Don't be fooled Ladies, a man KNOWS when he wants a woman as his wife and he will make sure you know it too...you won't have to ask. If this doesn't sound like your relationship, count your losses and move on.

@vh7637

6 жыл бұрын

Ms. Twyman well said ..best comment I read so far

@MJ-vt4nb

6 жыл бұрын

This is the best advice

@emg.9246

6 жыл бұрын

Facts💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

@AuthorJanaeMarie

6 жыл бұрын

Definitely agree. Men know what and who they want. No need to waste my time. No need to keep hearing I don't know about a commitment. I'll make it easy for you and move on.

@lrs1519

6 жыл бұрын

Big ole facts.

Yes he just “enjoyed” me. He said to me many times that he enjoy my company, he enjoy to talk to me. So after almost 3 years of the “enjoyment” I let him “enjoy” his alone time

@maranatha8768

3 жыл бұрын

Did he enjoy sex ? That’s why they don’t marry you. You gave it when he wanted it. Then he stopped wanting it. Does that sound familiar ? Then you was only a sex object toy for him. And not married can dump you Anytime he want men like that are nuts in the head.

@user-vm7yd4wg4i

3 жыл бұрын

@@maranatha8768 No, we did not sleep together. We both are Christians and we know we have to wait until we get marry first...but I know he doesn't sees me is the one. He just enjoyed my company

@phoenixrising8007

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaaaaaa 🤣👍😎

@phoenixrising8007

3 жыл бұрын

💥 BAM

@missellz7630

3 жыл бұрын

Good one😂😂😂

If he has not married you in 2 years he is not marrying you. He enjoys you is harsh, it's truth.

@thebrownqueeno1

6 жыл бұрын

Chelle-Chell you are right about that an elderly friend of my mom told her that and she was dead on.

@Cash4Fruit

6 жыл бұрын

he enjoys being with me for many years, he enjoys texting me every night before bed and spending the rare days off from work all day with me. But none of this means anything unless he is contractually obligated to do so. All that matters to me is that he values and understands the concept of marriage. And with anything spiritual or morality based, it is not a box you check and you're done, it is a daily practice. It is normal to question our stance on these moral and religious topics. I think a man is foolish to dive into marriage and not be skeptical. Even though it frustrates me at times, I truly respect the fact my bf is unsure about marriage. I am frustrated because I have meditated about it and I know it's truly for me and I don't understand why he doesn't feel the same. I know if he meditate he will hear from god that it's what's best for him... or maybe that it's not his destiny and why would I want to change that (if that is truly the path he needs to be on). At the end of the day I love him and only him and I'm not going anywhere..... hey isn't that the basis of marriage? While your partner is having doubts you should always be there, during and before marriage. Getting a ring isn't the top of my priorities I just want a true connection with someone.

@latashas9226

6 жыл бұрын

Cash4Fruit I agree with you

@MBillups

6 жыл бұрын

Cash4Fruit Marriage is so much more. Your man doesn't want to be committed. You're right he enjoys you and it 'feels' like love. A bf/gf can't make life decisions , but a husband and wife can.

@corsicanlulu

5 жыл бұрын

Cash4Fruit this is a huge mistake women make, thinking men feel like we do. we love way more fully than they do and w/out reservations while they are usually logical and cold about relationships. in their mind they have to work and sacrifice to appreciate something and if he's not doing that for u then most likely he doesnt care as much as u do. they also value their freedom a whole lot, whereas women in general want to settle down. a man who will give up his freedom for u is saying a whole lot. right now u are just assuming he feels the same way u do and thats usually not the case.......

I'm not going to give an ultimatum, I'm just going to move on and let him realize what he missed

@yvonce7309

6 жыл бұрын

love2sing20 You are right!

@MJ-vt4nb

6 жыл бұрын

That's right. I did the same. Ultimatums don't work anyway from what I've been told.

@Pinky11081

6 жыл бұрын

100!!!!

@Kcali111

5 жыл бұрын

Truth

@PinkPisces

5 жыл бұрын

Woonz You’re eliminating a part of life that has the potential to be the most fulfilling experience you’ve ever had all because a cunt (or two) didn’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Why allow someone who I’m assuming you are no longer involved with be the determining factor on how you’ll live the rest of your life. Why let your an ex influence your future? The irony of MGTOW is that it’s suppose to empower men and free you from the burden of women but it simultaneously reflects the control you still allow women to have over you. The entire movement is centered around what level of intimacy you’ll allow yourself to have with a woman.

I've been proposed to 7 times, most proposals were given as a remedy to what should have been an apology. I refuse to marry for the sake of having a wife title, he must be committed to building and growth together, not for him to drop down and hand over a ring after a heated argument, in an attempt to make me stay. #LoveOverLikes

@lightangelsq504

6 жыл бұрын

#TeamJaxn

@PrincessVLW

6 жыл бұрын

Wait 7 times by seven different men or the same man?

