"Assume that the person you're listening to knows something you don't." Perfect.

@jeremywolf9314

4 жыл бұрын

Even if they know nothing that you already do there is a lot things that they are unconscious about that you can learn.

@amarakamara9427

4 жыл бұрын

Read his book on that! It's brilliant!

@Siquomb1

4 жыл бұрын

@@jeremywolf9314 This would take a conscious conversationalist. An aware individual. BRAVO sir!

@rum867

4 жыл бұрын

No bragging, but I always do that, and it’s always true, the person always knows something I don’t. That also helps to listen, because you should not assume you know everything the person going to say

@bader9205

4 жыл бұрын

I always try to think like that!

"If your life isn't exactly how you want it to be, you have something to learn."

@zaveeramini9712

3 жыл бұрын

Your life is exactly what you want it to be.

@spanishflyevh9606

3 жыл бұрын

@@zaveeramini9712 /end thread

@neoletsoalo6090

3 жыл бұрын

this sparks alot of insight

@SamPhoenixKnight

2 жыл бұрын

This is dumb. He sets this up as some profound piece of wisdom but he’s just joining two ideas that everyone learns in preschool: no one knows everything, no one is perfect. Thus everyone is in a position where they could learn more AND be more fulfilled with their life. People really fall for the most hollow rhetorical trickery when it comes out of JPs mouth.

@gcolombelli

2 жыл бұрын

@@SamPhoenixKnight You'd be amazed to find out how common is to find people that either forgot or ignore those two simple facts. Perhaps you live in a bubble of very reasonable people, or perhaps you just didn't look hard enough to notice it.

"A Wise man will always learn more from a fool, than a fool can ever learn from a wiseman"

@CardsoftheQueen

2 жыл бұрын

Perfect words, it resonates my sentiments.

@flashy3175

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful

@chuckecheesesbrother5382

Жыл бұрын

Feel like I'm stuck being a fool 😔

@aaronwebb1548

Жыл бұрын

@@chuckecheesesbrother5382 You have a choice. All that is required to be a Good person is to be honest and pay attention. All else is personality. Good luck out there.

@JaneThatcher89

Жыл бұрын

Love it! ❤ thanks for sharing! Who originally said this? I’m assuming it’s not your words, because it’s in quotes…?

I've been Uber driving for about six weeks. I've found that it is a beautiful opportunity to engage in valuable conversations with complete strangers. The key is to be interested in what a man or woman has to say, and to let that man or woman know you are interested. Picking up crumbs of knowledge and dispensing those crumbs is hugely satisfying. Many riders leave my car happier and more satisfied than they were when they climbed in.

@marekszirdzins

5 жыл бұрын

Nothing is more enriching on a business trip than another story of an Uber driver. That's the best part of it as far as I can tell.

@alecjones4135

5 жыл бұрын

Fantastic

@FDosty

5 жыл бұрын

@@marekszirdzins Did you get the "as far as I can tell" from Peterson?

@FIshfood500

5 жыл бұрын

Maybe their just happy to be getting out of your car so they don’t have to listen to your bullshit anymore

@jjbasilis3280

5 жыл бұрын

prefer uber driver to just just shut up & drve. happier when i arrive at destination safe and intact.

This all comes down to a simple line from Desiderata, "Listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story.."

@xHenry3110

5 жыл бұрын

Eh life's too short to listen to the dull...

@Boodles2007

5 жыл бұрын

Even shorter for the ignorant. Ignorance for some people is a constant.

@filmNFX1

5 жыл бұрын

That's why I'm here listening to Peterson.

@FIshfood500

5 жыл бұрын

I won’t listen to them. It’s a waste of fucking time

@humanentity5890

5 жыл бұрын

I don't waste my time listening to the dull or trying to reason with the ignorant.

5:43 talking about the audience being engaged in the conversation, girl sleeping front and center (yellow bracelet) lol

@deathrodamus9608

6 жыл бұрын

I Dunno, yeah I noticed too. Her money and time are wasted from the moment she slept.

