He destroyed my trust in human beings. I will never completely trust anyone again. This is how he changed me.

@rebeccabriggs2982

4 ай бұрын

Same. And my family destroyed that trust to. Plus I meet people and see the signs pretty quick so I exit. Still waiting to meet some safe, genuine people. I fear they are far and few between these days. Sometimes it feels like everyone's abusing kids or animals or picking holes in ya life. Or looking for what they can gain from others.

@prophet1782

4 ай бұрын

The world is full of them.​@@rebeccabriggs2982

@prophet1782

4 ай бұрын

He made you smarter.The world is full of them anyway.

@joseenoel8093

4 ай бұрын

Least you can trust yourself, narcs can't and they've their past to thank for that!

@CarsonDouglas

4 ай бұрын

Me too. Sad I'm competing with demons for a date. 😒

Everytime I thought I had overcome a narcissist, another one came along. I have no trust in my own ability to choose safe people.

@Lila_Winter

4 ай бұрын

Listen to your body, you will learn listening to your gut. ❤

@preible1

4 ай бұрын

This is how I feel too 😪

@karenvanryneveld5852

4 ай бұрын

You can change your neural pathways and patterns and heal

@blue_moon6490

4 ай бұрын

@@karenvanryneveld5852 , I have been trying, for years.

@user-vj4sb4hx6q

4 ай бұрын

Yes! I was taken again after my divorce. Now I walk alone, live alone and work alone.

I want me back..this isn’t me!

@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap

4 ай бұрын

I found myself last years

@arlenematthews1794

4 ай бұрын

Same

@greghayes7933

4 ай бұрын

Same

@zoyatariq2649

4 ай бұрын

Same 😭

@user-rj1gu7nw1e

4 ай бұрын

I feel you. I want me back 😢

That’s the word I use a lot to describe them, “insidious.”

@Greenpeppersandeggs

4 ай бұрын

Perfect word. I had a dream about my (now ex) while we were dating and in the dream someone told me he was “insidiously deceitful.” I wish I had listened to that memorable visual, dude stealthed me, cheated on me in some really amazingly unique ways and ultimately never had that “good heart” I truly believed he did, excusing it the entire time for childhood trauma. I brought myself to the lowest points trying to “help” him. I excused so much and wasted so much of myself on trying to help someone who was laughing at me behind my back as I did it. Oops sorry I went off there it’s just a very good word for them!

@CarsonDouglas

4 ай бұрын

Insidious is the perfect word. He never cussed me or jeered me, yet he had me crying, suicidal etc..

@gillianfrances

4 ай бұрын

The word I use is 'evil'

@clawlor777

4 ай бұрын

Oh my. U answered to all my questions about myself yesterday I felt awful thinking that I am narcissist not my soon to be ex hubby must be me I am the problem everything now watching this video made sense now

@eco1937

4 ай бұрын

Yes! Me too.

I only recently came to realize that I've gone from being a fun-loving, confident, people person who was passionate & eager to jump in & help anyone & everyone in any way possible to someone I don't recognize. I only do the things I absolutely must do & seldom leave the house. I don't enjoy life. I love my pets, otherwise there's nothing to look forward to & yes, I'm beyond tired

@l.t.3587

4 ай бұрын

Please don't give up!!! I was like you were - always eager to help people and the narcs turned me in a jaded person I couldn't recognise. BUT: once I went no contact with EVERY single fucking one of them, I started getting back to my old self relatively quickly! Try to find another good soul out there to be a friend or even just a good work buddy who helps out people - this will help YOU gain back your trust in people and you may start to want to engage more!

@Diamondjane54

4 ай бұрын

Get out in the sunshine❤ That goof ball stole enough from you.

@From-Hurt-to-Healing

4 ай бұрын

Hugs 😊. You are going to be OK.

@lisastutzman3140

4 ай бұрын

I feel it! I don't even talk to my friends on the phone anymore because I don't want him to know how I actually feel.

@joyskye790

4 ай бұрын

I understand completely! They changed you without you wanting to change!!!

