I met a man, an army veteran, who proposed 3 months after meeting! He’s ready to be a husband, and I, a wife. Wedding is this month! I have been abstinent for a little over a year! I’m so happy to finally be wife at 31. RC Blakes & Tony Gaskins has really helped me out in finding out where I was going wrong. Thank you to both of you! Update 02/2024 : We just had our first baby , we are so happy and I’m so blessed to be a wife and a mom ❤️🎉🥳

@sandrasalinas9787

Жыл бұрын

God bless you ❤congrats 🎉

@rekanova3757

Жыл бұрын

Congrats and be prayerful in all situations!

@simplyameeraj

Жыл бұрын

3 months. You only known him for 3 months……. Be careful….

@Wealthybaby

Жыл бұрын

You shared this on a public platform so I’ll say it, Military men are iffy, so this sounds like a red flag 🚩.

@kalimbaayinde25

Жыл бұрын

Crazy military

1. Set boundaries. Don’t be too accessible. 2. Respect your body. It should be off limits. 3. Talk to you with respect. 4. Make sure he honors his word. 5. Do not bend over backwards. Go out your way to help. Don’t neglect any responsibilities for a man!! Bonus: Keep your mouth closed. No oral sex!!!

@angelgreen9945

9 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤❤

@maribelsanchez6421

7 ай бұрын

I did all The opposite 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

@butterflyygyrlsworld5106

6 ай бұрын

The bonus for the win! 😂😂😂😂💯💯💯

@terridiaz7386

6 ай бұрын

Amen, Bonus-AMEN, Amen,amen

@They.LoveKJ

4 ай бұрын

@@maribelsanchez6421 same girl . Same 🤦🏾‍♀️

5 things that makes a woman respect you 1: stop sleeping around with anything and everything 2:stop leading woman on especially when you have no intention of marrying her 3:be respectful and stop thinking women are disposable 4:stop being manipulative 5:respect a womans body and no means no

@naaantwi4503

Жыл бұрын

Men will only do what women ALLOW them to do..women have the power, we set the boundaries.

@danilaroche1156

Жыл бұрын

@@franwilds145 Your generalizing. My man treats me like Gold. At all times. We are courting God's way. Hey, keep hope alive!

@ArisenOne

Жыл бұрын

Men are very much entitled to have their own videos about what they expect and what their standards are for a woman. Matter of fact, I am here for it because it's good to know there are men out there with standards rather than the standard belief that almost all men will settle for anything. There are an abundance of videos where women share their standards for men. I just find it distasteful that men can't have anything without women trying to assert their opinions in as well. We have enough opinions. It reminds me of how women always try to assert themselves on Father's Day and make Father's Day about them as well. We understand the fact that there are a lot of no good men out there. I just wish they could have one thing to themselves without us always trying to combat it in some way.

@ArisenOne

Жыл бұрын

I would say the same if this was a women's video and a man inserted his 5 tips. I just feel like there is a time and a place. And if one feels that strongly maybe they should go and make their own video with their own platform if not done so already. A woman's view is not what this video is about. This is extremely educational and needed for a lot of women. It seems like a slap in the face to make this about women.

@ArisenOne

Жыл бұрын

It's just strange when the opposite sex tries to combat as if it invalidates everything that the other has said.

A man respects a woman when she walks way from his crap... Never settle!

I mean this in a respectful way. Is there anyone online that is teaching young men how to treat women properly instead of teaching women how to handle the disrespect of men?

@KDStyle1

2 ай бұрын

Wow...

@muzzymill

27 күн бұрын

No one on line teaching men how to be respectful to women that is the job of mum, dad, school, church and society as well as common sense and decency e.g. treat others how you want to be treated. Men often see all women as sport. Women see all men as boyfriend/ husband material then get taken to the cleaners. In other words men are from Mars women from Venus. Tony Gaskins teaching here about life on Mars.🙏

@sonyawalkercreations5991

27 күн бұрын

@@muzzymill He may be teaching about life on Mars but he is directing his comment to women on how to steer through Mars. If you can teach one gender on how to drive defensively, why not teach the other how to properly steer. How is it possible to advise or offer suggestions to one gender and not the other? Are men not approachable or advisable?

My pastor always taught us when getting serious in a relationship before marriage that both partners should get tested for all STD’s and go over each other test results with confidentiality.

@evasccl7846

Жыл бұрын

I believe and agree with that, i tell my daughter that too!!

@danielalondongirl933

Жыл бұрын

I do this myself as a grown mature woman before i enter into a serious relationship. Its a given for me. I think it shud be for allmen n women who want to have physical intimacy.

@francineblack7659

Жыл бұрын

LOVE IT💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽

@MsIcollins

Жыл бұрын

Also to get random aids test to keep things on the up an up . We only know what a person is doing when their in front of us

@nicolataylor536

11 ай бұрын

Very true

Sex is definitely not that serious, me and my boyfriend are waiting until marriage. He respects my decision and he is willing to wait. If he isn’t willing to wait, he’s not the man for you. Point blank

@danilaroche1156

Жыл бұрын

My man is willing to wait as well. I find it incredibly difficult to be alone with him and trying to always meet in public. I think he's going to propose soon. Abstinence is SO difficult when you are in love.

