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My late mum, God Bless her soul, went into service at the age of 14. There was NOTHING she didn’t know about ‘table manners’ and ‘etiquette’. She knew how to lay a table perfectly and she was an expert cook. I grew up with all this as a natural way of life. We didn’t have fine and fancy things but mum was a very good house keeper and a very loving mother. Still, to this very day, I’m fussy about my bed linens, household linens etc and it’s def from mum. I remember as a young woman I taught myself to crotchet, in particular I did Irish lace…. one Christmas I gifted to mum a table doily and 4 lengths of lace that were the size of a pillowcase opening so she cd stitch the lace on to whatever pillowcases she wanted. She cried tears and said she had never had something so ‘posh’. She had laundered many a fine lace pillowcase or garment but she never thought she would have something like that of her own. She told me hundreds of stories about her life ‘below stairs’, some good, some VERY funny but sadly some were horrendous. But all the stories are lodged in my mind with fondness.

@starboard6372

2 жыл бұрын

How wonderful...I hope you write down the memories.

@JenningsCraftsBoutique

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful memories and heartwarming, thank you for sharing them with us! My grandmother born 1900 and died 2004 was the same and years later as I became a grandmother myself, I was fortunate enough to still have my grandmother around and I interviewed her about her life, so I have it all written down and she was a really funny lady. One that often put her foot in it when she shouldn't and the we cried with laughter at many of her stories of times gone by! :0) x

@glindathegood4007

2 жыл бұрын

Wow Great Minds think alike, I also knit & crochet, for bridal shower or a wedding gift, I will crochet some trim/lace and will sew it onto the pillow cases, and top sheet, I'll gift the sheet set with a matching homemade afghan.

@blorac9869

2 жыл бұрын

You owe it to her to write a book and make a fortune! Good Luck!

@spitfire57whaley35

2 жыл бұрын

They have rules. As a nurse, I cared for a woman who was a cousin to the Queen. Now I understand why, at the first formal dinner party she attended young Elizabeth (age 6) teased my patient ( age 13), who had just arrived to England for her education .

Etiquette has flown out the window. I'd love to see table manners taught and used again. Fantastic video

@JenningsCraftsBoutique

2 жыл бұрын

We used to have to ask for permission to leave the table at meal times, but then, how many even have a table these days to eat from!

@kristyhand6209

2 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@mplight2941

2 жыл бұрын

@@JenningsCraftsBoutique yes I always had to ask, " May I be excused?" Before I left the table too. Often times the answer was no. When my father was finished was when we were all able to leave of we wished, but rarely before.

@JenningsCraftsBoutique

2 жыл бұрын

@@mplight2941 Yes I remember those days well lol. Plus, we had to clear our plates and was always told that there were hungry children in the world who didn't even know what it was that we had on our plates... We were poor and bloody hungry often, so it wasn't that much for us either!

@carolempluckrose4188

2 жыл бұрын

And saying Grace before eating. I do that to this day.

I am an American, but once found myself eating dinner with some rather posh folks in Wales. During the soup course, I realized that I would put my spoon into the bowl and scoop towards myself, and everyone else scooped away from themselves. My husband knew to scoop away as well, and I questioned him later about where he learned that particular rule. He said it was from watching Bruce Wayne (Michael Keaton) eat dinner served by Alfred, and that he knew Alfred would've taught him correctly! :-) It still makes me laugh.

@christinenewell2679

2 жыл бұрын

The reason you ‘scoop away’ is to prevent very hot spillage coming down your shirt😱.

@gnarbeljo8980

2 жыл бұрын

That’s hilarious! 😂

@mamaahu

2 жыл бұрын

I thought one scoops away to demonstrate you are not greedy (or hungry)!!!

@lepolhart3242

2 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't worry too much about which way you scoop up your soup as no one would have noticed especially when there are more important things going on in the world such as people dying in Afghanistan or from lack of NHS healthcare just like 1 poor man who phoned in to a talk show to say that he's got 12 months to live as his Doctor wouldn't do face to face appointments due to the lockdowns so they missed his cancer and he would have been ok if they'd picked up on it sooner!!

@lagunagirl1347

2 жыл бұрын

I remember this saying from my childhood-“Like little ships set out to sea, I spoon my soup away from me.”

I’m a protocol officer so etiquette is my wheelhouse. I love seeing people do things the proper way.

@suzannes5888

2 жыл бұрын

That's an interesting, but fun - and sometimes stressful - job to get in to. You don't see that position often other than in the military, at an embassy, or in a sovereign's household.

@sentimentalwoman4540

2 жыл бұрын

I too was sort of a protocol officer for a military defense contractor. It was my responsibility to school executives in customs and regulations of foreign countries they would travel to. The most interesting was gift-giving and the proper way to present or wrap a gift even down to the color of wrapping paper and the pronunciation of the gift's name. Sometimes the word for a gift in English could sound offensive in another language. Best job I ever had. Then I went to work for Lawyers, ugg.

