I felt it as a good advice . Since I was planning to stay with my son even after his marriage. Now i feel it otherwise

@aarvind3901

Жыл бұрын

Please madam , don’t do that , you will loose respext

@ashwinipatangay3451

Жыл бұрын

Very true

@Creations12381

Жыл бұрын

Yes it's true never do that mistake

@newbiekhyber

Жыл бұрын

There's a difference between you staying with your son, and your son (and his wife) staying with you. Think hard and don't commit any mistake. Once your son is married, his wife is going to be his first preference. Just like for you your husband (i.e. your son's father) has been your first preference over your son.

@anjanaarora483

Жыл бұрын

Ram is Ty seed school c ₹!! Hare 🎉🎉

I am from Pakistan. I have lived with in laws only to go into depression. The husband only felt better by insulting me in front of his relatives. I also looked around on other families getting their sons married happily but then complaining about bahu and the gap extending to the extent of not even speaking to each other. In the end, they had to separate anyway. So I decided years ago that I will not live with my son and his wife. But I wanted a supporter of my view as I didn't find any. Thanks for fortifying my confidence in my decision.

@namanbader

Жыл бұрын

I can definitely understand why. Here in india it's very common

@zaheera2522

Жыл бұрын

پاکستان کی جاہل عوام ہے، ذرا شرعی نقطۂ نظر بھی دیکھ لیں

@docmimi788

Жыл бұрын

Aliya study Islam..joint family system is not allowed in Islam..it is the influence of Hindu culture in Pakistan that we live in joint families..no other Muslim country has this problem..the son lives separately after marriage..the following link would show Islamic support towards your view.. m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/eoyJ26-Ec6eon5s.html

@tejalchavan1344

Жыл бұрын

that is so thoughtful of you. great ...

@aliyawaqar4172

Жыл бұрын

@@docmimi788 are we so prone to other's influences that we stop thinking by our own mind? The communities living far away from India also have this tradition so it's not correct to say that Muslims have acquired this tradition from Hindus. It's high time for people to stop expermenting and give rightful space to the newly formed relation.

Very true. I suffered for 20 years with my in laws. My husband would always support his mother and sisters.When I couldn't take it any more,I told my husband that I was willing to leave him over the issue. Finally he understood

@anany9291

Ай бұрын

How can you be suffered through his sisters. Aren't they married or are they living in your house.

@sharmilaskitchenandvlogs

26 күн бұрын

Thank god, finally you took a strong step

@ArunKumar-sx9cq

20 күн бұрын

Koi baat nahi. Sbka din ata hai. Apki bahu bhi suffer kregi tb kehna

Ek samajhdaar insaan hi ye baate example ke saath rakh sakta hai. Very good ji.

Really very good thought.... Ladke ke maa baap jo 50 saal k h wo kaise akele rh skte hai,, ladki ka baap to rh skta h chahe wo 70-75 saal ka h wo rh skta h kyki wo beti ka baap hai.... Thought of our society🤬🤬🤬🙄🙄🙄

I wish everyone, especially husbands understood this.. A lot of marriages would be saved and a lot of daughters would be saved from getting depressed with life!!

@mohinikanaya6174

Жыл бұрын

One word i think it's 100 percent truth of life

@lavisrivastava1568

Жыл бұрын

Yes u r right n depression comes in wife's account always

@dollyjain242

Жыл бұрын

Agreed!!

@roshnij6994

5 ай бұрын

Well said! really appreciate the way you have clearly explained the ups and cons of the joint family 👍👏

@MaTriX__BabY

5 ай бұрын

Yes well said. Daughter in law's have to go through so much in inlaws house. People's mindset should change.

Problem is you can't share this with your in-laws 😜.. but rightly said . You have addressed this issue in a very nice manner. I hope it reaches masses.

@astromoney456

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely.. I really want to share but i can't.. 🤣🤣

@monikabhardwaj4611

Жыл бұрын

Same here .i want to show them this

@RR-kl5ht

10 ай бұрын

pls do share

@iamsimranchawla

3 ай бұрын

Pati ko sunaado

Valid points ! And the most valid point was - spending a lot of money in having lavish ceremonies due to peer pressure but not using that money in investing in real estate and thereby, achieving peace of mind.

सर दिल से प्रणाम । एक एक शब्द सच्चाई है। न किसी बात को बढ़ाया-चढ़ाया, न कुछ फालतू कहा आपने। सर कमाल कर दिया आपने।🙏🙏

"…Ladki ka baap bhi akela rehta hai"….this selfish society willingly ignores this fact. Thank you Sir for highlighting everything. Wish more people thought like you 🙂

@tejalchavan1344

Жыл бұрын

bilkul sahi baat batayee aapna

@ravirajacharyaacharya2010

Жыл бұрын

Ladki ke bhai nahi hai kya

@raheelandmommy

Жыл бұрын

@@ravirajacharyaacharya2010 nahi hai toh kya karein? Aur waise bhi maa baap thodi naa specifically beta ya beti needwise paida kar sakte hai... online order ki tarah. So best policy is equal responsibility towards parents as children ...no matter, boy or girl. 😊

@endlessjoychannel71

Жыл бұрын

​@@ravirajacharyaacharya2010 bhai kyu paida kare jab already beti hai. soch badlo..why only live with son ?