@jamham69

6 жыл бұрын

...Our time here is completely pointless! he says XD

@Skiddla

6 жыл бұрын

women.... hehehe

@MK-fy8uz

5 жыл бұрын

yes she was very noticeable on first watch, and i think a very good example for exactly what petersen was talking about!

@TraderGus

5 жыл бұрын

Maybe his comment was directed to her specifically. He has said in other videos that he pays attention to individual members of the audience.

The girl sleeping killed me🤣🤣🤣

@fumifoficial8338

4 жыл бұрын

Jajajaja, imagine her reading our comment and talking of it, it eill be amazing

@kovecsroli

3 жыл бұрын

Just right when he was talkong about impirtant is engagement in a conversation xddd

"You can't force someone to be better." There are modern social groups who have yet to embrace this understanding.

@fortyninehike

Жыл бұрын

Marxists know this; it’s not about growing, but cutting down anyone taller than you

@fncinder1415

Жыл бұрын

My friends

"...we're trying to pay attention, enough to see if everyone is engaged in the conversation..." 05:44 - There's a shot of the audience. And I had to laugh because there was a girl in a silver jacket with a fluorescent wristband fast asleep. Love it =)

@drakenagle

Жыл бұрын

😂😂

@ameredewdrop

Жыл бұрын

OMFG THANK YOU. I was just checking to see if there was someone else in the comments who noticed it and said it so that I didn't have to!!! XD!!

@spencer6288

Жыл бұрын

That was so funny lmaoo I was looking for this comment xD

@lukimtb851

Жыл бұрын

I was looking for this comment 😂💯

@eXebeno

Жыл бұрын

i scrolled through the comments to see if anyone else thought the same hahah

Just finished listening to his book, amazing man

@noahpayton8639

2 жыл бұрын

Which one

@RXP___417

2 жыл бұрын

@Chad He has an audio book

@no.name.huncho215

Жыл бұрын

name of book?

@j.clements2093

Жыл бұрын

@@no.name.huncho215 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson.

Dope sound quality.

@TheHelghast1138

5 жыл бұрын

The sarcasm is strong with this one

@PinkyMinions

4 жыл бұрын

CurbsideUnderwood this one too

@RAGEMASTER1

4 жыл бұрын

Michael more like the sound quality is dope sick

@AI-vy1nx

4 жыл бұрын

The Dopest......

@shaunredekopp2302

4 жыл бұрын

Fucking brutal

And what about "How to better record a conversation"? 😳

@TheMilwaukeeProtocol

5 жыл бұрын

Snap

@FirstnameLastname-jz1ux

3 жыл бұрын

BURN

@Kinobambino

3 жыл бұрын

Daaaaamn

@tiwiogunye

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@martynan716

3 жыл бұрын

🙈🙉🙊

sound guy: "How loud do you want your microphones?" spokespeople: "yes"

@JT-cq7zo

5 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭😂😂

@Dplaysitcool

5 жыл бұрын

Hahaha!

@manictiger

4 жыл бұрын

Wait, the peak meter isn't supposed to be red or read "+10 db"?

@myflymkultra268

3 жыл бұрын

@@manictiger lmaoo

The fact his talks are free to watch are mind blowing. This man is saving younger men more than he understands. Me included. Thank you so much

@firelight3806

4 ай бұрын

Women too

It is always efficient to avoid unnecessary conversations. Avoid excessive words, questions & exaggerations.

@BeinIan

2 жыл бұрын

Is it? The only benefit I see is that it saves time, but applying that perspective to all of your conversations means you miss out on learning all kinds of things. Then you're forced to learn the lessons through experience, which takes much longer than the deep conversation would have. I think the nugget of truth at the center of your statement is that we should strive to express ourselves as precisely as possible to avoid misunderstandings. But even when we fail to do so, we can often learn just as much from the misunderstanding if we take time to understand it.

@joythurman9982

6 ай бұрын

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We are so lucky to have Jordan Peterson and grateful that his family shares him with us

@Hxbile

Жыл бұрын

you mean that he shares himself with us he is not anyone's property.

