1. High resting pulse rate, palpitations 2. Random panic attacks 3. Hives, rashes 4. Chronic fatigue, body tense all the time. 5. Gut problems 6. Vision problems 7. Struggle to breathe 8. Sleep issues 9. Grief sadness 10. Inflammation

@marir838

7 ай бұрын

OMG..U JUST DESCRIBED ME

@vandanachuttur5613

7 ай бұрын

Hair fall...thinning.....broken nails...sadden n stressed face.....life full of turnoil

@dnk4559

7 ай бұрын

And allergies. I feel like my allergies are so much better now that I’m not married to a narcissist anymore and limiting my time with any narcissistic family of origin.

@samwelasowa3157

7 ай бұрын

So these are not medical conditions?

@avijitgoswami3082

7 ай бұрын

Auto immune desease

Let me tell y’all about the symptoms I noticed while I was around the narc: 1) Twitching eye lid - my right eye twitched for an entire month leading up to the end of the relationship. Two weeks after I left him, my eye miraculously stopped twitching and has not happened since. This is due to stress, anxiety and fatigue. 2) I lost my appetite, hence losing 6 lbs.. which is a lot for me because I went from 125-119 in a two week timeframe. 3) Sleep issues - I am just starting to sleep through the entire night, two weeks no contact. 4) My nerves were always on edge around him, I had to pee at what seemed to be every 5 mins, including while I was asleep. 5) I also suffered from constipation because my body was never really relaxed around him. 6) Random headaches 7) Laziness - not feeling as motivated to keep up with gym routine 8) Rashes above eye lids 9) Constantly biting lips and inside of mouth - Anxiety 10) Sharp pains in back whenever I take deep a breath. DO NOT IGNORE THESE SIGNS BECAUSE AS SOON AS I WALKED AWAY FROM HIM EVERYTHING STARTED TO REGULATE ITSELF AND GO BACK TO NORMAL. THESE PEOPLE ARE DEMONIC ENTITIES!!!

@yuu_miran

7 ай бұрын

Im afraid it doesnt always end with leaving them. Especially if they practice magic and decide your life needs to be destroyed whatever way for them to accept your leaving

@Travelintherapist

7 ай бұрын

@@yuu_miran I agree. I think it also depends on how long you were with them and how much long term damage has been done as a result of being in a constant state of fight or flight. The witchcraft is real, but you can also pray against that too and return back to sender.

@Icemario87

7 ай бұрын

awesome self reporting. I'm showing this to my wife, thank you!!

@yuu_miran

7 ай бұрын

@@Icemario87 you better not

@Icemario87

7 ай бұрын

@@yuu_miran why not

I lost 40 lbs., my hair turned completely white, then much of it fell out. I couldn't concentrate for more than 3-5 seconds, couldn't stop the tears from running down. I went for long hikes in the woods every day and constantly lose my contacts because they were always floating out of my eyes. I would not eat for 3 days at a time, and not even feel hungry or remember when the last time I ate was. Not knowing what was happening to me, I stumbled upon teachings of narcissism. It saved me, and made me realize that no contact was the only way out. Once you step into their arena, you've lost. They are so good at what they do, because that is who they are! As long as you harbor feelings of revenge or reconciliation, you will never heal!

@corinneyaworski-mh9uc

7 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing. 🎉

@moosemcguillicutty554

7 ай бұрын

@@corinneyaworski-mh9uc you're welcome, Corrine. It took two years to recover, my hair grew back it's normal color and my weight came back. No more chest pain, but I'm still trying to get my normal life and hobbies back. Onward and upward!🙂🙂

@odduckOasis

5 ай бұрын

I unfortunately can't cut all contact off because we share a son, and he has visitation rights- but when those times are not here, I have no contact with him whatsoever and if he reaches out for any reason or another, I keep it brief and simple- it's the only way I can stay sane cuz he still drives me crazy, but if I dwell, I have trouble coping.

My panic attacks have actually made me faint. I feel attacked by people in my life and am finding escaping terrifying. Such an awful cycle.

Sign number 11. After engaging with them, you are driven to eat sugary carbohydrates. This is because being with them even for a short while has emptied you out and you quickly need to replenish something so you can feel good again. Like you did before you engaged with them.

@Devi-pg4rj

7 ай бұрын

And drink huge mugs of coffee just to recover.

@LyndaS.

7 ай бұрын

Feeling drained and exhausted, I would need a long nap.🥱

@AmericanDreamer

7 ай бұрын

@@LyndaS. yup, that too

@jackiepowell7513

7 ай бұрын

That's conjecture. Some eat pasta. Etc.

@sukiyakking9138

7 ай бұрын

For me, it was pancakes and syrup. @@jackiepowell7513

My resting heart rate with my Nex was 126. I had random Panic attacks. Heart palpitations. Following the divorce, my resting heart rate moved to 69-73

I have all these symptoms. I am a disabled adult who can’t live on his own yet and I’m stuck with my narcissistic mother. Thanks for this video. It gave me a lot of clarity.

