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  @evoluti0n09Ай бұрын

  Good stuff

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  @saulpwАй бұрын

  This is core theme of the classic book, The Inner Game of Tennis

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  @susandelaney858Ай бұрын

  The thing that I've been particularly aware of lately is the "dumbing down". I notice a real tendency to edit my thoughts or even "delete" them out of fear that I will be resented and/or rejected for "thinking I'm better than others". Language has always been a passion of mine, I love to read, listen and even write an articulate expression which uses specific language to convey meaning. It seems to me that our language has significantly more potential for this than we are willing to use in our society. I'm sure I've been capable of this myself so my life, however it often involves using language that I fear will be perceived as "hoity toity" or simple not understood, leaving me feeling rejected, so I have avoided expressing myself in this way. I have one friend who openly and shamelessly just asks "what does that mean?" (I admire this, it's an openness to learning that seems rare). I do the same, I can't repress my curiosity. But I'm afraid to use what I learn. I believe this, as you suggest, is the result of early conditioning, in my case as far back as before kindergarten and subsequently mostly at home as well as at public school (and even at university, among students). I think I might try using it more, if only to challenge my assumptions about what others are interested in hearing. And also to more easily find and connect with people with whom I have things in common. Thanks, very validating.

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  @susandelaney858Ай бұрын

  Couple of typos above, apologies. On a related note, has anyone else found autocorrect to be as guilty as any person of dumbing down what you are trying to write?

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  @iChristyG2 ай бұрын

  Thank you for sharing this. I love how you put the perspective of just updating the internal program. Today at work, I shared my gender identity, and it is something I rarely talk about with people because it's so personal to me. Luckily, it was well received by my team and workplace, but I definitely came away from it like, "Oh my god, I can't believe I shared this so openly. What if they start to think I am weird for feeling this way about my gender? What if they think I am silly? What if they were only pretending to be welcoming???" For the most part, I've worked hard on becoming more secure and less avoidant over the years. However, it made me realize that there are certain things I am holding back in fear of that side of me not being accepted.

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  @hayattMD3 ай бұрын

  Could you speak about how to feel your feelings both good and bad and how to let them pass? I would like to hear your point on that!

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  @michael.gendler3 ай бұрын

  love the new set! studio is looking great topic is fascinating. doing the “right” thing can feel “wrong” is a real 🤯

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  @akiffpremjee3 ай бұрын

  was happy to see this on my feed! welcome back!

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  @m_ashcroft3 ай бұрын

  Thank you!

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  @JackVaughan4 ай бұрын

  Thanks for the update Michael. I was very happy to see this title come up on my feed, and to hear your perspective on it. Also comforting to hear you say most people feel this. I look forward to hearing where you go with it.

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  @m_ashcroft4 ай бұрын

  Thanks for watching! I'm looking forward to developing it further

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  @CaelanHuntress4 ай бұрын

  "You don't need to know what it is to keep digging." ✅

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  @m_ashcroft4 ай бұрын

  hmmm I need to follow my own advice don't I

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  @reciprocalhealing6 ай бұрын

  Thank you for sharing! I’m in a similar boat at the moment, after years of berating myself with productivity and overachieving I hit a wall and my body could no longer function at the level I was asking it to, the level I was used to operating at for so long. It’s taken a while, and a lot of acceptance but I’m realizing that pushing myself so hard towards “accomplishments” that aren’t even that valuable or fulfilling for me (though perhaps vaporized by society) isn’t worth it, and that this slower pace I’ve been guided into (by force due to stubbornness to hear more subtle cues) actually curates and creates things of a far greater value. And too, through this, I’ve become a person of worth just for being instead of for doing, compulsively and self destructively. All the best to you ❤

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  @stageperformancepro25316 ай бұрын

  You have a great gift to show what it means to be open on camera. Making space, creating authenticity, keep going. Great video.

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  @theastridgonzalez8 ай бұрын

  Thank you so much. I will try this next time I work on a scene, I feel like this really narrows down how to really be present and to act without “acting” so to speak. Thank you.

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  @v_iika9 ай бұрын

  Beautiful video, the concept of yelling resonated with me

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  @ModernSunlight10 ай бұрын

  vulnerability hangover > alcohol hangover = alcohol abuse

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  @s0ulDirect0r_11 ай бұрын

  That was really helpful...I know I can be way too intense sometimes, and it was helpful to see you model the two forms of attention, I could actually feel the difference across the screen, which is crazy

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  @hiperventilat806411 ай бұрын

  i resonate with you, i feel like this with my whole future career (im 22). I have natural egoic tendencies which manifest themselves in career choices and now im holding back too, waiting to clearly see what i want and what i don't. I just want to avoid leading an inauthentic, unaware (and probably damaging) life.

