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  @gillfortytwo9 сағат бұрын

  This video has probably saved my life. I've been going through a tough period where it feels like I can only do wrong, and any acts of kindness I do are artificial because they don't change what I have done. Knowing this feeling is universal, the physical sensation in my body, and that I can comfort others through this is a revelation. I think I can start the process of forgiving myself.

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  @pictureglum9095Сағат бұрын

  you are so strong

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  @Anson777720 сағат бұрын

  Credit should also go to Theodore Isaac Rubin , 1975, who wrote the book "Compassion and self hate: an alternative to despair"

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  @nataly_po_therapy22 сағат бұрын

  Now seems such a simple and native antidote to shame - self-compassione. But it is you brought this knowledge❤ thank you for this profound message

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  @wamialukoКүн бұрын

  thank you !

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  @growing.flowersКүн бұрын

  23:36 31:16 33:43 !!

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  @matacra2 күн бұрын

  thank you so much

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  @oma35353 күн бұрын

  i love u

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  @tmking74833 күн бұрын

  I need to hear _ I will protect u from pedophiles.

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  @tmking74833 күн бұрын

  When I feel shame theres a dirty disgusting man trying to abuse me or abusing me_ usually old guy who visits prostitutes following my 5 year old self to the playground swings.

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  @tmking74833 күн бұрын

  If your in enviroments that abuse people _ shame is a given and everybody flys like a winged monkey. Abusers wany u to dissociate. When I was 5 _ I was pyt into party dress and taken to factory for abuse _ it was shaming to be a 5 year old prostitute for my neighboyrs work place.

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  @404NotFoundIDontCare4 күн бұрын

  doing the lords work🎉

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  @404NotFoundIDontCare4 күн бұрын

  this was so good thank you so much this changed my life❤❤❤ i realize this is the root of so many of my problems. i turn to lust to try to receive love

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  @Krista-3884 күн бұрын

  thank you

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  @CORA_005 күн бұрын

  Amazing <3

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  @AristotelisMakris-on5fy5 күн бұрын

  Das hat mich zum weinen gebracht. Tränen die schon lange raus wollten.. danke

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  @the_prophecyyy6 күн бұрын

  I feel shameful I even need this video🤣

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  @marleykesterson35087 күн бұрын

  I wonder if you could shame, shame as an emotion?

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  @heminuiraho82357 күн бұрын

  Easier said than done 😂

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  @mauikaimalone7 күн бұрын

  thank you for this video

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  @AllowingFlow7 күн бұрын

  You’re a superstar for this, thank you

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  @Undercovershrinkhere7 күн бұрын

  Thank you for your public speaking 😊❤

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  @sekoaib9 күн бұрын

  This is wonderful

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  @kristenmarie92489 күн бұрын

  9:15

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  @kristenmarie92489 күн бұрын

  28:20

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  @nahuab9 күн бұрын

  I appreciate you taking the time and effort to record this. This helped me in a way you couldn’t even imagine

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  @eostre81210 күн бұрын

  There are long list of my 'shame' moments. When it happened, i feel it in my chest. I addressed one of my shame moments in the exercise last night.. i thought my chest is going to burst! i cried a lot! i imagine my mom lovely face said 'You're enough my child, i love you & thank you for your hard work all this time' hyperventilating & i was scare that i won't survive the session. But I did. Thank you Sir! I would like to know when can i redo the exercise again, i mean the safest time period between the last exercise? i would like to process my shame moments as many as i can.

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  @rorocio9311 күн бұрын

  What a beautiful person Christopher is, I can see it. This is truly healing. I'm really thankful

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  @neiljamessloan11 күн бұрын

  Thanks for your work and video. May I suggest? Can you cite your sources when you say ‘research says…’ as that will help people investigate their particular circumstances and possible issues. Thanks :)

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  @rorocio9311 күн бұрын

  I noticed that one of my primary symptons of anxiety since I started to suffer from it when I was a teenager, was shame. I don't remember what kind of shame I was feeling back then, but I remember that when I got conscious of having anxiety, I already knew shame was one of the symptoms. But only last year I started suffering from shame a lot more to actually remember I have a problem with shame, because it was making my life so hard by not being able to be authentic, use my voice, my knowledge and abilities. I said to myself by the end of the year that next year (this year) I wanted to work on shame, that was one of the biggest if not the most important goal. I was motivated to help myself heal from this emotion. Then I realized, when I separated from a friend by the end of the year, that our friendship was a big source of shame for me. When we separated, the shame stopped a lot. And not only that, I was being close with another friend, I was feeling true connection with them, it was a person who was making me feel safe in myself, sure of who I was. So shame disappeared for some months this year, but I got separated from this person so I lost that source that was giving me confidence in myself and my life, and shame returned. I was so frustrated that this happened. Because I remember that some months ago I was noticing shame and naming it. When I was feeling shame I would say "shame", and I knew it wasn't true what shame was saying, so only with saying "shame", I could start to feel better with not so much effort. Later it wasn't even needed naming it, I would feel just a little bit of shame, I was noticing it and when I noticed it, I would think quickly that I'm worthy, that I do make sense, that I'm smart, that I deserve what I did, and it would go away, all of that in a few seconds, because I actually believed that of myself, my friend helped me do it. But my good friend is not my friend anymore. My brain is not receiving that positiveness I was receiving from someone, and it's hard for the brain to create it itself. In other words, it's hard for me to make myself feel better about me, I need help. We all need help. We all need connection, validation, love. We need to have all of that while growing up, but I didn't have it and had to build it myself. But it's hard, we are social beings. I don't know what I'm going to do with this, with the need of connection. We all need a support group, we all need to feel a sense of safety, of trust, that someone holds our backs. Someone who notices our accomplishments and compliments us for being who we are. I know I have to build more self compassion in myself, because I don't feel comnection with others right now. But this is what I can do. My responsability is to find a way to change my beliefs of not being worthy, of not being someone who can be authentic, someone who can share her voice, thoughts and appreciations and knowledge with the world. I feel like I'm back where I started, I'm afraid that I can't go back to dealing actively on shame like I was doing, but hey, this is what I got now, and I'm studying (about to read John Bradshaw's book) and looking for amazing and helpful videos like this. Much love and strength to everyone!

