I always learn so much from Dr. Nicole LePera @TheHolisticPsychologist. If you really enjoyed today’s guest too, give this video a like!

We didn't have counseling, open conversations, we kept everything inside. That was the 60's & 70's for me. Now, we can get help & it's everywhere, books, webinars, zoom, telehealth, in person counseling.

@crye-leikerealtor-reneeste972

4 ай бұрын

O 0❤

I always wonder why so many people, that have experienced so much stress in childhood and as adults, have the need to make babies without thinking "would i really be a good parent?" "Can I truely give all my attention to that child for the next 18 years?". I think its because of several reasons: Subconsciously they want the baby to make them happy - what a burden to the child. Or they think its just the right thing because all humans make babies. There are other reasons too. But I have always had critical thoughts about bearing children and the work it involves. For a child to have a save childhood you have to be present on all levels - always.

OMG!!!!! same here, unpredictable, rageful mom, i became avoidant, totally disconnected from my body, my emotions, have a lot of trouble to feel connected to people, honestly i feel like i just can not do it, there's this very deep feeling of loneliness... and i also think that there's something wrong with my brain because there's so much i cant remember, even now that im aware and i conciously try, like, names, faces, events....

@kristenamrhein3906

Жыл бұрын

Same ❤️

@stefaniejohnson4657

Жыл бұрын

Yep. Me too.

@lis9556

Жыл бұрын

Yup

@Noname-hs5lx

Жыл бұрын

Cptsd

@marymilo9916

Жыл бұрын

Yep. Me too x

I have been shaming and blaming myself my whole life. I am 59 and have been recreating an awful life. My depression is starting to lift from finally learning why I am the way I am. Thank you for cleaning the path for us all.

So last night I’m on the couch crying, talking to my husband because I feel so empty and wondering why my purpose in this world is. Well, here comes the universe with a whole bunch of answers this morning for me to begin working on. Thank you for this podcast. Here I go to create change.

@soshea5655

Жыл бұрын

Me too! I’m 42 u got this!❤

@dustang5.O

10 ай бұрын

That’s not the universe sending those answers. It’s soooo obviously the divine creator, God. The universe doesn’t give two shits about you or anyone else.

This is called Childhood emotional neglect!! I’m in counseling now for this very issue… thank you for this podcast!!

I am in awe and so grateful that I came across this conversation. Wow. Without exaggeration you may have just shifted and changed my life and my children’s lives in such a new positive healthy way. I’m not in a finically situation to be able to afford therapy or speaking events that I’d be able to afford this amount of powerful wisdom and transformational insights so I am so beyond grateful for both of you and the entire team for making this available for the world. For someone like me. Thank you.

@dlrowadkcuf

8 ай бұрын

🎉

@scarletts4221

8 ай бұрын

I hope you've found the healing you needed. If not there are tons of community resources for a free space to talk, process and heal.

@paulalee2345

5 ай бұрын

I totally agree!!! God bless them both for such awesome info!!! ❤

When I read “How to Do the Work” and got to the part about dissociation, a lightbulb of stadium proportions went off in my head! OMFG, THAT’S WHY I DON’T REMEMBER!!!! My childhood was so chaotic, that I was never in my body 😢

@grizeldaxxx4568

5 ай бұрын

I hear You!!

I am currently realizing that my poor memory, stomach issues and thyroid issues is my body still having trapped trauma that my brain suppresses. I may be mentally disconnecting but my body stores the layers (old and new) of trauma and grief. I feel flatlined with life, no sense of purpose. Gonna make some changes to stop this merry go round. Glad I listened to this..healing is a process and I have been in touch with my therapist again, will also request to do more EMDR sessions. There are so many of us humans that struggle with figuring out what the hell is going on with us internally. As I pray for my situation, will pray for all of you, too 🙏 ❤️🙏

@sunmi2233

9 ай бұрын

This hit it in the nail for me. Same health issues and lack of memory. Feeling flatlined and no damn purpose. The struggle is unexplainable 😢

