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@RebeccaZungEsq

2 жыл бұрын

I will be there to support you.

The part about the victim mentality is so true. They use the fact that they had a hard life as an excuse to treat others wrong.

@jenamirgholi6004

Жыл бұрын

this might be a component why people are hating.

@jasonstone8222

Жыл бұрын

There's a fine line too. Some people don't treat others bad or manipulate others. But are genuine victims. If what they claim the abuse was is actually true. However there's not alot anyone can do about that except get away from it and heal ....after all prisons are full of people that victimized others . Sad thing is tho that there are criminals in all walks of life victimizing others behind closed doors. Love is the absence of abuse. Abuse comes in many forms and not just physical. Lies are emotional abuse also. You just cannot trust a liar and they are also disrespecting you and insulting your intelligence and in most cases just trying to use you for something.

No one understands when you live with a Covert, they can not understand! We have hardly understood ourselves. Now that we know, everything becomes so much easier, to make total zero contact only when you know and accept how they are. Thanks for all the help, your support gives me strength! ❤🙏🙂

@nokneedtono8163

2 жыл бұрын

So true! Now knowing who they really are it's so easy to gray rock and no contact for sure, it's a blessing to have them removed from our life or at least our every days🙏 I have a 4 years old with him but I have faith of her future. Rebecca has been my lifesaver 🙏

@oto900ethicsoninstagram4

2 жыл бұрын

This media👆👆👆 Are good in spying cell phones and call log I was satisfied with their service

@ADRIAN-gp8gp

2 жыл бұрын

I’m a fair logical person by nature and logic was a foreign language in our relationship. Her gaslighting my reality to create her narrative and where facts are now just based on her feelings! After 2 years my sanity has left the building! Its crazy as the second you wanna walk away they look at you like how dare you, I wasn’t finished! They think that you’re the property at this point. Now I got court battle for my rights to see my daughter with a mother that made it clear that if I’m not with her I’m not in the child’s life. So selfish as she has no remorse on the time she takes away from her daughter with her father, we had a really strong connection… . Horrible people too deal with in life. I’ll never be so naïve again.

@NancyAC66

2 жыл бұрын

@@ADRIAN-gp8gp Yes, they are horrible.

@brandirobinson8430

2 жыл бұрын

Right! It doesn't matter what people think. It matters how they treat YOU!!!!

My mother is a covert and it was awful until I went no contact, best decision I ever made

@quantumpotential7639

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry for your mom. Now let us pray 🙏.

They have no soul and they just take take take. They never give.

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

Please check this out for extra support - icanslay.com/

I had one...pure evil, no heart, no soul, just devil with mask of angel.

@Luka-DanteGodofMischief

25 күн бұрын

Remember Lucifer was God's most Handsome angel. If you believe in the Bible. They're so cruel

1. Passive aggressive: house projects, spending time with the kids 2. Subtly competitive: always had to buy more expensive or better gifts for himself and I get bottom of the barrel cheap stuff or hand me downs 3. Withholding: finances, work, appointments 4. Insecurity: would never about this, but very defensive about it when I've brought it up. Always negative, down on himself. Victim mentality for sure. 5. Prone to depression: I've definitely wondered for years and years of he's depressed. As soon as I filed for divorce he ran to the doctor and got an Rx for Zoloft 6. Grandiose fantasies: retiring at 55. Sports car. Wanted perfect marriage, sex life. Never willing to work on anything but expected everyone else to contribute and enable his dreams. 7. Hold grudges: yep, but would never admit it. Always keeping score, always ready with specific examples when confronted. 8. Envious or jealous: He could never be happy for me when I was passionate about something or had a great day, etc. 9. Fake empathy: Psshh. He didn't even have FAKE empathy. He would say words but wouldn't even look at me. If I was upset or crying, he would just sit on the other side of the couch and look at his phone. I agree that it's strategic and he would only show anything when others were around. 10. Gaslighting: OMG constantly. I really thought I was crazy. I was so turned around and upside down it wasn't funny. From an the years of being with him, I had no self esteem, no self worth, he made me feel like I was stupid and an airhead. 11. Flying monkeys: I see them now that I've filed for divorce. Makes me sick because a lot of them are mutual friends. 23 years with this a$$hole screwed me up big time. I've had to go through 6 months of counseling to realize what he was doing to me. The anger really motivated me to work on myself and change my mindset and get out, and try to protect my kids from him.

