I think if a man can’t afford an appropriate ring, the man can’t afford a wedding or marriage.

@vanessarickford6260

6 ай бұрын

THE HOUSE 😂😂😂

@toxihex876

6 ай бұрын

Yes, thank you. I don't know how so many people don't understand this. The one salary rule is meant to show how the man can save up, keep a stable income and is willing to share that with his wife. A woman can have offspring whenever she pleases, a man can't, and that's what makes him the pursuer. If you want a family, you're going to have to prove to the one who can give it to you that you're capable of making their lives easier, not harder like your average below minimum effort guy who plays video games all day and makes his wife (who often times makes more money than him) take care of the house, kids, and HIM.

@marvelousmissmysie4837

6 ай бұрын

​@@mafamac4069 cry us a river, dusty

@toxihex876

6 ай бұрын

@@mafamac4069 it legit took me 4 tries and NASA levels of analysis to understand what you were trying to communicate. But you know, your kind of mindset isn't at all uncommon with people who can't handle rejection or criticism, forever dooming themselves to submediocrity by convincing themselves that if they are hurt, they can't be the ones who are in the wrong, ultimately never improving. The dude with the 6$ ring threw a tantrum and left the woman because he knew she's gonna leave him and wanted to feel like he's not the loser who is publicly getting ditched because of his own shortcomings, but the one who did the public ditching. Deep down guys like you and him realize you don't deserve a partner but you don't have the strength or maturity to accept your faults and own up to them. All you are is people who refuse to have to deal with the shame of reality. It's not gonna get better for you until you do that. Keep digging your own hole if that's what you want, I can't stop you.

@deejames1st

6 ай бұрын

@@toxihex876Even if he/she doesn’t want children, he STILL has to prove himself worthy of a wife. If he can’t afford it, but doesn’t want children, he should not get a free wife. Or a discounted wife. The same standards apply even if he doesn’t want children. There are a lot of valuable duties and responsibilities outside of having children. Women are not only valuable because of the womb.

Lol, imagine being called a gold digger for not wanting a fake $6 engagement ring! Ladies, don’t even complain about it. Just leave.

@Strawberrypocky911

6 ай бұрын

You cannot even buy a burger in Aus with $6!! 😅 aww, she deserves so much better, the nerve of this dusty!

@ellebassa9288

6 ай бұрын

I would not have said yes. In fact, I would have asked if this temporary liked. Did something happen with your finances did you not save properly for this?

@deejames1st

6 ай бұрын

Agreed. It’s not our job to play teacher. Or mommy him, or be his therapist. And let’s add free maid, free cook, and free personal assistant.

@reginageorgetownuni

6 ай бұрын

I don't believe in extremely expensive rings but 300-1000 dollars is reasonable. You're asking her to marry you, which is a pretty big deal.

@deejames1st

6 ай бұрын

@@reginageorgetownuni Every woman has a right to her own standards. If one wants an expensive ring as that’s the lifestyle she’s used to, expects, desires, and makes her happy, she should stick with those high/expensive standards. Conversely, there’s nothing wrong when a woman has a different set of (less expensive) standards based on the type of lifestyle, expectation, and desires she has, if that is what makes her happy.

"She doesn't appreciate my efforts 😢." Bro, what efforts???

@yuriosato3565

6 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@RussiangirlKsenia

5 ай бұрын

LMAOO

@Srijakonduru9

3 ай бұрын

🤣🤣🤣i chocked on this

@reginageorgetownuni

3 ай бұрын

Ikrrrr.

@tthatssojazzyy

3 ай бұрын

Scrolling on Amazon, adding it to his cart, and checking out, of course! 😂

Do you see how quickly he threw her away? She complained one time about something obviously, ridiculously low bar from him and he canceled the wedding. He threw her away like something cheap, so quickly. When we say his $6 ring shows he doesn't value her, this is what we mean, this is what we're referring to.