@laurac1902

2 жыл бұрын

@@sentimentalwoman4540 very interesting! You caught my attention with the word, “gift.” When first learning German, that was one of the more amusing “false friends.” 😂

@lllowkee6533

Жыл бұрын

There’s more than one proper way.. We were taught table manners and how to sit like a lady…. I have always thought while watching Brits eating on back of their fork, having raked the food on with a knife looked like ‘eating like a pig’. I’ll keep changing my fork to my right hand.

Hi, I’m a American married to an RAF Officer. Our first year of marriage, I had lunch with the Queen. Thank goodness my mother taught my sisters and me impeccable table manners and how to curtesy growing up. Lunch was a wonderful experience and I adore the Queen, she is a lovely lady. Lunch was formal and as you said, quite fast ending before I had finished but I didn’t mind stopping. Quite funny, really.

@madlonglenn8743

2 жыл бұрын

Americans never curtsey to royalty....

@fredrika27

2 жыл бұрын

@@madlonglenn8743 Very true, but we do stop and acknowledge the royal person. Meghan DOES curtsy to HM!

@madlonglenn8743

2 жыл бұрын

@@fredrika27 if course...but not with a curtsey

@annabelgrace1267

Жыл бұрын

@@madlonglenn8743 When in Rome..

@mellie5899

Жыл бұрын

@@madlonglenn8743 I'm an American and I would curtsey if I ever met any royalty.

Growing up, I ate many meals with my British grandmother so your knife and fork rules are second nature to me. Tea, of course, was served and consumed in a particular way. She did suggest that one should sit up straight, never allowing one's back to touch the back of the chair. I loved her dearly and still fondly recall everything about her. Thank you for your tutorial. So fun.

@thekingsdaughter4233

2 жыл бұрын

My dorm mother taught us that, when seated at the table, a mouse should fit between you and the table; and a cat between you and the back of the chair. The back of the chair is NOT for leaning on- in fancy settings, the footmen need something to grab when pulling out the chair for you! :-)

@jassewalton1768

2 жыл бұрын

It actually makes sense to sit up straight- you can breathe better! - your lungs have their proper space. Also better for your spine.

When Sarah Ferguson married Andrew, she was gifted a tiara (now known as the York tiara) by the Queen. Turning the fork over is just NOT DONE - it’s considered somewhat vulgar.

@gemoftheocean

2 жыл бұрын

Funny. Mashing food on the back of a fork is considered vulgar in the US. Why do you think the fork is curved?

Your wedding tiera was beautiful. I would love to hear about how you prepared for your wedding and what was all involved in planning a royal wedding.

Hello Julie: Thank you for this tutorial. I suggest that you add a side note about the napkin (wait until the host/hostess places theirs before you place yours), and where the cutlery is placed. Also, when asked to pass the salt, you always pass both salt and pepper; and pass condiments to the right. When I was in High School in NYC, the nuns would drill us on table manners as part of our education. When I lived in London, my host and other guests would watch me at tea and at dinner clearly hoping to catch a gaffe. Once in a while I heard titters of derision. It is worse manners to make a guest feel awkward than it is to use a fork in the right hand.

@rachelgarber1423

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, imho that’s rude ppl shouldn’t ridicule others in person. Also imho, that’s just bad manners

I met the queen and her husband in an alley in my hometown of San Antonio, Texas. It's not like you think because the ally was paved like a street and it was behind the Convention Center Arena downtown where deliveries are made for events there. It's very clean, there's no trash back there and no graffiti. Me and a handful of people were there behind a a yellow caution tape that taped off a small area. She came out with her husband and went towards a street car/trolly that was going to ride along with a parade in her honor. When she came out she was very close to us, so I thought I should say something or else I would lose my chance. I said, hi your Majesties, welcome to San Antonio and we all are happy to have you. She said, oh thank you, thank you so much for coming. I said hello sir to her husband and he said hello and nodded. I thought she was pretty cool and they were so classy.

@leslie6938

2 жыл бұрын

Hi fellow Texan, what a rare, unexpected pleasure it must have been to meet the Queen! I didn’t realize she visited our great state, do you remember what year it was? I live in Plano but love San Antonio. The river walk, the great Tex-Mex and margaritas, and I’ve always loved the Alamo history and the legends who fought and died there. I bought a gorgeous hand carved jewelry box there celebrating my first anniversary there in the early 90’s, lots of fond memories of SA. Crazy times at the border! Hope y’all don’t get overrun.

@ibosquez5238

2 жыл бұрын

@@leslie6938 It in May 1991. It's nice to see another Texan in the comments.

@anglophils645

2 жыл бұрын

Darling, alley is spelled like this with an e-y on the end. Ally means someone who is on your side of an issue. And you may want to brush up on your subjective case pronouns. In any case, I’m glad that you got to meet the Queen and Prince Philip, how exciting!

@ibosquez5238

2 жыл бұрын

@@anglophils645 Oops! Sorry. It's just a typo.

@ibosquez5238

2 жыл бұрын

@@anglophils645 As for the subjective case pronouns, would you help with that please.