@Movewithjg

Жыл бұрын

@@danilaroche1156 I feel that, me and my boyfriend rarely ever hang out alone in a private intimate setting because of that reason

@danilaroche1156

Жыл бұрын

@@Movewithjg Yes, I'm not chillin' at his place. Nor he at mine. But even in the car going on a date, we are wildly attracted to each other. Very much in love. I hope he proposes soon. I'm a bit afraid I might sleep with him and the attraction, both emotionally & physically gets stronger and stronger. Lord, help!

@daphneobas7857

Жыл бұрын

......per i ODD!!!😁

@BestversionofKP

Жыл бұрын

Period!!!!

#1 if he don’t respect himself he can’t respect you.

@11940ful

Жыл бұрын

So true!! That goes for people in general.

@jeanettemlenkokile7071

Жыл бұрын

True

@MissPetrina1

Жыл бұрын

This is true and also when a man doesn't love himself he cannot love another woman. We cannot get love from someone who does not have it. Some men hate themselves and they will transfer that into their treatment of their women.

@taramay8174

11 ай бұрын

Preach sis ❤

@donnaevans5131

4 ай бұрын

If a boy has trouble keeping his pants waist at his waistline then what you have is a boy who doesn’t respect himself. RUN 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

This message goes back to what my grandma and great aunt's used to tell me growing up. If a man want you, he will wait. Sex will not keep a man, if that's all it takes; then no woman will be alone.

@KerrysKitchen1999

Жыл бұрын

True cause I am married the sex was great and he still cheated

@louisaatkinson4828

Жыл бұрын

A man will do what ever you want...gotta be bout day life.

@ceethwyd

Жыл бұрын

Period

@jerseywilliams9117

Жыл бұрын

What grandma and auntie said if he want you he will wait

@Restyoursoul287

Жыл бұрын

Love this, so well-said

1. Set and maintain boundaries 2. Respect your own body (avoid pre-marital sex and any “foreplay” like kissing and touching, etc.) 3. Make sure he speaks with you with respect (no cursing, yelling, etc.) 4. Make sure he honours his word/keeps his promises to you (give him 2 chances) 5. Do not permit him to get away with disrespecting your schedule or responsibilities 6. Bonus: Do not do oral and/or anal sex

@ladyempire5921

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for that. I had lost count and the visual list truly helped me.

@Pheonix1111

Жыл бұрын

@@ladyempire5921 You are welcome!

@louisaatkinson4828

Жыл бұрын

Im just gonna copy your work. You put it so nice and neat

@mileyroe4877

Жыл бұрын

Thank you. God bless you

@Pheonix1111

Жыл бұрын

@@mileyroe4877 You are welcome. God bless you also.

Forgiving myself for my mistakes and doing better.Thank you Mr Gaskins.

@sandrasalinas9787

Жыл бұрын

Sis, we’ve all been there. God bless you.

@Chinkyeyes49

Жыл бұрын

Yes!

@ritaburgess3025

Жыл бұрын

It’s a blessing to know better my sister. Be proud and move on. ❤

@madelinebigio7565

Жыл бұрын

Forgiving yourself and moving on and doing better is k

@Joy_LaFaye

Жыл бұрын

Amen! same here sis! 🙏🏾🤗❤

Waiting until marriage to become intimate with another person is the best route to take and only your husband will accept that decision. Everyone else is just there to sample goodies they haven’t earned nor have any intension of keeping for the long term. This is the absolute truth ladies. Take it or leave it. The power and choice is and has always been yours.

@wshelby83

Жыл бұрын

It’s definitely not easy though but it’s true! It’s best to wait

@nicolataylor536

11 ай бұрын

Facts

@nofybn7794

10 ай бұрын

There will be not sex ever. EVER.

@NubianQueen100

2 ай бұрын

Easier said than done, ...most women out here are smashing the SAME NIGHT..

Wow! This needs to be taught to teenagers especially in our black churches. I’m 32 trying to date and I honestly feel like I have been thrown out to the wolves and I’M NOT WINNING. My parents and even the church spent so much time making sure I knew what a wife is supposed to do/ be and how to treat a man but no one ever taught me how a man should treat me or how manipulative and conniving the male species could be. Imagine how much heartbreak and life changing mistakes women could avoid if we didn’t have to learn this through trial and error and someone told us what we could expect from men and how to avoid it.

@thefriendlypsychopath3894

Жыл бұрын

You too old sit down, especially when there a girl turning 18 every single day, we need that fresh water!

@lakishabrown2639

Жыл бұрын

Sis, I feel you. We will learn and be better. We will receive what we deserve. Love you first and do you.

@HSBsoulsurfer

Жыл бұрын

@@thefriendlypsychopath3894 You, sir, are not the prize. The 18 yr olds are not looking for you. You have to resort to looking for people who were recently underage children, to manipulate some naive kid, so you can get your way? Tells us your mental maturity level. Mentally arrested at the same age and never grew past that.

