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In this video, you will learn about 10 most COMMON etiquette mistakes that many people are guilty of.
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  • @danieljellers
    @danieljellers3 жыл бұрын

    Classic etiquette and good manners are timeless. But occasionally, in our fast-casual society, we need gentle reminders.

  • @peachluck1050

    @peachluck1050

    3 жыл бұрын

    Nicely stated. Thank you.

  • @Mahi-bx3zt

    @Mahi-bx3zt

    2 жыл бұрын

    Very true!

  • @user-el3up3jr8g
    @user-el3up3jr8g3 жыл бұрын

    Can we get a dressing etiquette ? I see people wearing anything on any situation 😣

  • @sonalideshmukh4484

    @sonalideshmukh4484

    3 жыл бұрын

    Good idea 👍

  • @kimplung8250

    @kimplung8250

    3 жыл бұрын

    Agree! Omg- I came to so many events, trying hard to dress up properly and most people wore casual on basically any occasion. I don't know what to wear anymore.

  • @meghnamathew7094

    @meghnamathew7094

    3 жыл бұрын

    try anna bey's channel

  • @wanda12411

    @wanda12411

    3 жыл бұрын

    Church is a big one.

  • @tresaduckworth1200

    @tresaduckworth1200

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes! Dressing over 40 would be nice too!

  • @gintarezvinkliene5018
    @gintarezvinkliene50183 жыл бұрын

    Hello, can You make a video about how to react to rude people? Or people who try to hurt, attack or humiliate other person? Love your videos ❤️

  • @lenkacorlannova9346

    @lenkacorlannova9346

    3 жыл бұрын

    Exactly what I would be interested in, too! 🙂

  • @girlhappy6442

    @girlhappy6442

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes great idea 👌🏻

  • @excxmoody

    @excxmoody

    3 жыл бұрын

    Agreed. I always try my hardest not to even respond but when it happens over years and years, cannot help but at some point give those that dish it out the same medicine.

  • @magdaforwomen2

    @magdaforwomen2

    3 жыл бұрын

    She did that in a video addressing rude comments

  • @gintarezvinkliene5018

    @gintarezvinkliene5018

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@magdaforwomen2 I know. I mean when you talk directly to people. Work, friends, family and so on

  • @kowen3377
    @kowen33772 жыл бұрын

    As my grandmother used to say about drinking tea "the higher the pinkie, the lower the class". So true.

  • @JamilaMusayeva

    @JamilaMusayeva

    2 жыл бұрын

    Exactly

  • @heidiluotolahti4305

    @heidiluotolahti4305

    Жыл бұрын

    Actually it does not matter that much.

  • @bae.is.cute.

    @bae.is.cute.

    11 ай бұрын

    @@heidiluotolahti4305alright bruh 🤡

  • @andreiadetavora8471

    @andreiadetavora8471

    6 ай бұрын

    My mom used to say this also!

  • @iamarnesh68
    @iamarnesh683 жыл бұрын

    Her face really reflects coolness and lot of manners and etiquettes. Really master in her work.

  • @tatjanakecman7236
    @tatjanakecman72363 жыл бұрын

    The pinky extended is considered as a asign of uneducated person in most of Europian countries.

  • @tellingpool

    @tellingpool

    3 жыл бұрын

    YES!

  • @pinkandgreen7681

    @pinkandgreen7681

    2 жыл бұрын

    It’s tacky and try-hard, i can’t believe she asked to extend the pinky and make sure it’s at an angle lolol

  • @bigmoneymedia4832

    @bigmoneymedia4832

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@pinkandgreen7681 So it's "pefect"!

  • @carlitosway1330

    @carlitosway1330

    2 жыл бұрын

    According to history, the pinky extended was used by French aristocracy (who were very promiscuous) as a sign to who had a venereal disease. When you raised your pinky, you were signaling to anyone who wanted to be with you that you had an STD, so they would know and others who had an STD would know. I learned this from a video by William Hanson who also addressed this faux pa. 🤘

  • @vanessa271

    @vanessa271

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@carlitosway1330 interesting factoid.

  • @emiks6612
    @emiks66123 жыл бұрын

    _Mistakes_ 0:27 1. Not thanking the gift giver on time. 1:09 2. Responding "no problem" to thank you. 1:51 3. Greeting people you do not know with "hey". 2:19 4. Man extending hand first to handshake woman in a *social setting* . 3:22 5. Sneezing in your right hand palm. 4:01 6. Pointing at people with fingers. 4:35 7. Misspelling or mispronouncing someone's name. 6:05 8. Placing utensils on the table after using them. 6:34 9. Confusing the drinking glasses. 7:44 10. Sticking pinkie out when holding a tea cup.

  • @angelenakashatok5925

    @angelenakashatok5925

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes, people mispronounce my name and my name is not that difficult.

  • @np1139
    @np11393 жыл бұрын

    Love the “there’s no need to extend your pinky” Queen of Shade.

  • @KyCandicee
    @KyCandicee3 жыл бұрын

    Yes to a series of these (:

  • @PS-ey9qn

    @PS-ey9qn

    3 жыл бұрын

    I I I I I

  • @theoptimist3246

    @theoptimist3246

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes please

  • @sadiaaa1373

    @sadiaaa1373

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes!