Oh the ex is THE COVERT Narc. He’s a con artist playing a “I’m an innocent sweet victim”. Lord have mercy. He is ALL of these 11 points!

@tonibooth8424

2 жыл бұрын

my stbx is the same

My method is quite simple. Unfair people are the toilet. I am not willing to be treated unfairly.

Nothing happens, only words!

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

Stay strong over there! 💪

They lack boundaries!

The main narcissist with whom I have to deal utilizes both covert strategies and overt ones - whatever suits his agenda of the day. I've found what works best is slowing down conversations with him so that I stop and analyze each and every statement to put myself ahead of the agenda behind the statements. There's ALWAYS an agenda. Figure it out before you respond, as your response will determine how far along the narcissist gets with their agenda.

It's always someone else's fault. After years of freaking with them you realize their the common denominator in every situation.

Energy vampire!!!… no sense of self, no drive. I’m doing that too, no your not your leeching off of my achievement because you don’t want to do the work to do this….ughhh so true.

You hit every single trait I have seen in him, the fake empathy I have wondered about for awhile why he would do this. That helped me the most from hearing this. I thought he was a covert, now I know the truth. Thank you for exposing them!

I didn't even know this was happening to me for 14 years.... it sucks hard. Glad to have learned my lesson.

My wife does all of these things. She takes confidential conversations and twist them around in hee journal to make me look bad

@Anne-go9ol

2 жыл бұрын

It's the little tiny twist that they give to the story that can do so much harm. Then play it like they didn't mean it 😒😒

@quantumpotential7639

2 жыл бұрын

Damn Wife 😡 Come down stairs and come into my man cave. We got an open bar, beer on tap, lots of snacks, a pool table, ping pong table, dart board, And out back a machine shop, car lift, atvs, a lighted driving range, 🎯s to shoot at (powder and bow), and earth moving machinery where we are constructing a race course, executive par three golf course, and an outdoor obstacle course for fitness trials. Our #1 rule is HAVE A BALL! Our #2 rule is NO NARCS ALLOWED. Come on down, leave your wife at the pound. Soon your worries will behind you. Thanks

@taraarrington2285

Жыл бұрын

You read her journal 🤨

I cannot overstate the value I've found in utilizing the grey rock method. It's probably my strongest tool.

@AgendaInMind

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. My boss is top level covert at a wholesale greenhouse. I stay because I love working with plants and it’s less than a mile from my house. I use ear buds to listen to podcasts all day and only respond to him when it’s work related. No response to anything else. He smears me to everyone he can, but he has no friends and most people know he’s not right in the head.

@lucybraun8969

2 жыл бұрын

@@AgendaInMind I think it's very therapeutic for people to share their stories, both for the storyteller, and the listener. Not only is doing so a form of escape hatch, but it enables the listener to better foresee the possible situations they can get themselves into with narcissists they can't get away from. The number and variety of nefarious schemes narcissists manage to come up with never ceases to amaze me. Once they decide you are not fly monkey material, look out! Never let your guard down, no matter how powerless they may seem.

The only grudge i hold is being treated unfairly by a covert narcissist. I loved her and I loved her kids for 5 years before I took my head out of the sand and started seeing her for who she was. I thought if I could just show this person my love and loyalty. It would finally put their insecurities to bed. Finally raise their confidence enough to take control of their own life and also allow me to spend my time doing things I wanted without feeling guilty. But The gaslighting, passive aggressiveness, and guilt spreading kept getting worse. I thought I was crazy.

