Caroline Southwell - Human Design & Tapping Coach
Caroline Southwell - Human Design & Tapping Coach
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Caroline Southwell supports conscious practitioners, entrepreneurs, leaders and change-makers who are determined to be their most authentic selves while they play their part in birthing a new (more loving, peaceful and sustainable) world for all.
She's been coaching since 2012, working with Human Design since 2014 and incorporating tapping (EFT & other versions) to speed up deconditioning since 2015.
She offers self-paced Human Design courses and coaches clients online, through Zoom, from around the world. She loves nothing more than watching people become more and more their unique, quirky, wonderful selves.
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any experience with male projectors, like in the face of cultural norms where they are expected to take initiative and not doing so can be seen as a lack of interest?
I'm here to be influenced by the right people, but I'm my own authority and I do not need anyone to take a decision and I'm here to guide the right people, the ones that are here to influence me.🤪
Yep!
Im a reflector. And all of your words true. Now i understand everything about myself. Thank you❤
what shall I do if I have as a emotional projector ....a child manifesting generator :-( :-)
Hello again. I'm not sure what you meant in this question. Feel free to restate it and if I can answer it in this format I'll be happy to. (Though please know that often questions that people think are simple actually need a much longer answer to be useful).
great points! thanks! could you pls give me a short issue clue for split definition...for business......I read relationships ...does it mean I can guide others in issues with relationships the most?
Hi there. Glad you found it helpful. I'm not 100% sure what you mean by your question here. And I'd probably need to see your chart in a session to answer it accurately.
Very Helpful. Thankyou Caroline.
Welcome! =)
I have some great effective experience with TRE trauma release exercise to get rid of the freeze condition in the psoas which I have since decades
Awesome.
Thank you for all of your videos about the Projectors so far I m really thankful for your realization and your experience about the experiments what you share from your heart I would give you countless thumbs up but the system wouldn’t allow 😢😅
Awwwh. Thanks for the kind words. Glad you're finding the content so helpful. (If you're not already signed up to receive emails from me, you might like to do that. I'm moving towards offering more and more stuff for Projectors and the first place I'll tell people about it is there. The link should be in the video description).
Another really FANTASTIC video. It rings a lot of bells. I just startet following you and most of what you say, as well as the way you say it, resonates deeply. So thanks a bunch for making these videos! I will certainly hang out a bit more on your channel 🙂
Welcome :) Glad you're finding these helpful. (Oh, and if you feel compelled to learn more then you might like what I'm sharing in my private email list. The link should be in the video description).
Hi, what a great advice. I am a self-projected projecor having only the G-center and the throat defined. I agree that journaling helps a lot. But speaking out is way more revealing. It surprises me very often to hear what I am saying. Whereas in writing/journaling I see my mind being involved much more and that changes things around quite a bit. And yes, it makes a big difference HOW it comes out when I speak. That is a very important point to remember. Just wanted to provide my 2 cents here 🙂
Hi! Glad you enjoyed it. And definitely, I'm in full agreement with you. I'm always telling my SPP clients to try and find SOME way to talk it out - with *safe* people, pets, trees, spaces, themselves, to their voice recorder on their phone. However they can so they can hear their own voice. Also glad you've shared your experience here. It's good for other SPP's to read/hear the experiences of those most similar to them. And I dare say your experience is worth more than "2 cents" ;)
Thank you Caroline, these gems of knowledge you share with us are so helpful! I have been practicing with waiting for the invitation for a few years now, more deeply since following your channel and taking your classes. It's been quite a challenge since I was raised with a very strong, independent "Generator" mother and in a tribe that encourages the opposite. Practice makes perfect, and your constant re-minding is very helpful. xo
Thanks for your videos. I recently discovered your channel and you're really helpful. I am a 4/6 Emotional Projector with defined root, spleen, solar plexus and throat. I have a ton of energy, in bursts, when it's about something I like doing. It's easy to force myself to work on things I don't want, because the energy is there, but then it feels horrible and it drains me for days.
Glad you're finding the content helpful. Good lessons there about honouring your own wants :) Not always easy to change our behaviours but the very first step is realising what we're doing and the impact it's having on us.
"You can do a lot when you're around other people, grabbing their energy and amplifying it" WOW. Is this why I feel so productive when my husband and daughter (Generator and MG) are in the house?!
Hmmm, while I can't scientifically prove it, my experience wants to say... Ah, YES!
