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Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP - Director
Ryan is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified School Social Worker, and father to a son with ADHD & learning differences. ADHD Dude is based in Arizona.
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Going to try this really helpful advice. Thank you
What about self-harm rather than property destruction?
Yeah…it is in need of “fixing” when your behaviors/your kids behaviors are getting in the way of living a happy, successful life! Ty for all of your work!
I think our proboem is that the ADHD child is so slow to do the non preffered tasks that it affects the whole routine. Eg. They need to put on their clothes before school but they avoid starting and if you dont rescue them, the whole family is late. Or they need to go to the toilet/brush their teeth before bed, and if you dont eventually jump in, they wont get to bed on time which will lead to a lack of sleep and affect the next morning :( what do you suggest doing to promote independence when a situation has a time limit?
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Hi, how can a parent with ADHD and Autism help to regulate their child also with ADHD and Autism? Do you help with that too? Do you help parents from the UK too? Because all the information that you share on short videos is a gift from the Universe for me. I am struggling to find ways with my 8-year-old son with ADHD & Autism. We triggered each other but I am learning to sometimes hold my emotions and try to find the solution for the moment, but it's a drainage process😢
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Absolutely fantastic !
Many thanks!
Eye opening Worth listening every day...
Thanks!
If they do it again a month later?!? What if it’s a daily thing? Can’t they remember when it’s several times a day?? It’s not necessarily violence, but rough touching and saying unkind things.
Same here. And the thing is when we do talk about it afterwards he seems to fully understand how wrong it is. But definitely good information that I'll try to implement.
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So basically we are doomed
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Im trying to find new ways to help my younger brother as he is getting into trouble a lot at school and at home there are a lot of arguments with our dad. My dad tries his absolute best to make sure my brother learns from his bad behaviour but nothing ever really changes and he continues doing bad things when he has been told not to. I think my dad could try the cleaning up technique and make sure my brother does something positive to counter the negative thing that has happened e.g. yelling at a teacher, maybe sending them an email or making a card for them to show he is sorry. But t’s difficult to get him to want to take accountability as he is 13 and for some reason he just keeps doing the same things over and over. We don’t know if it is his ADHD or just his hormones as he is just turned a teenager but it is getting very difficult for my dad to parent him as he is very rebellious and continues doing the same wrong things all the time. Keeps arguing with him. Always needs to be right and have the last word. Never takes no for an answer and even when there’s a reason, he will keep on pushing and says he doesn’t understand. I think it might be better if me and my dad (as i care for my brother too) look for different methods accountability and teaching, because the ones we have at the moment are clearly not working, and instead of blaming my brother, maybe we should try a different technique. Any advice would be great, thank you.
❤ Superb I knew v.late about your channel... Yet I could do well as I got 1 wonderful teacher...who had faith in his abilities.. As I working...couldn't do that much...but made him do by himself...on his own he corrected...and I encouraged 😅... Was tough.. Yet its right 🎉 He's doing well...thanks to that... Trying always helps😊❤🎉
If you take out the words "with adhd" you get an honest break down of how to raise a normal child.
In the age of social media, “affirming” me has come to mean “making me feel good about myself,” even if that means lying to me. It’s sad that consummate professionals can be told they’re not affirming of their expertise area because someone wanted a simple or easy solution and they were told that it wasn’t a real option.
This is something I fear becoming an Issue. She is my bonus kiddo. But is the youngest. I up until recently had instructed my two kids 11 &15 that if she is violent towards them to not reciprocate. But come and let adults know so it can be taken care of. Until I realized that she does not care what her repercussions are. And continues to throw things at them and hit them. I know it's Alot on my older two who have NEVER laid a hand on each other in Anger. So I'm curious to see what the right way to handle this situation is. 😊
Thank you, Ryan, for your parent behavior training. That paired with Mike's executive function coaching, we have our house back. You both taught me to find the right doctor to prescribe meds and not just have therapy pushed on us. Thank you both.
True Saying them you need to do everything by yourself when I'm not with you...makes him Try to do things on own... Asking questions how to go about...that's better 😊
Hi, my son is seven and non verbal and extremely aggressive of late, he is currently having a episode and it’s 3:30am in South Africa, me and my husband have decided to not go into his room like we usually do, how do I deal with a nonverbal child in this situation.
Have you done any videos on how to parent multiple kids in a household and only one has ADHD? Do we use the same ADHD parenting techniques on all the kids? If not, what happens when the child with ADHD is exhibiting a behavior you would normally address and all the kids are there (big one for me is at the dinner table)?
WOW! Thank you for bringing this into light. Im a (female)speech and language pathologist that works with mainly boys at my school. I’ve been saying this for years but admittedly, we dont get training in social skills as it pertains to boys. You’re absolutely right that we need to make conversation natural. Otherwise, what’s the point of intervening if we aren’t making things better. I actually started watching this channel to find ways to help my son and I am constantly blown away by your content. Keep up the great work!
Yes, I have adhd and I’m a kid. I can do thing independently and i think im getting over the adhd. Yes sometimes when are argue are overreact and can get a little violent. But no need to be soft on us, be hard on us. Treat us normally we aren’t at all sped.
I appreciate hearing what you have to say. I'm also into planes/airports :)
This is really good. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Great parenting advice, even for kids that don't have ADHD.
Thank you!
This sounds a lot like narcissism. The need to control other people and being selfabsorbed... How do you tell the difference between the two?
