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Self respect. Just because you’re older doesn’t mean you’re desperate.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Indeed

@ScarlettWard-fz7nq

5 ай бұрын

"Finding out about a third party in my relationship was a painful revelation. Confronting my ex-boyfriend only resulted in gaslighting, pushing me further away. However, seeking assistance enabled us to heal, and thanks to a spiritual advisor, he's undergone a positive transformation."

@sherriflemming3218

5 ай бұрын

Ketherwhale. 👍 Indeed not desperate.

@rozannamurayama9629

5 ай бұрын

Absolutely!

@evacook4644

5 ай бұрын

What if your lonesome you choose erong

Social media & dating apps have made it very easy to be casually dating indefinately

@sherriflemming3218

4 ай бұрын

Indeed

He will text you all day every day. He tells you how important you are to him. He wants to give you everything. He wants to pick you up after work and take you out. He calls you to make sure you get home safely. He calls to hear the sound of your voice. He remembers everything you say. He wants you exclusively and says so.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

And???

Pathetic if men think women would waist her time, for a "free meal". Most women nowadays are actually earning a lot of money, some more than men even. I would rather stay home and eat popcorn, then suffer through a better meal with a man who is just interested in hooking up. And who I have very little in common with. It's not like men even take girls out to a high end restaurant anyway, unless they know her better and are already in a relationship. Nowadays the guys online are worse off financially,and emotionally than most women anyway.

@user-gp3uq2eg5j

5 ай бұрын

I think your right but also if you care and want to spend time with them why do something more comfortable or thoughtful and most likely cheaper but better .like I love picnics id rather that or a dinner that's not cheap but together in a more space to get to learn each other . Not just for sex I think that has to be on boths mind in the first place but that's called a bootycall not date .

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Are you suggesting it never happens... I've read dozens of articles on this practice.

@Sharon-777

5 ай бұрын

It definitely does happen but I would think it's younger women mostly us older ladies are more financially established in saying that if a Man asks me out on a first date and doesn't pay there would be no second date 1 you asked me 2 I will never forget what Steve Harvey says if he can't buy you a plate of food he's not going to invest money or time in you. I'm not talking super flash restaurant just a nice meal

@sherriflemming3218

4 ай бұрын

Good points ladies. I have no time for men that complain about money when their lifestyle and behavior indicates otherwise. Also time. Invest in those that invest in you.

@sherriflemming3218

4 ай бұрын

There is truth in your statement Brenda. On and offline. Rather do something I enjoy than be in the wrong company.

Great video. I’m going to be 49 (I look in my 20’s) this year and single by choice. I’ve been at my job 21 years and have a 401K and a pension. I lost both parents within a month of each other to cancer in 2021. I also was with a man for 10 years and lost him in 2013 from suicide. I’ve been working on myself and I’d like to meet someone on my level. Your videos have helped me so much. Thank you.

You quoting “Damn the torpedos,full steam ahead”, was in the movie “Tbe More the Merrier “. Maybe you’ve seen it. An old movie, excellent. Thanks for this video. ❤️

We love you Johnathan! I am growing with your work. Limerence is hard to logically navigate through due to the crazy chemicals. No more situationships, I am worth more than that. I am not interested in being used and me using someone. I blocked a man who thought I was a porn queen operator! Geez. What is the best way of setting your boundaries of no casual sex without being super blunt? It is like men choose not to hear you when you set boundaries. Instant block. These dating vows are wonderful! Awesome job! I tried to put the seat up and almost fell in, because it was in the dark. lol. I learned not to do it again. My condolences for your loss. Side hug.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

awe... thank you

@sheriantolo1065

5 ай бұрын

Me too! So, interesting,eh? I love the f bombs. He gets so excited about this😂

@sherriflemming3218

4 ай бұрын

Being direct the best way. Stating your position standards & boundaries. That's confidence. Take charge.

love your actual duck tape on your video. You're easily the best in your field of coaching on so many levels. You're a natural. Go you. Love it

Wow. I shouldn’t have watched this today on Valentine’s Day. I truly hit something and I just started crying. Ladies listen to this man. Don’t justify actions. People are treating you how they feel about you. Period

Jonathan I like your attitude and I agree with what you are saying about being all in and being there for the tough times.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Exactly

I think it's a great subject about Men paying attention..a situation happening to me was I had a Nail in my Tire...the response was: No problem I'll fix it..I thanked him and as soon as he arrived it was taken care of...It was nice of him doing it,even though I didn't ask,but I appreciated it. We had many great conversations and are looking forward to our Trip and a Concert! Thanks, Jonathan

The dating vows are not stupid I think they should be a standard and definitely my relationship with anyone Thank you Jonathan❤

This is resonating I just realized I want a real relationship with the whole ball game for real this time Thank you Jonathan

Great session!