Was that an invitation? Can I say something here... ha ha! It wasn't a direct invite to me - it was to all the listeners of the video - that nuance - that value - that exchange... does it warrant my voice and my involvement...? When is it correct to post a youtube comment as a projector...? I would be very keen to hear a video if it appeals to you about the nuance / filter of how our identification with ourselves impacts our decision making process and how that can influence our direction when making decisions as projectors? Thanks for your videos - it is a real pleasure to listen to your experiences and experimentation stories... 🙃
Ah, you're clever. I see what you did there =) Very interesting question - When is it correct to comment as a Projector? I shall ponder. But in short, mostly it is not, because in most situations it's going to be responding. Re. your request for a video: I'll pop in on the pile and see if it's something that wants to be answered in this public format or not. Thanks for asking. Tell me what you want (as someone who values my work) helps me know what my audience needs and wants next.
Great video🎉. However I have experienced situations with strangers where the invite turned up being a huge smile on their face and an energy that beckoned me into their field, it wasn't a verbal invite. It was a small thing, just a conversation, but there are times where an invite felt very genuine and positive when the person's energy simply drev me in.
Yep. Love it. Body language can show there's an invitation. I think I mention that in this video. But if not, yes!
This was excellent! One of your best videos that truly captures the truth about projectors that can only be verified by experience- well done! This was affirming and very well explained ❤️🙏
Thank you!
totally and literally "invited to work" 🧐😂
Thanks for that good point. I m new to the hd experiment and your short videos are very helpful. But still I am confused what I am. I have only an red canal between 61-24. 😊
Glad they're helping =) HD is a giant body of work; it will take time to really get your head around it. Keep watching any and all videos that look like they apply to you. (The Projector Type Playlist will probably be the best bet for finding them all easily. Find it on the channel home page). And if you haven't seen the video for the "Mental Projector" definitely watch that one. It will take you one step closer to understanding yourself with your one and only (61-24) channel.
Thankyou for that beautiful, honest, vulnerable share. Your words are powerful. I really heard your 'invitation' lesson in this, and how to be true to this as a projector.
Thanks for the kind comment, love. Grateful words are even MORE appreciated on my super vulnerable shares! Glad it was helpful.
If you enjoyed this video, then you'll probably love this one too: kzread.info/dash/bejne/pJuT17Gff6Saqpc.htmlsi=jbwuGHrlDwZPv4eI
If you find that you're creating unhelpful beliefs about yourself based on the HD teachings you've been consuming then I strongly recommend you learn more about this thing we call "deconditioning". More on that here: kzread.info/dash/bejne/noaYl7SPnZCYdJM.html
If you're an Emotional Projector and you're struggling to wait out your Emotional Wave until you have clarity then I recommend you check out this video on deconditioning: kzread.info/dash/bejne/noaYl7SPnZCYdJM.html
If you're a Splenic Projector who is struggling to honour your Splenic whispers (or even hear that at all!) then check out this video on Deconditioning: kzread.info/dash/bejne/noaYl7SPnZCYdJM.html
A 5/1 ajna/throat Mental Projector…. “non energy”. Since the beginning of my HD experiment I have restructured how I work, exercise & interact with others to make life more fulfilling, and doing so has left me with incredible energy… to do everything I love, including long sleeps and naps :D I noticed as well my definition of “active mountains” means I have to move my body otherwise I get anxiety! That includes “sitting still” meditations. Walking meditations or meditation after exercise has been so much more correct for me, physical movement to move any stagnant energy, it has been life changing in such a positive way to learn about HD and your videos have helped a lot in the past few years.
Wonderful! Thanks for commenting and adding your experience (and wins!) here, @tiggerscrunchies. I think every Projector who can share their experiences of what has helped them is super empowering for other Projectors watching along. Glad my videos have helped and that you're doing life in a way now that really works for you :)
Sounds Good what is tapping?
Hi Tim. Lots on this topic on my channel. Check out the playlist on tapping if healing your wounds and living an authentic life feels like a high priority for you.
I have to exercise or I’ll lose my mind. 1/3 emotional projector.
I hear ya, sister! I am the same.
Great teaching piece drawn from your real life. Very positive vibes, it must have worked.
Cheers mate. Feeling seen over here.
Most useful bits: Empower, different and accept the timeline, or words to that effect. Sounds genuinely useful information. What I'd like to hear- where do new projectors start their journey? Book reading, data gathering or just healing?
Hey You. Each person is drawn to doing it a bit differently depending on their design. If they are very strategic and logical by nature (in their chart) then they'll probably want to read a book and/or take an step by step course. If they're very right brained and abstract by nature (at the other extreme) then they might sample and experience things all over the place, from a range of teachers and feel good about that. And... if continuums had multiple dimensions then the Projectors dominated by individual energy would be busy doing the whole learning+healing thing in a way we've never seen before ;P That is to say, there is no one right way. But ultimately everyone will need to learn correct information from people they resonate with and learn safe ways to heal effectively over time. And repeat/deepen both until their life looks the way they want it to be.