Rebecca spot on! 15 yrs relationship with a covert narcissist took me 3 yrs in therapy to fiqure out these patterns. She is from NZ very polite manipulator and works in films so she has outside 3rd party relationships with her vibrational flying monkeys. Always on the phone, sneaking, hiding, gaslighting behind me. She thought I was going to just accept her unconditionally. I gated her with 3 years of analysis with therapist one month ago we talked for 3 hrs she took the 5 th and I walked out. Blocked her erased all pictures etc. Not looking back done with her !!!

@quantumpotential7639

2 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry for this experience you went through. We learn alot from these people's behaviors and misdeeds it's a good thing in many respects. Life is a black board upon which our lessons are spelled out for us. Thanks.

This is so true, I wasted 26 years ignoring the red flags, these smart phone devices in people's hands have taken them away from real individuality, not until i got closure on my husband I was in the dark. We create our reality and the consciousness of the planet is accelerating. This means people have to become more aware of who they are. When one experiences abuse, you first become aware of the abuse, then realizing you are a victim, With healing and processing comes strong boundaries built by confidence in your worth. After this comes a realization that the experience made you stronger and more of who you are and that the narcissist was simply a vehicle for your growth. Ultimately you then realize we are all a creation of our energetic spiritual energy and the narcissist was and is a part of us. In the end, we become accepting of the experience and knowing we would never go back to the previous unawakened and unenlightened version of ourselves. It is not by any means an easy journey and is filled with pain especially when we incarnate into a family with a parent of such characteristics. There is a plan and it is ultimately to drive us. You would love an awakened version of you. My husband was a deceptive narcissist and sociopath, he would never apologize, I was always made to feel little on the inside, it was pure psychological warfare at its lowest, I suspected infidelity on his path, not until with the help of the developer of an app code name rat9 for accessing his device without having to physically touch it, with a functionality to view deleted chats and messages as well as call logs and in-app chats, I was completely in the dark. There was a Conversation I read on his Instagram Account where he did address me as 'beauty with no brains'. I'm finally going through a divorce with evidences too overwhelming. His device contained secrets that I could never have imagined. If in need of such help, write directly to the developer on email ' ethandavydova at gmail dot com '.

Energy vampire. I used this term long before it ever became popular. Dealing with them, on ANY level is exhausting!

I get the meaning of energy vampire but I’m thinking even that’s too noble or prestigious of a descriptor for them. I think of them rather as just lowlife parasites. Floating and aimlessly wandering thru life with no real purpose or goals in anything other than to make everyone else’s lives miserable. These people are pure toxic poison. The worst of the worst. Maybe a hair better or above serial killers and/or psychopaths. They’re actually generally within the same behavioral cluster anyways so go figure. They’re professional actors and professional victims. My sister is a covert narc and I know 2 other people as well. All identical and all share all 11 characteristics in this video. They are just pathetic people. Being around these creatures usually can or does actually make you literally nauseous and sick; psychologically, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Just stay away from these non humans if you can.

@bigsisnofilter

Жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@MS-yb3sz

Жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree.

Also they won't ever say I'm sorry and they wont have any empathy. They also use children as a weapon

My Narc bites his nails or taps the table when he talks. He always said we were ungrateful😂 He always wanted us to praise him for everything. He had to have shit to show off like he had it all. Just glad I’m out of that horrible life with him . 🙏

I'd venture to say that "Fake Empathy" is a vital strategy in the whole "Love Bombing" phase of a Narcissist's attack to hook someone --- Hook, Line & Sinker. Love you Rebecca - you truly Rock, and I'm not worried about you becoming conceited or narcissistic when I complement you --- Just Sayin' ! Truly yours Gabe C. (just an empathic girl)

Energy Vampire for sure! 30 years... and it got worse as the years went by. We are separated now, but I feel like my spirit is broken.

@monicahocking1507

2 жыл бұрын

I felt like that but it does get better. One day at a time.

