5 Things You Need to Remember When You're Feeling Discouraged // Stop Feeling Discouraged
When things get hard it's easy to get discouraged and then give up - but giving up won't help you move forward or have what you want most in life. Here are 5 things you need to know when you're feeling discouraged that will help you stay focused, motivated and moving forward toward the things that are important to you.
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I made a comment last night about how discouraged I feel in humanity right now. This was the first video on my list this morning. Coincidence?
@CherryBerryFashion
3 жыл бұрын
Nope. Synchronicity
@rongike
3 жыл бұрын
fate!
@chrisdigitalartist
3 жыл бұрын
@Jen T That's very hard. I feel discouraged too. I have to stay away from news, huh?
@totowashere
3 жыл бұрын
I think not!
@juliakristinamah
3 жыл бұрын
ouuuu... that's either amazing or a little spooky! lol
Watching from afar, but love videos like this Julia!
@juliakristinamah
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks - I appreciate and respect all the good work you're putting out into the world too.
@papaya2957
2 жыл бұрын
yay! Phsych2Go is hereeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Living in the past and feeling guilty has been something I have been dealing with for nearly 20 yrs. watching your videos has helped me so very much. Thank you for doing what you do
@juliakristinamah
3 жыл бұрын
Always. Really glad you're here.
This message came at the right time for me!🙏🏼
@veestampton1802
3 жыл бұрын
And for me too, feeling this way right now at this moment.
@juliakristinamah
3 жыл бұрын
I love it when that happens.
Its funny cause every week i make up a 2 page list of what i need to get done on the weekend and evey Saturday i wake up overwhelmed and dont do anything but lay on the couch. Then Sunday I get myself together but don't get much done and I'm agrivated with myself for not getting enough done!
@juliakristinamah
3 жыл бұрын
okay. So, can you commit to doing less?
@chrishorbatt3504
3 жыл бұрын
@@juliakristinamah it's a weird thing for me. Everything seams important, like I can't cut anything out. I do little tricks, like instead of putting down one big project I break it up into smaller individual things, than I get to cross off more stuff, and looks like I did more. Thanks for replying though, actually means more than you realize to someone who feels like their never heard!
1. Do less. But consistently. So much less, than it's not overwhelming. 2. You can't be anywhere else. Wether it's future or past. Be present... in present. 3. Just because you want something it doesn't mean the world owes it to you. (but if we pay attention to it we might win in a long run) 4. Our brain is always looking for a threat. All we have to do is to at least to get it from negative to neutral. 5. Celebrate all wins! We are all beat up. As a christian I'd prefer a view that it's not me who beat me up. Devil/society/family etc. as a kid I wouldn't criticise myself to deepest moments. It happened to me. Thank you. My name is Denis, I am 26. I am struggling to start my architectural career.
Oh my, this is exactly how I’m feeling :( I honestly feel like my whole life fell apart in so many ways and it’s just really hard not to feel discouraged. Hope this knowledge helps me
So needed this! I'm dealing with depression and anxiety...and been working on my dream of drum wellness program...and NOW adapting it virtually. But run out of energy FAST! As long as we're making progress on our dream...no matter how small...you're STILL making progress (you're not quitting. Look around how many people quit on their dream because of the pandemic). Be gentle with yourself...and small steps.😁
I’m from India & right now the 2nd wave of pandemic is ravaging our country.. with cyclones on both our east & west coasts. Every single person is feeling discouraged. Your video brought a lot of solace with it’s wisdom of “right now where we are, is the only place we can be.” Thank you. Subscribed. 🧡
And again your content is exactly what I am struggling with. I am in my master's program for counseling right now and I find myself struggling with school work despite me having plenty of time and resources to complete them. Part of me constantly feels guilty when I'm not making progress. Guilty because I know that nearly in my program has kids, full times jobs, spouses, and mental health struggles of their own. I will give myself one day off and spend the entire day mentally justifying my day off, instead of enjoying it and trusting myself to complete what I need to.
@ButterflyBeginningsCounseling
3 жыл бұрын
Good luck in school. What population do you want to work with?
@arlenemartin8894
3 жыл бұрын
@@ButterflyBeginningsCounseling I believe I would like to focus on the LGBTQIA+ community. It is hard to know because I am interested in so many aspects of mental health.
@ButterflyBeginningsCounseling
3 жыл бұрын
@@arlenemartin8894 totally understand, so many need help
I’ve been feeling a lot less discouraged lately, especially when it comes to work, but I can’t wait to hear your insights regardless!! I hope you have a wonderful rest of your week 🙏🏻❤️
@chrisdigitalartist
3 жыл бұрын
Awesome!