@sarahsiddiqa6945

6 ай бұрын

It shows that he doesn't truly value, respect or love her. A man who loves and respects a woman would want to impress her. He should have used that money to buy his next meal.

@deejames1st

6 ай бұрын

He was going to do that anyway, just later down the road. The post made the inevitable come more quickly. The $6 ring was done purposely. So upon walking away, he wouldn’t have been leaving behind any kind of investment.

@toscadonna

6 ай бұрын

He needed an excuse to not marry her after 8 years, so he insulted her with a $6 ring, then he played the victim. Typical male behavior.

@ebbiemusumali8301

6 ай бұрын

He threw her away. Exactly right.. ❤

@JustMe-vs1kj

6 ай бұрын

im not sure if he did it on purpose to be dumped, i just think he doesnt value the woman or their relationship at all and this was a test to see if she valued herself.... if she didnt he would have a bbm wedding and marriage... just like the bbm proposal and ring...

After 8 years that wasn't an engagement ring, it was a shut up ring. 😢

@malinasworld

6 ай бұрын

Not necessarily, I’ve known men who wake up when they’re in their late twenties and realise they should lock down on the poor woman who stayed if they never want to have a wife with the least amount of effort.

@ayomidedareabel5525

6 ай бұрын

​@malinasworld that is a shut up ring bruh

@malinasworld

6 ай бұрын

@@ayomidedareabel5525 We don’t know if she was nagging him for marriage 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s likely but not definite, I’m just adding something else I’ve seen happen a lot.

@akiluckyakilucky7524

6 ай бұрын

That was definitely a shut up ring

@risitascositas1699

6 ай бұрын

@@malinasworld I believe those dudes would have purchased a better quality ring to show how much they value her contributions to his life. 😉

The pickmes in the comments like "you aren't in love if you care about the cost of the ring" "my man proposed to me 2 shillings and a ring pop and i didnt care". SHUT UP! Not everyone has to accept the poverty that you did.

@wellknown1204

6 ай бұрын

Uhh girl speak up so the people at the back cab hear you!

@heathbar8015

6 ай бұрын

2 shillings and a ring pop 😂

@alisonmercer5946

6 ай бұрын

Lol

@mariachi3217

6 ай бұрын

Sometimes it’s mot even poverty some people just don’t want their partner to spend a large amount of money for a ring. There are some who don’t even want a ring.

@deejames1st

6 ай бұрын

@@mariachi3217 Then that woman should be happy with a $6 ring or no ring. And why then would choose to complain on a channel that’s about higher financial standards. Unless they really were not happy with their lower financial standard….

The 8 years was already the first red flag. That girl deserved so much better.

@Lucid-dream3

6 ай бұрын

​@@SweetUareDesi she most likely does, like the rest of us

@pixieinx

6 ай бұрын

@@SweetUareDesiyou’re bitter for saying that.

@userD2

6 ай бұрын

That depends on age too. If they started dating at 16-18 that's quite normal they wanted to graduate school and college first. As for the ring - I would agree. If they are still just kids - 6$ is okay as a temporary decision or something, or just a souvenir. But if it's and engagement ring from a grown@ss man - that's cringe. It doesn't even have to be some brand, maybe even not gold but good silver (some people can have allergies to gold) but 6$ is no way a better or worse decent ring in any country I guess, especially for an engagement ring. Most women wear them most of their time in public. Does this man want her to show to the others that her husband is cheap as hell?

@JessMan508

6 ай бұрын

If he doesn't know by one year...rethink the relationship.

@winning3329

6 ай бұрын

​@@userD2 teenagers should not be dating! I have many horror stories about teen dating that I'm not going to get into, but not only is it part of the patriarchy but the girls lose and the boy's benefit.

He never planned to marry her. He was just using her for 8 years, because he thinks he can do better. He needed an excuse not to marry her, so he insulted her with the cheap ring, then played victim and flipped the breakup around onto her. He’ll tell his next girlfriend how his ex was a demanding, evil gold digger. Typical male behavior-being the villain and the victim.