  • @genesisxxli

    @genesisxxli

    3 жыл бұрын

    yes please!

  • @lizejewellery1211

    @lizejewellery1211

    3 жыл бұрын

    YES!

  • @nashmianorhan5193
    @nashmianorhan51933 жыл бұрын

    I definitely feel bad when someone mispells my name even after i correct them politely.

  • @trankimanh4830

    @trankimanh4830

    3 жыл бұрын

    Agree. Mine was even worse. One of my friend used to call me by another girl's name a few times until I got so annoyed and he said "what's the big deal? Just a name" :/ yet some people claim they do this by mistake and it's not their intention but still, unacceptable.

  • @well-knownsnoozer3385

    @well-knownsnoozer3385

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes! Admin workers are always too lazy to spell my name correctly, even though I already showed them my birth certificate / ID. Why are names so undermined? They're precious.

  • @agnesfrank2734

    @agnesfrank2734

    3 жыл бұрын

    Do you mean "misspells"????

  • @soniaf7794

    @soniaf7794

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@agnesfrank2734 Thank you for your comment. I have a hard to pronounce first and last name, but it does not bother me because life is too short and I rather to focus in important things and forget trivial ones. Maybe Nashmia Norhan will realize now that "misspells" happen everyday to everybody!

  • @foreveranelf9653

    @foreveranelf9653

    3 жыл бұрын

    this is the whole reason titles were invented. If feeling unsure, just address by titles. This is fairly common in Asian countries and even in Europe, but nowadays I feel Europe has adopted the American way.

  • @-lavender-777
    @-lavender-7773 жыл бұрын

    Extending the pinkie was used in the high classes of old France to show that the person is single, available and interested in someone on the table. It is definitely not recommended anymore by multiple etiquette teachers.

  • @sbffsbrarbrr

    @sbffsbrarbrr

    2 жыл бұрын

    How interesting!

  • @alisameiah5035

    @alisameiah5035

    2 жыл бұрын

    i extend my pinkie because my pinkie is short and cannot reach to whatever i am holding in my hand.

  • @jerrymiller2367

    @jerrymiller2367

    2 жыл бұрын

    I wonder if this is where the admonition to "mind your p's and q's" comes from. The letters p and q on a keyboard are typed using the pinky fingers. And it wasn't that long ago that we were taught to extend our pinkies as the "proper" way to hold a drink. I remember it in the 1960s and it was regarded as a semi-automatic position of the fingers that you didn't really have to think about once you got in the habit.

  • @parkbanjam
    @parkbanjam2 жыл бұрын

    You made learning etiquette very interesting and positive. You are a role model. Thank you Jamila for inspiring us to become good people 🙂

  • @JamilaMusayeva

    @JamilaMusayeva

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much!

  • @Usefulmusic

    @Usefulmusic

    11 ай бұрын

    @@JamilaMusayeva No problem.

  • @lithishaislam234

    @lithishaislam234

    6 ай бұрын

    ​@@UsefulmusicYou've just made the mistake.

  • @Usefulmusic

    @Usefulmusic

    6 ай бұрын

    I was being naughty.

  • @lithishaislam234

    @lithishaislam234

    6 ай бұрын

    @@Usefulmusic naughty?

  • @fantabulousstargirl
    @fantabulousstargirl3 жыл бұрын

    I personally think more young people are saying "no problem" instead of your welcome in certain scenarios because often times favors and other requests are "burdens", especially if they are for people who are not immediate family or close friends. They are not always "welcome" to my time and favors and sometimes it's not necessarily a pleasure to work for them.

  • @Shay45

    @Shay45

    3 жыл бұрын

    For younger people too “You’re Welcome” will come off wrong. Many people use it for sarcasm or if they are annoyed with a request.

  • @lovelylittlegirl3332
    @lovelylittlegirl33323 жыл бұрын

    She is so effortlessly elegant and gentle!! Her voice sounds like a gentle pat of the back

  • @bitovroman7941
    @bitovroman79413 жыл бұрын

    Such a classy and well-mannered woman you are! If everyone in this world was as polite as you it would have been a much better place to live. My personal mistake from the list in this video is that once I offered a handshake to a woman and she felt awkward about it and refused it,so my hand was just miserably hanging there...a good lesson but learned with blood :(

  • @qed456

    @qed456

    Жыл бұрын

    that must have been mortifying for yourself and the lady. Much better to learn this etiquette that in a social setting a lady outranks a man and then a lot of sub etiquette like walking a lady home , allowing her to sit first follow naturally

  • @arvindkala5191
    @arvindkala519111 ай бұрын

    I am from India. This Video on social etiquette was superb. The lady is super thin, soft-spoken, quick, speaks very few words, but conveys her meaning fast Excellent. I would like to hear more of her common sense.😅

  • @goldenoak8164

    @goldenoak8164

    11 ай бұрын

    Ò

  • @relaxwhc
    @relaxwhc3 жыл бұрын

    Excellent content, this is much better than watching other programs like National Geographic. Any fan of Jamila? Please raise your hand ✋

  • @Lip22Gloss

    @Lip22Gloss

    3 жыл бұрын

  • @hillerychan9483

    @hillerychan9483

    3 жыл бұрын

  • @mansoor3159

    @mansoor3159

    3 жыл бұрын

    ✋🏻

  • @ezgibb

    @ezgibb

    3 жыл бұрын

    love her and her content im obsessed 🥰

  • @mansoor3159

    @mansoor3159

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@ezgibb correct❤️

  • @lasusurradoradegatos
    @lasusurradoradegatos3 жыл бұрын

    The topic about names is so true! My name is Cristina and specially when I get email answers from people outside Spain they usually write my name so wrong! I get emails every day like this: Christina, Kristin, Christine, Cristiana...and most of times they're replying an email from me with my signature on it. I find it so incredibly rude and annoying! I usually take my time to find out how to write other persons name correctly even if there's times when my keyboard doesn't even allows me to do it as there are names from other countries that have more symbols we don't use here.

