1. Walk away. 2. Walk away. 3. Walk away. 4. Walk away.

@gteixeira

2 ай бұрын

It is funnier to play with them.

@bernmcg2699

2 ай бұрын

And once again WALK AWAY.

@bernmcg2699

2 ай бұрын

@@gteixeiranot really, you will never win with them, frankly they aren’t worth your stress, anger, or energy. Best thing to do is walk away, and never look back

@gteixeira

2 ай бұрын

@@bernmcg2699 Most are useless old people, they can't win against a good beating stick,

@chrisdytmire2219

2 ай бұрын

Narcissists are VERY good at getting what they want. Walking away doesn't always work. It's so easy to manipulate people. It's all a game. People are pawns. Everyone serves a purpose in life. Otherwise, why have them around you? Seriously. I know they do in my life anyway. You have NO idea the lengths they would go to to have someone in their pocket or get the desired attention. Trust me. I've done some MAJOR stuff to get attention. We're not bad people though. Everybody acts like we are.

The only way to win is not to play the game. The end.

@mrjon75

Жыл бұрын

War Games

@mimi-lg8lo

Жыл бұрын

God bless Richard Grannon. ✝️

@TV-oc4ml

Жыл бұрын

💯. Rich has narc relationship with his subs

@BelleOfAmherst

Жыл бұрын

Well said! You expressed this in fewer words than I ever could. Words of wisdom. 🙌🏼♥️✨

@sarahwagland1559

Жыл бұрын

Does this mean I should stop throwing dog shit over my narcissistic neighbour's fence?

Don’t try to torture a narcissist. They are already tortured. NO CONTACT FOREVER.

@navimarlow

3 күн бұрын

💯💯💯💯

@trukmikaelson9525

3 күн бұрын

HOW?

The best weapon against a narcissist is total indifference. They want attention and reactions so a "Yeah, whatever 🥱" attitude drives them nuts.

@EBexotic1

Ай бұрын

Factz

@Qumi222

Ай бұрын

They can’t take what they dish out at all!

@toaalta

Ай бұрын

That's called grey rock

@ThePaulv12

Ай бұрын

No, no no. See the vid what do narcissists do when alone? If they're ignored the challenge is accepted. They plot, scheme, backstab, form alliances, control all the people they know you know. You ignoring them is just another way get back at you. You don't get off that easily.

@darealblair6774

Ай бұрын

But this is what narcissist do and say

True torture to a narcissist is you don't even wanna torture them. You don't care. Whatever happens to them you're indifferent. You focus on yourself, not them.

@RockAndRose

Жыл бұрын

I agree with this comment. I found myself thinking, as I watched this video, that doing this correctly would involve giving them even MORE of your time, attention, and energy, just so you could "get back," which feels like still being hooked. And it's not very adult. I just want to sidestep their games. What they do with that is their business, not mine. I just want to stop repeating this pattern in my other relationships. That's the hard part.

@steveking9146

Жыл бұрын

THIS

@Cryptic_Muse

Жыл бұрын

Yes. Roundbeargames you’re correct. I don’t want to torture anyone, I just want to be free.

@MattMussett

Жыл бұрын

Best advise 👌 Working on yourself make them less significant starve them of the attention they crave untill they are missing that "va va voom" For a burger 🍔 When you had a steak 😋

@tezasvichowdary1292

Жыл бұрын

True

It's easy to torture a narrassistic person, just put your own values before theirs...

@auntihooha

Жыл бұрын

@@tomsmarkovs1946 Oh my- you really need to get away.

@wordup897

Жыл бұрын

@@auntihooha no kidding. living with and waking up to that kind of stress every day is a killer. whatever she may bring to the table, it's not worth the price of living in fear of a monster.

@MissManaged1001

Жыл бұрын

That was as simple and as true as it gets!

@phorestpsy216

Жыл бұрын

the animal cruelty hypocrisy one is interesting, my sister has been displaying more narcissistic traits since being with her boyfriend (who seems very narcissistic), and she is very hypocritical about animal welfare. she keeps rats, which actually started with one i was intending to feed to my snake. while i always prefer feeding humanely euthanized frozen-thawed rodents this one wasnt eating and I wanted to try offering it a live one to stop its hunger strike. when i got it at home the snake wasnt interested and since it was a juvenile and was already on the large side for that snake it would have been too large by the time I was ready to offer another meal. so I offered it to her to keep as a pet, and she since has gotten two more. im also somewhat allergic to rats, i wear a mask on feedign day to avoid too much exposure, but she keeps hers in my dads office which I have to pass through on the way to do my laundry. i keep all my snakes in my room, even though its inconvenient, so there is quite a bit of entitlement demonstrated already by keeping her personal pets in a shared space. even though i no longer feed any live rodents and all six of my snakes happily take frozen-thawed rats or mice off of tongs she still acts as if im some unfeeling monster that im not bothered by preparing dead animals to feed my pets. the drawback of feeding this way is you do have to sometimes waste the rats if the snakes dont want them, but again they were all euthanized humanely so its not a big deal. she acts as if its such a tragedy that a rat captively bred for the express purpose of becoming food was 'wasted'. not really a waste anyways because its necessary to give the snake regular opportunities to eat whether it actually does or not. this empathy is either just an act or a form of emotional dysregulation akin to that of a borderline, not true or healthy empathy. her true lack of empathy towards animals (and humans) is evident when it comes to the family dogs. ive always walked and fed them but ive recently been suffering from severe asthma attacks almost every day. so keeping up with the walking has been difficult. ive asked if she could step up for a while and take over some of the walking duties and she hasnt done it once. my empathy for the dogs who have come to expect the enrichment of daily walks always gets the best of me and i force myself to take them out and it takes me an hour or two just to recover from a 20 minute walk around the block. a real test of empathy is whether or not you are willing to inconvenience yourself to act on it, as they say , talk is cheap, and its easy to express empathy verbally but also relatively meaningless if not matched by action. and to be clear my sister has all the time in the world right now as she's on school holidays, its not that she's too busy to help out.

@judeannethecandorchannel2153

Жыл бұрын

Mine has so much power over me still because more than 1/3 of my life's savings (I'm disabled with no income) and everything I own are all still under his control. Is he cooperating? No. He's Hoovering me like a staulker... I can't Wait to get my own values back in the driver's seat of my life. Congratulations for having apparently done it. Good for you!

From my experience with dealing with narcissists. Ignore them and don't break your silence under any circumstances.

@franco2b145

2 ай бұрын

Not just silence.. STOP doing any and everything that you have been doing for them previously. EVERYTHING!! that’s how I was able to rid myself of this one..give nothing!! No conversation No sex No cooking No cleaning Not even a glance.. the demon flee within couple weeks. Resist the ------ and it will _________??

@gooddoctor9542

Ай бұрын

yeah, I noticed they really enjoy it when they make you break the silence, it is like they are thinking *oh I finally can manipulate her again* and then lead you from a mere argument to complete madness... in the end, they are chilling and smiling talking in a calm voice while you are the *mad crazy scary one*

@islandgirlxx3465

Ай бұрын

​@@gooddoctor9542They get supply when they see that you contact them first. It feeds their ego. They need you to need them. Stay faaaaar away from these reptilian demons. Stay no contact for life and live happily ever after without them✨💖

@derrickrr5516

Ай бұрын

@christianstill.6654It doesn’t always work that way. If you choose to stay with the narcissist and they give you the silent treatment, sometimes you just have to ignore them.

@Anydeeznuts

Ай бұрын

@@derrickrr5516don’t give them info to let them step on you they loves to use something about you to threaten and diminish you in a way that gives them the upper hand but by ignoring it makes less significant of that point

Success is the best revenge

@suncity22001

2 ай бұрын

thats bollocks. the more success the baby mother sees, the more money she will try to con out of you.

