Single & Secure: A Conversation On Relationships - Rich & DawnCheré Wilkerson, Mike Todd and friends

Re-live the moment with this exclusive look back at VOUS Conference 2022 featuring Pastor Rich Wilkerson Jr., Pastor DawnCheré Wilkerson, Pastor Mike Todd, Pastor Chelsea Smith, Pastor Manouchka Charles, and Jason Kennedy discussing singleness, security, and healthy relationships.
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  • @BluDrop5
    @BluDrop5 Жыл бұрын

    Singleness is not a curse and marriage is not a cure.

  • @divinerae4966

    @divinerae4966

    Жыл бұрын

    Indeed. This us a word.

  • @imnetmuluboka130

    @imnetmuluboka130

    Жыл бұрын

    Yessssss🔥

  • @vanessaloy1049

    @vanessaloy1049

    Жыл бұрын

    Unless you want to be a pastor; you have nearly zero chance of that as an unmarried person.

  • @RhondaKampman

    @RhondaKampman

    Жыл бұрын

    Looks like you have a lot of friends on here

  • @johnz4328

    @johnz4328

    Жыл бұрын

    Marriage is not a curse and singleness is not a cure.

  • @jess77surfs
    @jess77surfs2 ай бұрын

    I wish these dialogs were conducted by a full single panel of older singles that have had to truly endure singleness for a prolonged period... anyone ever wonder why those people aren't invited to discuss? Food for thought

  • @Jani-
    @Jani- Жыл бұрын

    This is what I got after watching the full video. While your single take time and heal from your traumas. ( When Mike talked about knowing what makes you frustrated that is key to helping any friendship or relationship work and actually last, which is honestly to learn to respond better and not react ) Often times most relationships fail due to lack of communication and/or lack of communicating effectively. So what Those pastors was trying to instill in us was how Therapy helps us understands ourselves better the good, bad, ugly and the phenomenal. It’s damaging in relationships when you don’t know who you really are, especially the most important part which is that your a child of God, fearfully & wonderfully made. As your in a singleness season. Once your pretty good at communicating in those ways & God has given you the okay to move onto pursuing a romantic relationship, then you have to put yourself out there and start dating. They never said it was gonna be easy but they did note that the more dates you go on the more you realize and are able to pinpoint exactly what you want in your spouse and hopefully also what you need. Single people, I am one of them 🙋🏾‍♀️ to narrow it down. 1. Become very close to Jesus 2. Have a mentor/ Go to therapy- ( You need someone in your life who can point your faults and that your receptive to them, because YOU know they’re only there to bring out the best in you but only if you let them). 3. Wait for Gods permission ( Thank God for giving you desires to be married and desires for sex it’s a wonderful gift don’t be shameful) but gain self control while you wait. 4. Once you feel and/or know strongly that God is advising you to purse a romantic relationship/ Put Yourself Out there. It’s never easy doing that. Start off maybe with online dating, or asking a friend to help you set up dates with hopefully God fearing individuals. 5. Enjoy the process, don’t look at it as a task but rather date with joy, hope and knowing that your not waisting your time you are finding who your compatible with and if you can see decades from now that you will still be willing, dedicated, hopeful and committed to making your marriage like Christ and his love for the Church. ( Like they said God will not date for you ). Learn people lovingly and with kindness. If their not for you learn from those interactions, narrow those down, pray and continue to believe that God is helping you find your person. ✨ Honestly also if you desire marriage began watching Godly married couples or better yet put your self around great married couples if you know of some, learn from them, take notes and apply. Those who are single and choose to be single, this video unfortunately isn’t maybe what you need to hear because those like myself have come to watch these videos takes notes to hopefully have a successful Godly marriage. The Bible begins and ends with marriage, to me that means God really would rather see us with someone who can help us, sharpen our iron and be great examples of Christs love for his people. Yes Paul did choose to be single but that was his choice he maybe couldn’t handle marriage after coming to know Jesus and spreading the Gospel to the churches. But ideally I believe God desires family, we are his children for heavens sake, he calls us his bride also,, God wants and desires family and doesn’t really speak on being single on this earth. But buy all means do you and if singleness is what your desiring than do you !! ✨✨🤍 I hope this helped someone honestly… 😊

  • @missNCW

    @missNCW

    Жыл бұрын

    Single people are not the ONLY ones who have trauma and need therapy, but this mocking talk communicated EXACTLY that. No, single people do NOT need to use ‘this time’ for therapy, because MARRIED people need it AS MUCH. And THEY have 2 incomes so THEY can go. Single people don’t even GET gifts, now they’re being told there’s something so wrong with them that they have to GIVE UP their birthday gift. Nice message. Meanwhile WIVES get SPOILED all the time. They don’t HAVE to give up gifts let alone birthday gifts because there’s something ‘wrong’ with them or because of THEIR trauma. They GET to have a gift. He take his WIFE on vacation every month. But SINGLE women can’t even buy themselves as LITTLE birthday gift ONCE a year

