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Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP - Director
Ryan is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified School Social Worker, and father to a son with ADHD & learning differences. ADHD Dude is based in Arizona.
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In the age of social media, “affirming” me has come to mean “making me feel good about myself,” even if that means lying to me. It’s sad that consummate professionals can be told they’re not affirming of their expertise area because someone wanted a simple or easy solution and they were told that it wasn’t a real option.
This is something I fear becoming an Issue. She is my bonus kiddo. But is the youngest. I up until recently had instructed my two kids 11 &15 that if she is violent towards them to not reciprocate. But come and let adults know so it can be taken care of. Until I realized that she does not care what her repercussions are. And continues to throw things at them and hit them. I know it's Alot on my older two who have NEVER laid a hang on each other in Anger. So I'm curious to see what the right way to handle this situation is. 😊
Thank you, Ryan, for your parent behavior training. That paired with Mike's executive function coaching, we have our house back. You both taught me to find the right doctor to prescribe meds and not just have therapy pushed on us. Thank you both.
True Saying them you need to do everything by yourself when I'm not with you...makes him Try to do things on own... Asking questions how to go about...that's better 😊
Hi, my son is seven and non verbal and extremely aggressive of late, he is currently having a episode and it’s 3:30am in South Africa, me and my husband have decided to not go into his room like we usually do, how do I deal with a nonverbal child in this situation.
Have you done any videos on how to parent multiple kids in a household and only one has ADHD? Do we use the same ADHD parenting techniques on all the kids? If not, what happens when the child with ADHD is exhibiting a behavior you would normally address and all the kids are there (big one for me is at the dinner table)?
WOW! Thank you for bringing this into light. Im a (female)speech and language pathologist that works with mainly boys at my school. I’ve been saying this for years but admittedly, we dont get training in social skills as it pertains to boys. You’re absolutely right that we need to make conversation natural. Otherwise, what’s the point of intervening if we aren’t making things better. I actually started watching this channel to find ways to help my son and I am constantly blown away by your content. Keep up the great work!
Yes, I have adhd and I’m a kid. I can do thing independently and i think im getting over the adhd. Yes sometimes when are argue are overreact and can get a little violent. But no need to be soft on us, be hard on us. Treat us normally we aren’t at all sped.
I appreciate hearing what you have to say. I'm also into planes/airports :)
This is really good. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Great parenting advice, even for kids that don't have ADHD.
Thank you!
This sounds a lot like narcissism. The need to control other people and being selfabsorbed... How do you tell the difference between the two?
Because we know that people with ADHD can struggle with perspective-taking, it's a social executive function skill. I have many videos and webinars about this. I don't believe in labeling kids as narcissists, it denotes a character flaw in someone who is not fully developed.
Being an ADHD ODD kid, learning takes longer & more attempts. There was nothing worse than trying to navigate a challange agian & failing - only to be shamed & arbitrarily disciplined too. It furthered my ODD because it erroded my trust in authority/teaching figures plus it just created more anxiety & depression. It was my first experience with the 'ADHD Tax'. I did need consequence, but they needed to be applicable to my learning needs, more introspective & celebrate what I did right. Many lessons were muddied because I was told it was wrong, not just part of it was, then I gave up. After all, if I fail either way, at least failing when I didnt try wouldn't hurt as much. Being carful not to fall into false dichotomy of only right or wrong with a balance of fare punishment was how I learned best. Finally found adults, teachers, leaders & management that did this with me has allowed me to thrive. Granted succeeding in life to spite people was a real motivator. ODD reverse uno card 😂
Fully agree with everything you said here, thank you for sharing.
Love this! And I love this for all kids not just ADHD ones. ❤
Thank you!
What Worked for My "Tyrannical" Behavior as a Child Was: 1) School Bus Drivers Threatening to Call the Cops (Police). 2) My Sister Pretending to be on the Phone with the Cops.
Makes sense, I appreciate you sharing this. Thanks
Thank you for this episode. Watching i emotionally devastated me, learning more about perspective-taking has sent me thru episodes in my past and the shame and guilt is so strong. I wish I had this knowledge when I was a child. I'd almost forgotten I'd even been pulled out of classes for the "help" because it was so useless for me! You two are great. Lots of love.
Glad it was helpful and thank you so much for watching!
Wow. The way you crafted that final response was superb. Well said. I hate vanity labels as well. Very off putting
Thank you!
