Man or woman, not respecting a person's goals just because it doesn't match with yours is a problem.

@A.Nel2684

2 жыл бұрын

That affected my last relationship my ex did this and I can never forgive her for it...

I’ve been guilty of some of these especially the habit of talking over. But owning up and changing my ways has bettered my relationship and matured me as a woman. Very wise advice you’re sharing ❤️

@DR---

Жыл бұрын

It's been two years. Is it still working? Because as a man I don't see how this change could benefit your relationship. If it was me I would have dumped you for making such changes.

How about No. 11.....when a man opens a door for you and you just walk right through without even a cursory word of gratitude for the gesture.........(this is a pet peeve of mine)

@cold_as_ice999

4 жыл бұрын

I'm a woman and I ALWAYS get on my friends for this shit. I taught my sons at a young age to open doors and pull out chairs for LADIES.

"Check a brother when he calls you sexy, that's reserved for my king"love that.

The number one problem between men and women, Men NEED TO BE RESPECTED, WOMEN MEED TO FEEL LOVED ! Full stop end of story!!! Men kill each other over lack of respect! You Can’t LOVE SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT RESPECT YOU! Thank you sister for using your powers for good and the uplifting of HUMAN SPIRITUALITY!

@ahtauwylye1340

2 жыл бұрын

You can love someone who doesn’t respect you. Not romantically tho

@DR---

Жыл бұрын

The problem is women think they are being respectful when they are being disrespectful. What women call compassion men call abuse. You should look up toxic positivity and emotional neglect.

@XenoRaptor-98765

Жыл бұрын

In other words if a man don’t feels respected he doesn’t feel love.

#7 is one of my pet peeves. And you are right, if you ignore my advice or when I try to motivate you I will probably stop doing it.

“Do not let the memories of your past limit the potential of your future.

Number 11, gossiping about your man to other people. Putting his personal business out there and speaking down on him in your circle or otherwise.

@letssee9

4 жыл бұрын

Especially when she is one that doesn't take accountability for her part and does some of the other examples. The story she tells is incorrect, the friends want to help her find a new man and it amounts to bullshit and actually are abusive. Be aware!

@The_Equalizer23

4 жыл бұрын

Albert I’ve never heard an Asian, Hispanic, or white woman downplay their husbands or boyfriends while at work.

@ArturoIAlvarez

3 жыл бұрын

@@The_Equalizer23 ALL races of women do that bs. Don’t get it twisted. They all need to stop that bs

@sid2daknee

3 жыл бұрын

I have my brotha. I work in a department that's predominantly Latinas, and let me tell you they have the same combativeness that you see with some sistas. I've had to check a few in the HR department.

@brumhelldah917

Жыл бұрын

@@The_Equalizer23 That’s bull

This woman literally dropping keys for yall

@justiceforjuicy9795

4 жыл бұрын

Jamill Collins figuratively-just saying

@jamillcollins4597

4 жыл бұрын

@@justiceforjuicy9795 some times it's best to just stfu and say nothing 💡

@quelquun2018

9 ай бұрын

@@justiceforjuicy9795😂😂😂

Does not matter if ur man is 5 ft and 98lbs, NEVER make him feel like he's weak

@mstwelvedeadlycyns

4 жыл бұрын

Only if he is not your man and is acting like Ike Turner

I’m in tears….😢 Because I’ve done some of these things to my brother. Growing up was challenging to imitate my mom towards my brother when we got older. I didn’t mean to, but I’m learning and I will be putting in changes asap & rewatching this. Thank you so much. This really opened my eyes.

Such a critical thinking black woman. With no intention of disrespecting your partner...he’s a lucky sob. You should teach a relationship course. I’d buy

@WdnUlik2no

4 жыл бұрын

She is a gem. The question is how many women would take her advice instead of thinking they are perfect and don't need change within themselves.

@brumhelldah917

Жыл бұрын

This is a surprise .

First of all I saw myself and second of all I need to check myself! Thank you babe❤️❤️❤️👏🏽👏🏽

@letssee9

4 жыл бұрын

You just put yourself in the top percentages of a mate and as a person overall. These examples are not limited to romantic relationships but also to life overall. Good luck to you!