  • @missNCW

    @missNCW

    Жыл бұрын

    It’s pathetic hypocrisy to treat single people like they need to earn marriage or mature for marriage when that is NOT Biblical. It’s also INCREDIBLY unloving and CRUEL to make single people feel even MORE unworthy and BROKEN than they already do, so they’ll feel like they will NEVER be good enough for marriage. There’s always SOMETHING they NEED to do. Married people NEVER have to prove themselves this way and they DIDN’T engagement or a relationship. It’s the one’s COMPLETELy alone who ALREADY work on themselves, who get the criticism and assumptions that they NEED to improve SOMEHOW. One minute it’s their appearance, their purpose, their maturity, their Holiness. Now it’s ‘healing’. Always SOMETHING to shame singles with and make them feel like God is withholding marriage form them until they’re good enough. Always something to make them feel like they they just can’t pursue marriage or they can’t DARE want it after YEARS of waiting, because they should be ‘using this time’ to do SOMETHING. It’s been LONG ENOUGH, and the time has BEEN used. Stop assuming single people have things to FIX & IMPROVE that they can’t IN marriage, Like married people are GIVEN the grace to do. Single perfect must reach perfection FIRST.

  • @missNCW

    @missNCW

    Жыл бұрын

    You’re assuming most singles get married because they want to buy they DON’T. That explains why you think singles can just ‘PREPARE’ and then magically and conveniently get married. But no. There are women twice your age who did ALL the therapy and ALL the SERVICE and ALL the conferences. And STILL single. Because it’s not about maturity and it being ‘ready’ or ‘patient’ or ‘trusting’ or healing from your trauma. You can do it ALL and STILL be single, because you don’t get marriage when you DESERVE it. It’s a blessing that NO ONE deserves means single women deserve it AS much as married women. And they don’t need to do ANYTHING to deserve it like this sermon suggests, like married people say, Like your comment Implies. Good DOES keep people single even THOUGH He gave them the desire. That’s just how it is, it’s unfair. Married don’t care so don’t think they understand or that their advice will make you more likely to get married. If you waited another decade you’d be sick of the patronising advice.

  • @temitope_ilori

    @temitope_ilori

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you @jani

  • @ConcreteRose22

    @ConcreteRose22

    Жыл бұрын

    @@missNCW Some people have been single for another decade and another decade. You still need to work on you. That's a life long journey. You'll still need to grow close to the Lord. Sounds like you need to work on that BITTERNESS because your heart is hard that God hasn't answered your prayers. Trust me, I've been there too. I'm working on me during this time. I want to be married but I gotta keep focused on working on myself. Because should I never get married, I will still be a better person for friends, family and those around me. Most importantly, I'll be a more faithful Christian. And that'll pay dividends in the long run. Keep God's perspective.

  • @ugcbylizlee
    @ugcbylizlee Жыл бұрын

    Not yall had a conversation on singleness without single people

  • @Pamzii_

    @Pamzii_

    Жыл бұрын

    Exactly my thoughts

  • @winnerokechukwu9596

    @winnerokechukwu9596

    Жыл бұрын

    The lady bishop, introduced at the beginning, is single.

  • @yololwethumdleleni7

    @yololwethumdleleni7

    Жыл бұрын

    😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 you're out of line pls

  • @missNCW

    @missNCW

    Жыл бұрын

    EXACTLY

  • @missNCW

    @missNCW

    Жыл бұрын

    @@winnerokechukwu9596 oh WOW, ONE single person out of the others who got married YOUNG. Mike met his wife at FIFTEEN. Don’t act like they know ANYTHING about being a single ADULT, let ALONE in 2022

  • @nnyaleleng1556
    @nnyaleleng1556 Жыл бұрын

    The church is still not comfortable talking about singles and divorcees.It is just sad.I felt for the single pastor there.

  • @lilyparker6143
    @lilyparker6143 Жыл бұрын

    It’s a great sign when the first question about singleness is responded with: “I haven’t been single in a long time, idk!” …. 🙄

  • @elishamartin6042
    @elishamartin6042 Жыл бұрын

    As a married person. Mike Todd had the BEST advice to single folk I have ever heard. Singles take note!

  • @pooh101
    @pooh101 Жыл бұрын

    Michael Todd is the only one that actually spoke on how to be single and secure

  • @Melle_Tanya_
    @Melle_Tanya_ Жыл бұрын

    This would have been fantastic if everyone on the stage was single, EVERYONE. To hear their voices, how they handle singleness as a Christian and dating led by God. This didn’t give what it wanted to give. Pastor Todd added some good insights though.

