When he’s serious about you and wants a healthy relationship, he’ll be more open to conversations about making things right and moving past the misunderstanding.

@CrazyCormac

2 жыл бұрын

I have been trying to talk to my gf since last 9 days about fixing the relationship and miscommunication we had.. she dumped me after 8 years just bec of some miscommunication.. she just keep saying i dont love you anymore and i dont have feelings for you.. and just like that.. she broke up with me via msg.. have been crying ever since.. its really heartbreaking bec i put all my heart into it.. I can definitely fix the relation if she would give then... its scary.. and exhausting..

@Key_1111

2 жыл бұрын

So true!

@aali1134

2 жыл бұрын

@@CrazyCormac i'm in a 4 year relationship and sometimes I just feel like I want to give up because he doesn't communicate well with me. I've told him exactly what he needs to do to communicate better but its like he doesnt try. Maybe one day this will be the reason i leave him. Maybe she tried with you for years and couldn't do it anymore. As a woman you want your partner to be your best friend but how can he be your best friend if he can't even talk to you properly.

@CrazyCormac

2 жыл бұрын

@@aali1134 i did talk with her properly.. we were the besttt friends everrr.. like literally everrrrr... I loveddd here unconditionally... Its just that m going through depression and m struggling with my career a lit.. and since she just started intership.. she gets tired a lot.. only in the noon 1:30 PM she has lunch break.. and whatever m doing.. i m 99% of the time, be free at that time so i can talk with her for half an hour.. and at night when shes at home shes soooo tired that she cant even open her eyes.. so i dont bring up heavy conversation.. i believe thst at night you should just talk abt soft stuff..and just be there for herr.. so she can have a good sleep.. tell me is it really that bad to think abt your GFs mental health and physical health??😭😭

@itz_vee-ho5ug

2 жыл бұрын

@@CrazyCormac how are you now? Did things mended with her?

Nothing makes me happier than seeing a man in love and knowing a woman being loved. I've been single for 7 years now and I hope the same bliss and love will find me too.

@cabincrewunuseditems7147

2 жыл бұрын

6 years over here. May God bless us with one that do love us in return.

@lolitazavala1879

2 жыл бұрын

Amen to the three of us 🙏🏻

@TubeManagement

2 жыл бұрын

@@cabincrewunuseditems7147 if you two are over 35 with kids …. May as well call it a day

@suzyclear7668

2 жыл бұрын

I pray you find the right person soon and it’s easy and long and happy ❤️

@cabincrewunuseditems7147

2 жыл бұрын

@@TubeManagement lemme correct that. Im 33 never been married,no kids instead I own two houses, 2 cars, not just some cars ya.. career driven of course and im still smokin hawts af. what about you tho? 🍺

1. He brags about you infront of other people 1:12 2. He's willing to mix your lives in a way that might be inconvenient to him 1:36 3. Your happiness becomes more important to him than his tastes 2:08 4. He's willing to adjust the temperature of his house 2:36 5. He plans a trip with you months in advance 3:06 6. He respects the things that are important to you 3:30 7. The fights have less ultimatums 4:21 8. He's less affected by his friends' teasing 5:15 9. He stops worrying so much about "Fear of Missing Out" 6:36 10. He starts collecting momentos that tell your story 7:59 11. His associations with commitment itself change 8:47

@han-oc8vl

2 жыл бұрын

Good work

@anna-mariavesey6137

2 жыл бұрын

🤔 Hmm I get 6 out 11 😂

@thaobenn6339

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this good job. 👏👏👏👏👏👍👍👍👍👍

@PtolemyXVII

2 жыл бұрын

The irony if I’ll only date a guy who has these 11 qualities already 😂

@shannond.5916

2 жыл бұрын

@@anna-mariavesey6137 Better than 1 out of 11 😥

Number 1. When he starts pumping gas and making sure you always have fuel in your vehicle. And cleaning your windshield and checking the air pressure in your tires, you know you have a winner! 33 years married. 🥰

@pickmeupstix

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh.... he literally topped my car off with gas and then treated me to lunch a few days ago 😹 First time hanging out one on one lolz

@josephang9927

2 жыл бұрын

Lol i don't even do that for my car.