I like the way you made a successful transition to British Aristocracy! You are a credit to both countries!

My parents are diplomats and my dad is very particular with etiquette and manners. I followed suit and served in my country foreign ministry for 14 years. I love your vdo explaining these basic manners which i think it is still relevant if you need to attend official events. I hope people still teach these to younger generations

My grandma married a doctor when I was really young and she tried to get me into that society stuff. Dinner parties, pageants, etc...when I was really little we went to a dinner with the governor and he was discussing music. I stood on a chair in the middle of a banquet hall and belted out the song "Sweet Georgia Brown" using my sorbet spoon as a microphone. 🤦 my mom and grandma were mortified but the governor thought it was adorable. Me, the governor, and Alan Shepard (the astronaut) took a picture together at the dinner and made the front page of the paper. The dinner had something to do with a space shuttle exhibit at a museum in Florida. I think that was one of my first formal dinner parties. 😂😂

@elrenemontanez8302

2 жыл бұрын

I can imagine this very cute moment which could have been a scene from a movie!! I love it and it made the Front pages! Well done 👍

@gemoftheocean

2 жыл бұрын

If I had been "really little" and stood on a chair my mom's hand would have smacked my rear end before the spoon got to my mouth!

@annerodgers8529

Жыл бұрын

Bravo! 👍

@cockneydoll

Жыл бұрын

You scoop away from yourself so you do not spill soup on yourself

@madlonglenn8743

Жыл бұрын

I think we would be good friends!

My Mother placed me in etiquette school when I was young and I remember every single thing, but I've only been to a couple of formal dinner parties or gatherings. I still sit with my legs together with ankles crossed unless I am at my office desk. There are so many things from not so long ago that should be implemented again. Structure is good for the soul, in my opinion. I would love to have a formal dinner party sometime at my Victorian dining hall.

@smurph4959

2 жыл бұрын

That sounds like so much fun! I too would love to see a resurgence of elements of etiquette that seemed to be fading away 🌼

Rock ‘n rollers are our American royalty. I was in junior high when my friend Alexandra invited me to a house party in the 70s with the hottest band - Pablo Cruise. Picture us in big hair, silk mini skirts, velvet bodices, and cap sleeves. We were young and fabulous. We made our entrance literally down a winding staircase. My heel snapped right off and I rolled into the arms of the lead singer who dove to break my fall. If not for the age difference, we’d definitely be married now.

@jenh9361

2 жыл бұрын

LOVE THIS!!!

@kathysharpe7339

2 жыл бұрын

I think not

My family is American, however, my mother taught me proper etiquette. My sister and I were taught how to set the table for dinner, how to hold utensils, how to sit and walk properly. Although I don't always follow the rules I know them and thanks to my mother I would be comfortable dining with any of the royal family.

Thank you! As an American my mother followed the "English way!" We had tea time and she always set a perfect table. We also learned to curtsy or bow! I'm happy I've found your channel! I'm now following you!!

@koushikdas1992

3 ай бұрын

May be yout family are british descendants!

I would love to hear how you and your husband met, courted and about your wedding!

@AmericanViscountess

2 жыл бұрын

Will definitely do a video on that soon!

@carolynlunel9382

2 жыл бұрын

That's a wonderful idea!💕

@edwardm.thornton6313

2 жыл бұрын

It's a Wonderful Video & Story. I did meet Someone, sometimes she was called Queen 👑 or Icon🏆. I call her "Kind Woman" . I tried my best not to disturb her. Years later there would be Friendship!!! Good Wishes From Ireland ☘. 🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀

@tilliecohen2861

2 жыл бұрын

@@AmericanViscountess Great idea! I very much enjoyed the etiquette tips, too!

@tilliecohen2861

2 жыл бұрын

@@edwardm.thornton6313 Very mysterious comment! Intriguing!

Learned all this from childhood and my parents were very strict on table manners xx Having lived in the USA for 30 years I see both sides and eat both ways lol xx Well done and I hope you get to meet the Queen one day xx

I have known most of these rules since I was a child. My Dad was very VERY British and made sure we knew all our manners, as he used to tell us we never knew if we would eat with the Queen so we HAD to know how to eat properly. My mother actually got to go to two state dinners with the Queen when she visited Nova Scotia Canada, I still have the invitations for those. Thank you for your video I think I will subscribe, I am very much a Royalist and love to learn how things are done in that circle of society. Please update us on the hats, they are works of art.

This is quite interesting and even entertaining🙈 Thanks for sharing ❤️ As a black South African, we have a British, Dutch, and to a lesser extent French and some German colonial past and I dare say, all that you've stated is pretty much entrenched in our "high" society and quite normal fare. My father attended a multiracial British Anglican boys high school in the 60s, and also taught us social etiquette of old and it's quite amusing to me that all this is quite normal for us and that is just how we behave socially as normal actually (except curtsy, of course). Growing up wearing stockings everyday was a drag, so I've decidedly dropped those but they ate still required in most SA schools. Plus if you've been to a South African private boarding school, these social rules are also easily recognizable. The only complication with us is that we have MANY African royal houses as well, some with their own tribal rules and etiquette, which can be very strict and it truly does gets a lot😭 nevermind colloquial African etiquette to navigate as well. It's very challenging at times but it's also very fascinating to be able to navigate a nation of such diverse cultures. People tend to be quite forgiving because of that🙈

I find this channel so interesting. I love Julie's sense of humor and pure sense of enjoyments sharing with us

Fun video. I would enjoy seeing a video about your historic dress collection.