@Melanin2670

Ай бұрын

THE GREATEST SUCCESS FOR ME N MY SONS IS STAYING TF AWAY FRM HIM😈HIM SEEING WE NEVER NEEDED HIM

@itzTeTe

Ай бұрын

@@suncity22001wow.. you have trauma… if child support goes up just ask for an itemized bill to see everything the money is spent on, just make sure you get it in writing and have a lawyer sign off and be a witness or have it done there in court. Simple, not sure why y’all make things complicated for yourselves emotionally, mentally and financially.

@Empress.420

Ай бұрын

​@Melanin2670 Salute! 💯💯❤ They want children, but they don't wanna pay at the end. Everything is money nowadays because bills, foods & etc. What dumb MF don't want their children to ride in a nice car, have the best clothes, shelter, school & etc??! It's time and energy ✨️ Stay GREAT, beautiful!! Bless you & your children. Safe journey. 🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜

@FQS124

Ай бұрын

@@suncity22001 were talking about narcissists not relationships with narcissists

They absolutely HATE to be ignored. When they can’t engage with you to get a reaction from you they lose it. They can’t stand not to be in control of their target’s emotions. 😎

@deborahcurtis1385

8 ай бұрын

Yeah I had to go no-contact on my entire family. For decades. It sent them nuts.

@estelledean6563

8 ай бұрын

Truth!!!

@jasonwimberly5636

8 ай бұрын

True and sometimes they will come again and again. How many people out there that we think are simply narcissists? Many of these people are more than just narcissists, they’re psychopaths, sociopaths, and Machiavellians. Some of these people may also have serious mood disorders or personality disorders too. I think this kind of thing is either more common these days, or just more in your face as American society grew more liberal, or, that maybe given the greater connectivity people have these days with the internet, social media, smartphones, etc. We make more connections with more people than ever before. Either way, narcissism is such a disturbing phenomenon.

@fluxuleducatiei

7 ай бұрын

When I went onto a different room, after hours of yelling and talking, my ex would scream I've abandoned her like bloody murder.

@user-es6jt6eb7t

7 ай бұрын

@@jasonwimberly5636 They are also Very Subtly MALEVOLENT ! Mentally , Physically and Verbally and Use what i call METACOMMUNICATION to administer their Abuse ie Pulling faces to signal their Disingenuous Disgust hence suggesting they are superior and also twisting the Victims mind to have them Think ( What's the matter with me etc) - until eventually the victim realises the Narcs Metacommunication is Projected at them upon which Shock sets in and more confusion for the Victim.

Cut out and NEVER go back EVER. You are safe.

@christianbenn316

Ай бұрын

True & i did the same so never again i would be around such a person.

@LeayahChristine

Ай бұрын

Yes but what about the people unsafe. Do people have to actually get cops involved. And does that even work

@SAM-Narc-Killer

21 күн бұрын

​@@LeayahChristine go to the police if you're unsafe. If you're truly unsafe there's nothing to "work" or not work.

@sanctuairegaia5213

21 күн бұрын

Dude I do not feel safe especially from police and court!!!!

@SAM-Narc-Killer

21 күн бұрын

@@sanctuairegaia5213 yeah it's a stupid comment. What if someone was in serious danger who read that, and then cut them off and ended up dead.

REMEMBER Your misery makes them happy... Ergo your happiness will make them miserable. So.. Please.. Get well. Move on. Find yourself. Find True love. And always remember this.. You are a beautiful person with a big beautiful heart and you are loved more than you will ever know. Love from Scotland x

@user-op4dj5ok8o

2 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤

@theherbilgerbil2029

2 ай бұрын

@@user-op4dj5ok8o your very welcome ❤️

@ceedee9669

12 күн бұрын

I soooo needed to hear this. Thank you❤

@theherbilgerbil2029

12 күн бұрын

@@ceedee9669 your very welcome. Good luck on your journey x

@85catnip

9 күн бұрын

i only started being loved once i escaped my 'family' home. ive been physically free for 10 years now and had hours and hours and hours of therapy. since becoming a mother, i realised how much my mother failed to protect her kids... she blames suspected adhd on why she didn't do anything. once i have my second child in about 3 months, i can allow myself to deal with that stress and put shit right once and for all. my mother allowed my dad to abuse my brother and her, then she allowed my brother to abuse herself and me, sadly that's barely the tip of the ice. you message... worth more than white gold to many many people.

Have no mercy or sympathy on the narcissist whatsoever.

Detaching yourself and letting them go is the best way to get rid of them.

@christianbenn316

Ай бұрын

Oh yes & you send them packing

In short: 1. Silent treatment. 2. Be critical and look down on them. 3. Become ideal and perfect. 4. Turn off your empathy. Bottom line: just become a narcissist yourself 🤣

@Lisashelldons

6 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@aimforthemiddleeq

6 ай бұрын

Yeah that's awful. 😢

@DeniseCaribbeanKitchen

6 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@garovera

6 ай бұрын

You just outed yourself lol

@MercenaryMuse

6 ай бұрын

You have no understanding.

No contact or extremely limited-(if it’s family) -then living your best life and not sharing negative information with them-they hate it when you’re happy and doing well.

@christianbenn316

Ай бұрын

& i don't care if they hate either & that's their problem

The best thing I've learned on how to deal with narcissistic people is to not engage them in anyway. Pretend that they don't exist. If you see them around and they talk to you. Pretend they're not there. If they call you, block their number all their social media accounts. If they talk to your friends or family about you tell you're friends and family you're not interested in talking about them, they will tell them on their own the next time your name comes up with the narcissist. And the most important thing I've learned is don't give them ammo. Do not vent about them, do not say anything about them and don't say anything nice about them either, do not say anything that might validate their feelings if it were to get back to them. Do not engage, do not vent, do not validate. You're strong and you will break away from this person. You got this.

For those of you are saying not to play the game. We live in a VERY narcissistic world. So you have better equip yourself with some tools that will help protect yourself. You can’t run and hide forever because these type of ppl are everywhere!

@janetebonanno

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for saying this - I thought that I was just some kind of narcissist magnet. No contact is the only way to go.

@Pricklypearwitch

11 ай бұрын

They are EVERYWHERE! They LOVE positions of power! So if people think they can ignore these types of people still are kidding themselves. They are your city managers, majors, cops, doctors, etc. They hold extreme prominent positions BECAUSE we have ignored them and walked away. They will destroy our communities

@sarab.2873

11 ай бұрын

Exactly!

@eldajackson1

11 ай бұрын

Yes, they are!

@richardheumann6005

11 ай бұрын

In normal world yes. I agree. Otherwise you'll lost your whole life. In relationships, with partner, friends or family definitely yes, - NO CONTACT! Otherwise you'll lost your whole life

The worse thing you can do to a narcissist is “no contact”. Anything else is still giving them some control of your life and they’ll take that as a win.

@80sbaby90

Жыл бұрын

Yeah but they still don't care in the way that a normal person would. They just move onto someone else

@charmee4045

Жыл бұрын

@@80sbaby90 Yes and then we don't care. Thats the whole point. They were never in it to begin with, they need to be given Oscars for their performance, its the best you will ever see in your life. But its not real.

@abdulc5726

Жыл бұрын

@@80sbaby90 I don't think u understood what Richard said about reducing their impact on your life destroying their narcacisstic self image. If u did, u wouldn't be saying this.

@lydiapetra1211

Жыл бұрын

I don't agree. .

@lydiapetra1211

Жыл бұрын

Not with me 😂😂😂....I think I got my closure after he tasted his own medicine and than no contact 😂😂

These videos are great because Empaths seldom get news or updates after they've gone No Contact and this information shows and tells just how bad these Narcissists were fried in their own hogfat...

I agree, especially that last part. Don’t abuse the abuser. It to me seems like becoming the thing you hated in the first place. Don’t create a new cycle.