Best summary I've seen, you can tell when someone has actually experienced covert narcissim!

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

Please check this out for extra support - icanslay.com/

i think there should be a rehab center for these types ah people. There are many of them, no pun intended. There is also scar tissue removal that is so needed. i am stunned at the insurmountable people who do not know or understand how to love. There should be a school for it.

Anyone notice that it’s the victim that usually gets and needs help after experiencing any sort of relationship with a covert narcissist…while the narcissist just picks up and moves on continuing to avoid accountability by doing the exact things that just destroyed their last victim? The one thing I’ve learned after dealing with a narcissist…it’s not an exact science but if you want to learn about someone in a short amount of time…watch someone’s reaction when they don’t get what they want. It could be anything from a simple mistake someone made on a food order to something more serious like not getting a job promotion…no matter the situation it really tells alot about someone’s character. The key is to not let the person know you are even paying attention when it happens…narcissists are extremely manipulative and aware that they are in public so be aware of that. One day I’m in line at a deli in the morning and the guy in front of me was waiting for the clerk to turn around before putting a dollar in the tip jar…and it hit me! I said to myself…this guy only did that to feel better about himself Instead of doing it for the genuine appreciation of the service. Things like this that totally fly under the radar to most people are the things you automatically notice after dealing with manipulative people that live a lie…hope this helps 😉

I dumped a "friend" who often told me things she was going to do but never sat down and faced me. She was always walking away or had her back to me doing something

@jenamirgholi6004

11 ай бұрын

so sorry me mum told me a long time ago, people like that are a dime a dozen.

Energy vampires! I've met a lot of covert narcs in workplace settings or friendships and I cut them off.

The thing is though if someone doesn't ask, doesn't check if something can fit in with me and it's the demanding way that they speak that they expect something done it means that someone's not giving you an option to say no that's got to be a manipulation tactic - because they're forcing your hand. Unless this person is a boss I'll have to do that but if a friend or my Mom says you'll have vacuumed your house and have finished your ironing by nine so plenty of time for me to pick you up at ten past nine - that's trying to control and monitoring my day. I'd try to be ready if I could but I don't have to. I think people are starting to realise they have choices to do something or not, more so now. So, for me, if I'm not ready directly at nine that gives them the right to kick off at me that I'm not ready? A lot of people want you to fit into their schedule - I just come from controlling parents so I know what that's like. If I told Mom I can't do something she'll try and plan my morning so it fits in with her. Plus having the mentality of I don't have to do that or be ready at this time it's like my way of saying screw you I don't have to be ready for you when I needed to do the morning yoga, or whatever it is I do - I refused to be rushed and actually Mr Lee Hemming will back me up here because I heard this come out of his mouth a Narcissists weapon is speed and get you to agree to do something on the spot by rushing you that you're not comfortable with - if you've agreed to do anything in any way and your late or whatever they will hold it against you because then they can really beat you up with this. You do have to hold your boundaries strong with a Narcissist. Both my Dad and Sister are the same I will pick you up at 4.00 or 6.00. Errr.... am I available? They don't check, they assume I'm there for them whenever they want, so when I haven't quite finished my makeup they're at the door saying are you ready? Err - no! Because they just turn up when they want so they have to wait for me to put my face on like I'd wait for them.

@mrstpot8969

2 жыл бұрын

Thx! I never knew that speed was their tool. Fits in with Rebecca's "discuss only bits & pieces" covert conversations. These are tricks I fall for often. Now to look out for those!

The problem here is that all 11 of these identifying traits require long-term observation or exposure. If you need to identify a covert narc by the end of a first or second first date, use the "smiling no" test. Answer one of your date's demands or opinions with a very polite refusal or differing opinion on a subject that usually represents a deep conviction. They will instantly reveal themselves if they are a narcissist (or borderline). This will save you a LOT of time and money.

@philipmurray9796

Жыл бұрын

Yep, they don't like to be wrong or challenged. I have also found my covert narc was overtly braggy about what they were good at and hypersensitive to weaknesses when called out or questioned.