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  @arielabello Жыл бұрын

  just to register that I don't feel the slightest urge to speed up your videos and that's unusual I really like the way you speak the content isn't bad either 😆

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  @v_iika Жыл бұрын

  What's the title of the book you were mentioning?

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  @kyleds8888 Жыл бұрын

  Audibly let out a ‘holy shit’ at 3:00. You’ve described me perfectly. Even the Write of Passage quote was one I’ve encountered. Hope you keep the content coming, just followed you on twitter :)

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  @Anja_Pearson Жыл бұрын

  Hi there! I found your content after searching up vulnerability hangovers, and I really appreciate the kinds of videos you make! This one in particular resonates with me… I think I do this with my writing, to a certain extent. I got into this trap of thinking that all of my writing has to be “finished”. Because I have absolutely no idea how to finish something, I’ve now been writing unfinished drafts for 3-4 years, and have around 100 of them. I sometimes get frustrated with myself because of the pressure I feel to make my drafts “great” the first time around, and it leads to me getting stuck. It’s hard to tell if I’m making progress, and I can get into the rut of doing the same thing over and over. I appreciate that you seem to be striving for authenticity, thank you for being you :)

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  @Kimura117 Жыл бұрын

  I'm hoping you can upload more often! I am really enjoying your content.

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  @allenmo5498 Жыл бұрын

  Wow!! Thank u.

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  @hadihadihadi Жыл бұрын

  This was great, thanks for your thoughts! I’m watching your videos chronologically, and while I enjoyed the last one, I much prefer your unscripted ones.

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  @existentialgroove Жыл бұрын

  Thank you for sharing this Michael, this is verbatim what I've been experiencing after sharing my personal experiences online. Beautifully put.

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  @coscorrodrift Жыл бұрын

  Lol these expanding awareness concepts phrasings are so funny. It's a nice insight. I watched the video from Matthew and it connects well with what he says, it's like the opposite side of the "yourself" coin

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  @DazaiEN Жыл бұрын

  Damn this is gold!

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  @buddhabike Жыл бұрын

  Hey Michael, do you share your favorite books anywhere?

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  @iloverumi Жыл бұрын

  great conversation

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  @shelbythomas2837 Жыл бұрын

  Alas, proof there are still good people in the world.

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  @DWXY Жыл бұрын

  Thanks. Good to get a view on this from someone who uses it.

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  @cmfsobl Жыл бұрын

  2:50 the trauma! That’s exactly what happened to me. I burnt out and thought a different company would change things. But the trauma is associated WITH the work so it’s triggering. I literally won’t do a certain type of work because 1) it brings back bad memories 2) I’m afraid of falling into old/bad work habits and burning out again.

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  @broerlnag Жыл бұрын

  This is one video that I find myself coming back from time to time. Thank you for creating it!!

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  @rb351 Жыл бұрын

  Omg, your youtube account is real gold! Thanks so much for this useful video.

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  @m_ashcroft Жыл бұрын

  Thank you!

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  @dannyiskandar Жыл бұрын

  how about 'fake it till you make it'?

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  @cassettepat Жыл бұрын

  This is me.. Thanks for making the video! I have so many ideas and interests that I cannot niche down and have about 15 email addresses for different projects/businesses etc I’m currently trying to start freelancing and I cannot decide what services to offer whether it’s music production, blog writing or cv writing.. or Etsy shop services

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  @dannyiskandar Жыл бұрын

  do yoga, relaxation, breathing?

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  @alessandromassa6183 Жыл бұрын

  21:03 What role does mimesis play in the different approaches to learning (vid, text etc.) ?

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  @ritabrophy3755 Жыл бұрын

  This is actually part of person centred counselling ..processing your emotions is therapy .

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  @ringojoejoe Жыл бұрын

  great stuff, lots for me to chew over. was hoping for a careless whisper cover though :(

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  @alessandromassa6183 Жыл бұрын

  As I’m listening I think of the wonderful depth some people are willing to go to with regards to experience; thank you! If the response to snappy and volatile news feeds is this kind of conversation, then I am willing to get my hands dirty. This brings me to the point of interest which AT has not solved for me recently: “the act of courage”. What is courage in an AT context? To give an example, a fresh one from my personal life, I recently found myself conflicted as I “wanted” to do something (let’s call it “ask a girl out”) and, as I wanted to do this, I kept incurring in all my usual stumbling blocks for why I never possibly could do this. “Why?” I kept asking, raging ultimately against myself “because I’m full of excuses!” only to then throw myself in a state of excitement to go and “do” the thing I so much wanted to do. It didn’t go well. My “doing” the thing, my “forcing” this resolution, pressured by time, made me act, but I was acting under the spell of the same neurosis which didn’t like me doing that thing. I “remembered” that I can be brave and do things that are uncomfortable (is how I think of this experience now) yet none of the experience seemed to be non-doing; it seemed more in line with having Jocko Willinks whispering in my ear “do it, pussy!” Which is… great. I did it. That “felt” great. And yet I am still stuck on the same problem; if I think of “ask this girl out”, the neurosis emerge just as devilishly as before. This makes sense to me: I am still fixated on a limited, attention driven, old man looking at his belly button, set of solutions; I am not (moment by moment) “aware” that I *can* “just” let my desire to “ask this girl out” drive me effortlessly towards a resolution. But then what the hell is courage?! It seems to vanish as a concept once you think of doing as “non-doing”. I have some ideas but I will leave this as an open question to see if any fish bites. Thanks again. Ciao!