@lightangelsq504

6 жыл бұрын

Proposed to by the same man 3 times, 4 other times by 4 other guys. I usually get the proposal once I'm one foot out the door. And just like Derrick said you never want to pressure a man into marrying you. Thank God I never fell for any of those falsehoods.

@vanaphill2454

6 жыл бұрын

The games men play. Or when they say, I love you, when you are heated. That doesn't work, fellas. We know when you are being insincere.

@motorcityb8551

5 жыл бұрын

7 times..you need to sit down somewhere!

Great advice. For any woman who've got their life together and are looking for a family, particularly 27, 30+, don't stick around the guy who's in the making and confused. Find the man who's made. Within 6 mos, tops 1 yr, no ring on that finger: NEXT. Don't be afraid of walking away from what looked like a good relationship especially if the guy mentioned he does someday want to start a family. You might've been conned and he might been too comfortable. Take it from someone who's been burned wasted 3 yrs of my life. Gave the next guy 6mo proposal time and now 5 yrs later happily married with kids.

@meeyahfarley8076

6 жыл бұрын

me moi First and foremost, I would like to say that that’s really great that you’re now happily married with the right man. That sucks that you wasted 3 years with a man who wouldn’t commit to you. I can relate. I wasted 4 years of my life with a first love that I loved and trusted. I had to cut him loose (since late July 2017) when I realized he’s not the right man for me. There were red flags that I almost failed to see, too. I had to learn the hard way of who he truly is. All I can do is look at this as a learning experience and learn what type of man to accept and to not accept into my life.

@lilacsilverwing

Ай бұрын

Did you tell him that, or was that an internal deadline?

I’m listening to this with tears streaming. He looked me in the eyes and told me he will never marry me. My only choice was to leave, and I have left. I had to ask myself, was I being stubborn? Was I being ungrateful? I wasn’t. I was being true to my soul, a soul which was created with the architecture of covenant with love. If I deny the way that I am, my values, the constitution of my soul, then I am useful to nobody. For all of us who believe in matrimony, hold with faith. Your love will be delivered

@bigvalley4987

5 жыл бұрын

Aliya Rahman My Sister sounds to me that you had Self Live, Respect and Committed mind. God Bless You and carried on...❤️

@paigesummers7580

5 жыл бұрын

Aliya Rahman I’m so sorry, Aliya. I hope you are blessed to find a man who will cherish you and love you forever. Nobody deserves to be told “ I will never marry you”. Keep your head up 💕

@krysc6669

5 жыл бұрын

Aliya Rahman thank you. I needed to read this.

@dahenry8888

5 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry that you had to ebdure that evil man...because all he had to do was break up with you...not say"I'm never marrying you"....anyway you have to be stronger....when a person shows you who they are...believe it...and move on!

@justintimemagddelow672

5 жыл бұрын

Bless your heart.

Wowwwwww!!! I never thought of it that way. A man "Enjoying" you. That is truly eye opening. I almost feel like I might be "Enjoyed" right now instead of loved.. I needed to hear this!!

@l.d.w.3734

6 жыл бұрын

Redd Foxx ....Me too.omg

@chrissy3684

5 жыл бұрын

Mee too! I just got mad

@fionalovely8208

5 жыл бұрын

Even when they say they're in love with you or love you?

@terrysimon7571

5 жыл бұрын

Yes ladies enjoying you sums it up.@Crystal yes it makes you mad. Time and energy we will never get back. Now my deadline is within two years. No ring and a date I'm done with him. I'm not being engaged for years with no man period! So over it my patience no zero tolerance for time wasters!

@HoneyCaramel

5 жыл бұрын

Redd Foxx I DEFINITELY feel you on that one!!!

My husband asked me after seriously dating a year. I said that I loved him but we were too young, (21&23) Eleven years later I finally married him, he had been waiting on me😆😆😆. 18 years together and then he passed away, my one and only true love. I miss you baby😥😥😥

@amaaka7587

6 жыл бұрын

Bella Brown sorry for your lost, stay blessed love

@lilchocolatetinkc6743

6 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that, At least u got to experience True love, some of us will never get that opportunity❤

@dcaramelone

6 жыл бұрын

Bella Brown what a beautiful story.❤❤❤

@beyondme11

6 жыл бұрын

Bella Brown TRUE LOVE is The Most Beautiful feelings in the whole Wide World!! 💘 God Bless you ma'am...

@sariahrobinson3968

6 жыл бұрын

Bella Brown my condolences

Watching this after an argument with my boyfriend and after 4 years I genuinely realize this man is just wasting my time and is not serious about marriage. Wasted time sucks and trust my heart hurts BUT I will be okay! I know what I’m worth! After 4 years, I am single again 💕

@shirleykean3937

3 жыл бұрын

Better 4 years then 10 years.