@czernykins

7 ай бұрын

same. hang in there. it's very painful. you're not alone. be strong.

@lindaschultz7900

7 ай бұрын

​@@czernykinsMe too! I have no family and my 36 yr old son abandoned me. I went no contact for over two years. Lost my job and had to move back in with him. He love bombed me for 3 weeks. His true evil colors are coming back.

@beenapeter6180

7 ай бұрын

Yes, you are not alone...be brave..trust in God and trust yourself..

@yuu_miran

7 ай бұрын

I can relate. Though my father is already out of this world and i left my toxic workplace I still feel disabled. 38 yrs old and all my relatives think im either lacking in my head or sth like that for working in a lowpaying job, not doing any hobbies, not travelling anywhere not socializing, well all those require a solid health base right? Which i have never had but they always think im perfectly fine. Well, actually they are also narcissistic so its no wonder they are blind to my problems and to me in general so who cares. I just hope God can help me get better some day.

@RosyKilele

7 ай бұрын

That must be tough. You are are not disabled,you are living with a disability. I want you to know that Jesus loves you and I'm praying for you❤

I would love to do a study into the environments of narc households and the correlation to childhood asthma, allergies, and so called mental health disorders. 😢

@katherineraquelle1930

7 ай бұрын

Yes now I’ve studied narcissism and realized I was raised in a narc household growing up… I had severe asthma.. in the last few years my asthma has gotten astronomically better.. like it’s barely there after I cut my family off during the pandemic. I knew I was recovering.

@just_heidiii

7 ай бұрын

I would love to do this study as well!

@jackiepowell7513

7 ай бұрын

There would be too many confounding variables to measure. Grad school 101.

@jackiepowell7513

7 ай бұрын

​@just_heidiii it's already done: The Body Keeps the Score. Remember he s talking about the worst. It's on a continuum. Fyi

@dnk4559

7 ай бұрын

I had tons of allergies especially after my narcissistic father had taken full custody of us. I also had allergies with my ex. Now that I’m remarried and am finally loved and cared for I rarely have any allergy issues. In fact the difference is like night and day.

When in the presence of a narcissist, or even when simply thinking about a narcissistic person, I always feel like I am in a constant state of fear, because you just never know what a narcissistic person will do next. There is really no way to predict their behavior, and they like it that way. They do this to you on purpose, because they like it. They feed off of it, like a predatory animal that gets aroused by your fear.

Don't forget back pain out of the blue: too much responsibility, no support, trying to keep the boat afloat.. etc..

What you said about Healing your sleep is so accurate, once I managed to regulate my sleep I was able to see things far more clearly. I am so grateful to you and others who post these videos that validate my experiences with narcissistic abuse.

Danish I are truly amazed by how much knowledge you have on this topic. I cannot imagine how bad your upbringing must of been with your narcissistic farther. You give hope to everyone. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge 🙏

Thanks to narcs, I've developed adult onset asthma and hypertension. Panic attacks. Heart palpitations. Digestive issues. Skin problems. Sleep issues. He nails it.

@kridhar

7 ай бұрын

Same. just to add get sleep apnea too. We shall overcome ❤

@jackiepowell7513

7 ай бұрын

Run!!

@jackiepowell7513

7 ай бұрын

Ultimately if your body lives in dissonance it can ultimately cause death. Difficult to prove but, yes.

@corinneyaworski-mh9uc

7 ай бұрын

I can relate. Such stressful and painful things.

@ilovegodalways4526

Ай бұрын

Look into supplementing with magnesium. Research its benefits before starting, it helped me along with distancing from the toxic person/s.

I've been having diarrhea every single day since the start of April because of the narcissist

Everything you've said is so true. Four months free and still struggling

@keithwittman4741

7 ай бұрын

You'll fully heal in your own time. I think physical healing has a lot to do with your mental/emotional healing first. As the video and all the victims here are stating. Just last week at a Dr's appointment, I've gained 10 lbs! I now get hungry and enjoy eating. Digestive issues are gone. Realizing that I'm feeling physically better every day is helping to keep my emotional issues at bay. (trauma bond) It's also got me wanting to quit smoking. For my health and to show that narcissist "I can do" things without her!😊 although I'm at no contact, she would find out. Better life,without that wife.😂

😢 I have all these issues with me including self blaming, feeling of unworthyness.started to hate myself for being unhealthy,and ill all the time..but after watching 100 of awareness videos like this,one the most beautiful thing I've learned and realized is to be more compassionate and fair with ownself.I am learning to pay more attention towards my body's screams.and becoming less or non reactive towards the toxic patterns.Again Thank you so much ❤️ Dhanish .

