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@AnthonyManzio

29 күн бұрын

None of your video work in getting a women full of packed fraud you tuber all a big waste of time. No monitors bs loads of videos.

All the dating advice channels say the way to attract women is to not be needy. But the real difference happens when you realise not being needy is more about respecting yourself, than about attracting women

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Yes, but it's even much deeper than that, which I cover in the video. But the reason for this video is to point out where men don't even realize they're behaving need. Neediness is one of the biggest causes for breakups...

Thanks man....I've been going through a lot with this on and off girl...and to be honest, your videos have really changed me a lot about how I should deal with this stuff...looking forward to more of your content

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Glad I could help! Thank for watching!

Amazing video as always man. I think this speaks to a deeper problem which is that nowadays is that men don't have adventures, communities or activies that take them out of the house and so they cling too much to their girlfriends/wives.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely! It's easier to stay in the house & lean on your girl...but it's also hurting men in the long term.

#6 Guilt tripping for spending time with other people 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. As a woman I would like to add that this gives the impression that you want to isolate someone which are traits of a manipulative, controlling and abusive person. I dated a guy who got upset whenever I spent time with other people such as my friends and relatives. He indirectly told me that my life should be him and any future children that we might have. No, this is not cute or loving.

@carlospita6442

9 ай бұрын

Male friends??

@motowngirl5891

6 ай бұрын

Getting mad because I had to cut my grass “You made the choice of cutting your grass over seeing me” I only have a a certain amount of time to do that”

@motowngirl5891

6 ай бұрын

@@carlospita6442it does t matter girls or guys Sister or brother

@TheKatangeseDollar

6 ай бұрын

@@carlospita6442 nope female friends. I've only met him once and he was trying to insert himself into my life. He even wanted to accompany me for ladies' movie night.

Thank you so much Eric this was so informative but hilarious at the same time 😂😂 great stuff man

@SkillofAttraction

9 ай бұрын

Thanks, man! Glad you enjoyed it!

Love it, thanks, coach

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

You're teaching me alot. Tq. It's about time to change

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

You got this!

Showing up unannounced: guilty. I was young and inexperienced though, and she did pop up to my workplace to talk to me. But if I did the same thing to he thereafterr, I didn't feel welcomed. Know what I've known now, I should've asked her out when she visited me at my work. Then cut the convo short, save it for the date. Men and women do really have different gameplay.

@SkillofAttraction

6 ай бұрын

Yes they do. It's often a mistake to think, "she did it, so I can do it"...but it goes both ways.

Such great advice Eric, the fact is all relationships are very tricky navigating but when it comes to dating, romantic and marital relationships you really have the blue print down for being able to navigating all the nuanced challenges that either build up attraction or compromise it’s sustenance and unconscious behaviors that diminish it. What I hope to communicate to my Fiance’ is that I want to see our relationship thrive and be as healthy as it can be so that it succeeds especially at our age me being almost 49 and with his being 52. I hesitate to share these things even though he needs to hear it because he will read meaning into it that isn’t there…that I don’t love him, that I don’t want to be with him and that my feelings are changing and the hurt he will feel as it will be translated as rejection. But the truth is I love him so much that I see what’s not working and I have faith that he can grow in these areas if he can get past his insecurities. Because if he doesn’t, then it will lead to a place I don’t want it to go.

@SkillofAttraction

2 ай бұрын

He'll definitely read into it & maybe even take offense to it, but at the same time you can't just sit back & say nothing. Part of a healthy relationship is having difficult conversations & saying things that your partner doesn't want to hear, but needs to hear. What's important to understand in order to get through to men is that you must be direct. Men won't get it if you tell him in an indirect way.

@loraliecataldi1975

2 ай бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction you’re so right! I’m not responsible for his feelings and he needs to decide how he’s going to process them. Boundaries are key and that’s what I’m having such a hard time with right now. I’m going to screenshot your words so I can reference them for a reminder each day. So much of my anxiety stems from not speaking up and that resentment I end up feeling is really on me because he’s not going to read my mind and even sending him video clips isn’t direct enough. The last one I sent him from you he didn’t even respond to so I assumed he hasn’t listened to it but I decided to ask last night and apparently he did and there was a lot of evasion on his part so I had to reinforce the message by giving voice to what I felt was true and pertinent to our relationship. Still too vague I think. I’ll practice being more direct and to the point and then allow myself to detach so he can sit with his discomfort and either give credence to what I’m telling him or ignoring it like it doesn’t really apply to him.

I run away from a man i was dating. I really like him but would not stop touching kissing showing jealousy trying to put a label etc It freak me out. I even get scared. Also passive agressive when i am not answering the way he want.

@SkillofAttraction

8 ай бұрын

Yes, typical behavior of the needy "nice guy". I have a video on "relationship-focused" men as well: kzread.info/dash/bejne/pmGEqcSOn5ecYs4.html

This guy is a legend

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, man! Much appreciated!

Hey Coach! In the video 12 Signs She’s Not Into You, you mentioned in sign number 11 that if she’s dating other guy then she’s not into you or has little respect for you. But in different videos you said that you need to still show her that you’re interested and you’re also her best option. Would you still date and contact her if you’re in that situation? And what’s your take on all of that? Thanks.

Thanks!

