When pastor Zai said that God gave you the desire to be married and he didn’t give it to you to torture you, although I know that, I just needed to hear that like that gave me so much hope to know that although sometime I get fearful of jumping back in this dating world that he got me 100% I just got have the faith to keep going 💗

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

This is so good!! We are so glad that your faith was being built while you were watching! 🤍🤍

The girl who abstained for 10 years, is doing an amazing thing that they should have promoted and encouraged a lot! Abstinence is better than three baby daddies in a lowered standard!

Why is it as Christians, we try to find some loopholes to go around God's word? Especially dealing with Sexuality. The Lord is crystal clear on the boundaries he has set before us. Not to restrict us from " fun" but to protect us.

I cannot believe how people thwart the Bible and totally misquote scripture. The Bible clearly says fornication IS a sin!!!

@shemireyahlilly5521

6 ай бұрын

Exactly! I was like what did he just say??

@nommieshange982

6 ай бұрын

As soon as he said what he said I was like “lemme check the comments I can’t be the only one who knows that ain’t what the Bible says ”

@Tiffj8282

6 ай бұрын

Yall didn't listen to everything he said 😂 he didn't say it wasn't a sin

@patriciavoltaire9871

6 ай бұрын

That is not what he said. Go back and listen again

@zachpowell5886

5 ай бұрын

That’s literally not what he said

I have to respectfully disagree with the statement “the longer you’re single, the more indication that you’re too picky”….some of was are waiting for someone of like faith…at least they profess to have accepted Jesus as their personable Savior and a desire to please God…every thing else is negotiable…there is a shortage of saved men, in most circles there are more women than men…even men of different cultures and ethnic backgrounds.

@chloe-lg2db

5 ай бұрын

Absolutely.

@irah.6756

3 ай бұрын

Yes. There can be many other reasons why someone continues to be single, such as, they may live in an area where prospects are not available, they themselves might not be approachable or emotionally available, or they may see value in maturing for a period. That said, a movement that began over the last 25 years or so in which young women see their fantasies as "high standards" has and will cause many of them to do life alone. After making this remark, he spoke about some of the physical requirements that often keep women single for a prolonged period of time.

“Fear will always keep you from what God has for you” AMEN!! Don’t let fear paralyze you from going after what’s rightfully yours.

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Say 👏🏽 that 👏🏽 AGAIN 👏🏽‼️

30:37 "Every time you sin, it cuts off access you something you would've had before. You get kicked out of the Garden of Eden." Wow, Pastor. That's a whole word right there.

Sometimes the zeal of new believers is greater than that of those of us who were raised in church.

@uhlisbit

6 ай бұрын

Very true!

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Such a great thought! Why do you think that is!?

@priscillachinsembu4669

6 ай бұрын

Zeal is one thing.. how long will it last though because it can ware out...

@Tiffj8282

6 ай бұрын

This part 💯

Long distance relationships... If your partner is coming to visit, ask one of your brother/sisters in church to host them.

@coolbrit56

6 ай бұрын

Do not play with fire. None of us is that strong!

@healingworldministry1014

5 ай бұрын

Hello Avi. Nice meeting you here

This was good!! "Just because they are in the church doesn't mean they are a option" really blessed me

I always enjoy every singles, marriage, men, and women nights. All love from Nigeria 🇳🇬

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

🇳🇬🤍

Transactional relationships don't end in good marriages❤

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥

@reenitakeys3099

6 ай бұрын

This!!!

The lukewarm are those who claim to know God but live as though He doesn't exist… sin cannot and should not be romanticized no matter how tempting.

This really blessed me. I wrote on your IG that the church neglects singles and then wonders why it's so challenging for us to find partners. And then when they do speak to us, it is minimal at best and there's no practical and realistic advice. But I found that this session and the sermon a couple weeks ago on singleness is really laser focused on helping those of us who find this area challenging, and I am grateful for that. I wish there was a church like yours in my area. I live in Canada.

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

I’m so glad you joined us and that this was impactful. 🤍🤍

@annabanana56789

4 ай бұрын

Ha I was thinking the same thing … do I need to move to the US??? I am in a mega-church in western Canada and that helps! I am in healthcare too and it can be a justification to be unavailable, really. From this series I learned to keep myself in view, no more wallflower. Heck I put myself on stage even as a volunteer, so be bold - find your inner American - get to a big church if you can and get out there!

1 Samuel 16:7 God says "do not consider his appearance or HIS HEIGHT for I have rejected him "Man looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart.❤

This is cool. There should be a church like this, for us everywhere .

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

🤍🤍 thanks for joining us.