@juliakristinamah
3 жыл бұрын
what connected Admir?
@admirbarucija2018
3 жыл бұрын
@@juliakristinamah For me, the biggest takeaways were to not dwell on making mistakes because, for example, every time I make one at work I’m learning and improving, and making the proper adjustments! Also, I’ve come to realize that the world doesn’t owe me anything, and if I want something, I need to put the effort in to get/achieve it
Wow I just found you today. This has helped me so much as I have always discouraged with myself and thinking about the past too much. I did share this on my Facebook so that I won't lose your video cuz I think that I'll need to listen to this again. I'm just now learning to love myself at 55.
@chrisdigitalartist
3 жыл бұрын
Awesome. Remember you are the exact journey that you are suppose to be on! Good for you!
@loriraemorris4142
3 жыл бұрын
@@chrisdigitalartist thank you! Each day I learn so much. I have to remind myself, baby steps because I am so eager to be healed.
@chrisdigitalartist
3 жыл бұрын
@@loriraemorris4142 Yes! Good job. As Julia says, do less everyday. Baby steps. May you be healthy, may you be peaceful, may you be happy and may you live with ease my friend!
Loved the point about the world not owing us anything despite wanting it! That is not often said.
Always soooo happy to be here. Thanks for taking us along the Urnen.
My boyfriend and I just listened to this. It came to us at the right time. As always, thank you 😊❤
This message came right on time for me!! I needed to hear this on today. Thank you ❤️🙏🏾
Love this message, perfect timing for someone who has a few life changes up ahead
Your channel has really been helping me and my family understand things a lot better.
Thank you, Julie. We will see great things coming from you in the near future. You are more than a book!
I needed to hear this as I’ve achieved in other areas through repetition, and now I’m frustrated in what I’m working. It’s a lesson in faith, god keeps us busy in humility and action. Thanks bless you 🌻
Well said! Noting mistakes, I encourage mistakes as that's how wisdom is earned to not only make better choices in the future but to fix the mistakes rather quickly. Mistakes can benefit any many ways, like the invention of the microwave!
@chrisdigitalartist
3 жыл бұрын
Yes and to remind ourselves that mistakes doesn't make us a failure, it is just experiences with a undesirable outcome so then we can learn from it.
I've been in therapy and support groups and listening to you and others, and it has been really hard work but it has been so worth the effort. This video in particular is covering some of the same things I am currently doing in therapy and it is so helpful. I can't tell you how much my life has improved and your videos are a part of it.
@christopher22859
3 жыл бұрын
A year now.
Thanks Julia! This was at the perfect time for me. I didn't share this particular video but I have shared your name and invited a good friend of mine to follow you on facebook. She has just started watching your videos and they are really hitting home for her. You have and still are changing my life and and so I shared you with someone I thought you could help. One day she just may be a shifter never know. ❤ #shifter
Personally I find it important to identify the source of my feelings of discouragement. If the identified sources are not modifiable - if it is something I cannot do anything about, I learned that the sooner that I accept it, the earlier I can get out of the discouragement zone. Julia's advice on starting small consistent steps helps a lot because these steps not only distracts you from magnifying the nonmodifiable sources of your discouragement, but it also keeps you motivated mentally. Knowing that you are doing something towards your goals help a lot.
Hi Julia. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here regarding feelings of discouragement. I am a Masters Psyc student searching for practicum, and this pandemic has made this search so very tough. Please continue releasing such amazing and supportive content; it is much appreciated. Cheers.
I totally shared this! I've been getting better at treating myself well, but it's still a challenge for myself and many of my friends. These tips are quite helpful. Thank you.
This hit home! I’m just starting out as a recovery and ptsd coach and have been feeling so overwhelmed with all that goes into getting started then adding every day living to that , I just end up doing nothing since I’m not sure the best place to start . I came to the conclusion that making a daily task list with only one or two things a day on it would be the most helpful . Things are getting done and the way I feel is much better !
Your suggestions hit the mark. Absolutely dead on about staying in the process and realizing that there is no entitlement to get us to the next level of our goals. We have to plan and put in the work. Love the journey, but have a destination on the map so we know where we want to end up after the long drive.