Thank you wonderful lady! You just made those red flags stand out a lot taller for me. She doesn't neck roll or flare her nostrils but it's her way or the highway. Well....I chose the highway. Thank you.

100% facts ! Theses women behaviors are beyond annoying. And also the lack of accountability for their actions to not face any consequences for their wrong actions. I was at my aunt to help her, she moved my shoes outside her house without telling me, a cat peed on them, and when I confronted her she just ignored her responsability and didn't want to wash them ! I was so pissed off 😤 She's wondering why I don't help her anymore.

@lesliethomas5088

3 жыл бұрын

Tell her. It’s nothing worse than Not knowing what you did to a person. Maybe she didn’t KNOW she pissed you off. You guys are Family

Not listening to him but you want him listening to you is disrespectful.

Mannn giving me an ultimatum, is like going to do the dishes for my mother without being told, and soon as I start she tells me to do them. I hate it lol

Can you please do a public speaking on this topic.. cause women these days need to hear this...no respect from women of all ages and it's so sad..thank you for enlightening women these days!!!

Idk how I got here, but great video. Disrespect should not be given or tolerated from man or woman.

I have been watching your videos and applying them in my relationship and he left. He didn’t allow me to be feminine and I thank you for opening my eyes. At first it was me but once I changed he started getting distant. Maybe he just wasn’t ready.

@payparallel

2 жыл бұрын

@Queen, if you actually became more feminine and your man left you, then thank God and continue been feminine because he left due to the fact that he's either not ready for a committed relationship or he's not masculine enough. You who are already improving your femininity don't need such men in your life. The more feminine you are, the more attraction there is between you and a masculine man who will rock your world.

@bandhead06

Жыл бұрын

He probably got tired of waiting. You obviously wasn't doing it at first, and by the time you did he didn't care. Too little too late.

Sis….thank you for this! Especially for those of us that need the reminder that any disrespect is disrespect….all points here are important! Blessings!!

Great session lil Sis ❤️... Peace and Blessings to you 🙏

Those last 5 points, 🙌🏾 thank you for putting it out there! Great video

Sis you’re sharing some good stuff! Viewers please forward/share and support the Sisters ministry. Blessings.

Love this!!! Taking notes 📝. I’m all about communication, it’s my strength in everything I do.

I really appreciate you taking time to make this video...You dropped great gems 💎 and keys 🔑

Thank you so much! New Subscriber! Keep dropping straight knowledge for us! 💪🏿💯🔥👀

Great Points Sis!

Great video ma'am!! This video is a great reminder for some of us and an eye opener for the rest of us...Side note, I've noticed more men lately have been going out of their way to open/hold doors for me and picking up things when i drop them in the store, and in general being friendly and respectful. Chivalry is not dead!

100%and ON POINT! ThAnkhs! Sharing!

This is civility and everyone deserves this. When we as women respect and value all our relationships friendships and family it’s second nature to behave this way with our man

Shalom young sistah I today found this channel of yours and this video sounds just like the the most recent video you made on your other channel. love this one too....unfortunately a lot of men who behaves like emotional women do the same thing. once again, Peace, Love, Light....Shalawam...

Below is the comment I shared on my FB Newsfeed: I am not sure why this was a recommended video for me, but I am glad I decided to watch. This KZread Creator is positive, intelligent and correct in all 10 points she addresses with her audience. She's young and honest and I'm sure she will put out content for a long while that you can learn from and/or share with people close to you for their benefit and yours too. I wish her well and you too my friend.

Greetings. The MORAL of the story is; A man shouldn't NEVER be or stay in a relationship with a woman if she doesn'tn't HONOR him. When a woman honor a man, she won't think to subtly disrespect him, much less DISRESPECT him.

So true sis! 🙌🏾 and your sweater/top is cute.

I am glad that I watched this video. I have done a lot of these disrespectful actions in my relationship. Thank you for this advice, this will help me in my relationship going forward.

