Hi, I'm Kristen aka Just Peachy. On this channel, I compile and share the wisdom and perspectives I've gained from my life (particularly my 20s and 30s) in hopes of educating, encouraging and helping others to discover themselves and their purpose in life.
I'm as millennial as they come and I understand the challenges of finding a job, facing the current housing crisis, and trying to make sense of the political upheaval we're currently in.
I am currently on a journey of self-discovery myself so I hope you'll join me here and we can walk this path together (please join me... I'm bad at being alone LOL).
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Just about all you said fits me. Except I'm a man and no children. It sounds like you're under spiritual attack. Be sure to study Gods word. I try to read atleast one chapter a day. When negative thoughts come to mind I turn to the lord and remember he is with me and though the dark times are difficult, i keep holding on. I started reading in Gen., then stopped in Isaiah. Started the New Testiment and stopped at Rev. I went back to Isaiah and now im in Jeremiah. Im glad i listened to God and read the New Testjment because i got closer to God. Reading the red letters, formed a connection i hadn't felt before. Try not to entertain the negautive . And rebuke the enemy in Jesus name when need be. I hope things work out for ya.
Just Peachy, You mentioned a "loving God", which is what God is. Punishment does not come from God as he is a loving God. Things happen to us, our family, friends and everyone on earth that challenges our commitment to God. Those are by the Devil, hoping to wrest us away from God and to destroy our faith. The anxiety you have when trying not to do anything wrong so you do not go to hell is your subconscious saying, you know it is wrong so do not do it. God will only judge us on Judgement Day, we have our whole life on earth to accept Jesus as our savior. Even someone who is elderly after a life of wrongdoing can be saved at the last minute. God is on your side he wants you to be happy, morally strong and faithful. All these things are what you appear to be already. You have done the hard work, you believe and you are doing your best to follow the his word, this is perfect for your chances of going to heaven. God does not expect us to extraordinary, just simple believers and being good citizens using his commandments as the guide how to do that. Please take some pressure off yourself, go have the fun, the moments you feel will make you happy. Just take God along with you as you travel and do whatever, wherever your heart desires. God is not complicated he loves you and you are doing great. Think of it this way, perhaps your children are the perfect people to do great things as adults, Perhaps your purpose is to bear them, to teach them and to continue to bring them into God's hands. Sometimes faith can be confusing and wan a bit but as you did here search for answers on how to get the feelings back, to continue on the journey he has set before you. Do not stress out, we are on earth to enjoy, to see, smell, taste and to love all it has to offer. Please go venture forth. God Bless You
groups of chimps v. group of humans - very little difference, so much is social copying to try to get your needs met.
in my experience most people project themselves onto others, before listening for the differences.
It's called Great Expectations; but a lot of disappointment too. The best way to survive is just flow along. Let the Kobe's go on by in their big rush. Just sit down somewhere and wait for them to come back along; probably just at a staggering shuffle.
I have zero ambition to do even things that I used to consider fun. No drive to hustle for money anymore either.
Some people, like celebrities and high paying individuals have hired help and/or nannies.
if you're good at your job you're probably less likely to get promoted because the employer would have a hard time replacing you
Good point!
Most people are sleep walking or simply following the herd blindly. I'm driven by my past experiences, gut feel, and inner voice. It may go against the mainstream logic, but I'm at peace with my decisions and path in life. 30 years ago I sold everything and went backpacking around the world for 3 years. People thought I was crazy. I lived in some amazing places, learned to speak 5 languages fluently. And while I had stayed and invested my money instead, I would be a multi-millionaire with no life experience. I'm about to retire, feeling better than ever and excited about the future. But my views don't follow the masses. Do what you think is right for you.
Don't listen what people telling you be happy relax keep going no ones being born at good for every thing and you wouldn't succeed the first time you try it you have led yout failures teach you not to define you You are good girl perfect girl worthy and the one being chased You are absolutely amazing 🙏❤️🙏
John 3:16
When I was going up I too had this vague concept of God. He was a big creator/judge entity up in the sky. It didn't help that I had an abusive father. So I couldn't connect with God as a good loving father, and as a relatable personality. I was able to do this when I left the church I grew up in, cut my Dad out of my life, and started really seeking God for who he was. I had seen miracles growing up so I figured there had to be more to Him than just what I'd been taught. I came across some of Bill Johnsons' teachings about God as a loving and kind father and how as God's children we're privileged to move into the supernatural to benefit others. This radically changed my perspective. Now I have a real relationship with God where I get to experience His presence and hear from Him. I'm in a healthy church that puts an equal emphasis on God's presence and His word. I'm seeing God move in my life and in others lives around me. Just seek Him, talk to Him and He'll reveal Himself. He really loves us so much. I'm very sorry that my brethren have not represented Christ well. As Christians the only judgement we should make when it comes to other people is whether they are saved or not. And if not, that we then need to share the gospel with them! Also, Christians shouldnt be looking forward to some corporal judgement that God would unleash on them for their sin. That's counterproductive. If anything people need to know God's love and goodness! That's what brings people to Him! Romans 2:4 Or despisest thou the riches of his goodness and forbearance and longsuffering; not knowing that the goodness of God leadeth thee to repentance?
