyagotajaburadumsheep1752what the f(((

@lindsayweller3627

20 күн бұрын

I understand the humiliating positions. You feel so out of control and completely vulnerable. It's horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you.

@rosina5835

19 күн бұрын

@@lindsayweller3627 Thank you for understanding. That means a lot to me.

Robotic and empty and shallow! With my x-narc of 4.5 months! So grateful and thankful we're over!🙏❤️🙏💜

@karenhill3356

20 күн бұрын

Me too lol I feel like I escaped with my life hopefully my sanity. I did 3 months

I'm 72 and left my partner in 1990. You have detailed nearly the entire 16 years I was with him. When I left I knew I was emotionally abused. It took a lot of years to understand that all those years of bad sex were, in fact, years of sexual abuse. I have never seen it set out so clearly. But he exhibited every single behaviour you describe. Thankyou

They want sex when we want to sleep! I thank God for every day i am away from the devil itself! I thank you also Danish for helping me heal ❤❤

@clintonnagy1662

25 күн бұрын

Hmmm, I thought that was coincidence?? She was waking me at 430 when we had to wake at 5am just to f**k my brains out. I was hoping she would wait till 5am when I'm awake? NOPE. Never know what a narc's agenda is.....

@bonnieblood3983

24 күн бұрын

Exactly!!!

@anneroarty6473

24 күн бұрын

Me too glad to be away from Narc abuse.

@theosaka69

22 күн бұрын

YES!! My ex-narc fiancé would almost always want sex when I was extremely tired or would wake me up in the middle of the night to have it. And he REALLY loved it after we just had a fight and/or I was sad or still angry at him. Just crazy ASF! Good riddance to bad rubbish!

@bonniedeaves422

21 күн бұрын

Yep, sleep deprivation is a massive thing with them. They run high on chaotic energy & drain you of spirit. According to them, you dont need basic human functions such as sleep. I left after he sprung up out of bed (from his apparent deep sleep) in the middle of the night, spitefully cursing & saying how much he hates his life with me, (because I had dared go to bed before him). The switch was terrifying & he was looming over me from the doorway. I pretended to stay asleep. Started my plan to leave the next day.

Mine started refusing long kisses, cuddles and basically all physical contact outside sex including hand holding and blamed me for wanting those things like there’s something wrong with me!

@irenehamilton2981

24 күн бұрын

After 6 months this started to happen barely any hugs kisses I have to chase him for it after awhile I just cry

@milliemcfall23

19 күн бұрын

Most are porn addicts and when you have sex with them its like they are having sex with what they watch.

@azumblossum

17 күн бұрын

Wow this is totally my relationship with my boyfriend right now.. He totally changed from doing all that stuff to being cold and showing no affection Towards me now

@cindyl329

16 күн бұрын

Run, run now!!! 😲

@cherylthompson2731

11 күн бұрын

Mine too.

Absolutely to the point. 40 years of marriage . When I reach a burn out from work, and needed time for myself to recover, I finally stopped the madness, of being a vessel for his needs. he threatened to find another woman. Lots of porn, and wanting me to perform these fantasies. He looked for other women, of course it was my fault , he had to, since I did not satisfy anymore. I left him. He has a new woman now, my life has improved so much. I was a toy.

@Vickiinthesouth

25 күн бұрын

My husband started cheating right after our honeymoon, he would ignore me and watch porn downstairs in the living room at night. As newlyweds and a young bride, I leaned secrets of him that went deep that I did not know. I tried to tell my kids wait....don't be in a hurry to marry....only 1 kid out of 3 took that advice. It is so important to spend a long ti.e getting to know your boyfriend. Be in no hurry to marry.

@kathybrem880

24 күн бұрын

I know what you’re saying!

@jennifergriffin5467

24 күн бұрын

I was a recepticle, too, nothing more than a vessel. They are not human.

@nerifterafrnam4682

24 күн бұрын

That other woman took over your role, good riddance.

@mshiker

24 күн бұрын

I feel you: ❤ - been there, too.

Thank you for addressing this topic. I have experienced these issues but was too ashamed to reach out for help because I thought there was something wrong with me. It wasn't until many years later when I experienced healthy, intimate, emotional connection with a loving partner that healing happened. I am grateful my partner was patient with me and kind. Now I understand what real love is.❤❤😊

@Vickiinthesouth

25 күн бұрын

I never remarried and it's been over 20 years. I really don't know how it would be with someone who is unselfishly loving

@hettykoster9447

25 күн бұрын

I’m so glad you found true love ❤️

@marcimccann1109

25 күн бұрын

@hettykoster9447 thank you! I want to encourage people that it is possible to heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse.

