My journey of slowing down & embracing the simple joys that make life beautiful.
Each week I take you along on my journey of learning how to slow down, live in rhythm with nature, love through cancer, and embrace the simple joys that make life magical.
Welcome, I am Rachel O'Bare and I live in a tiny mountain town in Colorado at 8440ft. I moved here at the start of the pandemic (March 2020) when I was quarantined with my husband Kyle after three months of dating. After just one year of dating, Kyle was diagnosed with brain cancer for the third time. This past four years has been about learning how to slow down even more, find optimism in struggle, love through cancer, and learn how to cultivate calm.
I am excited to share this journey of life with you. Shining light on the simple things that make life beautiful, and finding light in the darkness.
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Thank you for saying that at the end of the video, not many people do it! Have a good day because you deserve it.
Sweet Rachel, you know you need and deserve self-care for your body and mind. You will work it in and please give yourself grace when you make mistakes with scheduling. Are there others who can help you with appointments for Kyle-friends, family or volunteer group? I truly hope you’re on anxiety and/or depression medication and in therapy or seeking it. Your brain, heart and nervous system need breaks, distractions and rest.
Oh Rachael I wish I could give you a big big hug and say everything will be ok Thinking of you beautiful girl and sending my love ❤❤ Michelle Australia
I live down in park county and I completely understand the wildfire anxiety. I've been losing sleep over it this week. sending you a hug, girl. this week has been tough for colorado <3
Can't you take a respite, have a care aid come in to give you time to enjoy yourself for a day.
Wildfires have been brutal in my area and nearby communities in Oregon. Summer heat and fires seem to be intensifying greatly over the years. I wilt this time of year and feel so unproductive. You and Kyle are going thru so much. Sorry you missed out on some “girl time” this time.
Hi Rachel. Oh no, carers back home syndrome. I get it too. Its bad. You go out all excited and get to come home, then you get pulled over for speeding…lost in your troubled mind or something like that. Boom home and depressed. The real issue is also still at home. You need real living friends to visit, but I understand you have the attention thing. That makes it almost impossible for you. That airport issue pushed you over the edge. This world is so raw now and it only hits you when you travel. I would rest it out a few weeks, then be motivated to snap out of it. Though it may be a process for your mind to recover. Regards to you and Kyle God bless. ❤
Do not beat yourself up. Your plate is full, and you do such a wonderful job taking care of our son. Bless you!❤
"Inside every one of us is a garden, and every practitioner has to go back to their garden and take care of it. Maybe in the past, you left in untended for a long time. You should know exactly what is going on in your own garden, and try to put everything in order. Restore the beauty; restore the harmony in your garden. If it is well tended, many people will enjoy your garden." Thich Nhat Hanh
You’re not a failure. You’re a hero.
You are pushing your self way yo hard ! 10000 step per day is not nessesary ! Slow down pls ! Take a short walk..just sit down outside, do nothing, just smell the nature and be ! Live in the moment not in the future ! You are not a robot ! Be nice to you ! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Dont expect too much from yourself. You arent living a normsl life with normal demands. You have an ongoing crisis.
Are you sure he isn't disappointed for you instead of in you?
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️a day in the mountains does not sound silly! It sounds wonderful and healing and peaceful and helpful ! Nothing wrong with wanting that. ☹️❤️ sorry you missed out this time.
Sending hugs to you……
You’re not a failure… and you’re doing amazing sweety….take some time for yourself….🙏😘
Rachel!!!! Caregiver's Burnout is Real!!!! Do not blame yourself!!!! You have a routine of three people!!!! Please contiue to share your feelings!!! They are valid!!!! Write a list of the things you can control!!!! Then write a list of the things you can't control!!!! Then you can set a "realistic" time schedule for yourself!!!! You are doing great!!!! I'm praying concerning the wild fires in your state!!!!! God Bless!!!!
I’m so sorry girl. You are such a great person ❤️😘
Do you have a pastor you can talk to or a church friend you can talk to? Please don’t beat yourself up for this. I love you and I’m sending you a big hug
Thank you for the kind words and support. Kyle and I are not religious but we have support in other ways.
@@SimplyRachelOBare Ok that is good to know and you’re welcome
Blessings to you both
Thank you 🥰🥰
You have caregiver burnout. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Schedule time for yourself.