@ShellyBomb

5 ай бұрын

Hello: Feeling this too + developed hyperthyroidism after getting COVID in August 2023. I have so many memories from childhood I can't access or remember; while other siblings (real brother, two step brothers & a half brother remember). It's so strange to realize I have lots of gaps in my memory. It's January 6, 2024 and this conversation showed up for me; even tho I'm already subscribed to Mel's channel - need to listen & learn. Sending warm healing hugs to you both ~ ❤️‍🩹

@sue5158

4 ай бұрын

Same health issues. Plus ibs.

I myself didn't realize that I hadn't emotionally grown up yet till I was around 30 as well!! I was also a single mother of five children at that time! Smh. but I started digging into myself and began the journey of self-accountability and awareness. Where I was developmentally arrested, stunted and in denial of most of my feelings. It took about 5 years to realize that I had never gotten over my abusive dad and his extreme lack of acknowledgment and display of affection to me. my kids got to actually watch me grow up, albeit a little too late, they did see the changes. And they responded to the more peaceful homelife themselves. unfortunately, I had made a major mistake in believing that my fourth daughter was extremely shy. She had a strong startle reflex even in playful situations, and would hide behind me often. Needless to say, she grew up with me believing she needed more protection because she was so shy and sensitive to her surroundings. She is an adult working through some of her own anxious attachments. And with her, I discovered that I had misunderstood her responses. Having believed she was shy, I protected her and only addressed the issue of shyness with repeated encouragement. BUT....she was actually fearful, unsettled, anxious and untrusting of the mostly manic household!! my other four children adapted well through our evolution, but she was the one I had obviously neglected most. Because of my inability to see her perspectives properly. Not to address them properly. I was so wrong. Yet now I see that she was the one who needed what I didn't get myself growing up! Funny, yet not funny. she's almost 40 and has done well learning to understand herself. She's a professional and a high achiever. And like myself, she's running par to the same time frame of reevaluating her emotional evolution, praise the Lord! She also forgot a lot of her childhood, unlike myself, but has a greater understanding of how she developed her on anxieties in the presence of her (unaware of what she needed), dysfunctional mother! We both love your videos very much! Thank you, thank you, Dr Nicole...♥️🎉🙏💯

@sunflowers6172

2 ай бұрын

Yes, I feel that this was me

Everything you’ve said is me, I’m 66 and feel nothing. The childhood was awful to the point I was non functional in my early twenties.now I go constantly and try not to think. I don’t know any other way to do it

Omgosh! I'm 63 and many years ago I realized I don't remember alot from my childhood, teen years and I was thinking do I have a brain tumor, early dementia. However there are other things I remember vividly, amazing how our brain and body copes. Thank you, I'm not losing it.

@marilynholmes-reilley1457

7 ай бұрын

No you are not loosing it! Try listening to childhood fairy podcasts or Complex PTSD.

Amazing talk, you guys!! Mel- I'm your daughter right now. My parents have remained too immature to hear what I've discovered lately. It's been really hard to get beyond that. That my Gods are too weak to BEGIN to own ANY responsibility in the making of me. Thank you for validating my belief that my parents could choose to participate in healing themselves and our family. I WISH they would feel liberation in tolerating truth instead of drowning in fear and shame and denial. They took me down with them for awhile, till I almost died. The good news is I'm not going down with them anymore. That's their decision. Mine, in almost everything in life (LOL), is different. Thank God! Thank you, Dr Nicole, for normalizing some really painful shit!. You are beautiful and so articulate. You've helped me alot!! 💜💜💜

I was an hold soul in a child body , now I’m a child in a adult body , growing up is a full experience , confusing and at the same time full of learning process with emotions .

@msharic85

Жыл бұрын

This explains my life perfectly! Like we "aged" backward!!

I also thought I was having early onset Alzheimers or Dementia. Learning about the connection to trauma a few months ago made so much sense and was a massive relief. It's hard to consolidate memories when chronically disassociated from the body.

