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@candytate63748 ай бұрын
Some people are strange. A big nose doesn’t make someone unattractive. It’s about facial symmetry, your facial bone structure, your jawline, and your eye shape. Some of the most unattractive people I’ve seen have smaller noses.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
I agree . The only people calling “big nose” women ugly are those with monocultural standards of beauty that most likely favor Hollywood and porn.
@browniiii
8 ай бұрын
People don’t realize how important facial harmony is. You can put attractive features on someone but if they don’t have facial harmony they’re considered below average 95% of the time. 5% is average
@Respectfully_
3 ай бұрын
@@browniiii absolutely agreed girl thank you for putting me on with this channel bestie.
@BrocksJellyFilledDoughnuts
2 ай бұрын
Yes, I always wondered why I couldn't explain that bigger noses just look better on some folks without sounding like I was lying to comfort people. Facial harmony is likely why. This comment gives me a lot of closure.
@mistrylyra58488 ай бұрын
So true! As a light skin black women with 3c hair, the only thing that people could ever say about me was my nose was big. They couldn’t talk about about my other features; high cheekbones, lips, almond eyes but they made a point to let me know that my nose was big (aka too black) trying to humble me but ironically it looked like the one they had sitting in the middle of their faces 🫠. I had a black girl say that she thought all light skin people were suppose to be pretty and I wasn’t because my nose was big 🤣, black people are our own worse enemies. I’ve recently gotten my nose done and I don’t regret it because for me the goal was facial balance and I achieved that. Great breakdown!
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Right Omg ! and it’s funny because for me no one notices my nose (It’s never been called big but also never been called small). However when I have no makeup on and the freckles are showing around my cheeks and nose suddenly people want to comment on it and say they “like” my freckles on my nose and that it’s cute- yet they never say anything about my nose when the freckles are covered up 🤔
@RachelPrinz
8 ай бұрын
I had the opposite. I kept expecting people to say something about my nose but they only seemed to gush over my skin tone, which made me uncomfortable especially when I was a little girl.
@mistrylyra5848
8 ай бұрын
@@hmmm2564 Ashamed 🤣 you missed the facial balance part 👀 let’s not project love
@mistrylyra5848
8 ай бұрын
@@RachelPrinz yesss it’s such a weird place to be in because why is it important, especially coming from adults
@yamiletsoler3464
6 ай бұрын
Facial balance does really enhance people's beauty. 💯
@browniiii8 ай бұрын
I feel like people say anyone has a big nose unless it’s the Barbie nose. My nose takes up the least amount of space on my face but it gets called big.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yup, people are just used to seeing plastic surgery noses in photos etc
@Respectfully_
3 ай бұрын
It's especially embarrassing when that rhetoric is coming out of blk ppl. I remember watching this bwe content creator who saw my face and immediately started talking about how ds woman can only pull off broad and wide noses. I knew she was immediately referring to me lol.
@Faircafe98
2 ай бұрын
@@Respectfully_pull off? So sad as if we made ourselves.
@shawneetate1218 ай бұрын
Some of the prettiest girls I've seen have big noses.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Agreed!
@RachelPrinz8 ай бұрын
Tyra was so pretty with her original nose and so was Naomi.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Agreed !
@Caramelboii918 ай бұрын
Thank you for sticking up for unambiguously black features, it’s much appreciated. Love the channel! ~ a Black gay male
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yup , I’m convinced that we embrace our “unambiguous” features more than actual unambiguous people
@RachelPrinz
8 ай бұрын
@ExoticalsUnited This is something I noticed too. So many will cry that colorism is wrong but will uphold featurism, especially if they think it's a way to one up a light skinned or biracial person.
@AMYP68 ай бұрын
“It’s always people at the bottom of society making everything a competition” a word 😮💨
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Lmao 🤣
@mslachell8 ай бұрын
THISSs! Thank you for making this video and shining light on the featurism us “preferences” are subjected to. I am a light skinned Afro-Latina woman and every since I was a young girl I knew I was pretty but in the same breath I was also told I was ugly because I had a big nose especially by other black people and It hurt my self- esteem badly and caused me grow an insecurity about my nose to the point I wanted to have a nose job. It was clear it was only pointed out to find a “flaw” to humble me, But today I am confident in my skin and in my blackness being that it’s my noticeably black feature and I also know that I was never “ugly” but instead I was being projected onto by self-hating people who didn’t like themselves and wanted to humble me. I am so happy these conversation are being had, I wish I had access to see this message as an adolescent girl. 💛💛
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Right ! Have you ever noticed that anti blackness is used against mixed race people, often by black people themselves ?
@camilafoglia7345
7 ай бұрын
Wow I'm afro Latina too and have the same exact experience, I have black people nose light skinned and curly hair, I got humbled for my nose too, good to know I'm not the only one !
@Classycaramell
6 ай бұрын
This happened to me! A family member called my nose horrendous and since then I was left with desires of getting it done , meanwhile they were build like a refrigerator and had 3 hairs in they head…
@AmaLoveGoddessTV5 ай бұрын
People tend to not like African features in either gender unless it’s full lips. People don’t like big noses and kinky hair typically.
@ExoticalsUnited
5 ай бұрын
Yup and people won’t admit that
@MilanElan
3 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnitedyou'll be called racist if you admit you think Caucasian features are beautiful and Black wide noses Aren't
@meredithgrey7778 ай бұрын
A lot of these men really are in their negging era. It's WILD. They'll start insulting a pretty woman before knowing anything about her. A few days ago I saw some unhinged guy say that an influencer's absolutely gorgeous *mother* definitely was a "three oh four" when she was younger. This woman didn't even speak in the video. It's the projection of insecurity and the gaslighting for me.
@Exoticbarbie.
8 ай бұрын
Totally. Men do this especially when they know they dont stand a chance. Its like calling the grape sour
@meredithgrey777
7 ай бұрын
@@annsu77 "304", it's the interenet's way of calling someone a "h 0 e", but they write it that way so they don't get flagged
@denisesampson84938 ай бұрын
People used to say I was ugly and i also got bullied because of my nose. I have a very Afro-Centric nose and was told I should get a nose job when i was younger because I would be so much " prettier". I thought about it but im not touching my nose, it actually doesnt even look as big as it used to because ive grown into myself..
@geraldinemichel5195
5 ай бұрын
I was told the same thing. Much power to you for growing into yourself. ♥️
@Afrocentric_Exotical_24
4 ай бұрын
Same here. We are beautiful just the way we are. ❤
@Afrocentric_Exotical_24
4 ай бұрын
Nothing is wrong or needs to be fixed with our noses ❤
@Deanna974
3 ай бұрын
Same! I have a wide, flat, spread out nose. (Peep the picture.) I think ignoring the voices of middle school boys from 20 years ago, and getting off the internet, and out into real life has helped. I've actually had men, including the man I'm currently dating tell me, umprompted, that they like my nose. 🤷🏾♀️
@MrsDetroit6227 ай бұрын
Noses don't make people ugly. Our noses tie us to our heritage and our families.
@happyd1479
4 ай бұрын
This!
@lisad3558 ай бұрын
You have really empowered me to stand up for myself and other exoticals. It feels really good to stand up to the bullying and gaslighting.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
yes! a lot of these "youre ugly" talking points are just anti blackness used against MLS women
@naughtycoffee88248 ай бұрын
I swear, you made this video for me 😭😭😭 I've been told I was ugly by the toxic urban black community eversince I had to go to public school 🏚️🚨... but then as I got older, the same guys that said I was ugly were all trying to talk to me & whenever I would wear a skirt to school, the girls would throw so much shade --- so then I got into the habit of not wearing short skirts because in my head I was made to believe that I looked bad 😔 For further reference, I have a pretty golden complexion with 4B hair that goes past my shoulders, I've been told that I look like Alicia Keys or Tia Mowry...... but I just so happen to have a 👃 like Hazel E 🤷♀️
@RachelPrinz
8 ай бұрын
They had to find something about you to pick on. Haters always do.
@Acquiredtaste3327 күн бұрын
I'm an unambiguous black woman (African) with a very big and wide nose, big lips, big eyes. I would consider myself pretty by African standards but have been called ugly my entire life, until my late 20s. One of my dark skinned friends who is also African recently told me that she can't believe that I have all of "those" features on my face and am still pretty... that really broke my heart because why in 2024 are we still thinking like this?!
@anonamous63208 ай бұрын
they keep telling me by forehead is big 😂 like i don’t care… it has never stopped me from being attractive. these haters are running out of things to criticise.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Oh I’ve got a whole video coming up about foreheads
@lisad3558 ай бұрын
I had no idea when I was growing up that my facial features were a source of resentment or praise from others. I grew up with people saying that my facial features were not “black”. I had no idea what they were talking about. I have a thinner and pert nose. My lips are thin and bow shaped. I can’t help the facial features I was born with. Again, their problem and not mine. Thanks again for all that you do.