  • @well-knownsnoozer3385

    @well-knownsnoozer3385

    3 жыл бұрын

    Same with me. Admin workers always misspell my name :(

  • @tinabean713

    @tinabean713

    3 жыл бұрын

    I feel for you. I used to work for a woman named Margarita and so many people would either misspell or mispronounce her name Marguerite, and it confused me because no one ever mispronounces the drink.

  • @shayk.393

    @shayk.393

    3 жыл бұрын

    if it isn’t spelled correctly- it isn’t your name !

  • @rubinsteinway

    @rubinsteinway

    2 жыл бұрын

    When you make the effort you are showing respect. They are not.

  • @DonaCrane

    @DonaCrane

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@shayk.393 That's exactly how I feel!

  • @ooooo000ooooo
    @ooooo000ooooo3 жыл бұрын

    I’d just like to share my thoughts from someone who uses “no problem” more. I’ve heard it more often among young people. The reason I prefer it over “you’re welcome” is because to me, YW sounds like it’s redirecting it back to the person thanking like “you’re free to ask for help again” when I just wanted to focus on complimenting the other person for their help. NP is like reassurance to me that they weren’t burdened by doing a favor. That’s why I personally like it more and prefer hearing that back. I definitely agree that YW is a more “proper” expression. Older people also tend to like it more. Just wanted to share my thoughts as someone on NP who doesn’t intend any malice from it lol

  • @isa9964

    @isa9964

    3 жыл бұрын

    I definitely agree with you. I've heard people say, "You're welcome" so snobbishly like, "Oh, I know you couldn't handle it on your own." (This is just my experience.) And it grates on my nerves and makes me not want to reach out for help. I've always thought of, "no problem" as a shorten version of, "It was no problem helping you." But that could just be me.

  • @logitek7778

    @logitek7778

    3 жыл бұрын

    I also agree with you.

  • @jhonsmith5710

    @jhonsmith5710

    3 жыл бұрын

    I think "you're welcome" is almost condensing. As saying "I'm doing you a favor." No problem sounds to me like "it wasn't a big deal. Don't worry about it." But I always just say "my pleasure" just because I feel it's the most neutral out of the 3. Context might also depend tho.

  • @Shay45

    @Shay45

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@jhonsmith5710 I hate to agree with you but I COMPLETELY agree. With “You’re Welcome” all I hear in my head is “I’m doing you a favor” which is something that I DO NOT like

  • @andrewtenorio3195

    @andrewtenorio3195

    2 жыл бұрын

    I was actually going to make a comment about this very subject. I completely agree "You're Welcome" just doesn't work in our society today. As language changes so did the context of "You're Welcome" as it's now seen as condescending and snobbish.

  • @lenkacorlannova9346
    @lenkacorlannova93463 жыл бұрын

    I would be interested in a video about how to react with etiquette to someone who behaves without etiquette.

  • @jennymarms

    @jennymarms

    3 жыл бұрын

    😂

  • @sadiaaa1373

    @sadiaaa1373

    3 жыл бұрын

    All of Jamila's viewers started off by basically learning how to be human and now we've leveled up to how to deal with _others_ that don't behave properly 😂

  • @charisma3479

    @charisma3479

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes me too

  • @Chahlie

    @Chahlie

    3 жыл бұрын

    You aren't supposed to react to them as that would expose their failings, which they may not know.

  • @paolamura3497

    @paolamura3497

    11 ай бұрын

    Ignore any mistakes.

  • @dlbk
    @dlbk3 жыл бұрын

    Finally, I meet someone who thinks the same about how important it is to pay attention to others' names! I don't understand nowadays how it still possible that people misspell your name, most of the time you can just copy and paste it if you have any doubts!

  • @IrishChola7
    @IrishChola7 Жыл бұрын

    Most of these are just plain common sense. Unfortunately, decent manners seem to be lost on so many people these days. Thank you for a wonderful, classy video! Hopefully everyone who views it will learn some valuable lessons. 💜

  • @agnestaupelyte1096
    @agnestaupelyte1096 Жыл бұрын

    I am so happy that I have found Jamila! This information is timeless and extremely helpful for everyone. Thank you for your meaningful work and the knowledge that you share :)

  • @JamilaMusayeva

    @JamilaMusayeva

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much ☺️

  • @christinedhari6970
    @christinedhari697011 ай бұрын

    Thank you Jamila for reminding me that I should still be following ways I was brought up with. In this day and age most of the people around me don't follow any etiquette at all but that shouldn't mean that I should forget my Mother's teaching. I found the tea cup holding session interesting. I've been told and have seen that the pinky is held up when drinking tea. I must admit my pinky automatically tends to stick out a little bit when holding my tea cup but not held up. I will practice tucking it in from now.