@Tati S be your best self and shine in that! I found my fella two weeks after a bad accident that changed me forever. It's possible, really, BELIEVE IT !!! Blessings to you!!!🤗❤

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Indeed

Jonathan, this was supremely helpful. I have been seeing a guy for 3 months and he is exhibiting all five of those signs. I am fairly confident we are well-suited and things are going well but there is always a part of me that wants some sign that I am on the right track with him. This was it. So grateful.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

My soon to be ex husband tried to fix EVERYTHING!!! So annoying!! Even our past marriage counselor told him not to try to fix everything that l expressed to him. What she said to him, went out the window. I strongly believe narcissists are too broken to change.

@prince6a

3 ай бұрын

My narcissist ALWAYS had to fix so he could prove he was right and smart. So tiring. Narcissists listen to THEIR inner voice.

I love that hold the basket or what your advice I remember Marie saying that❤

This was great thank you for explaining not only to men but to us women also .thank you .❤

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

Thanks for all you do Jonathon!

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

I appreciate that!

Wow! Just found you! I needed this content! Thank you!

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Happy to help ☺️

Jonathon,,nails it!

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Thanks

😂😂😂 love you Jonathan...you're hilarious.

Loss really opens us up to love...💖

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Indeed

@ketherwhale “yes it does” lol 😂 I’m kidding hahaha

It's unhygienic to leave the toilet seat up - poo germs are airborne- hello!

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Noted

@Sharon-777

5 ай бұрын

Definitely good point 😁

Yea the part about how much he cares and held the vomit basket for me. I really love ❤️ him

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Hold the basket 🧺 😋

@ScarlettWard-fz7nq

5 ай бұрын

"Finding out about a third party in my relationship was a painful revelation. Confronting my ex-boyfriend only resulted in gaslighting, pushing me further away. However, seeking assistance enabled us to heal, and thanks to a spiritual advisor, he's undergone a positive transformation."

I really liked you talk today. Thanks for the toilet comment.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Any time!

It is sad...the respect is not there. I always try to make the contributions to the dating situation as equal as possible.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Agreed

The 10 Ascent commandments of a relationship

Men like de facto relationships more than women, even if they've been together for years. Women like to feel honoured and respected and that comes with being married.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Indeed

@sherriflemming3218

4 ай бұрын

Yes, committed whether this is in a committed relationship- common law or married.

You look good in your new style. Of clothes.

Morning Sir.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Hello there!

I love the emotion vow. After two months of dating, I asked the guy after the second time we slept together, is it going to be just me and you? He said, he would like that. I am serious about him and wanted to know if he felt the same. He said the 1st time we slept together that he works alot and doesn't have time to to be dating around. He had been drinking so I wasn't sure if he was serious. I can say I fell for him after 2 months. 3 months in, I do love him and have planned our future in my head but I don't want to say anything to him until I am 100% sure that he feels the same way. Our values line up perfectly. So I am praying for the best. We both agree on the roles we would like to see in our husband/wife. He is more traditional and I am modern/traditional. He will let me be to work and I promise that when it is time for a family. I will put that 1st. I was home with my 1st kid and I loved to see each moment. I wouldn't want to miss that a 2nd time around. However, I haven't told him that I don't want 2 children. I only want one between us. I like traveling.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Thank you

The dating vows are wisdom! You're speaking truths. Thank you. I'm old school. 😊

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

You are so welcome

How about put all the toilet seats down 🤷‍♀️ nbd really ⚔️🧘‍♀️⚔️ but just the most hygienic option overall.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Noted

My mother was dying and I managed to contact someone I was dating to let them know I couldn't meet . He's bullshitting to let you down .

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Oh yes...

This is great advice for what men show you if they’re truly interested. I am just wondering have you found someone else that you connected with?? because I’ve had to walk away from that past person that I did truly have a connection with. I have not yet within 6 to 5 months have run into another new connection. I am out all the time whether it’s my job a social place or even just out in the community, ran into what I’m looking for which is better this time than what I’ve been through in the last connection. I have asked and manifested specifically what I’m looking for from this last connection😊.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Not yet... soon.

Just going to settle this once and for all, Jonathon! Aside from men being *able* to leave the toilet seat up when they use the bathroom, flushing the toilet with the lid open disperses particles in the air. If the seat is up when you go to use their bathroom, that means they flushed with the lid open too. That's gross on its own without having anything to do with us -- just saying! One toilet seat cancels out all the nice shirts for me, haha!

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Noted

Those are called collar stays, and you need them to make your collar look crisp! 😉

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Thanks for the tip!

Yep I know what it means and is to be in to be all in a relationship and a marriage that lasted til death due us part?❤️❤️❤️

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Exactly

Jonathan what is your definition of a fully committed relationship? please can you explain this in your next video?? thanks

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Yes...

Some are very good at pretending.