@madisoncopeland38268 ай бұрын
I really like that question “what features do I have that you find ugly?” Ive never had any one call me that but imma save this one lol
@Valley__
7 ай бұрын
I thought my nose was my bad trait and my hater says my eyes are small and far apart 😂 yet I still look good & great ❤
@rebekkagasmi94517 ай бұрын
As a white woman who's been constantly humbled and belittled (at least they tried it all the time) in terms of looks for almost my entire life (I'm almost 53 now) it was life-changing to realize that it was done by insecure individuals (males and females likewise) with severe inferiority complexes and had absolutely NOTHING to do with my actual looks... Thanks a lot for your precious channel, I instantly subscribed... 🙏🍀🤗
@ChocolateBabe_8 ай бұрын
Society will let you know if you have pretty privilege! In fact society will go out their way to tell you they are impressed by the way you look. De centering men and de centering the world will change the way you view the world and view yourself and view other women despite the differences in skin tone or features. I believe that pretty confident women like pretty confident women.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
100% agree
@ElitaAli18 ай бұрын
My nose is Rhianna's other nose and i can't imagine going through pain so that other people don't have to look at it 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Same, my nose more closely resembles her other nose as well. But a lot of people don’t understand that the beauty standard they’re comparing us to is often plastic surgery, professional makeup artistry etc
@ElitaAli1
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited Exactly! No! I cannot compete with plastic surgery! 😝😂
@camilafoglia7345
7 ай бұрын
@ExoticalsUnited also white supremacist beauty standards which is literally racism but apparently we're the only ones who have figured this out
@laignermassey36318 ай бұрын
I Love This Channel! I'm black and Italian, and I have big, long, pointy nose but I've always loved it bc so does Sophia Loren! 😆😁🥰
@PorshiaVonne8 ай бұрын
I have NEVER been told I’m not that pretty and my 👃🏽 nose is HUGE 😂😂😂😂 I HAVE been told I’m not that “light skinned” only once in my life. I was at the beach with 3 creole girls. Their shade was very light like Tina Knowles. One guy said he thought I had light skin until he saw me next to them 😅 I’m a Fenty 350 from the neck down. My face is lighter although I don’t wear makeup daily.
@PorshiaVonne
8 ай бұрын
Now I’ve definitely been called ugly 😂😂😂😂 when I’ve turned down a man in the past. I’ve gone through “ugly” phases where my acne is AWFUL or I’m overweight (like now) but people still say I’m “pretty” even when I don’t feel it ☹️
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Wow that guy was absolutely negging you and trying to humble you.
@PorshiaVonne
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited you know it 🤷🏾♀️ it bothered me at the time but if someone said it now I would be unfazed.
@Embodiment.Empress
8 ай бұрын
@@PorshiaVonneas if light skin isn’t on a spectrum 🙄 So bc you’re not as light as them means your skin isn’t light? He’s an idiot.
@ryanpriye14028 ай бұрын
I can't state just how important the work you do on this channel is. This space is dominated by incels and misogynists and the discourse mostly focuses on degrading women. We need more empowering women like you!
@Exoticbarbie.8 ай бұрын
My nose is super pointy and my uncle was the only person in the world who bullied me for my nose, telling me about how big my nose is. My nose is not even big. Btw my uncle hates me even to this day. I reminded him of how he called my nose big. He then lied saying I grew into it which is a lie, looking back at my own pics my nose looked the same. In the black community family and friends like to call people's nose big and ugly. Michael Jackson's father did the same. . For me, i dont have a black nose but i think black , white , asian noses are beautiful. Unpopular opinion but i love seeing guys with flared nostrils, i dont care how odd it may sound to others. And yes they love compare you to celebrities. Ive been called beyonce, rihanna, kim kardashian by random men. I dont look like any of these women but they do it as a form of compliment
@anndeecosita3586
8 ай бұрын
My uncle’s wife is a dark skin black woman who has a sharp pointy nose. People including her own sons make fun of her and call her witch nose.
@Exoticbarbie.
8 ай бұрын
@@anndeecosita3586 yes they love doing that too. People love pointing out other people's noses but gets mad when others do the same to them. Its crazy to hear that her own sons made fun of her nose omg
@Exoticbarbie.
7 ай бұрын
@@CCLL-ok5on Yes I had to leave. My uncle hated me and was condescending. To this day I cannot understand why he disliked me. He drained my energy lol
@malaina64265 ай бұрын
know what's crazy? The jealous bullies have always commented on my nose being "big" or my skin being "too pale" to match my ethnicity. It all makes sense now..really they're just prejudiced🤷🏻♀️
@elenam16268 ай бұрын
I grew up with people telling me I have a duck-like nose, pointing down, and thick lipsa "like your father". None of my feathures fit what was considered standard beauty. I found people in Middle East who have my nose, and it was nice to be able to relate to a group of people not be "the odd one out". I wanted to have rhinoplasty, but now I'm fine with this nose. There's nothing wrong with my nose. Yes it looks different than the Barbie -nose, but who cares?
@Feminine_kiАй бұрын
No lie a nose can make or break you I noticed that a long time ago. It’s crazy how much a nose can change someone’s face.
@peacelocs31208 ай бұрын
I remember this self.hate growing up I wanted a nose job bc of this hate...now I enjoy being an exotical when my hair was worn curly it was always you look like Tracee Ross. Now I wear locs and don't get hollered at as much which I really don't mind cause the attention for being pretty is too much I really don't like it...girl I love your channel it's like our own safe space I used to follow mayaworld and I couldn't identify she would always down light skin women
@orridgenalcurlsncoir92537 ай бұрын
Cant believe i am just finding your channel! You're saying everything i have said, cussed, preached!!! Congrats tor speaking up for us🎉
@ExoticalsUnited
7 ай бұрын
Thanks and welcome
@Luxbykay5 ай бұрын
I don’t think I’m your target audience but I do enjoy the topics discussed on your channel it’s important to recognize the struggles of all people not just those who are typically seen as victims
@ExoticalsUnited
5 ай бұрын
Exactly ! Life does not have to be the victim Olympics ! This channel discusses both the hardships AND ACKNOWLEDGES THE PRIVILEGES we have , while also offering solutions to the issues we experience in every day life ❤️
@gabbydavis8 ай бұрын
I still don't know if I have a small nose or not. No one has ever said anything about it except once. I once had someone tell my nose was big yet they had a bigger nose than me. I think he was trying to humble me.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
I think a person can be pretty with a big or small nose but you don’t have a prominent nose . Your nose is like mine. Full, but not full enough to be noticeable. No one’s ever said I have a big nose either but I also don’t feel like I have a small tiny nose .
@gabbydavis
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited I agree that you don't need a small nose to be pretty. I don't think Rihanna or Jay z are ugly. I don't get the trend of wanting a practically invisible nose. It looks strange. There is nothing wrong a full or big nose. It's supposed to balance out your face.
@Transformersarecoming4yourkids8 ай бұрын
Story of my life 😂
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Lmao this isn’t shade to full noses (I have a full nose! Yay! 😍 ) but I’m just explaining how people use our blackness against us when in reality we’re not ugly. We are just women of color. Since when is being a woman of color ugly? 😂
@Transformersarecoming4yourkids
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited oh honey, no worries, I understand the message! ❤️
@hiniewinie6 ай бұрын
This is so true!!! Men's beauty standards are as ever-changing and ever-evolving like the wind. Even the internet as well. Imagine getting a bbl because it was trendy and then the internet is like " Okay guys, I change my mind, we're going for the skinny-boyish look." You need to ask YOU what YOU think is beautiful. I had to come to ask myself this one question. It's very extreme but it was this " What would you want to look like if other people thought it was unremarkable or ugly?" It took me a long time but, I don't want to have to be doing copious amounts of squats for a slim thick look only to do something else when the internet or people around me decide " Nvm, slim thick is kinda ugly ngl."
@hiniewinie
6 ай бұрын
28:18 That...wow. That was an eye opener. I have had men compare my beauty to other girls and I thought it meant that I was the big 'U' but you are so right... if someone was truly ugly they would be invisible. No one would be investing an iota of mental energy in talking to them, looking at them etc. So according to that logic... I am beautiful. Woahh.. EU, you blew my mind.
@ExoticalsUnited
6 ай бұрын
Right! I’ve literally created my own beautify standard for myself (regardless of what others think)
@ExoticalsUnited
6 ай бұрын
Yup. People don’t waste their time with people they’re repulsed by. Think about how the average person treats a dirty, “ugly” homeless man. You avert eye contact, you walk on the other side of the street, you certainly don’t stop and talk and tell him how ugly he is compared to someone else. You already feel sad for him because you know that HE KNOWS that he is ugly. talking about anyones beauty in any way means you have at least thought to yourself “are they attractive?” The fact that you even think that thought is proof that they are NOT ugly.