  • @mariasolomon419
    @mariasolomon419 Жыл бұрын

    TEEEAAAACCCCHHHH Pastor Todd

  • @QuineishaHugginsTV
    @QuineishaHugginsTV Жыл бұрын

    God has given pastor Mike Todd so much wisdom and revelation concerning relationships that is sooo needed at such a time as this. ❤️

  • @arnavdinker4411

    @arnavdinker4411

    Жыл бұрын

    God bless u bro!

  • @MissAsjah2024
    @MissAsjah2024 Жыл бұрын

    Can we just shout out Pastor Manouchka and how well-loved she is by the congregation? They roared with applause when he introduced her. If anything, this should have been a discussion about how well-honored a person can be when they pour their whole life into serving the people of God. If that isn't 'single and secure', I don't know what is.

  • @TheSMILive-fk3sp

    @TheSMILive-fk3sp

    Жыл бұрын

    Word!

  • @jene1813

    @jene1813

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah n then he had to say ‘I’m going to find you a husband’ like um isn’t that part of the problem. Singleness isn’t a disease

  • @estareily467
    @estareily467 Жыл бұрын

    With this conversation being held by married people...creates an illusion that the end point of being single is getting married

  • @boitumelomakobosheane2928
    @boitumelomakobosheane2928 Жыл бұрын

    I don’t believe in coincidence, today my boyfriend whom I believed with all my heart was my future husband broke of things and I had seen this video 4 days ago and immediately God brought me back here. I am looking forward to hearing the voice of God

  • @kutosijordanwamono164

    @kutosijordanwamono164

    Жыл бұрын

    there is no such thing as coincidence in the spirit

  • @shalom3763

    @shalom3763

    Жыл бұрын

    God's got you girl... keep listening for His voice. ❤️

  • @ruty415

    @ruty415

    Жыл бұрын

    Big Hugs dear

  • @divinerae4966

    @divinerae4966

    Жыл бұрын

    It was suppose to happen. Sister stay encouraged and enjoy getting to know, love and date yourself. Build yourself up and you will be in your mates path and he in yours.

  • @being307

    @being307

    Жыл бұрын

    That is so sad to hear Tumi, however, always know that God is in control.

  • @laurenenzfelder9294
    @laurenenzfelder9294 Жыл бұрын

    Watching now on my tv. Just went through a breakup, but our Maker Jesus and The Father in Heaven, the Spirit of God is our Husband who will never leave you nor forsake you and me. He meets you in your need and is your comforter and healer.

  • @elishamartin6042
    @elishamartin6042 Жыл бұрын

    Mike Todd had The best advice. Do the practical!

  • @kieralarkins1294
    @kieralarkins1294 Жыл бұрын

    “Everybody is not supposed to be an entrepreneur “ c’mon somebody 🗣 I’ve been saying this for awhile.

  • @mbaliphilisiwegudazi8875
    @mbaliphilisiwegudazi8875 Жыл бұрын

    Next time have only single people for a topic on "Single and Secure" as I think they will understand it better🤷‍♀️ Or at least have More single ppl in the panel if you're gonna discuss single ppl matters. Pastor Mike Todd great inputs👌👌♥️

  • @Pastoralmondgiggles

    @Pastoralmondgiggles

    Жыл бұрын

    How can married people that were single for only a few years and during a totally different decade talk about being single? These people are talking preaching about being single and preparing to get married, because they have been married for years. There is not enough people on the planet for everybody to get married. People that are single need to preach to single people, because they know their struggles.

  • @Pastoralmondgiggles

    @Pastoralmondgiggles

    Жыл бұрын

    How can married people that were single for only a few years and during a totally different decade talk about being single? These people are talking preaching about being single and preparing to get married, because they have been married for years. There is not enough people on the planet for everybody to get married. People that are single need to preach to single people, because they know their struggles.

  • @bestk8966
    @bestk8966Ай бұрын

    Vous staff thanks for putting up this beautiful session and all the panelists were awesome . thanks for sharing a piece of each of your lives with us.

  • @alexiswilliams1326
    @alexiswilliams1326 Жыл бұрын

    Pastor Todd gonna always gets that message across

  • @jpretty2u
    @jpretty2u Жыл бұрын

    Loved how Mike Todd preached about getting counseling, and the prayer at the end!🙏🏾 I didn’t like how the session was called Single & Secure with 5 married ppl and 1 Black woman representing for all the singles. 🤦🏾‍♀️ They should have at least made it a mixed group. This was so focused on marriage and relationships. It kinda contradicts the Title of the session😆 I didn’t see too many points of ppl talking about how to exactly be a Single & Secure person. And things you should be doing in this Single Season! I mean their stories were nice. I hate to say it, but I think everyone up on that panel with the exception of Mike Todd missed the mark! He knew the assignment, lol. Was speaking straight facts!

  • @segomodisanyane

    @segomodisanyane

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree with you completely, I think when we talk about singleness in the church, it's often angled towards singleness as preparation for marriage. If we're not careful we can make an idol of marriage. j

  • @janittashropshire6109

    @janittashropshire6109

    Жыл бұрын

    I was definitely hoping to get more on how to be Single and Secure, hopefully that will be accomplished when I purchase the book.