@endlessjoychannel71

Жыл бұрын

​@@ravirajacharyaacharya2010 bhai ki kya jarurat

Bhuto ko bura lga Hoga but I agree with you...parents ko 60 k baad hi bccho ki need hoti h ya kisi beemari k chlte...Lakin tab tak itna kalah klesh ho chuka hota h ki bcche old age m Mata pita ko chor k chle jate h..aur jab unko sewa ki need hoti h tab tk dil me itni kadvahat bhr jati h aur dilo me dooriya aa jati hain.hona to apke kahe anusar chahiye...very good advice.will must follow when I became in-law 😄

@vandanajolly6149

Жыл бұрын

I also liked the logic here.

@nextonline7786

Жыл бұрын

Kisi ko property na de... Shadi k baad , apna apna ghar bana k rahe.. Sab property hathiyaane k liye karte hai ...

@kk1084

11 ай бұрын

​@@nextonline7786don't birth Nobody is gonna take property You bring newborn and brought up her/him it's mean you destroyed someone life

@rajatkumar6144

10 ай бұрын

​@@nextonline7786mat do kisi ko property but bachpan mein unhe nicha mat jikhaao , usko property ki tarah treat mat karo , na servent ki trah , toxic maa baap ke saath bache bhi saath rehne nhi chahte hai

@anupamsrivastava2758

10 ай бұрын

But agar start m sath na raho to baad m bahu ko bht problem hoti h adjust krne m.. Nayi bahu ko apne parivar m kiske sath kaise kya krna h sb batana chahiye

"Papa ke to rishtedar jyada important hote nahi hei vaise"...😅😅😅 So true.

Itni practical batein, balanced solutions. Hope people understand. Sir, you've nailed everything so precisely and it's happening in every house. High time we elders understood that we can not behave with our children, the way our parents/ inlaws behaved with us. Times change and we need to evolve. Staying away from each other gives a lot of peace of mind to both parties,resulting in good physical and emotional health. Thanks a ton for highlighting this issue. Hope good sense prevails over all of us.

I am so grateful to my husband that we decided to live separately from in-laws during the initial years of my marriage, the understanding we have now otherwise wouldn't have been possible... happily married for 10years now.

@dreadfulbodyguard7288

Жыл бұрын

After how many years you started living back with in-laws?

@prachiyadav8480

10 ай бұрын

How you did that ?

@iamsimranchawla

7 ай бұрын

@@MohitSingh-gv3gfmohit g alag rehne ka matlb ye nhi hota ki bcho ne parents ko left kr dia chod dia

@preetidesai8328

6 ай бұрын

If your in laws are now wanting to stay with you because of health issues , are you ready to accept them ????? No but you want everything from the in laws don't want to do anything for them 😮

@lifeofnat23

5 ай бұрын

you're lucky you have a supportive husband

Issue is - once son gets married , MIL and FIL starts feeling ill, or i should say they start feeling(showing) it more and more...bcz of that they create psychological pressure on son to keep them with him plus pressurise daughter in law to become kind of their care taker, ignoring the fact that just few months back they were looking for a professionally qualified working girl. Few parents time and again remind son of how much hardships they hv gone through raising him up, as if girls parents hv not done so. Its a serious issue parents are creating these days leading to even divorces of their son. Its high time to understand the intricacies.

@SangoLifeSutras

Жыл бұрын

Yes it happens

@endlessjoychannel71

Жыл бұрын

u r right

@praveenverma9959

Жыл бұрын

Yahi advice apne bhai to dena jaake

@endlessjoychannel71

Жыл бұрын

@@praveenverma9959 ha bilkul. Jab ma baap bina beti ke reh sakte to bina bete ke kyu nahi ? Kya damad saas sasur ko rakhta hai ? Tow fir bahu bhi kyu rakhe ?

@Aleyah

Жыл бұрын

@@praveenverma9959 My mom herself says that she would want my brother and his wife to live in a separate house nearby so they can be happy and relations remain cordial.

I am 50 & couldn't stop laughing all through the video. Great analysis❤

Sir mai kya batau....aap ki soch aur explanation....aap ne mera pura 22 years ki dissatisfied married life ko 21.06 mnts me batadiya. Aap ko bohot bohot dil se dhanyavad .

Agree with you completely…. It is a nightmare for bahu, if her husband doesn’t understand/ cares of the awkwardness she faces in her sasural… especially difficult when the senior generation has unrealistic ideas / expectations from her & her husband wants to be a good little boy of mummy dearest 🤨🤨🤨🤨

@hastin37

Жыл бұрын

Mumma's boys kill everything in a married life 🙄

@shivanilalala

Жыл бұрын

Oh god!!! You are so right! The torture that a girl suffers in her sasural is the worst😑

@minakshi7530

Жыл бұрын

Mummy dearest 😃😃

@preparationzone3274

Жыл бұрын

Yeah i am going through this right now..

@anuragkehri3828

Жыл бұрын

They y u smart ladies... Sasural jaati kyun ho.... Go for ghar jamai....

I lived with my mother in law for 37 years. ( she passed away last year) My husband being the only son, never ever wanted to stay away from his mom. I served her all these years without a word of gratitude. I wouldn't want to do it, if given half a chance.

@SWATIGUPTA-sr2tr

Жыл бұрын

​@@bluebutterfly2898

@ashokpasrija4428

Жыл бұрын

I had seen joint families where one member gets diseases on account of conflicts in family

@bhakti64

Жыл бұрын

Sorry but u wasted a lot of time . But u can still look ahead , work hard , work on wat u love and enjoy ur life 10times over .