Over 5 years no contact. Feel like I will never come out of this depression 😢

@zoyatariq2649

4 ай бұрын

Seek therapist help

@mariabelindakeliiholokai5459

4 ай бұрын

Ask God's intervention. He will deliver you from this nightmare. I'm in minimal contact for 9mos preparing for divorce now. Still anxious whenever I get rail of false accusations but I do breathing exercises and meditate and pray and tell myself " I know my truth and I'm good enough". I had therapy for 2mos session and I'm a lot stronger now and resilient having had these podcast who helpeda lot in npd awareness and dynamics of healing. The road is rough but you will be better soon. Prayers for you🙏🙏🙏

@ast1476

3 ай бұрын

@williampicton: *Of course you will!* ; ) Show the narcissist, that you are the winner and the strong one! Don´t let the N. win after everything you have been through! That´s his Goal! ~~~ Did you hear about : Dr. J. Dispenca?

@Coffee.and.antibiotics

3 ай бұрын

How long was the relationship?

@OnlyJesusMatters83

2 ай бұрын

Call upon Jesus Christ. He will heal your soul and save it

I grew up in narcissist abuse. Now, I enjoy my time alone and I am very careful who I share personal information with. The less narcissist people know about you the better.

I’m an introvert naturally however after experiencing narcissistic abuse my desire to even go outside disappeared. I felt like I was having a panic attack just going to work because that is where I met the narcissist.

@From-Hurt-to-Healing

4 ай бұрын

Hugs 😊.

Every single word applies to me to this day, and i haven't had contact with narcissist for five years now. Every single word! I'm so confused, exhausted, antisocial. My pets and my music gives me purpose. I rarely even talk to family anymore. Maybe I'll send them this video, because it might turn the light on for them as far as what happened to me! Thank you so much for this validation! I've watched other channels regarding narcissism, but you are giving me exactly what i need to know on a daily basis!

@user-vj4sb4hx6q

4 ай бұрын

He’s the best because he lived it.

@oldcrow6990

4 ай бұрын

Hello Danish, I found a message from you earlier but wasn't about to reply. Now the message/link is gone. Not sure how this works. I think it was on this video... Thanks.

@oldcrow6990

4 ай бұрын

Wasn't able... Bad typo. Sorry.

The narc rips the spouse away from family where they were once close

@prophet1782

4 ай бұрын

Tell me about it.

@Sally-ih6ls

4 ай бұрын

@@prophet1782 I’ll never understand the evil in them or how they can sleep at night by these things, criminal

@Diamondjane54

4 ай бұрын

Because I went emotionally blind & allowed a seperation from the ones i loved the most is a regret far worse than anything the mental reject could have done to me.

@Sally-ih6ls

4 ай бұрын

@@Diamondjane54 I’m sorry you went through that….i wish I could help our daughter get out but not talking to us…reason unknown…she went from loving us to hating us since she got married …don’t know what to do as a parent to help her, it a tough road for both sides😢

Its like realizing you have given your all to the Devil disguised as a priest/nun. As I pray for more energy, just to live like a healthy human, I realize I never had parents, so I need to be my own mother and "baby" myself, to care for my senior citizen self with as much attention as i would a baby. Benefits of being the scapegoat/invisible unit of a narcissistic viper pit of a family: I have an attention span, I am never bored, I am self reliant, I am immune to most peer pressure, i am a child of God.

@robertolsen4140

4 ай бұрын

Once you accept Jesus, the holy spirit will supply you with the knowledge to recognize who your enemies are.

This sounds exactly what I am going through. Describes from the victims perspective completely.

The Narc has the ability to break your spirit. That is a crime, and they're allowed to get away with it..... We may never see justice, but I believe in God..... And my favourite verse in the bible is " Vengeance is mine says the LORD". We may never know whilst we walk this earth, but we Will know.

@onevoice1757

4 ай бұрын

So yes, you will see justice! Trust God will do what he says he will do.

@1zebracrossing

4 ай бұрын

The vengeance maybe completed in this life...... But most definitely in the next life......I to must Waite fore this because of the crafty lies( the spread ) .

Narcissists create and give (ironically) the victim their greatest strength which is to stand up for yourself and stand true to who you are despite anything.