@matilda4406

Жыл бұрын

So how would the reaction go? The covert may not get angry, they may simply not reply or walk away when you smile a "no". Or ?.

@lovelight2577

Жыл бұрын

On that same note if youre purposefully saying something just to get a rise out of them, that's also a red flag

@matilda4406

Жыл бұрын

@@lovelight2577 yeah, why would you do that? There are a lot of other nicer things to do.

I’m was married to a female narcissist that almost killed me physically & mentally. Still married but stood up for myself & she left.

Prone to Anxiety? They gave me Anxiety!

When someone gives me an icky gut feeling, then I know that I'm dealing with a narcissist or other cluster B personality disordered individual. Covert narcissists also constantly give you hidden indirect criticism and insults. Basically it's like getting slowly poisoned. 🤢

I have to really thank you I watch your videos to prepare myself so I don't ever become any of these things I thank you for all that you do to help us all

How about the person who choses to go to funerals of those people they barely knew? Two people in my life do this and treat a funeral as a social event. One even says she goes for the egg salad funeral sandwiches. Seems weird to me.

@1DISTURBEDSOUL

2 жыл бұрын

Look into communal narcissism. They do good things to show off how good they are. Look at me I care too!! Lots of them have covert traits.

@cyberfiretiger5825

Жыл бұрын

Have you ever seen the movie fight club?

@gerryhand

Жыл бұрын

@@cyberfiretiger5825 No.

"Energy vampyre"

So this video is very accurate. Each sign. Every Narcissist I have met who is more Covert in how they present, had these traits/ behaviors. Many "Signs of a Covert Narcissist" videos will be too vague or use traits that not all Vulnerable Narcissists typically show. But this video covers what I believe to be the most common traits and behaviors. The attitudes you described, so true!

She also , tries to make me look verbally abusive to her and play the victim, to anyone that will listen to her.

Oh my goodness thank you for this!! This is so helpful. I wish I'd known all this years ago.

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

You got this! 💪

This is so validating 💜

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

You got this! 💪

Yep. Been going through this for 6 months. Was shocked as didn't see it coming as known this in law for 14 years. Then when when i pointed out how i felt and that i didnt want her to always come out with friends that i intruduced to her as she had non, it was thrown back at me as i have a lovely husband, home and job that i love but its obviously not enough. I said i wanted to speak to her face to face which she didn't want to do. Instead she sent the message to family members including my husband who was furious with me even though i poured my heart ouf to him on how it made me feel and why. So i apologised to her, his mum and others sister ascthey were so upset. Yet mine where not recognised. Ugh!

Thank you so much for this Rebecca, You see it 😃👁 You have immense understanding, Exposed these 2 covert narcissists 😃✌ You're a treasure to humanity, Keep shining light and speaking truth, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the most high God ✌😃👁⚽♱👽🐎🍄😊😇🌲🦁🕊💗💜💙🌈🌌💛🕆☘

Sneaky that is coverts , secrets everywhere

Right. Its so sophisticated that you feel like in a horror film or like you were mad, insane. Mainly because no one sees what you see.