@sweetpotato7778

2 жыл бұрын

Four years isn’t that long , people usually get married around that time . People that rush into marriage usually have a divorce soon after

@Andreea06bhz

2 жыл бұрын

And I broke with my bf today too I told him I want to marry one day and ask him about his opinion he just paused and then said idk yet I was heartbroken 💔 we dated for 2 years now we will be friends … let’s see how that works hmm i didn’t want to end in bad germs cause we been thru a lot and made memories even tho we have bad ones but also good buy I guess he’s not the one and maybe my one is out there and I will find him one day ..

@asill.6668

11 ай бұрын

@@sweetpotato7778 Four years is long enough!

@Lauren-vd4qe

3 ай бұрын

to have to argue about that is the hugest red flag ive ever seen. my bf was talking marriage within 60 days...

Another reg flag I missed out on be careful of the guy who labels you as wifey... But no actions. He keeps referring to you as his wife. And yet....when marriage talk happens he feels like he's suffocating, time ain't right or it's just a piece of paper.

The majority of men go through a whole list of women before they settle.If you need to practice on that many women to get yourself ready for me then you can keep your proposal.

@sweetpeaj1952

6 жыл бұрын

💯

@christinalucas1002

5 жыл бұрын

@Woonz but are you a virgin? (Excluding those who were abused) Don't ask for one if you not one. the double standard is real lol

@trulyworkfromhome6767

5 жыл бұрын

😭

@killstreak8

5 жыл бұрын

Woonz damn you speaking facts you know your shit man where you get all this knowledge from? You upload videos or something ? I need to check you out lol

@justintimemagddelow672

5 жыл бұрын

@Charles Pinkett Yup!

I will date a man a year max. After a year if ain't nothing popped off, I'm done duces✌I'm 26 years old I ain't got no more time to waste.

@martinesalomon5334

5 жыл бұрын

Lisa Jade: Then, you will miss your chance several times. It takes time to really know someone. Don't go too fast you will burn yourself. Sometimes, it takes at least 2 years. Need to make sure.... last thing you want is having regrets or having children with a man that will give you heart aches and headaches!!

@ineedhoez

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao@ 26 and no time!!! 😂😂😂

@blackindemand3248

3 жыл бұрын

You know you're gonna hit the wall soon lol

@TxJanna

3 жыл бұрын

lol...I'm 46

@RickyAtoms

3 жыл бұрын

@@ineedhoez funny asf 😂

That should be a privileged I felt that in my soul ladiessssss love yourself know you’re worth

@SS-JMB4L

6 жыл бұрын

Asha Sharron Amen!

@AmandaWhitleyonplus

3 жыл бұрын

Miss you, Beauty 💖

@Andreea06bhz

2 жыл бұрын

To hear him say that warmed my heart because that means there is guys out there who think like him 🥺

A famous person once said when a man initially meets you he know what you means to him and how far he's going with you.

@heide-raquelfuss5580

3 жыл бұрын

What famous said this? Just curious😉

@liabw05

3 жыл бұрын

I've heard this many times too

I think it's SO weird for anyone to spend years with another person, especially if they're living together, and secretly know that person is not the one they're going to marry. And it seems men do this more often than women. It's like faking a real relationship. Why bother then??? And besides, living with and sleeping with this person long term and the man feels no attachment or loss if she walks out? WEIRD

@MJ-vt4nb

6 жыл бұрын

kristin lee It is weird.. It's like they're living a lie.

@sugarbum99

6 жыл бұрын

kristin lee I've seen this all before! It just means he loves all the benefits of playing house for his selfish reasons but as soon as she mentions the business and responsibility of something like marriage, where it involves her benefiting or depending on him permanently- he's gone. It's just the sign that he does love you but because you made it comfortable and convenient for him, not because he wanted to marry you.

@melissabeljeter5599

6 жыл бұрын

Wow just saw this...let me say back in the day, black women felt they Had to have a man, any man, to be a woman and they wd stay with married men for years. It was almost a given. Women on a hunt for any man. I knew women who had good husbands and went hunting anyway. One hooked up with her husbands best friend. They had a child too but her husband didnt divorce her. He stayed until he died in his sleep.

@DannieJordan

5 жыл бұрын

This just sounds like the man enjoying you that he was speaking of. I personally feel this is how many women become baby mothers and not an actually girlfriend or wife. A man just not being honest with you about what he wants.

@mrs.audreyaliengoddessrobe4667

5 жыл бұрын

kristin lee omg my sis 25yrs no marriage i say hell naw

He is getting everything for free why commit. Shoot its our fault if we settle for just being his girl instead of his wife for years. Buuut not me!!

I eloped with my husband after a year of dating, been married for 12 years now with 2 kids, he surprised me with a trip to city hall on his birthday, which happen to be April 1st, I thought he was pulling an April Fool's prank but he was serious and I already fell in love with him. Our parents were mad that they didn't witness our wedding but later that year we held our wedding at my grandmother's house so our families can witness our union. Been happy ever since. No way in hell I'm going to be like J. Hud.