  • @katr9923
    @katr99233 жыл бұрын

    that "no problem" response is so funny and takes me back to my childhood in the Midwest of the US. It's a very common inside joke among people who grew up in that area and for some reason particularly if you were raised in the Lutheran Church to use the phrase "no problem". I'm still trying to break myself of that habit.

  • @absvkgaming2223
    @absvkgaming22233 жыл бұрын

    She Is beautiful, elegant and a perfect idol all of us who are obsessed with etiquettes so much... Thank you for another polite video.

  • @girlhappy6442

    @girlhappy6442

    3 жыл бұрын

    @Godly Woman she should be an idol then our world would’ve been better. Jamila is an inspirational idol ❤️

  • @foxesruler
    @foxesruler3 жыл бұрын

    Jamila, you have done an excellent job! I am glad that some people in 2021 still remember and worry about etiquette. Now, when you think about it - all these etiquette things are actually logic - aren't they? If you're in a formal social setting, all these moves and rules are something decent people would probably come up with themselves more or less. Keeping the cloth clean, being respectful, giving the advantages to women, etc - they all make sense. After all, we want our guests or friends feel good around us - right? Carry on the good job!

  • @elizabethheather2543
    @elizabethheather25433 жыл бұрын

    Sophistication at its finest Yes, that's Jamila 😵❤️✨

  • @neethunazareth
    @neethunazareth3 жыл бұрын

    I clearly remember my physical education instructor who gave me a rap on the knuckles in 5th grade, while he was supervising our class during lunch break to make sure we were all following dining etiquette. My pinky finger was pointing outwards while eating and he corrected me that it was impolite to point your pinky while eating or drinking. The lesson stays with me till today.😀

  • @maryhanwael8745
    @maryhanwael87453 жыл бұрын

    This is the probably the first time ever for me to request some video from a KZreadr and here it is awe you’re the sweetest💕

  • @laibakausar8161
    @laibakausar81612 жыл бұрын

    The b&d technique is so helpful, I always used to forget where to put my breads, I guess not anymore. I have seen many videos where people suggest to extend the pinky out and I always find it frustrating. Thank you for correcting.

  • @JamilaMusayeva

    @JamilaMusayeva

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are welcome 🤗

  • @alevtina7403
    @alevtina74033 жыл бұрын

    I am an ESL student and I thought that " No problem" means that the person who did a favor to you didn't have any problems to help you that time.

  • @Chahlie

    @Chahlie

    3 жыл бұрын

    What went through my mind was the reply I was taught in Spanish 'de nada' or 'it's nothing' so..... mind you I never felt comfortable saying that though.

  • @lynnebattaglia-triggs1042

    @lynnebattaglia-triggs1042

    3 жыл бұрын

    To me, it says I was possibly a problem. Just say “you’re welcome!”

  • @pinkandgreen7681

    @pinkandgreen7681

    2 жыл бұрын

    It’s not wrong to say, it’s just not formal

  • @brittneydawn2429
    @brittneydawn24293 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for these videos!!!!! I can’t tell you how much I need them! I feel so much more confident in social settings 💜

  • @sbffsbrarbrr
    @sbffsbrarbrr2 жыл бұрын

    I can't imagine what I watched recently so that your video showed up in my feed. But I am happy to say "thank you" to the KZread algorithm gods. While I knew about most of these common mistakes, it's still nice to know that I am doing something right. Plus, you and your presentation are both so elegant that I just had to subscribe and see more. I think we all can use refresher courses on proper etiquette for various situations, especially nowadays when it seems that anything goes.

  • @ma.9029
    @ma.90292 жыл бұрын

    The “no problem” always sounded weird to me, English is not my first language and when I learned it I would always answer with You’re welcome or My pleasure but many teachers told me this wouldn’t sound natural at all, but for me No problem could give a wrong idea as you’ve said of burden, so I’m glad at least I was doing it the right way.

  • @sarahsyed-chaudhry1724
    @sarahsyed-chaudhry17243 жыл бұрын

    You have a great teaching style. Its efficient, informative and pleasant. Thank you for putting in so much effort into your videos ❤

  • @girlhappy6442
    @girlhappy64423 жыл бұрын

    This is the content KZread needs 👍🏻 Such an extraordinary and unique channel. I’m in love with it 😍

  • @queenchiomaofficial
    @queenchiomaofficial2 жыл бұрын

    Such great etiquette tips! Thanks for sharing. I’ve noticed that I don’t like it when someone says ‘Hi’ to me (whether they know me or not). I think it’s because I work in PR so I’m used to going the extra mile in terms of politeness and also because of my Nigerian heritage. Nigerians generally expect you to say ‘Hello’, ‘Good Morning’, ‘Good afternoon’ or ‘Good evening’. 😊

  • @JamilaMusayeva

    @JamilaMusayeva

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are welcome

  • @gusmonster59
    @gusmonster593 жыл бұрын

    The name issue - I have a an uncommon last name (uncommon in America) that isn't pronounced as it looks. No one purposely mispronounces it, it often spelled in very creative ways. I can see how this can also being an issue with uncommon first or foreign names. Unless some is named 'Mary' and someone else goes out their way to mispronounce it, I can't see a mispronunciation as an etiquette blunder.