ALL religions were created by humans Not any invisible beings Religion has caused billions of people to die And so much suffering
If you got religion, you don't have GOD. Religionist killed JESUS.
All I must say for sure to you is that if you doing good or you want good you should not fear. And do think critically, try not to associate or contribute to bad.
I had a fun go earlier this year with what sounds like very similar challenges. Some of it I'm working on still, that we are challenged to our core Is Enough to shake our faith and our belief in our own judgement. Sometimes it is a massive relief to be supported and guided until the ground is solid beneath our feet and we can regain trust in ourselves. Sometimes what started as welcome support guidance gets out of hand though. Since the definition of insanity is repeating the same action and expecting a different result, I would say your inner You that got stifled for a while is reawakening and seeing things quite clearly - that is the voice you're hearing within you. Its hard to go against the grain and not stick to the rules or path that people in our lives think is right for us. One, they care about us right? They see we are frozen and they provide us with a direction to go in that helps - this does not give them permission to do so indefinitely. Two, we are literally wired by evolution to be terrified of being separated from our tribe. They are/were the means of our survival after all. But here's the thing, in that tribe you would have been protected from the get go and there would have been accountability and consequences for people causing harm. The village would have helped, not lectured and shamed. And we no longer roam the woods and grasslands in bands of our kin hunting and gathering unless we choose to, we have cars, planes, trains etc and we can literally go find a different tribe in a place we go visit on a road trip. You got this now, it is in your capable hands and you are allowed to undergo any and every thing that voice inside tells that you need to And --- you're allowed to do it your way in your own sweet time. They are not living your life, you are xo - m
Don't listen to people; most of them are messed up and give out bad info. Listen to GOD.
People who've never survived narcissistic abuse may not understand this but for the rest of us we applaud your courage to keep trying new things and keep going 🙏❤️
It's so important to get away and de-program yourself from all the garbage.
The Holy Spirit is the key. Just like the bible says Be Anxious for nothing....we allow our thoughts. We choose to not cast them down and we choose to feed them. I deal with people pleasing and Adhd but also with the Holy Spirit and prayer. Because I am saved I can go to Jesus and recieve peace from my issues
I bought 17 acres of land here in northern Vermont in 1990 when I was 21 and built my own house with no help from anyone ! It wasn't easy then either. If I was scared of everything I couldn't have done it.
@justpeachy I'm curious if your upbringing included a narcissist? This is classic behavior for someone who has been narcissisticly abused. If you haven't studied narcissism look into Sam Vankin.
My husband had definite traits... We were together for about 8 years before we separated
You don't look like a horse, you look just fine!
You are so Beautiful and you deserve a happy life.
I've been trying to will a meteor into existence for a long while now
He has no scientific evidence to back up his statements
Exactly
Ummmm, yeah. You have OCD. It's better to realize it and work on managing it. Better late than never I guess. My daughter is diagnosed with OCD and it's been a struggle since a person with it will not respond to logic or reason.
Being alone for awhile is good; but after awhile it really, really sucks.
Been living on my own for ten years. Actually living alone. It's great but I often think of spending my moms last years on this planet with me there.
Just go back to your parents house.....
Put one foot in front of the other and get out...look for a city or town that you can afford. Everyone struggles in one way or another.
Just remember, you're the one that chose to move back home after your divorce, so I don't see why you're whining about living at home at 35 years old!
Exactly
If you want to do your own thing, do it. If you're just looking to live on your own and be independent you can always live like a single guy..all you really need is a place to sleep, eat, poop, shower etc. Good luck to you.
Your parents narrative is very unhealthy and is why you’ve always been dependent. They raised you to think you need to be dependent. Struggle is part of life and you can only grow from pushing through struggle. They have coddled you and never taught you to be independent, a problem solver or to work through challenges. I pray you try your hardest to move out and build coping skills and a plan A and plan B. Plan B should not be run home to them being authority figure. Stand tall and be proud. It’s ok to be scared, you’ll grow through the pain and struggle to be stronger. You can do this!!
I'm 36 and I've never lived on my own. My Mom needed someone to take care of her and I've never made enough to live independently.
That used to be me too!! Now i am coming up to my 11th year in my own apartment. I LOVE living alone. Wishing you all the best on your journey! Making descions can feel daunting but it does get easier
Wishing you the courage to be able to prioritise yourself and strike out on your own! Independence is wonderful! You have great self-awareness so all you need is courage and self-belief. Sending you those from afar! 🥰
You don’t want to be 70 years old, looking back on your life, and say “I didn’t try.” Believe me when I say that will be heartbreaking.