Danish thanks so much you validate most of our experiences. 1. Struggling with insomnia 2. Feeling so tired 3. Gut problems 4. Grief and depression on and off 5. Brain fog , I realised my thought process was highly affected too. But its been 4 months since he discarded us , I am healing albeit not as fast as I thought I would.

@Jen-nc7fg

7 ай бұрын

I'm ~18 months out, and I still struggle. It takes time, a lot of time apparently. You'll get there eventually. I try to gauge my progress on if everything is continuing to improve, which it is, not how long it takes to feel "normal" again. I don't know when I will feel completely normal again. I think they get us so incredibly screwed up that it just takes our body and minds a long time to realize the nightmare is over. After all, they screwed us up very early on in these sick relationships. Then they tried to destroy us once they had us weakened. You have a journey to go through. I wish I could tell you the ending, but I'm not there myself just yet. But I can say that it progressively gets better. ❤

@mrmoto00

7 ай бұрын

What do you mean he discarded “us”?

@Stl71

7 ай бұрын

Your body always knows the truth. I had 2,5,8 and 9. Hope I recover soon.

@nwangui

7 ай бұрын

@@mrmoto00 me and the kids

I'm so attuned to protect myself and keeping narcissists away that my body really does give me signs: irritation is the loudest sign. I actually get irritated with people. But that could also be coz thats my style of communication is minimum. I communicate like a machine and anything that falls out of a very rationale, straightforward conversation irritates me. So maybe everyone who irritates me is not a narcissist but just a person who likes to profile himself/herself or is just trying to initiate a conversation with me. But honestly, I prefer being lonely than risking having any psycho near me.

@rahulm2827

7 ай бұрын

@@caroleminke6116 It could be cortisol. My demon fathers favorite torture was to endlessly talk. He was such a demon that I was scared of him. He used to be very violent and threatening, had nasty mood swings and raise hell when he was upset with anything. So as a child, I had no other option than to just sit and listen to his endless bullshit. He used to do this with other ppl too and they too also used to get irritated but they were adults and not members of his household and could simply tell him off. He used to talk until my head started spinning with irritation. He was fully aware that he is irritating people to an extent that its nothing but absolute torture. And specially since he was really madly violent towards me and my brother, we just used to avoid him. And after having such a relationship with someone, you force that person to sit and listen as if you're friends is just sooo ... I dont know. Cringy, tortureous. I dont even have the words for such a torture. He truly is a demon. I'm happy when I dont need to talk or listen to anybody at all. I enjoy talking to people occasionally but really short talks and no deep talks.

@primitivedogs4638

7 ай бұрын

Introvert, PTSD or autistic breakdown. My own ME/CFS force me to rest before and after.

@Icemario87

7 ай бұрын

i also became extremely logical in order to sort out mixed signals. i completely empathize with your defensive mechanisms.

I'm having a lot those symptoms SINCE I ran from my NARC and I feel like it's getting worse, although some days are better than others; I feel that I will NEVER trust another human again; and the worst part about this is that I know that not everyone is a NARCISSIST, I just don't want to go through that prison term again.

@mrmoto00

7 ай бұрын

That’s normal. A lot of things bubble to the surface that have been suppressed for a long time.

@user-mz3vz3pm3p

7 ай бұрын

​@@mrmoto00 THANK YOU 💕

I’ve gotten panic attacks since I was a little girl. I’m 60 now; my mother, who was abusive, has been gone from this earth for 12 years now. The abuse continued into my 40s when my husband and I brought our son to visit his grandparents. Treated like I were an idiot ( although I married, moved 2,000 miles from family, raised a child alone with my husband). All of these symptoms persist…and persist…and persists. The pain management M.D.s I saw in the past asked if I were abused as a child,,,, I always said no. After her passing, I was able to tell them, yes! Yes! I was abused. I’ve been diagnosed with many, many diseases which am told are exacerbated by constant “flight” mode. I’m in therapy, but MAN I think this is something I’ll always live with. I feel as though she’s going to come around every corner of my house and begin screeching at me. I thank God my son was raised in a PEACE filled home. I could never subject this precious child to berating and , frankly, beatings. ❤❤ Prayers for all who’ve endured no matter who the abuser was/ is

Good information. I notice that " look" in others who experience a super narc. They look noticeably depressed and FROZEN like you said. It is, when after any kind of lengthy or semi- intimate relationship with a narc relationship, suddenly the energy or enthusiasm for them drastically changed sometimes for no reason even after catering or being involved as their "supply." We call this " being dumped." They look emotionally distraight and yes,it is recognizable to others around them. It is infuriating to see but sometimes we cannot intervene as we do not know them personally. This is why your videos are so very important and a blessing. Hopefully more people will be reached knowing these signs of narc abuse. It may very well prevent future domestic violence incidents etc. 😢 Thank you. Thank you. ❤🙏

It's taken me a long time to understand what this type of abuse does to your body. Your body sends you these messages but you can't read them until you can recognize what is happening to you emotionally and psychologically. My parents were sometimes physically abusive and threatening but I discounted the psychological toll of projective character assassination and scapegoating too much. Of course your body reacts to this abuse. Our bodies' design is meant to tell us when something is wrong. Once you make the connection, you can start to heal not only your head but your whole self, body included. Thanks for this invaluable information.