@athensmajnoo3661

Жыл бұрын

@@bhakti64 yes I am. I am getting back to my hobbies, paintig and writing. Me and my husband are planning to travel. ( we hardly travelled all these years because, we couldnt leave my mother in law alone at home, nor she couldn't travel with us. ) Anyways, thanks for empathizing🙏🙏🙏🙏

@shaheen0omar

Жыл бұрын

Hats off to you 👏

Very practical advice. I am happy that I have done this in my family. I and my son's family live separately. I feel it keeps the love and understanding more stronger than living in a joint family. Thank you sir for this much needed advice for today's generation.

I am unable to find the right words for the praise....This video should be made a compulsory watch for all the middle class .... Most logical and reasonable things said and explained...THANK YOU...

Wonderful !! Am a single senior citizen and I thoroughly enjoyed listening to your sermon.

@poonamkhurana8161

Жыл бұрын

Koi logic nhi h aapki baaton ka

@poonamkhurana8161

Жыл бұрын

Bekaar

@poonamkhurana8161

Жыл бұрын

Lagta h aapko nikaala h or aap apni frestration nikaal rahe ho

@poonamkhurana8161

Жыл бұрын

Jaisa bachay dekhtay h vaisa hi seekhtay h

@pramodchand

Жыл бұрын

"It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." 😁

A very practical advice indeed!I stayed with my in laws for 15 years and then moved out with much bitterness for one another.The points you mentioned are absolutely true.Better stay separate and have a harmonious relationship rather than staying together and turning the relationship toxic.

@minakshi7530

Жыл бұрын

Main to yearly 1 baar hi jati hu inlaws k yahan but fir v toxic baatein apne sath le kar aati hu unki . Saas & nanad ye kabhi taunt maarne se nhi chukengi chahe kahi v rah lo . But atleast daily daily unki chik chil sun ni nhi padti .

@harigyan782

Жыл бұрын

@@minakshi7530 Same here 2-3 din k liye jati hu uspe bhi saal bhar k liye depression tension le kar ati hu. Don't know why but I feel like महिलाओं की मानसिक गुलामी type environment there.

@minakshi7530

Жыл бұрын

@@harigyan782 Haa main v saal bhar k lie tension le kar aati hu , mere life me inlogon k wajah se hi stress aa gya , marriage k initial days me mujhe bahut kuch sunna pada , saas & nanad ne bahut sunaya . Unki baaton se main kabhi ubhri hi nhi . Stress level itna badh gya ki mere body k hormones disturb ho gye . 3 years se endometriotic ovarian cyst se ladh rhi hu , open surgery v karwa li but wapas se ho gya .

@SparklingHenna

Жыл бұрын

TRUE

@tapasswain213

Жыл бұрын

I do agree

Thank you for this video 🙏🙏. The point about parents actually needing their kids to be around at 70 plus was spot on. Wish more people understood this. So much conflict can be avoided.

Ye video viral hona chahiye, taki sab parents ka dimag khule

Lot of awkwardness in relationships can be avoided if your advice is followed 👍

In this situation for more than 2 years....ek ek word sahi hai. Thanks to your video I got my answer. Thanks a lot sir.

हो तो हरियाणा के पर बात पंजाबियों वाली की है । बहुत ही सटीक, व्यावहारिक बात की है । कई बातें जानते हुए भी हम दुखी रहते हैं बिना कोई रियल रीजन के । कई लोग मन से तो समझ जाएंगे पर उपरितौर पर आपको बुरा भी कह सकते हैं । बहुत अच्छी बात को आपने उठाया है

Uncle ji aapko mera pranam❤. Aap bohut wise aur educated ho. Ishwar kare aapka channel famous ho jaye

I am so impressed that someone brought this topic. I am living in join family since 30 years. The situation started just a week after that they lost respect in my eyes and I never got love from them. We are just frustrated living bodies in the same house!!!

@teenapareekshetty1822

Жыл бұрын

Same here. I lost respect for them in 4.5 years only.

Outstanding advice and can't relate much more. Being an emotional guy I did this and paid heavily for this. My parents and my in laws were very loveable to me so I decided to quit my job to stay with them as my wife are three sisters only. So, I came to my hometown so that I can take care of both the families.😁 And started business with my sasurji. Uske baad jeevan mai jo hua h na sir kya hi batau 😁😁😁 Izzat 0 business 0 stress 100%. Abhi final jaake akal aai h. Moving to a new location soon. But on serious note, small mistake can cost you a lot. Big salute to you sir for guiding old and Young generations together.

@artyataol

7 ай бұрын

The video is about daughter in law and son staying with father in law and mother-in-law. Not the son in law staying with his in-laws or they staying with him😄 This is not discussed though it is the current trend!!! Because men (son in law or father in law) don't complain!!

@mnayak9348

Ай бұрын

Do not ever do business with in-laws

While the points you mentioned are very practical and should be discussed further. I would like to mention points where in laws are like a boon. Though it all depends on their thinking and mindset. 1) when a couple has baby and both are working their grand parents are the best persons to take care of baby. You can say that you can hire someone but remember the love which grand parents can give is unmatched. They will be more than happy to help. A child who spends is childhood among grandparents becomes a very good human being. Again this all depends on mindset and thinking of parents. 2) when couple have a job so there are many things where you need external help, when you are sick, when you need some guidance, when you just feel the need of your close ones, household chores can be easily managed with their help. 3) A parent works tirelessly to provide us everything in their capacity with just one hope that when their kid grow up they can cherish moments of joy with them and see their grand children. On basis of being practical we might deprive them of this joy. I know point number 3 depends totally on the parent as they should not hope for these things if they can not adapt new age thinking and being flexible. Still I have stated this point as they feel this.