I most needed to hear the words you said about Ra and how not to focus on what one is not. Everything you said, I've been thinking yet I hadn't heard anyone else say it, so it's a big relief to hear from you Caroline. And to have confirmed that the invite applies to everything concerning another human being. My experience as well even before I met with HD. Makes all the difference when one plays with strategy. There's still so much struggle with the inner authority. The splenic in my case. I hear about it again and again, but I'm still not sure about it. When fear and excitement are mixed in a situation when one is invited, its sometimes hard to distinguish between is it good for me or not. Then I go to Motivation variable and see I have fear motivation and think "hmm, maybe the fear ain't such a bad thing". Yet others day that when you feel fear, it is a no. Buy mostly that's just mental stuff, I still just try to go with what my experience is, not what others say my authority should be like. As always, thank you. You are worth gold for us projectors💯☀️💯☀️💯
You're so welcome @aworon. And reading your comment in full I have three thoughts: 1. Prioritising your deconditioning (through tapping or any way that you like that genuinely works) will help you tease apart when it's a mental (not self) fear that's not useful and when it's a splenic (true self) fear that you need to listen to. (Note: Fear motivation is another thing entirely. I want to encourage you to put that aside when thinking about making decisions - that's not what Motivation is about.) 2. Thanks for the kind words on this video (and others). I hope you're sharing these with other Projectors ;) 3. If you're not on my email list, I recommend jumping on it. Currently free and in the process of shifting the content from HD Basics to strongly supporting Projectors. Let me know if you need/want the link to join us there for my rambling (awesome :P) stories.
So true so true so true. Thank you so much for this video Caroline🎉🎉🎉
You are so welcome!
Thank you ma'am 🙏💖
So helpful! I was taught to wait for an invitation for the big things. When I watched your video explaining what waiting for the invitation really means, it made so much more sense.🙏🏾 I like your explanation of what deconditioning is. I feel I understand it better now.
Yay! Awesome :) #myjobisdone
I am a 5/1 Emotional Projector with undefined root, sacral & splenic centers. I have taken many courses to help me with my inner child healing business and they all say stay consistent and work hard but listening to my intuition and whats right for me is the best for me ❤❤❤
"Don't worry about it!" ❤ Simple is good.😅 It's true that I wasn't doing it because I wasn't sure if my technique was correct. Thank you!
You're so welcome!
I hold some resentment towards my so-called strategy. Since when do morons ASK for wisdom. Since when does evolution and change (mutation) occur when someone ASKS for it? They NEVER ask for it. It (change, evolution, mutation) comes with a heavy dose of sacrifice, alienation, and RESISTANCE! I apologize for shouting, but . . . like you, I am a projector with an undefined throat with 5 activated gates and 4 more with activated harmonic gates!?! I was as good as a deaf mute and silent as the grave most of my adult life, but the alienation and resistance was just as much a hallmark then as it is now when I finally broke that habit (5th line profile, much?). Most people can't "see the forest for the trees." Why do they hate me for letting them in on a little secret? Dude, the trees ARE the forest. So what's the difference? I am alienated (even hated) in either scenario. At least someone gets a clue when I get the horrible notion to share my thoughts. The nerve of me to actually share my thoughts, be they right or wrong. Trust me, most people make sure I hear their thoughts before I have uttered a peep! Sometimes, you can't tap away the bitterness.
Christine, I hear that that is your experience. I hear that this is extra challenging because you're a 5th Line Profile and have soooo many gate activations (and potential gate activations) on your Undefined Throat. I also *know* with every fibre of my being that incredible things can be shifted within our own field--over time--with enough presence. Nothing is one-tapping-session wonder, tapping is not the right tool for everyone, but with dedication I *know* that this deep resentment that you hold *can* shift. It will depend on how badly you want it. Very big hugs as you continue to journey your way home.
Thanks - this is a bloody helpful clarification regarding naming conventions. I am a 5/1 non energy projector with 2 centres, the head and ajina defined. When I recently found out I was a so called mental projector that needs to rest a lot if felt totally wrong. I have and continue to be drawn to doing daily exercise, and have for my entire adult life & as a kid more so. Having said all that, I am finding that taking time to proactively decondition, without working is making a huge difference to my quality of life. I would rather understand how this HD works than be blissfully aware!
Thanks for sharing your experience re. exercise as a so-called Non-Energy Projector, Peter. I think it's very useful for those watching along who are newer to HD and/or with less life experience to see that questioning what they've been taught re. "rest, rest, rest" is not only useful, it's essential.