I have been struggling with everything you said for almost 12 years. Thank you for making these Videos, they really help, and I watch them all every day. ❤

@beautymarch03

7 ай бұрын

Please please please begin healing pleaseee 12 yrs is such a long time..I had this Rashes I mean I would scratch without itching so weird...no rest..couldnt sleep.. yessss hystemean...omg..yup couldnt sleep n was exhausted..pls begin to heal..you got this..lu.but

Damn, this is gold! I saw the patterns with these symptoms, but I would gaslight myself into believing maybe I was having a mental breakdown. Thanks Danish!

Over the last 40 years I have suffered with all of these, sometimes several at the same time! Slowly, I am getting some relief as we are now separated.

STRUGGLE WITH ALL EXCEPT THE HIVES. CRYING WATCHING. THANK YOU DANISH

You hit every single one. The brain stomach connection can be very traumatic! Again my many thanks. I'm 58, and have had asthma since 5. With no narcissistic abuse until 23. However do you find given that fight, flight, freeze it could have set me up for this and in a worse abuse? My ex and my daughter have done this in the last 33 years but I have my peace back and do see a therapist but have been on benzos and antidepressants since my 30's. I think asthma made me more susceptible. Thank you for your kindness and caring.

@gracegwozdz8185

7 ай бұрын

Benzos are terribly addictive. They'll not tell you though. Too much money at stake....

@annanderson1470

7 ай бұрын

@@gracegwozdz8185 Yes, but I have already gone down a mg. And am just going to eventually stop. Appreciate your comment. Peace and Blessings 🙏

@keithwittman4741

7 ай бұрын

I'd suggest getting off all medication (with doctor's guidance) and being re-evaluated.

My body has been screaming for a long long time. Now I’m finally finding out what it’s been saying. Thank you ❤

Boy oh boy. I have left my narcissistic family 9 months ago ago. The symptoms you have described, I have had all of them, they came and went, and still do. Depending on the amount of stress I am in. Everything you have said, i have gone threw. I have questioned being a narcissist person myself. My psychologist said I am not. That they made me believe I was a bad person, especially because I recently left. This is my first Christmas holidays away from them, I feel guilty to have left my mum, who never really cared, only that she wanted the perfect Christmas. I am looking forward to to heal myself, it is a long process. I am grieving right now, and a bit of anger has come up to. Thank you for sharing.

Narcissists like it because they intimidate you and it makes them feel powerful, but in reality it's because they are a problem and the ones with an issue and definitely not better than you. Knowing narcissists is more powerful than them.

Thank you for doing videos on the physical effects of narcissistic abuse. I have experienced all the symptoms you listed, except for panic attacks (but I started having those in my 20s and have been on medication for it since). I still have many of the symptoms to a lesser degree about a year and a half later, and everything is getting better except for the hypersomnia. It's like my body has finally calmed down a bit, and now all it wants to do is sleep. If it weren't for work and other responsibilities, I would definitely sleep a lot more than I do already.

thank you so much for your videos. Since I separated from the narc, my body is healing. No more panic attacks:)

Plus hypothyroidism and autoimmune issues of mitochondria and smooth muscle 😢

I'm experiencing the majority of these symptoms

@cynthiaholtmeyer5672

7 ай бұрын

I as well feel the most if not all of these.

@superwoman7397

7 ай бұрын

Please get out.. I just blocked the narc. Wish me luck!

This is me! I'm thankful to hear your message but cannot move forward on my own. It's too complicated. I've asked Gid to assist me. I pray this recent awareness after 40 years is about to end by the hand of God.

@annrodriguez2891

7 ай бұрын

I left my narc husband July 3 2019 with only two trash bags and two Bibles...I was addicted to crack 100 pounds and had nothing but Luke 1:30 playing in my head ..Nothing is impossible with God

Another great video, all true. In the intention of adding to the conversation, look into vitamin b1 otherwise known a thiamine. If you became deficient, by constant trauma, causing gut dysfunction, eating to many carbs to self soothe, drinking to much coffee to compensate for the lack of sleep can cause you to be deficient. If you are deficient you cannot calm down as well as a host of other bazaar symptoms that a lot of drs don’t recognize. You vagus nerve runs on b1, if there is no b1 to run on it can’t do it’s job giving you a lot of these symptoms you described. Obviously take care of yourself and get out as fast and as safely as you can. But as far as setting yourself up as well as your nervous system this could be a game changer for a lot of us.