  • @being307

    @being307

    Жыл бұрын

    I was also disappointed, because there is always an assumption that a single people are in transition to marriage. I would have love to get relational intelligence for people who are single. I think, they should also piqued a bit on what does “secure” looks like in singleness.

  • @tiffanysanchez9799

    @tiffanysanchez9799

    Жыл бұрын

    Sooooo good!!

  • @brittanyspears8896

    @brittanyspears8896

    Жыл бұрын

    This is Mike Todd’s GIFT!! And you can visually see it just in what he offered in comparison to the other speakers. Lord I THANK YOU for speaking through Mike Todd and using him as a vessel!!

  • @aali98andall
    @aali98andall Жыл бұрын

    Y'all better put some respect on Pastor Mike Todd's name 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 So much wisdom on relationships

  • @missNCW

    @missNCW

    Жыл бұрын

    It’s not wisdom, he met his wife when he was FIFTEEN. ZERO experience with dating let ALONE in 2022. But he blames single women for their singleness. Sorry we didn’t all meet our husbands at 15 but single women are TRYING their BEST. They’re busy serving with their free time, compensating for the work married women DON’T do - too busy on Instagram showing off. And in return, single women get mocked and married women get glorified.

  • @missNCW

    @missNCW

    Жыл бұрын

    It’s not wisdom to make fun of single women based on a stereotype. Where’s the acknowledgement of all the service single women put into Transformation Church? No time for that, but time to blame them for being single because they ‘never leave the house’. LIES. They WORK, single women are ADULTS too. They go to Church AND serve. But how dare they still be single when in the TINY amount of time left, they don’t get lucky enough to find a suitable husband. Shame on them I guess… can’t win so the married people. You date and it’s a problem, you try to date with the little time you have, and get told you never leave the house. But your HOURS of service is ignored.

  • @carolbagonza4295

    @carolbagonza4295

    Жыл бұрын

    @@missNCW are you Single?.. Pick out the key points otherwise, you will miss the whole point yet it's a good message in the waiting time. let me know about your journey. Don't take offence

  • @josephinetwum-asare8146

    @josephinetwum-asare8146

    Жыл бұрын

    @@missNCW to be honest it is better single and pursue God - then His word says all the other things we desire will be made available to us (which at that point will be aligned to His purposes for you and me) than end up in a marriage which could be full of pain and frustrations. If you haven't seen what you're waiting on God for please surrender it over to Him. The Holy Spirit is a helper and his waiting for you to bring your frustrations to him. Tell him how you feel. He understands and is ready to give you the BIGGEST hug and tell you that "girl, you'll be alright". He knows you even more than you know you dear. Bring everything to Him. He wants to bless you with all that you're thinking of and even more but there's a version of us that God is waiting for - so the process we go through is very important to God because through the frustrations if we learn to lean on Him and not on anything else we are doing, you'll be amazed at what He does with you. He wants us to become a reflection of Him so we will be full of and manifest the fruits of the spirt - love, faithfulness, long suffering, patience etc. Girl He's got you ok. See your service in His house as worship to Him and not to man. His word says that He'll rejoice over us to do us good. God loves you sooooo much and wants to see you joyful and fulfilling your purpose but like how you'll watch a little child learn how to walk and not always interfere, He's there to catch you even before you hit the floor but His love for us wants the best for us so would patiently wait till we're ready to go on this journey of destiny with Him. Please give it a go and tell Him "Father I'm really unhappy because of .....(just list them) but I'm ready to give it another go. I'm praying for you dear friend. God bless you immensely.

  • @Pastoralmondgiggles

    @Pastoralmondgiggles

    Жыл бұрын

    How can married people that were single for only a few years and during a totally different decade talk about being single? These people are talking preaching about being single and preparing to get married, because they have been married for years. There is not enough people on the planet for everybody to get married. People that are single need to preach to single people, because they know their struggles.

  • @thefreedomnetwork
    @thefreedomnetwork3 ай бұрын

    So much healing in the room

  • @zaesellers1834
    @zaesellers1834 Жыл бұрын

    Sucks there’s only one single who is a Black woman tbh when we already have a bunch of couples that don’t include us. Also….there should be more singles for people talking about secure and single.

  • @esteeculbreth

    @esteeculbreth

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes. I noticed that the only bw is the only single on stage. What message are they trying to send? Problematic

  • @melissamorrison2308
    @melissamorrison2308 Жыл бұрын

    " if you're always with your girls.... you'll ALWAYS be with your girls" - That's it man!!

  • @mariasolomon419

    @mariasolomon419

    Жыл бұрын

    Lol that part!

  • @its_CherVon
    @its_CherVon Жыл бұрын

    Forgiveness is a great gift because “Life won’t wait on the wounded.”