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  @namgnoi Жыл бұрын

  I am wondering how inquiry methods play a role in this. Maybe there are more part of the thing that came up when you talked about therapie. I am looking specifically at scott kiloby's method (kzread.info). The assumption here is that there are unconscious processes that don't come up naturally and need to be pulled up. Maybe the AT move of global inhibition takes this into account by which this processies will bubble put at some point. Inquiry methodes certainly would complement and may have an accelating effect to this. Scott is often talking about the non-dual approach and how it for most people does not do much regarding these unconscious processes but still underlines its importants, I think for basically its non-fixation aspect (ultimately the identification with self you also mentioned) and possibility more I am not aware of. Global inhibition, which I don't intent to compare with non-dualiy, certainly seems to me like a "requirement" to have the possibility to let these bubble up. Maybe its not too wrong thinking that the global inihition AT thing is actually a fundamentall skill or just too helpful to leave out, for all these methods.

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  @namgnoi Жыл бұрын

  Feels unfamilier to allow myself partake in discussions. Something I mostly avoided. Like dangerous where possiblty something bad happens from it. Something funny arising spelling this out this way :)

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  @namgnoi Жыл бұрын

  fallibilism as a way to non-fixation (1:14:30). wow that linked something I had never connected.

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  @namgnoi Жыл бұрын

  Like Karl Popper is pointing here, that its not about fallibilism but about something else. Feel the need to say that I am really just playing with this connecting stuff ;). Could be totally of. > But the fallibility of our knowledge - or the thesis that all knowledge is guesswork, though some consists of guesses which have been most severely tested - must not be cited in support of scepticism or relativism. From the fact that we can err, and that a criterion of truth which might save us from error does not exist, it does not follow that the choice between theories is arbitrary, or non-rational: that we cannot learn, or get nearer to the truth: that our knowledge cannot grow.

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  @OUTRAGEOUSC Жыл бұрын

  “Acting as someone else is actually a way of unfixating from who you think you are” .. mind = blown

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  @namgnoi Жыл бұрын

  Awesome stuff. Thank you both. First time I hear your description of AT as of non-fixation of what you think AT is. This really unlocked something for me.

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  @CamsCampbell Жыл бұрын

  Ooh, the inhibition and cookie thing. It reminds me of how I found it easier not to smoke weed when I had plenty. And in fact I still have some and haven't smoked in years. It always feels easier not to cave when the option is still there. I wish it actually worked like that with cookies for me. At the moment, it doesn't.

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  @CamsCampbell Жыл бұрын

  Depo canus? I can't find this with any spelling.

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  @jibranelbazi Жыл бұрын

  great convo! resonated a lot with my feelings and thoughts. you guys also hit a bunch of points Gabe, Rich, and I talked about irt individuation, deep okayness, and bottom up changing of the world (wide web).

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  @CamsCampbell Жыл бұрын

  Ooh, can't wait to hear this one! I'd love it if you would consider putting these out as audio podcasts? I don't pay for KZread, and I have to listen with my phone turned on and the screen facing outwards to keep it on. Just a thought. Even paywalled on Substack could work.

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  @CamsCampbell Жыл бұрын

  "It was just so clear that the way I was operating was out of alignment with how I wanted to be in the world and how I wanted to show up." I can relate to this so hard.

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  @m_ashcroft Жыл бұрын

  Fair point! This will add a few steps to my workflow and might be extra cost, so it's not high on my list of things to do given that I'm trying to keep this casual, but yeah I totally recognise that KZread make this maximally annoying if you don't pay. At some point I'll switch to Riverside (I'm using Ecamm Live for now, which doesn't spit out audio tracks) and then I'll see about getting a podcast feed

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  @jmesy3 ай бұрын

  I listened to this with Brave browser for iOS - lets you download videos to play as podcasts, so you can close the lockscreen. Would imagine they have an android app too 👍

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  @malcolm_ocean Жыл бұрын

  Great stuff guys. Loving the overall question of like "are these the same? maybe. what would it mean if they were? unclear! let's explore"

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  @kryptonianbitch Жыл бұрын

  Is this applicable to academics? I am reviewing for the bar

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  @m_ashcroft Жыл бұрын

  Maybe! But I would say if you're studying right now then perhaps it's not the best time to start messing with your known ways of working - wait until you have greater spaciousness