@hettykoster9447

25 күн бұрын

@@marcimccann1109 Thank you for encouraging me and other people ! We need it 😊

@hettykoster9447

24 күн бұрын

@@marcimccann1109 Thank you for encouraging me and other people 😊 We need it …

Thank you, Danish. Yes, I felt so objectified. It felt like my ex-N's unspoken motto was "slam, bam, get out of my way ma'am. I have things to do and they don't include you."

@Lovecats956

24 күн бұрын

At least mine made me orgasm because i told him I would never have sex with him again but he said he would never kiss me so I found a new boyfriend.

@anneofgreengables1619

24 күн бұрын

Wham, bam thank you ma'am. Except no thank you.... they just leave.

Wow now I understand why he rejected me all the time and then flipped it back on me when I didn't come onto him because I didn't say the right words. The silent treatment and the lectures that would happen when I didn't do or say something right. He controlled it all and made me feel like it was all my fault and I couldn't do anything right. Sex was the #1 thing we fought about. Thank God I am out of there and I am safe.

@melissabyrd1310

6 күн бұрын

Same here. He's a predator and very perverted

In my case, my ex husband hated my beauty and the attention I get without doing norhing , just being myself. He saw himself as an ugly man and tried to dim my light, confidence, leaving me in the cold, in the dark, betrayed my trust , allowed third party to destroy. The pain reached a point that I decide to take care of my body, dancing, practising sports and began studying about toxic relationship and see I was dealing with a covert narcissistic person. I am trying to heal from traumas. He made difficult to separating because he did not want me to rebuild my love life. However I cut him off and the mask and lies appeared. Good vídeo. It was extremely painful to be with sex life, being a good person. God will bring a healthy love. Thanks for the message.

@melisentiapheiffer3034

11 күн бұрын

They are always in competition with you. They are flippen demented.

@77sunflowers

Күн бұрын

They are very jealous people ...

@melisentiapheiffer3034

Күн бұрын

@77sunflowers it's almost as if they feel compelled to tarnish your name. The disordered person in my life even gossips about me to maintenance men. He doesn't know I have overheard several times. It's truly bizarre. Why get strangers involved? It's very perplexing to me.

I agree with you! But the worst thing that you can is have a child with such people. You are stuck with them for life. It like a life sentence that you can not get away from. Thank you so much for your Channel.

@karenk2409

22 күн бұрын

Not for life. That's not true. You may have to deal with them after you leave the SOB, but only until the child is 18, and you can put up and defend your boundaries when you don't live with them anymore.

@lynmarie1786

22 күн бұрын

Yup. Then they control, manipulate and abuse you and your children for 18 years. I'm living it..

@Jantango

21 күн бұрын

I was pregnant three months after the wedding. He asked, who is the father? I couldn't be stuck with him, so I left after two years. His retaliation was taking me to court for custody of his son.

@ladyvirtue650

21 күн бұрын

Now my children nd grandkids suffer. 🙏🏾

@annigard8

20 күн бұрын

​@@ladyvirtue650😢

Wow…..this is exactly what I’m dealing with 😮. I knew my spirit was telling me these things but I keep making excuses…trying to understand him. This is 💯 % confirmation. Thank you for sharing 😢 as I shed my last tear…I feel so empowered to do what I need to do FOR ME, MY MIND, BODY & SPIRIT ❤❤❤

@gracestelk

15 күн бұрын

I wish you strength❤. You got this sis!

@roadtrip808

12 күн бұрын

Praying for you😊

My husband the narcissist when we got a divorce we had to see a psychiatrist 1 time first, in the court papers it said my husband was unable to BOND with anyone, including his wife and his own children. And that's how it was. But the court gave him the custody, which was punishment for me, but now at 35 yrs. Old my sons are scarred as adults and still talk about their trauma. I cried on.the phone with them because I am not over the trauma yet either and it's been 2 decades.

@heide-raquelfuss5580

25 күн бұрын

😢

@user-ug4zx2kj6e

24 күн бұрын

How can we protect our children when courts give them the right to maintain contact.