@eys1996

11 ай бұрын

I see that man’s comment, calling u too old. I’ve also seen men, who want a woman their own age. It’s always been scary to me, when a man, 15, 20 yrs my senior tries to get me🤢🤮. Plus, I’ve rarely see any good results in those dynamics. Screw that guy, is what I’m saying. Providing some reassurance here, which I’m sure u already know. Just adding to it, while also saying, SCRAM, to the guy.😊

@tlc6756

10 ай бұрын

@@thefriendlypsychopath3894 you're just your average ignorant person.

Tony thank you for your advice and wisdom. After a dead end relationship in 2019 I made a decision to committ to the word of God and took two years off to grow and heal. I used your videos to grow and as a silent accountability. Fast forward December 2021 started to date someone eight months in dating a God fearing man I am in engaged and wedding date set. Thank you for all that you do and walking in your kingdom purpose blessings.

@wshelby83

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations!!

What’s messed up is when a Man is super sweet and respectful while begging you to marry him then after you marry him he acts 100% disrespectful. 😢

@anid7777

Жыл бұрын

That how narcissist are! The mask comes of after the marriage. They are wolves in sheep's clothing.

@mysticu2022

Жыл бұрын

That's why you must wait at least 6 months because they can't hold that mask on that long before it slips.

@realestatecoach8626

9 ай бұрын

Key is to follow the Holy Spirit. Following your intuition!

Honestly, your videos should be part of the curriculum for Middle and High School to help the youth make better decisions before reaching adulthood. I find myself watching some of your videos more than once because I really have to get your message imbedded in my brain to help me change bad habits. I hope your younger son feel better 🙏🙏 Keep up the Great Work Tony 💪🙌🙏

@louisaatkinson4828

Жыл бұрын

Yesssssss

@chelseak7791

Жыл бұрын

I agree ❤

@edwardcarter6408

Жыл бұрын

Yes indeed and I agree too.

@Alanjacksonliarforhire

Жыл бұрын

Amen to that!!! Everything I've learned I wish I knew a lot sooner in life even though I'm only 20. And videos that pertain to my issues I rewatch over and over until I can practically recite what he's saying 😂

@cozymelodiccorner

Жыл бұрын

@@Alanjacksonliarforhire Great!! You're definitely on the right path ☺️

Tony you are spot on. I had a friend to not come to a birthday celebration for a milestone mind you in order to meet up with a guy she never met. Told her she was doing too much but she disagreed. And guess what...he changed plans. We as women have to learn to have some self-esteem. That's where all this desperation is coming from.

@la6136

Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry I can't stand women friends like this. They are the type that will throw their most loyal friends under the bus to get a man.

@lafemme8

Жыл бұрын

@@la6136 Oh that hurt me so bad. I been around for all kinds of men in her life....told her that stranger is not your spouse not even your man. I was so done. It sickens me to see women go crazy over a man. I'm single and been working on myself because all of that comes from a place of low self-worth.

@ribaker822

Жыл бұрын

True!

@la6136

Жыл бұрын

@@lafemme8 Trust me I understand I have had female friends like this too and it never ended well. Had to learn that lesson the hard way

@hannahdewinter5515

5 ай бұрын

So true

Ladies, listen to this brotha! These are all things I learned the VERY hard way...and suffered immensely due to my ignorance!

@juliahitt460

Ай бұрын

me too and I wish I heard this when I was a teenager wasted time and suffered alot Praise God I'm still here must teach my nieces and grands.

Yeah a man can’t call me dawg, bro, man…my name is Akilah

@motorbreath22

Жыл бұрын

What about TAkilah ?

@MaryHudson-dt4gu

Жыл бұрын

I hate when a guy calls me that then I respond to it.

I saw red flags in week 2 of getting to know him..I have never stood up for myself when it comes to a man but when he didn't make any effort to see me when he asked am I seeing you this weekend, I knew deep down I was going to be used..I wished him well expressed how I felt and bam he dissapeared..ladies do not waste time ⌚ please..keep moving. Glad I don't have to invest anymore time and energy and I know we all go through stuff but if we can not help each other what's the point. I know Tony is talking about people in relationships or 2 months in but I had a feeling I have to do it now.

@dublingirl1691

Жыл бұрын

It’s wonderful that your gut instinct kicked in and you kicked him to the curb. You saved yourself a lot of time and grief!! Well done!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻💯

@Didi-fr5ic

Жыл бұрын

@@piscespisces6 you're right 👉

@Didi-fr5ic

Жыл бұрын

@@dublingirl1691 oh my gosh thank you..I'm reading your message in the morning thinking about him but comments like yours makes it so much easier to move forward..I'm glad us woman are standing up for each other.

@dublingirl1691

Жыл бұрын

@@Didi-fr5ic I know it’s hard especially when your mind keeps going into a loop and pulls you in. You can do better and move on from it.

@jennifersolga6172

Жыл бұрын

@Didi that's exactly how it's been with me and this lawyer I met on dating. He says the exact same things to me. "When am I going to see you next beautiful?" No effort at all to go out of his way to meet me half way or drive to my town..it was all on me. He wouldn't even walk me out to my car at night and had me driving to his place at night as a single mother, after work. And didn't ever offer gas money knowing that I'm a single mother!