Julia, thank you. You really are helping. I've been struggling for so long, I'm desperate to find some good tools to find the way out of this dark place. 🙏
Wonderful and thought provoking. This applies to me 1000%. Now that I am aware, I can “work” on making small changes. Thank you for opening my eyes! Have a wonderful day!
been stuck for a long time.....saving this ...I have a lot of regrets I need to move on from ......thank you for this video......oh shared on my Facebook page
Wow, this is so helpful, I stumbled across this video and I’m so glad I did. My work is so demanding and often I find myself burnt out and taking things very personal - I have seen another video on this too which I’m watching immediately after posting this. Thanks for sharing this freely.
So good! This is one of my favorite talks I’ve heard on KZread for years...so much valuable content packed in there...hopefully many people will “unpack it” for themselves! I will be sharing with a couple people today :)
I needed this soooo much almost like a handbook to get out of the fire! I just wanted to let you know that you are really so helpful
Thank you so much for the message, I just got out of a bad job interview and felt discouraged, but this video came at the right time and offered me the right support and energy to be back up and put myself out there again. Thank you for your work and words!
I'm student teaching for my M.Ed and I had my first rough day yesterday, it's so easy to want to give up. I have my first recorded observation today, your words and advice were helpful for me to hear this morning- thank you! :)
You're be insightful and talented, Miss Julia. I greatly appreciate your help.
Thanks Julia, I am intrigued by your talk, a very realistic observation and practical help tips you covered in this talk!! You’re compassionate and yet sharing the realistic options than self pity and griefs. ❤️
I feel so lost 😔 and I’m in a bad state right now. Felt like this for years but it’s really come to the fore now. Just feel like a failure. Thank you for this video
@chrisdigitalartist
3 жыл бұрын
So sorry to hear that. Remember you are not a failure. (I have thought about that myself too and it isn't true) You are worthy person my friend!
@kevinferrari1267
3 жыл бұрын
@@chrisdigitalartist thank you 😔 I feel like a worthless piece of crap everyday
@chrisdigitalartist
3 жыл бұрын
@@kevinferrari1267 Oh I am sorry to hear that. I understand. I have been there before. The struggle is real. My problem is that I always took that my worth is based on accomplishments. I learned that isn't true. Just know you just being human is all it takes for your worthiness. Julia's Shift society really helped with these thoughts. There are some book recommendations that may help you on your journey. Right now, I am reading the Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden (I haven't finished it yet, but so far, I love what I am reading.) I would also highly recommend Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff. Please hang in there. It does get better. May you be healthy. May you be safe. May you be peaceful and May you live with ease my friend.
@kevinferrari1267
3 жыл бұрын
@@chrisdigitalartist that’s extremely kind of you to say thank you. I’ll check out them books, by god I need help
@chrisdigitalartist
3 жыл бұрын
@@kevinferrari1267 You're very welcome. 🙏
These videos seem to come right when I need them. Thanks 🥰
I enjoy videos like these. It’s very hard after things happen in my life.
Thank you! I needed to hear this! Consistency is so true. I use a timer and set it for 15 mins and just do something like wash dishes or water plants or play a game on my phone or cut up the dead tree or play with the dogs, etc. Then when the timer goes off, I stop and go do something else or relax for 15 mins, etc. That way I am satisfying my perfectionist brain in a little way. After a while, what ever I wanted to get done gets done how ever long it takes.
Prefect timing! Thank you for your words of wisdom! Much appreciated!
Love all your videos and you have helped me so much! You are my walking partner every night for 90 minutes. I think I have listened to 75% of your videos already and have learned so much. Thank you! ❤️
I'm watching! I'm learning! Thank you Julia! I've always thought of depression kind of like a headache.. take some ibuprofen and itll go away, just compared it to a sad day.. right! Until now... until I haven't gotten out of bed for the last 4 years... until I've completely stopped liking anything in my life, people and things... until I'm just now realizing what this empty feeling is.. until I lost my mom the day after Thanksgiving.. the sadness, the guilt, the shame, are the only things I feel besides empty. Thank you for helping me realize. I start therapy next week.
Really needed to hear this, thank you!!
That 2nd tip, its so important to not get discouraged based on the things we want and things not going as planned, being able to look at things from a different perspective allows us to be open to other experiences the can happen along the way, that could be beneficial for us in the long run.
Dear lord, Thank you for these tools. I am able to cope in some serious dysfunction And learning how not to blame or shame myself. So grateful Julia
This is fantastic - thank you!
Thank you for making this video. Feel like you were talking to me in person cuz everything you said hit right on!