@NikkiGregory

Жыл бұрын

Me too. I have no memories of birthdays, Christmas, vacations or anything. I feel like I just have this huge part of my life that is blank & didn’t exist.

@KB-ih5gf

Жыл бұрын

I just realized that many of the memories I do have are merely memories of the photographs I’ve seen in family albums. I always wondered why I have no memories at all from being 10 to 13 or 14. Oddly enough I have very few memories of the years when my children were young and I was in an abusive marriage either.

@stefaniejohnson4657

Жыл бұрын

Me too.

Mel, I cried during this jaw dropping podcast. Thank you and Dr. Nicole for opening my eyes for what feels like the very first time. I’m 57 years old and this could answer my life’s question of WTF am I even here for. Yes, many years of therapy but this is some real truth! 🙏🏻

This is exactly what I'm going through right now . I'm 27 and completely out of touch with myself. Grew up in an abusive household full of alcoholics. I'm a child in a 27 year old body. I cried alot hearing that. I feel so lost and I've never bought a book so quickly. I'm ready to do the work and process these emotions. I just never knew how to start doing the intensive work.

@loria2685

Жыл бұрын

Follow her on Instagram too! She posts really great stuff daily. The work that Dr Nicole is doing and the awareness Mel has brought are literal lifechangers. Best of luck to you!

@fitt_inglysammie1654

Жыл бұрын

@@loria2685 I will do that ! Thank you so much. 💓

@cindylubooks9723

Жыл бұрын

YOU are young! You have the heart the tools to heal. I am 63 work in progress for sure. Knowing is helpful doing is a challenge but knowing is HUGE. I was told I was stuck at 63 I shared above in a comment. YOU are young! You are wise. MEl is here she is saving me. HUGS! HUGS and more HUGS keep moving forward. BE KIND to YOURSELF!

@fitt_inglysammie1654

Жыл бұрын

@@cindylubooks9723 I appreciate your kindness

@Sh0n0

Жыл бұрын

To me her book was very basic and rudimentary covering very surface level knowledge, at least to me who had read some psychology previously. I highly recommend Pete Walker's book CPTSD from Surviving to Thriving, or even videos of him on youtube, he has been the most eye opening and helpful overall.

apathy for me it is like a deep sadness that you cant describe in words and have to get back to the day to day things like work/job to survive. so you can’t fully express your emotions because of other priorities or lack of someone else to understand

How brave are you Mel? To have suffered as you did after the birth of your daughter only to suffer all over again with guilt. How amazing that we can heal eh? You and her. Not many would admit to not being Miss Perfect Mother, society doesn’t allow it. If society were more supportive of women who struggle when they have babies the world would be a much less painful place. You are an amazing being. Much love 💕 I wish all the healing in the world for your daughter and you.

I am 51 and sobbing listening to this. Feelings of overwhelm are flooding me; since my mom passed away in 2020, all of the things being discussed are bringing so much to light in my life right now and I've had to pause the video at 47:03. Feelings of anxiety, guilt, shame, hurt and...(I can't think of the word) but I feel like I'm dishonoring the death of my mom by thinking of our past and how I am just beginning to realize how it has shaped my life.

@talulatree5297

6 ай бұрын

I hope you feel some peace now, and are able to heal. ❤

@CindaMurphyRealEstate

5 ай бұрын

Yes, I’ve told myself for so long that my mom loved me, I feel bad saying, geez, my mom was NOT a good mom at all. I’m even worried someone will see this or worse, SHE will. But I can’t keep worrying about that. It is what it is and I don’t have to protect her. I’m not attacking her, I’m just saying what happened. It’s not an attack. The very best part of my mom would want me to heal and do whatever I have to do to feel better.

I cannot express just how many "aha" moments I had with this talk. I am RUNNING to a bookstore! I thought it was just me. This offered clues for me as to why I sucked my thumb for a long time, why I had nightmares and sleepwalking episodes. I need exploration and I his book is the start .

