Heal After Narcissistic Abuse Program (Hana): emotionalabuserecovery.com/hana

After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!

@claireymacd

3 ай бұрын

I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??

@Candace-Hooker

3 ай бұрын

Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .

@Candace-Hooker

3 ай бұрын

She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸

@Candace-Hooker

3 ай бұрын

After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.

@DulceJaramillo-ri3pn

3 ай бұрын

Great to see you guys talking about her, she changed the game for me.

1) I love you. 2) You have no one to rely on except me. 3) Without me, you can't progress in life. 4) You can be vulnerable with me. 5) I'm your best friend.

@narcabusecoach

3 ай бұрын

These are some good ones but I discuss different ones in the episode

@User-vibes1523

3 ай бұрын

​@@narcabusecoach no- 4 just killed me! how fool I've been 😥

@mbarrios386

3 ай бұрын

These all sound like the ones my new wife’s ex husband used to tell her. Til she finally found the courage to walk away. Boy, is the vengeance coming and it’s coming hard!

@user-lt3yb4fm6q

3 ай бұрын

I got all these from my ex. They're so true 😖 These plus the things Danish mentions

@iamg000

3 ай бұрын

This is literally the statements from who I thought was my best friend for the last 10 years.

I remember how my mom preferred literally everyone else’s children than her own and she made me feel like everyone was so superior 😂😅

The more people they turn against you, the more they think that nastiness proves they're right.

@joseenoel8093

3 ай бұрын

That's just aces, they might think that nastiness proves they're right but in reality many don't want to hear it, engage in the fantasy that we're to be ridiculed, that would probably come from someone mature as opposed to...

@Annie-ol3jx

3 ай бұрын

​@joseenoel8093 those people who they turn against you,were never meant to be in your life anyway. And on top of that,they are very weak minded person. When that happens, thank God and move on.

@Diamondjane54

3 ай бұрын

I'd add to your thoughts, if I may, their wicked acts, without a doubt, will return to them many times over. Their gloating is superficial and lasts for only a moment, but you and I are free❤.

@Annie-ol3jx

3 ай бұрын

@@Diamondjane54 well said!!

@nolalawrence2457

3 ай бұрын

​@@Annie-ol3jxWhat do you do when these people are your own adult children.

Greatest liar & cheater on earth 💔

@Diamondjane54

3 ай бұрын

The narcissist who held me captive for many years did nothing but lie. He carried a Bible as a prop. It was used to attract & sucker me in. I experienced a web of lies and deceit and could never put my finger on the exact source. Moving the goal post was a common practice "Oh what wicked web😮 we weave once we practice to deceive. It's a saying dating back but is still true today. He got away with the sham bcz I wanted to believe

@BNyaB

3 ай бұрын

👏👏👏

@user-kw7hs6do1y

3 ай бұрын

Pope Francis. The man hates children and wants to literally rule the World!

It is important to have your own space and be independent i believe the healing starts this way

@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap

3 ай бұрын

Yes it is, Danish said that we need a place to be alone and healing ourselves.

My narcissist mennonite "friend" told me that I am just addicted to hate. Guess I kicked my addiction. Got rid of them, and now wow no hate, life is so much better.

Mothers spiritual narcissistic abuse is worse 😢

@TruthBeTold0914

3 ай бұрын

💯

@Diamondjane54

3 ай бұрын

I married a covert religious narrsissiist. That was my poor choice . My Mother was a violent narcs. It never occurred 2 me why I was so drawn in2 A marriage that anyone else would have been uncomfortable with immediately. I know that makes no sense. I merged in2 my marriage never knowing how unrealistic it was, but I think in someway I was going 2 change my past and my husband would love me & prove I was worthy of love . I kind of said to myself see Mom you were wrong, but it didn't work out like that. instead it is like an icy bucket of water in my face. I'm lucky I woke up not everyone does. Be good 2 yourself .So long 4 now & good luck.

@megpi72

3 ай бұрын

They basically tell you that you are going to hell. Same place as them I guess.

@beautypablotamarini7315

3 ай бұрын

Its bloody horror

10:00 "the 1 thing all my bad relationships have in common... is me," is a statement that narcs never can consider. They don't self-assess for improvement, only for better strategizing.