💙So basically, Ladies make sure u GET A LIFE AND Get u some BUSINESS and don’t be all MAN CRAZZZZZY that we forget about OUR PRIORITIES. We AS WOMEN has always had the power 🥰🥰💙💙 but at times we have not ALWAYS KNEW THIS nor KNEW HOW TO USE IT. What’s for u is for u🥰🥰💙💙, As Tony usually Always says. Come on LADIES WE GOT THIS!!!!!!💙💙

@dublingirl1691

Жыл бұрын

💯🎯🙏🏻

@cozymelodiccorner

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely 💯

@queenofplantbasedvegan

Жыл бұрын

Yesss

@SimplyM316

9 ай бұрын

Exactly

You & RC Blakes are having the convos others shy away from. Thank you for this video. More young ladies need to hear this!!!! Set the boundaries and hold firmly to them. ♥️

My mistake as a woman has been I have came on strong to men and came at them sexually when they acted uninterested, just recently I went through my young daughter phone and I was shocked so I have to have much more respect for myself because my daughter is watching

@ribaker822

Жыл бұрын

You can do it sis. Coming on to men is not worth it.

@nathbaklawa5304

4 ай бұрын

Good luck

Didn’t watch the video but I’m just here to let you know that there is no way a man that doesn’t respect himself can respect you , whether you follow rules or not , it doesn’t matter. First of all a decent man respects everyone and is kind to everyone , that is when you know you’ve met a good man. Love and Peace ☮️

@loversonly

Жыл бұрын

This needs to be pinned

Thank you Mr. Gaskins, I come from a 2 parent household where watching my mother and father interact was borderline cringe 😬. The way a husband respects his wife is the foundation of what a child subconsciously mimics within their own life when it comes to dating. Needless to say, I didn’t come from a background where my father spent time teaching me about dating and men because he was busy spending time outside of the home entertaining other women. So thank you for opening your platform to allow our younger generation of ladies to have AWARENESS of what a quality man looks like and the steps into creating better relationships overall. ❤

Currently in the process of getting to know someone and this came just in time! I’ve been re-watching all of your older videos on dating. Thank you, Tony!

@ThisIzKena

Жыл бұрын

Same! I got a folder for his top 10 videos and a note pad!! I've been moving intentionally since 2019! I always go back and listen when I start to really like someone..🥰

Big facts, Tony... 3 mos will most definitely reveal who you're really dealing with! Hold on and hold out ladies. Also, re: not allowing a man to speak to you disrespectfully or call you out of your name, address it immediately 4sure but most importantly hold yourself accountable the same way. Model the same behavior you expect... I do my best to rarely use profanity in general, but particularly at/toward my partner and as a result I have never been disrespected in that way even when emotions were high. Stay blessed and strong Sistas!

@sarataylor4537

Жыл бұрын

I met a guy that told me not to curse but he would it's the double standards for me and would say he could because he is a man

As always, perfect message! Abstaining until marriage is key. A man who GOD has solely for you, will absolutely wait. Stay Blessed 🙏🏼

@EbbyGerl

Жыл бұрын

Sex isnt all oc it. Some men are closet gay so abstinence works for him. Some men will wait because they are only after your wallet. They could get sex elsewhere in the mean time. Been there, done that. I have no idea what works.

Timing Is Everything and should be a understanding of when the right time and place to do anything.

This is great advice. Now as women it’s our responsibility to follow through. This way we set a higher standard for men that they have no choose to meet if they want to be with us.

@danilaroche1156

Жыл бұрын

Once I raised my standards and respected myself, I received several marriage proposals. I'm over 50!

Tony got another thumbnail? Oh ok💙💙 let me tune in now💙💙🥰🥰.

@NATURESDESTINY

Жыл бұрын

Lol

My ex told me he would have waited for however long I said he had to wait because he liked me that much. I was the one that wanted it and he was shocked. After he told me that men will wait if they really like you, I said say less sir understood. And I’ve found what he said to be 100% true.

Thanks for this deep message , I agree 100% and confirm that when you give a man sex before marriage your value in his eyes will definitely decrease a lot and the respect in the same time ! I’ve made mistake in my past but no more . Thanks God for this confirmation to encourage me to stay abstinent and celibate until I get married . God Bless you my dear 🙏🏽

@CC12398

Жыл бұрын

Once it is established you have a committed relationship where you are only with each other and you feel this... You know this. If that happens I think that's okay too :-)

@qttimequeentriber

Жыл бұрын

Facts🔥 Thank You 🙏🏽

@tp1201

Жыл бұрын

@@CC12398 No Marriage. No Sex. Period. God's way is Always the best way!

@patriciawhite9509

Жыл бұрын

@@tp1201 ALWAYS!!

@tp1201

Жыл бұрын

@@patriciawhite9509 AMEN.

