Dr. Therese Mascardo | Therapist, Writer, Speaker
Dr. Therese Mascardo | Therapist, Writer, Speaker
Dr. Therese Mascardo, Psy.D., is a psychologist, speaker, and author. After losing her brother to suicide in 2009, she’s made it her mission to help people love their lives so they never want to leave them. She’s consulted for Vice, Condé Nast, HuffPost, Women's Health, the LA Times, and the American Psychological Association. As a featured doctor with Medcircle combined with her own social media she educates over 1.5 million people per month.
In 2023 Dr. Therese released her debut books in partnership with Ban.do: The Love The Journey Workbook & Journal featuring real questions and exercises from her 15+ years of experience in the therapy room to help you be your best.
Her infectious inspiration encourages everyone to not just exist but to embrace a life they truly adore.
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Oh Yes ! Being Shy Can Make You Feel Lonely In A Crowd. Most Of The Time When I'm Used To, & Get To Know You I Open Up. But Lets Face It. MOST Times You Meet People On Occasion And Wonder Why You're Even There ? You Still Feel Lonely In The Crowd And Feel Like. "If There Was A Better Way To Have Spent Your Time ?"...... Mmmmmm ......
Loneliness turns me into a monster
I feel great in my solitude. At times, I even go into a nocturnal phase in order to get a sufficient amount of quality alone time. I feel lonely amongst most people. When I moved away from the city to a suburb/town environment with my partner, my first impulse was to sign up for some classes in order to make sure I would have some regular social exposure. Because, if I didn't commit to it, I wouldn't. I "accidentally " self-isolate a lot, because I don't notice that I haven't met up with anyone until I suddenly realize that months have gone by. And the people there aren't bad; they're pretty nice. But I feel so alien during those days, and even worse when I finally get to go home. I don't understand why this is such a problem for me when everyone else seems satisfied with the exchange. I do have some friends I feel a better connection to, but no one lives close, so there's no opportunity to build more consistent relationships outside of scarce opportunities like annual events or a rare visit. Sometimes I wonder if I'm so unsatisfied with my attempts at connection because I'm too much of an idealist and care too much, or if I'm somehow hard to relate to, or something.
Nights days hardnot easy❤
When u are old can't worm HEALTH problems. to old get work & sick.
Thunks sweetie doc.good advice hard work hard on this.❤
Thanx last night was rough I need to figure out how to make friends. Waiting in my locked apartment for them to arrive isn’t working
You should never be vulnerable with others. Trust me.
Seems to me the real obstacle isn't the struggle with loneliness but the struggle to make the moment count in every could be grand moment you find yourself in. Yes, you may have a suck life. Yes, you may have suck people to share it with. At the end of those moments though the only one who really controlled the outcome though and how I will see it is me. Forces of opposition are real, oh most definitely. Still though that's merely the shaping of the moment which I move into; the final outcome is mine alone to narrate. Mine and God's (a.k.a. the Power to turn any and every obstacle around).
A rolling stone gathers no moss.
what if i’m already crying in the way to my first session? i really don’t want to walk in ALREADY SOBBING
I struggle with this all the time. Self sabotage central here!
At 16 I'm beginning to realize just how fucked I am
Everyone feels lonely from time to time but what about people who feel lonely all the time for as long as they can remember?
Let me guess: you're referring to yourself?
@@J35u5Ch4i5t that doesn't matter
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I quit smoking n then my best n only friend has had to go into hospital now I'm totally alone not got anybody 😐
Speak English
@@J35u5Ch4i5t hows this for u! 🖕
Hi I’m curious how you go with finding rentals in both places - do you own your own place in LA / Lisbon, both? Thank you 😊
I can trace back my feelings of loneliness due to social media/lack of real life interaction. I see other artists having big sucesses and I feel I haven't progress much. Or this intense feeling to help others, to feel like I accomplish something. It's interesting to learn that it can also be felt even when around friends and people.
*Other* artists? You think you're an artist?