@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap

3 ай бұрын

Yessss

@VinnyCarwash-js8op

3 ай бұрын

they are unable to self-assess.

@b8akaratn

3 ай бұрын

@@VinnyCarwash-js8op hehehehe...see, i think they do say to themselves things like, "ooh, NEXT time, i'm going to focus on that detail so my words hurt them more!" ... Jerks. 🫢🤭😁

The biggest lie is: You can trust them and depend on them. The best you can do is that you are independent (at least financially)... You have to if you don´t want to lose yourself completley. Take your life in your own hands. From experience I know it is the best you can do (don´t be lazy like I was...). Break out and be free!

@Kristel280

3 ай бұрын

Many likes to this comment from me ❤❤❤

@IsabellaPiesch

3 ай бұрын

@@Kristel280 ❤ Thank you! You are welcome! All the best for you!

My mother convinced me I was defective and "the problem" and that I "wasn't a bad person" but that I had "bad behaviour". But we were never able to discuss HER behaviour. Everything was MY fault, and I was responsible for everything I did, she did, anyone else, did and everyone else did. If I was abused, it was my fault and I was the ONLY one responsible. If she abused me, it was my fault and I was the ONLY one responsible. If someone else abused me, it was my fault and I was the ONLY one responsible. It was my fault anything I did. It was my fault anything she did. It was my fault anything anyone else did. It was my fault she would break something. It was my fault the person down the street broke something.... It was my fault the Berlin wall fell. It was my fault the Hindenburg exploded. It was my fault the Roman Empire fell. She had me so convinced I was defective. I realize how, she was gaslighting me and projecting HER faults onto me. Thanks mom!

@BNyaB

3 ай бұрын

Uffff, demonic! 👍👍

6:00 add these phrases "We've gone through worse than this" "Stop being weak" "You're so ungrateful" "Stop complaining all the time"

My husband would say all of this. It"s your personal feeling, you're over exaggerating, you're always being negative, He would start arguments with me every time my children come over then say all yr mom do is fuss so they stopped coming over

I see you've met my mother sir.

@ekdaufin1485

3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

My mom and sister are the nastiest people I have ever come across. Both of them can go to any extent to pretend they are loving and helpful in front of people gatherings. They insult and embarrass me in front of all my relatives and cousins. Nobody stands up for me. Not even my husband. All I wish is they understand they were doing wrong some day. I'm done with proving myself

@Diamondjane54

3 ай бұрын

I'm working on creating a new plan to live by. Its a rocky beginning, but it's a beginning. Rest when U must but just don't quit. U R ❤able.

@murphmane7804

3 ай бұрын

Love them from a distance is the key

My mother was full of secrets. She told me from the time that I was young “Don’t tell anyone “ over every single little thing that happened in the home especially about her. She didn’t want anyone to believe that she wasn’t perfect. She wanted/wants me to believe that I am helpless and that I need her. My mother depended on me for a lot of things that I am no longer giving or doing for her and she is far from happy about it. She pretty much always has a nasty look on her face. I can’t stand to look at her or speak to her now. I avoid her as much as possible now. Talking to or looking at her seems to ruin my day.

The way I picture a narcissistic relationship in my mind: lies are the spider's web where you, the fly, got entangled with. No need to say the spider is the narcissist.

So relatable, and I'm gaining a clear perspective about the circle of insanity narcissists display regularly . It's extremely challenging, engaging with these folks on a daily basis. It's also overwhelmingly difficult to keep your compusure, and not lose your mind in the process. A skill that takes a lot of mental effort and clarity . Thank you for this valuable video Danish! Namaste!

I once told him how much I love him and he said ‘you shouldn’t, you’ll get hurt’

thank God I had years of counseling before I got involved with the narc and married him. for only 10 months then ran. for as each deception was attempted to be dumped on me, I rebelled and held my own judgement. he showed me what Narcs were all about. and I said no thank you. he was a CON most of all. and profited financially from me. yet as I was realizing the predator he was I protected my remaining assets as I could. it was an expensive education.... for me. I am grateful I recognized the lies as they were served to me. only the first one got me in.. "he liked and respected me". because I wanted it to be true so badly. from there it went downhill eventually to life threatening rages.