I am figuring this out at 50yrs old.

So, I'm 18, I've been going to therapy for two years, because I had panic attacks and I've definitely got better at being with myself and managing my anxiety, I have also created a great life for myself I've been dreaming about. And a couple of weeks ago I told my psychologist "I don't feel alive, I can't feel my emotions and I'm not able to enjoy my life". I was (and I am) very overwhelmed by it, I'm so freaking afraid of it... Thank you for doing a podcast about it, I feel seen.

I have been trying to heal from my traumas for many years, and I am 34 years old. I want a different life, better life but my past is keeping my life experiences from getting any better. 💯

Monday when you said you’d be having an Ivy League educated doctor on to talk about trauma I was hoping it would be her! Reading Dr. Nicole’s first book right now and it’s so helpful. Thank you to you both for all the work you do, it’s helped me so much. 🙏🏻

My mom yelled at my dad and my dad would just sit and say nothing. I yelled at my husband but he yelled back. I stood by my son and listened when needed. My son now does not share a lot, especially his grief, since his Gramma, Opa and dad have both passed away.

It's "self othering." I suffer from it severely. Something is wrong with ME in particular. I'm NOT fine... and "everyone else" IS fine, more or less. Good things are for "other people" ...and not for me.

@olgakim4848

Жыл бұрын

Those are all lies that you tell yourself. Stop torturing yourself. I know. Easier said than done. But you have to try.

@meganscholeycoaching

Жыл бұрын

I used to do this too. I truly believed that everyone else had it together & I was broken. The good news is, you can change that narrative! 🙏🏻

@olgakim4848

Жыл бұрын

@@meganscholeycoaching Yes, grew up in a very sick, unhealthy family full of traumatized people that made me believe that everybody was smarter and better than me. Until I figured out on my own that that just wasn’t the case. I was the youngest and I’m pretty sure the oldest brother and older sister were threatened by little me. They were monsters. I’m filled with rage and anger. You just don’t know. Anyhow, too much information, sorry. Best wishes!

@HippieWitchMamaBear

Жыл бұрын

These beliefs you hold are actually called self limiting beliefs. You thinking everything happens to you instead of for you is a victim mentality. Take your power back.

@cheryljanzen6468

Жыл бұрын

@@olgakim4848 sounds familiar!

What an insightful conversation!!! I am 40 now... and it is so sad that trauma happens but it is not seen for what it causes. Trauma is how you experience an event... not how big or small the event may be. But we were taught to 'get over it, like your brother does'... Not to blame the parents, they were taught the same...

Omy God ...I have been having goose bumps as I'm listening to this podcast. I feel like sobbing, however I can't. Thank you Dr. Nicole and of course Mel. I thank God for coming across you Mel. You are that one woman, every woman can relate to. Stay blessed.

I did not have children. I know at one time I did want children however my inner wounds from Mother it was blocked in my wants. I am 60, I work with children a student coach/parent advocate/tutor/liason between teacher and parent. I know from therapist same one since I was in my 20s how important families need to recognize the generations of families and birthing of all their children. I hope to continue to implement all this in my work with families. I will be sharing you and your testimony in my business for a path for them to consider!

@poppylove3673

Жыл бұрын

I am adopted and sure wish I knew something about my birth mom and family. Birth father as well, but not going to be able to find out at this point.

@bethmiller6827

9 ай бұрын

​@@poppylove3673DNA might reveal your parents.

I always thought my lack of childhood memories was because I blocked out the shitty times.

Perception of a lack of safety. I resonate with this completely. I'd even contend that if you don't feel this way from these past 2 years, you haven't been paying attention. Living in an upside down world will bring out anyone's "inner child." I find that mine is just shouting at me, constantly.