❤THANK YOU FOR THIS!! I have all of these plus some more. I have Multiple Sclerosis. It does not run in my family genetics. My body shut down as stated because I was raised by a narcissistic family- my parents were severe MALIGNANT NARCISSTS and here I am , a peacemaker empath! I've learned so much spiritually and education-wise about the narcisstic mental distortion and essence (if any). I have healed myself to date with self-love. Giving myself what I was missing has tremendously helped. I no more/longer give my energy to undeserved negative beings. I now can spot a narcissist a mile away!❤

Danish i experienced at least four of these, I kept getting rashes on my leg close to my ankle, I went to the emergency room and they couldn't tell me what it was, I ended up having to go to see my Primary Care Doctor, she gave me a prescription that over time helped, last year when I went to get my eyes checked the optomalogist told me she noticed cataracts or glaucoma, but this year she said there wasn't much change, I've been out of my Toxic relationship now for over 1 and a half years, I still sleep alot, but I haven't had any rashes since I have gotten out of that Toxic relationship. I'm still working on losing the weight I gained . I had also started to throw up on a regular basis before my relationship ended. I haven't gotten thrownup in over a year and a half and it was becoming common while I was in that unhealthy relationship.

@helendayle6502

7 ай бұрын

I'm glad you mentioned that being under chronic stress, which occurs while being with a narc, leads to obesity. The medical community is really slow to catch on to this.

@mrmoto00

7 ай бұрын

I would also get rashes down on my lower legs above the ankles! They would persist for two or three weeks and itch like crazy.

@MegaRose1958

7 ай бұрын

@@mrmoto00 yes this is why I had to go to the emergency room. But they didn't know what it was. At the time I didn't think anything about it being connected to my Toxic relationship. But it's amazing your body knows you are going thru trauma.

@MegaRose1958

7 ай бұрын

@@jbrown2908 Thank you!

Love you Danish truly! Thankyou for living in Gods purpose for your life, with many of us who are so dead exhausted, trapped, imprisoned etc. all we may have is the Internet and just Thankyou!! ❤🙏 Prayers that you remain healthy and happy to be able to continue helping so many people and being so understanding! God Bless you!

Thank you for this eye opening video. Now I understand where all my symptoms are coming from.

OMG: I spent 2 months in the US with my mother while recovering from a TBI I suffered in Istanbul. This was after traveling with my narcissistic brother whom I hadn't seen in 9 years. It was hell and my runner's resting pulse and BP were elevated the entire time as I listened to them trying to blame me for being impaired from a severe blow to the head and 9-day coma in a Turkish hospital. Someone had knocked me down: I didn't do anything wrong. My muscles tense up every time I think about these people. I was so grateful to go back to my home at the time--in Khartoum. When the shelling started in April 2023, I felt comparatively chill, even while trapped with limited food and water in an urban zone. Thanks so much for this information.

While I was divorcing my sociopath (he was diagnosed by three proffessionals) who was also a narcissist, my hair started falling out. My dermatologist diagnosed me as having alopecia areata. My ex and our daughter, who was also a narcissist, told everyone that I was 'pulling my hair out for attention' gaslighting me. After the divorce, I got breast cancer. They told people I was also faking breast cancer. These people are evil. I am now away from all of them and their flying monkeys that believed them. I am working on healing. My hair came back and the breast cancer is in remission. I am so much happier now. I struggle with some the things you mention here still, but I am slowly getting better with the help of friends and videos like yours. Thank you for helping us. ❤

This information is a "must keep"‼️❤ You are "always" on the defense because they go with the wind on any given day‼️Thank you ❤❤❤

Let me see: major depression, insomnia, anxiety, panic attacks, rheumatoid arthritis, rash, shingles.

@NikolinaI1

7 ай бұрын

Same here. My RA went wild when I left him. Hope you're doing fine.

My pupils were chronically dilated due to fight/flight response since childhood. Reading the Bible helped me overcome anxiety and calmed me down. God showed me that evil people will get what they deserve. He gives them time to turn towards Him and away from their evil ways, much longer than I would give them. I am so thankful that my relationship with God grew stronger from depending on Him to help me overcome narcissistic abuse and ultimately thrive. Thank You God!

Danish, I felt most of these symptoms. It got to the point that I started feeling sick to my stomach when I was around her. But, the worst part was the sleep issues: insomnia, chronic exhaustion, urgent need for naps, not being able to wake up, hypersomnia. You are right, once I started sleeping again, I felt a lot better. Thanks for the excellent insight.

Great video. I have definitely experienced the fight-flight-freeze. I have to exit the interactions at a toxic job to take a long walk. I'm currently working with an employee rights attorney and therapist. I'm planning on using family medical leave to get a break and formulate an exit plan. I'm choosing me.