This is so good. I have been single all my life because of fear. And now it’s time for me to change my mindset about marriage

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

🤍🤍

That message was for Anthony about debt and that he will stay single…he even had a comment about it! He loves his money sooo much and so choicey.😢

God put Union Church on my TL for a reason 🙏🏽 currently in my single season after becoming a single mom and Y’all have keep my hope and faith alive because in due time God shall deliver as Pastor Zai said he didn’t put that desire on my heart to torture me it’ll happen 🙏🏽 ❤

Pastor Stephen Chandler praise God exhibiting wisdom in your responses.

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!! What was your favorite part?

always enjoy singles night, marriage night, mens night, womens night videos every year😂, W Unionc Church

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

It is always a good time…. A WILD time, but a good time!!! 😂😂

As someone that is still trying to figure life in general out, I appreciate the transparency, oneness, and spiritual connection this pastor and First Lady has. Listening to the gems and wisdom they share from God is refreshing.

This blessed me so much! I’m so happy I ran into this video. It confirmed and renewed my faith as someone trusting and believing God for a compatible mate. Thank you!!

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

We are so glad you joined! What was your favorite part?

Read I Corinthians 6:18, Fornication is a sin that is committed as well. Fornication is sexual intercourse between unmarried or unbetrothed people, including adultery.

“Fear will always keep you from what God has for you.” Amen! I love how the Pastor & his wife responded to the host saying he wouldn’t date a woman at his church. It’s time to grow up man. As Believers & grown adults, a man and a woman should be able to date & part in a mature manner if it doesn’t work out. Too many people are operating out of a fear based mindset & blocking their blessing. I really enjoyed this panel!

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

🤍🤍

Out of the whole thing, I latched onto the “no man would want me” the most because that's how I've been feeling, but for different reasons. Only I have been thinking, “It seems like no man wants me.” And him saying there's some man out there saying the same thing touched me.

February 15th is my birthday also and I just wanted to say thank you for this singles night. I have never married and (I'm kind of like the women at the well but I thank God for restoration power) i still have hope for my 54 years young redeemed daughter of the Father. Y'all blessed me with this forum! Thank you!

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

Happy belated birthday!! 🤍🙌🏽

Don't settle for anything, because you want to get married because you might regret your decision make sure you're happy and comfortable in your decision making, some persons think that you're getting old and time is running out be careful

This part tho! 1:36:58 🔥 Love that he said if your married friends don't care about your dating future, get new friends🎉🎉 Love that they care about singles. Great environment! I'll be honest some churches create this "magical bar" for marriage but don't even create environments for people who desire marriage to come together! This was great ❤

My sister and I have created a tradition of watching this panel together every year for the last 4 years or. so. It is always so eye.-opening, insightful, and gives us guidance on navigating. singleness and dating. Thanks so much for another great panel!

I always enjoy watching Single’s Night.! There is so much grace & wisdom in Pastor Stephen & Zai ‘s responses. I love this church, I cannot wait to move and officially join Union ❤

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

We love you! Thank you for joining us!!

One thing about this church❤. They will talk about life in all its possibilities

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

STRAIGHT TO IT: terminate the marital exchanges before a ring and this will eliminate unnecessary heartache & burdens. SIMPLE.

love the way he addressed the single mom's question

This is the first time I have heard a honest convo about church folks attitudes towards same gender experienced men, compassion towards one another’s life experiences, single mothers that have never been married now trying to date in a Christian context…so many good points

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

Thanks for joining us!!

Pastor Zai asked a very good question at minute 24. Start praying and asking God to give you who HE has for you, because His choice is going to be better than anyone you could ever dream up.

The way both Pastor Steve and Zai held their own 10 toes down in truth, light, reality, and hope.....was golden!!!! God bless you guys soooo much!!!!

This is a great conversation. I am going to share that I am a Christian, born and raised in the church. My ultimate goal is to get married but I also do not believe in settling. Now the word “settling” can trigger a lot of people. I can elaborate if anyone would like to know what that means for me… I do think the urge to encourage marriage for the sake of the inability to have self control may not be wise. I think it misses the mark on building relationship and often times people realize down the line that they are not compatible resulting in divorce. Divorce isn’t an option for me so while I am 37 years wiser, I prefer to be selective in dating to enhance the longevity of my forever relationship. Hope that makes sense. ❤

I love this church. Much love from South Africa 🇿🇦

I’m not single but I always get a good laugh when I watch Union. 😂 Less than 2 minutes in and I’m slapping my knee! 😭 😭

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

So glad you joined in!!