@BlinkinFirefly

2 ай бұрын

This right here. After a while, I wound up mirroring his abuse for my own sanity (more-so to feel ANY sense of justice), but it doesn't fix anything. It does not change the narcissist, they don't seem to notice and they just keep abusing or neglecting you, or doubling down on their abuse if you piss them off. It's not worth it. Literally the best thing to do is don't mess with it. Run. You wouldn't mess with a beehive. Think of each bee as one of the many ways a narcissist can and will hurt you. You are no match. Just run away.

@debfox

Ай бұрын

I couldn’t agree more! I want more of love out in the world, not hate!

@mschlund1

21 күн бұрын

Recently read, or heard from legit source that 1 in 6 people are narcissistic

What I've learned from dealing with narcissists is that you should understand their behavior and don't play or go into battle with them. Unless you are ready to consistently think and act like one, it's mentally exhausting trying to beat them at their own game. You have to change your way of thinking while this is their whole personality. Ignore, get some distance, and just live your life.

@elonever.2.071

5 ай бұрын

And dont let them get an emotional rise out of you. They feed on that. It makes them feel powerful. Inside they are all very fragile little children and they know that and fear that everyone else will know it. When one starts talking to you (assuming you are not in a relationship with them) train yourself to think about something else while they are talking. Even if it is 'I wonder if there are any interesting articles in that magazine on the table over there.' And while they are talking completely ignore them and walk over and pick up the magazine and thumb through it and get immersed in an article. The ultimate gray rock.

@susanbrown4137

5 ай бұрын

Do not have any contact, move and you hopefully will never see them again. I have gone as far as deleted my FB account. New life for me finally, minus alot of loved ones but no choice. My loved ones chose him when I was paralyzed. No loyalty lost.

@soultrynicole8443

5 ай бұрын

Agree! You have to completely disengage from them

@CyberMachine

4 ай бұрын

Leave them to psychopaths to toy with

@glorgau

4 ай бұрын

Really, what a waste of time. People rarely change.

The best move is to move away from them. Drop them focus on yourself don’t play games there’s no need for revenge.

@trickywily2823

2 ай бұрын

Yes thank goodness for Bitcoin

@jennarue8527

2 ай бұрын

They're not going to change so yes, it is best to just move on. They have a disorder. Let them be someone else's problem. I don't have time for playing games. They will never be happy anyway.

@christianbenn316

Ай бұрын

They will face their karma & it's a rude awakening for them

Seeing so many people with the same experience here makes me feel a sense of belonging. In the East, knowledge is not widely available and life is so lonely.

@MaryamIskander

18 күн бұрын

Oh boy, tell me about it, I am from the East too, and was thinking the same like you, a sense of belonging with people who have gone through the same traumatic experience and understand what it is like dealing with a narcissist. Very thankful for such educational videos, you are not alone, God bless.❤

I haven't spoken to my narcissist in years...I didn't want to interrupt.

@truthspeaks623

2 ай бұрын

Priceless

@ZLLi661

Ай бұрын

😂. This is gold. I won’t interrupt their fantasy and goal of having to find a new supply and won’t interrupt my safety, peace and happiness.💪🏾🤘🏽

@Benjaminleo815

Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 YES!!

@theresapannuti6291

Ай бұрын

😂

@SAM-Narc-Killer

21 күн бұрын

I don't understand what's funny about this.

The best revenge is to walk away, get help, improve yourself for yourself and live a happy life enjoy the small things everyday. Love & light to all survivers of narc abuse ❤️

@raziadomun9337

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much.

@savvyguy1353

Жыл бұрын

Facts

@spiritualqueen3423

Жыл бұрын

Thank you I’m healing and my life is better now that they are not here anymore. 🤷🏽‍♀️

I finally divorced my narcissistic wife and threw her out. I put her on no contact almost a year ago. I can tell you after going through a lot of pain and trying to think of ways to repay that pain to her the BEST thing I did was let go and move on. Once I stopped fighting back and focused on ME and getting ME better and moving forward and improving every area of my life her rage and pain was evident. MOVE ON. Trying to get payback actually feeds them. They are EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES. Starve them. Give them nothing. Shut them out completely and move on and the better your life without them the more enraged and pained they become. Someone once told me, "Each of us creates our own hell. Let them burn in theirs."

@kokoskokso

Жыл бұрын

Amen ♥️

@themysticmuse

Жыл бұрын

Thank you.❤️🙏🔥✨

@helendixon1850

Жыл бұрын

AMEN 🙏🙏🙏

@nishasaairabaanu4186

Жыл бұрын

U r right man.

@andrewmartin5930

Жыл бұрын

Perfect!❤️

Just run, and never look back! That's all you have to do! Blessings!

@christianbenn316

Ай бұрын

& you never want be around such persons ever again.

@sambotes2011

17 күн бұрын

I do agree with you, but only if you can get away. I was married to one for 18 years and every time I tried to leave, or kick him out, he would cunningly manipulate the situation so that we stayed together. I am finally out, and living my best life.

Master your emotions & create as much distance & total silence forever is the perfect revenge!

When you lower yourself to the same level as a narcissist, 9 times out of 10 they beat you with experience. Devalue their effect on your life, gray rock them, or go no contact. Heal yourself and move on.

@MrTimjm009

Жыл бұрын

Dont wrestle a pig ; you both get dirt but the pig enjoys it

@lydiapetra1211

Жыл бұрын

Speaking your mind and unload on them to call them out for the evil they have done against you....is most definitely not putting yourself to the same level.....

@hanaansheikh8563

Жыл бұрын

can you explain? in details, what does 'lowering yourself to their level means' pls

@peterwheeler4402

Жыл бұрын

Yip, never wrestle a pig - you'll both get filthy and the pig will enjoy it.

@lydiapetra1211

Жыл бұрын

@@peterwheeler4402 my ex narc taught me this.,.but what if you enjoy it too and not just the pig?😸😸😸

Its very sad that people you love turn out to be indifferent towards you, what a horrible world we live in.😞

@shivsotayang7033

6 ай бұрын

Ye I also realised this when i was 15. My narcissistic father who always beat my mother and torture my mother by brainwashing from night 11 pm till next morning 4 am talking all shits about his superioty and blaming her as the cause of her unsuccessful own life .He also gaslight me and my brother all the time. We can't able to focus on studies. Now as I'm writing this today itself npd father was on his rage.we suffer this every minute as we can't assume when will they get to these.

@richardmoloney689

6 ай бұрын

Unfortunately it's reality

@jumpinjohnnyruss

5 ай бұрын

In some cases, they can be taught to revile you, especially if they're involved with a narcissist or two.

@andreahawkins5890

5 ай бұрын

I noticed my mom was a nar when I was 12. It hurt until I was 15 and decided I had no hope in her being a mom and got on with my life. Now she's homeless and living at my house because I can't picture her homeless 😂😂 she wouldn't survive it

@SonOfZeuz

5 ай бұрын

I am in a relationship with one who treats me awfully despite me giving my world to, sad we have people who we love and care for treat us the worst way

You are currently unhappy, find/ do things that create joy, realize that the narcissist is actually a negative addition into your world and little by little walk further away into a happier life.

I left after 18 years, and never shed a tear.

@SAM-Narc-Killer

21 күн бұрын

You're likely a narc

I have a brother in law that hated it when I started ignoring him at gatherings. He had the nerve to tell my husband to make me speak to him. Lol. Husband responded that I didn’t trust him because BIL always lies and makes stories up. He lost his mind. We still don’t talk to him 20 years later. What a peaceful life.