@beautifulwave1346

2 жыл бұрын

I think she has one, showing her vintage pieces back to the early 1900s :)

@marthaross6301

2 жыл бұрын

@@beautifulwave1346 you are correct. There is one video on that. Enjoyable

@AmericanViscountess

2 жыл бұрын

@@beautifulwave1346 Next week's video I'll be wearing them!

Thanks Julie, for the fun tips on how to eat & behave when you go to a royal event. Loved the black top hat - what fun to find all of those treasures from the past.

Being American I of course don't have a family wedding tiara, but I made my own by wire wrapping a ton of Swarovski crystals. It was quite pretty and I loved the fact that it was completely unique to me

No ... no queen. You’re it for historical retaking of the best of heritage now Julie. We love the culture and we’re taking it back ... you’re a significant part of the last of it. Thank you and appreciating your preserving and taking back the best of history for all of us!

around the early 18th century, particularly in France, it became fashionable for diners to put the knife down after cutting, and swap the fork to the right hand-i.e., to cut-and-switch. The French brought that over to the States and the rest is history 😁 I think is more polite doing the switch, not switching is considered eating as a truck driver 😅 I will practice the other way, but old habits die hard my lovely 🥰 Great video ❤️

@DeborahThird-og1uo

5 ай бұрын

Rubbish

"What the royals do and many others is they slide the food onto the back of the fork so the tines are always pointing down. So you would cut whatever it is and you would slide that food (...it's a balancing act, wright?...) onto the back of the fork ...carefully bring it up and eat it that way!" Just out of curiosity I've tried this royal eating technique with the fork and, besides etiquette, it really helps concentrating on the food, on the texture and on the taste of the food. It also slow down the eating process for fast eating people like me. Finally: it helps enjoy the meal leaving you full/satiated (Pardon my mistakes in English!) and unexpectedly more calm. That's the way one should feel during lunch breaks. I'll try more and more this "balancing act" technique. Grazie mille!

@elisabethstrazzanti2312

2 жыл бұрын

Hai raggione - e come hai raggione 😊

@lizb853

2 жыл бұрын

This is basic standard etiquette, as drilled into me as a very young child if about 7 years of age,I'm now 75 years old, and I never think twice about these rules. They're ingrained into me, and I found the easiest way to remember which cutlery you were supposed to use at which time/course is to remember, from outside, to inside.

My parents were quite strict about table manners when I was younger. Its wasn't until I was older I realised not everybody was as bothered by the whole thing. Being the eldest I can't get enough of rules lol ... not that I always keep them ☺

@deidremoon2690

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my grandmother took my sisters and I to a very fancy restaurant in Atlanta, GA for our etiquette lessons. Bless her heart, she tried so hard to make us into proper ladies. We never rebelled, we adored her and cherished those times. We were expected to always use these lessons of etiquette no matter where we were. Honestly, the older I got the more I used them, and tried to teach them to my kids (and their friends). The etiquette lessons are one of the things I will always treasure about my grandmother.

I am an army brat , as a small child I had to be in receiving lines weekly with my parents . White gloves , superb manners essential . I was also in Europe, were manners are quite important . I love these segments .Manners are always to show good breeding

I hope Her Majesty visits you at Mapperton for tea one day because I think she would so enjoy meeting you,all your family.

I love these etiquette traditions. For some reason I have always eaten with fork in right hand and knife in left, whilst my family eat the correct way. I am ambidextrous, so maybe that partly explains. Your 1900 dress is beautiful ~ it looks like it's modelled on medieval royal court attire. I'm new to to your channel Julie, so am playing 'catch-up', and have not seen this stunning room before ~ the historic furniture and fabrics are amazing. I love the subtle colouration.

@MaryamShakiba

2 жыл бұрын

I think it is actually more intuitive to eat with the fork in the right hand, especially if you are right handed. I have always wondered why the 'correct' way is to eat with the left hand! In other cultures, particularly eastern, food is always brought to the mouth with the right hand (whether with utensils or hands).

My gracious -- except for the curtsy and the handling of cutlery, there wasn't a danged thing in there that I didn't learn from my dear little Southern Mama. And the other two things I would have picked up on by doing something else Mama taught me: Watch your hostess. What I want to know about is those wonderful chairs and that gorgeous carpet!

I was born in the USA but both sides of my family came from England. My mother & grandmother taught us manners, how to sit & curtsy. My grandmother had stacks of beautiful hat boxes with hats in them. I loved watching her put them on. My grandfather's hats were from England too.