Thank you 😊 long time listener and first time to comment. I've completely slowed my life down in order for change and I really needed this right now. I am very unkind to myself and like others in the comments, I really needed to hear this today. You have helped me so much and I appreciate all that you do. 💚 thank you
@chrisdigitalartist
3 жыл бұрын
Please hang in there. I would recommend a book for you to read, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself By Kristin Neff
These are amazing therapy sessions, Julia! High-quality content and your communication is clear!
thanks this is so helpful...I was feeling like it's so hard and all this is so hard on me. but I realize now that's just the way it is, what it takes, and I see now that a little effort is just not gonna cut it.... I was so overwhelmed, trying to do too much, and feeling like not even starting because it's so much. these are great tips thank you I will pull myself up and find my determination again
Julia, thank you so much. You brought myself back. You take good care too.
I’m Back, new to the Shift Society. Need help with discouragement … I don’t like where I am in life. My boys aren’t talking to me and I’m very discouraged., I know I have to wait for them to come back to me but I’m very discouraged and have regret. I know I need to realize me feelings are just my thoughts are just words words in sentences. Ya I am looking back in the past but I have control what I think and I will change them I do grieve what could have been. But I will move forward because I don’t want to sit in the miserable . This is very helpful.
Omg u hit the nail on the head with exactly how im feeling and the thoughts im dealing with, this is the 1st video ive ever watched and so glad i found this channel , subscribed!!!
Loved this... I needed to hear this today. ❤
Thank you Julia Kristina so much, God bless you sweet lady!🤗🥰😇
Makes so much sense
The positive energy is priceless,when sometimes this is the only positive energy out there it seems,
You are very talented . . . so good at what you do. Thanks so much for sharing all this information because no one explains it like you can Julia. Blessings! Carol
Thank you again Julia Be safe out there🌈🏞😁
Helpful, honest, relatable. Thank you!
Thanks Julia. Your tools helped me.
Needed this, thank you 🙏🏽
Yep. The Name it and Claim it movement is lying to us. We can do our best and sometimes we dont get what we want even if we work hard for it. Sometimes the process teaches us alot and grows us but we dont get to the finishline where we have that job or that body we wanted or the degree we wanted. We can just do our best.
Thank you Julia! I needed this! I shared your channel to many friends!!
The first point really got me 😂😂😂!!! This has been me 1000% thank you! I think this will really work!
Thank you Julia...you are helping me
Your video was very insightful and uplifting.
Brilliant video as always, Julia, thank you.
Exactly what I needed to today. Thank you so much!
This is simply the BEST channel in youtube. 💫
I will share this with a couple of people I know because this is amazing video
Thank you . Very appreciated
crucial advice ! thank you!!
Very motivating & insightful, thank you! 🙏😌
Hi Julia...im sandy. Thank you for sharing this video
Very helpful.more self Love🙏🏾
Thanks very much. Your videos are always very helpful.
thank you very much for sharing your knowledge
I needed this. ThNks so much
Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it and needed it. Just went through a terrible experience.
Needed to hear this today!
This helps so much, you are great!! Thank you
Hi Julia!💞 Thank you!
So so helpful 🙏💞 so needed this x
I needed this too.
Hello My name is angela Roundy , I've been listening to a few therapist on KZread I've decided to go with you you make more sense then most
I love the surprising advice. Doing less is helpful.
Thank you Julia, getting unstuck slowly but surely ✌
this video has way more content than many other videos or talk shows or whatever. Hope she can have mroe and more views
She is just great!
Greetings my name is Evan, 29 years old and I'm autistic I'll be watching this everyday for years as it will never "fully sink in" due to my condition and habit of self doubt thinking of the years. I've started art seriously this year and want to be a great artist and make 💶 off it eventually. My main root of discouragement is comparing my art to others and seeing there masterpieces and thinking "I can never do this" instead of using it to ask "how is it done in its simplicity" "how can I break it down into simple steps" Another root of discouragement is my age. I started art seriously at 28 and taking art class and online courses at 29 (atm) when I see other peoples work I instantly have that mindset that "I missed out big time in art and wasted it on other things" "is 29 too late for me to start an art career" I find life more challenging due to my mental illness but it didn't stop me from travelling the world, living independently, getting a job in my 20s. Now I'm doing a lot of walking 3-4 hours on average which helps me feel good and achieving virtual medals and challenges. However none of this will ever stick in as of my condition so I'll be watching this everyday for years along with long walks to have any chance of having a "normal mindset" to do art.
Brilliant!
Thank you soooo much for the empowerment 💝🥰💐💐💐
Thank you 😭
So helpful 👌🏿👌🏿 thank you 🙏🏿🙏🏿❤️
I felt that when she said " you can't criticize yourself into feeling good" I do it all the time. I'm like if I remind myself I will do better the next time, but honestly, it makes me just tired.
Thank you.