Yes I very much do along with grief burnout of all the things happening in this world. I am trying to find those times for me but they are difficult to do
You're a good person thinking of Kyle. The fire. Thinking of everything and not thinking of you. God only gives you what you can handle. You will get everything accomplished by the end of day. Remember God is right there with you. All day every day. Have faith ....
Thank you for your kindness the rest of the day ended up being wildly insane and stressful and I’ll share more than soon. Taking a deep breath and hopefully sleeping deeply tonight
I can relate. Ok. First of all stop saying you are failing. YOU ARE NOT!!!!! Any spare moment take for yourself. Kyle understands. You are going to get through this!!! You are stronger than you think!!!! Maybe set an hour aside everyday. Same time. Go for an early walk at sunrise and come back and do your tea and meditation. Meditation is key. I did not start mine yet. Keep thinking good thoughts. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Your are so right I am not a failure! It’s hard when your deep in those emotions your blinded by it but that may have to be my new mantra!
@@SimplyRachelOBare there you go!!!
Try hard to not be so hard on yourself. You are allowed to feel all that you are feeling. Don’t hold on to disappointment in yourself and start the next moment fresh. You may already behave these in your toolbox…. Develop self care tools that take minimal time such as 5 or 10 minutes. This way you can be sure to do something that nourishes you when you feel you have no time. Also, do not let “self care” become a task and when not achieved you feel like a failure. ❤
Yes yes yes to all of this I love it! I am absolutely no a disappointment nor will I care that into August! Fresh new month and carving out healing moments for me even if they are small!
Hang in there u will get your spunk back
Thank you thank you ☺️
Take care Rachael. Praying for Kyle's healing and restoration. Praying for you too. Love you. 😘🤗♥️
Thank you so much big love to you 🥰
@@SimplyRachelOBare 🥰
Please seek some counseling - a compassionate, competent woman who will help you work through all your feelings and issues. Please, please - you need it, you deserve it.
Yes this is something I want to return to but trying to figure it out financially!
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Accept that times are quite extraordinary right now and NOTHING matches up to what it "used" to be..... Accept it and don't fight it and make time for what you can and say NO to what you can't. But ACCEPT... when you accept you don't beat yourself up.... "it is what it is!" .....for now. xoxo
That’s a great perspective. I do think it’s ok to accept it as it as and feel the deep emotions that come with that. The grief that we experience and that it’s all in flow together coexisting.
Did u mean that Kyle is disappointed for you or that he is upset with you for not prioritising yourself? I can understand if he is disappointed for you but I wasn’t sure if that’s what you meant. You are an awesome carer and all your focus is on him at the moment, meaning that you are spinning so many plates that you will forget things and get mixed up. Be kind to yourself xxx
It was honestly a mix he was disappointed at the overall situation and in turn I took the brunt of that emotion. He is sad that every time I try to plan something, something comes up so it cannot happen. Sometimes we get frustrated and when we spend all our time together those emotions can be unintentionally put on each other. But I’m glad to have a partner that I can communicate with. Thank you for the reminder to be kind I feel much better in this moment but it’s helpful to process and let those feelings, thoughts and emotions out of me.
@@SimplyRachelOBare yes, frustration can cause misplaced anger, especially in fraught situations. You are not failing my darling, you are doing awesome under difficult circumstances, yes it is disappointing but I think you are amazing. I am a single mum to two teenage daughters and I had major surgery nine weeks ago to remove half my liver, my gallbladder and reroute my biliary ducts as the doctors think it is cancer. Then I got double pneumonia 😆 My mental health has taken a dip as I was told I would get the results 2-3 weeks after. It’s nearly 10 weeks and I have just submitted a complaint (NHS waiting times). I can relate to the feeling of climbing a mountain xx
@SimplyRachelOBare Rachel, I'm 58 I'm a caregiver to my Momma, I have no life. I'm being very serious. I try to make plans, and some bump in the road pops up. Do I get bitter, I do I'm an only child no help, do I question why me? I do Kyle can move around and is somewhat independent. My Mom is not. You need to get out and get fresh air, you have too. I know you feel drained and no desire to want too. But you do not want to become bitter of your life. You can do this, you deserve the me time and quiet time to recharge. I wish you both love and peace. Sending healing vibes and light ✨️ 💛
I’m so sorry you had to experience this alone.❤ so scary but so glad it turned around to be a great trip
Thank you so much 🥹
I had mentioned before that a family member was starting the Car T cell therapy at City of Hope. Tomorrow he will be having the infusion of his treated blood. I know this can be a difficult time so we are praying it goes well.