This is all standard etiquette in our very standard home from a very early age, taught by my very standard mum. It was considered good manners including, no elbows on the table, close your mouth when eating, keep your elbows in when using utensils, don't talk with your mouth full, place your cutlery down while chewing. Oh and we were all taught to curtsey at primary school In case we met any dignitaries! ❤🇦🇺

@tildarosander1339

2 жыл бұрын

All the same, except for the curtesy. However, in Sweden, us cousins found an etiquette book from the fiftieth at my grandparents house and learnt how to eat a pear with forks. My grandparents also taught us how to serve at the table and we worked at several social functions that they held. We had a lot of fun with the book and tried to implement the rules at all times. It helped that my grandparents lived in a 200 year old house with all the old trapping still intact. There were servants bells to all the rooms and a servant’s stair to the upstairs.

@denisefallin8042

2 жыл бұрын

There was a rhyme: "Mabel, Mabel, if ur able, keep ur elbows off the table" 😊

I'm grateful for having learned most of these rules of etiquette as a child, even growing up in the United States. My grandparents (also from the US) made sure that we kids grew up with good table manners. One thing I've never understood is the criss-crossing thing when most Americans cut their food. It seems so inefficient. But I'm left-handed, so always having my fork in my left hand comes naturally to me. It's so interesting to hear about rules more specific to eating with royalty. Thank you so much for posting!

@AmericanViscountess

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching!!!

Love how you communicate what you were used to and what you have learned to do. Different customs seem so rigid from the outside but they are there so that the insiders can relax. Loved the details about the fork and knife when one leaves the table.

I just stumbled across this video. It was fun and it’s nice to see a down to earth American woman laughing and enjoying the overly formal royal rules!

We're American but come from an aristocratic Irish family. We have a Tierra though! It's not very old it's crystal and pearl and it's beautiful! I'm sure it will be used for generations to come!

@ibosquez5238

2 жыл бұрын

Start replacing the crystals with diamonds little by little, maybe every birthday or other holiday.

@jassewalton1768

2 жыл бұрын

Tierra = tiara ?

When I was a young girl I went to etiquette school. If I remember correctly, it was on a Saturday afternoon for a few hours. It was a two month class. Never really had an embarrassing situation that I can remember. My husband is from a former British colony and I am more strict about things than he is.

@Braun30

2 жыл бұрын

I had mine from my grandmother. She was Italian but had lived in France and then Austria-Hungary. I even learned how to kiss a ladies hand in the way of Austrian, French and English etiquette. Don't ask me the difference now, it was mainly about the way you took the hand and which part of it you air kissed.

My mother and grandmother were from England.My grandmother taught me to eat with knife and fork in the English manner. And for placing the utensils when finished eating, she would say “4 and 20 I’ve had plenty.” Which is exactly the way you demonstrated. 20 minutes after 4 on a clock face. To this day and my children’s embarrassment, I still eat this way. I was born in New York and live here now.

@anne-marie2972

Жыл бұрын

Is it only English manner 🤔 ? I think it is European manner. I live in Europe and those manners are familiar to me.

Thank you for this! I am Canadian but by Great Grandfather was Shepard for King George the 6th (prior to enlisting), and my Great-Grandmother worked in the house (I’m not familiar which house that is). My Great-Grandmother would serve the role of Queen at meals and if you dared reach across the table she would stab your hand with her fork if she could reach you. You only messed up once! All members of her family were expected to be of their best manners, even children. While I still use everything taught to me as a child, the whole family thought she was a hard ass. 😂 Even the Queen is known to push a few morsels around on her plate to allow an evening to continue, or accommodate guests who are struggling to eat with proper manners and are slower in stride.

Oh my days. My Nana's "classes" for us girls? This, we learned all of this. Even the posture walking with books on your head. Wisconsin, was born in 1968. I have used some, not all but some. Julie this was lovely

As an American, I "met" the Queen (was close enough to her that if I'd reached my arm out I'd have touched her) during the ONE week I have ever spent in England! We happened to take our family vacation there during the time when the memorial fountain for Diana, Princess of Wales was dedicated and the ENTIRE royal family (as it was in 2004) was present! And yet I've lived in the DC Metro area all my life and have ever once been that close to a president, with the exception of one who had passed since we were at the Capitol for Reagan when he died. We read about the royals dedicating that fountain to Diana and decided to check it out and after the speech, the Queen came and did a walkabout and she was just a few feet away. Since William & Harry were present, a few Americans brought posters that said things like "Marry me William!" and that kind of thing. TO THEIR MOTHER'S MEMORIAL DEDICATION! I was STUNNED! Who does that?!? It made me super embarrassed for sure. We tried to be as polite as possible and recognize that this was a difficult day for the "boys" so seeing those signs was really quite disturbing.

As a "mere commoner " growing up in an average NewZealand home in the 50s and 60s this cutlery and eating ettiquette was normal life for us .My brothers and I were never allowed to leave table unless we had placed knife and fork in correct position and said thankyou for the food .

Thank you, you make us proud as Americans keep it up.🤗🤗🤗

I feel as though I grew up with the royals as most of your manners I was also taught to do. Thanks again.