@Erica-cf1xb

7 ай бұрын

Write everything down. Those are whores at your job. They are the source of alot of problems. The longer you stay the more they will abuse you. It's funny to mob at the workplace. You must not be a member of their potluck. That's a good thing. The downside is alot of companies have no moral standard and it's a big freak off. With cameras.

Jeeze!!! No wonder why my resting pulse rate got over 150! My heart was pounding against my chest for over an hour . Happens often along with high blood pressure. I experienced every single point you made plus some. These Narcs get their nasty toxic poisoning in your body and you rot from the inside out slowly and suffer while they are in better health. That God for you Danish!! We need a one on one community support group with each other. There are to many of us and no support systems as we lost friends sue to the Narc isolation or we are to dam drained and sick

The entire year I was dating the convert narcissist I was unwell. I have never had nerve issues in my entire life. I was constantly going through spine( back stiffness ) and nerve issues- tingling and weakness . I then went through IBS symptoms and after the time he discarded me, my body naturally started recovering 😮. I'm shocked at the timing of this. I had no idea he was a narcissist until I was suddenly discarded without any reason or closure when the entire year he kept on promising me a destination wedding even though I wasn't sure about him. Although I thought he was sweet because he kept love bombing me, I thought I should give us a chance. When I aligned myself to think of a future with him he started behaving strangely and finally discarded me

You are So on point. Please Talk to Us on What Happens when You snatch Your power Back, Go silent .... Kaput ... uninterrupted by their numerous ways trying to get reach of you...

Thanks for all of this episode. Extraordinary to have so much information in one go. Especially grateful to learn that the phenomenon of "euphoric recall" has a name. Can you do an episode on this as well? Best wishes and much appreciation from a subscriber in the US.

@anemptyspace

7 ай бұрын

I agree, having more information on the "euphoric recall" and how the mind works in those situations would be super helpful, as I recognized myself doing this quite often and thus "whitewashing" all of the other things and forgetting the negative episodes.

Been there, the most horrible time of my life. My body was in hyper arousal for months, I couldn’t eat, sleep or sit still for month. My nerves were so on edge, my teeth were buzzing. It finally pushed me to a nervous breakdown. I’m glad I was on the phone with my friend which she insisted I get to the acute care so I wasn’t alone when it happened.

@corinneyaworski-mh9uc

7 ай бұрын

She sounds like a good friend.

This is exactly my body’s reaction after 30 years with a covert narcissist. He walked out with another woman & became extremely cruel & abusive when he no longer had use for me. Slowly began these physical symptoms over 2 years until they peaked & I have histamine intolerance being able to eat little except vegetables, fruit & meats I cook. Nothing else. Thank you for explaining 😮

Everything you have mentioned here is spot on! But another thing i'm experiencing is chronic paresthesia nerve pain that shoots throughout my body. So painful when this happens. I was wondering if this could be a sign also? Doctors don't seem to know what the cause is. 😔🙏🏾

@rebeccamay6420

7 ай бұрын

Yes, nerve pain can be a sign of long term emotional distress. One way the body responds to stress is to pull the shoulders up "around your ears." After prolonged shoulder and neck tension, your nerves can become compressed and send shooting pains down your back, down your arms, across your scalp... When this kept happening and i didn't recognize the source, I went to see an allergist. (Mold, nickel, end of list.) He sent me to a rheumatologist. She discovered the degenerative condition that gave me S.I. joint pain, and prescribed something that gave me much relief in that dept. However, when the nerve tingles and zaps returned with gusto and were causing my skin to erupt, I thought it was Shingles. After learning about physical signs of emotional abuse, it made so much sense! I've been bullied and targeted most of my life. I suddenly realized that my body was crying out for relief from emotional pain. That was when I began retraining my mind to hold onto peace, let go of reactiveness, and practice being a "Gray Rock." It's not as fun to keep prodding an unresponsive rock. The zaps have pretty much stopped. The skin eruptions are subsiding. Sleep ... can still be elusive, esp when my mind is unsettled and won't stop ruminating over recent disturbances. There is someone in my life who might "need" to recognize the deeper source of such symptoms that are plaguing her also. ❤️‍🩹

@jolanzsuzsannakarpati7469

7 ай бұрын

I have the same problem. Doctors don’t know the cause of my pain😥

@user-vj4sb4hx6q

7 ай бұрын

@@rebeccamay6420I have the same problems. Thanks for your reply

@keithwittman4741

7 ай бұрын

I also had issues many doctors couldn't explain. Some were throwing pills at them and getting no relief. End up labeling it as aging. (At 40) Since no contact, these issues have gotten better!😊 I think of this if my trauma bond creeps up. And it reminds me why I'm better off without her.