@amymyers7713

3 ай бұрын

Golden. I figured this out and use it 9n my brother and little sister. He's a damn crazy psycho and she's a little bitch. I have 2 more brothers that know this about them two. We all agree and have a plan. They'll be sorry. I'm only around them because of our elderly parents for now after that, they'll never be in my life. Freaks. I can't believe we're related. They'll be jailed or something. I travel with my husband for his work and never home. Never. I plan on getting rid of my cell phone which I can't wait. They couldn't find me with GPS. They can rot in Hell

@ivangutowski

3 ай бұрын

The fact that your husband knew your stance so well and stood up so perfectly is actually glorious to hear.... would love to have seen that !1

@zyxvwu

3 ай бұрын

I dropped my emotionally abusive gas lighting brother over 20 years ago. Not long ago, he personal dropped a letter in my mailbox asking how I was. He never acknowled not one of the many things he did to me. He ended the letter with, "After all these years, the least you can do is answer this letter"...that line confirmed nothing had changed; my life has been peaceful without him and his family .

@openworldgamer2156

3 ай бұрын

I’m working on the healing process to become a super empath. My question is how to deal with a narcissist that you cannot completely go “no contact” and simply just remove from your life? Unfortunately, this is someone I will have to associate with at least a couple times a year (this is my sister in laws husband ). My wife really loves her sister and her sister is genuinely a good person, but had the bad luck of marrying a narcissistic jerk. This person has repeatedly shown a pattern of unacceptable narcissistic behavior not just to me but others. I have stood my ground a few times which led to fights, gas lighting, but dealing with this constantly is frustrating. What’s even more frustrating is I have never been able to talk to my in laws or sister in law openly about this. They don’t like taking about these things and neither does my wife. They realize how he is and just accept it and try to ignore it. But for me ignoring it is very difficult. I am regularly just thinking of all the things this person has said done and keep thinking what will happen the next time I have to see him. Keep think of scenarios and how I must respond to him. Keep thinking of things I should have said but didn’t because I bit my tongue. It’s very exhausting. Any advice?

@zyxvwu

3 ай бұрын

@@openworldgamer2156 figure out what is your priority; your mental health and quality of life, or giving into a person(s) who expect and insist you accept unhealthy abusive behavior. If you choose the former, be ready to let those people go. I chose a long time ago not to bother with anyone's bs and I've never regretted it.

The best way to deal with a narcissistic person? Don’t!! Recognise, remove, recover!!! 💕

@louise2091

Жыл бұрын

Not always possible. Could be your boss or a co worker or family member or other parent of your children. Even your adult child's parent or in laws

@TheRealJohnHooper

Жыл бұрын

@@louise2091 This is actually the worst situation.. Yes you can quit your job, just to deal with another narc.. The big problem is that narcissists usually have alliances and a pack of enablers.. They gang up on you..

@simpletruths5322

Жыл бұрын

@@louise2091 Hi 👋🏼 yes you are correct, they could be your boss or your parent. You do have a choice as to whether tolerate abuse. I’m 7 years no contact with parents and family, I’m self employed too. The choice is yours. It’s not an easy choice but it’s a very simple one. Trust me when I say, they do not change. Ask yourself, in 5 years what will my situation look like? If you want more of the same , stay as you are. If you want change, be brave, let go 💕. Yes they have enablers who gang up on you, however if you have children, ask yourself, how do I want my children to see me? Do I want to be a shining example, or, do I want them to witness me being abused?

@monarene44

Жыл бұрын

@@louise2091 You can still disengage by not allowing them to trigger you. You can deflect their abuse by refusing to show an emotional reaction to the crap they dish out. They distract easily. Don’t focus on their crap. Change their channel. Dial down their noise. Read up on cognitive dissonance. They provoke because they can’t bear to think of how they would handle it if you weren’t available to them. Feel sorry for them because they have zero insight. Emotionally they’re still 12 or 13 years old with barely intact egos. Like he said, there’s splitting. Fractured reasoning. Flat out disconnects that were a lifetime in coming.

@louise2091

Жыл бұрын

I know this. But it's my mother and my daughters father and I get upset when they mess with my children, who have enough to deal with! But I know all of this but find i still have feelings to deal with. I'm no contact with my ex and imagine my mum is just a little girl who doesn't know better. I'm 62 and find I still crave to be seen and heard despite knowing that this is impossible. Thank you for your reply

I'm an apprentice in the construction world (plumbing/hvac) and this is a very fruitful video for handling a narcissistic boss

My husband got upset bc I started treating him like he was treating me and he lashed out and I had him arrested and he has been incarcerated since November. D.A. said he can't have any contact with me ever again this has been the happiest 5 months in 5 years

@haleytruslow7200

Күн бұрын

I hope you are safe and stay that way. Once he is released, a no contact order is simply a piece of paper.

@carlamitchell466

Күн бұрын

I'm good my son moved back from Florida to live with me

Be careful if exposing them to their supply...narcissistic rage is crazy.

@hellhuckerhenry6950

9 ай бұрын

Yeah, gotta take precautions and use their own tactic of well-poisoning against them Though this time around, you shield the well in advance from their poisoning, aka make sure they find out way late or preferably last about getting exposed so they can't spin it around anymore. Garner with evidence, voila - the narcissist lost footing with all but their most gullible piglets (aka the ones giving him the least amount of sustenance) and will experience ANGUISH. From which they will hopefully learn about humility and not to become even more covert and finessed on their next try.

@johnsteel5347

9 ай бұрын

The trump court cases are going to get interesting

@johngaulding3710

8 ай бұрын

​@@johnsteel5347 It was interesting that JB goes to Hawaii and talks about almost loosing his Corvette.

@darkizofficial

8 ай бұрын

So when someone gets into a fight and is angry because you hurt his feelings, you will call him narcissistic? Think about that.

@johnsteel5347

8 ай бұрын

@@darkizofficial facts don't care about feelings

Upsetting narcissistic people is really easy. Not triggering them is the hard part.

@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT

Жыл бұрын

Facts. Anything you do or say that makes them feel shame or feel inferior will be seen as an attack against their false narrative.

@sonnyca

Жыл бұрын

Correctamundo!

@CristinaAcosta

Жыл бұрын

How to trigger a narcissist- be yourself. Best to get far away as soon as possible.

@rememberfreedom5925

Жыл бұрын

they already idiot in the first place. Its the truth. Should had stayed in their lane tho.

@user-kl8lo6rj5i

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes they come home pre-triggered. Then they have you to take it out on.

🚫 BLOCK them, ignore them, no contact at all

Would love to see a movie about being in a relationship with a narcissist! It would open many peoples eyes. I live with one and didnt realize until 12 years later that this is what was happening to me. Im not crazy, your actually dealing with a mental disorder! The fact that i am a loving caring human being is why i stayed in the relationship. He is also so good at having a, like a very nice and caring personality. He is terrifying 70 % of the time and great 30%. You keep staying because of that wonderful loving small 30%. Started to feel its like a performance and feeling very disappointed that it might not be real. Feeling a big loss💔 realizing I don't want to live the rest of my life feeling disappointed and unhappy all the time!

@mayrachavez9839

Ай бұрын

Dealing with them ends in destroying your mental health .

The way you win is to literally not give a shit and focus on your own life. They become irrelevant. All this stuff is just giving them more energy and keeping YOU in the game. Total waste of your own time and healing. I know a narcissist that hurt me deeply. Today, I could give a shit what they think, what they are doing or who they are doing it with. I never, ever think about them anymore. GAME OVER.

@nightowl6811

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, no contact till I die, going on 6 yrs in 2023,life is excellent 👌 for me 24/7.

@royrdeoraj8300

Жыл бұрын

Awesome, thank you very much Richard . Spot on mate .

@TenableVegan

Жыл бұрын

What are you going on about? You're watching a video on how to torture a narc, you then talk about how you couldn't give a shit & never ever think about them anymore.. Are you sure? Just that you go around posting about it says you still think about them.