You were sent from the throne of the Most High Himself!!! All Facts!! The way you "break it down to the very last compound" 😄👏💯...makes me give respect when it's due! It also makes me wonder how many women have the wherewithal of the same but choose otherwise...You are an ambassador for healthy relationships. #LolEsotericKnowledge #Peace2RocStagis Shabbat Shalom family and Amor!! Thank you.

This video should be called how to respectfully communicate with people period! I love your videos. It bothers me that so many men comment. Not what they are commenting but where are the woman?? More women need to hear and comment on your wisdom!

@TheModernGoddessChannel

4 жыл бұрын

Nicole Fisher I’ve had many sisters express to me that they watch my videos, but they’re afraid to comment with their opinion, questions or concerns, because they’re afraid they’ll be attacked by the men. Which has been an issue that resulted in me blocking a lot of brothers. Over 200. Eventually, I got tired of blocking people, because I really don’t have the time to monitor all of the comments. So that was the purpose of creating this channel...so it wouldn’t be so intimidating for the sisters. And I could give advice to women directly without men saying a lot of discouraging things...but...ummm...yea. I tried.🤷🏾‍♀️

@nicolefisher4779

4 жыл бұрын

I hollered! At least you tried. I know a lot of woman do watch and see why they maybe intimidated to comment. My mother in law put me on to you. In all seriousness... to all the men... Please go away! This content is for woman. Sister Sara is trying to build a safe platform for woman. Please leave your peanut galley commentary somewhere else! Hahaha.

@anthonybrooks1559

4 жыл бұрын

@Nicole Fisher, I've noticed this on a lot of channels where sisters are trying to educate about relationships. There is no need to degrade anyone's opinion, keep it classy or leave it alone. I want to see comments from the sisters and brothers, especially the ones that want to learn and grow.

I well and truly hope your channel grows 💜

Sara Lena I'm diggin your consistency,work ethic,professionalism & progression!Salute!

Absolutely beautiful spirit sis..

I just LOVE AND I MEAN LOVE THIS VIDEO. And surprisingly I am a communicating man who lets my women know this but no change. But this was a spot on video with what I find disrespectful. I can definitely see why you’re married you’re a wonderful intellectual women who understand her role in her great relationship. I love to see it!!! 😁

Appreciate you Sistar. Acknowledgement x insight x accountability = solutions.

This is true , I recently left my ex due to all of this behavior. I loved her and her daughter but i had to walk away. I’m not allowing no woman to devalue me or feel the need she can disrespect me just because she’s a “female “ moving on to the next because i know it’s plenty of woman out here who would appreciate an success alpha male with no kids

@andrewade3551

4 жыл бұрын

razorsharp redpill yeah im not doing it again , they love preying on men with no kids .

@bigpimping15

2 жыл бұрын

Was that both of you all daughter or just hers? Also do you have kids?

@andrewade3551

2 жыл бұрын

@@bigpimping15 no it was her daughter and I’m married now with twins on the way 😄

@brumhelldah917

Жыл бұрын

Are you sure?

I'm dealing with a woman that mask disrespect with no longer allowing men to disrespect her. I like to table unproductive conversation we engage in, to keep from falling in the unproductive category. She turns around and tells me oh you don't respect me because you don't allow me to finish the conversation. Then over talks me to the point I can't even get a word out... Then says she's teaching her daughters how to no accept disrespect.... Really!!

Thank you, Queen...Words of Wisdom..Shalom

9. Flirt, but beware. If your man is insecure, that is an insult. If you are weak, you might fool yourself and cheat.

This right here... 6:25, it’s a relationship killer for sure. I’ve experienced this - and as a person who likes to problem solve, when you’re unable to do so because information is being withheld or purposefully altered, it does eat at you.

@letssee9

4 жыл бұрын

Yep! Then when things don't go right, its still your fault! Good thing i have good sense!

This woman is amazing! Take a bow!