@jclyntoledo

6 ай бұрын

Damn that's so true about how he'd paint you as this evil gold digger where he's the victim 😂😭. That lowkey reminds me of all my Brief Encounters with sad awkward boys that would crush on me but on a milder level and it would be weird bc we never dated nor did I ever return those feelings but in the end they were supposedly the victims 🤨.

@toscadonna

6 ай бұрын

@@lio-o97 You will learn the hard way, my dear.

@weaveandwelfaretookblackme

6 ай бұрын

​@@lio-o97lol your kids won't be satisfied with an empty stomach, torn up clothing and no home 😂

@Llkolii

6 ай бұрын

"Friend zone" is the biggest victimization to weak men 😂@@jclyntoledo

@bloodmajesty414

6 ай бұрын

@@lio-o97 then go get your cheap wedding no expensive ring no special anything just signature love stuff, why are you here?

Is he willing to spend more on a: Video game? Lunch? Bottle of booze? Pack of cigarettes? Then you know your worth to him. You're worth less than that.

@Mya.atPlay

6 ай бұрын

thats a great point!!!!

@cottagecwhxre9871

6 ай бұрын

@@lio-o97 "you should be glad you found a man who wants to marry you" what a sad way to think. She's supposed to be glad for this guy who clearly doesn't even care enough about her to at least buy her a nice, high quality ring for their engagement (doesn't have to be super expensive but at least good quality)? Clearly he doesn't love or respect her if that's how much she's worth to him. She's better off alone than with a husband like that.

@mirisparkleslikewhoa

6 ай бұрын

Yesss! I remember Gary from 16 and Pregnant (Amber's daughter's father) spent less than $40 on a ring from Walmart, after just buying a new gaming system for $400 less than an hour before.

@briskettacos

5 ай бұрын

​@@lio-o97what woman's picture did you steal to use on your profile, sir?

@HAHAHAHOkayThen

5 ай бұрын

​@@lio-o97 This is the second comment in his video people have caught you whining and arguing in comments. Context: Lio has gone on long rants about how her boyfriend pays for everything and how she's a frail baby. Her boyfriend is unemployed and pulling from saving. Lio is calling anyone with high standards Gold Diggers because some of us have a brain enough to know that her low standards isn't everyone else's. Her boyfriend does the bare minimum. Give her food and drive her. And give her cheap things. That's all.

Remember as a woman men only respect you if you are willing to walk away. Difficulties in a relationship are to be expected disrespect should never be tolerated.

@ia7072

6 ай бұрын

For real. Otherwise he takes you for granted. That's why they want trad wife but then finds them annoying and go out after other women, yeah the exact same women they used to hate they want them at the end.

@VBoo459

6 ай бұрын

This is exactly the truth!! My SIL After 20 years with her boyfriend (begging for a ring) only got proposed to FINALLY because her sibling (my man) proposed to me after 3 years. She threatened to walk away then he proposed. So for 20 years she begged for a ring and didn’t even consider leaving.

@manifest2203

6 ай бұрын

Yes. Most of the times walking away is the only power a woman has. Nothing else will work.

@jenbodhi1133

6 ай бұрын

I’ve learned this the hard way

@JessiMelani

6 ай бұрын

This. My ex literally said “I’m proud of you.” In the same conversation where he said he’s holding me back. Men will be in your life for as longggggg as you LET THEM. Time to move on to better ladies. Smh

If he had saved 1$ a year the ring would have been more expensive like gurl please...

@yuriosato3565

6 ай бұрын

Lmaooo

@akiluckyakilucky7524

6 ай бұрын

Lmao

@Egh0127

5 ай бұрын

Oh no you didn't 😭😭💀

@terrisserose

5 ай бұрын

Wow Mic drop

Considering that my high school sweetheart, who was an illegal immigrant, only got paid under the table, below minimum wage, was able to get me a ring that was over $3000, makes these men inexcusable.