@akbarpashtun

Жыл бұрын

Yes, thankful to his family for his time on such works. Such people have very less family time

Unbelievable, a Jordan Peterson video without an unrelated clickbait title. Every time I keep thinking he will tell me the meaning of life and I end up learning something else entirely lol

@achraflabdouni5770

2 жыл бұрын

Why would you want to know the meaning of life from a human he is a creature like you he struggles with life like you he have his own problem like you...if you want to know the meaning of life go read God words (allah)

@Nicoladen1

2 жыл бұрын

And perhaps that in itself is the meaning 😁 Learning more and more until you've learned so much that you realize logic was after all not what life is about. Life is experience, all thought and logic is pausing life to comment on said experience. Looking for meaning is neglecting life to stick to your notebook all your life finding meaning. Until at last you realize you missed the point completely. How to live happily? Live fully. Stop commenting on everything life has to offer, because you're not fully alive when you're stuck in that notebook. That's why kids are so joyful, why sunsets can be beautiful. Because just for a moment we close that notebook of logic and reasoning and we just embrace the experience. That's all.

@adaptercrash

Жыл бұрын

​​​@@achraflabdouni5770 those things from pluto? Some ancient satellite that emits frequencies and talks to people and controls half the population on earth?

I have slept too in many lectures but if Jordan peterson was talking in front of me I can stay awake for whole day. 5:43

Bless all of u , because even if you are broken , Stoped , or lost you are here giving your first steps like me , we are toghether in this

"if your suffering more than you think is necessary, that means that you are more ignorant than you need to be" holy shit that was on the nose.

The topic is almost as amazing as how they change seat positions twice in just 6 minutes without ever getting up.

@GLo1991

3 жыл бұрын

@@977-1 bro duh. It’s a joke

@lorrainelez1

3 жыл бұрын

😁 Yeah I was kinda confused at first.

this sounds like my conversations back in mw2

Working with a financial expert could truly set you up for life. I'm delighted I was able to contact my coach Karim .E. Karim earlier this year because while others were busy whining about the downturn I was busy cashing out finally making over 370k only for the first quarter of the year.

@rachellovescats8481

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your success story. I immediately typed in your coach's name to discover him on Google. He's simple to deal with, and his signals are excellent as well.

@lynnpeterson3763

Жыл бұрын

@@jamalraymond1074 I just searched His name on Google and found him easily, how have I been sleeping on this!

@elpresidente7569

Жыл бұрын

this is a bot, dont be fooled by the almost perfect 500 likes and the fact that all the comments were made in the exact same 10 second timeframe

@milant4810

Жыл бұрын

​@@elpresidente7569yep and all accounts creted 11 months ago😂😂😂. Very strange

@worlore1651

Жыл бұрын

Bot

The equalizing of the audio is phenomenal: all of the earrape frequencies have been blasted up, and the vocal frequencies have been kicked down it seems. TEACH ME THIS

A person speaking his mind. A miracle, unbelievable stuff!

Jordan: "There seems to be a massive and relatively untapped market for actual conversation." Clubhouse: Oh hi there

Really like how he talks and thinks I can't stop watching clips like this and others.

The other day i had a great conversation with a guy at a tire shop. About hiswelding carrier. I love it when a guycan just feel comfortable talking about something simple.

Brilliant insight!! Very thoughtful n dedicated of him to analyse people!

Spent too many years with someone who wouldn't hear me, and would commonly respond with emotionally abusive tactics. Now trying to relearn how to allow others in and have a collaboration and conversation rather than hiding behind the fear and nervously talking about myself. To trust allowing someone to be heard and listened to and take interest in them well, and chance being shut out by another human and made to feel invisible is so hard.

The model outlier ... authentic and oozing the truth about so many aspects of this existence

5:45 is priceless. JP taking about how if the crowd isn’t engaged then the conversation is pointless....pan to girl in crowd completely unconscious.

What a great conversation

I love how he talks about paying the audience attention to see if they’re engaged in the conversation, and the camera cuts to a girl sleeping in the audience at 05:44 XD

I love how 5:43 was so engaged that she passed out.