@-.a9942

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t know but my brother does that for me 😂😂I wouldn’t consider that important for a future husband to do thought

@mrslinajackson7775

2 жыл бұрын

You have a wonderful brother, he is or will make a wonderful husband, an act of serving that should be greatly not over looked but appreciated. Blessings 🙂

@beecat9951

2 жыл бұрын

That's sweet 😊 I don't have a car but I have a guy who goes out of his way to drive me to places, which is something I also appreciate.

I am 60 and started dating again. The guy I am dating put in a ceiling fan in his room because I sleep hot. He also does adjust the temperature when I am at his place! He also replaced his mattress because his was over 10 years old and hurting my back. He actually bought the mattress I suggested! I was shocked and pleasantly surprised when he did that!

@simini1837

2 жыл бұрын

Such a cool comment! Enjoy Miss Bee!

@gigi9301

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!! Sounds like a Keeper for Sure!! I'm 54 and feel jaded and lost after online dating for quite a while....I seem to pick all the "unavailable" guys and I have that Horrible Anxious attachment style.

@MsBee-oz7vd

2 жыл бұрын

Gigi,I am in Florida, where are you at? If you want to chat, Let me know dear!

@gigi9301

2 жыл бұрын

@@MsBee-oz7vd I'm in Colorado; how do we chat? Yes, I would like that!!

@AstarionWifey

Жыл бұрын

@@gigi9301 dang men don’t change even throughout the ages huh

Few things harder than cultivating a meaningful relationship. Think the best sign is when it feels natural and organic from the start. If you have to work too hard, sacrifice too much, find yourself ignoring obvious red flags, and sometimes contorting yourself in the hope the other person will change, then there’s a good chance you’re not with the right person. I think we all know the ecstasy of that first flirtatious glance and the feeling of closeness, safety and pure joy when you’re with someone you trust and love. Those feelings need to be there fairly early on in a relationship. Shouldn’t require that much chasing. When it’s right you just know it. I wish us all boundless love.

@danielavallejo7306

2 жыл бұрын

totally agree with you, great comment

@icequeen491

2 жыл бұрын

Not in all cases dear. Sometimes you have no clue and sometimes it takes a bit of time to realise

@patiencemtetwa

2 жыл бұрын

Well said, I always thought I have to work hard at it and I found myself miserable I'm just glad I decided to say enough is enough. I'm more happy just by myself

I believe in letting love lead. Love will make two people drop the silly act and just wanna make it work for the sake of being together.

in my experience the only sure shot way to know if a guy is serious about u is if he proposes to u for marriage. Some guys will do all these relationship stuff and yet be detached from u emotionally. Ladies please dont b fooled. Taking you to his mom has nothing to do with him popping the diamond ring at u.

First, congrats! Second, if someone wants you in their life, as I recently learned, they will clear the air with you and want to move past a big argument that happened even if it was 2 years ago. People who genuinely want you in their lives will show you and be gentle with you instead of wanting to control you and rip you around. (This was just a friendship situation, but still. It says a lot that I mean something to that person, too.)

My boyfriend also proposed to me 2 weeks ago. Congratulations Matthew on your engagement 💍. Your advice has really helped me with my relationship.

@ErikaGB33

9 ай бұрын

Congrats!

Funnily enough, I watch this because I want to see if I do a good job for my girlfriend, and it has been all true of what he stated. Makes me so happy, even when she is angry at me right now.

@abby7070

2 жыл бұрын

What was she upset about? Did you work it out?

The temperature of the house thing had me rolling! True! I would add that he knows what kind of bed pillows you like best and always makes sure you are comfortable and content to your list. Best lines in the whole video: commitment isn’t him giving something up, but that which he wants to go to because it brings him peace and contentment. That is the true game changer for any relationship! Congrats on your engagement Matthew!

I have a lot of sympathy for people who are not sure whether they're ready for a relationship--I myself was quite hesitant at the beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend. That being said, if you're looking for 'signs' someone is definitely ready, they should be pretty obvious. My boyfriend told me on the second date that he really liked me, he made a mid-week date happen after our first because he was going to be out of town the next weekend, we met each other's friends early on, like a month in he told me he saw a future with us, and then two months in he asked me to be his girlfriend (as opposed to leaving the status unclear). I met his family three months in and he was excited when the opportunity came to meet mine.