@SkillofAttraction

10 ай бұрын

Much appreciated!

After 2 years im starting to care less and less about dating her for one big reason. She deny me from sex twice a few months ago and I have not asked for more. She still calls me and txts me everyday. I dont even ask to see her anymore. I have started to see 2 other ladies maybe 3. Therefore I have done great in avoiding neediness!

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

I have a few videos that touch on your situation that may help... Signs she's stringing you along: kzread.info/dash/bejne/fXiomamPfdK_Z84.html Being kept in limbo: kzread.info/dash/bejne/eZyJj62gnLeqYsY.html Stops putting in the effort: kzread.info/dash/bejne/k3iLkqenqNXVZLg.html

I don’t want to support them either. And when they come complaining about their issues we should give them the same treatment. Good video

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, man!

Telling me I’m lying etc

Just put some graphic slates up if you don't like talking in front of camera. You have solid content.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Thanks! I've been trying out some new stuff.

Is there not a video on how to turn this around if you have been needy and what you can do if you still have the girl and want to fix it?

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

I don't think there's a specific video, but a good start is to catch yourself from doing these things....& just focus n having fun when you're with her or interacting with her.

@jasonstatham4834

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I had literally been doing everything right aswell coach, but I don’t know if it’s in my head or I’m actually over thinking. I think she has seen me be a bit weak/ needy/ controlling this weekend and before that I was always fine. She hasn’t mentioned anything and still seems fine but in your experience have you ever felt like this before and if so how do you delete it from your head?

Haven't watched any of these videos for a few years. You start testosterone about a year ago lol? You look a lot different in a good way

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Well, actually...lol Thanks, man!

Your right. A hot chick will pick a unattractive, unambitious loser with minimal income over a attractive, successful guy who displays a hint of neediness. I knew this from having female friends and hearing their complaints. Then I was guilty of said behavior. I got love bombed by a KNOCKOUT and for spoiled. They HATE that. If you slip up,catch it and change it ASAP.

@SkillofAttraction

9 ай бұрын

You're exactly right! Women find neediness in a man to be absolutely repulsive! They may be a little tolerant of it initially if they really like you, but it will quickly turn them off if you continue.

8:40 I made the mistakes here.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

Easy mistake to make...

I don't date off market

@SkillofAttraction

5 ай бұрын

ok

I didn't know all these things until it was too late. Been playing brads my whole life then decided to put my wife on a pedestal. OMG did I find out the hard way

@SkillofAttraction

6 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, that's what society teaches us to do...put them up on a pedestal. You might find this video on "happy wife, happy life" helpful: kzread.info/dash/bejne/iqxhmMWpcdbAodY.html

@sugag2870

6 ай бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction I watched that already. I'm planning on contacting you for a phone call at some point. You've made the most sense on all the vids I've watched to help me get thru this

@SkillofAttraction

6 ай бұрын

@@sugag2870 Sounds great, man! Whenever you're ready I'm happy to help!

I like being needy. Some girls like that. They can really like it when you’re desperate and jealous, they like it when you need them. They like to be liked/thought attractive. Probably more so than men.

@abusalman5139

Жыл бұрын

We have a simp boys!

@ediniojeanphilippe9432

Жыл бұрын

You like being needy. You haven't been around a lots of women with options. Just an honest opinion!! Women make beta males pay for being needy.

@magicsinglez

Жыл бұрын

@@ediniojeanphilippe9432 : how do they make them pay, by marrying them?you should learn to be friends with women.care about their feelings while they care about yours. You have things backwards, friend? You think there should be 5 million men in prison? My only guess is that it must shame people, discovering that they are totally wrong. In this, you get to share with your enemies on the left, the truly and despicably evil. You’re both wrong.

@SkillofAttraction

Жыл бұрын

As I mentioned in the video several times...they may like it initially, but it won't last UNLESS they're super insecure & needy themselves, in which case you'll run into a lot of issues in the relationship. Women like strong confident men, except in the rare cases where a "simp" fetish is involved.

@magicsinglez

Жыл бұрын

@@SkillofAttraction : once women can no longer gain advantage of men’s violence, they will no longer have a preference for men who are more violent? Sorry I missed your video. My loss.

GREAT SEX SEX SEX I have to get rid of him, so NEEDY Very hard to do I really love him, The guilt tripping, the blaming etc He even got mad that I had to cut my grass He FACETIMES me and he is really mad that I’m not with him, MOPING Almost crying Etc very annoying Keeps saying I LOVE YOU over and over and over Telling me I’m lying It’s below O and he wants me to drive over which is more than a half hour away, my battery is dead on my car and he is telling me I could have help sooner He blames me for AAA not getting it’s fixed faster, they are backed up here in michigan

@SkillofAttraction

6 ай бұрын

Oof! That sounds terrible! Unfortunately he has to come to realization before he can change. Most men never come to this realization. Although I've had a few women over the years tell me that they've shared some of my videos on needy men with their boyfriends in hopes that it woke them up. I never heard if it worked or not, but perhaps that's an option. Here's a video about needy men from a woman's POV: kzread.info/dash/bejne/qZpms8V_Xa3IdJs.html An old, but very popular video on the most common need mistakes men make: kzread.info/dash/bejne/X3Z4l9CimsisopM.html