Psychotherapist on narcissism, narcissistic abuse, gangs & EMDR. Lisa Taylor-Austin is a licensed psychotherapist & expert witness. She provides therapy in 7 states & is board certified. Videos use the term "covert" as this is what is mostly used in social media. "Vulnerable" narcissist is what we discuss. This channel is educational & does not constitute or provide therapeutic or legal services & should not be construed as such.
Lisa Taylor-Austin, NCC, LPC, LMHC, CFMHE, CFBA, LCMHC, LCPC
The Taylor-Austin Group, LLC
Disclaimer: Lisa cannot diagnose a viewer, their partner or others. Depending on the content of some comments, she may not be able to respond. Lisa's opinions and statements are her own and not representative of the counseling profession in general.
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Fantastic discussion! We need more like this rather than the bull** intellectually lazy "pop" crap out there today.
Thank you for watching! Isn't it interesting that many people would rather listen to social media sensations than therapists? Subscribe for more videos like this one.
@@LisaTaylor-Austin Unfortunately some therapists/psychologists have become social media sensations.
@@huhwah5387 I only know of two who would fit that description. Anyway thanks for watching and stay tuned for more.
When I stated "they can't help it" it doesn't mean they are not responsible. Most narcissists behave compensatory - they mental illness compels them to act a certain way and they are not aware of it. Malignant narcissists do target you.
Love your stuff!
Thank you for your kind words and for watching.
@tamika taylor i messaged you during the 6/13/24 live.
I experienced this, 12 years then the cold silent treatment began. Gone, ghosted, he changed his number within 10 days. He went directly from our home into his affair/coworkers house. NO take Backs!!
Ugh! It is so damaging to the main partner. Remember: hoovering can happen anytime - even years later but not all narcissists hoover so hopefully he is gone. He will probably leave that new partner too and that is when you are at risk for hoovering.
@LisaTaylor-Austin I'm still trying to finalize the divorce after more than 12 months,he filed yet has not been compliant with paperwork. Trial starts July 31st. My door & heart is locked to him (IT) Thanks for what you do🙏❤️
@@ladyvirgo9514 Hang in there!
So true & i finally found a great therapist who did do EMDR but shes no longer there,she changed proffessions.
www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/
@@LisaTaylor-Austin ty! Found 3 near me
Permanent disengagement May 2023, he ghosted me and my adult daughter, changed his number within 10 days. And yes,im still legally married to him after a year, he filed,immediately moved in with his coworker, next supply yet hes been non cooperative with paperwork. His mother is definitely the core issue that created him. It all makes sense now that im out of the fog.
Sorry to hear this. Stay strong!
Im grateful i found your channel 🙏
Grateful you are here.
Truth
This is exactly what i experienced.
Sorry to hear this. This can be very damaging to the partner. Good book: "The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist" by Mirza.
@@LisaTaylor-Austin saved,ty🙏
I appreciate this interview, its helpful in my healing journey, I've been 12 years married to a covert. Im one year free.
Thank you for watching. Coverts are so different but there are some similarities. There are other videos on this channel about coverts. See the playlist if you have not already. Freedom is wonderful. Keep your boundaries!
@LisaTaylor-Austin I can't diagnose him but from 12 years, I would say covert with Sociopath 🤷♀️ He became very sadistic. I subscribed & im looking into your information. TY So much
@@ladyvirgo9514 I can't diagnose him either (I do not know him) but what you write would be called malignant covert narcissist. The word malignant refers to Anti-social personality disorder (ASPD). There are some really good books out there, if you have not read them yet. BTW, weekly videos roll out on Mondays with shorts throughout the week.
Love these talks with Leon. Very eye opening. Thanks for sharing.
Yes, his candor really helps us understand and learn. Thank you for watching. There will be more with him.
Amazing!
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At 19:00 minutes in is the answer to EVERYONE'S question.
splitting?
@LisaTaylor-Austin I mean the fact that most people arrive here with the question "can I also now have NPD from living with someone who has it for too long?" I've been searching for honest intelligent answers to the "NPD" question for years. Been in a custody battle for my child, and been made to feel like I'm "crazy" and "wrong" through the entire process.... it will literally cause trauma to people who do not suffer from NPD.
@@electrifyingct4303 Sorry to hear of your situation. Narcissistic abuse absolutely causes trauma and sometimes PTSD in the partner. Gaslighting can make a partner feel "crazy." Living with someone with NPD does *not* cause the partner to have NPD - ever. NPD starts in toddler years and is a relationship issue with the primary caretaker. Online some people falsely label reactive abuse as the partner having developed NPD. This is not true. Thank you for watching and I hope this channel can be helpful to you.
@LisaTaylor-Austin It was very helpful, thank you very much. As of today, I finally feel free of the "guilt" for the first time in 5 years.
@@electrifyingct4303 This is wonderful! I am so happy to hear this! Subscribe, if you haven't already, to be notified of more content like this. Have a great weekend.
This is during the very beginning of the dating process before you are a "couple."
They don't have a soul- so they can't feel anything with their heart.
It seems that way but is not the case. The basis of narcissism is the inability to mirror others and have reciprocity.
You just described my first marriage.