Prof P. Jordan, Thank You for being the person you are & taking a firm stand on what you believe, think & feel. You talk straight to the souls of us young man. Thank you 🙏🏾. If you were an army general/commander i'ld join the army straight right away & would die in honour under Ur unshaken command.

@alexbaribeault

2 жыл бұрын

Chill dude. Let's not form a cult around Jordan Peterson

Every video is about being a better listener and I don't struggle with that. I just don't have anything of value to say. I struggle with starting conversations. I can't just keep starting conversations by asking questions.

A good conversation is one in which both parties realize their innate uniqueness and equal value.

@ZenCz

8 ай бұрын

What are you doing in this planet being so wise. You should be like Jordan Peterson my friend

@indianflippingart9593

6 ай бұрын

💀​@@ZenCz

"You're not listening" by Kate Murphy. Great book that talks about having better conversations. This video reminded me of it :)

I can’t wait till I can afford to have him as my therapist 😂

@thumbsupd5164

4 жыл бұрын

u d be rich by then, u won t need him! but a nice motive though.

@patman_for_sure

4 жыл бұрын

@@thumbsupd5164 rich people still need therapy, don't you think?

@scorzi10

4 жыл бұрын

thumbs up :D you got the message wrong if you think money is the end all be all

@Psalm_27.4

3 жыл бұрын

@Nacho until then, watch his videos multiple times. You will gain a lot. Also, here is another video series even better: MEN'S THEOLOGY CLASS (A great biblical resource about REAL manhood kzread.info/head/PLoVDFR2cdnEFRis2wzx1RzQpIxJkQu_cP This will actually have a therapeutic effect, IF you are receptive! Blessings!

@Mo-rf9ev

3 жыл бұрын

Is it expensive?

Meaningful conversation and seeking wisdom, a fair assumption that its what we want, it seems that a lot of people my self included were just a pile of mouthbreathers bringing our answers and opinions to the table. Now I dont feel so weird about listening with intent to seek someone elses knowledge and seeing how I can use it was what I loved to do. Finding people to have that conversation with is tough most of the time. Life feels like a Zoo of loose animals,( I'm a bird) so I just like listening to your p.o.v. Sometimes I just cant understand your point, but when I do, oh boy, I see the puzzle differently, like my meditations and where they begin in my mind, is so beyond tv or imagination wow, I knew I was connected with God but you helped me confirm that, I live so far north in Ontario that going to another city to see you speak is a serious goal...hoping for Winnipeg on July 9, or was it 29th...hmmm

2019, the year when someone can be inspiring by knowing how to hold a decent conversation...

@AQS521

5 жыл бұрын

Supreme Happiness lol, right! I wonder if future generations will have more socially inept skills due to most conversations occurring through technology.

the last phrase he says was most profound and significant to me

look how he stares off onto the ground when listening. I’ve seen this before in other people . Gives I’m holier than thou vibes

Love how Peterson says "Okay.?" when he doesn't agree. He doesn't outright disagree with you but you know he's not on the same page.

@AndrewGKMusic

5 жыл бұрын

I think if you had write it down the way he says it you'd have to write "Okay.?;"

@kartikkesarwani1320

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed and updated

@pascaltomasovic3586

4 жыл бұрын

@Ligeia D.Aurevilly i learned that unless you tell people: oh yes, i absolutely agree on what you just said in the last (specific amount of time), BUT... they will always assume that you didn't listen to them, or how else could you possibly have a different opinion and view on things. and it really pisses ME off. engaging in conversations is something i really like to do, but apparently most of the people i'm talking to are not interested in opinions that differ from theirs and they will start changing topics before you fully articulated your view of one topic, leaving your arguments incomplete and seemingly weak.

When there is demand for knowledge. Even the most valuble knowledge can be supplied in the most casual conversations.

Thank you for the information. This improves my communication.

For so many years I had this idea of “I know exactly what the other person would say in a particular conversation” so I don’t have to pay any attention to what they want to say, I think that would work if you know that person for so long that you’ll know what they will say about something. But after this video I started to realize that was totally different and that person likely would say something entirely useful and you could learn from it

The sound quality truly amplified those awesome socks... Guess the original sound guy moved up the dominance hierarchy.