@@J35u5Ch4i5t What's an artist anyway?
Isn't it wonderful how this therapist is happily grinning when she talks about loneliness and death and suicidal thoughts? How can anyone speak about loneliness if they haven't experienced it for years? Just reading from a dictionary a definition of the words "loneliness" and "solitude" doesn't help at all.
I've been working remotely for three years! These tips were on point - the most helpful ones for me are taking care of my body and connection. If I focus too much on my schedule, I feel overwhelmed - but working on my bedtime routine and getting up early has been game-changing. Thank you!!
I’m super comfortable being alone to the point I’m not seeking friends, new acquaintances, Idc if someone dies it’s just part of life, idc if all left me. I don’t like small talk, im not interested to hear other people’s story. Is it bad to feel this way?
I feel lonely because I trust people very fast and they just use me for my body,and when I have friends on social media they ignore me everytime I don't know what is wrong about me
This seems to be a very undisabled point of view. Many of us out here have illnesses and/or disabilities that mean we can't go out and do things like the 'beach clean-up' she suggests. We can't get out and do 'acts of service'. I don't see many insightful suggestions in this video for undisabled people, but I see even fewer for people with disabilities/illnesses that pretty much keep us housebound - which is just symptomatic of the ableist society we exist in. 🤷♀️
I recently joined an organisation. It has everything that I was looking for quite a long time. But I have been at home for 2 months while I was looking out for jobs. But here after joining the organisation, other than my teammates, I’m not able to communicate or build relations with anyone else. I felt so weird and lonely today. And how I’ve been trying to engage in some conversation at lunch table but couldn’t say that out loud. Just trying, smiling and eating but couldn’t pass my thoughts. I’m feeling so baadd
Found this video and am trying to figure out how to combat loneliness. I want to give up. I've been through too much.
I can communicate with a bunch of people and still feel lonely if I'm not deeply connecting with them. It's the same thing with being in a room with a lot of people. If I'm just having small talk with those people I can feel lonely. Right now I'm feeling very lonely. Was laid off of work a few months ago, and that has led me to feel lonely and isolated. Wish I had more deeper connections on top of that. Sending lots of love to anyone who is feeling loney.
I feel like i’m doing all these. I feel like i’m a good, warm person that you can break through with just a smile but nobody does smile or say hello. I feel like life is not worth living cause i keep doing is loving myself in order to show up for the world and yet i have no one. If I don’t go out I wouldn’t hear another person’s voice. No texts from anyone unless i first text them and they wouldn’t even take me seriously when i say i think I’m depressed or lonely. I invite people out so i can hear new stories besides the one i feed my mind but they don’t show up. Nobody cares my ego would keep telling me. Or they do something and don’t ask me out or include me. I’m just tired living in this pain.
I live a very isolated existence. I live alone and am at home alone 99% of the time. I have no social life and I feel more and more disconnected as time goes on. The only time I leave the house is if I have some essential business to take care of like grocery shopping or bill paying or medical appointments.
Well...the thing is... after 10 years of loneliness and girls psycopath bullying, I tried putting myself out there, got high school friends wich I NEVER were truly vunreable to, never told my inner toughts and darknes to wich also made me feel lonely around them.... and so the year after graduating I went to this lovely school with outdoors hiking life typa gang I got better connections, but not quite...because I truly never could let myself free bc of trauma. And now I have lost all of them. I also wirked a job I was so confident in first...but ended up quitting after 5 colleagues quit the same day because my other collegue got called a bully by this psycopath collegue where the boss only believed this person and never spoke to me or my collegues abt anything.(It's a super long and complicated unfair story). That broke me. And I even tried to be vunreable to this psycopath collegue only to get laughed at by her.... yeah now I self Isolate and so badly want to get a life but I am too scared. Idk, felt like being open to you guys and I have nothig else to do rn.... but I have reflected, and are seeing a therapist, that helps a tiny bit, but I feel so fuckig broken and SCARED. Welp. Wow I am impressed you read that far ...