All 5, still haunting me after 33 sessions of domestic abuse counselling...

Nobody could explain this as good as you..!!Each nd every word is very true..!!Most sick kinda people to ever encounter and deal even worst especially if it’s covert narcissist..!!You cannot make out about them until they reveal themself to you..!!

@zandatee

4 ай бұрын

Now I can tell them.

I was abandoned for 5 years by my entire family after my husband died of als. Today my 88 yo mother advised me not to call her again. I helped her sell her 1 million dollar home, my narc sister wants the money. In my relation with narc husband repeatedly abandoned. Now I say never again! I am free of all of them

He committed adultry. My temptation is to resist allowing him 2 rent space in my mind & to keep from hoping bad things happens 2 him. Im an imperfect human . ❤

Taught me how wrong my belief in longtime friendships are. Trust is destroyed in one moment after years of building it. Now I think of most people as suspect.

If you could please tell us how to get over this instead of saying we need to do it that would benefit us so much. Thanks for your knowledge and kindness

anxious is not so much in my case i guess. But yes yes yes - I used to be very extroverted. And I still am inside. But I selfisolated and send people away if they want to come and contact me. Although its hard and abnormal for me to isolate. And yes chronic fatigue where I used to have natural energy before. Thank you, Danish🙏 it was very informative.

Within the last 2 years I just found out what a narcissist is and he fit the description from A to Z he's been out of my life for quite some time no longer in contact best decision I've ever made living my best life 🤗

@user-vj4sb4hx6q

4 ай бұрын

When I began to learn about narcissists, it was beautiful. It was learning that I WASNT CRAZY!!! It was such a freeing thing!

Why doesn't the narcissist choose to get help when they are being abused ? It seems like my narcissistic mother grew up to be an abuser?

@safeeffective385

4 ай бұрын

They won't get help because they were conditioned as a child to believe that to be mistaken (about anything) equates to "being a bad person". This is why they act infallible and "can't be wrong". To go to therapy would be a huge admission to them that they are somehow wrong/mistaken... therefore "bad" in their mind. Also, they would be forced to relinquish at least some control to the therapist and they can't have that either.

@shirleyvanderheijden5934

4 ай бұрын

Many don’t know what they are dealing with! I didn’t know my suffering had a name! But when I realised what it was,my healing began!

@lauraantic1384

4 ай бұрын

Couse they love the pain and suffer they live for that their mind is created to abuse

@zandatee

4 ай бұрын

I think its about the innate character. My mother who chose to became the Covert is a big coward, has no inner need for justice etc. A lower developed cowardy character type.

@safeeffective385

4 ай бұрын

NPDs rely almost exclusively on external validation, like getting constant praise, adoration, feeling that they look good and appear successful, powerful, have money and so on. They're not at all interested in the truth. A normal/healthy mind runs mostly on internal validation... like doing mediation/prayer, doing daily affirmations/counting your blessings, trying to be a genuinely kind person to others without getting anything in return and so on. They value the truth. Two completely different frames of mind, right there The NPD feels really nervous/threatened when in the presence of a truth teller, because their life is largely a facade built on all kinds of lies and they know it.

My mother was a narcissist so I never had a chance. I’ve figured it out, though. All of the things on this list are dead-on! This channel has helped me to forgive myself for the mistakes I made under her control. I was a kid, but I’ve felt guilt for decades because she successfully got me to act out of character. I am more than happy to take responsibility for my actions, whereas she never took responsibility for anything. Thanks for these videos!

I forgot... I also turned into an introvert.

This is so true for me. All these 5 points apply to me. Thank you Danish for explaining so clearly. 🙏🏼❤️

Out of the mouth of babes, my students tell me how much better I look. Sometimes, we change for the better and have faith in the process of healing away from the narcissist 🙏 ❤

I put up with one for 13 years,I lost myself,my charecter,everything,I never in my life lived such he'll on earth,it's been about 10 years ago they passed away,I'm still healing my broken mind everyday. I thank Jesus that I'm still here today,and I feel,and use my situation to help other people

@Selina_George

3 ай бұрын

There is a Christian song, Beautifully Broken, it came to my mind instantly when I was reading your comment. God is a God of supernatural healing and restoration, one day you will prove the enemy wrong and you will soar again.