Omg I’ve been search for what was wrong with my relationship…I saw red flags from the first week but she was great as gaslighting me and I knew she did it…turns out she was playing on my people pleaser personality and my empathy which she made sure to groom. I tried to get her into relationship counseling and she wouldn’t agree, then she did agree so I set it up and she of course made up every reason why she couldn’t…looking back it makes even more sense. Then…the key turning point was watching the Johnny Depp trial and hearing the behaviors of BPD and as I listened, I got a sick feeling, like Omg that sounds just like us….little did I know the person next to me who I was telling, hey babe, you should listen to this, I think it would help explain what I keep trying to tell you…which she never did of course. But I let it go…I don’t remember why…then I stumbled on some videos the other day and i don’t know why I got back looking…well I know part of why….we live together and she just up and decided to go back to Michigan for 4 months to bartend…she’s 27…I’m 35 and was finishing law school when we met. She says she wants to be a doctor and i tried to help her and she would get mad and I’d say babe you’re going to have to deal with patients who aren’t going to be nice and you’re going to have to explain yourself…because she would literally NEVER explain her thoughts or actions. Except there were a couple occasions looking back now where one time she said after someone died “why aren’t I sad, why do I not empathize with them? I mean yeah she died but so what life goes on”….and I remember being horrified and guess what, she shut down and never revealed that type of thoughts to me again because I judged her. Another time I asked why she did something and she looked said and said “I don’t know why I do 80% of the things I do, I wish I knew”….At the time I felt it was genuine which is why I felt there was someone inside who was trying to fight back the demons to grow and emerge from her cocoon…it never happened The most mind boggling thing and upsetting thing, other that essentially criticizing me in ever sexual capacity she could in a way no woman has EVER done, even if they didn’t like me…..and on top of that, she got her whole family to BAN me from their lives. Keep in mind when they first met me, they loved me, well except for her mom which is who I think she got this from because her mom is the EXACT SAME WAY and had a bad childhood which she always talks about. Both are as negative as can be. But yeah…They tell her she needs to snatch me up, which Jesus I hope they weren’t in on it somehow…can it really be that sinister if that’s how they meant it? Because at one point my ex girlfriend of 3 hours ago would just say all these lies about me, and her mom of course at this point was having her episodes and telling my ex I’m going to be the worst thing to happen to her and she can’t see her sisters if she wants to have me in her life. Well, my ex’s sisters were her life…but she always told me she loved her mom but she never wanted to bring anyone around her family as she was embarrassed. I was confused about BPD because she manipulated me, but she never took responsibility. Always shifted blame. From week one she always seemed to have one foot out the door…even when she said she loved me…I always told her I felt like roommates. I think she targeted me because I was going to be a lawyer and she knew my salary, my giving heart and nature, and my insecurities…wow it’s hard to believe someone would do that. I would always tell her this isn’t love…this is NOT love. She never considered my feelings…no empathy…:and about as many guy friends as you could never want…like any given time she’s having 10-15 guys and of course if i say something I’m insecure…and sure if I was just saying you can’t have guy friends…but she lied about most, she had been intimate with most come to find out and she was always talking to them and they were sending photos but she would never cross the line. She would let them, and she would walk right up to the line. The only way I started to figure this stuff out was to go through her phone. I was a big advocate of privacy and having trust so that’s not an issue…and she always said the same…she was VERY protective of her phone. Like red flag protective. What upsets me is I saw the red flags from month #1 and I let them slide because of her gaslighting me and using insecurities against me. Anyways, thank you for the video. That was a long way to say, I have no watched probably 20+ hours of BPD videos the last 2-3 days, but then realized the lack of empathy meant something else and she was a vulnerable narcissist or I guess a covert narcissist, I’m not sure if they are the same. But she was always so insecure…very quiet…would never speak much but always texting. She would say how ugly she is and how fat, which she was like 100 pounds…she’d always tell me she wanted a nose job and how pretty her cousins were and it wasn’t fair. I realized she had NPD and it changed my life. I felt the moment I realized she had BPD traits that she had died because she cannot take any criticism and I knew I just fell in love with a stranger for 2 years. But YOUR video…when you mentioned the monkey army..:that was what just sealed her fate because I keep having thoughts like “what if I’m wrong” and I keep second guessing all her intentions…but your identifying of that is the first mention of that in all of the NPD videos and so I thank you from the bottom of my heart! You just saved me from potentially losing everything. More people need to be aware of BPD and NPD because I’m confident my film fiance of 6 years was one also..:meaning I attract them and I need to work on myself!