Thank you, I gained more awareness from listening to this incredible exchange of information. I am writing me a sticky note and taping it to my walls in every room. My intent, then my question (am I aware? am I conscious? am I present? Whatever question I write to bring me back to my physical body) then the hook, inhale or breath. I gift this to myself on Valentines day today 💕. Mel may your sky's always be blue and bright. Thank you for the ❤️ and the upgrading life training lessons. Thank you Dr. Nicole Lepera, high 5 👋🏼.

Can I just say how grateful I am to hear the memory issue being discussed? I feel like I have early onset dementia and even talked to a doctor about it and they said it's not dementia it's from prolonged trauma aka my CPTSD. I get frustrated easily because of my memory issues and it's embarrassing having memory loss. Dr. Nicole for the win again. That woman is a true gift from The Universe.

Mel you helped change my life and this wonderful brilliant doctor is now helping me too... I can't express in words what this means to me... changing the course of my life and my boys...

This makes a lot of sense! I just bought your book how to do the work and the workbook. I also got the 5 habits from mel. I haven’t been able to establish healthy love relationships or strong relationships. I have opt out and almost promised myself not to let anyone close or in, but i am realizing I am hurting myself and ruining my own chances of creating the life and relationships I so much desire. I can relate about emotional immaturity. I do act like that scared child and shut down because I do not know how to channel mainly my anger. In the past I either the shut down version of me or the explosive me. I started my work a little while ago, but like Mel said is constant work and I am not where I am and I will not stop learning to be a better and a higher version of me.

Wow! Thank you both for coming together to deliver this good news. Healing my inner child wounds in my adulthood is challenging yet freeing at the same time. I grew up feeling disconnected from my body most of the time because I felt unsafe around me. 😢 Reparenting my inner child is totally worth doing the work inside out. There’s ups and downs yet I have more emotional maturity and tools in my toolbox to help me through whenever I have triggers & flashbacks. Coming home to myself as I processed , released painful memories stuck in my mind and body. I’m happy and grateful to be me now. Connected to my mind, body, and spirit. ❤ Blessings everyone. ❤❤❤

Mel...your the best❤ Thank you for all you Do for others😊 You are So easy to listen too Love your advice💛 Love ya❤

That was very enlightening as to why I have the programmed behaviours that can run automatically when I get triggered. Realizing I’m an emotional 4 year old in a 53 year old body resulted in a small bucket of tears. 😢😭😭. Thank You!! 🙏💚

I loved at the 1:20ish mark when you both shared your trauma responses before the podcast started, makes me feel so much more normal now ❤

OMG!!!! “Suppressed my version of reality.” This phrase hit me because I recently realized how neglectful and abusive my parents were. I am sooooo disassociated from my body and even life because I don’t understand the stimuli and don’t know what to do with the feelings that result from it. HELP!!!

@sue5158

4 ай бұрын

Reading Dr. Pete Walkers cptsd site helped me in the beginning. Google it. Take care. It gets better.

Omg I always figured I was just "too stupid" to remember my childhood. Wow... this is fascinating stuff ... and freeing! Thank You both!

So many golden nuggets here!! I just ordered 2 books! 1 for me and one to have in my office to show clients who are struggling with feeling stuck and reactive! Thank you both!! ❤

Thank you for this amazing interview! You all described such similar situations and feelings that I’ve had all my life. Thank you for explaining all of this with such compassion, empathy, and relatability! thank you both!! Here’s to healing…

@elizabethash4720

6 ай бұрын

Instead off exchan lucging sentences, there isso much expulsion of bracket upon bracket, I'm exhausted. Good luck to all

Oh my God, thank you so much. This is the podcast I have been looking for forever! You have just explained my childhood, which I don’t remember lol.