I think we need to learn to manage our sexuality as single people. I made the mistake of losing my virginity at 19 & was stuck in a situationship on & off for 4 years. It was a mistake but it took me experiencing that mistake to realise the flaws in my family and how I was raise. I am 33 now and I have been on a journey of discovering my true self and unlearning the wrong things from my upbringing. I’ve been celibate for over 10 and a half years & have learnt from my dating experiences. We are so much more than sexual beings & there is so much more to connection than sexuality. We are intricately and uniquely made by God and the more we understand ourselves the more we will understand our needs in a partner. We are all broken to a degree but it’s about finding someone whose brokenness you can tolerate and work with. No one is fully healed and no marriage is perfect - even the most seemingly perfect Christian ones - but it’s about finding the God ordained partnership that works for YOU.

This here is a MUST WATCH because the discussions didn't tip toe or brush the surface around the real issues that single Christians have concerns about. This give me hope to open up to dating again as mature woman who got tired of the disappointments...meeting men who play about and don't want to get marry.

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

🤍🤍

I'm missing pastor Zainab and her speech on your tube. Her jokes and teaching makes me want to know more about Jesus and I'm glad to watch this today❤

YOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! 👏👏👏 around 50 minute mark... I am thankful you brought up the point about grace for others. If someone is not or has not been living like their past for many years and is walking with Jesus, have grace from what they did in the past. AND I agree, the past relationships should come up before the wedding day. How we respond to others' at all should be in the same grace and love we would want for ourselves - and esp. with love and grace that God has given to us. And you right pastor - that is the church God gave you - keep stewarding the people well - tell them what God has given you to tell them, not what they want to hear!!!!!

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Thank you! Yes, we set ourselves up..... I'm not putting myself in a situation for the "set up" !!!

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

👏🏽🤍👏🏽🤍👏🏽🤍

So so so good! Grace and love above all for each other and most importantly, for ourselves! Praise Jesus!

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

God is so good!!

I was skeptical about listening to another relationship panel discussion, but I must say this is really good. I appreciate the realness and practicality for Christians.

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

🤍🤍

Always 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾 your single sessions. Awesome information and guidance.🥰

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for joining us!! What was your favorite part?

I loved this conversation so much. But one critic i have and i hate doing this is that i feel that we missed out on encouraging people who maybe God hasnt intended marriage for but also forthose whose waiting season maybe longer. The direction should be to God not marriage. the hope we need to have is not just to be married but in the Lord. That even if marriage doesn't come, we still get Jesus and he is far more worth it than anything. I loved it though. So much

There was a whole lot in there. We need more of this! Alot can be avoided when u get such mindsets. Yes, the Word of of God the Bible teaches us alot but such conversations are mind-blowing are absolutely needed!!!!

I love pastor Stephen!!! So wise and take Gods word seriously the host I didn’t care too much for.

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

We love him too!!!! Was there something that stuck out to you?

This was very good and I was truly blessed in learning and receiving wisdom and knowledge regards to being single and how to carry oneself in God through our singleness.Bless you all. Thank you 🙏🏾

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

🤍🤍

I’m in Charlotte. Had no idea there was a church here. I’ll check it out

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Hey!! Yes, here is the website! theunionchurchclt.com/ we hope to see you there!

My boyfriend and I tuned in and thoroughly enjoyed this discussion! Thank you PS and PZ!❤

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Loved that you joined us!! Have a great day!!

Very glad that this ministry came across my timeline. I loved hearing both the questions and real life responses, along with the spiritual wise-counsel. I loved that the pastor knew himself enough and had desire to please God by remaining a virgin until marriage, and choosing to stay away from engaging in situations that he knew what cause him to "put his feelings over his faith". For the credit score question, as with some of the others.....the bible tells us about being "unequally yoked" and that covers just about every situation that will effect our future in marriage, building a family that is strong, emotionally stable, and God-centered. Advise for a person over 50....Take your time, pray and wait for God's reply because HE ALWAYS HAS BETTER FOR US. God's way and promise is "to bring us to an expected end that is good". God bless you for speaking to people at their level of need.

This came up in my feed. I really enjoyed it. I’m waiting in anticipation and expectation for my destiny partner, a.k.a. husband from God.

So good and needed to be heard as a Christian single. Thank you!

Looooveeeee every minute of this!! So many gems hear and it’s so raw, real - and PRACTICAL! I would love to see this in my city (Hello from Houston)

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Hey Houston! 👋🏽 Anything is possible!!! Haha thanks for watching! Join us live this Sunday at 8:30AM, 10:15AM, 12PM or 1:45PM!

@TheFeminineSafeHaven

5 ай бұрын

@@weareunionchurch I’ve been tuning in love to each sermon in the series! Loved it all

This popped up on my feed and I looked forward to watching this but unfortunately, I couldn't get past when the guy said "husband" and she confirmed. A Singles Q&A Panel with married people as the guest speakers will never have the same traction as devout singles.