I was trauma bonded to my mother ... but I remember that she called me a "pest" (for attention).

11:34 To know the truth about a narcissist is to know the meaning is the exact opposite of their words. So true!

I always thought it odd, that things that weren’t an ordeal became an ordeal! Things that I knew people around me didn’t make such a fuss about, the narcissist thought it was the end of things. Their world is distorted seeing things that isn’t there and launching at you for saying otherwise.

Danish, this video is spot on!! To a degree that makes me scared and sad, but its so accurate! Thanks for all your work

@MissG8340

3 ай бұрын

He’s so good at all the video he gets everything spot on

Sir ...iam slowly learning to ignore him....that has allowed me to breathe little 🎉

I am so surprised discovering the narcissism in various people around me and in different degree. I can recognize now even the slight sign when someone's intention is to have narcissistic supply. There were many people in my life who made me feel uneasy, sad or anxious every time, but I didn't know why exactly. Now I gave a name to every behavior and I am at least aware what they wanted from me, who I was always gentle, helpful, positive and compassionate. There was a person who called me "negative", that I destroy everything I touch, that I exaggerate with my conclusions and my expressions, that I am angry without reason and this is crazy. Narcissism hurts you to the core when you are the opposite of these accusations, because it hits you slowly with a subtle and sneaky way in the center of your existence. All the water of the Nile is not enough to clean your pain from a narcissist. And the most dangerous lies is what you said, Danish. Indeed! But there is hope, I believe. Because nothing is unmovable, except the narcissist's mind! 🌤🌈Thanks for the awareness you bring to the table, Danish ❤🌞

@stargazer3887

3 ай бұрын

@@jbrown2908 ❤Yes, this is the truth!! But imagine how I felt, because she was a childhood friend who was a psychiatrist, as well!! Unfortunately, apart from my sister, I had many narc "friends" in my life, "experts" in their field and I didn't know anything about this issue at that time. After an abusive behavior from a "priest" and a "healer", I started to wonder what is going on here?? And I discovered the narcissism with shocking feelings!!

@stargazer3887

3 ай бұрын

@@jbrown2908 It's true!! But you believe them at the beginning when they are your mother, sister, sibling, best friend, doctor, healer, priest.

@stargazer3887

3 ай бұрын

@@jbrown2908 Yes. But I wonder for something else too. Maybe Danish can try an explanation of when it is a disorder and when it is only a trait. Of course, as you said, we normalize it and sometimes I doubt because my patience is... mythical!! Experiencing narcissism gives you a strange strength at the end! Also, I noticed so many bad behaviors around that I believe that it is a modern plague!

After experiencing several narcs and their smear campaigns, I finally had enough. 1) I try not to seek validation from people...they have to work and prove to me that they belong in my life. 2) I try not to people please and respect my needs and interests too. 3) If someone is consistently giving me bad vibes or energy, I try to avoid or distance myself from them (both physically and mentally). 4) I refuse to let anyone guilt trip or shame me just because they are a narc or flying monkey. I work on this every day...and it feels better when you get back some power and control.

I actually had the (female) person who brought me up literally tell me, 'You've been insulting me your entire life.' I sat there listening to that. When she said it, I was thinking to myself, '" I inconvenience you? I didn't do anything to you. You're the one that gave birth to me. If you didn't want to give birth to me, you shouldn't have had me." I look back on that conversation, and honestly, I just laugh because if I don't, I'll end up crying .. However, that was over a decade ago, and I've done a lot of healing since then. I'm extremely grateful for the help that this channel has given me. Understanding their motivations is very validating for us as a surviving community.

@joseenoel8093

3 ай бұрын

Unbelivable and then they wonder why we're not out there winning a Nobel Prize in whichever/some category of their liking and this from someone older than we are, imagine needing to leave your own home to feel liked, wanted, appreciated, unbelivable!

@joseenoel8093

3 ай бұрын

And this criticism from someone we're supposed to take life Q's from? Our lives equal needing to find love, acceptance, peace of mind outside the home, unbelivable!