@WeGoJaiye4 ай бұрын
I like rihannas nose job....the doctors did an amazing job......they did just enough to balance things out
@duchessofautumn8 ай бұрын
Real confidence is silent like a feather hitting concrete insecurities are super loud like a semi truck horn. My pretty girl privilege consists of my charming,witty personality,good sense of humor and maturity. I used this asset to get my new job promotion.
@epd01268 ай бұрын
also ladies practice bringing your brows a bit closer..just try it!!! having a wide space between the brows is not a good look and can make a difference in your look
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Oooh I need to try this !
@brownsugar4412
7 ай бұрын
Ive been doing this for a while and it works! My nose is the biggest out of me and my sisters and i don’t know how to contour it. When i do it looks awful. Making my brows closer,longer, arched and a little thicker makes my nose look smaller!
@minnitreez3337 ай бұрын
Someone said I resembled Alicia keys the other day at work and I was like meh but I’ve only seen her with a small nose but with her previous nose I see it! She is beautiful and her nose! ❤️
@ExoticalsUnited
7 ай бұрын
Yes! 😍
@BarbaraJeanBass3224 ай бұрын
People always say I remind them of Aaliyah! She’s so pretty! ❤
@smelly10608 ай бұрын
16:55 shit in medieval Japan women would blacken their teeth because that was seen as beautiful and even now crooked teeth are looked at with endearment. So yeah VERY few things are universally seen as attractive other than just plain old health, and what that entails will vary from culture to culture🤷🏿
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Exactly
@BabyCappuccino8 ай бұрын
Hi EU! ❤ I love your channel. If you haven't, could you make a video on people, mainly UDSW and men denying women like Rihanna and Beyoncé being mixed and coming up with DNA percentages that don't make sense? I've seen various comments saying, "They're 80% black and 10% white!" And one person said, "Rihanna doesn't even look mixed!" Which doesn't make sense.
@adntheplace2b4 ай бұрын
When I was younger I was definitely bullied for my large nose. I did get a nose job as an adult and I don't regret it, but I wish I hadn't let others project their own insecurities onto me.
@awash5268 ай бұрын
When I was younger I was picked on for my nose but I rarely get any hate for it now. But the things I’ve been told lol
@mikhalaa7468 ай бұрын
Ive stopped giving women compliments i find everytime i do they give me a dirty looks🤦🏾♀️
@sophiam9886
8 ай бұрын
Wowww! 😮 I thought it was just me! It's almost like, when a pretty woman gives another woman a compliment, that woman automatically thinks that we are being disingenuous. They don't feel like that about themselves, so they either lash out or they immediately give you back negative energy instead of positive energy. Then, it kind of makes the pretty woman feel awkward like we have to CONVINCE the other woman that our compliment is sincere which leads to us, basically, ass kissing. So, I just keep my compliments to myself at this point. I don't have the patience or energy to coddle other people's insecurities anymore.
@Exoticbarbie.
8 ай бұрын
Omg
@gayanngodfrey2824
5 ай бұрын
They are insecure
@mieschabear8 ай бұрын
not me watching this right before i get a nose job 😂
@jodyyy8752
8 ай бұрын
Lmao same!!
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Omg 😂😂😂😂 well I hope you guys listen to the video . It’s talking about how people have internalized biases against their own features and project them onto you even if you don’t hate your “big” nose
@mieschabear
8 ай бұрын
nah this is coz of like a 1mm deviation in my septum so my plastic surgeon got a ton of other stuff authorized coz i NEEEEED a perfectly symmetrical face 😌
@Itsmeyourqueeen8 ай бұрын
damn the mixed, the Arabs, the Persians, the turkey's, the koreans, chinese, thai, Philippines, the indians basically all asians, the west Africans everybody got nose surgery. every nose type is beautiful and unique and I'm very proud of my unique east african nose. selflove is the key but i also know how much hate rihanna, blue ivvy got because of their nose.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yes Omg !
@newworldlord6438 ай бұрын
Yo u be so loud on this channel😂😂🪓🎤🥁🎬📢📢 spitting COLD FACTS 😂😂😂 I just be laughing 😅 bc these are all things ive thought about at some point
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
😂😂 well at least we have a safe space
@ellieff8 ай бұрын
💯 I had a boyfriend in high school that would always say “with your black people nose” and he was darker skin black. I was always so confused by the reasoning. I’d just say, uh, yeah cause I AM??
@Exoticbarbie.
8 ай бұрын
He had self hate
@melodysafo543718 күн бұрын
I'm an UABW and my brother made fun of my nose in elementary school, which led to me hating it in the first place. Now I'm just gonna learn to live with it and love it
@GlitterSkies8 ай бұрын
A lot of uabw would point out my nose saying it’s small and cute and they wish they had it. But it seems the bar has been raised again and now it needs to look even closer to a white person’s nose to be considered small.
@traceylennon12048 ай бұрын
Loving the new movement of the decentralization of men's gaze!!
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yes it has solved so many small insecurities about myself that I didn’t even know I had! For example let’s say I have legs that aren’t perfectly smooth, my butt doesn’t go in a perfect circle shape etc .
@tonyp3337778 ай бұрын
I have been fascinated with your channel lol 😂 yes I’m a un ambiguous black man and I listen because you have a lot of strong opinions and solid points about privilege and beauty and noses. I’m extremely excited to meet you one day to have a discussion! I love to listen to intelligent conversations online
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching !
@kittensncasket
8 ай бұрын
Ugh
@uniquelyme3581
8 ай бұрын
@@kittensncasketGirl lol
@Lala-lw6pi8 ай бұрын
I have a big crooked unattractive nose. But ive always been told how beautiful I was; despite the easy bullying or people who were haters over the years talk about my nose- I was still told I look good. A lot of women close to me would say “if u get a nose job, u would be perfect”. Its been a weird inner battle. No matter how much im told Im beautiful and KNOW that I am, I always have this insecurity and never felt enough because the insecurity is in the middle of my face. Society’s obsession with white passing features is deep
@lolli47228 ай бұрын
I swear when I use filters that shrink my nose I look 10x better
@ernestinewilson62094 ай бұрын
Ice Spice is gorgeous , i dont know what they are talking about. She looks fabulous with any hairstyle 😎
@Shorty246985 ай бұрын
Thank you! I've been gaslighted for my big nose and light caramel skin tone.
@ExoticalsUnited
5 ай бұрын
Yup, people just hate themselves and project it onto others
@Shorty24698
5 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited Sadly ,I feel like seeing only one representation of beautiful not seeing themselves in the media can also affect one's mental health. When they're only fed that King noses are superior for instance. 💙
@Shorty24698
5 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited I meant to say *keen* not King LOL
@AngelicaEstherxo8 ай бұрын
My nose is long, my dad had a big and wide nose and my mom has a small one, so my nose is like a mix of both (not really, its a whole new nose shape 😂) Anyways, I never had a problem with my nose until a friend from high school and my husband mentioned it. As a kid, my best friend would call me “big nose” whenever we would argue, and I had no idea why she was calling me that way, cause I didn’t see anything wrong with my nose so I never paid attention to her. Until I was in high school and another friend made a comment about it and then my husband. That’s when I became self aware of my nose, but even then I didn’t know exactly if the problem was it being long, or wide or what exactly cause I just didn’t see anything wrong with it 😂 then my husband told me that my nose its long instead of wide. Now I see it, sometimes I’m a little self aware of my nose but other times I just don’t care. I wouldn’t be me without my nose…and I’m too afraid of getting surgery and having a messed up nose. Honestly, looking back… I never had a problem with my nose until certain people point it out which makes me think that some people just love to find a way to make others feel insecure when they see them being confident with themselves, and it sucks. Like, let that person love herself despite what you may think of them, keep your comment to yourself and let them be who they are in peace lol cause my husband specifically brought that insecurity to me. EDIT: my husband would joke about my nose sometimes, Dominicans tend to joke about “big noses” or “bad hair” just like black American men joke about “wigs” or “nappy hair” so it was a form of joke which was not fun AT ALL. 🙄
@AngelicaEstherxo
8 ай бұрын
@@j.t.hellstrom3791YUP! My husband, as some kind of “joke”… you know, just like black men tend to joke about “nappy hair”. Well, Dominicans joke a lot a about big noses, those jokes are not fun at all.