To add to what you said about the current times and it being difficult for a woman to gain a man's respect..I also think the porn industry has totally warped the minds of men. Pornhub, Only Fans, even seeing women thirst trapping on social media & twerking has placed the value of women collectively at an all time low. Last year, I decided to totally put God 1st and since then it feels like God has taken over my self esteem and self worth. I now have absolutely zero tolerance for bs and the games men (and people in general play). When we as Women take our rightful place as beloved daughters of God and heir to throne, God doesn't play about us!!!

@annb8296

Жыл бұрын

Yes porn being easily accessible on the internet is a huge problem. I'm not saying women aren't watching it but it's extremely addicting for men and that includes married men and it affects every aspect of their lives including of course their relationship with women. It is very hard for women to know if and how often this is occurring.

@MariaMaria-rw8ui

6 ай бұрын

You are absolutely 100% spot on. Porn is depicting women being strangled, slapped, dragged, spat on… and this is the mainstream stuff on Pornhub. Boys as young as 10 are also masturbating to this, thinking it is how women should be treated, and men’s brains are being rewired by porn and porn addiction in such a way they’re becoming extremely sociopathic and lacking in empathy. I’d guess the vast majority of husbands are masturbating to other women in secret whilst the wife is remaining faithful and clean in her heart. We have serious problems. I don’t know if we can even recover from this as a society now. The consequences even if porn got banned worldwide tomorrow, will be multi-generational.

Thank you for highlighting the importance of boundaries with time and not being so easily accessible and available. I’ve been trying to adopt the mindset that having access to my time is a privilege. Supporting you as your channel grows and evolves. Thanks for the work you do!!!

Be classy and expect classy. Been married 11 years and this is so true. Finally somebody speaking with some sense.

Your 💯 right! The dating scene right now is disgusting. The hookup culture has really damaged dating. These guys are expecting sex on the first, second, or third date. The men actually feel entitled to have sex wit you. These desperate women are ruining it for the rest of us. I can’t believe what women are putting up with these days!! I always thought a man would appreciate a virtuous woman… they don’t seem to these days. I think it’s totally disrespectful for a man to assume he can kiss you on the lips on the first date. It’s literally Sodom and Gomorrah out there.

7:21 ladies yall need to hear what uncle Tony said : if he does not want to get married , he will not respect the no touchy my body. If he move like that as uncle Tony always say “got to go🏃🏾‍♀️”😂. But that will help you to not waste your time ! Ain’t nun changing his mind after that point. That’s all him, nothing of you and there is nothing you can do about that. Keep moving until you find the one who can respect that. Assess that man as a potential husband ! 💎💍. Uncle tone just drop big gems for us! You better pick it up !

Mr, Gaskins! I'm ready for class! I love ur videos and wisdom Sir! Be blessed Sir. Much love from the Netherlands.

Powerful message! I am so grateful for my father and brothers. They have teach me the most of this on a young age. it’s so important for us to have a male role model. My father died 4 years ago and I still miss this conversation with him. @Tony Gaskins may God bless you. Much love all the way from Holland Nederland 🇳🇱❤️

With or without thumbnails, glitz and glamor and all the fluffy introductions on so many of the different podcasts, I love Tony’s content and delivery. His spontaneous videos and posts are unique. Haven’t seen anything like his on this deep honest knowledge he is teaching all of us. He is right on target with it. I’m not a big fan of the Hollywood showy look but if that’s what he thinks it will take then I get it. I trust he knows best as he reaches out to more people. The fact that Tony is not wild about set routines, this current model for him works really well. I’m sure he will take all of that into consideration as he moves on with this gift that he has.🙌🏻🙏🏻💗

It's the rawness for me! Ladies let's get this FREE knowledge Tony is giving and use it to our advantage. No other man is giving us this information ..especially those of us without fathers/brothers. We have to listen and do better! Like Tony said a few months ago... the power is in the P lol. We hold the power. So we have to keep our legs & mouths closed 🙏🏾😂

All women Listen Always Have Respect For yourselves

Talk to the men too because some men never taught how to treat a woman. Some men raised by single mother and need to hear it from a man. Thanks. Appreciate you

Uncle Tony with the lunchtime gems 💎 ✨️ 🙌🏾

This was such a very powerful life changing msg. I have already shared with my daughter and friend and will continue to share with women and plan on sitting my 13 yr old grandson down when I feel he’s mature enough to receive. To God be the glory, honor, power and praise! 🙌🏾👏🏾💃🏿

Tony spoke a word on this video! Sending this to a few people.

I have been literally torn to pieces thru my relationships and I see why now! My last relationship took my life, while still living! Smh 🤧😭🙏🏾🙌🏾 TGBTG that I can even share this because I haven't been able to speak on it since... ( tears forming now) but I made EVERY mistake that you speak on! Grew up fatherless and without any brothers, just me 4 sisters and mom. I really feel that we don't even know the full communication , body language, or even common thoughts of a man and his actions, so much so that I find it difficult at time to fully even express myself to men . Its weird but it's definitely to the light now and I am trying daily to correct that! Your videos are so enlightening and needed! Idk how I stumbled upon you or this channel, but I'm so grateful I did! I now be sharing these videos with my sisters n hopes for us ro see ourselves better, so that God may help US and send us the right person he has picked for us🙏🏾 God bless you and your family!!! Thank you Tony! Much LOVE

It's the breakdowns that Tony gives that should make one stop, listen intently, think about and examine ones own actions when it comes to the topic at hand, see what ones behavior can be better or what behavior needs to stop, and then move accordingly to the wisdom of the message that was given. 👏🏾💯

Tony, Tony, Tony has done it again!!! These are straight jewels that he's dropping. I needed this in high school, my 20''s 30''s and now 40's.....but better late than never.