@ashtarot7221

2 жыл бұрын

I was proposed to on April 1st too. Only it’s been 4 years and he still hasn’t set a date and avoids conversations about it 😆. I’m guessing mine was just a cruel joke. I stopped wearing the ring recently. I refuse to have something on my finger that says I’m taken when he refuses it to be official. No thanks. I’m glad yours worked out though. Some of us waste years on something that will never be.

@realvesselgem6527

Жыл бұрын

❤️

Wow you are amazing. Lots of guys gone hate u. But I like the fact that you keep it real. Keep it up. God bless your heart

I think #5 is so so hard to walk away from. It’s like fools gold. I looks like love. Talks like love. Feels like love. But it’s a mirage.

my godmother was with this man for almost 30 years. i grew up thinking they were married and his 'ex' wife lived on the other side of town. When she told me they were split up i was like HUH! I was butthurt because i adored him. No sooner than she said that she said " I told his ass to go back to his wife". I was like, excuse me, WIFE? She was like yea, they wasn't divorced and i got tired of telling him to divorce her so we could get married. I had to clutch my pearls and grab a chair. she looked at me like I was crazy. I was like, what a damn minute! you mean all these years you were NOT married. She responded, Girl, hell naw. I was done. Oh and he moved back in with her (he moved into the basement) The ex wife spent all these years telling everyone that he was going to come 'back' to her. He did come back (30 years later) and she died 30 days later. and after her death, he still kept calling my godmother telling her they should get back together and get married. She was like, kick rocks. she turned around and married HER ex husband. I hollared

@chocolatesunshine3276

6 жыл бұрын

jinx jones ..WELL DAMN..LOL

@gasergurl

6 жыл бұрын

What in the Jerry Springer

@jinxjones3091

6 жыл бұрын

it was definitely Jerry Springer mess.

@VMKLH

6 жыл бұрын

jinx jones I’m at a loss of 🤐😵😲 what kind of.....🤯😳🤭

@jinxjones3091

6 жыл бұрын

oh it was almost 30 years of pure fuckery now that I look back on some of the stuff that went over my head as a kid LOL

PREACH DERRICK!!!! WHEN PEOPLE TRY ME "HEART RIP"This is when you move on from that man! You don't beg him to marry you or give him ultimatums. You just end the relationship and date a man that is TRULY DEAD SET ON MARRYING YOU!!!!! KNOW YOUR WORTH! YOURE WORHTY OF A MAN THAT IS DEAD SET ON MARRYING YOU AND ONLY YOU! YOU ARE WORTHY OF SOMEONE THAT ADORES AND ACCEPTS EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU!!!!! THANK YOU FOR THIS DERRICK #5 IS SOOOOOOO HARD TO ACCEPT! WE WILL BAMBOOZLE OURSELVES INTO THINKING THAT HE TRULY DOES LOVE US! HECK ALL OF THEM ARE HARD TO ACCEPT! BUT WE NEED TO ACCEPT REALITY WISH HIM WELL AND MOVE ON!!!!!!!! I DID! I DESERVE THE BEST WE ALL DESERVE THE BEST!!!!! #NEVER_SETTLE

@lindamay767

6 жыл бұрын

I think I've known all along ...he only enjoys me. Thanks

@VanessaLVines

5 жыл бұрын

Yes I agree Amen! You will need to compromise during your relationship. But "NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THEN YOU DESERVE". Keep your standards Ladies.

@claudian9926

4 жыл бұрын

Yes

If he's getting all he wants from you for free, why should he commit?

#5 is what he literally said... "We're enjoying each other, why mess it up with marriage". And I wasn't the one who mentioned the topic, it was his boy who asked him when was he going to marry me. That's when I knew it was pointless to stay with him.

Dont let these men drag you along! Conversate. If it dont add up dont hold on to it. Move on!!! Most of us prepare these men for the woman that they really want. Dont be a preparation plan. He enjoys you but does not see value of being with you. NEVER PRESSURE A MAN TO ACT RIGHT. MUCH LESS GET MARRIED

@kushicaflowers6830

5 жыл бұрын

Amen Hallelujah!!

@TahTwinkletoes

4 жыл бұрын

Converse*

"What do you do when someone trys you? Show him you ain't the one!" Love it! Woman are Gods most precious creations... More valuable than rubies. Thank you for sharing this.

A man will marry you when he's ready. Its simple, don't force it on him. If you don't want to wait for him, leave ladies.

@Brown_Sugar11

5 жыл бұрын

Cierra Dunbar yep why wait years upon years wasting time

@grindhard4312

5 жыл бұрын

Simple as that! You can call it "wasting your time" or anything else to make yourself feel better but in the end of you don't want to wait just leave!