I just found this podcast today. This series has been extremely validating. I have bachelor's in social work & have ADHD myself. I had an ADHD coach as an adult for three years and it made an enormous difference for me. However, I am not able to provide that for my children now because of cost. To the best of my knowledge, my insurance would not pay for ADHD coaching, which is the number one thing I want for my kids to help them with ADHD. I have 5 kids with ADHD and we all need ADHD coaching! But without insurance coverage, I don't know how that could ever happen. Please share information with me if the situation is different.
Thank you for watching! The first line evidence-based treatment for children with ADHD is parent training (provided through the membership site) in conjunction with medication management. You can read the evidence here: www.effectivechildtherapy.org (type ADHD in search bar).
Thank you, thank you, thank you for all your videos and very helpful information 🙏 I have learned so much from watching. My 13 yr old son has been doing so much better❤
So glad to hear that, thank you!
Great video!
Thank you!
My daughter got along well with other adults, and it was a relief to have her “unrelated aunties” talk to her. They could say the same thing but not from me so it landed better. It works!
Yes, exactly!
What if my 5 yr old starts hitting his younger 2 yr old brother?
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What about home school? Yay or nay?
I think that completely depends on the child and if the child is receptive to learning from the parent. I have met many kids with ADHD who deteroriate when their parents start homeschooling them, to the point they become physically aggressive. Others do fine with it. It's not something I would personally recommend to most families.
wow I agree with you. I watched 2 videos and you are right. It should be a parent training and not the child. I'm almost at my wits end with my son been doing a lot of therapy. This year we stop because we have not seen major improvements. Because the therapist usually will teach you a thing or 2 only. Its so frustrating. - btw I'm from the Philippines.
I will save this video and need to write it down. Thanks a lot
Thank you for watching!
I watch both of your videos with my partner. She was working on something when I started this one, but when she looked at the screen she said “Hey! It’s the other guy (ADHDgrownow) they’re working together, that’s really cool 😃”
Thanks for watching!
All your videos are life savers for parents of ADHD kids
Thank you so much!
So much helpful information here. Thanks for taking the time to make these podcasts ❤
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks! This makes a lot of sense. Just that little tweak from a time out has been helping me.
Great to hear!
How about if the kid is very set against doing things themselves and rages about it-talking about an older teen here. It seems the teen doesn’t want to gain skills and it’s so frustrating
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I'm a clinical social worker for children and a mother of a son with ADHD. This is on point! Thank you 😊
Thank you for watching!
Hey Can You make a video next about kids with adhd lying next! Thank you I’m a big fan 🎉
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My son struggles so much with keeping friends.
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You always overestimate what you can do in a day and underestimate what you can do in a year! I see 30+ on there. As a 45 year old with ADHD, I rely heavily on calendars, planners and lists. I would say that I block out important events well in advance. However, weekly and daily, I have to set my intentions and goals to stay on track. I do adjust when I get sidetracked. If I write it down, it has a chance of getting done at some point. As a kid in school, it wasn’t until high school and college that I really got the hang of planning like this. I wish I’d had Ryan’s program back then! My daughter is 20, and she can’t even answer a few days in advance for plans. She calls or shows up randomly. Her work and music class are scheduled every week. Her dad is also spontaneous. It is what it is. We do our best!
Salute' to the Outreach Bros on the ADHD Tips and outcomes'🤠😎I work for LA County Dept MH
Love your teaching videos...... this is Very Helpful for the kids and the parents. Im very thankful you make the videos..... 👍
Thank you so much!
This is amazing information.
Glad it was helpful!
preach!! lovely!! all the things you said are so important!! I'd put this vedio on a radio brodcast if I could!!!! Thank you!!!
Thank you so much!
Sounds like my 43 year old ADHD friend
I was told by my son’s pediatric neurologist that kids with ADD do better with a stimulant, while those with ADHD (my son) do better on non stimulants. What are your thoughts on this?
I don't believe there's any validity to that. I have attended the medical ADHD conference for several years and I have never heard anything like that mentioned.
My son is currently taking both. The Stimulant medication (Concerta) seems to help mainly with his focus and attention and the non-stimulant (Intuniv) seems to help with his emotional dysregulation.
@@ADHDDude interesting. Thank you for your response!
Just starting the podcasts now & can tell this will be very helpful with my grandson. Thank you for sharing your wisdom & insights.
You are so welcome!