Proper etiquette was extremely important in our family as my father was an officer in the Dutch Army and I still use those table manners even though I have live in the U.S for more than sixty years.

I didn’t dine with royalty or anything remotely like that, but when I was in London in October 2019 we went for tea at St. Ermin’s hotel. Lovely place, wonderful experience, I highly recommend going for tea. But apparently I did quite the faux pas, probably typically American. We were pretty much finished, just enjoying our last treats and tea, and I did not like the last sandwich, I think it was crab. So when the waitress came out, I simply asked her if she could remove it for me. My companions told me I should have seen the look on her face! So I guess you just leave food you won’t eat in front of you during tea! My bad! LOL!

@maryokeefe5351

2 жыл бұрын

Live and learn!

@peggiescraftcafe7117

2 жыл бұрын

I have a friend that does not like having her dirty plate in front of her when she is done eating. She finds it disgusting so always asks the waitress to remove it. I see nothing wrong in this. To each their own.

@Hammocks_Rule

2 жыл бұрын

@@peggiescraftcafe7117 In a restaurant maybe but the Video is about a formal function. Imagine 250 guests wanting plates removed at different times during a single course but even worst, wanting to be served before the top table!

@peggiescraftcafe7117

2 жыл бұрын

@@Hammocks_Rule The commenter WAS talking about an incident in a restaurant setting. That's what I was referring to.

@Hammocks_Rule

2 жыл бұрын

@@peggiescraftcafe7117 Very sorry, how on earth I missed that I don't know. I stand corrected. While most Hotel afternoon teas are a set time single serving, they are still not a formal Dinner. I wonder if the look was more of a "What, I have to do extra work, I have other things to do". Not quite the same but my late Wife could not abide cooked half tomatoes on a breakfast plate. { I know what your thinking and I agree... but I would go along.} Many is the time I would ask they be removed from the plate. (Despite having not ordered any!)

My mom raised us with those table manners, and I raised my kids with them too. One difference was if we needed to leave the table, we asked “May I be excused?” I was also raised to not cross my legs. It was OK to cross ankles as you showed. Thank you for this excellent information.

@annerodgers8529

Жыл бұрын

My Grandmother, who was from Ireland, taught me that a lady never crosses her legs.

It is interesting- because most of this is how I was taught to eat at a young age, and then at my boarding school. However we were taught to push the food onto the downward prongs of the fork, not balance on the back. As you said - these are more British (Commonwealth countries) table manners, than specific to Royalty.

@1angelofthelight2

2 жыл бұрын

Here, here. Pushing the food onto the upside down tines is the way to go in the UK.

@brontewcat

Жыл бұрын

@@annabelgrace1267 You point the fork to the plate in the left hand, and push the food onto the prongs holding the knife in the right hand. That’s the way I eat. However I think it is also acceptable manners to use the fork in the right hand, and scoop food like a spoon. Of course I will push food onto upturned prongs with a knife if I am eating at home, because it is easier that way. I also don’t think it matters as much as when I was young.

@annabelgrace1267

Жыл бұрын

@@brontewcat Thanks. So basically, you balance the food on the back of the fork, rather than using the tip of the forks to stab the piece of steak and bring it to your mouth

@brontewcat

Жыл бұрын

@@annabelgrace1267 No. I said you use the knife to push the food onto the prongs of the fork. The prongs hold the food. You are not balancing the food on the back of the fork. Although this may happen if you have food on the prongs and there is other food above the food stuck on the prongs. Have you never watched British or European movies, and seen people eating like this?

@annabelgrace1267

Жыл бұрын

@@brontewcat I have. In fact, I do, too, but her video and another where I saw prince Charles eating with the prongs upturned, just got me confused, like have I been doing things wrongly?

Yes, Julie, congrats on this video- very informative. 🙌 Please have another video on your vintage dress collection. I liked the first one. 👏

@AmericanViscountess

2 жыл бұрын

Coming next week!

Nice...and you are wearing your vintage dress too! Beautiful.

Thank you Julia! How exiting finding old family treasures. The Ladies would have been pleased to know their gorgeous hats would be admired by the world some day. That reminds me of the words: "I shall still be as long as someone speaks my name..."

I did enjoy this video. My upbringing included all the manners you mentioned. Very interesting to see your take on things coming from another culture as an adult. Also start using the cutlery from the outside working. Thank you for sharing your life.

It's so interesting watching this as an American 30-something person. When I was young (under 10) my mom decided she was going to teach my sisters and I to be mannered young ladies. I remember learning the basics of etiquette and I cannot express how important those skills have been for me in my career. Knowing HOW to carry myself around individuals who would be seen as higher rank does amazing for ones self confidence. Being able to walk into a room with confidence, grace, and strength is something I will forever be thankful for, even if at the time all I wanted to do was dig in the dirt for 'treasures' LOL

When I visited my English rellies at the age of 18, I was teased unmercifully for scooping food onto my fork instead of balancing it on the top of the tines. Great to hear that sanity is prevailing!