@drebugsita8 ай бұрын
All of this! Also so many of them looked better - IMO - before they got their nose done. Of the celebrities I think only Rihanna, Alicia Keys, and Aliyah, look better in the after photos (and aside from Alicia Keys, theirs were fairly subtle). But Amerie, Tyra, and the rest had much more striking beauty before getting generic looking noses, something remains off about them. And of course this applies to celebrities of other backgrounds too, like Brittney Spears and JLo, their chiseled down noses are distracting, they had absolutely no need to alter what they had. I really appreciate this video though because despite my comment I struggle with my own nose, especially given that my sister fits into the more idealized version of "refined" features.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yes I agree
@smelly10608 ай бұрын
As a guy, I'm on here because I'm interested in the talking points and tend to agree with your viewpoints. As for other niggas(red pillers in particular) hate watching and arguing with things/people they explicitly detest gives them a sense of fulfilment they probably wouldn't get if they didn't go out of their way to piss themselves off.
@fatimadavis908 ай бұрын
The majority of these women in the video are all directly mixed by at least a 1/4.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
yup
@hoosieraussis18 ай бұрын
I agree that there is definitely a bias against features that that don't fit a very narrow, Eurocentric standard that many white people don't fit. On the other hand, I don't think I've ever seen ugly eyes, so disliking someone's nose or mouth doesn't necessarily mean the critic is biased against ethnic features. Assuming there is not anti-black feature bias, it's often some disharmony in how the features come together that makes the person appear not aesthetic. Anika Noni Rose is a very beautiful woman with a wider nose that fits her face very well. I've always though Barbara Streisand was pretty with her natural nose as well. In my opinion, Rihanna's nose job is masterful, with the preservation of the overall shape and ethnicity of her nose.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yes it’s called an ethnic rhinoplasty. They give you a smaller version of whatever nose is common in your ethnicity
@TamTam9-158 ай бұрын
I’ve always felt my nose is what held me back from being above average looking. I do think I have pretty privilege especially because I’m on the skinnier side and society always values that but as a brown skin woman having a smaller nose is just superior.
@TamTam9-15
8 ай бұрын
@@Love-Fashion-Makeup I don’t think it’s too bad especially from an ethnic standpoint. I don’t think many plastic surgeons especially ethnic ones would touch it due to ethical reasons I’ve heard of them preserving ethnic features or some stuff like that. Idk I just think my tip is too round if that’s makes sense.
@gayanngodfrey2824
5 ай бұрын
You’re nose is small cute and beautiful
@duchessofautumn8 ай бұрын
As a nigerian and Irish exotical baddie (56/27 admixure) with Ella Mai features this is the stone cold truth. In my teenage years a guy I was interested in dating turned me down because he said the tip of my nose and pear shaped body was too big. My standard of beauty is the chef Jazz Smollett.
@Ronsquaremy8 ай бұрын
Speaking of Aaliyah...idk why Aaliyah said her grandma was native...her grandma looks white to me tbh but maybe she was passing.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
If I’m not mistaken I though Aaliyah had Mexican ancestry? I’ll look into it
@AnAdorableWombat1
8 ай бұрын
Aaliyah is just black white admixture. She has no known native ancestry or tribal affiliation
@scammeishathescamartist8 ай бұрын
That's how i always felt. My nose is bigger and broad and my lips are bigger.
@TreasureSeasons8 ай бұрын
thanks for shedding light on this -
@hawkrose26988 ай бұрын
The humbling tactics are weird .
@jamieburnett90925 ай бұрын
Black people love themselves…. We are are not bothered by someone not liking our features.
@quoteme.goddess98918 ай бұрын
I've been told that I have a White nose, and skinny lips. That's my family's brand! 😂 Question. What's a White nose? Girls with big noses have the prettiest eyes.
@camilia1987735 ай бұрын
A lot of nose jobs are the only thing i can see on some people who have had them. Muni long Nene leaks lil kim Latoya jackson. Janet Jackson. So strange i hope Glorilla keeps her nose. I find the before pictures more youthful. (I know before pics are inherently more youthful)
@cassandrarobins7868 ай бұрын
23:54 Funnily enough, Ryan Destiny had a subtle nose job too.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Oh wow ! I did not know that! I will have to look into that!
@yetundethesketcher5424 ай бұрын
No lies told
@Academiacaramelcurlz8 ай бұрын
Amen!!!! ✊🏽✊🏼✊🏽✊🏼
@Deanna9743 ай бұрын
I have a wide, flat, spread out nose. (Peep the picture.) I think ignoring the voices of middle school boys from 20 years ago, and getting off the internet, and out into real life has helped. I've actually had men, including the man I'm currently dating tell me, umprompted, that they like my nose. 🤷🏾♀️ Ive accepted that there are pretty ambigious and unambigous women. Like Doja Cat looks pretty with her 4C hair. And Ice Spice is cute too. But so are Lauryn Hill and Ari Lennox. Beauty is about symmetry and health, not race.
@Yespls8883 ай бұрын
You're spot on! I noticed this as a little girl in the 90s...but never heard anyone admit this or lay it out so thoroughly, very interesting.
@Idkjustyet8 ай бұрын
I don’t see nothing wrong with my big nose. Some mad ass guys called me squidward but idk I’m not insecure about my nose. The insult doesn’t hold enough weight. It’s like, ehh come a lil harder than that. Also, Rihanna’s nose looks the same. In my opinion Ice Spice is just okay but she isn’t ugly at all! If she gave me the chance I would definitely have a change of heart tho & I’m pretty sure she’s cuter in person. I never seen Doja Cats natural hair & she looks gorgeous 😍 Moving on, I think it’s all because of the certain pictures and the angles. For example, if Ice Spice showed her body more in a pic then all of a sudden she looks more attractive vs Rihanna showing more of her face. Rihanna’s face card is nice & pretty meanwhile I’m attracted to Ice Spices body type (specifically the hourglass shape). It’s preference if that makes sense. It all changes depending on the person too. I don’t have a problem with big nose & big lips (like myself) but Jay Z looks like a camel to me 🤷🏽♀️
@mailninja69386 ай бұрын
Call them outtt
@fatimadavis908 ай бұрын
As a person who immediately self identifies as mixed cultured (Antiguan and African American), some people don't like to be judged. Beauty standards do exist. But it'll cost less if someone fixed their attitude. Although I'm caramel, I understand that I have more in common with dark skin unambiguous blk women because of my features ( brown eyes and African facial features with 4c hair). DNA stats and common sense combined, my level of admixture isn't the same as these women in the video as I don't self identify as mixed. I mean look mixed. I'm generational admixed (minor ingredient).
@CrownOfCurlss8 ай бұрын
Love this channel
@corilia95293 ай бұрын
I have a bump in my nose. Aint changin it.
@user-dv5gm9ui1e8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for doing this video❤️❤️.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
No problem 😊
@a.n.watson87973 ай бұрын
I probably could use a nose job because I have this round ball on the tip but I’m too scared 😂
@saltydreadlock4386 күн бұрын
I'm here because I'm contemplating nose surgery im a male
@denisesampson84938 ай бұрын
Would you consider Gabrielle Union and Exotical or Unambiguous? She has Afro- centric features but I've never heard anyone refer to her as " Ugly".
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
And looks unambiguous to me , I’ve never heard anything about her being mixed race, she probably just has admixture
@denisesampson8493
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited Why don't you think anyone has called her Ugly? I'm trying to figure out the difference because she definitely has strong features
@TheWildWahine5 ай бұрын
As far an J. Majors and JZ it’s all about the narrow eyes. There something about narrow eyes that is considered deeply unattractive and asymmetrical in most people. 👁️👁️ Having 1 eye length between the eye 👁️ 👁️ or wider eyes 👁️__👁️ are considered attractive and ethereal.
@nelliebellie22225 ай бұрын
Facts when I was a child I had a big flatter wide nose no arch whatsoever and I was told to use a closepin to fix my nose. Thx God I didnt listen because as I got older my nose got a bit more narrow naturally and nobody says anything about it anymore 😂
@traceylennon12048 ай бұрын
I have a problem with overhearing random people and guys I'm not even attracted to thinking I look like a dude or trying to figure out what gender I am..where does that come from?
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Oh that’s easy. A lot of men are secretly LGBT and get mad if a “woman” they were attracted to and lusting over was actually a guy. Or they’re scared of being outed as LGBT so they act more homophobic than normal. have you ever noticed it’s often the closeted LGBT people that are the most anti -LGBT?
We're Hybrids. We aren't bothered by other Women. But we see LS and Exotical Men have these UABM in a chokehold and would feel privileged if they woke up looking like us.
@Unknown-dj6xc
27 күн бұрын
💀💀💀
@shevettejackson.8 ай бұрын
I like your video 😊
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Thanks !
@OliviaX5003 ай бұрын
If it’s not the nose, they try to insult on face shape or how “skinny “ you are, etc. I’ve moved to the south and the DSBW who are monoracial have made multiple disparaging comments. It’s funny because one of the rude hairstylists who were saying I have an oblong face told me she would pretend to be part Egyptian to black guys to impress them. It was weird af to me because I’m ACTUALLY half Egyptian (my father), she had no clue 😂
@Valley__7 ай бұрын
I have a big nose I grew to love because I would look crazy with a nose job. Even with having a big nose I love when I see Blk ppl with small button noses . It’s so cute like how did you get a button nose 😇
@amichel18738 ай бұрын
💯💯💯💯
@user-nn5qw5mu4m8 ай бұрын
What's MLS mean?