@jodie130273

Жыл бұрын

@@TenableVegan I actually don’t and haven’t for over two years. I rarely watch content on this subject matter I just haven’t unsubscribed yet. When I was in the thick of it I was subscribed to all the content and was totally obsessed. I honestly, Hand on heart have healed. It took me years. And it’s a process and the ONLY way to get over it is no contact. After a year of no contact it’s all over in your mind.

@veganamy1181

Жыл бұрын

@@TenableVegan Yep! They never ever think about them yet here they are telling everyone about them!

The narcissist above all else wants to matter. the more you ignore them, the less you're bothered by them, the more you win. don't let them matter.

As someone with a narcissistic mother, it honestly hurt to hear you say that you just have to accept the fact that you never had a parent. I've always wished I had a normal family, but the older I get, the more I realize that you can't reason with someone who has a warped sense of reality and self.

@jeangentry6656

Жыл бұрын

Same. It's a bitter pill to swallow.

@MK-cz4yo

Жыл бұрын

My mother is a terrible narcissists and only gets worse the older she gets and never believes she is wrong or needs psychological help. Unfortunately at a young age and through the years I was subjected to verbal alcoholic mental abuse. I had parents that would fight constantly never once seeing them loving or affectionate to each other. Either through genetics or exposure in that environment I have found that I have narcissistic tendencies that have wreaked havoc in my personal life, with friends, teams, jobs, and worst of all my marriages. Unfortunately for me my first wife was also a narcissists so we just made each other so miserable by the time it was over I was worse off than I had ever been before meeting her. I had no idea what I was or even realized till years later what my ex was but we did it to each other during our short time together. It was my next wife of 12 years that broke my heart and made me realize that I had problems. She is the greatest person in the world and I just couldn't show enough love or give her the time and help with the kids. I would get selfish and lazy and even I got a second chance after an argument that almost ended us. I tried so hard to be who she wanted me to be. It lasted a while and then I would just slip away again without even realizing it. I would catch my self here and there and would do my best to make it up to her when I would notice I was slacking. I even would go couples and therapy on my own to try and figure why I kept hurting her even when I felt like I wasnt. But I was. I just couldn't keep up I would miss cues and signals more often. I was in my on little world oblivious to those hurting around me. My marriage might be over now and all I feel is shame and the fear while trying to tell myself I want her to happy and healthy without me. I still love her and daily I have to fight the hurt anger and rage I get towards her in moments of quiet reflection that I dont understand. I know Im not a total narcissists or else I would be completely unhinged but do have fight panicked urges to beg for forgiveness I dont deserve. But it hurts on the other side too, for people who didn't cheat or lie to their spouses and thought that was enough. To not know or understand the mental burden or strain I put my wife under even though she was begging me to see it and I just couldn't change. Its heart wrenching because I do love her but I just cant be her person because Im broken and breaking her. I fear for my daughters having this if its genetic. I see it my sister and her daughter. Its a horrible nightmare I wouldn't wish on anyone much less it becoming a painful family tradition. I try to still seek help to change and better myself through therapy. I want whats best for my kids and my wife. To stay in our house while I leave. The worst part is I still have pay a mortgage and wouldn't be able to get an apartment so I would have no choice but to go stay with the one person who made me this way "My Mom". For the sake of my familys health I'll do it but I fear it may be very bad for me when it comes to making progress in trying to change in that environment. Sometimes you just have no choice but to be doomed.

@lenoragibbs4614

Жыл бұрын

This was a great video!

@hpholland

Жыл бұрын

It’s ok to grieve. If you can be an amazing parent to your kids that can help you heal and reparent yourself.

@andrewsmith3257

Жыл бұрын

Same here. Both parents. It was awful. I've gone no contact with both for over 10 years. It's the only way to deal with Narcissists in general.

I think in time it will be realized that a narcissist is not only generated from abuse, it can also come from being overindulge as a child.

@CharlieWhiskey549

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree. Narcissism seems to be a response to child trauma and attachment problems, whether that be neglect from one parent and over-indulgence from the other or whatever. This should create pity rather than a desire to torture, but not to the extent that you accept their behaviour.

@Prometheuspredator

Жыл бұрын

@B. Clifton, I agree. Providing a child an environment were they are coddled, enabled, and rescued by the parents promotes the perfect opportunity for a child to become a "Golden Child" narcissist. An idol amongst the family. The child that is overly praised and cherished by the parents provides him/her the mindset that they are the special one and are held in high regard amongst their other siblings, because of a variety of reasons such as their attributes, birth order, accolades from school, friends, community recognition, influence, and reputation. The parents over accommodate and indulge the "Golden Child" with materialistic possessions that are not provided to the other children. Abuse and neglect are not the only avenues for an individual to become a narcissist.

@Prometheuspredator

Жыл бұрын

@@CharlieWhiskey549, Create pity for the narcissist? Please elaborate.

@vidanaps714

Жыл бұрын

They choose to be like controlling a good person move on but their grudge choose to blame others for their own fault

@robertromero8094

Жыл бұрын

True, my ex was the step sister so she was "unloved" but the sister was placed on a pedestal and fully supported even after being an adult, she's a different monster.

I told one I knew I saw right thru them. Fed it back to them. What they done. Im healed . Much better life now for me. He blocked me.

@sherrysunshinefreeman3434

Ай бұрын

Same happened to me 😂

Thank you. This will help so many people trapped in the web of deceit and lies. When I was younger, I felt like I had to be the most important person in the room at all times and it was introspection that led me back to a normal and much better life.

The key here is to be safe. Mine tried to snap my neck when he thought I smiled when he was in a rage. Ok maybe I did but in my defense, his rages were becoming ridiculous to me. And back in the early 80's, we didn't know about the different personality disorders so to me he was just a grown man acting like a toddler when they don't get their way.

@itsawowman_

Жыл бұрын

Do you hear yourself trying to justify a laugh for not being physically violated? You need to respect yourself way more woman

@licksnkicks1166

Жыл бұрын

If my ever touches me he knows I will kick him in the balls. I warned him several times. I kicked him and he went down. I will never leave my house that I worked so hard for. He can leave.

@joys6818

Жыл бұрын

Don't look now but I think we have a narc in the house!

@itsawowman_

Жыл бұрын

@Jys that sounds like bullying and isolating, especially with that "we". Pretty healthy, indeed!

@joys6818

Жыл бұрын

@@itsawowman_ bullying? Oh so you the victim cuz I called you out. Hm. Ok. I think you proving my point narc

Living well is the best revenge.

Just walk away and stay safe 🙏 ✨️❤️Don't start to play games - keep yourself safe - break free and enjoy the rest of your life in peace ✨️🙏❤️

I love your technique. You go straight to the point without talking for hours plus your pronunciation is very clear and don’t talk fast at all. Very easy to understand the concept and content. Thanks for your precious infos🙏👍 Mara from Cape Cod- Massachusetts

Experienced divorce lawyer here. Great video! I hope this video reaches people BEFORE they get tangled up with a narcissist. Stay safe out there! Vet very carefully and for a long time before considering marriage. Divorcing a narcissist can be extremely stressful and very expensive.

@reinmarvonzweter666

Жыл бұрын

Did you ever have the situation where your own client was the narcissist?

@danab6930

Жыл бұрын

💯 my ex dragged me through 3 different courts making false allegations! They are so vengeful if you don’t want them back! Used kids too.

@carieyoung1111

Жыл бұрын

I wish I could go back…I did not see it coming and didn’t take my time :-(

@jcnlaw

Жыл бұрын

@@reinmarvonzweter666 Great question. The answer is yes.

@LunarVixen

Жыл бұрын

divorcing them is stresful.. that is an understatement... particularly when your lawyer and the courts ignore you and feed the narcissist..

1.reduce their significance 2.challenge their false self 3.Go to therapy 4.Mess with their supply

@Angel-pv8lg

Жыл бұрын

Thanks,my narc ex came back everytime only to further mentally destroy me!