"You may feel sone discompfort" now, where have I heard that before? 😊 oh ya, the doctors!
Thanks for this wonderful video
Almost every videos I saw talking about loneliness always referring to pandemic as an example. For someone who has been experiencing it since forever, they don't feel any difference pandemic or not for sure.
Just once I would love to open a video about loneliness and not be bombarded by these people reminding me of how it’s killing me ffs I’m trying to cope I don’t need the incessant reminders of death
Toxic productivity has messed me up. Ever since I was a kid, I was accepted into the Gifted program and was invited into various social circles where working hard was the MO. Even now, all my friends are incredibly hard workers to the point where we have to schedule months in advance to see each other. Then, in college, I studied hard for 3 years (although I fell a year behind due to personal reasons, so my Bachelor's is going to take 5 years instead of 4). One day (like yesterday), I just collapsed and started crying nonstop. And I couldn't pinpoint why. Until my boyfriend said that I could slow down if I wanted to. Nobody ever told me that before. As soon as he said that, I just started crying nonstop. (Not to mention that due to toxic productivity, I never actually slowed down and took time to feel any human emotion, which triggered the nonstop crying.) So I'm just trying to have as much unstructured time as possible (because earlier, even when I wasn't studying or working, I was doing everything I could to be productive, like job hunting or auditing online classes). Today, I slept in, went on a run, did some art, and that's about it. I think I'm healing. Hopefully, I am.
Jlo is right to feel like that coz she is a famous singer while she can’t even sing. The imposter syndrome is understandable! Her vocals aren’t hers!!
love Dolly Parton quote
So basically get out and meet people. Got it!
She has no more videos, short lived social media
I was a shy girl,didn't have many friends in School. Then I met my husband when I was 18 ,just Graduated and married 3 months in our relationship. He was my first boyfriend and Husband, we did everything together and after 2 Children, My husband passed away 😢 We were married 49 years . I'm so Scared to live alone , my Routine and Confidence is gone. I lost my identity and even though I have two grown children,they are too busy with their Family and Working. I'm so sad , I can't believe I'm a Widow . I'm trying so hard to be Social but I feel no one Cares . I'm 70 ,Who wants to meet an old Women like me. 😢💔
I experience it most of the time when i go to a restaurant because there is no one else.
This is what I want!❤❤❤ thank you for making this inspiring video!
Great content, but you don’t need the Supreme Court decisions bit, please leave politics out of it. Just mention politics generally and everyone will know to park it aside! Z
I'm dealing with not wanting to engage because I'm not feeling the best mentally but I do things to make me feel better for i.e walking outside, window shopping or joining different groups for engagement
I get paid to sleep all day ....
I have experienced loneliness frequently for the last couple of years, especially since my mom died of end-stage Alzheimer's in December 2022. I was her full-time caregiver and very few people understand the relationship we had. I often feel lonely in a crowded room. Solitude tends to be by choice more often than not.
This is what I want moving forward ❤ thank you
I got to meetups but people hardly ever show up again. How do you build meaningful connections when you aren't the type of person who hits it off when you meet someone for the first time?
I learned 4 key points to engage with my adult son - so thank you for that. These 4 measures can be applied to many assessments with the different people in my life.
I was in a relationship where my partner was my best friend but they did something awful to me and I started to crave for what I believed was loneliness because I felt I was losing myself in that relationship, so I broke up with them. Now that I finally have what I wanted it feels not so good because I live in a city away from my family and friends and this person was my only company. I understand now that solitude is amazing but comes with the price of feeling lonely from time to time. Thanks for this video, it really helped me clear my mind.
I’m 54 years old. The friends I had have either gotten married or have family matters to deal with or have children too. I’m not married and I don’t have a boyfriend either. Needless to say : I’m tired of it. Wen I was younger I just figured that friends came the same way as a boyfriend did, they just came into my life wenever they came.
I’ve been there for 10 years now.
Sometime better lonely and living toxic environmente to protect yourself and peace of mind one day you must the right person for you