This is amazing sending all the good healing vibes your way!!! 🤍🥰
Sending good vibes that Kyle gets chosen for the Hope for Cancer trip. Great news too that Kyle remains stable and the surgery is not needed right now.
Thank you we are staying hopeful on all fronts! Keeping the good vibes flowing 🥰
Everything crossed for you to be chosen!!! 🤞🤞
Thank you thank you we appreciate it 🥰
Good luck..❤
Thank you so much!
Have you contacted Sloan Kettering in NY? You should.
We haven’t but have it in our back pocket for the future!
You two are the definition of hope and perseverance❤❤ how to keep pushing. Prayers🙏🏼🙏🏼
🥹🥹 this is so kind! Kyle truly is the guiding light and the reminder that good is everywhere!
Good vibes and sending healing prayees always good news in my opinion ❤
Yess very good news and we appreciate your love and healing 🤍🥰
Sounds like a good plan to wait and see.
Yes the waiting is a bit scary I won’t lie but trusting this journey and Kyle’s ability to heal
@@SimplyRachelOBare I get what you mean. Life with cancer is living from scan to scan
You both are so positive and resilient inspite of all that life throws your way. Truly inspiring. Praying for Kyle's healing and restoration. Both of you take care. Love you both 😘🤗🙏
🥹🥹🤍 thank you so much that means truly so much we can feel the love and send you our love
Could you do a 'go fund me' so we could help fund treatment?
Thank you so much this means more than you know! Our GoFundMe in linked in the description of this video and all previous video 🥹🥰
@@SimplyRachelOBarethanks for link! I’ll give a small amount in August, hopefully everyone will give! Love, Liz❤❤❤
Thank you so so much this means more than you know 🥹🥹🥰
I feel like this is all great news. I'm thinking you both look so healthy. Kyle seems to look much better. His color is good! I'm going to be praying this way. Thx for the video!!
Thank you I agree he is looking wonderful these days and hoping all that goodness and hope 🥰
I am so sorry for your loss. My husband and I lost 2 dogs 1 week apart in 2021. I cried for 5 solid weeks. We got another fur baby to love but your heart never forgets.
I am so so deeply sorry for your loss my heart breaks for you! I understand getting another fur baby and we are thinking we ready for one ourselves!
Anecdotal reports of Ivermectin having affect on cancer cells. Have you explored this option?
How does one get ivermectin? My mother in law is supposedly cancer free now but I'm wondering about it in case it returns.
@@ayasha89games66 thats a good question. Do your research, may be some docs who are prescribing it off label.
I am sure if the Oncologists thought Ivermectin would kill cancer they would be using it. Ivermectin is an antiparasitic drug used to treat several neglected tropical diseases, including onchocerciasis, helminthiases, and scabies. Some topical forms of ivermectin are approved to treat external parasites like head lice and for skin conditions such as rosacea. Stop recommending things to people when you are not a doctor.
I love you! You are sure getting your bases covered! And yes, I didn't re-evaluate, but after I did, I agreed! Did I mention I love you!
Yes we are getting our bases covered and healing is happening 🥰 love you big my love
Prayers for you both 🙏 I do pray you get selected for the Hope for Cancer trip 🙏 😊 Your Chinese herbs are the best medicine stick with them ❤ Tfs blessings from Florida 🙌🌴🌴
Thank you so so much we are keeping that hope and optimism alive!! We will know tomorrow 😬
U guys are so great u have a plan and an awesome outlook u will beat this Chinese herbs do wonders for healing keep it up❤
Thank you so so much healing is happening in every moment!!
You are both beautiful and wise. You restore my faith in human nature and I am delighted to have 'met' you. Sending all the love and healing I can muster from London, England xx ❤xx
Hi you sweetie pies 💕
prayers!