  • @lovejoy6710
    @lovejoy6710 Жыл бұрын

    Pastor Todd ready to preach!!! Love him

  • @rimakaram1313
    @rimakaram1313 Жыл бұрын

    OH I AGREE THAT ONE COUNSELING SESSION WILL SAVE ONE YEAR OF MARRIAGE AM A PSYCHOLOGIST AND A CHILD OF GOD AND I LIKE EVERY WORD YOU SAID

  • @kimberlymungofa2245
    @kimberlymungofa2245 Жыл бұрын

    "Marriage puts a ring in your problems"🤣🤣🤣

  • @esirbellabulla
    @esirbellabulla Жыл бұрын

    Pastor Mike! Thankyou! Therapy changed my life and helped me see the truth and also helped me better my personal relationship with Christ.

  • @phumimdlalose8880
    @phumimdlalose8880 Жыл бұрын

    The love I have for Ps Mike, he is a funny and honest person. To God Be The Glory and Honor. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @mkar1990
    @mkar1990 Жыл бұрын

    I am only in 10 minutes and I am already happy and smiling. Pastor Mike said that the main thing we need is therapy and theology. Meaning speak to someone to understand what makes you you and taking those qualities to God to refine and to help you articulate to your future partner or current partner. Most of the people on the stage are married and have experience of what we as single people need to do in order to help prolong our future or current relationships. Yes we need single representation on the stage but I think there is wisdom in hearing from married couples what they had to overcome over the years and what they had to introduce. It’s essentially a hand guide to help us to navigate through our future or current relationships.

  • @temitope_ilori

    @temitope_ilori

    Жыл бұрын

    100% agree with you. I think it was a really wholesome conversation. Especially hearing Pastor Mike talk about therapy.

  • @IamDarls
    @IamDarls Жыл бұрын

    Lord, I'm ready to rip up my list and just place it at the altar. I hadn't seen how broken this world is, I'm just turning 20. Now I'm starting to see it. I will not walk alone, tell me where I ought to be then there my place will be. Heal me of my wounds, renew my mind, surround me with the right people and help me do my part of living out my purpose. In Jesus' name I pray for anyone else here, Amen.

  • @naomismile1547

    @naomismile1547

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen. Thanks dear

  • @ArtaviaJones

    @ArtaviaJones

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen

  • @tiffanyannbae
    @tiffanyannbae Жыл бұрын

    I love what they’re trying to do and I love my pastor. Shout out to Pastor Mike Todd! It is tough though, I would like to see a panel with more singles or atleast people who married well into adulthood… like atleast mid 30s.

  • @a5anointed705

    @a5anointed705

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @CRWNJWL
    @CRWNJWL Жыл бұрын

    Man Pastor Todd is amazing ❤❤❤

  • @RUNIQUE8
    @RUNIQUE8 Жыл бұрын

    Great session I do wish the panel was single individuals vs marriage couples

  • @Pastoralmondgiggles

    @Pastoralmondgiggles

    Жыл бұрын

    How can married people that were single for only a few years and during a totally different decade talk about being single? These people are talking preaching about being single and preparing to get married, because they have been married for years. There is not enough people on the planet for everybody to get married. People that are single need to preach to single people, because they know their struggles.

  • @titilayoabaniwonda6508
    @titilayoabaniwonda6508 Жыл бұрын

    The Holy Spirit led me to this video. I'm so thankful to God. Even though there were a lot of married people on the panel, I like it because we can learn from their experiences. Pastor Mike was awesome, I love Chelsea's input too. With love from Nigeria. 🇳🇬

  • @bmar_music

    @bmar_music

    Жыл бұрын

    Same here. Amen God bless 🙏🏽

  • @patricehrabowskie9855
    @patricehrabowskie9855 Жыл бұрын

    Get counseling, have GOOD friends, strong church connections, be open to potential love (when secure because marriage magnifies things), trust God with your expectations (be in alignment with him), fall in love with yourself (not carnal but grateful for life and growth), know your purpose and calling

  • @Bepeze

    @Bepeze

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for this summary. That does sum up the objective for a single person. Even though I haven't even watched yet.

  • @Bepeze

    @Bepeze

    Жыл бұрын

    Screenshotting...

  • @Pastoralmondgiggles

    @Pastoralmondgiggles

    Жыл бұрын

    How can married people that were single for only a few years and during a totally different decade talk about being single? These people are talking preaching about being single and preparing to get married, because they have been married for years. There is not enough people on the planet for everybody to get married. People that are single need to preach to single people, because they know their struggles.

  • @meritamami
    @meritamami Жыл бұрын

    HALF-DECENT! SAY IT LOUDER, PASTOR MIKE!!

  • @FreeAsABird53
    @FreeAsABird53 Жыл бұрын

    Very true, Pastor Todd. Therapy is the best thing ever.