In the HD material Ra keeps stressing that the waiting for the invitation is ooonly for the big things in life... And then goes on in other material saying things like to shut up until someone speaks to you ... This makes no sense at all. (Honestly, he didn't get projectors very well at all). The energy types usually talk about the invite only being to big things and the daily life is for me to decide on my own. But my experience is that every little encounter with a living being (both humans and animals) shows me that "waiting to be invited" energy. I either feel resistance/restriction or an opening in my system depending on what I feel in the space between me and the other. And this is not mentioned in HD material anywhere. You're the only one talking about this as far as I have seen. I'm so thankful for you being here for us projectors Caroline. Most, even trained analysts, seem to get it wrong about this type imo. It's be great if you'd address this topic at some point, cause even though I feel what an invite means, it confuses me that source material says something different. 😊
Hello there. Thanks for your thoughtful comment(s!). Happy to talk about this more. I feel like I bang on about the "wait for the invite to f*cking everything, please" rather a lot. But, if as you say, no one else is really talking about this then I clearly need to speak about it even more. Ah, Ra. I have also found that he constantly contradicted himself in his lectures. It's no wonder people find it so confusing. I only reached this clarity because I was willing to take him and all other HD teachers off the pedestals I had them on and really do my own experiment. I'll make a video on this. And, until then (and until forever) please do keep listening to your own body and what it's showing you. You know more about your experience than any non-Projector can probably ever teach you.
Thanks for sharing this knowledge Caroline, it is SO important to understand this. I'm a 4/1 splenic projector with defined Root, Spleen, G and Throat centers defined. "We are made of energy" is a critical thing for all Projectors to remember.
Thanks for your kind words, @createmate. And while I didn't say it in this video (because if I included *all the things* I'd be there for hours :P) Ra used to say that those with a Root to Spleen connection like you *absolutely* thrive with a lot of physical exercise. In fact, every time I look up an ultra endurance athlete's chart they almost always have at least one defined channel between the Root and Spleen.
I'm a 2/4 Ego-Projected Projector; with the Heart and G center defined; one channel at 25/51; one gate defined above the G center (47), so I have an open head and throat center. I get the classic burst of will energy when something demands it and a bit longer one when I really want to do something. I follow the rest-to-work model and my authority to work when I feel up to it and my heart is in it. I have my own business so I set my own schedule and working on implementing passive income streams. I know that I'll feel better physically and get a feeling of success by doing something good for myself when I exercise, so as soon as I feel up to it, I jump on it.
Oh I LOVE this response. Ego Projectors take note! This is how it's done. Beautiful :) Thanks Kelli.
I'm an energy projector, I got my sacral, heart, and spleen defined. My biggest challenge in life is consistency... I find it so hard to be consistent with my exercise. Sometimes I'm on it, other times not... Any insights on how to navigate the lack of consistency?
Hi there. So I'm guessing you mean Solar Plexus rather than Sacral? (Otherwise you'd be a Generator) and regarding consistency I have few thoughts here. Firstly, it's easy to make ourselves wrong for being inconsistent. But we all have a different relationship with consistency to each other. Some are DESIGNED to be very consistent and others to be wildly inconsistent. So just because you're inconsistent with your exercise doesn't necessarily mean you're doing it wrong. Also, many people fail to do enough exercise for them to feel really healthy and good because they have unresolved trauma stuck in their body. They intuitively know that if they do a bunch of exercise it might stir up stuff they're not ready to face. If you feel like you've been through a lot and/or your childhood didn't feel amazingly, beautifully safe for you then this might be what's stopping you from doing as much exercise as you'd like. The solution? Two things: 1. Gently try to do exercise as often as you want to, doing any form of movement that feels good to you, and aim to slowly build it over time, and 2. Prioritise slowly and safely deconditioning so you can heal anything stuck in your body that might stop you from living your healthiest life. (That's as much as I can probably say in a YT comment. If you want to explore any of these thing further there are more resources on my channel here and always links to things in each video description. Thanks for your question!)
Only throat and ajna defined, and only one channel. Quad right. I rest a lot. 🤗
But Serena had to retire abruptly.. her migraines were getting out of control (and started in her 20s) you don’t think that s not self?
Was she in perfect alignment? Perhaps not. But she was healthy for a long time and performing well for a long time. This isn't binary: someone isn't just living their design perfectly or not at all. It's a continuum. You don't have to be perfect either. Just take the one next step towards more aligned today, tomorrow and each day moving forward.