Because we know that people with ADHD can struggle with perspective-taking, it's a social executive function skill. I have many videos and webinars about this. I don't believe in labeling kids as narcissists, it denotes a character flaw in someone who is not fully developed.
Being an ADHD ODD kid, learning takes longer & more attempts. There was nothing worse than trying to navigate a challange agian & failing - only to be shamed & arbitrarily disciplined too. It furthered my ODD because it erroded my trust in authority/teaching figures plus it just created more anxiety & depression. It was my first experience with the 'ADHD Tax'. I did need consequence, but they needed to be applicable to my learning needs, more introspective & celebrate what I did right. Many lessons were muddied because I was told it was wrong, not just part of it was, then I gave up. After all, if I fail either way, at least failing when I didnt try wouldn't hurt as much. Being carful not to fall into false dichotomy of only right or wrong with a balance of fare punishment was how I learned best. Finally found adults, teachers, leaders & management that did this with me has allowed me to thrive. Granted succeeding in life to spite people was a real motivator. ODD reverse uno card 😂
Fully agree with everything you said here, thank you for sharing.
Love this! And I love this for all kids not just ADHD ones. ❤
Thank you!
What Worked for My "Tyrannical" Behavior as a Child Was: 1) School Bus Drivers Threatening to Call the Cops (Police). 2) My Sister Pretending to be on the Phone with the Cops.
Makes sense, I appreciate you sharing this. Thanks
Thank you for this episode. Watching i emotionally devastated me, learning more about perspective-taking has sent me thru episodes in my past and the shame and guilt is so strong. I wish I had this knowledge when I was a child. I'd almost forgotten I'd even been pulled out of classes for the "help" because it was so useless for me! You two are great. Lots of love.
Glad it was helpful and thank you so much for watching!
Wow. The way you crafted that final response was superb. Well said. I hate vanity labels as well. Very off putting
Thank you!
I just found this podcast today. This series has been extremely validating. I have bachelor's in social work & have ADHD myself. I had an ADHD coach as an adult for three years and it made an enormous difference for me. However, I am not able to provide that for my children now because of cost. To the best of my knowledge, my insurance would not pay for ADHD coaching, which is the number one thing I want for my kids to help them with ADHD. I have 5 kids with ADHD and we all need ADHD coaching! But without insurance coverage, I don't know how that could ever happen. Please share information with me if the situation is different.
Thank you for watching! The first line evidence-based treatment for children with ADHD is parent training (provided through the membership site) in conjunction with medication management. You can read the evidence here: www.effectivechildtherapy.org (type ADHD in search bar).
Thank you, thank you, thank you for all your videos and very helpful information 🙏 I have learned so much from watching. My 13 yr old son has been doing so much better❤
So glad to hear that, thank you!
Great video!
Thank you!
My daughter got along well with other adults, and it was a relief to have her “unrelated aunties” talk to her. They could say the same thing but not from me so it landed better. It works!
Yes, exactly!
What if my 5 yr old starts hitting his younger 2 yr old brother?
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What about home school? Yay or nay?
I think that completely depends on the child and if the child is receptive to learning from the parent. I have met many kids with ADHD who deteroriate when their parents start homeschooling them, to the point they become physically aggressive. Others do fine with it. It's not something I would personally recommend to most families.
wow I agree with you. I watched 2 videos and you are right. It should be a parent training and not the child. I'm almost at my wits end with my son been doing a lot of therapy. This year we stop because we have not seen major improvements. Because the therapist usually will teach you a thing or 2 only. Its so frustrating. - btw I'm from the Philippines.
I will save this video and need to write it down. Thanks a lot
Thank you for watching!
I watch both of your videos with my partner. She was working on something when I started this one, but when she looked at the screen she said “Hey! It’s the other guy (ADHDgrownow) they’re working together, that’s really cool 😃”
Thanks for watching!
All your videos are life savers for parents of ADHD kids
Thank you so much!
So much helpful information here. Thanks for taking the time to make these podcasts ❤
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks! This makes a lot of sense. Just that little tweak from a time out has been helping me.
Great to hear!
How about if the kid is very set against doing things themselves and rages about it-talking about an older teen here. It seems the teen doesn’t want to gain skills and it’s so frustrating
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I'm a clinical social worker for children and a mother of a son with ADHD. This is on point! Thank you 😊
Thank you for watching!
Hey Can You make a video next about kids with adhd lying next! Thank you I’m a big fan 🎉
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My son struggles so much with keeping friends.
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You always overestimate what you can do in a day and underestimate what you can do in a year! I see 30+ on there. As a 45 year old with ADHD, I rely heavily on calendars, planners and lists. I would say that I block out important events well in advance. However, weekly and daily, I have to set my intentions and goals to stay on track. I do adjust when I get sidetracked. If I write it down, it has a chance of getting done at some point. As a kid in school, it wasn’t until high school and college that I really got the hang of planning like this. I wish I’d had Ryan’s program back then! My daughter is 20, and she can’t even answer a few days in advance for plans. She calls or shows up randomly. Her work and music class are scheduled every week. Her dad is also spontaneous. It is what it is. We do our best!
Salute' to the Outreach Bros on the ADHD Tips and outcomes'🤠😎I work for LA County Dept MH
Love your teaching videos...... this is Very Helpful for the kids and the parents. Im very thankful you make the videos..... 👍
Thank you so much!
This is amazing information.
Glad it was helpful!