We were brought up with impeccable table manners. My grandmother came over to the US from Scotland. And the table manners trickled down to us kids. Proper table manners instilled in us for as long as I can remember. It was funny, our friends used to be a little nervous eating at our house. We could easily fit in Downton Abbey haha. Kinda funny, us the middle class New Yorkers.

@patrickmckinley6679

2 жыл бұрын

Hi 👋 Lori, how are you doing ?

I am American, but I love British etiquette. Manners is a rare skill that I seldom see where I live. In my next life, I hope I return as someone's Butler. I would love it. Thank you, Viscountess. :)

I enjoy watching your videos because I can see the passion and enjoyment that you put into making them

@AmericanViscountess

2 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoy it!

@patrickmckinley6679

2 жыл бұрын

Hi 👋 Allan, how are you doing?

I enjoyed this very much. It inspires me to be more conscious of my etiquette. Thank you.

Thank you Julie, I’m so glad these wonderful traditions are being upheld. Also I am very excited for you to start visiting stately homes, castles and manor houses on this channel (I saw in one of your replies that this will start in 3 weeks)!

I enjoyed this very much! Thank you, Julie!

I do t have to give my nationality when I say, “I just love you!” What you teach from your adventure is exciting! Keep having such fun and I send my best to you and your husband! 😄

I love all these etiquette tips! I wish some people I see would shape up!!

This is so fascinating! There are so many things to remember. I cannot wait to visit England one day. Thanks for sharing!

What fun to see the manners and hats! More please!

Loved it. Thanks Julie

Julie....you’re a legend! Loved revisiting the section on table manners, which were instilled into me as a child, growing up in rural Australia. It’s a shame that such traditions have fallen by the wayside, for the most part, in this so-called modern world. I am interested to discover which era the gentleman’s top hat was from.....looks like late 1800’s’/ early 1900’s.

Thank you for taking the time to shoot this video, very informative and fun!

I just love you're videos! Honest, enthusiastic, and knowledgeable. Nothing better!

@AmericanViscountess

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, thank you!

YES, yes yes.... would love to see vintage dress collection

You really shouldn't close the utensils until you have ascertained that all the people at the table have finished eating, keep them 'open' and when you're sure that everyone has finished (hmmm!) then close them as a signal to the waiters that they can clear your place. PS: we were taught at the girls's grammar school/convent that we should carefully push our food onto the downward pointed prongs of our forks in order to avoid dropping morsels of food all over the place. We also learned to eat soup by dipping our spoon into the liquid and filling it by gently pushing the soup 'away' from ourselves, it avoids potentially spilling soup onto one's clothing! As for toasting with wine glasses, etcetera, chinking the glasses together is a definite 'no no'... it is sufficient to raise the glass symbolically, just imagine chinking a fine cut glass and chipping it! Most etiquette is based on common sense and courtesy.

There was a selfie that a couple took & accidentally had the Queen in the background & she even smiled. They had a lovely surprise. There's a wonderful video of the Queen dancing to Dancing Queen. The Queen parachuting into the Olympics was funny. Of course she had a stunt double, but she left with James Bond from the movie. She had quite a sense of humor. I'm an American also, but loved her & shed many tears when she passed away. She was a national treasure & for many she still is. I hope you finally got to meet her.

Lovely,thank you! You look stunning in your gown!

Loving your energy! What a pleasure it must be for the family to have you as a part of it. I started with your home in Italy and here I am in royalty. Lucky for the Royals for sure 🌸

@AmericanViscountess

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

What a wonderful channel to find. It's quite nice to see one of our own give us a glimpse of the customs of the other side.

Loving these tips.

This is wonderful! Thank you!

Love this. You have worked so diligently to learn about the English traditions and society. You are a blessing to your family.

@patrickmckinley6679

2 жыл бұрын

Hi 👋 Lindsey, how are you doing?

This is just eating in Europe, even at home. One addition: When you have the point of the fork up, you have to change the grip. You have to keep your elbows next to your body. Don't leave the table during dinner.

@elisabethstrazzanti2312

2 жыл бұрын

So true !!!

@istvantoth5466

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed, I even doubt that those are originally British etiquettes, because they all came or from the Italian or French courts. Actually I suspect that the fact that the USA has such barbaric eating manners comes from the influences they had from the English immigrants some centuries ago.

@Braun30

2 жыл бұрын

@@istvantoth5466 not said, I presume the lack of table manners should be more connected to poor immigrants reaching the shores coming from conditions where table manners simply didn't exist. I would not expect such manners from a goat herder from Switzerland, a cheese maker from Campagna or a czikos from the puszta.

@istvantoth5466

2 жыл бұрын

@@Braun30 I really don't know. Probably you are right with the csikos, but the cheese maker from the Campagna? I live in Italy and I'm always again and again surprised on the hight educational quality also the simples people have here when it come to table manners. But I haven't seem this in the UK. :)

@Braun30

2 жыл бұрын

@@istvantoth5466 Campagna in the 1910s surely did have some good mozzarella makers but I presume their table manners were not the best. Ever seen pictures on how spaghetti were eaten in Naples at the time by the poor?