@amorl4520

24 күн бұрын

Many Narcissist Judges ! I had a nasty judge many years ago. My nasty Ex exposed our son to over 3 different women in 3 different apartments with different set of rules. I was literally sick to my stomach NOT KNOWING these women my son was left ALONE with! My son would be crying so hard on the phone at 3 years old he could barely catch his breathe! Then my ex just hung the phone up. I ran to his apartment and pleaded for my ex to let me have him. I refuse to leave that porch. He called police on me. Today my pos ex been married 4 times with 8 kids from various women. He could not care less about our son who is 33 years old!! He used him to attract women and show him off! Like he was a great Dad! He manipulated him so bad and threatened to give his toys away if he did not go with him. He never paid a freaken dime in child support , child care and tuition . My father gave our son 20.00 when he was around 8 years old for doing random jobs. My boy paid for his father lunch because he cried poor mouth!! He even stoled all his savings bond my family purchased for my son. Pathetic pos people

@amorl4520

24 күн бұрын

​@@user-ug4zx2kj6e It is very hard !

@Vickiinthesouth

24 күн бұрын

@amorl4520 so similar in all respects....we are survivors of the worst evil on the earth....we are survivors...and they still are the same

Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail.com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...

@IsaMccray-ye7ow

18 күн бұрын

@thompsonlauren1004 How much did the investigator charge you for investigative service?

@TheElissdeja

18 күн бұрын

Your experience is pretty identical to mine. Going from sex every day, suddenly it stopped completely. He said he was depressed. Nothing for 18 months but he was staying out. I suspected an affair but he said he was "working away". One early morning, he came home and started having sex with me in my sleep! I was furious and told him to stop. He told me to shut up and carried on without my Consent. I ended up with a STI. He accused me of sleeping around! Eventually I got a phone call from his "girlfriend" who he had made pregnant. We had a 3 year old daughter but he manipulated throwing us out of the house I had helped buy. It took me years to move on emotionally. I was a robot who threw myself into bringing up our child as best I could. I waited until she turned 18 and have now met a wonderful Man who is the total opposit. He is worth waiting for.

@swone6349

17 күн бұрын

@@IsaMccray-ye7owjust email the person for a quote.

@gewfone

13 күн бұрын

Reported you for false information and scamming rubbish 🗑 and inappropriate content

@Debduck

4 күн бұрын

This is the same as my situation. He never initiated it and when I tried, he would make me feel like I was invading his space or asking for too much. I even had a dream where I walked into our bedroom and there were two of him in there, in effect having sex with himself. One of him stood up from the bed and denied it, and the other one of him was laughing and continuing doing to himself what the other one of him was denying. It was so weirdly accurate that I still remember it to this day.

Completely valid. There is no connection on any level. The only way my marriage made sense was when I was miserable, he was happy. When I was happy, he was miserable. No win. Now, how to recognize if anyone ever shows me genuine affection?

Ah yes. My ex-husband and his porn addiction and then, the cheating. I was too thin. I was too fat. I was too everything. He was never happy.

@MonicaGriego22

24 күн бұрын

Yes,my ex husband has a porn addiction that now he's forcing our daughters to participate in because CPS aka CYFD here in Albuquerque NM is justifying everything he does instead of doing their job and prosecuting him for it.

@phyllischaffin4052

24 күн бұрын

@@MonicaGriego22 that's awful. I'm sorry.

@b8akaratn

24 күн бұрын

That is awful, I'm sorry. Narcspouse told me about his cheating only after 7 years had passed in our marriage. He also blamed ME for his porn addiction (even though he had NO problem with how intimate I was during our dating stage, let me assure you). I got rid of all DVD porn I owned once our kiddo was born (because ya just don't need that stuff around a kid), and I stopped watching it online at all -- didn't know he wasn't doing the same.

@b8akaratn

24 күн бұрын

​@@MonicaGriego22I am sorry AND ENRAGED for you 😤🤬

@MonicaGriego22

24 күн бұрын

@@b8akaratn Thank you 🙏😭👋 I had to rebuild my life. Thank God there's single men who love kids.

I always thought my narc sister had a mental problem but when I heard that she slept with her therapists husband, I knew. What you said the other day, Danish, did something wonderful for me. You talked about the empath having feelings of dying early. I'm 72 and since I hit 70 I started thinking about giving away all my belongings because I wasn't going to live very long. Your message shook me out of that brain damage! I'm extremely healthy, haven't been to a medical doctor since 1980, I have a great, happy marriage, and I wasn't focusing on God's blessings of good health and a great life and I was planning my demise. What a waste of the past two years. Thank you, Danish . . . . . . WOW . . . . . thank you.

@mizread

25 күн бұрын

Have I missed something here? You knew your sister had mental health issues, when you heard that she'd slept with her therapist husband??