@isaacisland1

5 жыл бұрын

Brilliant haha. Yes! He's ascended to become king of lobsters, crustaceans overlord.

@mickelsimf9956

4 жыл бұрын

Smirk*

Another interesting video - thanks for posting.

The girl at the bottom on 5:43 is timed perfectly with what peterson is saying right there

Thanks for sharing this incredible information ❤

I was court mandated drink therapy, i did not take it serious just say what you need to tick the boxes was easy. After years of making an absolutely catastrophe of my life it was finding Jordan Peterson’s ideas and philosophy of life has had a huge impact of my life i believe I’m the best I’ve ever been but getting better every day, even though tough times I strive to make whatever the bad evil situation maybe I make it the best it can be

Also we learn just how much we have in common

just try to be benevolent at every word. Easy!

I've been thinking that for longer than I remember.

Did anyone else notice the girl asleep at 5:40 hahahahaha just when Jordan was talking about engaging with the audience

Jordan Peterson: “If everyone is engaged in the conversation” Girl with green bracelet (5:45) :

@im2524

3 жыл бұрын

lol 🤣

Talking about engagement at the end and there is someone asleep in their chair. Every time I listen to this guy my perception about something is completely flipped. Every time I have some tiny revelation about something that I've never concisely acknowledged

Great video hope it would be all available.

Very enlightening. I needed to hear this

These are very good plan points to a conversation. How many of us actually have these types of chats. I see, after reflection, it's very rare in my life. I'm to busy trying to walk my path, to stop and smell the flowers.🤔

Lol 5:43 girl in middle row, 4th from the right looks “engaged” 😂

5:38 "We're trying to pay attention to you at least enough to see if everyone is engaged in the conversation" - Camera pans to audience with girl fast asleep 😂😂

Listening to everyone, really listening and hoping to join them in their perspective regardless of how you feel about them is quite possibly the most difficult, yet admirable traits to earn. I've known a few people that can do this and it really is earned. Its something you work for with years of practice. It requires patience, compassion, understanding, and a deep innate calm. I personally fucking hate people and don't see myself getting there anytime soon, but one can hope!

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6 жыл бұрын

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@cstevenson1234

6 жыл бұрын

Could you include the source in the description?

Man oh man how good this is

5:38 LMAO that fact that someone in the crowd is sleeping while has talking about engagement

The girl at 5:44 at bottom of screen looks engaged in the convo

@SimulationSeries

6 жыл бұрын

Hahah right!

@miramardream

5 жыл бұрын

Bauer Films Hahaha. So true. He says “engaged” & there she is -engaged-😔 ☺️

@kimbliss8429

4 жыл бұрын

That's awesome... LOL Pays to listen to Jordan B Peterson speak... Sleeps through it...

5:44 - Does anybody else see the girl sleeping when Jordan talks about people being engaged? I mean, his point is still valid but that is hilarious

@psychpinoy123

2 жыл бұрын

If you on the caption bar, just remove it, for you to see the sleeping girl.

Interesting how the interviewer seems to have acknowledged that engaging with the audience may be an asset given his field of work. He actually shifted his position towards the audience, also, when JP pointed out the reasoning of engaging with them. While JP was talking, he looked something like " You serious? Alright I`ll give it a try, ok, sure, no problem O.o " :))

There are so many gurus out there who promise to turn you into the chief ministers of charisma with psychological tricks and techniques, when, in reality, humility and natural intrigue is the key to any conversation.

People are more concerned with the audio quality rather than the message... smh did u receive the message? I certainly gained insight from the clip.

@veryconfused5158

5 жыл бұрын

It genuinely hurts to listen to, I had to stop.

@SimulationSeries

5 жыл бұрын

well said! the message is SO crucial

@devvv4616

5 жыл бұрын

Lol didn't realize it was such an issue. Just lower the volume if it hurts your ears, that's simple enough

@DoveDescendingMusic

5 жыл бұрын

Gross generalisation, that’s probably worse than people trying to connect and have a relatable chuckle at the video. Does not mean these people aren’t getting woke.