Tony I love you! With all due respect! I feel like I’m the only woman that thinks oral on a strange man is DISGUSTING!!! Women give away so much to too many men. The desperation is real out here. I’ve been eating my popcorn watching this horror story.

WOW Tony this video is much needed! All of your videos are helpful and I thank you and Mrs. Gaskins to give your time as you have. I just heard on a podcast that some men aren't against polygamy to have multiple women. Yet it may not be his taste to do but he's not against polygamy. Yet when asked could his women have other men, there was a straight no because a man explained "his woman could get pregnant by the other man". Yet wouldn't that be the same for him getting one of his women pregnant. The boundaries are so out of line with some men, not all. Cause there are some good men out there. We continuously need your voice Tony to speak truth. You give truth and game away and these are truly life changing for the better. THANK YOU TONY, THANK YOU because you are saving women and men LIVES!

Okay, big brother! We see the thumbnail lol I'm sooooo proud of your growth. God's Hand on you is so evident that excellence in every area is just the natural progression. I needed that same encouragement/reminder (thanks!). And, because of you, I've also grown sooo much in so many areas. Thank you!

Your videos have changed my life for the better. Bless you, your wife and boys.

I watched this whole video through and it was all wisdom, but the ending spoke to me the most. You hit the nail on the head when you said "this is for my kingdom people"... I definitely needed to hear that one.

It can't be more powerful than this🙌🏾 Thank you and God bless your heart!!

I just told my mom about being submissive, and understanding a mans position . He is the head. Women don't want to let men lead.. but the man has to know himself enough to lead as the teacher of this video... I'll be showing this to my daughter . Thank you! I'm just old fashioned. This is one reason women are loosing feminimity- Thinking they can be like a man and do what a man does and then our bodies get all worn down trying to manage too much..

@suddiansmith8578

Жыл бұрын

Don’t ever be men lead. Being men lead means doing all the things he wants and not thinking for yourself. So If he wants to sleep with you in the first date it’s ok? If he wants to call you names that’s ok? If he wants to jump into bed when you have the flu that’s ok? He doesn’t want you to discipline your kids you have together that’s ok? If you are tired and he wants cooked food that’s ok? If you want to be men lead that means the man is 100% right all the time. No person is 100% all the time. I will never be lead by anyone. I don’t drink don’t smoke don’t party… very educated great job. people who do those things are lead by others. Ladies always have boundaries even if you are married with children like I am.

@magoddess6779

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@@suddiansmith8578 i understand what you're saying, id like to clarify because i mostly definitely do not mean in the way you listed above, lol. Each person has to know themselves. Couples have accountability to each other. Most people simply do want that responsibility. A lot goes into it. Whether someone is damaged from their past bringing that into something new , or the influences of the world, or they simply have not been taught or have not had an example as this man is doing in these videos... the list goes on and on. The psychological effects of just the few things that I named Are deeper than what people realize you cannot love someone if you do not love yourself or know yourself That alone can take a lifetime. So no most definitely not let a man lead and control everything but each person know their postion & place . A lot of people can not let go enough Because they are harboring things from the things I listed above and more... We can't even let go enough to let God! That's enough said😊🙏🙌

@fabioladamis4194

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A woman do want a man to lead, if he doesn't act like a woman. .

Just wanted to say I've been obtaining your wisdom since late 2019 and you're so right the hand of God has been evident throughout the years. I'm looking forward to your future endeavors!

Preach the truth, Tony. Thank you for this much needed message.

Awesome!! I live in Central Florida and I do hope to book a session with you! Welcome to Florida 🥰 This video is wonderful and a confirmation to me. I have been been single and abstinent for two years now, I’ve healed my childhood traumas, went to therapy and sought the Lords help, I have to tell you ladies it has been life changing! I am breaking all generational curses and strongholds so my children will not repeat patterns and toxic decisions. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and taking the time out to help others grow and be better!

I am so, so, soo thankful I have a somewhat protective dad who has always vetted the man I was interested in dating. He taught me lessons similar to this over the years. When I became Christian I also began learning why it is so important to set boundaries, discipline ourselves and walk away from anyone who does not respect that. You might not want to do these things, but we must think of our future selves and the consequences of our actions.