@Vickiinthesouth

25 күн бұрын

I wait on that day also when one day in heaven finally my past pain will be no more. What my ex husband did to me and the kids cannot be fixed. It's done. And we are all scarred and crippled. My ex husband won on earth. But he can't control heaven. One day, I will be free and healed.

@sarahbellum6209

25 күн бұрын

and what about the opposite? When WE don’t want THEM? All the predictable immature behaviors it’s repulsive throw their mirroring into the mix and it’s full out CRINGEY!

@rupinderh01

24 күн бұрын

what video was this about the empath having feelings of dying early?

@SailBale007

24 күн бұрын

I have been feeling and thinking exactly the same - until that episode woke me up. I still don’t have a newfound vigor for life, but I’m no longer absently thinking how I just don’t care if I die - as long as I don’t suffer…. I just turned 60…

So true...they are heartless..

@ayonna717

24 күн бұрын

Soulless too

@juliesmart3414

16 күн бұрын

They a waste of time!!!!!

They like to hide behind sunglasses don’t want anyone see their soul

@rhanson1192

24 күн бұрын

Yes, wore sunglasses inside or outside

@anneofgreengables1619

24 күн бұрын

Yes I always thought it was weird how he wore sunglasses in the supermarket. Nobody else did ..

@marlabrown8022

23 күн бұрын

Or lack thereof.

@jadecarlson24

22 күн бұрын

Always wore sunglasses.

@tinkershell1856

21 күн бұрын

What soul? 😉

1,000% on point. It’s scary how many people can relate to this sad unfortunate situation. I’m finally free from this bondage. He has another victim to toy with. Thank you all for sharing your experiences, I’m not alone.

@kntrdr5

19 күн бұрын

Yes it is so many of us , I'm so scared now, never knew any of this stuff existed

This is 100% my husband. Even holding me down and forcing my legs open. It's like you're talking about him in such great detail.

@2_blAck

24 күн бұрын

The knee press in the thigh, so you’ll gap your legs. Was my ex’s signature move

@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753

24 күн бұрын

Have you heard of rape???

@anneofgreengables1619

24 күн бұрын

I always said I felt like a whore ..

@MaryFlavor_kanini

24 күн бұрын

So sad

@ibabechanel

24 күн бұрын

*my husband… …not an ex husband ?

Marking it on a calendar and demanding it a certain number of times a week or on certain calendar weekdays, whether you had to pull a double shift at work or you just had surgery or injury. Coming absolutely unhinged if it did not follow a strict schedule so he could brag to his friends. It is all so disgusting!

@roadtrip808

12 күн бұрын

I just had surgery on Friday he demanded it on Saturday. And everyday since but I've been telling him NO😅

Some will take out their controlling and abusive behavior in the bedroom and become bedroom bullies

@irenehamilton2981

24 күн бұрын

Facts after your crying your eyes then wants to get freaky wth

@karenk2409

22 күн бұрын

"Some"? ALL!

@1stBorn538

22 күн бұрын

@karenk2409 I was married to one who was more passive in the bedroom, but knew another who was very aggressive, no affection hardly, so yeah, "some" are this way, and some are not...

I agree. Until I found out about narcisissim, I date several of them and even married one. They DO NOT LIKE TO KISS. Maybe that's considered too intimate for them.

I’ve experienced similar behavior for years. Avoidance, on his terms, no intimacy, no kissing, no empathy, loveless. Only him taking and making sex like porn, dirty talk and very quickly over in seconds.

Knowing what I know now, I dated a covert narcissist about 25 yrs ago. About 7 months in, she started changing. One night she kept saying that I was gay and wanted me to have a gay sex with a coworker. It was the weirdest thing. I never showed any emotion towards her foolishness and broke up with her a week later. I'll never forget the time I caused her to have a narc injury and then seeing her narc rage. Straight up psycho

Demeaning, cruel, controlling, rejecting, demanding, critical, just nasty. My ex wanted sex after hours of abusing me. It turned him on; I wanted to pacify him. Sometimes he hurt me. Sadist. Even when you're sick. Horrible human beings. I am so happy to be free.

@ABBYBENORMAL

18 күн бұрын

I’m so sorry for all you went through & I am soo happy you are free!!

@karenk2409

18 күн бұрын

@@ABBYBENORMAL Thank you, I could write a book! Except ... so many other good people already have. I left after 46 years. My family connected with him collapsed. My brothers rallied around me, supported me, and basically said, "about time." In the last five years I've regained my health, left my alcohol consumption (anesthesia) far behind, overcome devastating depression (all gone), renovated my house (learned a lot of new skills), and am now a doctoral candidate in American history. I basically exploded like one of those mattresses packed in a box ... These people squeeze you smaller and smaller and smaller, to make themselves bigger and more powerful. I would love to tell everyone in these relationships, and especially after they leave them, to kick it all to the curb and embrace the challenge of reinventing your life the way it was meant to be in the first place.