My brain just 🤯 And I had an ah-hah moment. My mother could not self regulate. She would first explode and spew all of her thoughts and feelings over any mistake or perceived slight. She would then give me the silent treatment sometimes for days. I went into ‘chase’ and ‘win-back’ mode. I would apologize profusely, profess my love, do sweet gestures, even buying her gifts to win back her love and affection. This would be the only way to get her to forgive me and love me again. Now as an adult, I find myself doing this is my relationships. I find it hard not to be in chase mode. And guess what? It doesn’t work! I end up driving people away or attracting those who are emotionally immature. All because I am still living in survival mode from childhood…😮

How do we as parents recognize when we are behaving emotionally immature, how do we look for those signs in our children and differentiate between them being their age or that we're screwing them up!?

This is me this whole episode "omg that's me!!, Yup that's me!!, Omg me too!!" The best episode ever, I related to everything ❤

I completely relate to automatically shifting into panic stress mode in my nervous system when I’m around or talking to or thinking about interaction with certain people or events it rages throughout every single cell of my entire body and mind as I feel every single aspect of it.

I am turning 60 this year and have been wondering what the hell is wrong with me for years. I have no childhood memories and have had terrible relationships, not able to keep a job, full of depression and anxiety and fear. I had a very traumatic childhood and endured neglect, an alcoholic narcissistic stepdad, was sexually abused and just one traumatic event after the other throughout my life. I am now in therapy and hope that I can finally heal and be rid of the shame I have been feeling my entire life.

Want to thank you two women for being authentic with your emotions and your healing path. You are both speaking out loud, my life. Going to get Dr. Nicole's book today. Thank you ~

I really enjoyed your discussion on postpartum depression. It was very rough to watch someone go through it and not knowing how to help. I felt sympathy for both the mother and the child.

I had the worst mother and a older brother you could ever have . The mother is dead and the brother is totally disconnected

I can't find a source anywhere for any good psychedelics in my area. I suffer some pretty bad anxiety and i got a chance to try K and man it was a miracle substance, I felt free, the only high or euphoria was from the relief of my vices being released, that's exactly what it did

@Brodyalan562

Жыл бұрын

The psychedelic experience is temporary but many people have permanent results first shrooms trip was really awesome, it felt like i was deep into the sea

@ONVODKI-ON-IG

Жыл бұрын

Magic mushrooms don't only help with mental health, they help amplify your empathy, if people were more empathetic the world would be a better place

@Lisa78843

Жыл бұрын

/da_shariff/ Got psychs

@Barbarasmith63

Жыл бұрын

tripping is not a bad idea but having a Mycologist who will recommend you the dosage is the best option

@Stephanie56739

Жыл бұрын

@@Lisa78843 is he on Instagram or what?

Thank you so much. Now I know I'm not alone and there is hope to heal and meet myself. I type as tears just stream down my face. I despise crying, however this time it feels cleansing. I'll get the book and get back into therapy.

It sounds like I had a similar childhood experience as Dr. Nicole. I apologize in advance if I share something triggering. A example of this is when I shared (it was advised by a therapist to tell my parents) that I was SA by a friend while under the influence. I was 19 at the time. My mother immediately said, "how could you do this to your dad?". Then berated me for drinking alcohol. Over the next several years they would casually bring him up in conversations, almost rented a house to him! They completely were unaware that I was traumatized and wouldnt want to know anything about this person. 20 years later I told her I dont feel comfortable that you are friends with this persons long time girlfriend on facebook, they now have 3 kids. She called me controlling. I had to go no contact with the entire family. My dad is a Vietnam Veteran with PTSD, he had trouble wanting to continue life during my childhood. He watched war movies constantly so those sounds have been in my head for over 40 years. He is also probably the most sweetest person otherwise. My mother (in my unprofessional opinion) has highly narcissistic traits if not full blown antisocial personality. Even after going no contact there are messages that come through and still the same "You" statements where I need to correct myself and think about other people. It was validating what I had learned where codependency comes from. I was diagnosed CPTSD and was in DBT. But I also think I was bordering on borderline personality disorder even though I went through all the testing. Some of the thought patterns and behaviors I still have but not as much are consistent with borderline. Good thing is, is if you know it, it is very treatable!