@xrotarebil

Жыл бұрын

@@Angel-pv8lg Block them completely and repeatedly if necessary.

@xrotarebil

Жыл бұрын

1. Go no contact. 2. Go to therapy. The other two are bad advice.

@Angel-pv8lg

Жыл бұрын

@@xrotarebil yes blocked him already,he is a player for him screwing girls is nothing,for someone like me who is loyal and genuine it feels very bad and depressing to have associated with like dat in past!

@angogablogian532

Жыл бұрын

The DENNIS system.

You're dope, bro. This was really good. Im still getting over my ex, who consistently lied to my face, stole from me, lied some more and had crazy aggressive outburts. Crazy. I still loved her..

What this man is saying, is absolutely true, especially the part about how they will seek to destroy your life. If you expose them to the world for who they are, I’m talking scorched earth. It will become their mission in life to take away all that brings you joy, and most of the time they will succeeded.

@andrewbeckman7687

2 ай бұрын

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When you see that a person is narcissistic, plan quietly and run. Don’t look back.

This is the single best advice: Reduce their significance in your life. The sooner you do this, the more you disempower the narcissist(s). Don't empower the narcissist by focusing on them (they are just a distraction). Focus on you and being the best version of you!

@missfairy7674

3 ай бұрын

Thank you

I’m in therapy now for what my father did to me. It’s been the best thing ever and opened my eyes in the things that he has done to me. He has went into a complete rage and says that I’ve been hypnotized, convinced of the sexual abuse, and that I’m insane and full of rage. It drives him insane and I wasn’t even trying to anger him. I decided that I needed help and wanted to make changes.

I cant tell you enough how glad i am to have seen your content. Thank you

I had 2 narcissist relationships back to back. First was overt, second covert; but endured the same abuse. I’ve been single for almost 3 years. Worked hard in therapy for 7 years. Once you know who they are and what they “look” like, you realize there are a lot of them. I refuse to date anyone that shows multiple flags. I take my time, moving slow, saying no early and often, and I talk a lot less about intimacy and my past. I just keep it light and airy. Most of the men I meet, end up removing themselves. It’s a tough line to walk, getting to know someone AND having healthy boundaries, but it’s so necessary! Congratulations to all that were able to escape the roller coaster, and for those who are wanting to get out… there is hope and you DON’T need them!! It’s hard at first but not nearly as hard as staying with them.

@nmc1859

7 ай бұрын

I agree with you.. there are a lot more narcissists out here than is reported on with statistical estimates. The time is drawing near. I'm not giving him supply. I heard him packing up his things .. i think he is finally about to leave ❤

@nataliemarie1483

7 ай бұрын

@nmc1859 You have a community behind you to help you thru this process. I don't know a single narcissist survivor that doesn't want to help a fellow victim. Be strong, be safe. We're here for you! 😊

@hitzoneproductions7858

6 ай бұрын

​@@nataliemarie1483Thank you for rocking your natural beauty.

@hitzoneproductions7858

6 ай бұрын

​@@nataliemarie1483Congratulation! Did counseling help you figure out why you keep extracting narcs?

@colleenmcelhenney4482

6 ай бұрын

😢

Revenge is sweet and absolutely necessary for the betterment of society. It is our fault that abusers feel safe to go around stepping on everyone.

@FQS124

Ай бұрын

yeah the good people have become to weak, cowardly and tolerant

Your tips are eye opening beyond words! Wow. Thanks for putting this together!

I love this video and LOVE your channel. I was tortured emotionally and finally turning the tables. Thank you for such amazing content.

They can smell kindness :( my heart hurts. I’ve learnt not to expect anything from others now. A lot of people only seem to think about themselves. Protect your energy guys. Don’t lower to their level and take from it knowledge and strength. X

@mayrachavez9839

Ай бұрын

You're right!

@mahnoorkhan581

Ай бұрын

I am on a journey of 1.setting clear boundaries, 2.self love and 3.working on things that attract me towards me. It is all to do with mind. The first two are also in them. As empaths we have toxic traits that harm us. One needs to understand if doing good will bring joy into life or we are simply doing it because we are told to do this. Example: identify the things you LOVE to do and Identify the things you are "suppose" to do. The things you are suppose to do are usually draining us so we must bring joy in them and do them FOR OURSELVES WHEN WE WANT TO. Similarly we believe "what will others think of us" when the timw comes to leaving and they too think the same but in the initial stages. So this is WHY we become the perfect piece of the puzzle :)

1- be happy. 2- be strong. 3- mock and laugh at them when they are evil. 4- make sure they KNOW you hate them for being evil. The end. Have a nice day.

@investornabil8825

Жыл бұрын

Narcissists aren’t evil u dum dum.

@simi948

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂 the best advice.. they will die inside

@yizhanforever9641

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣💯

@evelynniemeyer1119

Жыл бұрын

Nr. 3, 4 They are eager for attention wheater it is good (laugh inside being evil is what they do !) or bad (hate). The best to do and feel is indifference and have a good life.

@ladytammy6886

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

"this is how they've..." Is the key phrase, thank you so much!!!! I was going mad

I really liked this video. It's amazing when you truly open your eyes to things, how the narcissist really comes into focus.

1. Know what triggers you. 2. Learn 📕 to let it go. 3. Gradually stop ✋ talking about them. 4. Stop 🚫 thinking about them. 5. Avoid them at any cost 💵. 6. Be aware of what you don't want. 7. Know why you want to be happy 😊. 8. Start living a life that makes you happy.

@monabarber2335

11 ай бұрын

Excellent Advice, and just what I’m doing !

@tleeproductions1773

10 ай бұрын

I like this. Especially #5 (this includes visual aid). Robert Greene has no clout here.

@frankbujans5901

10 ай бұрын

Yes get off the emotional roller coaster that leaves you exhausted all the time and easier to manipulate look at all their ask yourself did that really happen is that real

@ivannieves154

10 ай бұрын

What if they turn your whole community against you and probably the whole world!, that's what it feels like because everyone is joining his game like if they were puppets and I the lab rat. it's just a nightmare how now, he gets to wash his hands clean and let others kill me while he sits back and enjoys the show. Thank God for his protection or I would of turned crazy and probably shot the whole place up but I read what they did to Jesus and I learned from him. He taught me how to love my enemy and pray for them, how to be brave , how to be patient, how to be loyal and stick to my word and how to be compassionate just like my father is compassionate. God let's the sun hit everyone just as the same amount as he does to those that follow him. I need to know what I can do so people will stop living in that illusion or has the narcissist damaged my reputation forever?

@frankbujans5901

10 ай бұрын

@@ivannieves154 when I cut all ties from The narcissist I also cut all ties to their family and friends it's just a toxic environment sometimes you just have to move on start over and do you really think this person is turned the entire town against you or is that with the narcissist wants you to believe

I often overheard my narcissistic brother on the phone, but I never said anything because I still didn't realize what a narcissist he was, so I played along. When I finally figured out his game and he turned on me, I started exposing some of the lies that he told to people, things that he never wanted anyone to know about. He soon stopped fighting with me out of fear that I would expose more of his BS that he didn't want anyone to know about. My life has improved enormously.

@sandraborneclairelovestrea2641

Жыл бұрын

Out of five siblings, I’m the only one who doesn’t entertain my narc brother’s 💩. And I’m the only one he and his wife defriended on social media. Good riddance!