@nathanbronx6199

6 ай бұрын

so you made a poor immigrant spend a ridiculous amount of money for your little ego trip, instead of using it to better his and your life, yes women are total financial strategists, it really does show

@spit_the_duck

6 ай бұрын

@@nathanbronx6199I doubt she asked for it tbh. You're wrongfully accusing the woman, when in fact it was certainly her boyfriend's decision. Let's stop pretending men don't have the ability to make their own decisions. Also, since it's his choice, it's only HE who should be held accountable for the price of the ring if it were to cause a financial problem.

@nathanbronx6199

6 ай бұрын

I don't think you understood my point. It never mattered if she asked for it or not. >You're wrongfully accusing the woman, when in fact it was certainly her boyfriend's decision. Let's stop pretending men don't have the ability to make their own decisions. He didn't make a bad decision with the ring, he made a bad decision with choosing the wrong partner, relationships are not one sided, where only one person gets to decide how something plays out, or one sided in love. Where only one person sacrifices everything. Sacrifice demands sacrifice. thats the whole point. She equally had a decision to see the complete sacrifice he had and out of appreciation or simple compassion and basic empathy see how much he actually did for her and simply either not take it, or give something of the same value back, not just flex it on some youtube video for likes. thats disgusting. What about your own descisions and moral compass. >Also, since it's his choice, it's only HE who should be held accountable for the price of the ring if it were to cause a financial problem. He obviously gave it to her so of course he thought that over, he suffered to get her that and she gave nothing remarkable in return. What about her own accountability that she has or had done nothing in that moment that even deserved or warranted such an act of generosity lol. Why should it only be him who is accountable for an unwise purely emotional decision when they are both a team, if thats the whole point of marriage, you're both working together on something and help each other. thats called bonding and common sense. if your partner did something and you didnt care wether or not it would end well or bad for them, thats called not loving them or showing basic empathy. @@spit_the_duck

@getthatboy4274

6 ай бұрын

Men infantilizing other men. And why must SHE be held accountable? Ridiculous.

@JEPiper

6 ай бұрын

@@nathanbronx6199 funny thing is, you just proved the entire point of the video. You said the boyfriend spent all that money and the girlfriend offered “nothing remarkable” in return. You know this woman personally? You know the ins and outs of their relationship to be able to make that statement?? You don’t. It’s giving “women don’t deserve…” vibes. I don’t know if you’re trolling if you truly believe this soap opera you’ve created in your mind, but either way it’s pretty delusional. PSA: Ladies, stop arguing with strangers on the internet about your self-worth. Let them argue with themselves.

His plan to insult her with a riidculous ring in order to end the relationship worked wonderfully. Happy for her.

@doberchic

6 ай бұрын

THIS!!!

@melissamoonchild9216

6 ай бұрын

exactly

@mainstreetchumsclub2405

6 ай бұрын

And he still managed to make himself look like the victim and the good guy in the public sphere, dude was like 10 steps ahead in his manipulation.

@user-yc5lb8fw5r

6 ай бұрын

Yup I’ve seen guys on Reddit etc say that’s the kind of stunt they pulled to get a girl to break up with them. And men/pick mes will still somehow blame the woman.

You're only a "gold digger" until you date a broke guy. Then you are told you are "too pretty" to be with a guy that doesn't have money.