@saxonelyaman9212

5 жыл бұрын

TheSpacePyramids chill out bruh not that serious

@5:43 that girl looked pretty engaged in her dreams !!

Sound quality heat bro🔥🔥🔥

Thanks

5:33 That one lady is sleeping 🤣

5:44 "we're paying enough attention to see if you're engaged in the conversation" immediately pans to a girl asleep in her chair

@MO-vi5sz

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah

Enjoying conversation is the cheapest luxury ever ,I so enjoy it

Amazing lessons!

Dude. You are one of my heros. Your up there with Elon Musk and Joe Rogan. I love listening to yalls points of views. I learn so much from your videos.

@jasminguric6079

5 жыл бұрын

hahaha

@jorgexcalderonful

5 жыл бұрын

Joe Rogan? Ah haha

Peterson is right. The person has to want to be helped and be willing. I've learned that the hard way on more then one occasion that you cannot force it which is difficult if you want to help them badly enough and they are being difficult or even impossible. You care about there well being enough to be a bit aggressive when they forsake themselves and everything that matters and you get less forceful every new person yet when it gets frustrating enough to the point that it feels futile you can get quite amgry about their behavior and its hard to let it go and leave them to their bad choices even if you know that's the only choice they've given you because it feels like your giving up on them but in reality its them who are giving up and you just don't want to sit there and destroy yourself watching them destroy themselves and you.. Which walking away can so very difficult.. Its like the 100 there's a scene where Monty is trying his absolute hardest to change his friend jaspers mind but he is unable to and stays on that track to the bitter end. to be there when jasper drinks a drug that kills himself.. Its a very powerful scene and shows you how bad this situation can get.

@GIEGERJUNKER

Жыл бұрын

That scene fucked me up but I could see Jasper was dead for a long time

I'm trying reintegrate back into my own family, social structures, etc... I was having an issue with funding a purpose in speaking with people because of the thinking "who really cares, this prob doesn't matter to you so why share it?" in legitimately every conversation I waa having to the pojnt where I just started being short with everyone. No substance just enough to answer what was asked to avoid judgement or confusion. That's life though, finding the answers, finding the purpose. It just gets weird sometimes, I try not to be stoic as a result of the unanswered and assumed and just be glad I'm curious at all. I'd like to shape my curiousity into a more positive tool, just not sure how yet. But I'm learning.

Hello Professor Thank you so much for your help job,i do appreciate your job.I wish you peace and happness under the sky of prosperity. All the best. Take care and have a good time. Your Student from Algeria.

His insight into the Human Condition is amazing

Which side is the speaker on, I'm confused

"if everyone's is engaged in the conversation" 5:45 the woman sleeping lol

So good!

I like the color of the couches

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

@whyme3546

2 жыл бұрын

Amen!❤️

Thank you

3:03 - 3:16 ..I have to agree to that.....some people looks like idiots, but sometimes they know something you dont and it is pretty surprising and great

Bloody hell thats weird. Why did they flip it

@TheTGVPro

5 жыл бұрын

copyright

@nadvic1797

5 жыл бұрын

It's pretty funny and retarded imo that flipping a video influences copyright. Or does it only adress the issue of detecting copyright flaws auzomatically through algorithms? (I guess that would be at least as interesting though)

@MrShadowmaster00

5 жыл бұрын

@@nadvic1797 mostly avoiding automated algorithms, if a person actually went through the video and realized it's a flipped copy of something else, there wouldn't be much you could do to avoid a copyright strike

How come they switch places in the middle of a sentence?

This is a treasure trove of insights. A book I read recently was equally enriching. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

Living genius & legend

Shot to the crowd at 5:43, The green bracelet is passed out! Hella' engaged! lol

@juanmoran8126

5 жыл бұрын

Knocked

The sound guy knows "how to ruin a good conversation"

@d.2542

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, he’s like “Oh you think this is all about engagement. Watch me prove that wrong.”

The moment he said he had been watching the audience to check for engagement and the camera spanned the crowd to show a girl passed out from boredom 😂 5:44 It’s so ironic it’s funny.

hahahaha and the kid's sleeping right when the camera turns to the crowd