Definitely unwanted touching. Not even sexually connected and consensual...it's scary.

@kathybrem880

24 күн бұрын

Just grabbing at me!! Finally I yelled ‘stop treating me like a thing!’ He said ok, I’ll never touch you again and he didn’t! Now I’m a very happy widow!

@lademoiselleketoret6958

19 күн бұрын

@@kathybrem880 😱😱😱😓🤢🤢

@elizabethnovak4088

19 күн бұрын

Scary indeed.

Yes I saw that devil come out and believed in evil spirits ever since!

@stellap7624

25 күн бұрын

I have seen that myself with my former Husband. It was the main demon controlling him. It was extremely ugly and a sickly green colour. I saw it for about two seconds.

@clintonnagy1662

25 күн бұрын

Speaking of evil spirit's. I was working things out with my ( ex wife ). Things were great...then along come Melissa. She was beautiful, smart, good job, sexy, and high class. Wouldn't you know that woman destroyed any friendship I had with my ex. To this day I swear Melissa was sent by the devil to annihilate any restitution with my ex wife. I was stupid and wish I would if been better. Now Melissa and I broke up and she hates me but I feel in my heart she was sent to destroy me. Now I'm recovering from that horrific break up. Lord help me.

@AniyaLewis-gl1dw

24 күн бұрын

For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believeth in him shall not perish but have eternal life. If we confess our sins he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead thou shalt be saved. For the wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ. Repent for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.

@JBsFPV

24 күн бұрын

100% agree. I've seen literally DEMONS!

@J-rt9ez

24 күн бұрын

Same here actually. @@JBsFPV

I wondered many times why my ex withdraw himself from me after sex. I was so confused. I thought first it was only some masculine behavior (men go back to their cave) until I find out that he is a porn addicted narc. He was uncomfortable to have sex with me. I was like a holy mother. In his mind I shouldn't be graving for sex at all. My duty was to serve him. Not want him. Porn was the only sex he knew. He an IT expert had been bachelor until 38 years of age. His only source for any sex had been online porn long before we met. So his mom in the kitchen and a porn star behind a screen were the only women roles he knew. This black and white thinking is typical to narcs in many issues of life in my opinion.

@natthebratster

21 күн бұрын

Textbook Madonna Whore complex. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that.

It took me a while to figure out his games because he was SO great in the beginning. Little by little he started exerting control, especially when it came to sex. He was miserable. He made me miserable. I pretty much gave up on sex after him...he took all the wind out of my sails.

This explains a lot about my former Husband he didn't make love he had sex. It was always the same, to the point of being robotic. Plus we only kissed a few times but he was such a rubbish kisser that we soon didn't bother. Looking back he had no desire to kiss.When he did kiss it was just bunched up lips and twisting movement on his part. I tried to get better kissing going but it was soon apparent it wasn't his 'thing'. Now I know why.

@clintonnagy1662

25 күн бұрын

My EX was amazingly beautiful but hated kissing. I never knew why?? Now I know. She never looked into my eyes because the fear of intimacy scared her. Just like a w**re doesn't get too close to her clients, narcs do the same tactics to keeps their victims from getting too close. It's a manipulation tactic to protect themselves from feeling vulnerable. It's simple math.

@cc1k435

25 күн бұрын

Things may be fine early on, but suddenly avoidance is all you get once they have you locked in (married, bought a home, having a baby, etc). Hell on earth. 😢

@amorl4520

24 күн бұрын

You nailed! It's repulsive kissing husband. I have never had to pull away or explain how not to smush or gag with his tongue before. Sorry so graphic but it is very true. Even after asking to go slower or more sensual it was worse . It's porn sex. That's what I call it. Like here your money thanks and see ya..ewww

@rupinderh01

24 күн бұрын

same , they are crap kissers !

@melmatthews5876

24 күн бұрын

Don't forget the stinking breath that a lot of them have, even though they brush their teeth regularly.