I appreciate that a young lady is speaking on these things, mostly I see women speaking on manipulation and taking control on the situation.. I find that out of context.. But please help, Where are the men that respect and humble and feminine woman.. I always get friend zoned because I am nice..🤦‍♀️🙄 Doesn't most men like an aggressive woman 🤷‍♀️

@rafieljimenez665

Жыл бұрын

Stop lying😂

I wish there was a "love" button on this instead of just a "like"button! Sister girl , you are so on point with your assessment here. Peace and blessing to you and your Mr!!

Excellent commentary. This commentary is dead on. I've seen countless women exibit these behaiviors and if they are questioned about such behaviors they'll take offense, absolutely ridiculous.

Any woman who refers to her man’s “little job” knows EXACTLY what she’s doing. She is denigrating that man’s place in society.

Love love love your videos!! If possible for future videos can u lower or omit the music?

Thank you for this 💛

@dreday7204

4 жыл бұрын

Teach others!

U r on point; my sister! Thank you so much for sharing what can possibly help build solid male female relationships❤

Thanks for the Content.

Asking his honest opinion and then arguing the answer he gives. Just do what you want in the first place and don't bother asking.

The whole video......YES!!! This woman understands!

💯💯💯💯💯 most of these describe my ex wife especially 4, 8,9, and 10. It played a big role in me divorcing her.

@trailert7761

3 жыл бұрын

@Vanessa Louis if it was a woman talking about the reason she divorced her husband would you be complaining about telling her business or saying you go girl?

The perfect example of a good woman. Men need respect over everything in order to have a healthy relationship. honor him.

I think that you shouldn't hide who this is directly addressed too, this is obviously directly (mostly, and obviously) to Black women, because there is a very obvious problem (relationships )between black men and women . And this addresses common sense communication issues between the two parties. Well done, because obviously this is a black woman who has intelligently addressed appropriately the issues and has acknowledged some of the things that black women need to do, but obviously the entire fault in issues (difficulties in communication) between black men and women don't rest solely on black women's shoulders. This is a very good, interesting, and effective, and exciting effort in reaching out to black men and actually acknowledging the communication problems (relationship issues that exist) that black women can address appropriately. However I do have to say in all honesty that the entire problem isn't entirely black women's fault. There's more than enough blame on both sides to go around the need to be addressed in this very complex situation (issue) . I love the effort and strength of love,(integrity, and soul searching) that it took to make this video . Men and women were created by God and have different roles and purposes, some are similar and some are quite different and specific. But I believe that every relationship in your life, should be clearly defined, you should know exactly who that person is, and what they are to you. Well done indeed young lady.

Love this

I didnt know about the second channel....Dope!!!!

Any woman who asserts herself over a man, the relationship just needs to end right then and there. If she is paying all of the bills, then she can have some entitlement to do that. Where it is completely unacceptable, is where the man is paying the bills, she just needs to stay on the sideline and STFU. Just let her pay everything and see how long it lasts after that. All men need to make sure that whatever they are paying for, is in their name. Lease or deed, utilities, etc.

@joahleffler4903

4 жыл бұрын

U speak truth

She has my vote sister for President.

❤🙏🏾Thank you Sister

You are a Queen, thank you for dropping this knowledge to your sistas. I agree with every point that you made, and most of all I love your nurturing tone. You are a blessing! 🙏🏾

🌳👍👨‍👩‍👧‍👦💝🙏🏾Sincere Respect Sara. As always, Positive thoughts, Truthful Facts*. Thank you.

Reminds me of Ro Cutno and her book Men Lead!

#4 OMG 😂😂😁 This one kills me... 👍😏

You are a god send

This wise Queen exemplifies the Bible scripture- "He who finds a wife, finds a good thing, and obtains blessings from the Lord". My Queen is just like Lady Lena!

@rogercraig1778

4 жыл бұрын

All wives are not good though. Having a wife done ruined plenty of men, especially in these modern Western times. So somebody needs to take that quote out the Bible, like they did many other things in the Bible🤭

@shedparker

4 жыл бұрын

@@rogercraig1778 Lol, u wylin smh.

All 10 were on point! Flawless 💎 gems!