@aurora8749

6 ай бұрын

So true and for the girls who might be struggling with desperation my value has shot way up in the eyes of males ever since most of them realized I'm not easy they put me on such a pedestal. The best thing women can do for themselves is to have high standards. Despite what men say, they value you more because of it. They just try to front online because they're hoping their lies will convince women to lower themselves to give losers a shot

@deejames1st

6 ай бұрын

And then they’ll say “should have chose better”

@afrofaeries

6 ай бұрын

Literally the spoiled girlies are damned if we do and damned if we don’t 😭😭😭

@JustMe-vs1kj

6 ай бұрын

its usually the broke guys thatll call you a gold digger because they dont have the gold to dig, but still are afraid that even if they ever find some gold, youll start digging, because aint no way hes sharing what he finally earned with hard work... lol thats what i think they believe or something

@deejames1st

6 ай бұрын

@@JustMe-vs1kj Exactly. They complain about not wanting to be used for the money they don’t even have.

How much a man spends on you is a reflection of what he thinks your value is. If a man brought me a 6 dollar ring he is gone along with that ring 😂😂😂

@Kay-kg6ny

6 ай бұрын

Both straight into the garbage cuz what the hell? At that point, just don't even get a ring dude. A ring that cheap is more insulting than no ring at all

@moons4363

6 ай бұрын

@@Kay-kg6ny facts!

@tessy28

6 ай бұрын

He got the ring from amazon.🤣🤣

@ayomidedareabel5525

6 ай бұрын

Dude had 8 years to save up for a decent ring and he got that?

@chegu613

6 ай бұрын

i worked at tiffanys and tbh, the bigger doesn't mean the better, but you better believe in would end it in that moment if someone gave me a $6 ring.

This issue is currently causing a lot of uproar in the Filipino community, there was this interview where they asked random women and most women say "no" to the 6$ ring, and then there was this girl that said "It's okay. As long as there's love." And tbh she is attractive and the people who interviewed these random people made it seem like she's the only one who said yes, and then these stupid boys started saying, "the one who says it's okay is the most attractive one." And I found comments saying "Fatso thinks she deserves more she's mid" "pretty women deserve more because they want less" It was really disgusting to see how these men tried to paint the picture like that.

@KOKOKOKfjeij

6 ай бұрын

It's not just in the Filipino community. I've seen this same issue a lot in the past month. They say "If she doesn't accept a ring pop, she's not worth marrying". We are supposed to want as little as possible and pledge ourselves to someone who can't give anything in return?

@tabi5550

6 ай бұрын

it's the fact that the good men who we spoiled girlies want would never be found commenting such stuff. decenter men is such a gift + being around being good men...it just shows you the endless possibilities! love makes men generous, if he isn't, he hates you!

@LoveAndSnapple

6 ай бұрын

Never believe them. Many of them want the pretty woman that wants for nothing because to them that means that she’s beautiful and virtuous. When it only means she is just beautiful and he’s just broke. But interesting how they say that beautiful women who ask for less are more attractive when we’ve never seen a female celebrity accept anything less than hundred thousand or million dollar rings. Interesting how pretty women who ask for less are more attractive but all we see are pretty women getting the most expensive and lavish material items that men are happy to give them. Somebody’s lying, and it’s always them.

@mykamelgar5061

6 ай бұрын

I agree that is such a backward thinking

@bloodmajesty414

6 ай бұрын

@@LoveAndSnapple I know a pretty woman who married a broke, average looking guy. Guess what? She got bullied by the husband and his entire family to the point of depression. And they act like they are doing her a favor by accepting her into their family. Any women who ask for less got treated like trash regardless of their looks, period.

If he saved a dollar for every day they've been dating, 8 years, that ring would've cost at least $2,920. He spent $6. He's sending a message.

@healgoth

5 ай бұрын

As another comment said, if he only saved $1 a YEAR she would’ve received a more expensive ring ($8 not $6) she wasn’t even worth a dollar per year they were already together and he’s asking to buy off the rest of her life for just over $5

If he can’t afford a ring, he can’t afford a house, or medical bills, or food for your children, or their school supplies. A man who loved you would never insult you like that.

More than 2-3 years with a bf is a waste of time and youth

@briskettacos

6 ай бұрын

She threw away 8 years on a man who wouldn't even save up for a ring. He had 8 years and isn't prioritizing her.