  • @Pastoralmondgiggles

    @Pastoralmondgiggles

    Жыл бұрын

    How can married people that were single for only a few years and during a totally different decade talk about being single? These people are talking preaching about being single and preparing to get married, because they have been married for years. There is not enough people on the planet for everybody to get married. People that are single need to preach to single people, because they know their struggles.

  • @blessedracs827
    @blessedracs827 Жыл бұрын

    Pastor Todd said that “God don’t want to date with you” - God desires for us every day that we can have date with him through our bible reading and time with him even when you walk at the forest or the street God wants to go with you even you don’t but God always beside you. Young believers you should read your bible and speak to God everyday even how many times you listen to the sermon of the preacher if you don’t have personal time with God you will never grow in your personal relationship with him. Our greatest relationship to pursue is Jesus not someone out there a man/woman. It’s God and if you will get married one day that is the bonus of God with you because of his goodness. He gave you someone to be with to the ministry for the kingdom of God not because you deserve to have someone because everybody are getting married. Don’t just listening to the sermon that makes you feel good how the preacher said but listen to what is the truth about the word of God. God is not like Santa Claus that everything you prayed for he will answer like what Pastor Todd said. If God is gracious God and Just God he will give that will glorify him not just because he want to give what you ask for.

  • @Sino_Tee

    @Sino_Tee

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree with you that Jesus should be our number 1 pursuit. Seek first the Kingdom and all will be added🙏 just wanna clarify though that you misstated what he said.. He didn't say "God don't want to date with you." He said at 27:30 "God will not date FOR you. He won't have a heart conversation FOR you". (Unless he said God don't wanna date you somewhere else, I didn't hear that). Otherwise I agree with you. Personal time with God is absolutely everything🙏

  • @yeyamusic

    @yeyamusic

    Жыл бұрын

    @@Sino_Tee yeah he meant God won’t go on a date with a guy FOR you

  • @mirabelobasuyi8643

    @mirabelobasuyi8643

    Жыл бұрын

    He meant God wouldn’t go on a date for you Listen to understand instead of listening to pick apart Allow God speak to you instead of picking apart what was said❤️❤️

  • @peacegates1835
    @peacegates1835 Жыл бұрын

    Yesterday, I spoke with an individual who asked why I don’t want to date. I think God was speaking through him cause these pastors are saying things he said to me and I am just, learning to unlearn!

  • @Pastoralmondgiggles

    @Pastoralmondgiggles

    Жыл бұрын

    How can married people that were single for only a few years and during a totally different decade talk about being single? These people are talking preaching about being single and preparing to get married, because they have been married for years. There is not enough people on the planet for everybody to get married. People that are single need to preach to single people, because they know their struggles.

  • @thorisoaromamohlala2887
    @thorisoaromamohlala2887 Жыл бұрын

    Pastor Mike, is and always have been one of God's greatest vessels in my life this year. ❤️

  • @noladarling5160

    @noladarling5160

    Жыл бұрын

    He is really insightful.

  • @HolinessUntoTheLord.

    @HolinessUntoTheLord.

    Жыл бұрын

    🤮

  • @refilwetsalaile7647
    @refilwetsalaile7647 Жыл бұрын

    Hello, watching from Botswana in Africa. Love you Vous Family!

  • @imaniscript6323

    @imaniscript6323

    Жыл бұрын

    🇧🇼💙🌍

  • @donjuanmasudi4463
    @donjuanmasudi4463 Жыл бұрын

    The intro about Manoushka had me lough out loud🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @AyoAwotona
    @AyoAwotona Жыл бұрын

    Really blessed by this! Thank you so much 😊

  • @latonyafarrar2264
    @latonyafarrar2264 Жыл бұрын

    Thank You Guy’s for this Much needed

  • @iam_aphe
    @iam_aphe Жыл бұрын

    Brilliant Conversation! Damn, Pastor Mike Todd is fired up for that stage 🤣You can tell when someone really loves what they do.

  • @tokeyaberry2964
    @tokeyaberry2964 Жыл бұрын

    I love this! Awesome . ❤️

  • @justineandreas1233
    @justineandreas1233 Жыл бұрын

    This i enjoyed... Wow thank to you all

  • @psjoe
    @psjoe8 ай бұрын

    It’s time to learn how to “investiDATE” our relationships. What you invest in, has the ability to profit.

  • @Yasminemperez
    @Yasminemperez Жыл бұрын

    Loved this convo. So so good!

  • @katesithole8629
    @katesithole8629 Жыл бұрын

    Amen. Word in season for me. Bless you for sharing this session.

  • @millicenttuhairwe4416
    @millicenttuhairwe4416 Жыл бұрын

    This is powerful I needed to here y'all thx fr blessing me💕💕

  • @thatomoribe
    @thatomoribe Жыл бұрын

    So good 🔥🙏🏼, I’m giving Pastor Mike Todd his flowers 💐 👏🏼👏🏼 what a true blessing.