@larrycarl

Жыл бұрын

Now this is the best way to get them to leave you the heck alone. Worked for me like a charm

@sunnystormy4973

Жыл бұрын

​@@larrycarl -lucky you-

@JustMe-uu3bh

11 ай бұрын

I was the "truth teller" meaning, I didn't go along with the lies to get money or to avoid being ostracized by my mother. I am sorry for her. I did want her love but I needed to realize that people can never fill the hole in your heart, God can though and this is what saved me. learn to nurture and mother yourself so that you attract a better situation to yourself. look at life as a mirror of something you need to give yourself. if people reject you, look at where you might be rejecting yourself or devaluing yourself. they can't do it to us without our having done it to ourselves first. forgive yourself and learn the lesson, God is all there is, really. if we attracted broken, dysfunctional mirrors to ourselves, see how this shows us our "shadow" or hidden thoughts about what we believe we are worth. It is not holy to suffer, God does not want this. we do not have to "earn" God's love, we just have to surrender to it. God bless you.

Love you...just had to listen to this today..cannot thank you enough

I really appreciate this channel and all of the subscribers that has shared their stories in the comments. I’m going through really bad post partum depression and my husband is a narcissist and it’s been so hard. I’ve never felt this type of emotions and the exhaustion is bursting out from inside out. It’s been so tough, but watching the videos and reading people’s experience has been very helpful

The very first point he brings up on needing to be safe because of their rage just shows how EVIL the entity is you're dealing with

Stay safe, but close the door hard on these people and don’t be afraid to tell anyone and everyone about it. They get away with their nonsense because no one typically says no to them.

This man is AMAZING! Been watching this for 10 years. You've educated this scapegoat and I've made peace with it. Thank you

This is where I am.hearimg hope. I've begun to understand. It all makes sense now. I will heal. I will live joy after the pain is faced and addressed. thank you for this.

Bear in mind that psychopaths and sociopaths also contain narcissistic attributes. Safer to cut off communications with the psychopaths and sociopaths than challenge them.

@wiesbadengera1

9 ай бұрын

Yup

@fxllenluc.2955

9 ай бұрын

Absolutely. This video is off. While containing a lot of truths .. who’d want to make someone suffer purposefully and torture them .. beside a narcissist.

@jayd8826

9 ай бұрын

All psychopaths/sociopaths are narcissists, but not all narcissists are psychopaths/sociopaths.

@blaireofhylia1572

9 ай бұрын

​@@fxllenluc.2955true

@melliecrann-gaoth4789

9 ай бұрын

@@fxllenluc.2955agree it is very unhelpful

Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

@user-et9hc7zl7l

8 ай бұрын

I was reading your comment and i literally saw a mirror of myself... My -until two days ago- boyfriend kept telling me that his married ex girlfriend loves him more than i do and that she would do anything for him, but he doesn't want her...two days ago she went to his restaurant with another dude , he had locked the door and when i showed up , dead-tired, just to see him and listen to him all night talk to me like i am good for nothing, he told me that he won't open for me, because i slammed the door at him the previous morning, like THAT'S unacceptable!!😂 We ended up fighting really rough and he said i'm toxic and he doesn't want women like me in his life....

@jasonwimberly5636

8 ай бұрын

They are barely human!

@youareloved8274

8 ай бұрын

Barely human is the nice word. They will try to upset and destroy you on purpose and walk around like they did nothing

@jasonwimberly5636

8 ай бұрын

@@youareloved8274 all the time and every time. We all have to remember this about narcissists. Especially the covert ones. They are always and forever trying to emotionally manipulate us and get us to feel sorry for them.

@jasonwimberly5636

8 ай бұрын

The covert ones are also especially notorious for this.

This is so beautiful. I love this. Just what I needed. I realise now that I am a victim of narcissist abuse. Thank you so much for this information. It is gold ❤

You are the best Richard! Thank you for all you talk about. Im so deep and dark with my mother, it hurts daily. Im a grown woman who gets along well with everyone outside my family. In family, its been everyones "job" to placate my mother. Shes "royalty". Everyone is afraid of her inquisitive tongue lashing. Im slowly pulling away. Shes aided the breaking of myself and siblings. I no longer talk to my siblings. Sad. Thank you. Listening to you is learning and helpful.

Im here because i didn't know i was a narcissist. So i figured the best step was recognizing the problem and learning what I've been doing wrong!

@RyanHarville

3 ай бұрын

Can I ask what your childhood was like? Was it similar to the video mentioned?

@John5.24

3 ай бұрын

Wow, ive never heard someone admit they were a narcasist. But as the saying goes, the first step to recovery, is admitting you have a problem. Best of luck to you, truly.

@user-qc2qx2kw5b

3 күн бұрын

I wish the man I loved was as brave. He rather deny who he is.

Wouldn't dream of it! I find saying 'NO' to their unreasonable requests works well enough.

@trex511ft

Жыл бұрын

True, but in their minds, the requests are reasonable and you are the one being unreasonable. Torturing people isn't the solution. Narcissists and slight autists (old aspergers) are being unfairly treated due to this internet wave mess that mixes things up and mistake them for psychopaths (ASPD) or pyschopathic narcissists (NPD + ASPD) who are intentionally evil.

@brickmate4802

Жыл бұрын

The problem is in 4 hours you could cover psychopaths two times over in an informative video. Some of these hosts have 200 30min clips on narcissism and by the time you’d watched all what was said to do at the beginning has been contradicted 20 times by the latest. The old who’s got “ the newest” fad. It’s kind of scary victims guessing what the narcissist did to them. I’ll let you in on a little secret. The hosts are not out of it yet or are they heal. They haven’t started new lives . They have started a KZread channel. They aren’t in new relationships, traveling, partaking in hobbies. Nope they talk about narcissism everyday. Probably 4 times as much as they ever have, they haven’t left narcissism. Live and breathe it daily. Making a 20min daily video with the “flash new method “ that they haven’t used nor are they role models for how to start a new life with out narcissism. Why do you think they are addicted to releasing new content? Becuase when they don’t and they stop they have to face the battles they still have not overcome.

@nightowl6811

Жыл бұрын

The best 1 is no contact till I die. Case closed. Going on 6yrs in 2023

@clairebourassa5943

Жыл бұрын

@nightowl, You bet 👍 no contact forever and ever

@dsaylor36

Жыл бұрын

It depends on if you are the primary target or not . Of course saying no to something minor ( to them) may seem to be the end of it but you have no idea if they are keeping tabs, contemplating another demand or doing something passive aggressively to seriously undermine you. This video is not really about just anyone with some narc tendencies but a narcicisst who depends on seeing you in misery to live - a higher end of the spectrum narcicisst.

Spot on Richard! I simply enjoy listening to you. I endured a lot of narcissistic abuse in life. This video has truly educated me. Looking forward for more, especially 'The End of a Narcissist'.

Richard clearly knows his stuff.. must have had a pretty catastrophic experience dealing with narcissists to have this much detailed info

@MaryamIskander

18 күн бұрын

God bless him and may he prosper in life in Jesus' name Amen.🙏

Mocking them or laughing at them when they're attempting to get under your skin or push you to a breaking point is a sure way to push them to a breaking point where they become flustered and frustrated as hell... their attempts at belittling you and devaluing you are met with laughter smiles... Or flat-out mocking them while you do so,...

@jumpinjohnnyruss

5 ай бұрын

So true. I had a narcissist who flew into a fit of rage and swung her purse at me because after she called me a "fat bastard" I made a pretty tepid remark about her teeth. She ended up revealing during the ensuing frenzy that she got called "Bucky" many years ago. Sometimes a thing or two can be learned via a mockery of some people.

I used your advice. And let me say it absolutely works. My narcissistic ex tried to bring me down. But this time I stayed absolutely calm and responded in the same cold and "I don’t give a F” way. I just said. Sorry to hear you feel that way, but you are entitled to your own opinion. But regardless that won’t change me from having a wonderful day. Bye. Let me tell you. She went absolutely mad and called me all sorts of nasty stuff. I just waited and after some time I replied. Hope you are done, and again that’s your opinion and have a nice day... Then she began to respond with victim card oh and how I could be so cruel and she needed us to talk etc etc. I haven’t responded. I’m actually just laughing now instead letting everything get to me. So again thank you for the help. I have subscribed. Much love and respect from Denmark. You just saved my sanity and life.