@corinneyaworski-mh9uc

7 ай бұрын

I tried staying away from him but he would call me in a worried state wondering what was up. All I did was cry and had panic attacks. I started drinking coffee a lot but I have developed Trigeminal Neuralgia. I called him in a panic and he did not respond. I see how dependant I get with him. All this with someone who should have been an emergency room doctor. I guess I need someone like that.

This also happens when you are in an environment that is spiritually toxic. It happened when I was living with my in-laws for a very short while. The place was extremely heavy and I was constantly getting spiritual attacks and getting sick even though my diet was on point. Thank God I have a close relationship with Yah to known when to move. Now my father in-law is the one taking all the blows and he is deteriorating every time I see him.

Skydiving helped me a lot through the healing process after my mother abuse.

Oh we know 😢, talk about on the job training! Be kindest to yourselves, you deserve it and you're undoubtedly behind in your contributions, best wishes from Montreal! ❤

I had all of them and stuck in my life. I hope I heals from this trauma. Thank you soooooo much Danish. I got all my answear which I was looking for so long. ❤

My heart starts to beat so fast when that attacks happens ,i have this all and have noticed that my vision is bad ,somethimes i think i am going to be blind.Must stay in contact ,court decision ,it is horror same as i am present

Failure for wounds to heal. Insomnia Muscle tension Vision Stress and anxiety Panic attacks Inflammation 2 1/2 months gone,still dealing with stress and depression due to her taking our 12yo daughter without my consent 😢 💔 but all the other symptoms are noticeably going away!😊 This is as some other realizations are what I turn to when I have bouts of trauma bond issues. Keeping me on the right path to recovery and living a happy and healthy life. 🙏

I started having unexplained headaches, then random nausea. At one point i would just vomit anything i ate bc my nerves were so shot. I dropped weight also. I was walking on eggshells in my marriage due to narc abuse. I had severe depression and anxiety

Towards the end I was having panic attacks. I was having chronic fatigue - everyday I was in fight or flight mode. I couldn’t lose weight even in Keto and had IBS symptoms. My vision would go blurry when I first woke up. I coughed a lot every time we slept next to each other. I had trouble regulating my heart rate. I fainted several times. I just thought it was a part of aging or allergies.

Insomnia is my # 1 . Because my profession is business management, I thrive in problem solving environments. I have a need to mitigate issues as they appear. I wake regularly every couple hours with: “ how do I navigate this?” What must I expect going forward? I also grieve the loss of the sibling I thought I knew and loved. The sibling I thought I was coming to the aid of. Only to Learn WHY she hated me so much. The turbulence in her moods. Her victim hood. I thought she loved me. I was just a tool……all this time. If you want to know if your sibling is narcissistic, draw even the most shallow boundary and watch the reaction.

I have dealt with all of this because of narcissistic people that raised me. I ended up with a fib. I will never allow a narcissistic person or bpd person around me again. Ever.

1-10: CHECK

It is 35 years since I divorced Nex, and I still have these symptoms! Post dorce, and 4 children, I went back to university, got a super job and career for 25 years, retired, but still struggling with these symptoms. The fatigue, inflammation, visits to doctor, never seem to go away. But I've been happy since divorce. And it was Danish whose talks have been helping me understand this condition and begin healing. Thank you Danish.

Oh my God It means living with such person is not less than giving yourself punishment without any cause. As a survival we are not only providing supply to make them happy but on the contrary we are killing ourselve.

That happened too me I got random panic attacks and had seizures.

Living with a narc mother and aunt I struggled with constant ear infections and skin blemishes. My appendix burst at age eleven and I almost died. When I knew my narc husband was only getting worse I woke up at three and had to rush to the loo to vomit. Just sleeping next to him made me so unbalanced and nauseous. My body showed these signs. And of course I looked so haggard and overweight and unkept that my stylish mother said I looked older than her.

I have many of them. It saddens me that most doctors and counselors don’t know this information. High resting heart rate, chronic fatigue , tense body. Every one of those except panic attacks and hives. It breaks my heart for my younger self. And for my sons. It is written that with all your getting, get wisdom. And understanding. Getting some understanding helps all of us. I wish I could shout this information from the roof! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for bringing us this wisdom so we can get some understanding and get better.

Love your vids. Very entertaining and educating.

AYURVEDA AYURVEDA AYURVEDA helps bring the body/mind back into balance so much! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Narc/DV/trauma therapy is still highly necessary however

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR INSIGHTFUL INFORMATION. I HAVE ALL OF THESE SYMPTOMS AND DIDN'T KNOW WHERE THEY ORIGINATED. JUST HEARING THIS HAS ANSWERED SO MANY MYSTERIES OF MY HEALTH PROBLEMS.

