Yes, already got rid of all toxic people in my life! Thanks!

Oh my! Almost everything Matthew described as toxic was my last relationship.

Yes done with toxicity

Like #4 YES!!!!!... Im in New York.... Thank you so much for sharing this with us...have a wonderful and blessed day! ❤❤❤

@MatthewCoast

8 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

@LeslieDellavalle-mt9bk

8 ай бұрын

Yes so true I was crazy for this man he was everything I asked for and he turn to be the worst!!! Omg I went out and got a sweet adorable dog who can't even compare to him.this guy change for the worst went to some discusting evil idk how to describe her a bigger mess than him so now I'm good and those 2 miserable people can be miserable together.

Yes, experienced distrust

Very good

Got all of them plus comparing me to his ex. Very toxic dynamic.

Yes! Watching from Ontario, Canada. 🇨🇦

@MatthewCoast

8 ай бұрын

Hello there!

I get it I'm getting all this behavior from my husband

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YES Greetings from NZ 🥰

@MatthewCoast

8 ай бұрын

Hello there!

I get it!

Do all three have to apply or just a couple?

Thank Mathew

@MatthewCoast

8 ай бұрын

Most welcome!

I get it..

Loved the video. And apologies for the short novel below, but this is on my mind every time I hear this: Blame & Responsibility ~ Agree with reservations. Emotionally abusive relationships there can be a real victim, and usually the person is not believed because most other people can't believe in that level of cruelty. That said, even the victim wasn't perfect...so they can own their lack of skill in dealing with their partner, perhaps (I've learned how I may have inadvertently indicated disrespect I wasn't feeling for example)...or their lack of self-compassion or self-care or boundaries that led them to be attracted to the abuser. And yet, I'd not 100% say that if the person says it's another person's fault that they're definitely toxic. Sometimes it IS mostly the other person's fault. My husband married me because his friends were getting married and he wanted the party and the attention. He never truly wanted to be married. He pretended to be someone he wasn't and began lying to me (without reason...I'd reacted pleasantly to his unpleasant truths in the past) without cause prior to the wedding, but managed to hide it until months into the marriage. Me trying to take at least half the responsibility for what had gone wrong...I spent years trying to BE the right person for him and figure out how to please him. It was only after 20+ years that I realized I'd been duped and this is a pattern of abuse that is never going to end. And even if it does, trust is so broken at this point I don't see the possibility of mending it in the time I have left on earth. YES there are things I could have done differently...not reacted, reacted differently, noticed the red flags and been willing to walk away, what not...but also I didn't know what I didn't know and the guidance I had, if you can call it that, was dismal. So... truth be told I sound like one of those toxic people, don't I? And yet my other relationships, the ones not tainted by much contact with the husband, are just fine. I've spent years wondering what was wrong with me and getting to the point where I realized there was NOTHING I could have done that would have made him happy...so now I'm toxic? That's what bothers me about this... I think it's a good general statement but in reality it can be quite a bit more nuanced. I really wish people would address this side of it too. Personal responsibility is great....but what when you've done that and gotten to the point I have...then what do you say about your past relationship to the next person who comes along to NOT sound toxic and show a red flag? It's all well and good to say take responsibility, but truth be told, the end came because I could no longer trust based on a long-term repeated pattern of behavior. And I can't be the only one here that's experienced this... (I hope I am, but I've heard too many stories like mine to know better.) Anyhow if you can help with that, awesome. :-)

I live in Wyoming.

From Wright City Missouri

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Yes I'm from England sounds like my ex

@MatthewCoast

8 ай бұрын

Glad to have you here.

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@tamaradowdy8178

8 ай бұрын

Carbondale Illinois and my ex does all that

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