In a friends with benefit situation, there is usually one who wants more (usually the woman); however, if they say anything about how they feel or that they want the "benefits" should we say to be exclusive, he will run.... This is true especially if you're dealing with a player who has no desire to have a commitment with anyone. If the woman mentions commitment, he may end it, and then the woman is left out in the cold. This scenario is of course if the woman really cares about her "friend." Sometimes, you have to think are you going to be better off without him? Anyway, I am obviously in this situation, and I chose to keep my mouth shut in order to have my hot young buck keep coming around. I realize I am just wasting time if I want a relationship with someone, but I am living for the moment. Just my opinion.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Good point

@cynthiaziegler6558

5 ай бұрын

I was in a situation like this never ever again

Jonathan where do you stand on how to deal with a man not keeping his word for me it’s a red flag and it triggers my anxious attachment pattern so I make a big deal of it early on in the relationship which hurts me is there a right way to deal with this in the early stages thank you and I love how authentic you are in your videos

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Sounds like it

Hell yes to the toilet seat my ex would not do that when you have had babies you pee a lot and sometimes real fast that's why we want the seat down 👍

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Exactly

I would never get married again but if I felt a guy really loved me I would live with him but I dont believe in marriage. Been there done that .not interrested

I haven't watched for a while. Regarding a relationship, Jonathon mentioned "the next time". Did his relationship end with the woman from out of state?

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Yes, 6 months ago.

❤

Regarding asking about finances: I am a woman and want to have this conversation early. I want to make sure the man is financially responsible with a retirement plan. That's the path I am on and I want to ensure we are aligned. Regarding coffee dates: I decline them and suggest something else. It doesn't have to be fancy and/or expensive, just not a coffee shop. I do not drink coffee and find most coffee shops in my area are loud and busy and not conducive to a nice first date.

Reason why? 90 % of the time we all pee. 10%#2. Women100% sit. No matter. Woman are all very happy please seat down.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Indeed

This totally off subject, but my observation. With you dark hair, have you thought of a lighter colored background behind you?

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Noted

10 Commandments Of A Relationship Essentials Dr. Stan Tatkin

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Did you look it up? Good stuff, right? 🙏

Love love love the duct tape!

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

😁

A narcissist will start by love-bombing you.

@JonathonAslay

3 ай бұрын

Most guys love bomb when they feel excited

@sosalty701

3 ай бұрын

@@JonathonAslay true, though narcissists have an over-the-top flavor of it that is egregious, eg. two weeks in: “you’re my soulmate,” “I want to marry you and adopt your kids” etc. Until they suddenly devalue you. Run! Don’t walk… Another one is the “reptile eyes,” a soul-less look in their eyes in certain moments that I saw very early on, which I found out other people have experienced when encountering a legit narcissist.

A toilet seat up ? It just looks so messy ! Ugh !!

About the longevity of your parents marriage……longevity does not equal health. The marriage could have been incredibly dis functional. Your viewers will never know. Hell, you may not even know.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Indeed

Toilet seat. Think of trash cans. We prefer not to see the garbage. Keeps the animals and kids out of it. Same with the toilet. Keep it covered. It’s never germ free. It’s dirty. So keep it covered up!

…because an open toilet looks gross even if it’s pearly white. ESP if there’s dried yellow specks on it. It is reminiscent of bending over and showing. Plus pets drink out of it. Chlorinated water is bad for them.

TOTALLY AGREE ABOUT HEATHER ANDERSON ❤ look her up Jonathon xx

Jonathan a woman won't put the seat down Because generally the man is facing the toilet. It's easy to just bend and lift it easily. for a woman,when she really has to go badly, she doesn't have time to put the seat down. Sometimes she accidentally sits down and doesn't realize that the seat was left up in her haste to pee quickly and her entire a** goes into the water. That never happens to a man. That's why!!!!!

@JonathonAslay

3 ай бұрын

Yes, I get it... we men just sometimes forget.

I actually would put the toilet seat back up when I went over to my boyfriend's house.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Really?

@Cutiejuliya

5 ай бұрын

​@@JonathonAslay i would do that too, it makes sense

If women have to touch the toilet seat then we have to then eash our hands before using the toilet . We are more prone to infections . Men , put the seat down!😅

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

😁

What am i doing? Men follow me at the shops, I'm not doing anything except walking and dressing nicely and modestly. I tie my hair back to look less obviously attractive, but they still follow me. I usually keep an eye out for them and walk fast and cross over to another area. Why do I care? It's unpleasant and intrusive to discover a man is in your personal space - like 1' behind me rhe whole way up an otherwise empty shopping aisle. It's creepy and a bit threatening. Men shouldn't be doing it - not so close and persistent. I'm doing NOTHING except existing and daring to take care of myself so that i have pretty soft shiny hair. And being petite. It's genetics and good lifestyle. That shouldn't mean men get to intrude on my personal space. I'm just minding my own business, shopping.

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

I agree

It doesn't go the other way because god made toilet seats. And since god made toilet seats they need to be down! Otherwise why would god have made toilet seats?

@JonathonAslay

5 ай бұрын

Original one's didn't have seats