But i literally have no energy… i can lay around ALL day😢
Laying around all day is okay sometimes. But when Projectors are chronically tired then it usually means they've been working too hard for too long and instead of being paid to guide are being asked to use their effort for work. Stepping into greater health won't happen overnight but it can happen overtime but making sure you're learning correct and empowering information about yourself and taking brave action to take the one next aligned step you can.
@@CarolineSouthwellDotCom the ‘problem’ is.. i get super excited and passionate about many things (I am certified fertility coach, best selling author, divorce coach etc) but to execute i find it hard (almost impossible) to focus on and be ‘consistent’
Yep.. I have no energy whatsoever.. NONE, empty, no channels 😢 VERY different than a Projector with energy defined…
Hello Danijela, I want to encourage you to look at the language you're using. As a Projector you will have at least one defined channel. You may have no motors defined but that does not mean "you have no energy" by design. I get that you might be tired but that's not the same thing as we're talking about here. I recommend consuming as much empowering content about yourself and your HD as possible. If you want to feel better about yourself, read the comments of other Projectors and their experiences.
@@CarolineSouthwellDotCom to look at the language? What was I supposed to say if i have no motors defined or channels connected to? Other projectors with defined motors are NOT the same
@@danijelastrauss7069 honey, this isn't a criticism. It's tricky in text to communicate how much I care. I really do. What I'm hoping to point you towards is seeing yourself in a more empowering way. I have clients who are classified as "Non-Energy Projectors" who do exercise every day are vitally healthy. I can appreciate that not every "Non-Energy Projector" is lucky enough to be currently experiencing that. And being chronically tired can be really hard. I get it. AND keep looking at what you CAN do. Keep looking at all the things that are AWESOME about you. Keep doing whatever is within your capacity to do today. That's how you get your energy back again.
Non-energy here 🧘- I’m a 3/5 self-projected projector with lots of energy ⚡. I love hiking 🌄 and enjoy slow-paced exercises like yoga and strength training, always ensuring plenty of rest between sets High-intensity activities like HIIT or CrossFit aren't my thing.
Hi! I love this line: I'm a 3/5 self-projected projector WITH LOTS OF ENERGY. Gold. Thanks for your comment :)
Im an "energy" projector with the heart center defined. I feel it can give enormous amounts of energy at times. The will in this center can be abused thoguhm i can literally will myself to so many things forcefully and go go go and get completely burned out over the long run. Now that i understand that it comes in bursts, i'm learning to pace my will. When i first grt fixed on something im willing to do, a lot of energy rises.
This is very helpful. I get so triggered by reading and hearing generic material about projectors where we are always first and foremost defined by what we are not. "Projectors don't have energy of their own, don't have this, don't have that... And this makes them a projector". Pisses me off. I'm alive aren't I? I'm breathing. That means I have energy. My oooown energy. It feels as if because most humans are generators, the whole world is still seen as baseline correct if we have the sacral defined. If not, then we are kinda subtly missing out, is what the material points at and always defined by what we don't have. So I'm very happy you made this video. Especially because I'm a projector with 6 centers defined incl. heart center and have tons of energy in bursts, even when alone for days. Meaning it's my own energy ;-) I tend to steer clear of HD material that explains anything about projectors, if they are not a projector. I've learned that most times they simply don't have the level of insight that a projector has, about our own type. They generalize too much and disempowers us again and again by playing the comparison game.
Ah, so many things I could say in reply but mostly: YES! I AGREE! Glad you found it helpful. Might do a video speaking to this idea of Projectors "not having" stuff. Thanks for the comment!
Thank you for this! I am a 2/5 Ego Projector with only G and Will defined.
Thank you❤ This was so helpful. I’m a 1/3 emotional projector about 90% recovered from me/cfs. I have 3 energy centers defined and I love being physically active. I am experimenting with the amount and types of activities that I do. When I’ve gone too far, I take a break.
Ah! You're so welcome :) Yes, yes. It's SO easy to over do it but when recovering from ME/CFS the phrase "less is more" seems perfectly fitting. Here's to you remembering what it feels like to be VITALLY healthy. xx
My 30- year old daughter is this. And I am also a projector who only has one more energy center defined. Ajna, throat,(like her) and also the G center. I fortunately fostered her to voice her own truth from the very beginning. I'm just starting with HD and am totally hooked. Another thing to learn, yaaaaaaH! I love your style. Will most likely connect with you. Any freebees you have, I'm inviting you to send my way. :) Keep doing your amazing work!
Hi love. Thanks for your kind words. So glad you raised your daughter this way. Freebies: This channel (so subscribe :P). Email newsletter (link should be in the description). And the emails have a list of all the other free and cheap things I offer beyond coaching. Here's to your slow but steady fall into the rabbit hole of HD ;P