@clairejohnson6522

Жыл бұрын

Hello again,I've spent 30 mins writing a VERY long detailed reply to you and it has just vanished after a few seconds in sending .Please look at as many Narc KZread videos as possible and don't take her back.She will take everything from you money/health/time.Don't doubt yourself, you are correct.Run.Good luck in your job and finding a nice,empathetic,kind young woman. So cross my first reply to you vanished as i went into great detail to try and help you.I'm in the UK.Don't know if that's the reason.Hope you get this.

The sob story will be the firsr thing they tell you, your famiky and anyone they want to manipulate.

Amazing videos. Thanks so very much for your efforts and help. Much love from the UK ❤️

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad to be helping! What is one point that you start using today?

I supervise one at work. Volunteers to help others, but complains about it later, gossips about everyone, plays victim, always some drama in their life that they have to tell everyone about. The list goes on. Gave this person a good performance evaluation but wanted a stellar one is complaining. Okay, well you asked for it and now we are addressing all the ways that you need to improve. Now is going to be written up and fired if doesn’t improve….

Energy vampire 🧛‍♀️!!

Run 🏃‍♀️for your life! They psychopath

My neck is starting to hurt from nodding ..... ALL these points describe him to a 'T'

Online, regarding gaslighting, you might get the line they pop up with if they don’t like what you’re saying “you make no sense” when you’re making too much sense.

Withholding information about benefitting economically to themselves and sitting there in silence Looking at me suffering and paying and paying without any regret or Without any feelings make me crazy. Gro Vera Neste Christiansen from Norway

Energy vampire to the 10th degree!

My Ex used to do gas light, but she also did the opposite, I'd say when something was said between us a a week or 2 ago and she would completely deny it, really twisted and accused me of being a liar and making it up.. it makes you doubt yourself eventually she was crazy.

@iys6890

Жыл бұрын

Yes...they are scary and sick!

Just a warning. You may be pointing arrows towards people who are neurodivergent and have been in the grips of a narcissist. I can attest to this. I have ADHD and ASD. Through things that went on with regards work and dealing with her very toxic family, I was just slowly broken. She then saw me as imperfect and useless and got a kick out of putting the boot in over a 9 year period. She then did the smear campaign thing and discarded me. I am still recovering from C-PTSD 2 years later! Of course, my ASD allows me to see the patterns now and I also see overlaps in symptoms with personality disorders and neuro-difference. I am a kind, heavily empathetic and compassionate person and have little control of it due to my neurodivergence. Would you mind doing some research and maybe doing a few videos on the differences between personality disorders and neurodivergence/trauma?

THIS REALLY HITS HOME!!!!

@RebeccaZungEsq

3 ай бұрын

Check this out - www.rebeccazung.com/cert-workshop Keep slaying!

You just described the behaviors of the relationship I just exited!!! 💯🏆🥂

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

Stay strong over there! 💪

Thank you for this, When I try to explain to people how my mother is, I feel like I get no where. This helps me so much.

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

Glad I could help. You got this Nicholle! ❤

I have watch literally hundreds of videos educating myself about narcs, between Rebecca and others…this ONE particular video resonated so much with me because the woman I was involved with recently literally hit ALL 11of these to the MAX, and it’s kinda creepy because I’m wondering if you actually know her 🙀but I guess they are pretty much all the same…thank you so much Rebecca for explaining this 🙏

Look at Amber! Spotted the perfect one

Absolute energy vampires!

Energy Vampire!!! Omg I have just realised that my ex partner is a covert narcissist!!

Never let them know any trauma vulnerability you have. They will hit the button every time

Im having so much trouble with a co- worker who ticks every box. Problem is she is under me but thinks she should be over me. She hasn’t even got the same qualifications! It’s becoming so exhausting dealing with her. I’m close to leaving my job.

Can’t victims of a covert also suffer depression and anxiety?

Energy vampire 🧛‍♀️

WOW, this one is so true 👍

@RebeccaZungEsq

3 ай бұрын

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I am gonna save this to my phone!

Thank you.

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

You got this! 💪

He buy things for the monkeys. Thank you Becky!

10:10-10-40 - plus you feel like its forbidden even to suspect the covert narcissist.which makes you doubting yourself and like you were alone in a madhouse.