  • @imanthepoet
    @imanthepoet Жыл бұрын

    I am so glad a found this video. Today I was confronted with enemies from my past and almost made the decision to give up on myself. God is good!

  • @Pastoralmondgiggles

    @Pastoralmondgiggles

    Жыл бұрын

    How can married people that were single for only a few years and during a totally different decade talk about being single? These people are talking preaching about being single and preparing to get married, because they have been married for years. There is not enough people on the planet for everybody to get married. People that are single need to preach to single people, because they know their struggles.

  • @yessi4113
    @yessi4113 Жыл бұрын

    Man I’m so grateful to have come across this video.. 🙏 💎 💎 💎

  • @lukhanyisocana1305
    @lukhanyisocana1305 Жыл бұрын

    This is powerful.. Thank You 🙏

  • @omololaoni6802
    @omololaoni6802 Жыл бұрын

    Wow, that was something!! Thank you, Pastor Mike!

  • @esthermwaniki7184
    @esthermwaniki7184 Жыл бұрын

    I'm Open. To whatever you want to do Jesus.

  • @carameld1632
    @carameld1632 Жыл бұрын

    Wow!!! That was awesome 👌🏽👏 !! I loved this and there was some great information.

  • @beckykinsman4281
    @beckykinsman4281 Жыл бұрын

    Wow, such a powerful conversation, this blessed me so much 🙌

  • @amakatee3186
    @amakatee3186 Жыл бұрын

    First time here, I love the message 🙌🏽👏🏼

  • @catherinembukwa9616
    @catherinembukwa9616 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for Sharing. Its been enlightening. Journey for My Healing

  • @mandrewzjireh1991
    @mandrewzjireh1991 Жыл бұрын

    This is deep chat, just awesome and embracing, Love from Uganda

  • @nnedichristian6706
    @nnedichristian6706 Жыл бұрын

    Ok Pastor Todd 🙌 the Wisdom!!!!

  • @WhitneyUwandu
    @WhitneyUwandu Жыл бұрын

    sheeshhhh THIS WAS SO SOOOO GOOD!! ❤

  • @berylallando
    @berylallando Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this great conversation😊 May God bless y’all, your families and everyone who put this together!🙏

  • @gertvirtualtechtelecom
    @gertvirtualtechtelecom Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this insightful conversation God bless you.

  • @cassiiforniaa
    @cassiiforniaa Жыл бұрын

    Hey family, I've been reading a few of the comments and have some different opinions. I wholeheartedly agree that looking back at the title after watching the ENTIRE video ( always watch the entire video people), I do think that this panel was intended for good, but simply missed the mark. For a panel specifically titled "Single and Secure" having a panel of married people is discouraging for singles who genuinely wanted advice. It seems they wanted to fill the panel with wise counsel (which was achieved), but 90% of them are married. HOWEVER, I think this demonstrates flawlessly the error and flaw of human nature. Although we can look to others for advice and counsel, the Word of God will be the one and true, PERFECT source, NO human error source. We should be looking there for all wisdom and knowledge, and panels like these ( in their essence) should be tools for clarity. if you have pressing questions, get plugged into a church and seek wisdom for the pastors and leaders in person, that way you can always fact-check them. xx

  • @ncumisandungane8651
    @ncumisandungane8651 Жыл бұрын

    That was an amazing session. the Lord bless you all

  • @christianitywithoutobstacl9367
    @christianitywithoutobstacl9367 Жыл бұрын

    i have really watched this today but its really the massage i needed thanks and god bless u all guys

  • @sgheindel
    @sgheindel Жыл бұрын

    Phenomenal conversation. Thanks for this!!! Learned a lot from each of you 🤟🏼

  • @dressizumi
    @dressizumi Жыл бұрын

    Thanks for this! I was on tears and hands up high, surrendering my ways/plans/expectations…I was watching from Portugal. So grateful for Rich sensibility and Mike’s discernment in the final ministry time! 🙏 this meant a lot to me🫶

  • @nikki_nickk
    @nikki_nickk Жыл бұрын

    Pastor Mike be spittin straight facts!!!!!

  • @kishon8
    @kishon8 Жыл бұрын

    I love this!!

  • @kikiaskew3446
    @kikiaskew3446 Жыл бұрын

    This was soooooooo good!!!! Wow!

  • @straighttalkwithefosa
    @straighttalkwithefosa Жыл бұрын

    This was timely... Thank you to all panelist... shout out to Pastor Todd

  • @GreatladyPoaty
    @GreatladyPoaty Жыл бұрын

    Thank you, Lord, for this powerful moment 🙏🙏🙏

  • @IreneCherell
    @IreneCherell Жыл бұрын

    This was awesome!

  • @lalalanes7507
    @lalalanes7507 Жыл бұрын

    So Mike just gone take over they show like that? 😂😂😂😂 I love him!!