@Meg.1122

Жыл бұрын

Are you still together? I had a guy that told me he saw a future with me, which freaked me out, and not because I didn't want to -actually that was sweet and undexpected-, but it was because of my anxiety and fear of abandoment that I reacted that way. I right now thinking if it was really my anxiety/abandoment fear that hold me back to be with him or maybe I was just not ready. Anyway, hope you're still together, he sounds like he's a keeper.

@JM-yh9pd

Жыл бұрын

@@Meg.1122 Yes we are! We’ve been together about a year and a half. I have some extreme abandonment trauma, like truly, so I get where you’re coming from. Honestly, it was very uncomfortable emotional work at first to learn to trust him, and sometimes it still comes up, but now we’re built so much trust that I know I can tell him when I need some reassurance, and he’ll give it to me. I don’t have to pull away. It only hurts both of us when I do that instead of communicating.

Had a guy do most of these. Even after telling me on the first date that he wanted somthing serious. After every weekend and a few complete weeks spent together for 5.5 months, he told me that he was just seeing what kind of relationship he could have and that he had no feelings for me. Essentially, I was his lab rat. But our friends met each other, we did lots of social events together, we hosted parties together, etc. Like I said most of what is mentioned in this video, including changing the temperature of his house for me. When I asked why he would do all that for someone he had no feelings for, he said he was trying to be a good partner. You better believe I walked. Got right back out there too. After previously being in a narcissistic relationship for almost 15 years, I've made a promise to myself to never stay if it's not healthy. And being with someone who has no feelings for you is not healthy. BTW, as I walked out the door, he voluntarily admitted that he had married a previous wife just to see if he could get her. 🙃🙄🥴🤯

@domtekos7761

2 жыл бұрын

Another narcissistic sociopath for you there then... seeing people as experiments and it all being about themselves and using people like it's all a game. Sorry you went through all that.

@Grace-qb2vb

2 жыл бұрын

proud of you girl!

@amorx36

2 жыл бұрын

Wow! Thats crazyy how did you found out he has no feelings for you?

@lc4972

2 жыл бұрын

@@amorx36 dating that long and not wanting to be wasting my time, I forced the conversation. Letting him know that I had feelings for him. After he told me he had no feelings for me, I asked him why would he do all the things he had done with me and for me. He said he was just trying to be a good partner. 🤷‍♀️. Asked him why he would tell me he wanted a serious relationship in the beginning. He said being with me helped him realize that he was mistaken and only wanted a casual relationship. He did say it wasn't intentional, but I think it was. If I had never brought it up, he would've let me continue until who knows when, knowing he had no feelings for me. On the way out the door, I let him know that he can't call me his girlfriend. That the term "girlfriend" was reserved for the guy who had feelings for me.

@kassandramorris9741

2 жыл бұрын

@@lc4972 he obviously has some kind of personality disorder or SOMETHING. That’s sooooo wrong and I hate that you went through that.

Lmao love it. I was married for 8 years. We were younger and he was immature. 11 years divorced and got back together on our daughters 18th birthday in Bali. Been 7 years now. I can tick all of these now. We’ve both grown up and now learnt by mistakes and now companionship. 🙏❤️

I was chasing guys to escape my own issues. I need to stop giving them my time because toxic attracts toxic. Time to really get my life together building my self-confidence. Gotta stay busy!

i literally had this happen to me this week after a first date with a girl i met in a ballroom dance class at penn state. it was intense. totally changed me. perfectly described. i’ve always been single but i think that is about to change

I’m so happy for you , you have been helping others to find the right one , now you get what you deserve !!!💗

You can tell you speak from the heart and the feelings you experience yourself, thankyou for making videos so timely to your own life, it adds a layer of deep honesty to your content, much appreciated

I really, really feel it’s the energy you put out and how open you are to them. You can tell within 3 to 4 dates if they like you and want something more.

One of the best videos you’ve ever made! Straightforward, transparent, and pure honesty. Thank you 😊

*It's all about the little things he does that show his genuine commitment and love. Excited for what the future holds!*

Your vulnerabilty is strengthening to all men. Especially on this International Women's Day! Thank you Matthew....