Tony, Thank you for bringing us life-changing content! 🙌🏾🙏🏾

It’s been such a blessing to listen to your views, leadership, and perspective. I promise I felt like I was dropped on the wrong planet! So many, even the sisters are doing too much too soon and I’m looking around like am I wrong for knowing my value and having boundaries? I can’t thank God enough for filling me with his love and showing me I am worthy. It’s to the point where I’m not even lonely. I just look at most people’s toxic, loveless, aggravating relationships and stay busy with positives. Women have represented so poorly it’s no wonder why the pickings are clueless on how to step to a real one. I appreciate these videos of confirmation I’m not crazy!!!!!

Thank you Tony for doing what you do!! I agree that relationship education should be taught with consistency and wisdom! Had we known about things like this in our formative years it would've saved us so much pain and trauma! 🙏

Amen! Always so grateful for the knowledge you are providing! Be Blessed Mr. Gaskins and family🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

I seen the thumb nail and was like ….. WAIT Tony does not do that !!! 👀 I agree with everything you say! Do what you got to do & get your word out ! Lord we need YOU and we are praying and rooting for you !!!!! 🙏

Thank you brother, it's good to know that there are still some honest men out there,we truly appreciate it 🙏

For me the talking late at night or early morning is not a big deal because I’m just genuinely excited to get to know this person. And sometimes late at night may be the only time I have during the week. But I know I do struggle respecting my own time so… Physical boundaries though, and making sure he treats you with respect (honesty, kindness consistency) will weed out the players.

@bee67371

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The reason why Tony said late at night and early in the morning is because a guy who just wants to use you contacts you at those hours. Everyone got 24hrs in a day and if a guy doesn't contact you during the day that's a red flag.

@jenniferthompson5146

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@@bee67371 Yes I have been contacted by the guy testing me at 11 pm at night. Usually a guy I just connected with. It does say a lot.

@FoundSheep-AN

Жыл бұрын

Tony is right It’s a lot classier to not comunicate between 10,00 pm and 9,30 am

@jenniferthompson5146

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@@FoundSheep-AN I agree in the initial conversation but if it naturally happens, I don’t think that is bad. Especially if you communicate with this person earlier in the day on a regular basis. Also, I tend to stay up late especially on weekends. My main thing is authenticity. I don’t want to refuse a phone call or text convo that I genuinely want to have. It’s feels in-genuine. I don’t think you should not doing something just for the sake of appearances i.e. being classy. I want to not do things because they are actually impractical, detrimental, etc. I do get the point though, if you are doing that so much that it interferes with your schedule (like needing to get up early). This would then be a real issue of you putting them above your needs and responsibilities. Im an entrepreneur and my schedule is not set, so it’s easier for me to adjust my schedule. I guess it goes into the “caveats” for me, and not pretending to have a standard just to appear “classy.”

@kysharooks5219

Жыл бұрын

I agree, it’s not one size fits all. Everyone’s schedule are different. Like you said if you’re both communicating throughout the day and talking after a certain time at night works for you both then go with it.

Tony, I want you to know that one of the BIGGEST reasons you have a good platform the way you is because of how genuine you are. I personally don't want you to get the glam and glitter, because a lot of people change when that happens. We are comfortable with your platform the way it is because it's almost like we're talking to someone we know personally. That is the kind of relationship you want to have with your audience. You are a married man- so not TOO personal, but personal enough to where we feel like you are family and we can come for advice. I have not had sexual intercourse in 2 years- plus I was able to walk away from a man that I was dealing with on and off for 2 years a little over a year ago. That is 100% because of God leading me to YOUR VIDEOS. You changed the way I deal with men. Particularly black men. Cause I date all races, but brothas are unique in a sense that they act like lil boys that need to be trained and I've learned how to put my foot down with these dudes. And as a result, they respect me for it. So please don't change anything. We are getting the message. We hear you. And we are grateful for men like you who actually care about women. Because most men don't. Thank you!

@queensun6059

Жыл бұрын

Preach! bm in mass are manboys🔥. putting bw down, while they consistently doing the least yet expecting the most sexually & in every way. but 🙄 run if u say i'm abstinent or mention the word marriage 🏃‍♀️. they have no morals/values and blames bw women for everything bad yet claims he's a king. other races don't put their women down they protect them. done with bm grownboys. they are addicted to porno and lost in the sauce. other race men are not 🤷 the best. but they are not broken beyond repair like bm.

Thank you for this message. I needed to hear this. I pray many women take this and understand this is for our Good. If we build off of this message, God will do the rest for us. I've made this mistake and after hearing this, it made me realize I need to do better & be patient to wait on God Instead of proving to men we are good women & bending over backwards, in truth, it's only making us look desperate. Bless you brotha! Thank you for allowing God to work through you for So many women that needs this wisdom 🙏

Just wish I had known all this info a long time ago. I am really upset hearing this so late in life. You are the first male that has been honest enough to tell the truth. Now, I have a whole new perspective. Wow. I will be thinking about this all day. It's Thanksgiving morning. Guess, better late than never. Keep telling the truth. You g girls need, and I mean, need to hear this before they mess up their life. Blessings. 💕

Thank you Bro Tony for dropping these Gems 💎 this message is priceless. God bless you.🙏🏾❤️

Third video of Tony’s I listened to today. They are giving me courage to do what I need to- and want to do- to hopefully fix the mistakes I’ve made.