“Confused” is the keyword after dealing with a narcissist🤯😣😖

@RamyaV-ms4bz

22 күн бұрын

Exactly

Very well explained! Thank you very much for this information! In my case, it was the one who didn’t like to kiss, hug, touch, avoiding intimacy, the red flags showed up since the very beginning, but he always knew how to manipulate me. Thank God, I am divorced today, I love my reality, but when I look back, it’s still very painful! I wish strength to all the victims of the narc abuse, to get out as fast as possible of this toxicity. You will see how beautiful life is, the best is yet to come! Send you love!❤️ 😇

Please alert guys narcissist breaks your hearts badly 💔 never cry and stay strong

@clintonnagy1662

25 күн бұрын

Thank you. I've been spending my days crying and upset but for what?? For" garbage" that lies and creates drama?? Forget that. No thanks.

Oh my God 😢 This is his perfect description 💯

I was initially hurt when she left but the more I learn, the more I am grateful to know I wasn't crazy. I do still have my confidence but I am more cautious now.

@MrAbhix7

22 күн бұрын

You will get someone far better bro you deserve better

@devaughnsalter6264

22 күн бұрын

@@MrAbhix7 Thank you. Because I took time to properly go through the stages of grief and healing, I have found someone with a lot of promise...and she was right under my nose.

You hit the nail on the head with this one totally. I had never heard anyone explain the no sex part of the process and I have been going through that for months now. Turned down, turned down, rejected over and over again to the point where I have just stopped trying. In the beginning she initiated a lot of the time, now it is once in a blue moon. She will blame it on me and say I have a problem, which is definitely a narcissist trait!! When we actually do have adult time, as soon as we finish she runs to the bathroom and gets in the mirror and brushes her hair and looks at her face and sinks into that. I'm left there like what the hell??

@Sara-oo9wo

12 күн бұрын

American psycho much?

My husband DID treat me like a bunch of body parts and would become enraged because I wouldn’t do kinky stuff--should have gotten out long ago!

No heart, no soul, no connection. Cold, detached. Most dispiriting, hurtful experience.

@joannelauer1372

Күн бұрын

Isn't that the truth😢

@joannelauer1372

Күн бұрын

They want to control every aspect of you as a human being and that's the truth. Hi god😮

@joannelauer1372

Күн бұрын

God will get me through it even when I don't believe that at times

Wow, first time I heard my experience described so well. I was with the man for 7 years, 40-years ago and I still have episodes of trauma. Thank you.

My God sounds just like my ex husband. No one has ever talked about the horrible sex issues with Narcissist. Thank you for sharing this video.

I agree with all of the things you mention and I have experienced it with narcissists. They do fight with you and then want to have sex ( after hurting you) but they also do it the other way around. You have sex, all is good...and then they would start a fight right after having sex. Somehow, fighting and sex became a thing for him. I also recognize the " locking your body" he would grab my wrists and hold then together with one hand, so I couldn't move. If I would try to break free, he wouldn't let me. And if I tried to touch him, he would take my hand and restrain me. Sex with a narcissist is traumatizing.

I am so blessed to have found your channel. I had been married 36 years to a narcissist. He did the most sickest habits during sex. I found my way out of the abuse. I am seriously seeking to heal from such abuse. I don't know how or where to start. I'm 69 years old and I really want someone in my life. But, I am afraid that if I am not healed, they might not understand, and I really don't want to go deeply explaining what has happened to me. Thank you for the information that you generously give to your subscribers. You are a God send!😢

Very true. And will tell you they love you to your face but won't kiss you, or it'll just be a peck on the lips, never more, not even in the beginning.

each and every word and statement of your videos is 100% correct

I agree I was with my ex husband narcissist for 18years and you described him to the t, it was an exact description

So many truths. It's so strange that even in the bedroom they are all the same. Things that I thought were specific to him - nope, just a part of his narcissism. Even to the part of him wanting me to initiate but when I did he would reject me. It got really depressing thinking the issue was always me, I burned away way too much of my life with him.

Cant imagine going threw this for years Got out after 3 months

I feel seen with this video. The only thing the ex didn't do almost ever, was the "make-up $3×." Apparently, my reactions in fights were enough supply for him.

For me, the narc faked his way through the act and immediately started a fight afterwards, just as confusing and soul crushing as it sounds 😢

This is the most painfull thing to look back to. When I said no, he just answered: why not? The only thing you have to do is lay down and let me do my thing. I tried to avoid it, but that was not possible for a long time. After a period of time, I could manage to let him do his thing, and in the mean while, I left my body, I was no longer present in my body, not even in the room. It felt like I fall in a deep sleep, and woke up after everything was done. That was the only way for me to cope with it. Untill today, from the day I left him, I never had sex, that issue is closed for ever. I do not want to change that, I do not want to relive what I experienced during my marriage. That chapter is closed and stays closed. No memory of that is the best way to cope with it.