  • @tokeyaberry2964
    @tokeyaberry2964 Жыл бұрын

    Okay Pastor Michael is on it. 🙌🏽

  • @listentohillsong7600
    @listentohillsong7600 Жыл бұрын

    This song has made me feel that I and my family are protected by God's love! May God bring health, luck and success to all of us!

  • @azziielynn6735
    @azziielynn6735 Жыл бұрын

    This was AMAZING

  • @gabrielaagard8989
    @gabrielaagard8989 Жыл бұрын

    this was a powerful conversation.

  • @yervang1580
    @yervang1580 Жыл бұрын

    Sooooo good!!

  • @inokits8074
    @inokits8074 Жыл бұрын

    17:28 A great reminder. The importance of growing in the process and embracing it.

  • @marshamorris33
    @marshamorris33 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for allowing me to see the restoring of acceptance by giving God my exceptions and healing through his forgiveness, that allows me now to forgive others.

  • @aimeek.2975
    @aimeek.2975 Жыл бұрын

    That was an incredible conference! God blessed me beyond mesures just by listening to those wonderful Men and Women of God. Remain blessed and may God’s grace be upon you. Amen!

  • @thatitsekirigal
    @thatitsekirigal Жыл бұрын

    This is a conversation is just everything... The vulnerability in the talk and everything is beautiful

  • @marjorymsuku9312
    @marjorymsuku9312 Жыл бұрын

    Wow! Only 5 min in, Ps Mike! This is going to be so-o good!🔥🔥

  • @yaniverse2549
    @yaniverse2549 Жыл бұрын

    First time watching this. The guy in red jacket speaks to me so loudly and clearly

  • @angelakim8599
    @angelakim8599 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I really needed to hear that. Especially, thank you pastor Chelsea Smith. Praying for your family and ministries. 🙏 ❤️

  • @Pastoralmondgiggles

    @Pastoralmondgiggles

    Жыл бұрын

    How can married people that were single for only a few years and during a totally different decade talk about being single? These people are talking preaching about being single and preparing to get married, because they have been married for years. There is not enough people on the planet for everybody to get married. People that are single need to preach to single people, because they know their struggles.

  • @elisabethlubin3708
    @elisabethlubin3708 Жыл бұрын

    While this conversation was insightful, it’s also given a sense of failure if someone isn’t married. What’s wrong with being single? Why it has to feel like a burden. Many people are single by choice. You made it sound as if marriage is the end all be all for humanity.

  • @edwardlovera5867
    @edwardlovera5867 Жыл бұрын

    Amazing, thanks God for everything ;)

  • @rabeccabanda7316
    @rabeccabanda7316 Жыл бұрын

    What a word from Pastor Todd. Whuuu! 🙏🙏🙏. Need counseling my birthday is on the 2nd September.. I pray that I get some therapy as a gift on my 40th birthday😍😍

  • @missvee1650
    @missvee1650 Жыл бұрын

    Hello Vous staff, not sure if you will see this message or not but I just wanted to provide some feedback. I think the speakers all said something relative but the title of the conference was single and secure. I may have had the wrong impression but I was expecting to hear from single people who are actively following Jesus and leading a full well rounded life irregardless of their desire to marry or not. While a marital perspective is great, please be mindful not everyone in the church desires to be married, or perhaps they aren’t in that season at this moment. As Pastors I would’ve like to see more compassion and less targeted comedy towards the one single woman on the panel. Y’all were joking and I get it but Ms M. literally spoke about her struggle with seeing so many great marriages around her and not being able to have the same. Maybe it was the delivery and perhaps things went off course but I thought I would walk away from watching this, with practical tools to walk into a secure place while single. If that was the goal… y’all kinda missed the mark. I love Pastor Todd though… mighty man of God and a charismatic speaker.

  • @cheftesiab

    @cheftesiab

    Жыл бұрын

    I thought it was just me when it came to the targeting jokes. I felt uncomfortable for her. And yes. More relevant conversation from current singles is what I expected.

  • @geewhiz747

    @geewhiz747

    Жыл бұрын

    This comment should be PINNED

  • @dennijoesgeneral4797

    @dennijoesgeneral4797

    Жыл бұрын

    You have put tis so well.

  • @Pastoralmondgiggles

    @Pastoralmondgiggles

    Жыл бұрын

    How can married people that were single for only a few years and during a totally different decade talk about being single? These people are talking preaching about being single and preparing to get married, because they have been married for years. There is not enough people on the planet for everybody to get married. People that are single need to preach to single people, because they know their struggles.

  • @mpumelelobuhlebenkosinteng1534
    @mpumelelobuhlebenkosinteng1534 Жыл бұрын

    This is soo good🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏

  • @sweetiehearts
    @sweetiehearts Жыл бұрын

    This was amazing

  • @ruthbwalyamusange
    @ruthbwalyamusange Жыл бұрын

    Loved loved this conversation 🤍 everyone had such great wisdom to share