Excellent video. The only way to break free from the power of a man is to get under the power of the Holy Spirit.

That last bit chat about your business...man! You are speaking to my spirit...God is telling me about PUTTING IN THE WORK OF EXCELLENCE.

Brother Tony Gaskins - yes, GOD is in the details. Favor is upon you. Your work is for the KINGdom🙌🏾🙏🏾. Continue to be led by Him. You are appreciated. Blessings to your wife and sons🙏🏾..... So grateful for your work 🤌🏾

Thank you for confirming my conclusion, regarding men. Three years ago God reveled the nature of men is circulated around respect! Thank you 🙏🏾

I waited about a year after my divorce to self reflect pray start loving myself and felt like I was healed and finally met someone seemingly a very nice young man non-confrontational, hard-working, one child, respects his mother, and generous, and very kind. One year and a half later of dating him and figuring out that he has too much past trauma to continue a relationship with I decided to cut ties and block him. He comes to my house 20 minutes later and he smacks me twice and calls me a bitch in front of my child text my phone so I can't call the police and slams it down on the ground and leaves. I never saw it coming. I am now back in the place I was two and a half years ago... Scared and wondering where I went wrong how did I lose his respect for him to even think that he would pull this off and there would be no repercussions from it. I am nowhere near a lesbian but it gives me an understanding of why women turn to women. Men are savages in general n even the so-called nice guys are trying to show their asses and I think social media and the way that men degrade and disrespect women as a whole has a lot to do with it.

@feliciaallen6228

Жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness! I am so sorry this happened, but thankful you were not injured badly. You can do everything right, and a man still won't respect you. Often people wear masks

Amen🙌🏾. Tony thank u for sharing the game🙏🏾. You have made us so aware. God Bless you and your Family in 2023!

He is telling the truth ladies if a man want be with u and he say he love u make him earn your love ,trust, and respect you cant change a man he will change himself that's how u know if he really love u real talk

I’m old thought I knew it all but don’t be accessible after 10 or before 9. I seriously had no idea. WoW thanks

Hey Tony, not sure if you’re aware, but there’s a new KZread page reposting your content to their page. They put your name in the title, but I still think its a kind of theft to garner traffic to their page by using your content and not making their own. The page is called “Christians Abstaining for Marriage Courting”.

@seabiscuit2948

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You beat me to it!! Hopefully he sees this!

@dublingirl1691

Жыл бұрын

I saw this too on that website!!!

That last few minutes of this video was a word of encouragement I needed to hear.

Thank you Tong Gaskins . There is so much lessons in these videos which lead to protection, growth and positive transformations . Stay blessed up 🙏

I'm praying for u Mr, Gaskins. May God grant u all ur wishes Sir. May God continue to bless u and the Gaskins family Sir! May He be with u. May God protect u! Amen!

1000% I remember in my early dumb years when I dated a sociopath he used to tell me that he knew I love him more than my kids and I thought he was insane but come to find out that he was actually right

I needed to see this, at this time. I thought I was doing well in this area, but my father passing during the holidays, pushed me to break from a relationship I KNEW was lacking but tryna hang in there. I see my responsibility in my past relationship fails and am ready to do better cuz I been knowin’. My new year starts NOW.

Congrats on your new business location. Praying for you, and thanks for sharing the games against women! I finally learned to keep me to myself, and it's so peaceful. Thank God!

I'm checking in for this lunch time lesson. Be blessed Tony. G

Right on time Tony! Thank you

You are such a blessing to the world. Thank you for the word 🙏

THANK YOU SO MUCH for this video Tony!!! 🙏🏽💗🙏🏽💗🙏🏽💗🙏🏽💗🙏🏽💗🙏🏽💗🙏🏽

In my late 40s I talk to a man for 3 months B4 I even consider a first date.I tell my cousins...let him pursue you for 3 months see if he still pursuing most times he will leave to that one that put out....come back to you....try anyway...I wasn't always this smart.

EVERYTHING Tony Said is Absolutely Correct 💯. Tony YOU are a Real Man of God ✝️

Touching on what you said towards the end of the video. Those are guys have NOTHING on you Tony! Your spirit & energy is felt. I don’t watch any other men that speak on love & relationships. Real recognize real! I look forward to seeing the upgrade of production though! I think it will be great! Keep going, god bless you & your family ❤️

Mr. Tony, you are truly out here doing the lord’s work, How come I’m over 30 and the more I watch your videos, I find out I don’t know anything about men. Wow! These messages need to be televised. I will teach this to my children and more women. You don’t know how much of a impact you have. May God continue to protect you and bless you more❤❤❤ We love, value and respect you. When you teach a woman, you teach a generation.

Great video. This message is needed among all women to respect themselves through self care.👏🏽

And I can see that change alredy as well with the new thumbnail. Accept that season of growth to go to the next level. Loving that for you Tony!!!😁👏👏🙏🙏

Spirit of excellence… Polished! Thank you for that blessing 🙏🏼

This is so needed in our generation today God bless you and all that the LORD has you doing for His kingdom 🙏🏽