@ilovemesumjas
8 ай бұрын
𝑴𝒊𝒙𝒆𝒅 𝒍𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒔𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒅
@moonlightprincess4492 ай бұрын
Robyn aka Rihanna nose wasn’t and isn’t big to me when I think of a big nose I think of hawk nose
@Afrocentric_Exotical_244 ай бұрын
❤
@MsBoujeeGisele8 ай бұрын
Wow were to begin, I'm white passing with blue eyes & as in the sense that at family functions the photographer would say to me ,can you move out the way its family only lol . I lie to you not & like a fool I would move , but my nose I hate it. I did arrange 2 times to have cosmetic surgery ' but both times the surgeon's said nothing wrong with your nose it fits your face & It would be unethical for me to do surgery just because of how you feel .
@uniquejohnson55162 ай бұрын
I have a big nose. Not getting a nose job cause u dont get too many chances to fuck that up. Really one. Which is why lil kim and MJ had issues. U not suppose to touch it more than once. I got a piercing on each side and called it a day. Why touch it. When my child can have my nose?
@tatikay3660
21 күн бұрын
I got a piercing on both sides too and now everyone says my nose is cute 🤣🤣
@carmelcapricorn7701Ай бұрын
My big is beautiful. God give u more or less. 🌺👑🪮🪞💄
@smalltv4593 ай бұрын
I think the nose trend is gonna pass-I have a bump in the middle of mine you can see from the side-but I’m keeping it, it’s MINE ’n who gon check meh’😂🩵
@ExoticalsUnited
3 ай бұрын
Yup I agree ! I just feel like society and filters teach people to dislike their noses
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Some people are strange. A big nose doesn’t make someone unattractive. It’s about facial symmetry, your facial bone structure, your jawline, and your eye shape. Some of the most unattractive people I’ve seen have smaller noses.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
I agree . The only people calling “big nose” women ugly are those with monocultural standards of beauty that most likely favor Hollywood and porn.
@browniiii
8 ай бұрын
People don’t realize how important facial harmony is. You can put attractive features on someone but if they don’t have facial harmony they’re considered below average 95% of the time. 5% is average
@Respectfully_
3 ай бұрын
@@browniiii absolutely agreed girl thank you for putting me on with this channel bestie.
@BrocksJellyFilledDoughnuts
2 ай бұрын
Yes, I always wondered why I couldn't explain that bigger noses just look better on some folks without sounding like I was lying to comfort people. Facial harmony is likely why. This comment gives me a lot of closure.
So true! As a light skin black women with 3c hair, the only thing that people could ever say about me was my nose was big. They couldn’t talk about about my other features; high cheekbones, lips, almond eyes but they made a point to let me know that my nose was big (aka too black) trying to humble me but ironically it looked like the one they had sitting in the middle of their faces 🫠. I had a black girl say that she thought all light skin people were suppose to be pretty and I wasn’t because my nose was big 🤣, black people are our own worse enemies. I’ve recently gotten my nose done and I don’t regret it because for me the goal was facial balance and I achieved that. Great breakdown!
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Right Omg ! and it’s funny because for me no one notices my nose (It’s never been called big but also never been called small). However when I have no makeup on and the freckles are showing around my cheeks and nose suddenly people want to comment on it and say they “like” my freckles on my nose and that it’s cute- yet they never say anything about my nose when the freckles are covered up 🤔
@RachelPrinz
8 ай бұрын
I had the opposite. I kept expecting people to say something about my nose but they only seemed to gush over my skin tone, which made me uncomfortable especially when I was a little girl.
@mistrylyra5848
8 ай бұрын
@@hmmm2564 Ashamed 🤣 you missed the facial balance part 👀 let’s not project love
@mistrylyra5848
8 ай бұрын
@@RachelPrinz yesss it’s such a weird place to be in because why is it important, especially coming from adults
@yamiletsoler3464
6 ай бұрын
Facial balance does really enhance people's beauty. 💯
I feel like people say anyone has a big nose unless it’s the Barbie nose. My nose takes up the least amount of space on my face but it gets called big.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yup, people are just used to seeing plastic surgery noses in photos etc
@Respectfully_
3 ай бұрын
It's especially embarrassing when that rhetoric is coming out of blk ppl. I remember watching this bwe content creator who saw my face and immediately started talking about how ds woman can only pull off broad and wide noses. I knew she was immediately referring to me lol.
@Faircafe98
2 ай бұрын
@@Respectfully_pull off? So sad as if we made ourselves.
Some of the prettiest girls I've seen have big noses.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Agreed!
Tyra was so pretty with her original nose and so was Naomi.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Agreed !
Thank you for sticking up for unambiguously black features, it’s much appreciated. Love the channel! ~ a Black gay male
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yup , I’m convinced that we embrace our “unambiguous” features more than actual unambiguous people
@RachelPrinz
8 ай бұрын
@ExoticalsUnited This is something I noticed too. So many will cry that colorism is wrong but will uphold featurism, especially if they think it's a way to one up a light skinned or biracial person.
“It’s always people at the bottom of society making everything a competition” a word 😮💨
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Lmao 🤣
THISSs! Thank you for making this video and shining light on the featurism us “preferences” are subjected to. I am a light skinned Afro-Latina woman and every since I was a young girl I knew I was pretty but in the same breath I was also told I was ugly because I had a big nose especially by other black people and It hurt my self- esteem badly and caused me grow an insecurity about my nose to the point I wanted to have a nose job. It was clear it was only pointed out to find a “flaw” to humble me, But today I am confident in my skin and in my blackness being that it’s my noticeably black feature and I also know that I was never “ugly” but instead I was being projected onto by self-hating people who didn’t like themselves and wanted to humble me. I am so happy these conversation are being had, I wish I had access to see this message as an adolescent girl. 💛💛
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Right ! Have you ever noticed that anti blackness is used against mixed race people, often by black people themselves ?
@camilafoglia7345
7 ай бұрын
Wow I'm afro Latina too and have the same exact experience, I have black people nose light skinned and curly hair, I got humbled for my nose too, good to know I'm not the only one !
@Classycaramell
6 ай бұрын
This happened to me! A family member called my nose horrendous and since then I was left with desires of getting it done , meanwhile they were build like a refrigerator and had 3 hairs in they head…
People tend to not like African features in either gender unless it’s full lips. People don’t like big noses and kinky hair typically.
@ExoticalsUnited
5 ай бұрын
Yup and people won’t admit that
@MilanElan
3 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnitedyou'll be called racist if you admit you think Caucasian features are beautiful and Black wide noses Aren't
A lot of these men really are in their negging era. It's WILD. They'll start insulting a pretty woman before knowing anything about her. A few days ago I saw some unhinged guy say that an influencer's absolutely gorgeous *mother* definitely was a "three oh four" when she was younger. This woman didn't even speak in the video. It's the projection of insecurity and the gaslighting for me.
@Exoticbarbie.
8 ай бұрын
Totally. Men do this especially when they know they dont stand a chance. Its like calling the grape sour
@meredithgrey777
7 ай бұрын
@@annsu77 "304", it's the interenet's way of calling someone a "h 0 e", but they write it that way so they don't get flagged
People used to say I was ugly and i also got bullied because of my nose. I have a very Afro-Centric nose and was told I should get a nose job when i was younger because I would be so much " prettier". I thought about it but im not touching my nose, it actually doesnt even look as big as it used to because ive grown into myself..
@geraldinemichel5195
5 ай бұрын
I was told the same thing. Much power to you for growing into yourself. ♥️
@Afrocentric_Exotical_24
4 ай бұрын
Same here. We are beautiful just the way we are. ❤
@Afrocentric_Exotical_24
4 ай бұрын
Nothing is wrong or needs to be fixed with our noses ❤
@Deanna974
3 ай бұрын
Same! I have a wide, flat, spread out nose. (Peep the picture.) I think ignoring the voices of middle school boys from 20 years ago, and getting off the internet, and out into real life has helped. I've actually had men, including the man I'm currently dating tell me, umprompted, that they like my nose. 🤷🏾♀️
Noses don't make people ugly. Our noses tie us to our heritage and our families.
@happyd1479
4 ай бұрын
This!
