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Good tips, but I think one still needs to be careful with asking open-ended questions... or rather, asking too many of them. I know one person who does that, and I'm always exhausted after talking with her, because it feels like an interrogation rather than a friendly game of tennis. Perhaps it's because she doesn't offer the back and forth about herself, so it just seems as if I'm fielding questions? (Even when I try to ask questions it seems as if she is super quick to get it back to having me answer questions instead. It may be that she has put up a "wall.")

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

You are quite right. The goal is to ask some questions to get the ball rolling and then offer some of your own details (as mentioned in the video) so it feels like the friendly game of tennis and the conversation goes back and forth in a nice exchange. If it feels too much like a one-way Q&A, then it won't be as satisfying. In general, however, most people ask zero questions in conversations. I've been keeping track informally on this for about 20 years. The worst conversationalists are the ones who either talk the whole time about themselves (and ask no questions) or just won't talk unless somebody asks them a question. Your friend who asks too many questions would be a rare exception based upon what I've observed over the years.

@laneyoh5

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon I completely agree! Thanks for the feedback. 🙂

@JodiesWay

Жыл бұрын

I’m the one who won’t talk unless asked a question. And I hate talking to someone who talks too much, especially ones who don’t be talking about anything of true substance and I’m just not very talkative. The problem with open ended questions for me is that, do I really care for the answers so if I genuinely don’t care to know I won’t ask, therefore there’s no conversation to be had that “friendly tennis game” you mentioned. I want to be a better conversationalist I just don’t like speaking to people lol. 😬

@cherylecooper906

Жыл бұрын

I had a friend like that. I agree, it can be exhausting. For me, it definitely felt like an interrogation. Plus, there were times when this particular friend wasn't nearly as forthcoming -- whenever I asked her any open-ended questions. ☹

@rnguyen2516

Жыл бұрын

@@cherylecooper906 I have a couple friends like that, and I agree! I always feel judged at the end of my encounters with them, lol!

Alex you are an exceptional Speakerand Teacher and Coach !!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽Thanking you for all these valuable tips, lessons will never be enough !!!

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!

yes!, open ended questions really have you more connected to the person.. it happened to me! 😼😃👏✅️

These are great, Alex! I believe -- in the right mix and careful balance -- these tips make up the art of meaningful engagement. ❤

I appreciate videos like this 🙏🏼

Amazing content as always Coach! Basics boiled down in accessible format.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, R G.

Asking open ended questions!! Yesss! It always surprises me when another human does this! Immediately makes you feel valued.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Yes, agreed. The other night, I asked somebody about what a typical day at work looks like for him. It lead to a great conversation, I learned a ton, and he later thanked me for asking him about his work.

thank you so much that's what i have been looking for in me but I couldn't articulate it and you did it for me now it's way clearer in my head

Excellent!

Nice presentation style and happy mood are impressive! What’s more, clear speech!

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Kjaan.

Thanks for sharing these tips !!

These tips are good for getting shy kids to talk too

Awesome advice! Thank you

Lol. Why I’m a great date! I’ve been on dates where he pretty much knows nothing about me, but because I ask questions (sincerely) - he thinks I’m super interesting. 🤣🤣🤣

Usually I don't want to talk to people. In my head "Stop talking !"

Great tips!

What to do when we ran out of questions? There arise a awkward silence And i hate it

Great tips

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Glad you like them. Thanks.

Personally i don't like it when they get too curious about me since i am a bit personal

Can we have adhd conversationalist tips? I literally think of questions the next day even if.i am very interested in the person...I just cant get my brain present. 😔

Phenomenal. Does becoming a great conversational add to becoming a great public speaker? Curious minds want to know. Blessings of love 💜

@blessingsoflove

Жыл бұрын

I'd love to share what I know one day with others.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Being a good conversationalist can certainly help with public speaking. It's just that public speaking is more demanding and requires advanced preparation. But once you get rolling, those conversation skills will kick in and help you connect with your listeners.

@blessingsoflove

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon That's wonderful knowledge. Thank you for the golden nuggets. I may just stick to small groups of people in the near future. Blessings 💜

❤️

"don't talk about yourself too much"

Hi Alex, i would love to touch base with you for a speaking session for a group of Environmental Public Health professionals from Canada. We have a tough enforcement role but unlike the police we are more often challenged and can find ourselves in tough situations. It is essential for us be able to communicate effectively in those situations and also other situations where we are dealing with the public. I find that women tend to have more challenges in this role then their make counterparts, especially in small town settings.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the inquiry. I'll have to pass on the opportunity. I'm not taking on any new clients at this time.

How to listen when you don't want to? The person is important but I can't seem to get curious about them

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes, curiosity is a choice.

@kawaiime4714

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon A choice you say.... I won't know until I try, I guess. A choice,okay 👍

What if the person keep talking about himself with no interest to hear your view?

why would anyone want to have a conversation with anyone? thats humanities curse…the spoke word

@samuelbeatsminecraft2049

8 ай бұрын

Lol

Shorts suck. Just make a video even if it’s only 2 minutes.

For the love of gawd shorts are stupid