I wish you a wonderful life!! You give so much! I am 77yrs and still love to hear how you are advising the younger! Advice i know i could have used in a fun, busy life!

Congratulations on your engagement. I’m truly happy for you and your fiancé

Hi there! I follow your videos for a month now....and it's very useful. Thx 😊 I actually learn how to look at my relationship objective and come and not get excited and frustrated about everything. This is a chapter of my life where I learn how to grow, how to respect myself more and pick a right guy . I don't get angry if something doesn't work,I just realized "ok this is not what I want and it's not good for me" . Thank you for that 😊

Many congratulations Matthew in your engagement ! Very thrilled for you both. Your advice has been instrumental in me finding my partner four months this ago after being single for 6 years prior to a failed 20 year marriage. Absolutely love all of your content. Interestingly, my partner meets all 11 points!! Gives me more confidence in my new relationship. Look forward to more Gr8 content 🙏🙏🙏

This is one of the most wonderful news I've heard this week (and oh boy, don't we need more wonderful news!). It made me smile with happiness. Congratulations to the both of you. 🧡🧡

Dang it! I’m 7 months out of a 12 year relationship with no proposal and too jaded to finish this video.

@lanalane5856

2 жыл бұрын

Because you didn’t make marriage a requirement.

I'm seriously so happy for you, I remember in the 2020 retreat you were crying during meditation, now so happy to see you smiling and involve, you deserve the best Matt xo

@cosodesign8953

2 жыл бұрын

This feels more like “hey look at me I’ve been in the same room as this guy” and less how you think it comes off. It’s inappropriate to tell us about a vulnerable moment he had. Yikes.

@57andstillkicking

2 жыл бұрын

@@cosodesign8953 Judging someone’s heart motives is way above your pay grade!!

@MzRiley1272

2 жыл бұрын

@@cosodesign8953 Exactly! We didn't need to know that.

@cosodesign8953

2 жыл бұрын

@@57andstillkicking it definitely is, but I stand by what I said 🤷🏻‍♀️ the comment was unnecessary.

@Music4EverKanekavi

2 жыл бұрын

This was almost the coolest comment ever,

Happy for you Matthew! Hope to see many more videos from you! ❤

Love #11! Just by listening to you talking about it I can feel how much you love your fiancé.

I really needed this video! I was losing hope in mankind and hearing a wonderful man actually ready to get serious into building a long-lasting relationship with the woman he loves, just warms my heart! Thank you for sharing these incredible insights of what true love from a man looks like! Thank you & God bless !

Congratulations Matthew and prayers for abundant joy, peace & love for you both💗 Thank you for sharing all of your brilliant insights & wisdom😘

Beautiful and heartfelt message… thank you so much 💙

Congratulations on your engagement 💍 👏 It is absolutely beautiful, to hear about love and commitment ❤️ I appreciate your work 😊

Awww congrats Mat. Such a nice guy helping woman all over the world. That's such lovely news.

It’s so sweet you seem so much more calm and loving. The love shows. Lucky her and lucky you. I wish you all the happiness in the world…

Congratulations Matthew, what a fortunate woman! And fortunate you to have found her. If there is just one good thing that has come out of our broken society with its broken relationships and relationship expectations, it's that men like you shine out with empathy, integrity and all the best qualities of masculinity in action. It's become so rare, and is one of the things about your videos that makes them stand far above the rest. They have helped me many times in navigating difficult, painful courses while trying to both give and receive something genuine and real. Warmest regards to you and your fiancee, with many thanks that I may through your work one day have and give something as high quality as every human heart needs.

This is the best talk I've ever seen you give in years, thank you for your honesty.

I like how #3 was so personal looool. Congratulations, Matthew!

Can confirm!! As a man, i do this all the time

that suits me 1000% now !! thx for this content these days . your channel has always been life changing as well as my best friend i met in kindergarten. she has teached me a lot and also she recommended me and my man using herbal drops spanish fly which are for both genders

Congratulations!!! 9 out 11 you mentioned his doing! Thank you for this video, I knew he really cared and this Video have me clarity. Finally someone who takes responsibility on their action vs words.