  • @ajs11201

    @ajs11201

    11 ай бұрын

    Like many things, I'd say that context matters here. If two folks are meeting for the first time, then messing up a name is understandable. However, I was recently attending a staff event, and one of the big bosses entered to give thanks to the front line staff, and he blundered a few of the names. Mind you, the "big boss" is at least four levels up on the org chart from those he thanked, but it's really a horrible look that he didn't take the time to learn the names of those he intended to publicly thank since they all do indeed work for him, albeit indirectly.

  • @JodiYeager
    @JodiYeager11 ай бұрын

    My mother did a pretty good job of teaching her children basic etiquette. The only rule I was ignorant of was the proper way to drink tea. Thank you for the clear directions. I will endeavor to remember that in future. Thank you also for the video, I enjoyed it very much.

  • @TheKatherine1958
    @TheKatherine19582 жыл бұрын

    Hello Jamila, What a happy occurrence in finding your video come through my feed on KZread! I was raised having etiquette as a most important part of my life. Recently though, I had a person tell me that I was: “old school” and that etiquette was ‘dead’! It seems this kind of thinking is partially the reason the world we live in is in such a horrible situation. So I thank you ever so much.

  • @farah9583
    @farah95833 жыл бұрын

    I aspire to be as elegant and polite and well spoken as you 🥺 you’re doing great !

  • @tysongames2750
    @tysongames27502 жыл бұрын

    Oh my gosh! I'm a man who knows about the handshake thing, but in my small town of local yokels, I've had women get angry with me for not offering my hand first. Even worse! The people in my town very often eat off of each other's plates during dinner 🤮.

  • @kasiaa7675
    @kasiaa76753 жыл бұрын

    I just wanted to say that I love your videos. Watching you and gaining the etiquette knowledge is a pleasure.

  • @chandlersampson
    @chandlersampson2 жыл бұрын

    Your skin. Your confidence. Your knowledge. Thank you 💗

  • @Liliana-uh6lw
    @Liliana-uh6lw3 жыл бұрын

    wow Tommy Hilfiger's wife was very serious about the pinkie belonging to etiquette 😂

  • @ballerinadunord2349

    @ballerinadunord2349

    3 жыл бұрын

    American. Nuff said.

  • @palomaisme

    @palomaisme

    3 жыл бұрын

    Money and fame don't give you neither elegance nor education. That's what my parents always told me.

  • @kennethgrener

    @kennethgrener

    3 жыл бұрын

    I was told that the pinky is only for women. Men should never. And we should use 2 fingers (against thumb) to hold the cup

  • @frenchygigi

    @frenchygigi

    3 жыл бұрын

    Money can't buy somethings

  • @kyupin1075

    @kyupin1075

    3 жыл бұрын

    i thought she was joking, she seemed kinda sarcastic lol

  • @hanibee22
    @hanibee223 жыл бұрын

    Yes I love etiquette series 👍🏼 Never get tired of it 😍

  • @biblicallyaccuratecockroach
    @biblicallyaccuratecockroach3 жыл бұрын

    In regards to the "no problem" point, I've seen it argued that it's a generational shift, old school versus new school ways of thinking. The old way of responding "you're welcome", since it refers directly to the other person, can sound more agressive, and implies that you just did the other person a favour, that you took trouble onto you and now they're indebted to you. While the new response "no problem" outright states it wasn't a problem to you to do the thing for the other person, it didn't inconvenience you in any way, and you did it because you wanted to. I'm a millennial, so a newer generation, and new school, and I do not like "you're welcome" because it sounds sarcastic to me, and I much prefer "no problem" for the reasons stated above. "My pleasure" is a bit of a middle ground, old school formality but without the direct confrontation of "you're welcome", since you're referring to yourself like you do with "no problem", sparing the other person from the discomfort of being directly referenced.

  • @supriyaarunnair

    @supriyaarunnair

    3 жыл бұрын

    True. Whenever I say no problem, I genuinely mean that it was literally not even a bother for me.

  • @bannedcommander2932

    @bannedcommander2932

    3 жыл бұрын

    It's more of an issue of setting and culture. In America, no one will think worse of you for saying "no problem", unless you're in an extremely formal setting. That said, I think considering "you're welcome" aggressive is a bit extreme.

  • @starstuff5324

    @starstuff5324

    3 жыл бұрын

    i’ve asked older people about that because “no problem” is what naturally comes out as a response, and none of them have seen an issue with it. i feel the same way you described, all i mean when i say it is to alleviate anyone’s concern that they might be bothering me or being a burden. maybe it just stems from my own anxiety asking anyone for help. 🥴

  • @user-mo8oh7kp6h

    @user-mo8oh7kp6h

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@bannedcommander2932 am I the only one here response to (thank you) with ( don't mention it) . OK .

  • @tinabean713

    @tinabean713

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@user-mo8oh7kp6h No, I hear that one quite a bit

  • @JeanDee
    @JeanDee3 жыл бұрын

    I really appreciate this. In my opinion, it's easier for people to start with mistakes to avoid than to start habits they might not find themselves needing.