@RICHARDGRANNON

Жыл бұрын

Cheers! 🇩🇰

@DaygoP

Жыл бұрын

Well done

@samanthataylor3626

Жыл бұрын

So happy 4 u. Keep going. U got this! 👍

@charmee4045

Жыл бұрын

They have lots of tricks up their sleeve, mine tried victim, then humour, then threats, anything and everything to see what would stick. I went total NO CONTACT 5 years later he is still trying to get my phone number???? You are right it does work, but only if we work it.

@Sjjd236jdss

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your information.

Excellent video! Thank you!

Thanks for your advices Sir !

The last thing I said to my mother was: Why don't you just pretend like I'm dead? I haven't spoken to the narcissistic nightmare for over 8 years now and I feel better than ever.

@jbird1012

Жыл бұрын

You're my f*cking hero! This xmas makes 1 year for me. (and 3000 miles)

@Job.Well.Done_01

Жыл бұрын

Good on ya. I didn’t speak to mine for over ten years and refused to say goodbye before she passed away. She spent her entire life trying to pass her generational curse onto my head and I wouldn’t allow her to do it. Meanwhile, she treated my younger sibling like a prince and he was so spoiled that he is out of touch with reality. This life is hard enough without people who supposedly “love” us mucking it all up.

@conservingcommonsense4980

Жыл бұрын

@@Job.Well.Done_01 I'm in the same boat. Same doomed delusional sibling treated like a prince. There is something comforting in knowing that we aren't alone in these situations. Wish you the best.

@Job.Well.Done_01

Жыл бұрын

@@conservingcommonsense4980 thank you so much. I am always on the path of healing and self-love. I wish to you all the very best!

@auntihooha

Жыл бұрын

@@jbird1012 Congratulations, and Merriest of Xmases!

Ive discovered that ignoring them & not falling into an emotional argument with them is best. When they see that thier temper tantrums doesn't faze you, you've won regardless of the outcome of the relationship

This is soo good. I love tv way you say grieve etc and then let it go. Great advice. Hard to do but so worth it

Best video I've seen in years. Thank you so much😊😊😊😊

I have remained friendly and polite but stopped providing information that they can use against me and have only communicated online for months not face to face. It all helps me protect myself.

I did these steps (except threatening to expose them) not because I hated him and wanted revenge. I did them because I finally was able to love myself more than the narc. It took 40 years for me to get it. Once it all clicked the Lord leading me, I had the courage to leave. It's been over a year. I'm still being healed by God. I have recently been diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer and have more than enough on plate. I am now happy and free even with the challenges I face. Happy New year!

@BelleOfAmherst

Жыл бұрын

Hi, I know we’re strangers, but I want to reach out because your life experience touched me. I’m sorry you’re suffering. You’re not alone. I hope you have family who are not toxic too. I wish you well. Keep fighting! Have a happy Christmas, even if you’re experiencing joy at the most simplest of pleasures, like the sunrise. There are gifts everywhere for us to discover. I know illness steals so much, & it makes your world smaller. Do not let the seemingly insignificant pleasures & joys pass you by; embrace each one! 🎄✨♥️

@lulumoon6942

Жыл бұрын

Best to you in your healing on all levels, you deserve it!!! ❤️🙏💞

@ezdeezytube

Жыл бұрын

Jys I will keep you in my prayers. Im happy you had the strength to let go of the narc and lean on Him to give you more strength.

@joys6818

Жыл бұрын

@@BelleOfAmherst thank you so much for the words of encouragement. Merry Christmas 🎄

@joys6818

Жыл бұрын

@@lulumoon6942 thank you

Thank you for this message!

Sage advice. Thank you sir. Though i have known this innately... Its good to hear it articulated from another. ❤

Cut them out of your life as much as possible. Remember, the narcissist is pathetic and insecure. They will try to use other people to manipulate and get to you. The only way to take away their power is to not give them any.

The problem with exposing them is that narcissists usually have everyone around themselves under their thumb of control. So when you expose them you actually are just setting them up to do the only thing they do when exposed, they “Burn” you and destroy your social life with everyone you love and care about that you share a common relationship with whether that be family, friends or even your own children.

@FaCeSays

Жыл бұрын

Right I tried this and got attacked by his flying monkeys and i looked just like he portrayed me In his lies.

@3timesacharm586

Жыл бұрын

I told my "friends" what a horrible abusive ahole he is, yet when I finally left him they all stayed friends with him!!! He smeared me and charmed them all!!! I cut contact with all our mutual friends!

@studentoflife8971

Жыл бұрын

Soo true

@MrTimjm009

Жыл бұрын

Its the entourage / Flying monkeys that they groomed and brainwashed into being their cheerleaders Totally gullible sheep like fools

@Iloveart134

Жыл бұрын

Thats what my mom tried to do. But the reality is I could care less. Im not dependent on other people. Plus I moved. Shes sick now. I refuse to let her bother me. My dad cutting her off shows her that I WON

You are the best. You understood what people have gone through and you went straight to give us solutions. Thank you. I went through a lot and healed alone. He told me he wants us back but I broke up with him through text message but he remained silent

Awesome video mate. Great advise. Will implement soon. Thank you.

#1 is huge. HUGE. They will know if you’re acting and they will use this to further abuse you. You can’t be wishy-washy with it either. You cannot even give them an inkling that they are significant at all, or it won’t work. That’s why it must be authentic. I got so good at this that I had the narcissist tell me that I lacked empathy. I said “Well…maybe I do.” He said that I was cold and I just shrugged. My past interactions with that person would have been to defend myself to the ends of the Earth and provide evidence to the contrary. But….I truly don’t gaf if he thinks that now. I prefer that he does think that actually, so he’ll leave me alone. You need to get to the point of having nothing to offer them by way of emotion; good, bad or ugly. Save your emotions for yourself and the people you do care about.

@sheogorathprinceofmadness2223

8 ай бұрын

Why even talk to this person then? I don't get it. You want him to leave you alone, yet you're talking to him. Seems counter-intuitive and perhaps a little covert-narcissistic.

@AM-xe4iq

8 ай бұрын

@@sheogorathprinceofmadness2223 I’m not understanding if you’re just trying to overuse the word narcissist, but we have a child together. Unfortunately there are situations where I have to speak to him.

@deniselee6506

6 ай бұрын

Anen

@YillYill

3 ай бұрын

Distancing yourself from them is also by filling the cup with worthless information and then leaving.

@YillYill

3 ай бұрын

​​@@sheogorathprinceofmadness2223 This response makes no sense... you really can't get rid of a narcissist in a few seconds and just ignore them.

I've learned the best weapon against a narcissist is indifference, totally confuses them, and it's what you eventually truely feel anyway once you know exactly who and what they are. Having the knowledge and self confidence to torture them with mockery if they come at you is just a bonus.

@cristiangunache6615

Жыл бұрын

E una din cele mai bune metode. Așa e, cu timpul vine natural.

@KitKat-ih7vn

Жыл бұрын

The gray rock method.

@debbies.2894

Жыл бұрын

@Frederick I'm not looking for advice thanks, that's an absurd statement, I can make a judgement call when there's a risk of physical danger but I'm not fear led. I know you mean well though

@stephanieluvinski4637

11 ай бұрын

I wouldn't encourage anyone to play that silly game. Count your loses and leave. A narcissistic is a soulless being on a mission to destroy you. To waste time trying to play their manipulative games would cause you to lose yourself and even snap. I'd encourage people to cut them off cold turkey. Leave and cut all line of contact. That is how you win. CHOOSE YOURSELF and leave

@cortezconquistador

10 ай бұрын

Facts, I would humiliate my narc in public if I ever saw him again.