I'm so happy for you! It's really inspiring! 🙂

you're wonderful with all your videos and advice - I'm a big fan - well done!

Congratulations on your engagement. Wishing you infinite happiness & success in your relationship

Congratulations Matthew I wish you much happiness in your marriage, I'm very happy you and your partner found each, love for a lifetime ❤

0:19 that's my life. Family always says /thinks there's something wrong with me because no guy has ever took initiative to ask me out.

I’m 6 months into a new r’ship and he loves, respects me and he is very committed. Looking forward to seeing how many of the 11 things he does

@SKohli-js9lu

3 ай бұрын

Hi, I hope you had a success in your relationship. Please share the update, if it’s alright for you.

The Encanto soundtrack is amazing!! Sounds like she is doing you a favor exposing you to great things! Haha. Congratulations to you both!!

So happy for you! Your advice has really helped me. Happiness to you both x

Congratulations Matthew. Best wishes for a wonderful journey with you love❤

I'm so happy for you and your lovely partner. Best wishes on a beautiful future together.

Congratulations on your engagement. Lots of blessings

Oohhhh.... Someone's met the one... Congratulations Matthew and your beautiful finance ❤️

Congratulations, I wish the two of you all the best 🎉

Congratulations 🥳🥳🥳. This was so helpful. Thank you so much.

Congrats to your engagement so excited for u both , from a fan god bless

This is a wonderful, positive video! It is good to highlight positive relationship behaviours!

You nailed it Matthew! ☺️❤️ Thank you! Congratulations on your engagement! Blessings 🙌

Met a girl online, we clicked almost immediately, I tried my best to do all of these as it felt right, there was a miscommunication on one aspect - talking about exes/previous experiences - but I got carried away with my stories due to insecurity about my lack of experience, so this ruined the great connection we had online for a month. I tried fixing it and she said she liked me but she could no longer see me as a potential partner after what I shared. We were talking day and night and were about to meet up next month and then it all went downhill from there just because of that. I'm still not over it as I thought she might turn out to be the one for me, while she already posted a story with another guy a few days after it all ended. This just goes to show how expendable I am and that she doesn't deserve my energy anymore. I'm tired of trying to find someone, I think I might be better off alone as I've always been. It's a sad state to be in, but once I come to terms with it, it's one of peace.

@sayonosato702

Жыл бұрын

This is sad

@dion5804

Жыл бұрын

Be open to new opportunities for love always. Don't close yourself like this.

So happy for you congratulations to your engagement 🎊🎊🎊🎉🎉🎉🍾🍾🍾🍾

Hi Matthew 😎. I guess that I’m the odd duck within your fandom. I wasn’t really curious about why you weren’t in a committed relationship. From my perspective, we as souls, have experiences that lead us to where we are meant to be and there is a perfect timing for everything. It brings a sense of peace when we allow life to unfold before us and trusting in the process. I am so happy that life has led you to your person! You deserve it! You have so much wisdom and helpful insights to bringing love and connection into people’s lives! I am grateful for the contribution that you’ve made to my journey of personal development and the tools that you have given me to love on myself, as well as confirming that I’m headed in the right direction to a romantic partnership. I’m in no hurry to attain the outcome, but enjoying the process as it unfolds for me. For the first time in my life, I am in complete awe of my person treating me the way that I deserve to be treated. His patience, effort, devotion, and respect for my standards and boundaries, makes me feel safe and cherished. It is incredibly magnetic and healing! I want to spoil him in a similar way, inspired by my own creativity. He is my muse. It makes my relationships of the past worthwhile, because they are like the milestones on a map, leading me to treasure.

Matthew Hussey. Thank you for sharing this video. I real enjoyed listening to you talking about these issues. An have a great day today. 👌🎶🍀🎶👌

11 out of 11… I honestly feel like the luckiest woman alive. 💗💗

Congratulations 🎉❤️. Lots of love. Good luck.

I need these to remind myself that I deserve a lot better. Never be treated in any of these ways, a little sad, tbh.

@CRFSUIGENERIS

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. Says more about the man’s character than ourselves. ;)

The color cordination on this video is phenomenal😄😍💛💚👌

I really like how you describe the commitment bit

Wow brother Matthew is getting so happy on the charm of beautiful family. We want grand invitation.