@dickbanger8924

4 жыл бұрын

The fact that marriage is more important than the actual guy you are with and you are prepared to leave him shows just how much of a bad deal woman are.

@MelisJoy

3 жыл бұрын

@@dickbanger8924 wow what a wonderful mindset you have. Surely with that attitude you're on the road to finding true love 👌 this has nothing to do w women discarding "good" men & everything to do with a woman refusing to keep a "boy" afraid of commitment. And setting boundaries for oneself. If you had a stipulation of sex in a relationship & you dated a woman who stopped..you would stay with her forever? 🤔 yea didn't think so

@Noobaa9658

3 жыл бұрын

Grind Hard well that’s what it is essentially LOL

I did it for 15 years 3 kids. And he did not marry me. I wasted years of my life thinking that he will one day. I was good to him, but It never seemed like I was good enough. I left after 15 years. I decided to put God first.

That last point scares me more than the rest. I've seen some men fake it so good that it has everyone shocked when he decided to leave.

6 years..I'm ready now to show him I'll no longer be used. I'm done waiting.

@Mrs.TJ516

4 ай бұрын

You need to let that go unless he’s in medical school etc he has no intentions to marry he would have proposed by now.

I agree for about 2-4 years. You really need to get to know people these days. They sometimes don't show their true colors just yet.

@ineedhoez

3 жыл бұрын

It doesn't take that long to get to know a person. I would recommend going to Marriage Boot Camp classes and doing couples therapy. It is really important to look at your childhood issues, potential trauma and other things to understand why you act to behave the way that you do. Most people don't have the sophistication to discuss those issues. Once you start getting serious about someone, you should start unpacking things and working through that stuff. It's not romantic but it's practical and it'll make your relationship successful.

Facts Facts and More Facts! Perfectly said.... ladies you will NEVER question a man who trully wants you because his intentions are as clear as the sky is blue!

As always you are speaking truth, I applaud you for that. I walked aways from someone who really meant me no good. He was older than me but, mentally he was a child.

@leannamctier470

5 жыл бұрын

I understand that completely

Cause he's not really into her.

@AlexanderT281

6 жыл бұрын

Simone Christie lol truth... simple as that

@crystalvouse7015

6 жыл бұрын

Simone Christie it could be many reasons maybe not financially ready . how many men get married and never treat their wives like wives their just home . somr couples dont go out or even have sex all signs hes not into her titles dont dictate a mans feelings

@KillxGauge666

5 жыл бұрын

👌🏾💯🙏🏾

I've finally came to a conclusion that there is NOT somebody for everybody. That was, and is a total lie that we've been told all of our lives just like every thing else we've been told. Now we might get with somebody because we're sick of being lonely, but that doesn't mean we've found "the one". There's nobody for me.

@marthaabas1298

5 жыл бұрын

Deep

@bloominglate6258

4 жыл бұрын

I'm 52,I am pretty sure you are right.

@toriyt2714

4 жыл бұрын

Could be true but my mom met her now husband that is the best man for her at 56. Can’t focus on wether some man is the person for you. Have to focus on yourself and being the best person in the best place you can possibly be of your life. I truly believe the person for you comes when you are absolutely ready and not a day before.

I am ending a 10 year relationship this year. We got engaged 4 years ago and he won't commit to a date. As soon as his mom is well (helping her through chemo) I'm gone.... Time to move on.

@melissadelude4292

Жыл бұрын

Why wait??? Tomorrow is not promised!!! Move out NOW!!!!

@Hellobebou

Жыл бұрын

@@melissadelude4292 right

@Michellemybell739

Жыл бұрын

Oh Hellllll NAWWWW won’t commit to a date? And here I am done broke up with my ex because he has asked me about setting a date and getting our marriage license so much that I questioned his seriousness in my head-plus we had issues we needed to work on and he wasn’t doing the work satisfactory enough.

@asill.6668

11 ай бұрын

Why are you waiting? LEAVE NOW!!!

@Mrs.TJ516

4 ай бұрын

You can still help his mom you deserve better 💙

The more I listen to these videos, the more I'm convinced I'm never gonna have a man in my life, let alone get married and I'm already 39. Feeling so sad and teary right now 😥

@rses916

4 жыл бұрын

I love your name

Don't be fooled by his financial reasons or whatever reasons. Even poor men get married, have kids, without a problem.

@asill.6668

11 ай бұрын

They sure do!

@Mrs.TJ516

4 ай бұрын

💯

Wow! Your video hit home. I moved out, kept seeing my guy and then I stopped calling recently because I asked for help with something I think he should help me with and for other reasons my eyes finally were open to and after he said no, I responded okay and he hasn’t called back. He’s a father, I have no kids and in some ways he treated me in a paternal fashion. His kids are with their mom. I think he enjoyed my company and having me do chores and cook and help with bills but didn’t love me. Damn.