Oh my God, this is all SO TRUE! Every word you say speaks directly to my soul and I am so, so grateful for you validating my feelings and experiences!!! I was so confident in my abilities before, and I was doing so well in my studies and in my personal life, until I got onto the radar of my narc sister... She convinced me I was aiming too high when applying for jobs (so not true!!!) and I ruined my life by going into a stupid field... I am still fixing this mistake 8 years later while she's earning a ton of money and getting everyone under her spell... The nicest person on Earth to everyone and a demonic bitch when speaking to me in private (and with her husband against me)... Telling me for years that I'm not a nice person, that I am ungrateful and selfish... God when will this end!!!

YA KNOW BEEN HERE DONE THAT ....I CAME BACK STRONG...WITH THE GRACE OF GOD .. ...THERE ARE SOOO MANY IF THEM OUT THERE...XOXOX THANKS ❤❤❤❤....😟😟😟✌️✌️✌️💯💯

Our divorce was finalised 01 March... I have been so exhausted,I'm scared and my confidence to start over is at zero.

Great episode, Danish! A year ago at this time, I began to go through a period of great conflict with my narcissistic adult son. Today's episode, and several of your other episodes, have helped me understand better the profound effect that his cruel and insulting treatment has had on me. My recovery has been slow, but I believe it is accelerating. Thank you for offering these reassuring insights!

@kerrytaggart8206

4 ай бұрын

So I guess you can say born and not made. Was Dad or other family members afflicted with this upside down genetic neurological condition that was not your fault?

@user-vj4sb4hx6q

4 ай бұрын

I’ve been in a period of great conflict myself lately. My ex is a narcissist. When you said your sons cruel and insulting treatment of you, you hit the nail on the head with me and my son. I finally see it for what it is. 😢and I have decided that he will not be talking to me that way again. The next time he gets cruel and insulting is when the conversation will be over. I’m going to tell him. I have overlooked it because I love you. But I will not allow anyone, not even you my beloved child, to speak to me like that or treat me like this again. It was very painful but freeing at the same time, and brought back a little of myself that I had fought so hard to get back.

Danish, you have no idea how much your videos spur me on. Especially this one. I will keep trying. When you spoke about just being tired, tired, tired, that’s me now. But that’s not the real me. 41 years of in-law narcissistic abuse. Directly from them, but also, I guess directly from my husband who’s suffered from their abuse his entire life. He’s 65, I’m 64. We’re getting older. Yet, his Mother and Father (both in their 90’s) still draw my husband in. And my husband displaces it all on me. I can’t stand being around them (his parents). And our 35 year old high-functioning autistic son wants nothing to do with them. He doesn’t want to ever visit them again. He’s gone no contact. I respect that. But his Father (my husband) lays on the guilt trips so bad.

This is all real for me now, i felt so confused, not knowing what is true in my reality, i always have to overthink what i will say, i am constantly exhausted, and i stopped talking much to people.

Thank you. Your comments are affirming.

My parents did this as kid when I got a B or C in class my mom would slap me across the face. If I didn't do karate well my dad would throw me across the room and punch me in the face.

Never ever i trust u again anymore.......this is the utter lesson....i learned........thanks....no more drama.....i learned a lot....just fk okk...

Very insightful and on point.