Follow your heart- your thoughts Live life and enjoy it daily I live in Myrtle Beach South Carolina I have been wanting to move back to North Carolina for decades My children are grown But my husband wants to stay at his job and doesn’t want to move He can’t transfer to the same company I want to move back to Greensboro I lived there for 6 years as a child with my great grandmother and grandmother My biological mother came and took me away We lived in several states and I ended up staying in Myrtle Beach South Carolina Raised my children And every time we go visit family I do not want to go back home I can’t explain it I’m upset that I have allowed myself to be a people pleaser so bad That I put myself last
Not going to lie, you ARE Beautiful.
Id go yo a financial counsellor and get help with budgeting. Get them to help you set up a budget, and then review it every few weeks, & see if youre on track. If not, then steer yourself back on track. Good luck with independent living - you can do this honey 💪.
Come on, pull yourself together and stop being so poor me and pathetic. And stop making videos like this which frankly just reinforce your position because if you were actually getting on with your life like the rest of us you wouldn't get any views.
I hope you don’t have kids and aren’t using this opportunity to experiment on their upbringing.
I'm so glad to know that there are total strangers online who are so concerned about my kids' well-being. I'm happy to inform you that I am also quite concerned for their well being
@@justpeachy4393 You are a 35 year old western woman trying to “find herself”. There are many women in the west just like you. There is nothing special about this whole thing. Also, if one does not want to be questioned, one should avoid posting their personal life details on the internet for the world to see.
@@FlyingAceAV8BI'm ok with opposition, hence why I'm posting online. People are benefitting from my content, albeit a small amount... But still I have helped some and that is why I'm here. Comments like yours only fuel my fire 🔥
“For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:13 Jesus loves you and you can do this, reliance on Him is better than anything human nature offers, doing life with God feels like true freedom. You got this. ❤
I love your candid sharing! There are so many thoughts and experiences that I relate to. Keep making your videos. Onward!
Hey Kristen! I'm so happy that I found your channel. I'm older than you but I relate to so much that you're talking about and dealing with. We have a lot of parallels and I am looking forward to seeing you re-create and rebuild your life. I know that you can do it!!! In the words of Max Lucado, "The door to tomorrow is unlocked from the inside. Turn the knob and step out." I have subscribed and am excited about your journey!
Me too!!
Congrats!!! 🥳 🎊🎉👏🎉👏🎉👏🎊 I'll be praying for you😊 ❤
Yeah... theres plenty other pastors to listen to that know the word and don't have women submit to husbands that SA their own kids. Not Christ like at all. May there be justice for Eileen Gray. It should be noted there can be physical or spiritual causes to what we experience. For anyone who has been struggling with certain sins or negative feelings you may want to consider deliverance. There are so many testimonies of people being delivered from addictions, anxiety, grief, and many of the like. I have been delivered from a spirit of self deletion. Thank God for Jesus The Deliverer!
There is no such thing as John MacArthur knowing anything about mental illnesses. He is very irresponsible and understands nothing about mental health diagnoses. I would like him to tell the three families that live nearby me where the fathers have committed suicide as a result of serving in the Middle East that there is no such thing as PTSD.
Yes, that's the thing. He no doubt supports veterans... Hordes of them come home with legitimate PTSD. I was shocked to hear him deny the existence of that one. ADHD, depression etc are not so surprising 🙄
@@justpeachy4393 I think he is confusing depression with disappointment. Over forty years ago, I was a behavior therapist with children treating severe behavior disorders. I worked on the original functional behavior analysis (FBA) studies at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine. I agree that kids are overdiagnosed with ADHD, but it does definitely exist. Johnny Mac would be sweating bullets working with these kids for over twenty minutes.
John has done great work for millions so don't write him off so quickly. No one is perfect or has all the answers. Also, life is so complex that the same answer that works for some may be disastrous for others. So give him some grace please. I have been depressed for 20+ years and one thing i have learned is many will never know what its like. Regardless of their expertise in science, medicine, therapy or scripture, nothing compares to first-hand prolonged immersive experience. Nevertheless scientist, doctors, therapy and pastors are immensely helpful. Thanks for this video. I think its a valid and discussion worthy concern.
I get what you're saying but I haven't seen much good from him that I don't also see in other pastors. He is very divisive and is in a very influential position which is why people are speaking out against his stance on mental health. You are absolutely right that people who have never experienced it don't have the same take on things and really can be quick to judge. I don't claim to know either... But you and many others are experiencing a very difficult battle and I just imagine his words must add insult to injury 😔
The key to depression is the Holy Spirit, by whom we have love, peace, joy.