  • @paraspereira6263
    @paraspereira62633 жыл бұрын

    Loved the video. Yes a series is welcome. Thank you so much.

  • @restisetya2611
    @restisetya2611 Жыл бұрын

    These etiquette are really needed altough it's common and sometimes people do not care about that, but for upgrade your attitude and get respected by others. Thank you for these advice I would love to practice when i'm in situation.

  • @rebekahjalali6435
    @rebekahjalali64353 жыл бұрын

    I LOVED this video! Such good basic information and guidance, plus the bonus is your gentle and elegant manner of speaking. i look forward to many more! thanks.

  • @basakburakci1698
    @basakburakci16983 жыл бұрын

    I'm so lucky to watch your videos and improve myself. You are like a sister to me, thank you dear ❤ -Greetings from Turkey xo

  • @mjr8791
    @mjr87912 жыл бұрын

    Simply loved it!! Just subscribed! What the world misses actually is elegance!! People usually mix being casual with being impolite.. :( That makes the world terribly unpleasant...

  • @janiegolden5338
    @janiegolden533811 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much Jamila for the classic etiquette video!

  • @MikSonus
    @MikSonus3 жыл бұрын

    Just so soothing. I love your quiet confidence. 💜

  • @anastasiatokar5239
    @anastasiatokar52393 жыл бұрын

    Wow! Very interesting topic! You could totally make a part 2. 😊 PS. The white looks beautiful on you💖

  • @dinotherugger4040
    @dinotherugger404011 ай бұрын

    Almost everything you said here was taught to me by my mum ❤

  • @amupitanadenike6556
    @amupitanadenike655611 ай бұрын

    Wow! I love your tone of communication and I love the teaching. Thank you so much.

  • @auberjean6873
    @auberjean687311 ай бұрын

    ✨ Ms. Jamila Musayeva ✨ I enjoyed your video so much. It reminded me of what my mother taught me when I was very young. It was also nice to hear someone speak English without slang, or "um" cluttering up their speech. You have such a lovely voice that I had to subscribe. Thank you, Ms. Jamila, for posting this video. May you bring manners back so they are commonplace.

  • @TheConfusername
    @TheConfusername3 жыл бұрын

    Another good etiquette rule for men shaking hands with women: don't use the same power grip you use with other men. Women generally appreciate having their hands treated like baby birds. They will not think less of you for refraining to fracture their phalanxes.

  • @patrickkobolt3069

    @patrickkobolt3069

    3 жыл бұрын

    Precisely.

  • @bitethatbullet7054

    @bitethatbullet7054

    2 жыл бұрын

    .... are women’s hands so delicate that they can’t stand a normal handshake? I don’t think so.

  • @TheConfusername

    @TheConfusername

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@bitethatbullet7054 Most women's hands are indeed more delicate than men's in terms of muscles and bone density and while you may have the good sense not to go overboard, I've encountered many a well-meaning gentleman who inadvertently communicated the opposite of friendliness with an overzealous grip. I'm just saying it's better to err on the side of gentleness.

  • @jerrymiller2367

    @jerrymiller2367

    2 жыл бұрын

    At my wedding reception I shook the hand of an elderly lady. My thoughts were to give a firm handshake, which I was taught was a sign of respect and interest for the other person and it makes you look sincere. Well, I did and she cried out in pain. It turned out she had arthritis in her hands and my "firm" (but not too firm!) handshake was much too hard for her. Live and learn! Now, with older women I might let their hand drape over mine and just lift their hand---not going as far as to kiss their hand, but sort of like that gesture, along with a smile and greeting. And even with younger women I'm reluctant to shake their hand "too" hard" or long, as I would for a man, as they might see it as sexual harassment or a sexual assault. Best to leave them alone.

  • @wendigo1919

    @wendigo1919

    Жыл бұрын

    I would hate if a man treated my hand like that of a baby bird when shaking it. How off-putting. I appreciate a proper handshake. It should be logical to not do so to an elderly person, or someone that appears frail due to health reasons. A proper, firm hand speaks volumes.. coming from a man, or from a woman. Wimpy hand shakes freak me out.

  • @girlhappy6442
    @girlhappy64423 жыл бұрын

    you are such an inspiration ❤️

  • @erinchim9497
    @erinchim94973 жыл бұрын

    Great video once again! You never disappoint- keep up the phenomenal work!💞

  • @farnooshparsa5215
    @farnooshparsa52153 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Jamila, your content is always educational and helpful ❤

  • @rimadas1910
    @rimadas19103 жыл бұрын

    I definitely need a series..!💕

  • @francespike9780
    @francespike97803 жыл бұрын

    Mistake #8 - placing cutlery. I've never seen anyone return cutlery to the table after using it. When pausing - two cutlery items are placed in an inverted V, as demonstrated. When finished and to signal place can be removed by waiting staff - cutlery items are placed side by side - not at 6 o'clock but at the angle as first demonstrated.

  • @ilariamasullo3353
    @ilariamasullo33533 жыл бұрын

    please Jamila, give us more videos like this one! I find them super helpful ☺

  • @kimgisedai9780
    @kimgisedai97803 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for listing these. I knew quite a few already, but I am guilty of the "sticking the pinky out" club when it came to tea. I'll be sure to correct myself and my children the next little tea party we have.