1:26:48 I loved that question Mel and this was EXACTLY what I was feeling “We feel worse, we feel everything and we feel life more ❤” that was a gem 💎 as was the whole podcast!

On the lack of memories thing, I have an incredibly hard time remembering movies, or following a complicated show (game of thrones, the Americans, etc). Guessing this is related. I'm trying to be more present but my mind wanders so easily.

Thanks Mel! You and Dr. Nicole brought up so many common incidents for me. The newspaper dad used to hide behind, the silent treatment he gave me after reading my teenage diary, mom screaming after I went to bed, as if I wouldnt hear?! I can't list them all, and I am sure I dont remember them all. Do any of us even know the truth as family stories just seem to be accepted and then swept under the rug to show up in our unregulated adulthood. I have seen a therapist for 11 years, and got sober 11 in June. I am ordering her books to continue to "meet myself!"

Thank you for being so transparent. I am so grateful for you being so authentic

Fascinating! I am definitely the peacemaker, the one who holds the family together. I could never express my own feelings, their chaotic feelings were more important. So much was on my shoulders. My ‘problems’ had to be suppressed. Being traumatized by their sudden anger, yelling, unexpected eruptions, I kept soaking up their energy even when I wasn’t part of the problem. I feel maybe telling this to my family will be healing on its own.

This was an amazing, life changing interview, Mel and Dr. Nicole. Thank you so much for being so open and raw with us. Love you both 😘😘😘 so so much.

Thank you for this podcast! This is so helpful to me, I cannot express it here in a short comment, so I will just say thank you to both of you from the bottom of my heart

What a precious human! Thank you, Dr. Nicole! Mel, as always you are the best!

Thanks. This conversation inspired me a lot. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. So powerful

I’ve always had a hard time remembering much of my childhood and even things from my adult life. I always assumed the adulthood memories I wasn’t remembering was due to my smoking weed and/or drinking and blaming myself. Now I really think it’s due to my childhood ‘stuff’

Can’t thank you both enough for this episode 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻 I resonated with every single thing that you discussed! 💕💕💕

I was lifted up as a baby so I appreciate this conversation. Thank you ❤

Recognizing so many things you both are talking about. Eye opening.

As an adult I have an active imagination- an entire world that I disappear to. Now I realize that escape world that I built first came when my parents divorced and I just never grew out of it.

@meganscholeycoaching

Жыл бұрын

This is powerful! 🙏🏻

Oh wow! I really needed to hear this today! This podcast helped me solidify so much in my last two years of therapy. Thank you so much! Mel you are my ‘go to’ KZread ‘helper’ and Nicole, what a pleasure to discover you!! I am buying your book and I have subscribed to your channel! Blessings to both of you! Such powerful, kind, and amazing women!

Hearing your stories felt like a balm. It's so relatable for me. Thank you very much💖💖💖. AWESOME!🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

Mel your daughter is so lucky to have a mom now who has the knowledge to help her.

Thank you both for your honesty. It is incredibly validating!!

Appreciate your openness and all the wisdom you share. Glad to know about not remembering my childhood.

This was amazing I came to these realizations with my mother and I wish I could have this conversation with her

I have felt this way for years. I have felt apathetic and it seems that I just don't care. Disconnection has been part of me..Thank you for putting into words what I have felt for years.

I keep discovering so much about myself from this channel!!!

You both are amazing! Thank you! These are my life stories! I get so much validation from you and I really appreciate it!❤️

I have been captivated by this discussion and information. At 1:16:09 I started crying. Growing up in an extremely physically abusive household by my Mother, (with my Dad turning a blind eye to it) I remember identifying the dangers, the changes in my Mom, knowing when to stay out of her way, taking responsibility for my potential safety to avoid certain scenarios. Painful realization. I knew to keep my mouth shut, so I did. My mother today says “You seldom spoke as a child..” and would chuckle. I never spoke because I was terrified to rock that proverbial boat. I keep myself busy today, every day, or i feel anxious and angry. This is helping me understand the “why” behind my own emotions. Thank you

Everything I’ve ever believed rolled into this video 😮! Mind blown 🤯 one of the most amazing talks!!!! Woooowhee ❤ Chapter 44 has been an expansive and wild ride!!