You have really empowered me to stand up for myself and other exoticals. It feels really good to stand up to the bullying and gaslighting.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
yes! a lot of these "youre ugly" talking points are just anti blackness used against MLS women
I swear, you made this video for me 😭😭😭 I've been told I was ugly by the toxic urban black community eversince I had to go to public school 🏚️🚨... but then as I got older, the same guys that said I was ugly were all trying to talk to me & whenever I would wear a skirt to school, the girls would throw so much shade --- so then I got into the habit of not wearing short skirts because in my head I was made to believe that I looked bad 😔 For further reference, I have a pretty golden complexion with 4B hair that goes past my shoulders, I've been told that I look like Alicia Keys or Tia Mowry...... but I just so happen to have a 👃 like Hazel E 🤷♀️
@RachelPrinz
8 ай бұрын
They had to find something about you to pick on. Haters always do.
I'm an unambiguous black woman (African) with a very big and wide nose, big lips, big eyes. I would consider myself pretty by African standards but have been called ugly my entire life, until my late 20s. One of my dark skinned friends who is also African recently told me that she can't believe that I have all of "those" features on my face and am still pretty... that really broke my heart because why in 2024 are we still thinking like this?!
they keep telling me by forehead is big 😂 like i don’t care… it has never stopped me from being attractive. these haters are running out of things to criticise.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Oh I’ve got a whole video coming up about foreheads
I had no idea when I was growing up that my facial features were a source of resentment or praise from others. I grew up with people saying that my facial features were not “black”. I had no idea what they were talking about. I have a thinner and pert nose. My lips are thin and bow shaped. I can’t help the facial features I was born with. Again, their problem and not mine. Thanks again for all that you do.
I really like that question “what features do I have that you find ugly?” Ive never had any one call me that but imma save this one lol
@Valley__
7 ай бұрын
I thought my nose was my bad trait and my hater says my eyes are small and far apart 😂 yet I still look good & great ❤
As a white woman who's been constantly humbled and belittled (at least they tried it all the time) in terms of looks for almost my entire life (I'm almost 53 now) it was life-changing to realize that it was done by insecure individuals (males and females likewise) with severe inferiority complexes and had absolutely NOTHING to do with my actual looks... Thanks a lot for your precious channel, I instantly subscribed... 🙏🍀🤗
Society will let you know if you have pretty privilege! In fact society will go out their way to tell you they are impressed by the way you look. De centering men and de centering the world will change the way you view the world and view yourself and view other women despite the differences in skin tone or features. I believe that pretty confident women like pretty confident women.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
100% agree
My nose is Rhianna's other nose and i can't imagine going through pain so that other people don't have to look at it 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Same, my nose more closely resembles her other nose as well. But a lot of people don’t understand that the beauty standard they’re comparing us to is often plastic surgery, professional makeup artistry etc
@ElitaAli1
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited Exactly! No! I cannot compete with plastic surgery! 😝😂
@camilafoglia7345
7 ай бұрын
@ExoticalsUnited also white supremacist beauty standards which is literally racism but apparently we're the only ones who have figured this out
I Love This Channel! I'm black and Italian, and I have big, long, pointy nose but I've always loved it bc so does Sophia Loren! 😆😁🥰
I have NEVER been told I’m not that pretty and my 👃🏽 nose is HUGE 😂😂😂😂 I HAVE been told I’m not that “light skinned” only once in my life. I was at the beach with 3 creole girls. Their shade was very light like Tina Knowles. One guy said he thought I had light skin until he saw me next to them 😅 I’m a Fenty 350 from the neck down. My face is lighter although I don’t wear makeup daily.
@PorshiaVonne
8 ай бұрын
Now I’ve definitely been called ugly 😂😂😂😂 when I’ve turned down a man in the past. I’ve gone through “ugly” phases where my acne is AWFUL or I’m overweight (like now) but people still say I’m “pretty” even when I don’t feel it ☹️
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Wow that guy was absolutely negging you and trying to humble you.
@PorshiaVonne
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited you know it 🤷🏾♀️ it bothered me at the time but if someone said it now I would be unfazed.
@Embodiment.Empress
8 ай бұрын
@@PorshiaVonneas if light skin isn’t on a spectrum 🙄 So bc you’re not as light as them means your skin isn’t light? He’s an idiot.
I can't state just how important the work you do on this channel is. This space is dominated by incels and misogynists and the discourse mostly focuses on degrading women. We need more empowering women like you!
My nose is super pointy and my uncle was the only person in the world who bullied me for my nose, telling me about how big my nose is. My nose is not even big. Btw my uncle hates me even to this day. I reminded him of how he called my nose big. He then lied saying I grew into it which is a lie, looking back at my own pics my nose looked the same. In the black community family and friends like to call people's nose big and ugly. Michael Jackson's father did the same. . For me, i dont have a black nose but i think black , white , asian noses are beautiful. Unpopular opinion but i love seeing guys with flared nostrils, i dont care how odd it may sound to others. And yes they love compare you to celebrities. Ive been called beyonce, rihanna, kim kardashian by random men. I dont look like any of these women but they do it as a form of compliment
@anndeecosita3586
8 ай бұрын
My uncle’s wife is a dark skin black woman who has a sharp pointy nose. People including her own sons make fun of her and call her witch nose.
@Exoticbarbie.
8 ай бұрын
@@anndeecosita3586 yes they love doing that too. People love pointing out other people's noses but gets mad when others do the same to them. Its crazy to hear that her own sons made fun of her nose omg
@Exoticbarbie.
7 ай бұрын
@@CCLL-ok5on Yes I had to leave. My uncle hated me and was condescending. To this day I cannot understand why he disliked me. He drained my energy lol
know what's crazy? The jealous bullies have always commented on my nose being "big" or my skin being "too pale" to match my ethnicity. It all makes sense now..really they're just prejudiced🤷🏻♀️
I grew up with people telling me I have a duck-like nose, pointing down, and thick lipsa "like your father". None of my feathures fit what was considered standard beauty. I found people in Middle East who have my nose, and it was nice to be able to relate to a group of people not be "the odd one out". I wanted to have rhinoplasty, but now I'm fine with this nose. There's nothing wrong with my nose. Yes it looks different than the Barbie -nose, but who cares?
No lie a nose can make or break you I noticed that a long time ago. It’s crazy how much a nose can change someone’s face.
I remember this self.hate growing up I wanted a nose job bc of this hate...now I enjoy being an exotical when my hair was worn curly it was always you look like Tracee Ross. Now I wear locs and don't get hollered at as much which I really don't mind cause the attention for being pretty is too much I really don't like it...girl I love your channel it's like our own safe space I used to follow mayaworld and I couldn't identify she would always down light skin women
Cant believe i am just finding your channel! You're saying everything i have said, cussed, preached!!! Congrats tor speaking up for us🎉
@ExoticalsUnited
7 ай бұрын
Thanks and welcome
I don’t think I’m your target audience but I do enjoy the topics discussed on your channel it’s important to recognize the struggles of all people not just those who are typically seen as victims
@ExoticalsUnited
5 ай бұрын
Exactly ! Life does not have to be the victim Olympics ! This channel discusses both the hardships AND ACKNOWLEDGES THE PRIVILEGES we have , while also offering solutions to the issues we experience in every day life ❤️
I still don't know if I have a small nose or not. No one has ever said anything about it except once. I once had someone tell my nose was big yet they had a bigger nose than me. I think he was trying to humble me.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
I think a person can be pretty with a big or small nose but you don’t have a prominent nose . Your nose is like mine. Full, but not full enough to be noticeable. No one’s ever said I have a big nose either but I also don’t feel like I have a small tiny nose .
@gabbydavis
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited I agree that you don't need a small nose to be pretty. I don't think Rihanna or Jay z are ugly. I don't get the trend of wanting a practically invisible nose. It looks strange. There is nothing wrong a full or big nose. It's supposed to balance out your face.
Story of my life 😂
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Lmao this isn’t shade to full noses (I have a full nose! Yay! 😍 ) but I’m just explaining how people use our blackness against us when in reality we’re not ugly. We are just women of color. Since when is being a woman of color ugly? 😂
@Transformersarecoming4yourkids
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited oh honey, no worries, I understand the message! ❤️
This is so true!!! Men's beauty standards are as ever-changing and ever-evolving like the wind. Even the internet as well. Imagine getting a bbl because it was trendy and then the internet is like " Okay guys, I change my mind, we're going for the skinny-boyish look." You need to ask YOU what YOU think is beautiful. I had to come to ask myself this one question. It's very extreme but it was this " What would you want to look like if other people thought it was unremarkable or ugly?" It took me a long time but, I don't want to have to be doing copious amounts of squats for a slim thick look only to do something else when the internet or people around me decide " Nvm, slim thick is kinda ugly ngl."
@hiniewinie
6 ай бұрын
28:18 That...wow. That was an eye opener. I have had men compare my beauty to other girls and I thought it meant that I was the big 'U' but you are so right... if someone was truly ugly they would be invisible. No one would be investing an iota of mental energy in talking to them, looking at them etc. So according to that logic... I am beautiful. Woahh.. EU, you blew my mind.