भाई आपने एक परिवार की जो आज कल सबसे ज़्यादा दिक़्क़तें हैं, उन्हें समझ कर बहुत ही अच्छे से बताया है, और समाधान भी दिया है। सबसे अच्छा तो आपने उस बेटी की बाबत जो चिंता ज़ाहिर की, वो गौर करने लायक़ है, हर सदस्य को निभाने से अच्छा है अपनी अलग व्यवस्था करना। एक दूसरे के भाव को समझ कर उससे व्यवहार करना। अच्छी विवेकपूर्ण समझ देने के लिए धन्यवाद।

Thank you for giving such sound advice. I would like to share, I'm a Parsi and in our marraiges it is mandatory for a boy to have his own flat. Otherwise the couple waits till they can afford one on rent, only then they marry. It is looked down upon in the community if the newly wed are living with the boys or girls parents. In fact in Mumbai, if a couple is to get married and don't have a flat, Parsi Panchayat will provide on the condition that the date of the wedding is fixed and the boys parents do not have more than one house.

@SangoLifeSutras

Жыл бұрын

Nice tradition

@aliyawaqar4172

Жыл бұрын

We Muslim community should learn from you.

@sapnagupta4841

Жыл бұрын

Excellent

@Offohh

Жыл бұрын

I think Parsi value system is screwed there...

@aliyawaqar4172

Жыл бұрын

@@docmimi788 it's not written anywhere that joint family system is not allowed in Islam. In Islam, bad behavior to bahu is not allowed, depriving her of mental peace and health is not allowed. Do the inlaws act upon that? One has all the right to get away from hurtful people. Islam is a resilient religion. Parsis have the tradition of having the son and his wife live separately. This keeps values of respect and the relations intact. In our society , first they are forced to live in joint family system, then bitterness starts after some time. It either leads to domestic violence and criminal charges or to son and his wife saying goodbye forever. But the parsi system is based on human psychology, not on theatrical drama of actors who artificially show people that they are happy together.

I wish I had father like you. Your mind is way younger and refreshed than most of younger people like me

@SangoLifeSutras

Жыл бұрын

Actually i am young only. Baal gyaan ke safed hain. Age ke nahin

@ankushagarwal6538

Жыл бұрын

@@SangoLifeSutras haha😂 savage ve ho ap🔥

@aarthishetty2214

Жыл бұрын

@@SangoLifeSutras lol

@viveklawana8770

Жыл бұрын

@@SangoLifeSutras savage reply sir 😂😂😂

@otismilburn1052

Жыл бұрын

@@SangoLifeSutras hahaha

Superrrrrr!!! Reality Haste khelate samaza Diya Ghar me aur bachome man ataka Rahata tha

I have already implemented the same in my life. Me n my husband had always decided to jiyo n jeene doh. Very good piece of advice/suggestion. U have explained it very practically. We n our beta n Bahu are very happy. God bless all to take the advice/suggestion in a positive way❤❤❤❤❤

Nice one, very sensible also.👌 People forget that when the bride comes into her 'sasural', she is a stranger. She doesn't really love anyone there. But society puts tremendous pressure on her to behave in a certain way. It is wrong, and we should change that.

I was looking in the comments section atleast for one comment, which would be like, my in laws took care of the house when I went to work, they raised my kids. I'm actually surprised, there's none. You nailed it sir. Distance and privacy are important for a healthy relationship. Firstly, it takes so much effort for the couple to adjust with each other. It's really unreasonable to expect a girl to adjust with an entire family in a fully functional and rigid home. She will have to live like a doormat, if her views are not considered. The most important point which even I belive strongly is that let the couple live independently, let them have their space and meet you once in a while and think of it positively, instead of saying that the girl took away the boy. When you get old, they will respect you for how considerate you have been. They will be helpful to you. Instead of understanding this point, people want to have the son and daughter in law live with them, control and torture her and then expect her to take care of them when they get old and weak. Isn't she a human? Does her heart not break?

@deeptirao5982

Жыл бұрын

@@AeyHero Not allowed to eat, sleep, spend time with the husband. In addition, interference in the couple's personal matters, taunting, blaming, mil competing with dil, etc. etc. I have been a victim of all this, but I agree many in laws are more broad minded now. Torture is a very extreme word, like you mentioned, but some do go through it even today, even though girls now a days are educated, working, able to manage home and work, they are still criticised continuously and not treated like humans, unfortunately.

@deeptirao5982

Жыл бұрын

@@AeyHero I agree and I think it is possible to live with parents (parents/in laws), if there is mutual respect. However, since this is always not possible, it is better to maintain a healthy distance and give space not just to the newly married couple, but also to the elderly, who have their own set of hobbies, friends circle, etc.

@adash7841

Жыл бұрын

In law especially mother in law sister in law kuch help nai karte. My mom is a working parents it was my mom's sister who helped her raising me not her sasuma.

@user-qxpkwl

Жыл бұрын

then what in laws do with your babies when you go to office?? do they leave babies like a stranger?

@prashantcruise

11 ай бұрын

@@user-qxpkwl bhai aleke rah ke babies koi aur stranger ke hath de dena h. Nahi to after pregnancy need h to bula lenge baad me bhej denge. 🤬. I hate these mindset’s. My father and I have different opinion in every thing even in tube bulb but when he need some advise hum sath me discuss karte h n vice Versa. Shadi ke baad larki wapas mayaka jati h taki Wo ghar me kiska kaisa nature h wo samaj le aur apne maa s discuss bhi kar sakti h.