Oh don’t they hate you doing well lol yes yes yes Rebecca you’re spot on

Energie vampire!!

Energy vampire with out doubt IDK y ppl like making others feel like shit

The worst is being married to a malignant narcissist.

Energy vampires. I like that terminology 👍

Energy Vampire!

Oh the fake kindness. Telling me everyone thinks x about me. Then telling me they never said that and they have been nothing but kind to me. No, triangulation and gaslighting are not acts of kindness. Just because you have been kind to someone in the past doesn’t preclude you from being responsible for shitty things you have done to them. Holding grudges when you trigger their ugliness becomes your responsibility.

Absolutely!

@RebeccaZungEsq

Жыл бұрын

You got this! 💪

Top attorney great

Energy vampires, they live You without wanting to live!! That was the saensation I felt each time I met mother!!

@RebeccaZungEsq

3 ай бұрын

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"So insidious and vile their behaviour is Rebecca".

My ex is just like this and unfortunately I came back! I didn’t even see it coming! That was 12 years ago 😢

Energy vampires 😱

@RebeccaZungEsq

3 ай бұрын

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I often fear that I am or will become a narc because of my exposure to them. One stabbed in the back so bad I want to tell other people about who he really is but I resist because I feel like that's a smear campaign. I also try to be nice to people because I have Asperger's so I wonder if sometimes I come across as phony.

@farciao

2 жыл бұрын

@littlesongbird1 I recently heard of a term “narcissistic fleas”. It describes how a person can mimic some of the traits of their narc just by being around them so much. You really are a wonderful person, but need to recognize when you did something that is usually not like you. You are not the narc, they are. They just “rubbed off” on you, hopefully temporarily.

@littlesongbird1

2 жыл бұрын

@@farciao Thanks. I had someone who knows both me and this friend tell me something similar. She also told me that if I was in fact a narc, I would do it without caring or thinking about it. I have to remind myself that the mask will slip and it already has started to.

@maggiechampion4250

2 жыл бұрын

I too have Aspergers and am married to a covert narcissist. I have the same fears you expressed. I have to keep the boundaries so tight because if I don’t he will try to totally take over. Just remember, we aren’t crazy, they are just so defective!

Energy vampire

@RebeccaZungEsq

3 ай бұрын

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Energy vampire!

yes, energy vampire. yes! grudges!

@RebeccaZungEsq

3 ай бұрын

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It is so horrible you are right.

@RebeccaZungEsq

3 ай бұрын

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Energy vampires

@RebeccaZungEsq

3 ай бұрын

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ENERGY VAMPIRES

Yep👍🏽

WOW!!!!!

@RebeccaZungEsq

3 ай бұрын

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Covert narcissists at a party will sit in the corner by themselves, sulking, and then complain and gossip about everyone during the car ride home

I had one of these people as my bestie. We are no longer friends. I’m going to this event and she is gonna be there. She is friends with almost all of my friends and it’s very awkward because my friends don’t know this about her and I don’t wanna gossip about her. She might wanna be friends with me and she is probably gonna be in my friend group. I need some advice to deal with her.

@nicolamills8003

2 жыл бұрын

Just smile and say hello. Don't sit by her, stand by her, be near her. If she hoovers you, tell her that you have moved on and you don't see her in your life anymore (they hate that) It'll get easier, as time goes on. But u need to stand strong.

@luvlyxcupcake5988

2 жыл бұрын

@@nicolamills8003 thank you 😊

@kelliluallen4081

2 жыл бұрын

I’m just leaving a relationship with one of these type of energy vampires/narcissist covert borderline. It’s been a journey for two years that I have not liked. This person is 15 years younger than me and believes that they have control over me. But they are wrong. I know exactly who they are now and I have nothing to do with them.

@luvlyxcupcake5988

2 жыл бұрын

@@kelliluallen4081 I’m glad your not friends with this person anymore! People like this are exhausting!