They have an orphan spirit. They were probably shut off emotionally. They are in an emotional cave, and have trouble seeing other people's needs.
womensplaning women to women 101
Thanks for stopping by. I am going to invite you to learn about narcissism. People of all genders endure narcissists and narcissistic relationships. This has nothing to do with "women."
Or instead of anxiety you just get annoyed, point it out, and then they get defensive. They need tons of attention and when you settle into normal life, it’s not enough focus to create “feelings” in them. They don’t bond. They don’t see you or remember you for who you actually are as a person. They see you and think of you depending on how you make them feel about…themselves. So they need that hook to feel any type of sustained connection. Otherwise feelings of emptiness creep in and they will blame you for that. They constantly need to be filled up in the most basic ways that wouldn’t even cross the mind of a healthy independent person who can do that for themselves.
Yes! This too. Each person is different.
Didn't know til I left how toxic it really was.
If it was toxic it is a good thing you got out!
No just a fat man with no energy and very cheap
It was gross!
Yep!
Yes, I know…so true🍷
Great video thank you for being so clear and open
Thank you for watching Christine. We appreciate it. Leon and I have another video rolling out in May and will have some more after that as well. Subscribe to this channel to be notified.
Some of the comments are as thought provoking as this video. Maybe it’s possible NPD can be treated but not cured. I’m codependent and imo codependency can only be treated but not cured. The conditions that caused these issues in the first place occurred so early in life they are deeply ingrained. Parental narcissism is exceptionally challenging because much of society expects us to overlook and understand mom’s or dad’s abusive behavior. The danger is in going to the opposite extreme of demonizing all narcissists. But l have come to realize that dehumanizing any person or group diminishes our own humanity.
Thank you for your well thought out comment. It is appreciated. Thank you for viewing and I hope you will be back for our videos on NPD.
I always hear, “ I’m starting, picking a fight whenever I need to talk about something especially how I’m feeling about the relationship.. was very sad 😔
Stonewalling technique 😣 blame shifting 😣
My ex has a relationship with his mom but it’s more mom guilt than anything due to the drama he endured as a child. She’s also his enabler
Yes usually the mother has taught the child that they needs to "perform" to get her love an attention. The mother's love is conditional. Then when the narcissist becomes an adult, they are the biggest enabler. Mothers can have personality disorders as well.
I follow Leon on TikTok which led me here
Thank you for coming to watch the video. Please subscribe so you can be notified of more content like this. Part 2 will be rolling out in the future and we plan to do more videos after that.
Came here from TikTok
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Man Leon, just dropping a comment to say you are doing grea! you went through so much shit and your NPD defended you till all the hardships. you should be proud of yourself
Thank you for watching. Leon and I have more videos in the future. To be notified subscribe to the channel. 👍🏼
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Great interview. So insightful and demonstrates spiritual principles of taking what you have and being of service.
Thank you so much for watching. We both want to help our viewers. Leon and I plan to do more videos in future. To get notified, subscribe.
I left the narcissist spouse and filed divorce he is trying to come back I refuse to ever deal with him again
Thanks for watching. Hoovering is something many narcissists do. Stay strong in your decision. Subscribe to the channel for more videos like this one. Leon and recorded more than one video.
I’m glad this video popped up in my feed. I really appreciate both of you. ❤
Thank you for your kind words and for watching.
Thank you. We’re here to help❤️🙏🏾
Humph 😥 smh
Thank you for watching. I hope you will be able to be open to that fact that some people suffer with mental illness.
@leonrwalkerjr Thank you very much for such a candid interview. I hope this helps those who wonder if they have NPD or partners and former partners trying to understand NPD. See you again for Part 2!
They want to make you their fantasized parent so they can finally have control over you, so they can be the one who does the disguard this time around
Yes this is one of the reasons. The most important reason is that they never individuated from their mother and they need to individuate to become an adult. They are stuck in a cycle of love bombing b/c they think they found the mother. When they realize "you" are a mere mortal they devalue you so they can leave and discard, which is an attempt at individuating. It doesn't work. Watch Dating a Covert Narcissist and how the Shared Fantasy Begins on this channel.
@LisaTaylor-Austin After being married for almost 20 years to a narcissist and their entire family full of narcs, I probably have as much experience as any professional psychologist. I would assume that you are assuming that I am a female talking about my ex husband. However you're wrong. I'm the husband that went through narcissistic abuse and she got it from her covert abusing father. She became a repeat alcohlic homewrecker and tore my world apart with emotional damage to me and my kids. In fact, more women than men are diagnosed with NPD than males these days. So...there's that. Don't go assuming you know the entire back story because it goes much much deeper than what you described. Women can be abusive narcissist just as well. Not just emotional, but also violent and physical abusers!
@@narckillerinfj I am sorry to hear your experience. Nothing in what I said above assumed anything at all. My comment stated, "they" because I had no indication who you were speaking of. My statement still stands. I hope you have or find support. Therapy can help. Experience with narcissists gives us trauma and eventually insight, it does not give us the skills or tools to heal.
What time?
10:00 am ET or now
I just realized something. Been with him almost 7 years and I need to talk to you about his situation. I used to be best friends with his sister n she got jealous n tried to break us up. Just realized she won after defending his sister n not me all these years.
Thank you for watching and focus on YOU.