Carol Tuttle’s book ‘The Child Whisperer’ book helped me amongst other life experiences, see the natural tendencies and natural abilities I was born with that were either shamed or not recognised and left me with limiting beliefs. My caregivers were unknowingly not attuned to me and my sensitivity or understood my needs. I too shut down my emotions and ended up with an auto immune disease. I do have clear memories/ flashbacks as far back as primary school but that’s one of my natural gifts. I’m now healing my body and mind. 💖

Its sooo hard for me to organize thoughts at times to explain things to my family. Another result of trauma. Thanks for this. It covers me perfectly. Ill send them this.

How did the algorithm hit me? I have multiple vivid memories of my childhood, good, bad, and ugly. However if we're honest, we shouldn't live in the past, rather focus on the present as we prepare for tomorrow.

@jenna.w.9041

4 ай бұрын

I agree there’s no need to “live in the past”, however I do believe understanding the past helps explain the why behind who we are today, and helps us make better choices. When we know better, we do better.

WOW finally see you two are collaborating, both are my fav Instagrammers! Thank you to both! Mel your sharing's always helpful.

I am resonating with this fully. Thank you both for your services. I am on a spiritual path and have been digging all this up too. I am greatful ❤

This is so fascinating. This is my first time hearing about Dr Nicole and her work, but I have been reading Dr Gabor Mate’s book The ‘Myth of Normal: trauma, illness and healing in a toxic culture’ and it is alllll of this, but from the medics doctor/ family physician’s perspective of this. Dr Mate’s early childhood is similar in impact as Mel’s daughter, where he was separated from his Mother when the Naz!s invaded Hungary (they were Hungarian Jews and he was quickly evacuated before his mother was caught up in a Budapest ghetto). For him, his trauma manifested in fear of abandonment (mother wound) and overwork and workaholism (driven to be accepted and needed). Im looking forward to checking out Dr Nicole’s work and the rest of this series, and try ans get to the bottom of my issues too ❤️

Thank you ladies! This interview and the advice you both offered is fantastic. I love how open many American people are on the whole, especially Americans like you two! We're somewhat still a bit awkward here in the UK about emotions - but we're getting better...slowly! 😂

Such valuable sharing! Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and genuine! This is what we all need to hear! So healing, thank you so much🙏♥️

This was so incredible. Thank you so much for this.

I have only 2 memories before my 8th birthday, I am in mid-40's now and feel numb, pain and loneliness daily.

@darnitthelma4247

Жыл бұрын

I hope you’re ok. This makes me sad. I presume you had trauma you are blocking out. Focus on you. What makes you happy. If nothing gives you joy speak to someone, open up. Take care ❤

@bumblebee_mrs

Жыл бұрын

@@darnitthelma4247 Thanks.

Mel, have you heard of the book The Emotion Code? This podcast episode connects so much with the concepts in that book. Thanks for your work! Wishing you and family all the joy and peace good vibes possible.

wow, this podcast is healing my own family issues just by showing me how it's done. Thank you.

I have purchased your book DR. Nicole LePera cant wait to dig into it more then i already have. Thank you Mel Robbins for all you do!

I love you Mel you’re a beautiful soul

@channyl252

Жыл бұрын

I agree! Mel is helping so many of us! ❤

I totally relate to this. I thought there was something wrong with me. So glad to know that others suffer from the same thing.😊

Oh wow! Does this resonate with me! Definitely going to listen to Dr. Nicole’s book!

You two are so empathic and loving and thank you for your sharing Mel 💕💥🙏 must get that book.

This was spot on and fabulous!! Thank you, ladies - Bravo 👏🏽 🎉👏🏽🎉👏🏽 Much love 💕