I totally did NOT know what to expect!! This was awesome

This was so amazing and inspiring. I haven't connected with Union in awhile so this was much needed 🙏🏽

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

So glad you were able to join us!! 🤍🤍

Have the right conversations....don't waste time, we can't get time back!

The way I ran to watch thus😅I love these singles, married pannels always lives me leaving with a fresh perspective, questions and insights, but mostly a yearning desire for my life

This pastor reminds me of pastor Mike Todd. 😂but loving this platform even though I'm married.

@nicolewarren2284

5 ай бұрын

Yes

OMG … I have been blessed. Thank you for such powerful message ❤❤❤

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

So glad this blessed you!!!!! Thank you for being here!! 🤍

Don't set yourself up for failure!

This was such a marvelous experience. Great wisdom ànd a jovial atmosphere. Thank you! I love how close the pastor and his wife were on the couch, almost on top of each other.

Pastor is so wise sheesh.

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for joining us!!!

I must be too old or too wise and experienced for this platform because this discussion was exhausting & reminded me of my teen years. There were valid points made by the one guy but oooowweeeeeee; stay single y’all

@veegreen8281

5 ай бұрын

I must be in the same boat as you Queen bcuz the information and advice that is being given is terrible.

@Msladyrae92

5 ай бұрын

Agreed, Very juvenile discussions

@BellaKayeLLard

5 ай бұрын

I'm way too old for this. I have the listen to the seventy plus club because the thirty plus club, Lord, have mercy.

@zachpowell5886

5 ай бұрын

The pastor is 38 so that could be valid

Sometimes the church ones be the worst ones

This what good. Thanks for sharing. I will keep hope alive! AMEN

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Amen! Thank you for joining us!

This was sooo good and hilarious!!!! ❤❤❤ wish yall were in Tampa!

I enjoy this panel discussions, always great.

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

So good!! What was your favorite question asked? Or if you could ask a question what would it be?

@nosisekelodlamini8995

6 ай бұрын

@weareunionchurch not really a question, but the realization that Im burning. I'm turning 37 this year, but very very single. I'm just like "Jesus if I blew it up, forgive me". I just want a Godly loving man.

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Love hearing your heart! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

And sometimes....the season we are in does not align with our desire for a mate/spouse. To everything there is a time and season. Maybe the season is to grow closer in our relationship with God and our knowledge of ourself so we will recognize the mate that God has for us. Be patient, trust God, and don't rush His preparation process. Our timing is not God's timing.

🔥convos were too good!! 🔥👏

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

What’s something that stuck out to you the most? Did you learn something new or anything reaffirmed in you!?

This was absolutely dope! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

I’m torn about this entire conversation!! 😢😩😩I have so many questions!

@crespeakslife

6 ай бұрын

I'd like to help. Feel free to ask! I coach single Christian on their road to marriage.

How many men “settle” regarding their requirements for a woman’s preferences yet they always tell women that they should.

“Just because they go to church doesn’t mean they’re an option”

I think some people wait for the person they are dating to catch up to their expectations of them and put more tension on the relationship by blaming that person for the delay. That is outside of them waiting to catch up to their own self imposed expectations with fragile timelines and self, social, or relational disassociation of priorities. My suggestion is be authentic even if it leads to rejection. You will thank yourself later and so will your future.

This was so good

Given that environment lm actually going to respond to my flesh , feelings than my faith❤

Wow, this was a really good, powerful and much needed discussion in the church. Thank you for sharing this. Do you all have a video or program on how to put together an effective singles ministry in the church?

THIS WAS GOOOOD!

Amazing you should have this all the time ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🔥🔥🔥

This was amazing!🤎🌱

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

Thanks for joining us!!

Loved this ❤

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!! 🔥🔥

Fornication IS SIN

This was so so good!!! ❤️🙌🏻

This was really good 👌🏾🙏🏾

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

🤍🤍

Good questions great answers !!!

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for joining us!!

This is so good, such wisdom here 🙌🙌

@weareunionchurch

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for joining us!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

I really enjoyed this!

1:20:10 In Jesus name my time is coming 🙏🏼 🙌🏽

This is powerful 👏

Wait!!! We did not even get an intro AO! Looking forward to this.

It is not the boyfriend/girlfriend's responsibility to pay the others bills. However, if they want to help out of the goodness of their heart, that's up to them. I saw a video that most men know by six months if she's wifey material.

The laugher in the room while men are opening up says alot... alot of women arent really mature enough to handle a man's vulnerability... they are speaking about their degrees, money, status but lack character and respect. im just completely turned off and this is one of the reasons why i believe men should really surround themselves with true men of God over everything!!

THE IS FIRE SO GOOG❤❤❤

@weareunionchurch

5 ай бұрын

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

This was deep. . me likey🔥🔥