The early days with a narcissist are so perfect, you feel like you've literally met "the one". Then the truth slowly begins to unravel and you realise it was all a facade... no matter how sweetly they'd speak to you, what they would say & do behind your back was a whole other story! It is almost unbelievable that someone could act in such a manipulative and mean way. The accusations then begin once you find out what they were up to... the blame just gets put on you for all the wrong that was done. Well, im glad I have taken back my freedom and recharged my power. I Am That I Am. No apologies! ❤

I'm glad I'm in a wonderful relationship with a healthy man of four years now.Informative channel.

Lived witha narc for years. He was sex obsessed but not with me. I was just the back up plan. Later found out he treated other wives this way. He is now on marriage 4

@MonicaGriego22

24 күн бұрын

I was the 3rd wife. And he was so proud of it until his mom died and then he told me that he didn't want to be married to me anymore. So I left him. I lost alot of property but slowly now I'm rebuilding my life again.

@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753

24 күн бұрын

Well, of course!!!

No kissing. Nothing open mouth. No bonding. No rubbing. They never say yes when you're initiating it.

Yeah. My wife of 25 yrs plus. . She was never happy with anything I did unless she got something for it. ! But I have endured a lot of trauma & betrayal from work & home life ! 🙏🏼 I will be better when I move on.

@franco2b145

16 күн бұрын

And you will! 🙌🏾

I am so grateful for my relationship with God's and honoring my intuition. In the beginning I didn't then I began to observe and was led to learn about relationship flaws...Wow thank you Lord for saving me from so much pain.

About 20 years ago I lived across the stree from a crazy couple. She would go out in the driveway and beat the crap out if the house, the car......anything close to her.....with a golf club!!! It was the craziest thing to watch. Then, after it was over you could heat them in having mad sex! Sadly, he shot her and when t the cops went in to investigate they found her breast implants across the room! It was such a mess. It taught me a very good lesson..... don't play with CRAZY!!!!

Endured this for a long time and didn't have a name for it, I thought I was loosing my mind. Like how does a normal human being expect one to heal when they deny their wrong doings and make you feel like you are imagining things

I watched this to see if the biggest narcissist I had the displeasure of meeting did these .. and honestly he did every single one and more .. He would even justify why he needed to be with other people too and he would never kiss any of us ... He's currently in prison for his crimes until 2044 .. and I'm glad someone spoke up and got him out of everyone's lives . I wish I knew what a narcissist was before I met him because he ruined my life .. I'm remarried and still healing 8 years later

These people are 💀 💩 monster's. They will treat you bad and expect you too be okay with it . They will fight with you and talk too you later like nothing has happened but , you are still upset from the fight. No one can have a relationship with these people because, they do not love anyone. Only themselves👿

I went through the same i was about to die due to severity of depression he divorced me all of sudden for no big reason

@renel7303

25 күн бұрын

Probably because he knew he had used you up. They are like vampires.

@cc1k435

24 күн бұрын

Call that a win, because it's not easy to get rid of them if YOU initiate it, and there is most definitely an expiration date on these relationships. 😮

@karenk2409

22 күн бұрын

Consider yourself lucky to be free, and start reinventing yourself as if he never existed. He doesn't get to define you.

Yep. That's exactly how I've been feeling with my narcissist husband. I'm an object.

This is exactly what I experienced from my narc husband

Oh my goodness! You did it again! Hit the nail on the head!!!!!!

Thank you for validating this.

Wow Danish, ALL spot on! I wish I knew of your videos earlier on ! Saves so much precious time ( escaping a narc most important step = knowing what the truth is so we can withdraw our life force from them & refocus on our own survival/escape/recovery) THANK YOU!

I have only been with a narc for 6 months and I lived everything you've described. So many horrible things happened in such a small amount of time with that person. I ran away from him but I was no longer the same.

Just awesome video sir ...its so true

It’s scary how accurate your description is. My soon to be X had every single one of the behaviors you describe. And also, she would then blame me when we would not have sex, even though she was the one who would always charge me away, shaking my head.

You are awesome Danish !! The way you explained everything about Narcissists is so true & how people around fall prey to their acting

Thank you SO MUCH for posting this! I hated and avoided sex for 42 years with my husband because I Never naturally Orgasmed ONCE. It was always about his orgasm. And when he couldn’t orgasm, I experienced the trauma of being a failure and that I could not perform good enough.

I totally agree now I am sleeping on the cough and the other month I am leaving ….