@ExoticalsUnited
6 ай бұрын
Right! I’ve literally created my own beautify standard for myself (regardless of what others think)
@ExoticalsUnited
6 ай бұрын
Yup. People don’t waste their time with people they’re repulsed by. Think about how the average person treats a dirty, “ugly” homeless man. You avert eye contact, you walk on the other side of the street, you certainly don’t stop and talk and tell him how ugly he is compared to someone else. You already feel sad for him because you know that HE KNOWS that he is ugly. talking about anyones beauty in any way means you have at least thought to yourself “are they attractive?” The fact that you even think that thought is proof that they are NOT ugly.
I like rihannas nose job....the doctors did an amazing job......they did just enough to balance things out
Real confidence is silent like a feather hitting concrete insecurities are super loud like a semi truck horn. My pretty girl privilege consists of my charming,witty personality,good sense of humor and maturity. I used this asset to get my new job promotion.
also ladies practice bringing your brows a bit closer..just try it!!! having a wide space between the brows is not a good look and can make a difference in your look
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Oooh I need to try this !
@brownsugar4412
7 ай бұрын
Ive been doing this for a while and it works! My nose is the biggest out of me and my sisters and i don’t know how to contour it. When i do it looks awful. Making my brows closer,longer, arched and a little thicker makes my nose look smaller!
Someone said I resembled Alicia keys the other day at work and I was like meh but I’ve only seen her with a small nose but with her previous nose I see it! She is beautiful and her nose! ❤️
@ExoticalsUnited
7 ай бұрын
Yes! 😍
People always say I remind them of Aaliyah! She’s so pretty! ❤
16:55 shit in medieval Japan women would blacken their teeth because that was seen as beautiful and even now crooked teeth are looked at with endearment. So yeah VERY few things are universally seen as attractive other than just plain old health, and what that entails will vary from culture to culture🤷🏿
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Exactly
Hi EU! ❤ I love your channel. If you haven't, could you make a video on people, mainly UDSW and men denying women like Rihanna and Beyoncé being mixed and coming up with DNA percentages that don't make sense? I've seen various comments saying, "They're 80% black and 10% white!" And one person said, "Rihanna doesn't even look mixed!" Which doesn't make sense.
When I was younger I was definitely bullied for my large nose. I did get a nose job as an adult and I don't regret it, but I wish I hadn't let others project their own insecurities onto me.
When I was younger I was picked on for my nose but I rarely get any hate for it now. But the things I’ve been told lol
Ive stopped giving women compliments i find everytime i do they give me a dirty looks🤦🏾♀️
@sophiam9886
8 ай бұрын
Wowww! 😮 I thought it was just me! It's almost like, when a pretty woman gives another woman a compliment, that woman automatically thinks that we are being disingenuous. They don't feel like that about themselves, so they either lash out or they immediately give you back negative energy instead of positive energy. Then, it kind of makes the pretty woman feel awkward like we have to CONVINCE the other woman that our compliment is sincere which leads to us, basically, ass kissing. So, I just keep my compliments to myself at this point. I don't have the patience or energy to coddle other people's insecurities anymore.
@Exoticbarbie.
8 ай бұрын
Omg
@gayanngodfrey2824
5 ай бұрын
They are insecure
not me watching this right before i get a nose job 😂
@jodyyy8752
8 ай бұрын
Lmao same!!
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Omg 😂😂😂😂 well I hope you guys listen to the video . It’s talking about how people have internalized biases against their own features and project them onto you even if you don’t hate your “big” nose
@mieschabear
8 ай бұрын
nah this is coz of like a 1mm deviation in my septum so my plastic surgeon got a ton of other stuff authorized coz i NEEEEED a perfectly symmetrical face 😌
damn the mixed, the Arabs, the Persians, the turkey's, the koreans, chinese, thai, Philippines, the indians basically all asians, the west Africans everybody got nose surgery. every nose type is beautiful and unique and I'm very proud of my unique east african nose. selflove is the key but i also know how much hate rihanna, blue ivvy got because of their nose.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yes Omg !
Yo u be so loud on this channel😂😂🪓🎤🥁🎬📢📢 spitting COLD FACTS 😂😂😂 I just be laughing 😅 bc these are all things ive thought about at some point
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
😂😂 well at least we have a safe space
💯 I had a boyfriend in high school that would always say “with your black people nose” and he was darker skin black. I was always so confused by the reasoning. I’d just say, uh, yeah cause I AM??
@Exoticbarbie.
8 ай бұрын
He had self hate
I'm an UABW and my brother made fun of my nose in elementary school, which led to me hating it in the first place. Now I'm just gonna learn to live with it and love it
A lot of uabw would point out my nose saying it’s small and cute and they wish they had it. But it seems the bar has been raised again and now it needs to look even closer to a white person’s nose to be considered small.
Loving the new movement of the decentralization of men's gaze!!
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yes it has solved so many small insecurities about myself that I didn’t even know I had! For example let’s say I have legs that aren’t perfectly smooth, my butt doesn’t go in a perfect circle shape etc .
I have been fascinated with your channel lol 😂 yes I’m a un ambiguous black man and I listen because you have a lot of strong opinions and solid points about privilege and beauty and noses. I’m extremely excited to meet you one day to have a discussion! I love to listen to intelligent conversations online
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching !
@kittensncasket
8 ай бұрын
Ugh
@uniquelyme3581
8 ай бұрын
@@kittensncasketGirl lol
I have a big crooked unattractive nose. But ive always been told how beautiful I was; despite the easy bullying or people who were haters over the years talk about my nose- I was still told I look good. A lot of women close to me would say “if u get a nose job, u would be perfect”. Its been a weird inner battle. No matter how much im told Im beautiful and KNOW that I am, I always have this insecurity and never felt enough because the insecurity is in the middle of my face. Society’s obsession with white passing features is deep
I swear when I use filters that shrink my nose I look 10x better
Ice Spice is gorgeous , i dont know what they are talking about. She looks fabulous with any hairstyle 😎
Thank you! I've been gaslighted for my big nose and light caramel skin tone.
@ExoticalsUnited
5 ай бұрын
Yup, people just hate themselves and project it onto others
@Shorty24698
5 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited Sadly ,I feel like seeing only one representation of beautiful not seeing themselves in the media can also affect one's mental health. When they're only fed that King noses are superior for instance. 💙
@Shorty24698
5 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited I meant to say *keen* not King LOL
My nose is long, my dad had a big and wide nose and my mom has a small one, so my nose is like a mix of both (not really, its a whole new nose shape 😂) Anyways, I never had a problem with my nose until a friend from high school and my husband mentioned it. As a kid, my best friend would call me “big nose” whenever we would argue, and I had no idea why she was calling me that way, cause I didn’t see anything wrong with my nose so I never paid attention to her. Until I was in high school and another friend made a comment about it and then my husband. That’s when I became self aware of my nose, but even then I didn’t know exactly if the problem was it being long, or wide or what exactly cause I just didn’t see anything wrong with it 😂 then my husband told me that my nose its long instead of wide. Now I see it, sometimes I’m a little self aware of my nose but other times I just don’t care. I wouldn’t be me without my nose…and I’m too afraid of getting surgery and having a messed up nose. Honestly, looking back… I never had a problem with my nose until certain people point it out which makes me think that some people just love to find a way to make others feel insecure when they see them being confident with themselves, and it sucks. Like, let that person love herself despite what you may think of them, keep your comment to yourself and let them be who they are in peace lol cause my husband specifically brought that insecurity to me. EDIT: my husband would joke about my nose sometimes, Dominicans tend to joke about “big noses” or “bad hair” just like black American men joke about “wigs” or “nappy hair” so it was a form of joke which was not fun AT ALL. 🙄
@AngelicaEstherxo
8 ай бұрын
@@j.t.hellstrom3791YUP! My husband, as some kind of “joke”… you know, just like black men tend to joke about “nappy hair”. Well, Dominicans joke a lot a about big noses, those jokes are not fun at all.
All of this! Also so many of them looked better - IMO - before they got their nose done. Of the celebrities I think only Rihanna, Alicia Keys, and Aliyah, look better in the after photos (and aside from Alicia Keys, theirs were fairly subtle). But Amerie, Tyra, and the rest had much more striking beauty before getting generic looking noses, something remains off about them. And of course this applies to celebrities of other backgrounds too, like Brittney Spears and JLo, their chiseled down noses are distracting, they had absolutely no need to alter what they had. I really appreciate this video though because despite my comment I struggle with my own nose, especially given that my sister fits into the more idealized version of "refined" features.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yes I agree
As a guy, I'm on here because I'm interested in the talking points and tend to agree with your viewpoints. As for other niggas(red pillers in particular) hate watching and arguing with things/people they explicitly detest gives them a sense of fulfilment they probably wouldn't get if they didn't go out of their way to piss themselves off.