The hard part with the mental healing process is that we can’t force it. Our bodies needs to rest a lot first just like if we had surgery or an accident. Our body’s chemistry needs to stabilize an bit, then our cardiovascular, GI, and hormonal systems need to calm down and return to near normal. We need to feel and know that we are safe before our journey can really begin. It took me months, closer to a year, after the last event to start feeling like I was finally making some progress. Before that, I could barely function, I couldn’t think, couldn’t talk coherently about how I felt or pretty much anything actually… I did everything I could (no alcohol or hard drugs, only weed.. a shit ton of weed lol, but not street shit, quality weed made in controlled labs and sold by the state, but also playing games on my phone, a lot of sudoku and killer sodoku - numbers keep me focused and it soothes me -, watching (not always but mostly stupid) stuff on KZread for hours, I couldn’t even watch Netflix, I kept having to go back and rewatch episodes..) all to disconnect myself as much as I could from feeling the pain of the reality, of everything I had to understand really happened to me, just so I’d have moments where I’d stop crying… my brain couldn’t take it all at once. I needed time to let it ALL sink in. My mind disconnected from my body, health issues were piling up (I have multiple issue already, related to a rare genetic disorder that I have.. and that’s been another source of abuse for me), I didn’t feel like myself, it didn’t feel right inside and put, my body felt ill, bruised, hurt, broken, it felt like it wanted to die, not my brain, as I have 2 children and I would NEVER do such a selfish thing, but my body. I didn’t understand myself, which I usually do. Luckily I had disability insurance that saved me, but I was free falling and there was absolutely no one there to catch me.

Like this introvert thing has hitted me so deeply that I don't wanna speak a word breathing is enough for me

This is me. I am stunned i cant believe i didnt realise during it

So point on! My self-esteem has been very low at times and I lost interest in everything, being depressive. I didn't even want to socialize. I also noticed that I had started acting in a way that wasn't my normal behavior. I was argumenting by presenting how much I had done and how others should listen to me (as the head of an association). Normally, I would have presented facts, not emotions. The narcissist was berating, blaming me even for my dead parents's behavior. I was basically a piece of poop, parents's favorite. My parents divorce was almost 50 years ago and we had zero contact to shortly thereafter. I'm trying to gain back my self-esteem and find joy in life. Without this person.

Thanks!

This so insightful. You are helping so many.

I have noticed that i cant have that rest couse i have to take care for child and stay strong even when i am so tired and in pain I just must push myself to go

@kerrytaggart8206

4 ай бұрын

Those bastards have caused pain, suffering and chaos in what should be the most content and joyful periods in a person’s life especially raising children which should take two loving people.

me and my son have five months left of five years an eviction EX put us in, As the last day is coming, Ive been going through a spiritual struggle of good and bad thoughts. tears, with healing, i'm preparing for that final freedom from him

Brain hurts. So much anxiety. Get stuck to couch at times.

Danish, you are so brilliant & I feel so sad that you are speaking from personal experience.. .. you are so brave to not only share this with us but you have educated on this platform for others to find answers when there are so many questions like "why" being the biggest one. You make me feel like I'm normal again & that seems to be a very common & huge problem in this world. Never stop helping us to find answers Danish.. Many thanks ❤

Thank you for your help and support. Your help in overcoming the trauma and childhood programming has been invaluable. God bless you❤

Definitely agree with all the stated comments.Same thing has happened to me,as well.Thank you all for sharing.🙏❤️🙏💜

👍👍👍👍👍most needed topic.

Damn thank you so much for this video I am literally going thru this.

Thanks for ur blog

One of the Best posts of yours I've seen! Thank you Danish for all that you do! ✌️❤️

Thank you

Narcissistic abuse ended for me, mostly, years ago and I'm glad that this is where I used to be

Very good video. Thank you!

Thankyou so much. This surely will help.

Amazing content Danish!!!! You are doing great job! You are one of the best youtubers ever as it comes to healing from narc abuse content. Thank you good man!

Hello Danish! God bless your soul.

Yes, everything is true with me and trying to come out from this. Thanks

Self worth for real!

100% true. It has been 30 years. I am slowly rebuilding myself but I will never be that woman again. That hope, that poetic heart seems to be gone forever.

Spot on, Danish❤

“You know it’s not the narcissist.” 😂😂😂 Knew it was coming in the beginning. Still tickled me when you said it!!!😂😂😂❤❤❤

Thanks Danish i appreciate youbfor bringing us this information to help us heal

SO VALIDATING! Thank you! Multiple modalities of healing perhaps pills and always AND…

Narcissist's also don't gaslight the victim, they confabulate, and gaslight themselves which gives the appearance of lying etc

Spot on, totally 👏.