  • @PeacePlease.
    @PeacePlease.11 ай бұрын

    It's SO refreshing to see someone actually talk about good etiquette!! I remember I used to enjoy reading Miss Manners books in large print at the library, when my daughter was a little girl & a book worm!? It's sad that people simply don't pay attention to table manners, at all and good etiquette seems to be fading away & considered UNnecessary - like good hand writing. I think both are important, but my children & their friends would probably disagree!?

  • @sheilaterranovabeasley1966

    @sheilaterranovabeasley1966

    10 ай бұрын

    Miss manners was also terribly funny!

  • @PeacePlease.

    @PeacePlease.

    10 ай бұрын

    @@sheilaterranovabeasley1966 Funny🤨!?

  • @sheilaterranovabeasley1966

    @sheilaterranovabeasley1966

    10 ай бұрын

    @@PeacePlease. She had a hilarious dry sense of humor. I remember her replying to a woman who tripped and fell into an avocado dip causing a wardrobe malfunction at a cocktail party. The woman wondered what one should do in this particular circumstance? Her response was quite amusing referencing how often does this happen? Etc etc. she’d call rude guests mr. And mrs . dreadful…Miss manners was a hoot.

  • @PeacePlease.

    @PeacePlease.

    10 ай бұрын

    @@sheilaterranovabeasley1966 Intelligent people usually have a good sense of humor so I don't doubt it. It's been some years, I guess I either missed out, or don't remember details about her. ✌&💖2U!!

  • @staceykersting705
    @staceykersting7053 жыл бұрын

    I surprised we don't all know these basic tips. Another favorite of mine is: make sure to hold the door open for anyone behind you. If someone has a heavy bag or bundle (or sleepy toddler) make sure to hold the door so they can precede you.

  • @jerrymiller2367

    @jerrymiller2367

    2 жыл бұрын

    In the building where I work, the Chinese students ALWAYS let me off the elevator first or through a doorway first, and without making a big deal about it or even making eye contact. It's because I'm older than most of them, and it's deeply ingrained in their culture to do this. It's kind of nice.

  • @Clolou
    @Clolou3 жыл бұрын

    Great video. In Britain the ring finger and pinky should follow the angle of the rest of the fingers they shouldn't be tucked away.

  • @clementinepeaches
    @clementinepeaches3 жыл бұрын

    As always, amazing informative video. Thank you, Jamila.

  • @okiedokey3106
    @okiedokey31063 жыл бұрын

    I just subscribed today and this video look's like a gift.🥰 To be honest I really find uncomfortable when someone who doesn't know use "HEY" to address and I would be like where is your manner's in my mind. Will be doing all this thing's in my daily life even if it is with my class mate Thank you

  • @rachelgreen6668
    @rachelgreen66683 жыл бұрын

    Wow ! What a video! I love your elegance 💛

  • @Silkelovesit
    @Silkelovesit3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you , Jamila. I liked this video and would love to see more on this topic!

  • @shuchijain-dm7216
    @shuchijain-dm72163 жыл бұрын

    Loved it. Your way of speaking is so calming.

  • @shrutisuvarna5794
    @shrutisuvarna57943 жыл бұрын

    This was so helpful. Thank you so much❤

  • @samikshabagadia8669
    @samikshabagadia86693 жыл бұрын

    Hello! I really loved this video and I love your channel. I am looking forward to seeing more content like this. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us!

  • @h069401
    @h0694015 ай бұрын

    Guilty of most of these, over many years from mostly not knowing any better - so, lots of room for improvement for me in 2024. All ten sound like easy to keep, common sense New Year resolutions. I started your book on etiquette and was very impressed by all of it. Particularly the content. The cover, embossing, illustrations and even the silky bookmark all have your signature effect - elegant and first glance, then life changing upon further inspection. Well done Jamila!

  • @janetgonzalez7883
    @janetgonzalez78833 жыл бұрын

    Jamila, excellent content as always! Thank you!

  • @hel_9155
    @hel_91553 жыл бұрын

    The handshaking part is on point.. I cant handshake men for religious reasons, i ve been uncomfortable shaking their hands because i dont want them to feel embarrassed, but lately i just prefer to stick to my principles, i gently put my two hands on my chest and smile saying good morning so they dont extend their hands.. But i met rude men unfortunately, they extend their hands and when i say that i am. Sorry i cant, they be like upset all day and hold grudges..

  • @federicoytbe

    @federicoytbe

    3 жыл бұрын

    What happens if you are greeted by a man who must handshake women for religious reasons? Whose religion takes precedence?

  • @sarahinsf

    @sarahinsf

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@federicoytbe What religion asks that of men?

  • @helensemrau7442

    @helensemrau7442

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sorry, hard to get past, “They be like” in a business setting.

  • @qed456

    @qed456

    Жыл бұрын

    As a lady you have every right not to offer or accept a handshake from a man. If you offer your hand the man should accept

  • @hel_9155

    @hel_9155

    Жыл бұрын

    @@federicoytbe 1 year ago and this is when i see your question, your freedom ends when other people's freedom begins, this is a consentual act, you cant force someone to do a handshake, you are crossing their boundaries, but you are free to decline them or accept their approach to a handshake. You can decline handshakes because of many reasons : one of them is that not many people wash their hands ;) and also i dont like touching people.