Is sab me sabse nithalla insaan husband hi hota hai... absolutely correct 💯

Bahut achha btaya apne. But hmari society mai larki ki parents and rishredharo ko koi importance nhi di jati thi. Islie hmesha papa ki rishtedar jyada visit krte hai or dada dadi hi sath rehte hai. Ab jmana badal rha hai

Sir married just 5 months before. Though it's love marriage accepted by both parents but now I m also feeling privacy, relatives (specially husband's three sisters and their children frequent arriving) and spce issue. I m a working woman. Most of the time I remain tired in my week off time. Follow all rituals like Sir pr bado k samne dupatta rakhna etc bt in spite of compromising my SAASU maa always complain that she always wakes up late, don't do all household chore effectively. I always think that when we will be capable for building a big house on this land and when these type of person and relative will mend their mind set. I m a government employee but my husband, my own parents and these relative will not be ready to leave separately till the new building is ready which will be in approx next 5 years as per our calculation. I m glad to see ur videos, subscribed ur channel. This is really a heart touching content.

@jayarani4474

Жыл бұрын

Very true and practical concern sir. Thanks for sharing this. Actually now a days it is the need of the hour to bring harmony in families. But in North one has to be very daring to implement this.

@sumagowda3425

Жыл бұрын

Show this to your husband and if possible to your in laws

@pooja5459

Жыл бұрын

@@sumagowda3425 they will deliver the old dialogue that kamaati hai to hame kuch nhi samjhti hai 😔

@preetjashan3413

Жыл бұрын

Seriously this is true that privacy issues mostly occur, but it's hard for everyone to understand. Specially when u r working women n someone force u to attend family functions in week off its feel like hell at that moment n irritating also. Wish this mentality change in upcoming years.

@pooja5459

Жыл бұрын

@shivangi u say right bt before marriage I didn't think about these type of issues and irritating situation

Sir You have voiced real truth of life. आपकी बातें बाबाओं के प्रवचनों से सौ गुना अच्छी और जीवन को वास्तविक अच्छाई देने वालीं हैं।

Aap bilkul sahi bol rahe ho sir bahu ki durdsha ho jati h bachhe or saas ko ek sath nhi rakha ja sakta saas sasur to sanse band krne ke liye bne hote h

Each and every line and point is absolutely correct. You are a perfect advisor, I must say. Thanks

बहुत ही सुंदर और सच्ची आंखैं खोलने वाली और परिवार में सामंजस्य स्थापित करने वाली विडियो थी। आपको बहुत बहुत धन्यवाद। 🙏

What an amazing video. I'm so glad someone has brought this up. My marriage got ruined for this reason. My only ask in the marriage was to move out to a house near by so that i could get some time and space away from interfering in laws but at the same time tend to them if they needed anything. But the Indian mentality is so flawed. They broke the marriage but did not push the son to move out of the house. They bring home a girl and then mis treat her. Most Indian men are brought up as such mamas boys. They are so dependent and incapable of doing anything on their own. I really wish this starts to change. So that they start treating us as an equal in a relationship instead of a subservient.

@nk2023

Жыл бұрын

I went through same problem 😪

@madhugupta681

Жыл бұрын

Yes I agreed with you, I m 69,1served my in-laws, now serving Dil,I hv no personal life, now I m retired and husband is blind not ready to live in saperate home,we have two flats but living joint only I m suffering bkz of him

@bloregurl

Жыл бұрын

Brilliant video!

@mahammadnawfa4574

Жыл бұрын

Well said very true

@nishant115me

Жыл бұрын

to be frank it also depends on their profession because i was in travelling job i lived alone on tours and that changed my perspective about life otherwise i would have been a mumma's boy myself.

Never saw such an amazing factful, realistic,relatable video on this topic and explaining it in a fun way is a plus plus. 100 marks!!👍🏻

Thanks, this was very helpful

I lived with my in-laws but intuitively I knew that I don't want to live with my daughter in law so that she doesn't hate me 😊 Your video solved my dilemma 🙏

@whatsupboss

Жыл бұрын

Same i think

@chitranarsingpurkar3909

Жыл бұрын

I m also agree with you

@Shirisha777

Жыл бұрын

Meh but Ditto feeling!!!

@set2946

Жыл бұрын

When my brother was getting married I asked my mom whether she wanted daughter in law to live with her or peace of mind. She chosed peace of mind . And since they live separately it keeps relationship cordial. Best of both worlds.

@sabinakatoch1537

Жыл бұрын

Same views …kids should have there space & live & enjoy there life to the fullest ❤

I wish..all Men understand like you do Sir. The root cause is most men think they have to take care of their parents... At the cost of ruining their married life. Yes.. In today's time.. With less space and time... It's better all live in their own place.. Less interference.. More peace.

@endlessjoychannel71

Жыл бұрын

ekdum sahi baat

@1.9tdilove71

Жыл бұрын

And what if boy's parents don't want their son to stay separate?

@endlessjoychannel71

Жыл бұрын

@@1.9tdilove71 if girls parents can let go of their daughter similiarly boys parents should be mature enough to let go of their son

@1.9tdilove71

Жыл бұрын

@@endlessjoychannel71 You are right. But now a days, most senior citizens behave very strict. Boy's parents don't give freedom. They want to control life of their son. And especially after marriage of their own son, parents become dominant. They don't want their son to stay separate at the same time, staying together they keep dominating and interfering in the married life of their son. I strongly feel that parents should change their mindset.

@adash7841

Жыл бұрын

It's because their mother blackmailed them. It's the women who are the villain the so called mother in law who wants her son to listen to her all the time.