This is spot on for me and very helpful, thank you! when i saw the clickbait-y thumbnail photo for this video I almost skipped it - I'm glad I didn't

All so true. Thanks for your helpful content and advice, Danish 🙏🏻💜

This is me . Every bit of it. As always Danish you laid it out for us. Thank you just doesn’t seem like enough ❤

This is a great video. Each of the 5 are spot on correct. As we grow older and learn more about our childhood and other experiences through life, it must have a cummulative effect on us. I tried to duscuss emotional exhaustion to my dr. In general, they are not trained or otherwise disinterested. But it is a real thing just as you describe,❤️

Yes me with my mother - i feel as if I was her mother - she was so insecure and indirectly asked for complimenting - and I always gave it to her. But nothing helped. She dont believe in herself at all. So instead of taking it with gratitude she gave back attacking my self esteem. More and more often and massively. On conscious level I would say she dod not succeed and it draw her crazy. But probably on subconscious she did - I dont know..

Exactly! The description is perfect! Let's focus now to the behavioral mechanism of the codependent: the need for validation, of always being nice, highly agreeable, serving others to be loved, being silent, tolerating humiliation and rejection of the basic human decency, in a few words, the results of a deep sense of inadequacy and shame towards the self. That's why, when the narcissist withdraws his "love", the codependent feels lost. Without facing this fact the victim cannot move on. Thank you Danish, for helping and talking on behalf of all the victims, so slowly they don't have this label on their forehead any more. ❤‍🩹💐

May God Bless U Danish....❤️😍

So true Danish

Self image even!

All your videos are so good. I recently broke up with narcissist friend. My mistake was that I knew that something is wrong with her but I thought I could help and heal her. I am still healing myself from trauma she caused to me and dealing with her smear campaign.

Good u have a heart. Don’t let them have that too.

Memory loss 😢

Can’t wait to get back to who I was but only a smarter better one!❤️

5 out of 5 👏

I had my eyes wide opened three weeks ago when my husband did a massive gaslight to me and our children. Now I am being investigated as the narcissist by a psychiatrist.

Every one of these bullet points is me 100%. Ugh. It's so hard to accept that I was in that kind of situation, but the results speak for themselves. I was a victim of the "boiling frog" effect, which is why I didn't ever see the big picture or objectively see what percentage of our interactions were good or not.

Facts💯

It's true.

Hei and thankful for your videos. What I missing at the end is to tell us some examples to heal, course that is individual what you heal from and what ways to heal. Narcissists also are camable to send energies to their victims, and that is something else. That energy you must get rid of - and find ways to do so. From my perspektive I did "return to sender" on youtube - that helped me! And I must insist that it is possible working for you out there, and it is a way to try to get rid of that hurtful energies the narcissist sending you constandly. If this video works for you, you can use it when you feel down, are heavy in energies or expieriences pain in your stomac and feel pain in your arms and legs. Have a good day.

Please make a video on how to cure narcissism.

@SurroachAbhinav1110

4 ай бұрын

@@jbrown2908 But the problem is I have NPD that is why I am asking .

@SurroachAbhinav1110

4 ай бұрын

@@jbrown2908 But I am an Atheist

@zandatee

4 ай бұрын

You are not a narcissist. probably fake diagnose Having an NpD and asking for cure are contradictory things.

Yep this

But after I have realised the truth about my marriage and get divorced I gained back my confidence. If I survived that 18 years I can do anything.

Remember mostly narcissists are players. Their main agenda is to take advantage of your resources, emotions , love and care. They can fool u until u r emotionally attached to them. If itz a love relationship. Stop thinking about them. Take charge of ur own life. Become extremely selfish start loving yourself. And replace them with someone new. That's it....

Yes! Compliment fishing all the damn time but doesn’t return the favor at NEAR the level demanded!

I am slowly gaining my life back. But it’s hard. The only thing that kept me is my faith in Jesus. But I am a well. I can’t love any more. I am very cautious. Because once you met one Narcissistic. You are open to more attack 3:14

Can you video how to heal tireness?

Bingo! 🎲

I felt like you are looking into my soul Danish ! I wake up asking the Lord why I am still here most days.

Danish❤

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