  • @carminaalaniz4301
    @carminaalaniz43013 жыл бұрын

    yes!!! more etiquette videos pls

  • @suffragettesoul2687
    @suffragettesoul26873 жыл бұрын

    In cross-cultural settings the matter of pronouncing correctly comes with limitations, some of them out of the control of the speaker, some able to be improved in time based on the grade or multilingual erudition, musical ear, the mother tongue and how close or far it is from the language of the name. The throat is genetically designed as a flute for the sounds of the mother tongue. This is why the young can modify it it and the old don't due to the level of elasticity.

  • @Vidagal222
    @Vidagal2223 жыл бұрын

    This is a refresher and helpful for social graces esp the position of the drink, butter and bread and how to drink tea. Thank you!

  • @sanasajid1117
    @sanasajid11173 жыл бұрын

    I loved this video, and yes I would love a series of this video.. ❤️❤️❤️ One suggestion, can you make a video on how to stay productive and plan your day for students.. that'll be really helpful for a lot of us ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @yenniavendano9360
    @yenniavendano93603 жыл бұрын

    I loved these tips. I have to agree in regards to our names. I try so hard for others and am so taken aback when people say my name incorrectly. Maybe we can get a reactions video? On how to respond with etiquette when someone does something like saying our name wrong.

  • @lilianacolodeeva2412
    @lilianacolodeeva24123 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, dear Jamila!

  • @roger3584
    @roger35842 жыл бұрын

    I really watched this one all the way through and I learned a lot today I appreciate you sharing this and how you going to do these videos this is really a good idea you doing all 10 steps that right there is what's going to flip the switch and make whoever listens to it have better manners and again thank you very much

  • @mansoor3159
    @mansoor31593 жыл бұрын

    Tysm Jamila for giving tips on 10 most common etiquette mistakes I will not try and I am very happy that you explain me♥️♥️😍🙈✨😊🥰❤️🥰

  • @jerrymiller2367
    @jerrymiller23672 жыл бұрын

    Excellent video, Jamila; thank you. You have to wonder where "you're welcome" came from, and what was said before that became common. Apparently many people infer too much formality is present when one says "you're welcome" , or even a mild or implied insult, depending on the tone of voice and other context. And what about the French "Je vous en prie" which means "you're welcome" in English, but literally means "I pray for you." That certainly could be perceived as an insult too !

  • @missamy6403
    @missamy64033 жыл бұрын

    I loved this video, please do a series of these! 💕

  • @rengo9773
    @rengo97733 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your knowledge. Really loved the content.

  • @NothingInMyChannel
    @NothingInMyChannel2 жыл бұрын

    This was super helpful and well explained! Thank you, Jamila!

  • @JamilaMusayeva

    @JamilaMusayeva

    2 жыл бұрын

    Welcome 🤗

  • @mirandablair8850
    @mirandablair88503 жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad you brought up this topic! You and Anna Bey are the queens of self development 💜💜

  • @lenkacorlannova9346

    @lenkacorlannova9346

    3 жыл бұрын

    Wow, I am also a fan of Jamila and Anna 😍

  • @nikitamisra.

    @nikitamisra.

    3 жыл бұрын

    Me too

  • @Strutability

    @Strutability

    3 жыл бұрын

    I love them both :)

  • @dianejames9663

    @dianejames9663

    3 жыл бұрын

    They are not of the same class 😱

  • @peabeam6231

    @peabeam6231

    3 жыл бұрын

    Please, don't compare her to Jamila. They are miles apart. Jamila has Class.

  • @jmkweeks
    @jmkweeks3 жыл бұрын

    Your videos are very well done and informative! Thank you for sharing them!

  • @raquelisla7368
    @raquelisla73683 жыл бұрын

    Hi Jamila! It would be a pleasure to keep on listening to you explain other mistakes in depth . 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🌹

  • @petravandermeulen4751
    @petravandermeulen47513 жыл бұрын

    Loved it! Especially the point about a person's name. I have been told so many times how I "should" pronounce my name. Thank you for this video. Please continue.

  • @JamilaMusayeva

    @JamilaMusayeva

    3 жыл бұрын

    You are welcome

  • @IrishChola7

    @IrishChola7

    Жыл бұрын

    People actually dictate how you should pronounce your own name?? Geez, that's terrible. 😧

  • @___lbl3849
    @___lbl38493 жыл бұрын

    Thank you very much, Lady Jamila! Such an inspiring video. Hehe As you mentioned when people respond to "Thank you" as 'No problem" I feel uncertain as If I made a person do a favour against their will. "My pleasure" or "You are welcome" sound right for me as well. 😄

  • @Shay45

    @Shay45

    3 жыл бұрын

    If someone says “No Problem” it usually means that is was no problem. If someone says “You’re Welcome” it could have been a burden to them OR it was no burden at all. You never know.

  • @___lbl3849

    @___lbl3849

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@Shay45 Oops Not for me. "No problem" sounds rude to me. :))))

  • @susancoleman1036
    @susancoleman103611 ай бұрын

    Loved this!

  • @LittleSanch
    @LittleSanch3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Jamila! ✨ It was a very informative video.

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