Full with wisdom. Very rightly said

Very useful, practical tips thank you so much

Soo on point! Thank you for bringing this up! I suffered a lot because of staying with inlaws..n after sometime asked my husband to get separated. Everyone should understand this

@narayani2357

Жыл бұрын

Same here

@pranoti8

Жыл бұрын

Ya but tich Saas not good

First time I hv seen such a great vdo....being a Bahu can relate myself to every sentence....Can still recall what great pain n suffering I went through ....

@swatimittal7298

Жыл бұрын

Same here

Sir sadar pranam Aapnae bahut hee achha video banaya hai yeh eyeopener hai sach mein bahut hee logical baat Kari hai aapnae bahut samajhdari sae bilkul sahi analysis Kiya hai everyone should be given a space live and let everyone live his her life life is short just make it easy to live for yourself and for everyone don't expect much be confident and feel proud to handle every situation pay attention to you r health pray to God and be thankful always that v r alive and contribute to society animals and people around u irrespective of whether u r getting some things in return our good deeds increase our good kaarmik account To give a good life to our children is our duty and responsibility and be reasonable in allocation of you r money to them becoz once u need it they will be miser so. Enjoy life sir u r genius Thank you so much from d core of my heart and I request all. People plz plz plz listen this video carefully and apply it in your life🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏millions of thanka

Ohhh sir ji❤❤❤❤.... I'm lucky to watch this video..... Kya gajab ki bat explain kari hai aapne.... Aaj tk kisi se nahi suni ... Ab jaldi se ye video apne family group me bhej deta hu kya pata sas bahu ka klesh eng ho jaye😂😂😂

This is much needed advice. This video should be taught as a curriculum. Really appreciate your effort in bringing out these different scenarios. This might not always be true, but when it is, it can break relationships in a matter of minutes.

Thank you so much Sir for this mind- blowing video. If son's parents live alone they get all the sympathy from the society but if bahu' s parents live alone because they have daughters only the society says 'beti to paraya dhan hai' . There should not be any difference between a son and a daughter then why bahus are forced to live with their in laws in the name of joint family system? Bahus should be given the right to decide where do they want to live just like the son.

@sangeetakalani5522

Жыл бұрын

The reality of today's times.The past generation has already suffered...pure herd mentality. All aspects are very true.Suffocation of a life time can easily be avoided and life can be looked back at happily by accepting this simple truth.

@docgattani

Жыл бұрын

Very true!

@sudeshnadalvi5286

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree with you

@sagars3332

Жыл бұрын

Do you have brother?advice this to him as well.If you don't have brother then immediately delete this comment

@poonamnikam5988

Жыл бұрын

This is absolutely true

क्योंकि हम उनको बचपन से ही हॉस्टल, बोर्डिंग मे डाल देते हैं, भावनात्मक रिश्ते नही बन सकते हैं, दूसरा शुरू से ही हम उनके लिए गोल तैयार कर लेते हैं, IIT, MBA आदि, और फिर बड़ा शहर, और विदेश, जाना वहाँ के संस्कृति के अनुसार अपने को adjust करना, और कुछ इगो भी, सर बहुत ही प्रेरणाप्रद वीडियो बनाया है, बहुत अच्छा वीडियो, बहुत हद तक सास का असन्तुष्ट रहना भी परिवार में क्लेश का कारण बनता है

Ekdum shi bola apne, shadi already ek adjustment h, khud ka adjustment nhi ho pa raha, parents se kaha se hoga adjustment.

Mind blowing video sir! My MIL generally lives separate, we try to make it work. But in our 7 years of marriage, we have only had fights between us due to her whenever she visits. During initial days of our marriage she even came and lived with us in 1BHK! Her every visit ends with more bitterness in her heart towards me and thus, vice versa too. I am blamed even if she has an argument with her own son! Plus, the diplomacy and differentiation between me and my SIL! They just want a DIL who is good enough and independent to brag about in the society but they can’t accept the fact that we work equally hard (sometimes even more) as their son does. Sad but true!

@pragyagupta551

6 ай бұрын

Totally relatable

I live in Chennai. Here many families follow your ideology. Two houses in same area or its two flats in one building or housing society. Ideology in south is far most matured than in the rest of India.

@h.n1433

Жыл бұрын

I love this ideology.

@lathaiyer8065

Жыл бұрын

I am from south too. Some families have this idea that if you are living in the same city then you all should live together. Even if it is one big fighting 👪

@shakuntalamehta9406

Жыл бұрын

Very true agree with your view

@amitabhatkar2576

Жыл бұрын

Shakti u r right. Now a days son n daughter in law's won't adjust with the situation around with inlaws.. Better to be seperate than to divorce for minor reason.

@sancharimukherjee9231

Жыл бұрын

I agree with you. My in-laws are in the next by lane and have a good rapport

Very valuable suggestions. Thank U Sangwan ji many many times.

Epic line : Sabse kamjor kadi Ladka hota hai.

😂😂 sir I am a South Indian 50 year old corporate lawyer. Now living in UAE since 2017 . After 20 years of marriage I breathed freedom, inlaws OMG each and every word happened to me. MIL is still a nightmare . I was treated like a doormat 😢. My husband just don’t understand properly what his mother mean by making certain comments.

@rishiodeb

Жыл бұрын

Hahaha enjoy the freedom.

@narayani2357

Жыл бұрын

Same here, had to quit my job ,bcoz they ddnt want to tk care of my kids,bt wanted me to work fr thm

@MrsTalat6

Жыл бұрын

happy for you,this joint family system is a nightmare

@aarvind3901

Жыл бұрын

@@MrsTalat6 yes indeed, mil ensured that she is the malkin of the house. I was not living as a member of joint family at all. This happens during our short trips to their house or they visiting us in our own house in Chennai ( that’s is the irony ) I donno how she used to sabotage the dominance every time wherever it is. 80 years she is , pathetic mindset

@sharadashankar9870

Жыл бұрын

For 20 years you depend on them and say you were treated like a doormat!!?? This happens even if you depend on your own parents for such a long time.