@kryssysmith1486

3 ай бұрын

​@@joseenoel8093 Well, exactly isn't that the ONE person we should be to look up to and trust, right? I was actually looking for something when I came across my journal entries from my (college days), and that was literally the first line that my eyes fell upon after going through the pages of the journal. It was unbelievable; the amount of maliciousness and callous comments were just insane. Even going to the doctor as a kid/teenager, I couldn't speak because she was ALWAYS in the room. She would talk for me,

Wow!! Spot on! Exactly!! I’m amazed at his understanding, Danish is so right on it’s like he was living in our house watching this! My 26 years of Marriage to a Narc… finally ended… I found him out! I exposed as the Mask fell and stood up for myself. He could t handle it and Collapsed and fled… to His Mamas

They slowly change you because your opinion can never be held on to and you have to default to theirs because yours has nothing supporting it so it can grow into not just your opinion but part of who you are.

@VinnyCarwash-js8op

3 ай бұрын

This makes no sense whatsoever.

Its best to say nothing but smile keeps the peace

My name is Klarissa. Danish, this was very great video. This video related to me because my mother is a very narcissistic person. She blames me for everything a narcissistic person does even though she knows it's not my fault. She even blames me for her narcissist husband's actions even when he continued to bother me. She says it's my fault. My mother and her husband are very bad trouble makers and religious narcissist. They don't know anything about God, or the bible. My mother is also a severe liar, and plays head games.

@dakoderii4221

3 ай бұрын

They are the people the world points to and says, "That's what a Christian is? Look at the hypocrisy! I want no part of it!" They only use the Bible and God as a cover for their wickedness. They really didn't think that one though. Trying to fool God and use him. Wow! Pride cometh before the fall. They also believe that if they blame all their problems on a scapegoat that everyone else will be able to get along. It never works out for them. They eventually turn on each other too. Pride will devour everything in its path.

My husband always made me believe that no body is there for you in this world., because you are unlovable

I'm in the midst of a very difficult time. I can't focus at all, but I want to work it out very soon to be able to enroll in the new program. You are so helpful to me, Danish. Thank you for everything.

He is so, spot on.

Mr Bashir,at age 48, I have finally come to the truth of the matter,that,cultural beliefs mixed with personality disorders,will never allow the victims of abuse have closures, expect empathy, apologies or even a small grain of honesty.This truth has given me wisdom and power to elevate and hopefully live my life in full. Thank you for your care.

@Diamondjane54

3 ай бұрын

Thank U 4 your Hope.

That’s true , even if the things they are saying doesn’t make sense at the moment they make you believe that they are saying the truth. You cannot argue with them, at the end normal people choose peace over arguments which gives them a sense of dominance. We cannot record everything that is happening in life, they lie all the time. I am glad that I am out of the relationship after 14yrs. Danish, you are doing a great job in making people understand what a narcissist abuse looks like.

Absolutely TRUUUUUUE DANISH!!!God Bless you💝💝💝praying this is THE END OF THIS CURSE FOREVER!!!!!

Blamers,damn thank you my friend

Also join a church!! Getting closer to Jesus really helped me.

But of course, we force them to need to fix us! I feel bad snapping at people but they don't, they use certain tones as ways manipulating/torturing us into other behaviour, they should try not making such a big deal out of anything that's available to them thus our need to eggshell trot!

nothing more, nothing less.

Every thing you said is spot on . Thank you so much for educating us about narcissism. I have learned a lot from your videos. The narcissist always tells me ( quote "I NEVER LIE" unquote ).THAT IT SELF IS THE BIGGEST LIE. They are the wolves wearing sheep's clothes.

Love your videos, my former narcissist friend turned me on to your channel trying to tell me that I am the narcissist by wanting to go van camping

Thank you so much for this video. We (the victims of narcs) are not crazy as they try to make us to be.

Very, very good. Thank you very much.❤ Super.😊 Well done. Thank you.😅 Referring the lies: My mother was exactly so. Reffering to the lie no. 1: My mother didn't have another person as another option. She had no friends. Her aim was I, her own daughter and scapegoat. 😢😢😢 😮 Her comparison approach was a trick to make me feel miserable, small and guilty! That's all! 😢 And as a child you don't see through it and unfortunately you actually feel really that way!!! 😢😢😢😮 LIE No.1 was only even more meaner. Her goal was that I give myself up completely. Her aim was to destroy me completely.