Every symptom. Was sent to an oncologist due to high white blood cells and inflammation. Nothing was found to indicate cancer. No answer for me. I do believe you have explained my problem. Thank you

Diabetes…. Now , after all most 2 years, values down. Lost 10 kg, the sadness still , anger, . It’s been a process , day by day, struggling with financial issues, try to survive after 16 years in THAT “ word of marriage. A Nightmare when you, Finelly, wake UP from de “ induzed coma”.

I honestly never thought of the fast heartrate and breathing problems being my body's response to the trauma I was experiencing. I would frequently have heart flutterings, like a panic attack (perhaps it was one?) and I would feel an overwhelming feeling of fear and it would hurt in my chest too. I would also breathe shallow and sometimes stop breathing and then have to gulp down air when I realized. In the three years since leaving, I haven't had any of that. I do still struggle with fatigue and grief & sadness, but less the latter, and the former is getting better as well. Slowly healing, it's all I can expect.

@odduckOasis

5 ай бұрын

Also, insomnia was something I dealt with heavily in my first year of marriage- and I never had that problem before in my life. Only looking back on it now do I even comprehend it was from a result of what was happening at home- especially because I honestly still have no memories of the bad things from those first years of marriage... whatever he was doing to cause all of that happening, I have no memory of it- which is why I was convinced there was nothing wrong for so long.

I struggle with sleep and inflammation and always tightened up in my muscles. When I first left him 7 months ago I slept for days straight now I can't sleep at all no matter what I do. My body is swollen.

@staceygonzales7782

7 ай бұрын

@@jbrown2908 thank you. I will try that. I've tried alot of different things I will try anything. It is affecting my quality of life. I'm ready to live again freely

Exceptional information to help narc survivors understand what is going on with their bodies and why! Many thanks for this excellent presentation of information.

I was lying down on the couch .. Sunday .. watching the Walton's.. and while lying down it clocked 37 bpm

You've reminded me to take my meds. I can't afford to leave as rents are at crises point; she owns much of 'our' property.

💯 true every things God bless you🙏

All of them Bashir... it is crazy .. I was so stressed.. to the point of being diagnosed with auto immune Gi disease (crohns) losing my eyesight , skin issues.. cognitive dissonance.. after now 9 months out, things are returning back to normal. Thank you for sharing this one, it is so on point. ( btw I was in a 4 year relationship prior to the narcissist and I experienced none of them. No questionmark there)

🙏 Thank you Bro, Merry Christmas to you, and everyone here, it will take a few years to get over this.. just being Real..💔❤🤠

@B-Nia

7 ай бұрын

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According to my FITBIT right now my resting heart rate is 70. I am sitting in my recliner binge watching my fave tv show. I have not done any exercise today and as I type this my heart rate is 98. I love your info but when I watch ANY narcissistic video or think about it my heart rate shoots up. My eyes are puffy and dark. Not mascara. After 2 months of no contact the puffiness is almost gone, and the dark sunken eyes fading. My gut issues working on being better than ever. Lol if I was stuck in a room with my narc my gut would start bubbling. Almost every time I would rip a huge fart and get escape by going to the bathroom. Overtime the gas became uncontrollable no matter who I was with. It’s nice having more control of that! We all fart etc, but to not fart every time I moved is nice!!!

Thank you so much, Danish...all 10 pertain to me but I AM overcoming some of them...inflammation still remains...I can sleep for 12/14 hours a night...please pray for chronic lower back pain to leave...I have been alone now a long time but was in these relationships until I was 40 years...baby to 40...now I am 70...I NEED to recieve complete healing In Jesus Name...

also, i love that saying “trust your guts” n i follow it with “they know their shit”….. the saying is lost on a lot of people but the few that understand the wording are worth the confusing looks the others throw out

Excellent advice on sleep

All of them smh...it's a wonder I'm functioning 🥴🥱🥱😳🙁 my entire existence is....there has to be another word for 'exhausted'

I’m halfway thru and this is super accurate least in my case.

I really want to let go of this man 😭 I’ve lost two pregnancies due to the stress 😢

Many thanks, Danish

True massage iam sick with various physical problems but no sympathy at all.

I had all of them being in a relationship with a malignant self righteous narcissist. My main issue was breathing.

I had the weirdest rashes on both my legs when I was married to the narcissist. Dermatologist couldn’t figure out what it was. I was always on edge and walking on eggshells. Turns out that after I left him, the rashes subsided. I think I’m still trying to recover, decades later.

I don’t know how you know all these things…but you have hit everything pretty much exactly …..

Now i understand why i feel alllergic all of sudden out of blue

I needed to hear this information exact whats happening to me

This explains everything.

Never been in a relationship before. Waited for the right person she turned out to be a narcissist moved out of relationship with in one month the damage she gave me was alot. That i am still thinking why would she do that to me i gave her everything she ever dreamed of. She would be very sad whenever i buy her a gift. Then she would tell her family he doesn’t buy things for me.

I have experienced every one of these signs.