@lillyvgutierrez9685

6 жыл бұрын

Lady VictoriaAntoinette love reading the stories I'm sorry to hear, happy 2018 doll may this new year bless u w all u want

@poisonpoison686

6 жыл бұрын

Good for you and MOST HIGH has a way of letting TRASH take it's own self out!!

@beatricesmith3496

5 жыл бұрын

Now you know so move on beautiful sister.

Damn.. I never thought of it this way. Its been 10 years. Off and on. Makes me feel bad... Damn

@malinda4963

6 жыл бұрын

DeliciousBeautii1 he is in jail now till 2021. I'm working on me and my relationship with God. I think I was so wrapped up in him and are kids and life that I lost me. So my focus has changed now. Leaving it in Gods hands my friend.

@malinda4963

6 жыл бұрын

Think Positive at this point I am leaving it up to God. I just never thought of it till Derrick spoke it. Sad ain't it.

@malinda4963

6 жыл бұрын

SuperJ1109 lol.. Thank you for this lol. Made me smile

@teelahunny9878

6 жыл бұрын

No its not sad and don't feel bad. You're a woman capable of loving, forgiving, and seeing the best in people. Nothing sad about that. It only feels that way cause you're in it now but if & when you get out, your husband is going to love those traits about you. Yes let God take over. That's what I did. I struggled to leave him for years and the same year I was born again, God got me OUT of that lifestyle. I know I'm unfinished but Hes going to send me my husband one of these days. After all the work I put in and all the tests Ive passed, the Lord knows I need a good husband/leader. After all, he put me onto these videos for a reason. I'm seeing so many mistakes I made with him and other exes. Never too late to learn.

@malinda4963

6 жыл бұрын

teelahunny Amen. Thank you so much for this. I see now I've been doing it wrong. Its funny because I was just talking about marriage with him and then came across this video. In due time God will do what he see fit. I will continue to pray and walk in the path he has set for me.

Don't be the placeholder be the game changer.

This was so insightful! It’s like you described my relationship, I have been in a relationship with a man for 11 years and we aren’t married this video has given me some food for thought.

Every man needs to hear you!!! I love how you tell it like it is, thank you so much for your advice!

Thank you so so so much for making these valid points! Wonderful to hear them from a man’s perspective!

I was always told that if it's been 5 yrs and he still haven't married you it is because his options are still open because it does not take 5 yrs to realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone so yes Derrick he is just enjoying her while waiting for the woman he wants to grow old with his true soul mate

@juliuscaesar7660

5 жыл бұрын

Listen honey. You've got to kill all that Disney crap. Men do NOT sit around thinking about who their future wife will be. Most of the time women are pushing men to get married.

@kjeanette6789

5 жыл бұрын

@@juliuscaesar7660 I understand that but what I'm saying is once a man is in a real committed relationship with a woman and he say that he loves her why string her along for 5 or 10 yrs before he marries her does it really take that long to be sure but as for some women including myself not all women the goal for us is marriage but never will I pressure or push someone into marriage if he don't want get married that's fine just don't waste my youth I can't sit and wait 15yrs

@juliuscaesar7660

5 жыл бұрын

k Jeanette You still consider yourself “strung along” if he’s stayed down with you for 5-10 years? I think you’re confusing your expectations of a committed relationship what your man’s are.

That absolutely hurted , he's with you until the right woman comes along. The woman that will tolerate his behavior and so on. Your just prepping him for his wife.

I watch your videos on a regular basis, Mr. Jaxn. I've been single for nearly a year and I thank God that I found your channel. Words cannot express how much you have helped me along my journey. I have never commented before, but I had to let you know that this video is my all time favorite! I don't know how I missed it when it first came out, but I'm so glad I've seen it now. I have always been a women that has desired commitment and marriage but I have been "tried" several times. I could never put my finger on it, but you just summed up the last 15 years of my life in 5 minutes and 46 seconds. Thank you for this gem. I will save it and cherish it as a gift of knowledge and wisdom. I cannot change the past, but at least I am well equipped for the future. God bless you!

"He enjoys you!" Well said. Thank you. Yes, a privilege.

This video really helped me out. I've been with my partner 13 years and we broke up 16 days ago. He's never mentioned marriage. A year ago he just checked out and put our mutual friends before me. I'm leaving him but was questioning if it was the right thing. Were not growing together, he's got no goals, he couldn't answer where do you see yourself in 5 years. Love your videos!!

Sometimes we THINK we want to marry someone but there's just that nagging thought in back of our minds that what if this is not the one. And I said we to imply that this goes for both men and women

@leannamctier470

5 жыл бұрын

I feel this way I know the person am with is a good man but just not for marriage so I just don't pressure him or say anything about it to him

Your honesty ... DELICIOUS!! Thank you Mr. Jaxn

PREACH!!! your hitting everything on the head👏👏😉!!! 1 billion % REAL Man Talk 🍻!!