@user-o6ue45hz8nr2ap

3 ай бұрын

I feel with you ❤ my mother did the same with me, but i have been gone. I have a good husband ❤

It's amazing how delusional they are. If u don't hv a video or witnesses to it, u can forget arguing the truth to them

100% I am just recovering from a narcissist...he stalks me etc.

Thank you for all your videos! They are helping me make the changes I need to break free from my narcissistic mom. I can’t fully heal until I have her toxicity out of my life and I’m learning that from you. Thank you. I feel like I’m getting my freedom back and sense of self back.

I so enjoy listening to you. Your experiences help me connect with what you are saying. Dealing with a narcissist is so messed up that sometimes it's hard to put into words. You make it all make sense.

Ty so much for your work sir

This is a MUST

What we needed to do was get away from them. AND THANK GOD THAT YOU DID!!! We were never the problem to begin with. Take this knowledge in,and live by it!! It's your protection ❤ great video

Thank God for you Danish, you are truly a great person

You have described my Boss and his son perfectly!!! Thank you for this channel.

Thank you so much Danish From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA

Exactly I have even been told that I can change

In my friend circle many of them have these narcissistic traits. After watching these videos on narcissism i realized why i had to struggle to co ordinate with them. Very enlightening videos. Thanks.

The narcissistic parents will always treat other children better & show love to them and not their own. Realize this is becuz they only have to be around them for a brief time; it's just a show. Those other children will say, "they are so sweet & lovable" but u know the real truth. Don't bother explaining it; they won't believe u. Hv peace in knowing, they can't change what is true; they can only lie about it. You will always be compared to others & will not ever be enough. Love urself now that you know their wickedness

I agree, say nothing keep calm and work on yourself to be the best a success 🎉

Thank you!❤

yo)ur narrative is100% true today came to know even my cat is kept away away from me (ķsolated)

Hey Danish thank you for being here and explaining everything however i do have a question What if you NEED to be with a Narc even longer?

Every single one of this was my ex. It hurts to know that for a whole year I was with this person...

The fact I’m deleting my comments so they aren’t seen should say enough

Ever since I came closer to God I learn to forgive him my case isn’t that hard for me I add up everything all ready. I win

It's true my husband also lieing from 22years about him now I am getting to know everything how was it

Last one was my mother 100!

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I don't know how to become independent if I feel physically and mentally weak due to the abuse. We are separated not divorced yet. I depend on his financial support as my income is not enough 😢?

Wooo...this is my dad turned my entire family against me! Ive only just understood why i have been gaslit for 59 years. He hasnt won as God as the final say he will fight our battles restoring justice we deserve against these evil minded imdividuals We are survivors not victims

soooooo, he says he doesn't want to do anything with me anymore, (because I mirrored him and gave him a lot of his own medicine - I was on my empath nova state). Does this mean he wants me???

Dont do anything and just leave

Vast difference. Believe the opposite.

narc husband after alcohol drink most of time do not behave aggressive but became more silent and behave like normal other people, Does such behavior after drink confirms his narc level is not so malingant or he is such like other people more arrogant? How to differentiant narc husband with others normal people based on alcoholism ? AS I AM regular watching ur videos , already watch video on alcoholism?

@joseenoel8093

3 ай бұрын

Good luck, mine was a fish then finally fatty liver disease kicked in, no really, 🍸🐟, mom from Scotland, dad from Poland and both drinkers,.my family too so not much of a red flag, guy even had his own business of brewing at your own home, even made whiskey, not me but 15/day and bars and such, good luck, he's smartened up, thought he would prior, no pill for stupid, he'd even sleep walk, very immature! I'm a bit of a health conscience square, your health is your wealth! I never went back to work, no way leaving him with kids, all ok now and thank goodness, no wonder he was so available!

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Dir , may i get your mail ID to share my story to get some suggestions

Sir Hindi m

Delusional

I started listening to these types of videos 2 years ago and it was healing ❤️‍🩹 to me to get confirmation on what i was knowing but was being gaslit😅

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