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  @girlalrighty11 күн бұрын

  32:11 your delivery was perfect🤣

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  @manishpandey-pm9oq11 күн бұрын

  Aa a 30 year old man i have such crippling shame because of childhood sexual abuse and excessive bullying and body shaming that I almost feel naked when I go out among people. Its like people can stare through my soul. I cannot wear certain type of clothes, cannot play sports, cannot go to public places because I hate myself. My friends think im depressed and tell me to go for walking, swimming, to exercise but how do I tell them that my crippling shame doesn't let me step out of my room. What was my fault in all of this. Even though I try hard i cant keep anger and resentment from rising when I see people happy and joyfyl while im despite all my hard work and achievements cannot even go to the grocery store with my head up. What a miserable existence it is.

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  @gardenswell11 күн бұрын

  i haven't thought too much about this, at least not consciously, but it entered my mind while watching the first 2/3 of this video: my desire is to be OBJECTIVELY a good person rather than SUBJECTIVELY according to other people's perspectives of me. i don't think my shame is triggered when i feel like others view me badly, IF i feel they are wrong about their perception of me (in that case my fear/anger is triggered because i feel they're a threat to my wellbeing because they don't understand me). my shame is triggered when i feel/know i'm acting out of alignment with MY boundaries and preferences for how i should behave, and sometimes this is reflected back to me by others, but not always - sometimes i know they're wrong about me, and i know i'm acting well. thank you for your talk ❤

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  @sleepylucho278411 күн бұрын

  Thursday july 18th Trying to stop mental addictions i have and the need to be happy and have attention sometimes its good to be alone and not always be happy

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  @TG-id9gx12 күн бұрын

  thank you so much!

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  @fashionatka13 күн бұрын

  Love You man:) Thanks for this.

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  @Thistlebeee14 күн бұрын

  This meditation is a precious gift, I am so grateful ❤

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  @Omiwaski14 күн бұрын

  Thank you so much

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  @ramirenriquez679515 күн бұрын

  There are times when I know social media has a good side to it like being able to access resources like this video and this video is truly helpful.

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  @mitchellmclean_15 күн бұрын

  Thank you Chris, I feel lighter after that practice!

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  @raffaelelaserra57318 күн бұрын

  I came because I wanna die

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  @Rosemoon235918 күн бұрын

  Unfortunately a very loud add interrupted me at 2 minutes so I cannot continue 😢

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  @farahcardenas232819 күн бұрын

  I'm so happy I found your video! Thanks.

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  @bietza19 күн бұрын

  This is my pain killer, I listen over and over thank you Dr G

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  @kitkat733219 күн бұрын

  You've just solved all the problems of humanity. 😢

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  @ricem67220 күн бұрын

  I come to visit the exercise in this video often. Thank you. ❤️

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  @ChronoTango20 күн бұрын

  Wow, this is incredible. I recently started counseling and my counselor has been reinforcing Self Compassion since Day 1. Hot damn, I feel great to know this is already working in my life and I will add those reminder aspects to my daily life. I deserve love, I have to love myself when no one else is there.

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  @maverickbull190921 күн бұрын

  Shame can be good for you. More people should feel it

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  @Woodesies14 күн бұрын

  Bad take. In my experience, the people who would benefit most from aspects of shame aren't the ones who have the predisposition for feeling it. This video speaks more to the concept of self-abuse picked up by the types of personalities who paralyze themselves from feeling any sort of positivity inwards, such as those who suffer from depression and low self-esteem.

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  @Notabuizel21 күн бұрын

  Thank you. This has started my journey on being less ashamed.

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  @sabrinacamargo2521 күн бұрын

  Thank you so much

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  @lonepheasant348922 күн бұрын

  I should of known better than to abuse myself because people abused me but I didn't because I thought that's what I was supposed to be doing

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  @Gigi-ni1cf22 күн бұрын

  Wow I can’t afford therapy, videos like these are so helpful 💓