I believe marriage can wait. The man in question in correlation to why he does or does not marry a woman says a lot. sometimes people will get married just because and it doesn't mean a whole lot but they thought it was the right thing to do or they were pressured into doing it. marriage can end just as quickly as it begins. what's more concerning is the state of the relationship in correlation with it's 'status'. marriage isn't always an ultimatum for commitment which is why it's important to know your partner and make sure the marriage is not based on the superficial or on ownership. rushing can lead to regret don't compare your relationships because all are unique to a certain extent. if it's not meant to be then let it be. period.

@ShaniceSaudrey

3 жыл бұрын

This is so positive and I love you for saying this. Thank you. We tend to use other situations for our own and it does us more harm then good. Just because most men are like this, that dosen’t mean all.

Great message to women out there so we can now understand the stalling towards marriage

Broken down perfectly. Thank you!

Great reminder! Love the videos. It’s not even about agreeing 100% it’s about another POV to take into account. Watching these videos have helped me keep stronger standards... thank you!!!

I believe that some men don't make the move, in FEAR of the woman not wanting to get married. Rejection can be a hard pill to swallow for a man or a woman for that matter.

@legslipsandlashes9831

6 жыл бұрын

Kyrianna Some but not all. Men have options and women don't realize they have options as well. I, personally, am skeptical of a man who pushes for married right off the bat. Some men push for a commitment because they want you to be caught up before you know exactly who and how they are. And frankly speaking, if it takes years for a proposal, I probably don't want to a marry him either. I think for me, I need to be sure of what I want because I've been through so much that I'm not sure if marriage is what I want.

@legslipsandlashes9831

6 жыл бұрын

Kyrianna Oh, but men are used to rejection especially since they know they have options.

I won't even accept a proposal until five years of dating. I need to know that person inside and out. Mess around and start dating the green river killer if you want to. Anybody can lead a double life.

@paigesummers7580

5 жыл бұрын

Taylor Sipp You could be Married for years and not know the person you sleep beside.

@summerreed3688

5 жыл бұрын

LOL

@pickmeisha

5 жыл бұрын

good luck with that...

@SnowFoxParty

5 жыл бұрын

@@paigesummers7580 that's why you date before jumping with people and also I know people see red signs and ignore the hell outta them too cause I admit I used to be that person

Now that's that real s***!!! I love to hear you talk that grown man mature realness. That's why I watch your videos.... You are always on point & straight to the point.

This man is the truth. He gives real knowledge where most of us can really relate to it. Some of it is hard to hear and a big pill to swallow but its needed. Thanks Mr. Jaxn. I can't speak for all women but you are definitely helping me be wiser about men.

I have to set my standards, this why I walk away and if he cant follow thru then we are different pages. Also, if you have toxic behaviors you cant put me first like I will do him then yup, no matter how much I love him, he don't value me so we part ways...period.

I promise his videos come right on time. ❤

Thanks for always keeping it real.

Thankyou so much for this video😊 you saved me from the guilt that am being pushy for marrige or problem is in me

When you finally ask him about your future together and he says “I love you but I’m not in love with you”. Time to go.

my heart is breaking reading the comments, I know I need to end it now

@LS93_

3 жыл бұрын

Me currently

@hanaah5385

3 жыл бұрын

Update?x

Short, informative and straight to the point❤️

Bruh im crying😭 this speech was focused

You are so rt, I am dating a guy and we just started dating and we already having marriage discussion, at our age 47 and 45 you know what you want and don't want,,,😉

In his mind he feels he have everything to pacify him without a commitment and the risk of a future divorce!

Derrick I love your truth. Thanks

I’ve watched your videos here and there GREAT content! Real advice vs telling women what they want to hear ❤️ thank you and God bless 😊🙏

Real talk on everything!!! Just had an Ah-Ha moment with Love vs. Enjoy. Drop that knowledge

@tishataray

6 жыл бұрын

Suthernsista yassss

I absolutely agree with Jaxon on these reasons. My man and I have been together for 4 years but we're in our mid twenties both still in college trying to get our personal affairs achieved. We also have a very young toddler. He's been very open and honest with me and had said that he wants to marry me, he just wants us to be financially stable and secure first. I respect that about him. So I guess we're at reason 2. Not all men are cheaters who are looking for something better. My man is extremely transparent and I never had to worry about cheating or anything like that. He treats me and our son very well.

@hunneylipps

6 жыл бұрын

Vanessa Ramos yeah but sis marriage is a means to build wealth together. I help couples and families build wealth. It's better with a couple than the individual. Don't get caught being a contingent beneficiary or better yet, not a beneficiary at all

@sariahrobinson3968

6 жыл бұрын

Vanessa Ramos my cousin dated her now husband through college and got married while pregnant with their second son. I never before saw a man so happy. They too chose to plan and achieve before the ceremony.bought their house, accepted before paying positions. Good for u honey!