Only take advice from a licensed professional!! NOT from any/all people that think they know better. This is the biggest problem with parents that I face... they just refuse to accept that ADHD doesn’t look the same in each child, therefore what works for some, does NOT work for all. My son thrives on Straterra 18mg dose... he is doing excellent in school and still has his funny quirky personality because it is not lost on meds, which is what people say (your son will be a zombie, he won't be normal if he takes meds, blah blah blah). Thank you for all you do!
The Psychiatrist my son had ( she has since retired), had my sone do testing through GeneSight. (That can only be ordered by a doctor.) Because she did that, we didn't spend months trying to guess which stimulant would work for him. She had a much better idea which stimulants would work for him & which ones wouldn't and how well/badly they would do. There has been some dosage adjustment, but with that info, we knew what was best right out of the gate. Very grateful for that because he is also diagnosed with DMDD & ODD. So that is not the only med the GeneSight testing had helped with. He also doesn't process folate well & that has added to his sleep issues. Anyway, (also have ADHD), just our experience in getting meds sorted more quickly. Made for less stress for the whole family.
I'm posting this comment because I want to provide clarification for people, I'm not trying to debate you. Genetic panel testing like the one you mentioned cannot help determine which stimulant would be effective for an individual, it can only help with understanding dosage. Additionally, I would encourage you not to look at ODD, and DMDD as standalone diagnoses, rather think of them as part of the ADHD profile. There is questionable validity around the DMDD label, and I believe the ODD label came about because the mental health profession has a very poor understanding of executive functioning and cognitive inflexibility as well as novelty seeking behaviors such as arguing are very common in individuals with ADHD. I have videos where I explain this here at the channel.
Yes that's right but my son 11 yr old (diagnosed with ADHD) then asks me that why am I not paying attention to him during arguments. It's so difficult to avoid arguments with him. He will give threats like he wouldn't do hw etc. and he would actually not do then
He's asking that because he's trying to manipulate you emotionally to get what he wants. It's a very common tactic kids with ADHD use. kzread.info/dash/bejne/eX2EmraHfMe6l9I.htmlsi=u6I01tJOmec1LhmK
Yes same is for my child..he is 11 yr old and i keep prompting for everything. It is a very difficult task for me. Besides this he is very argumentative and opinionated which makes things worse..From India
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My son is 23 and has Dyspraxia, OCD and although not diagnosed he has ADHD He didnt have difficult behaviour at school but from around 16 became aggressive at home refused to take responsibility. He became worse during COVID he has a distrust of government (UK) which wants to introduce things like 15 min cities and cashless societies/ 5G etc. These things aren't good I agree but he can obsess about them and use them as an excuse to avoid things I realised by watching your videos that I've done too much for him and have stopped accommodating Inflexible behavior as you say. And its really helping . He is also doing keto diet.
I'm glad they've been helpful, thank you
I'm not sure how to judge if there is real life consequences.
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I would add that you should also treat the advice of medical professionals with a healthy amount of skepticism if they don't seem to adhere to those guidelines. I have personally received a lot of bad information from doctors, pediatricians, and psychologists because many are working with an incomplete or outdated understanding of ADHD and its treatment methods. We struggled for years trying to get a diagnosis and start treatment for my son and had to scrap our pediatrician in the process because he was simply delaying standard treatment. We have finally got things in a good place, but I'm still amazed sometimes by how little the professionals and even the experts seem to know about ADHD.
Unfortunately many physicians are not educated about the ADHD treatment guidelines. The AAP has not done a good job of educating them about the evidence on ADHD treatment.
Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts
Hello do you do online sessions?
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This video has helped me understand - WHY- my daughter is constantly "stealing" school snacks. I couldn't understand, the why.. because even though she is a very well-fed girl and gets the junk daily and even more on weekends....she was still stealing it regularly and at huge volumes.. She has access to all healthy food. However at this point the habits became so bad ,I bought a huge tote to put all the junk food snacks in with locks.. I felt like it was extreme but the problem was extreme! I have 3 kids in school and my husband and I work. It was getting to be triple to quadruple the price! too expensive with the constant stealing. I felt bad for this... but this video made me feel reassured, that i made a good decision.. I leave out what she can snack on outside of mealtime now, if she doesn't want what I've provided she has access to the fridge lots of healthy snacks on the counter such as fruit, or id not its sandwich time. Thank you for the clarity. <3 An Adhd mom, with 3 Adhd kids. <3
Yes, glad it was helpful!