YOU ARE A AWESOME QUEEN!!!! I LIKE WHEN YOU AND YOUR KING IS ON TOGETHER!!!!!! YOU BOTH BRING WISDOM ALWAYS!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

I promise any female who wants to have not just a great relationship with a man but a truly healthy one please listen to what she said. If not for yourself give it to your kids or someone who needs to hear this too. Pro healthy relationships!

Your back to him while he is talking to you mean you are emotionally available.

Omg ur Voice is So calm ANd relaxing i Fell asleep

Great Advice l🌷

And Vice Versa....

The things you mentioned are blatant disrespect. A woman that talks like that is immature plain and simple

I thank you for this. Men are not perfect. Neither are women. I am married for a year. I sometimes argue with my wife, but she smacks when we argue, grabs me for a fight. I am envisaging a divorce before something worse happens. I didn't marry to expect perfection but if respect cannot be reciprocated, to the extent I feel like I am living with another man, then marriage isn't for me.

@ciaraharris1469

2 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry that you are going through that. Have you guys tried marriage counseling?

@anonymous6594

2 жыл бұрын

No one deserves to be subjected to physical abuse. I hope you left.

@brumhelldah917

Жыл бұрын

@@ciaraharris1469 they need to try divorce

@quelquun2018

9 ай бұрын

@@brumhelldah917😂😂😂😂

Hi Sara Lena, What about the way women talk to other men in the workplace? Her body language, her attentiveness, are those signs of disrespect to her man?

My wife does all this and many more to me. Yet she never listen to advice from anyone not even her mum. At most time i just wish my life ends cos of my marital mistake. Hard to walk out bcos of my child. I don't want to be far away from him.

Women need to take pages from your book,you all better listen, these are gems, keep up the good work

I think it was #2 related, but badmouthing your man behind his back to someone, or making him the butt of your jokes, laughing at him, mocking him, in front of other people. To me that would be one of the worst things my woman could do to me. I have seen this even in church settings. I have seen this done more than once even in church settings. Just recently a wife was doing this to her husband who was teaching in a Sunday School class and he "laughed" along with it because what else could he do, and I was just cringing. And she just kept it up. Just between the husband and wife at home this is different. Yes sometimes lighten up and laugh at each other for silly things said or done because no use being totally serious in the privacy between the two of you, just to keep your sanity. Although there are times this should be avoided even just between the two of you. But in front of other people? Never!

Great advice i understand.

Unfortunately, it's very rare you'll find a female that's truly interested in elevating her mental...

@BonnieB0o

4 жыл бұрын

Natural Born Leader obviously there’s so many women subscribed and following content like this. Maybe try seeing women instead of “ females “ and you will find more elevated mental states.

You got me at #1. I left a chick for always calling my ambitions "little".

Thank you Thank you Thank you

WOW!! I LOVE THIS Black Woman! (and I mean that respectfully. She is in a relationship). This Black Woman, is VERY, VERY, ENLIGHTENED, INTELLIGENT and VERRRRY WISE!!! I NEED A BLACK WOMAN LIKE HER IN MY LIFE!!! She made me see myself in a much clearer light as well,....meaning the type of choices I have been making when it comes to looking for an APPROPRIATE mate.

I had to show my wife this. I want her to grow into the queen that I know she is. Am I am glad that there are women who understand and are willing to teach other women things/tip on behavioral patternes that they may not fully be aware of. Just as I encourage me to seek videos that will help them to be a better husband ,partner I also want to women to do the same.

Number 9 has been the thorn in my side for years now

I salute u & my brother...teach...@

@MariaRivera-pe4uy

4 жыл бұрын

I love my wife so much

Bravo!

Yay! Thank you....😊

Wish I could like this 12 times

No. 10...STRAIGHT FACTS! & I've Been Seeing A Lot Of It! It's Terrible!

You have inspired me to do a KZread channel. Helping Young Women to find Husbands. I was too afraid too. God first placed it on my heart. I want to see Our ladies Grow

We (the community) definitely enjoy, appreciate, and need the both of you. But in your own way, (Sara Lena) you just might be more valuable than Kevin Samuels. 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿😀 Great message and breakdown.