You clarified or validated what I was thinking,thank you.

What u said was really profound and i was very curious about that too. Thanks for the insight.

1 Reason you omitted was the man who is very dissapointed in marriage from his past, There are old men who had disturbing marriage and nasty divorce that they swear off marriage forever, they decided they will be ok to be committed to 1 lady but they dont ever want to go thru divorce again, these men are the non religious type, many times agnostics, atheists, liberals, there is a class or group today that feel marriage does not define a relationship

This was a hard pill to swallow. But it's true. I was with a man for almost 5 years and I kept saying, are we getting married? he said yes..one day (iam 36) I have never been married or have had kids so I was like ok....he kept asking for more time and more time then it was he wanted too ave for the ring then he wanted to get out of debt..he kept wanting to move the carrot. So I finally said, I am done. NO MORE WAITING, PISS OR GET OFF THE POT. He said he wanted more time...so I had to leave. I know it was the right thing cuz if he wanted to marry me, he would have.

wow this was really good and exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

Respect!!! Thank you, Mr J!!!

100% accurate!! I live with a man who won't marry me, thank you for this insight.

Some men act like marriage is a 'reward' for long service, like a gold watch from a job you've been at 50 years. Boy, bye. 🙄

everything you said got me teary. but thank you. had to hear that

Wow, i needed to watch this video. I been feeling bad for finally ending a relationship of being on and off again for 10 years. I would bring up marriage and he aways told me he wanted the samething but would tell me i needed to change. I realize it wasnt my fault. I'm glad you made this video.

What can I say? I really hoped I will never be in such a situation, but here I am. In exactly on of those situations after exactly 3 years of waiting for nothing. So... Finally, I have some tears in my eyes. And finally, decided to move on. Cheers and thank you! Broken heart is not as bad as being used for someone who is just not the one.

@ms.lolitagore5822

5 жыл бұрын

Congrats. You Deserve To Be Happy. You Deserve To Good Honest Man Who Will ❤, Cherish And Protect You. God Bless You.

These words were meant for me. God bless u Derek. Sometimes it's good to hear it from someone else's mouth

Word 👍 Dont rush me into it when the circumstances we are are not in our favor.

You are right as always, D! 💯

This is deep. A lot to take in and process. Let me get back. Lol #teamjaxn

@LyricalRes

6 жыл бұрын

Foxy Bark right

@aminah761

6 жыл бұрын

Foxy Bark yessss

This video has triggered me about my current relationship to the MAX!

Thanks for sharing this eye opening advice Mr Jaxn

Love it...thanks again your right

Hits me right in the feelings .. 😒 10+years with two kids and still no marriage. Do those reasons still apply or should I just say it’s a lost cause. #teamjaxn

@shaunaboo961

6 жыл бұрын

Lisa Maldonado girl you already know the answer

@ruru9400

6 жыл бұрын

Lisa Maldonado, he's already getting wifey benefits from you. There's no reason for him to marry you. You already know the answer, my love. 😟

@ruru9400

6 жыл бұрын

It hurts, but if you still want marriage, then it's time to walk out with what dignity you have left. If he wants you in his life on that level, he will step up. But you have to set the standard for yourself and for the relationship.

@jcallwood25

6 жыл бұрын

If you want to get married and your man knows this then what's the hold up? If you guys don't align in terms of this very important thing it may be time to let go.

@lisamaldonado9908

6 жыл бұрын

It’s a hard pill to swallow and I agree Its hard since he has been the only relationship I’ve even been in. And not to mention the father of my boys. I was brought up in a broken home and didn’t want the same for them. I can admit we both tried really hard to stay together but some indifferences should of been red flags for me long ago that I was blind to see.

Omg 12 yrs iv been waiting he says me leaving is an empty promise this hurts watching this video

@shaunaboo961

6 жыл бұрын

Emily Payne Good luck with that👵🏾

@malinda4963

6 жыл бұрын

Emily Payne 10 years in mines.. Smh.. This video is making me think. Hard.

@gasergurl

6 жыл бұрын

WTF!! I would NEVER wait that damn long. Were yall young when yall got together??

@Cash4Fruit

6 жыл бұрын

so you didn't enjoy the 12 years with him? If he's the man of your dreams you should be happy he is still by your side, what will marriage change? If he isn't the man of your dreams then why would you want marriage?

@MJ-vt4nb

6 жыл бұрын

Damn he's a cold one

You are really on point with this

Excellent advice, thank you.

Marriage is something that shouldn’t be rushed into it is a good goal to aim for if the relationship is growing n building. But no progression leads to going around and around in circles and years wasting dealing with the same bs over n over again.

Females needed to hear this right here!!!

This is good! Thank you for this.

I love this ❤️ THANK YOU!