I agree totally. Even when i got married and shifted to Mumbai, it's humid and still i couldn't wear comfortable clothes just because we were staying with in-laws. Hated that period like anything.

100 % true . I appreciate, not only bahu but also Sasu wants privacy....well said bhai

Thank you so much for this advice

My father has a huge villa in a half acres plot but soon after my marriage he has given me money to buy a duplex flat and asked me to setup a different house with my wife. I now understand my father's logic.

पहली बार किसी को इस issue को address करते हुए देखा। 👌👌

Excellent advice thanks

Great 👍 thanks so much

My parents contributed to the down-payment of buying of my first flat. Yet I chose to live with my parents after marriage with my wife. My parents tried to convince me to move out and live in the flat separately with my wife that my parents and I had bought but I was an idiot, thinking I'd earn rent from that other flat. It is only due to my mother's efforts and later my wife's efforts also that we all could live in that house for 1.5 years. Despite my parents guiding me based on their life experiences I never listened and ended up not enjoying the initial years of my married life. Also I really didn't earn much from rent (the emi was 3 times the rent), and like he said in the video, the bigger cost is one's peace of mind.

@fitsurvivor4781

Жыл бұрын

so basically you suggest a newly married couple to live in a separate house. Right?

@abhisheksainani

Жыл бұрын

@@fitsurvivor4781 Yup. In fact I was the one creating problems at my parents place, not my wife or my mother or father. I had wrong assumptions due to old school thinking and lack of communication.

@JoyJoy-hc9wp

Жыл бұрын

@@fitsurvivor4781 It's same for boys and girls. Boys and Girls leave their parents and start their family. Staying with boys relatives is NOT marriage.

@abhisheksainani

Жыл бұрын

@@SiSi-ju1xk yeah I've already said that I was wrong and how my parents also wanted me to live separately with my wife. I have been a male chauvinist...

@SparklingHenna

Жыл бұрын

YES I AGREE COST OF LIVING TOGETHER IS DEPRIVATION OF SLEEP OF MIND

We are 4 generations living under one roof uncle ji 😂.I got your point and it's on point but sometimes you just don't have an option SADLY

@hastin37

Жыл бұрын

God bless you and take care of you!!🤔

@pramodpant8296

Жыл бұрын

Wonderful and practical analysis for a peaceful and harmonious family life. You seem to have lot of practical experience too. Good learner and good advice.

@Cutiepieyashu

Жыл бұрын

Same

Very very very good video, indians ko aapni mentality change karni chahiye, na khud jite he na bacho ko jine dete he, live and let live

Uncle bahut ttttt hee achi hee video banai h ...or mere saath to same aisa hee hua tha .ab haar k bacchy hone k baad kalesh badh jaane k baad mujhy apne maayke hee aana padha for peace in life ..baby ko tabhi sambhal Rahi hu..

It is a very good advice. The elderly in Kerala mostly do not mind their sons having their own establishment. Being a matriarchal society in fact the parents are more attached to girls . I am 65, my husband is 70 we stay on our own, we have the freedom to pursue our spiritual inclinations and are totally satisfied with our present routine.

@LakshmiLakshmi-ru2gk

Жыл бұрын

Rigjtly said its a freedom to parents to also. Beacause ita time for spiritual pursuits VANAPRASTA” and goo for younger generation also

@ajaynain3295

Жыл бұрын

You are lucky

@myphotosone

Жыл бұрын

Entire Kerala doesnt follow matriarchal culture… Majority of Keralites follow Patriarchy and its humiliating to girls..

@omasharma3483

Жыл бұрын

bahut hi ghatiya or illogiical vedio hai ye isi liye india main brudha ashram ki sankhya or buissiness badh raha hai

@nk2023

Жыл бұрын

😊👍

No one understood when I said these things almost 30 years back... almost felt like I was going insane....this is so gratifying that someone is addressing the elephant in the room finally.

Hello sir , pata sabko hai par kisi me itni himmat nahi hai is tarah se khul kar bola hai. Thanks sir

Well done uncle ji...I have done this task before 19years but everyone blaming me till now that I am so cunning and selfish but now I can say that I was wright have my own house and I spend 20years with husband peacefully.

ITS A MUST RITUAL IN MY FAMILY SINCE GENERATIONS THAT ONCE A GUYS GETS MARRIED HE HAS TO MOVE TO NEW HOUSE (EITHER RENT OR BUY NEW ONE) ELSE HE'S GETS THE TAG OF NALAYAK, NIKAMMA ETC. I'M FROM KARNATAKA. THE REASON FOR THAT IT SHOWS SELF-RESPECT, SELF-ESTEEM PLUS THE NEW COUPLE SHOULD LEARN CERTAIN THINGS ON THEIR OWN WHICH IS VERY GOOD FOR FUTURE

@ushapillai2593

Жыл бұрын

Very true

@shikhasengupta6665

Жыл бұрын

@@ushapillai2593 What you are saying is true but if son is good he can make his Paŕents Happy Sir

@samruddhisandvar1807

Жыл бұрын

There are more no.of cases in urban states where parents are dumped in old age home.