Congratulations on your engagement!! You have been absolutely wonderful and helping me open my eyes to so many things as well as learning things about The opposite sex. I can't thank you enough and I am again so happy for you and your engagement!

Congratulations so happy for you Matthew 🙏🏼🥰

I loved the banter between Matt and Jamason. Thanks for not editing that out. Couldn't hear what Jamason said though.

This one Matthew has been the most funny and amusing vid I've watched of you. Thanks for all the thoughts. You have been enlightening to me.

Congratulations for living this wonderful experience! May it last a life (and others, why not?)!!! ❤️🌺✨🍀🥂🤲🏼🙏😊💯

Thank you very much. Your video just confirmed my break up with my ex was just, and I was not acting crazy or needy. I am always his backup plan. I come after his friends and after his ME time. And when we are together he would appear bored. I would be carrying most of the conversation. But he would always tell me he likes me and he’s just weird like that. But he would never change his schedule for me or make any inconvenience on his part for me. After 4 months I finally was fed up and broke it off. I was doubting this decision, but your video helped me to see it clearly that I did the right thing. Thank you!

@973shero9

Жыл бұрын

You made the right situation. I had almost the same experience during 1 year

I love your videos. They are enlightning for me. This talks are aligned and true for myself and my values and beliefs.❤

Funny your video popped up :D I haven't watched any for years... it reminded me of a time when I was sort of starting to date a guy. We texted at the beginning of the week and the topic came to Friday evening. He was all vague and "yeah let's see closer to Friday if there is something fun to be done" instant turn off for me. I literally wrote back "do you really think I'm going to be waiting around all week, just to see if you have no better plans than to hang out with me?" I never saw him again. I like thinking back to that moment, because when I met my now husband, none of these games were even an issue. It was easy from the start and almost 9 years in it's still easy.

Congratulations on being engaged 😍😍😍😍 I am really so happy for you 🥰🤩🤩

I love your #1. I love when a guy doesn't this, but I didn't realize how important it was to me or how secure it made me feel until someone actually did it for me. This might just be included in my standards now 😎.

Congratulations !!🥂 Beautiful news. 🌹

Congratulations! 🎉🍾🎊🎈

When the right guy or a serious guy at least, comes your way, you don’t even wonder.

Hey Matt, I love seeing you so happy. I believe the way this video was presented opens up a book topic I'd read, I would just also like to understand other people's thoughts. Your friends and cultural differences. I will someday go to the live retreat. was already buying prior to pandemic. 🌹Cheers xoxo

Congratulations, Matthew!❤️

Wow Matt congratulations ! Happy for you

Congratulations!! It’s your turn ❤️

Congratulations on your engagement ‼️…greetings from Maui,Hawaii 🌈🏝🤙🏾

I'm crying I can't wait to find my person, all these things are my new standard. My ex and I recently broke up and he did the exact opposite of ALL the things listed instead.

Congrats, dear counselor 🎊🥳

1. He brags about you in front of other people. 2. He’s willing to mix your lives in a way that might be inconvenient for him. 3. Your happiness becomes more important to him than his tastes. 4. He’s willing to adjust the temperature of his house. 5. He plans a trip with you months in advance. 6. He respects the things that are important to you. 7. The fights have less ultimatums. 8. He’s less affected by his friends’ teasing. 9. He stops worrying so much about “fear of missing out”. 10. He starts collecting momentos that tell your story. 11. His associations with commitment itself change.

CONGRATULATIONS MATTHEW!♥️♥️♥️

he did all these things and then left me for someone younger. this makes me feel more hopeless than ever. thanks for the reminder how unlovable i am.

Congratulations!! So happy for you!

You got engaged!! That's so awesome. You need to bring her on and introduce her. She must be amazing 😁🥰

Congratulation! I am glad that you have fiund your Love. I am wishing you good Lück from the bottom of my Heart. Thanks you for all your teaching. IT IS very helpful!!💞

I love this. Ive watched it a few times. Thank you

Mathew the look on your face a while back and now Ma Shaa Allah the spark is back👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻❣❣❣

Congratulations on your engagement!