The majority of these women in the video are all directly mixed by at least a 1/4.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
yup
I agree that there is definitely a bias against features that that don't fit a very narrow, Eurocentric standard that many white people don't fit. On the other hand, I don't think I've ever seen ugly eyes, so disliking someone's nose or mouth doesn't necessarily mean the critic is biased against ethnic features. Assuming there is not anti-black feature bias, it's often some disharmony in how the features come together that makes the person appear not aesthetic. Anika Noni Rose is a very beautiful woman with a wider nose that fits her face very well. I've always though Barbara Streisand was pretty with her natural nose as well. In my opinion, Rihanna's nose job is masterful, with the preservation of the overall shape and ethnicity of her nose.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Yes it’s called an ethnic rhinoplasty. They give you a smaller version of whatever nose is common in your ethnicity
I’ve always felt my nose is what held me back from being above average looking. I do think I have pretty privilege especially because I’m on the skinnier side and society always values that but as a brown skin woman having a smaller nose is just superior.
@TamTam9-15
8 ай бұрын
@@Love-Fashion-Makeup I don’t think it’s too bad especially from an ethnic standpoint. I don’t think many plastic surgeons especially ethnic ones would touch it due to ethical reasons I’ve heard of them preserving ethnic features or some stuff like that. Idk I just think my tip is too round if that’s makes sense.
@gayanngodfrey2824
5 ай бұрын
You’re nose is small cute and beautiful
As a nigerian and Irish exotical baddie (56/27 admixure) with Ella Mai features this is the stone cold truth. In my teenage years a guy I was interested in dating turned me down because he said the tip of my nose and pear shaped body was too big. My standard of beauty is the chef Jazz Smollett.
Speaking of Aaliyah...idk why Aaliyah said her grandma was native...her grandma looks white to me tbh but maybe she was passing.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
If I’m not mistaken I though Aaliyah had Mexican ancestry? I’ll look into it
@AnAdorableWombat1
8 ай бұрын
Aaliyah is just black white admixture. She has no known native ancestry or tribal affiliation
That's how i always felt. My nose is bigger and broad and my lips are bigger.
thanks for shedding light on this -
The humbling tactics are weird .
Black people love themselves…. We are are not bothered by someone not liking our features.
I've been told that I have a White nose, and skinny lips. That's my family's brand! 😂 Question. What's a White nose? Girls with big noses have the prettiest eyes.
A lot of nose jobs are the only thing i can see on some people who have had them. Muni long Nene leaks lil kim Latoya jackson. Janet Jackson. So strange i hope Glorilla keeps her nose. I find the before pictures more youthful. (I know before pics are inherently more youthful)
23:54 Funnily enough, Ryan Destiny had a subtle nose job too.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Oh wow ! I did not know that! I will have to look into that!
No lies told
Amen!!!! ✊🏽✊🏼✊🏽✊🏼
I have a wide, flat, spread out nose. (Peep the picture.) I think ignoring the voices of middle school boys from 20 years ago, and getting off the internet, and out into real life has helped. I've actually had men, including the man I'm currently dating tell me, umprompted, that they like my nose. 🤷🏾♀️ Ive accepted that there are pretty ambigious and unambigous women. Like Doja Cat looks pretty with her 4C hair. And Ice Spice is cute too. But so are Lauryn Hill and Ari Lennox. Beauty is about symmetry and health, not race.
You're spot on! I noticed this as a little girl in the 90s...but never heard anyone admit this or lay it out so thoroughly, very interesting.
I don’t see nothing wrong with my big nose. Some mad ass guys called me squidward but idk I’m not insecure about my nose. The insult doesn’t hold enough weight. It’s like, ehh come a lil harder than that. Also, Rihanna’s nose looks the same. In my opinion Ice Spice is just okay but she isn’t ugly at all! If she gave me the chance I would definitely have a change of heart tho & I’m pretty sure she’s cuter in person. I never seen Doja Cats natural hair & she looks gorgeous 😍 Moving on, I think it’s all because of the certain pictures and the angles. For example, if Ice Spice showed her body more in a pic then all of a sudden she looks more attractive vs Rihanna showing more of her face. Rihanna’s face card is nice & pretty meanwhile I’m attracted to Ice Spices body type (specifically the hourglass shape). It’s preference if that makes sense. It all changes depending on the person too. I don’t have a problem with big nose & big lips (like myself) but Jay Z looks like a camel to me 🤷🏽♀️
Call them outtt
As a person who immediately self identifies as mixed cultured (Antiguan and African American), some people don't like to be judged. Beauty standards do exist. But it'll cost less if someone fixed their attitude. Although I'm caramel, I understand that I have more in common with dark skin unambiguous blk women because of my features ( brown eyes and African facial features with 4c hair). DNA stats and common sense combined, my level of admixture isn't the same as these women in the video as I don't self identify as mixed. I mean look mixed. I'm generational admixed (minor ingredient).
Love this channel
I have a bump in my nose. Aint changin it.
Thank you so much for doing this video❤️❤️.
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
No problem 😊
I probably could use a nose job because I have this round ball on the tip but I’m too scared 😂
I'm here because I'm contemplating nose surgery im a male
Would you consider Gabrielle Union and Exotical or Unambiguous? She has Afro- centric features but I've never heard anyone refer to her as " Ugly".
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
And looks unambiguous to me , I’ve never heard anything about her being mixed race, she probably just has admixture
@denisesampson8493
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnited Why don't you think anyone has called her Ugly? I'm trying to figure out the difference because she definitely has strong features
As far an J. Majors and JZ it’s all about the narrow eyes. There something about narrow eyes that is considered deeply unattractive and asymmetrical in most people. 👁️👁️ Having 1 eye length between the eye 👁️ 👁️ or wider eyes 👁️__👁️ are considered attractive and ethereal.
Facts when I was a child I had a big flatter wide nose no arch whatsoever and I was told to use a closepin to fix my nose. Thx God I didnt listen because as I got older my nose got a bit more narrow naturally and nobody says anything about it anymore 😂
I have a problem with overhearing random people and guys I'm not even attracted to thinking I look like a dude or trying to figure out what gender I am..where does that come from?
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Oh that’s easy. A lot of men are secretly LGBT and get mad if a “woman” they were attracted to and lusting over was actually a guy. Or they’re scared of being outed as LGBT so they act more homophobic than normal. have you ever noticed it’s often the closeted LGBT people that are the most anti -LGBT?
@traceylennon1204
8 ай бұрын
@@ExoticalsUnitedWow..Interesting..!! Thank you..😊
We're Hybrids. We aren't bothered by other Women. But we see LS and Exotical Men have these UABM in a chokehold and would feel privileged if they woke up looking like us.
@Unknown-dj6xc
27 күн бұрын
💀💀💀
I like your video 😊
@ExoticalsUnited
8 ай бұрын
Thanks !
If it’s not the nose, they try to insult on face shape or how “skinny “ you are, etc. I’ve moved to the south and the DSBW who are monoracial have made multiple disparaging comments. It’s funny because one of the rude hairstylists who were saying I have an oblong face told me she would pretend to be part Egyptian to black guys to impress them. It was weird af to me because I’m ACTUALLY half Egyptian (my father), she had no clue 😂
I have a big nose I grew to love because I would look crazy with a nose job. Even with having a big nose I love when I see Blk ppl with small button noses . It’s so cute like how did you get a button nose 😇
💯💯💯💯
What's MLS mean?
@ilovemesumjas
8 ай бұрын
𝑴𝒊𝒙𝒆𝒅 𝒍𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒔𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒅
Robyn aka Rihanna nose wasn’t and isn’t big to me when I think of a big nose I think of hawk nose
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Wow were to begin, I'm white passing with blue eyes & as in the sense that at family functions the photographer would say to me ,can you move out the way its family only lol . I lie to you not & like a fool I would move , but my nose I hate it. I did arrange 2 times to have cosmetic surgery ' but both times the surgeon's said nothing wrong with your nose it fits your face & It would be unethical for me to do surgery just because of how you feel .
I have a big nose. Not getting a nose job cause u dont get too many chances to fuck that up. Really one. Which is why lil kim and MJ had issues. U not suppose to touch it more than once. I got a piercing on each side and called it a day. Why touch it. When my child can have my nose?
@tatikay3660
21 күн бұрын
I got a piercing on both sides too and now everyone says my nose is cute 🤣🤣
My big is beautiful. God give u more or less. 🌺👑🪮🪞💄
I think the nose trend is gonna pass-I have a bump in the middle of mine you can see from the side-but I’m keeping it, it’s MINE ’n who gon check meh’😂🩵
@ExoticalsUnited
3 ай бұрын
Yup I agree ! I just feel like society and filters teach people to dislike their noses