@boejiden1524

Жыл бұрын

@@samruddhisandvar1807 ONLY IN NORTH INDIA PARENTS ARE DUMBED IN OLD AGE HOME. IN MY FAMILY &ALSO ACROSS SOUTHERN INDIA THE PARENTS DURING OLD AGE STAY IN THEIR CHILDREN HOUSE & THEY'VE TAKEN GOOD CARE

@boejiden1524

Жыл бұрын

@@shikhasengupta6665 ONCE MARRIED THE BLAME IS ON THE COUPLE & SON CAN'T ALONE BARE THE RESPONSIBILITY

My MIL had Cancer before I got married. Before my marriage, they were living separately as my husband was studying. After marriage, they moved in with us. The initial days were fine, but later my FIL moved out to a different city for his job because the cost of cancer treatment was really high. Me and my husband both work in IT, but insurance was not sufficient for the treatment. My sister-in-law lives in the same city and used to come every weekend for 2 days to stay with us with her 3 young kids. She will sleep in our bedroom the entire weekend. When she would leave on Sunday night, my house would be a mess. The first 18 months of my marriage were really bad. Most weekends in hospitals for chemo sessions. My SIL would say that she is coming to visit her mom, but all she did the whole weekend was watching TV. I'll take care of the kids which I loved. But it was all so overwhelming for me. My husband's family eats so unhealthy, i started putting on weight. My mental health was deteriorating. Even my husband was not comfortable with her coming every weekend(literally each weekend without a break). We had to tell her finally that she should come on alternate weekends. We need some time on weekends. Now everything is fine, but I am never getting back those initial years of my marriage. Currently my FIL lives with us. My parents live in a different city alone.

@archanavenkat

Жыл бұрын

These sis in laws..are ufff..same thing happnd at my end..totally can relate

Brilliant!! High time such talks came out in the open!! Indian society needs to hear this.

Lagta Hai he is Experienced & Compromised too much in life 😂 but Practical Advice is given Brilliantly 🙏🙏😄😄👌👌❤🎉. Agreed 💯👍

All i can summarise in few words is ur wife and children are actually blessed to have u in their life...as my life has been ruined just because of mother in law...today my husband and I share poisonous bitterness in our relationship

@1.9tdilove71

Жыл бұрын

I can understand. Even my parents are trying to control my life . They are doing dictatorship. I love my twins and my wife.

@1.9tdilove71

Жыл бұрын

@D Not dependent on anybody by any means

@youtubeuser2565

9 ай бұрын

फिर तो तुम्हारी मां ने भी तुम्हारी भाभी की जिंदगी बर्बाद कर दी होगी। नही नही वहां तुम्हे भाभी ही गलत नजर आती होगी।

Omg … sir, How sweet and intelligent you are. Itne samaghdar sab ho jaye toh koi issues hi nahi rahen. But we are so much impressed. AAP bahut bahut bahut hi seyanne aur samaghdar ho. I wish sab aap jaise ho 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Agyanta ke Andhkaar ko dour karney ka bahut he gyan vardak updesh.Dhnywad aur Aabhaar.Namaskar.👌👌🙏🏻🙏🏻

Really loved your practical approach and advise Sir!!! just scrolled through the comments section and everyone is praising and thanking you, which means almost every household is facing these issues, but no one is ready to speak it out and loud ye bolke ki "family issue hai ghar ke bhar nahi jani chaiye". I hope a lot of elders go across through your video, but surely, it's a learning for me and will implement in my future!!!

@rajadigreat

Жыл бұрын

Parents create problems are responsible for son's divorce 1000% and behave innocent

Every word is true, I totally agree with you sir.... I wish I had this knowledge 15yrs ago, now it's too late..... My in-laws are aged and we can't leave them and go. Thank you for this video.

I wish my inlaws could understand this ... superb thought and a very positive approach 👍

Thanks a lot for this video.... very informative and helpful..🙏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Sir, aapne jo case scenario discuss Kiya wo to mujhe apne case ke aage bahut simple lag rha h...😂....kash aapki advice pehle mil gyi hoti to meri life itni complex nhi hoti aaj

@narendermahajan5768

Жыл бұрын

Sir Really enjoyed way of explanation

Uncle you are hilarious 😂you have covered all points beautifully. I laughed through out but your observation was superb👌

@ajinkyapatil4311

Жыл бұрын

Indeed, like each n every single brown household issues he discussed. 😂

@YashGala27

Жыл бұрын

@@ajinkyapatil4311 nai degi

Good evening sir. Well said. God bless.

Very practical advice. Loved listening to your video. Surely remember to act accordingly.

I'm 19 , but i found out very important lesson of life .

If parents are caring ,have an ability to see their daughter-in-law as their own daughter it's fine. But mostly it's not the case we have a legacy of troubling daughter-in-laws in our country.

@meenarajeshrajesh5697

Жыл бұрын

No saas ever cares for daughter in law

@j.srivardhan6805

Жыл бұрын

@@meenarajeshrajesh5697 ,... I have noticed ..this legacy of troubling daughter-in-law this information how women managed all the pain , this information has been passed from grandmother to mother from mother to daughters. The new aged daughter has a weapon called education therefore she is strong

@luizadaniells348

Жыл бұрын

What about daughter in law's troubling inlaws?

@captainnemo6456

Жыл бұрын

@@luizadaniells348 That will never be discussed - thanks to " targeted" Propaganda by Leftist ecosystem and people are neither aware or naive to know how 49 gender biased sections of IPC are abused left, right and centre by DIL on MILs and the entire family.

@AA-vx5vn

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree

Very nice and practical thoughts that are very related to our life..

very good felt good. very good on such a wise advice with clarity