Thank you Viscountess. We Americans can always benefit from a good primer now & again. One never knows when an invitation may come… Please keep up the good word.

Oh Julie, I'm forever grateful to my late father. He was German and came to America at age 19, met my mother and stayed here lol. Well trust me, thanks to him we were taught all of the dinner manners, how to set the table properly. Yes at home every night we were made to set a full table both forks, both spoons. And YES how to properly cut and eat our food. Oh not too mention he taught ALL of our friends how to properly eat. It would drive him crazy when our friends would come over and hold the utensils wrong plus using the knife in between the tines of the fork 😂. But the good thing was they'd go home and teach their parents the proper way to eat😉. I'll never forget a friend came for dinner for the first time and mom had made German rouladens, cream potatoes and peas. 😂 well of course daddy had to show her how to eat and the peas were really the star of dinner because she had them rolling off going every where😂😂. Yes! That was a night I'll never forget. I love you sharing little things like this and about your life in the family, it's almost like all of these movies they've made such as The Prince and Me, they are relatable to you and your life in so many ways. Take care and God Bless ❤❤❤

I have really been enjoying your series. I just discovered it the other day (Jan 2022) (and subscribed) but have been bouncing between this and that ever since. I just recently learned about the "fork" differences (I am Canadian) and often think that, my, I had better never have a glass of wine with dinner, because I will be going hungry! My balance isn't that good! :D This is really an enjoyable (and educational) series! Just fantastic!

@AmericanViscountess

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you and welcome!

Very informative video. Thank you for sharing ❤️

Your outfit is flattering and lovely on you. Perfect colors.

Love the dress. Thanks for the tips.

So fascinating 👏 ❤

This is such a great channel, enjoy your style and energy, have seen your Mother in Law and husband so far, they are adorable. Good vibes coming from you all.

I love that you have embraced British aristocracy. Your a wonderful lady to listen to.

@roselee4445

2 жыл бұрын

No, I won't say it, unlike

Love this video. Thanks so much.

Other than the curtsey, this is the way my family and I eat all the time. Just one thing I'd like to clarify about using the fork, though. You start by pushing the tines of the fork into the edge of something firm, meat or potato for example. You hold it there while you use the knife to cut off the amount you're going to put in your mouth, which remains impaled on the fork. That then serves as the base on which to pile whatever else you want in that mouthful, so that it's stable as you convey it to your mouth. So it's not really such a balancing act, and it's not slow or inefficient because you're preparing the next mouthful while you're chewing the previous one.

@jacquiemoppett2391

2 жыл бұрын

This is how we all eat

@lornagall8318

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah the balancing thing is super weird. Also the scooping with tines up seems quite child-like. Is it really etiquette or just her family’s way. (I’m British btw). I’m wondering if she has picked this up incorrectly or someone is misleading her.

@gemoftheocean

2 жыл бұрын

@@lornagall8318 mashing food on the back of a fork seems "child-like" to most Americans, so on that score we'll call it even. Why do you think the fork is curved to begin with. Incidentally, before the Victorians started apeing the French you also switched hands.

Thank you for another great video. I wish more Americans would see this, ( I am an American) and take heed to table manners and etiquette, especially children. Some table manner I have seen are simply horrendous! Looking forward to your next video!

@AmericanViscountess

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching!

Your videos are informative and delightful.

MY mother has always strongly favored the Queen in looks, especially when both were in their late teens and early twenties; I often mentioned this to her to which she would laugh. I guess my observation skills were better than I thought since, according to somewhat recent genealogy research, this was confirmed as true by multiple sources; my mother is a cousin of the Queen, both being the 12th great granddaughters of Mary Boleyn. The Queen is a descendant of Mary's daughter, Catherine Carey, while our family are descendants of her brother, Henry Carey. To answer your question . . . we were not invited to the Jubilee . . . our invitation must have been lost in the mail. However, your tips may come in handy someday.

Former US Army. During our annual dining ins, if you made an etiquette mistake, someone could call you out and make you drink from the grog bowl or do something ridiculous. I miss those days.

@bieuxyongson

2 жыл бұрын

They were fun! I made a few trips to the grog bowl myself! USAF retired.

@lepolhart3242

2 жыл бұрын

What did they put in the grog bowl, did they piss in it. I've heard of some disgusting habits in the military.

@bieuxyongson

2 жыл бұрын

@@lepolhart3242 There was a time when it was no holds barred on the grog ingredients. I think they cleaned it up a bit after more ladies started to attend. But it was still some nasty stuff! The alcohol one was scary! But the non-alcohol could be pretty gross too. It was still all good fun! I never saw anyone lose their dinner after drinking it.

@louise-yo7kz

2 жыл бұрын

Dining ins are cool. I went to one only at Officer School. Too much rules

It might help when illustrating a curtsey to wear something to show what you are trying to describe doing with your legs.

Love,love,love yer stuff!

Enjoyed this very much!