@kysakoenigs4969

25 күн бұрын

I left a month ago. Get ready for the fall out after you leave. Stay strong tjo. It's a roller coaster but you are better off and go NO CONTACT

@SarrouTube

24 күн бұрын

@@kysakoenigs4969 i went no contact a few months ago!!!

@karenk2409

22 күн бұрын

Why are you waiting one more day?!

OMG! How true! Your post brought in so much clarity about the life lived!

I just got out of a situationship with one a few months ago & one thing I disliked the most is the forced intercourse! They make it impossible to say no & we were living together so that made it even worse! He also would do the same position & did some weird practices every single time it was so controlling I couldn’t get out of his grip! It was the worst feeling ever & I’m glad it’s over! I had love for him because I wanted love in return but he never had any form of love for me it was all about him. I tried when I should’ve have & now I have to try & heal to even begin to try to be with someone else…

95% of the time my ex would make me feel guilty and dirty for wanting to make love. She'd accuse me of being aroused by some other woman/women, either someone that I worked with, saw at the store, on TV, or she just didn't feel like it. I did notice, however, that near payday she was most willing but I was "wrong" I was "imagining things" for noticing that trend. How do you approach someone who constantly makes you feel dirty, unwanted, and unworthy of their time? BUT, after things started to really fall apart she was a completely different woman. I honestly believe that she literally got aroused by my pain. It disgusts me thinking about it, too.

This Is Horrid!😮😮😢

"They make love to their false self." 7:06 -- wow, this. Because even though his demon eyes were looking in my eyes, i don't think he was ever seeing me -- he was seeing in me an idealized Self to obtain, filtered through me // This Entire video was spot on. We stopped kissing (for which I actually was grateful) shortly after marriage. I knew his utter lack of oral hygiene was a mix of neglect from his parents and his own self-hate. When I would try to tell him to get it healed and then fixed (he had constant infection and pain), OH the arguing that ensued...

@roadtrip808

12 күн бұрын

My narc had rotten and missing teeth eww such a turn off I hated kissing him

@b8akaratn

12 күн бұрын

@@roadtrip808 oh my gosh! One red flag i shoulda recognized was that query of, "Do I have to keep brushing my teeth?" during the DATING phase. ...don't gimmie that look, Y'all, i thought it must've been punk rock (for #reasons)!! The remaining yellow, rotted chicklets in his rotted gums certainly matched those things he called "toenails" poking outta his torn socks. At the end of the day, i'm sucker for consistency; the dentin matched the keratin... so sue me! Over (too much) time, i actually adopted his (non-)ways of (good'b)hygiene, thinking this would maybe draw us closer. But we stopped kissing like, after 1 or 2 years of marriage? TRUST ME, it was NOT. A. PROBLEM, from where i stood!! (fwiw, my corrective measures BACK to oral normalcy: buy a high quality set of dentist scrapers (incl. mirror) off of Amazon; use a Phillips Sonicare with regular baking soda atop your Crest whitening toothpolish; a generic brand (Walgreens) mouthwash touting tartar-losening skillz. (btw i have ZERO cavities, because orthodontics for 4 years makes me wanna go dental DIY ...Ucan2!! 😁😁😁😁)

All you have said is so accurate Danish. Thank you for the validation and making sense of these awful experiences ❤

I was with a narcissistic boyfriend for 10 years. All of this is true. Never again will I deal with again. Thank you for sharing this.

I can relate with each point. My narcissistic husband once told me that headache can not hinder me from having sex with him and that the most important part that he needs is the lower part of my body and not the head😢

@naledismith3726

25 күн бұрын

😂😂😂…no disrespect here, I was married to a narcissist too

@heide-raquelfuss5580

25 күн бұрын

😢

@shilpaabhiram829

24 күн бұрын

Pure evil! And isn't he suffering from migraine?

@Lexis001

23 күн бұрын

Having sex helps to aliviate headache (proven by studies). Based on the your limited description, your husband does qualify as a NPD, but, I appreciate you might be leaving plenty out.

@karenk2409

22 күн бұрын

@@Lexis001 You. are. an. asshole.

Yes. Most of this hearing for me has been new information. But I think there is another page. When they get middle aged, it is common to seek a sexual partner much younger. And so they can become sexual predators with minors.

@jonhutchinson2902

24 күн бұрын

Yup. My narc was 33 years older than me.. Crazy. And he cheated on me. Lol. But no one really knows what he is truely like, not even his family.

@phantomwatcher8170

Күн бұрын

Most have porn addictions and are pedophilic also in my Experience

You're incredible Bashir! Thanks to you I understand everything! It's been 18 years since I've looked for explanations and only you is giving me a clear insight 🙏