@winning3329

6 ай бұрын

Many women will miss out on finding their husband's because they are wasting their time with their boyfriend.

@SummerSun-sg3wf

6 ай бұрын

I wasted one year on five which makes five years

@testdep

6 ай бұрын

a man don't need 3 yrs to figure out if he wants to marry, men are not st-u-pid. a man needs 6-12 months at best to make an informed decision about marrying a woman, not based purely on emotions and feelings in the moment. However if he doesn't want to marry a woman, he will never admit that because it's rude, he'd rather waste her time for 3, 5, 10 yrs while she waits and waits, meanwhile he waits for another woman to show up in his life.

@malinasworld

6 ай бұрын

@@SummerSun-sg3wfAt least you experienced five different relationships instead of wasting the same time on one man who couldn’t have changed.

As a woman if you are waiting for 8+ years, you've already failed. In these many years, she could've easily dated 8-10 different guys and picked a better quality male who isn't broke. Let's be honest, he broke up because he was ashamed that she exposed his $6 ring 🤭💀 As women, we create life aka future generation, don't do struggle love because your kids have to pay the price of your poor selection and live a struggle life because you choose struggle love over peace 😂 if he can't buy you a ring, he cannot afford to have you 🤷 Back in days, males who are broke didn't have the privilege to date or marry women. And he is taking care of his family and can't afford a ring, he should've told her within the first year, the way broke males try to gaslight us is crazy.

@ia7072

6 ай бұрын

For real, and once there will be a kid, he'll leaves because raising a baby is too 💵💵💵💵

@deejames1st

6 ай бұрын

He did her a favor by leaving when she couldn’t.

@Mavaros90

6 ай бұрын

After 8 years she could have been married and had a child and home if she was selective with her dating. Poor girl wasted 8 years

@AfuaYmani

6 ай бұрын

She could have casually dated a dozen men a month to increase her odds and been married

@fattunicorns

6 ай бұрын

i would say 8 years is the sweet spot- but engagement should come at around 3 years- i would prefer to know someone a minimum of 5 years before being married- minimum 2 years living together after a year of dating, then minimum 3 years engagement. with a very clear framework working towards the goal of marriage. i’d never advise getting pregnant by someone you have known less than 4 years. men LOVE to switch up, you have to trial them to see what you’re buying.

Oh I just saw a video of "awkward proposal" and this guy just randomly and casually gets on one knee and pulls out a ring, while his girl is eating chips,has a beer bottle in her other hand, and her mouth full, wearing jean shorts and slippers.... She turned around to see him and said "are you serious? Really? WHAT?" He stood up and gave her an awkward hug and she just looked confused and was giggling nervously.... The comments were so mean to her! "Oh she's NOT the one bruh!" "Poor guy should run... she probably wanted a bigger ring" and "She's just a gold digger dude just save yourself" Like these guys really think they don't have to put in any thought or effort into one of the most important moments of their lives ... But women are supposed to just fall into their lap and kiss their feet and be so GRATEFUL.... Or the woman is just thinking way too much of herself? The dude didn't even say the words "will you marry me" or "I love you" ONCE!!! But men think THAT is asking for too much????🙄 WTF? HOW?

@baibiebaibea9740

6 ай бұрын

they really dont see us as people lol! they think we r npcs in their lives that they keep pushing buttons til we give in

@jessn.3851

6 ай бұрын

If that happened to me, I would say no. Public proposals are almost always a bad idea. A proposal should be to a woman's taste, because it shows the guy knows what she likes and wants her to enjoy that moment. If you don't like his proposal, the marriage will also be unsatisfactory.

@mako3951

4 ай бұрын

This is why I have decided to be the one to propose for marriage in a relationship. I know how meaningful it is to me so I want to control that moment. If there was a male that could actually get me to want to marry them that would be a huge accomplishment because I do not take it lightly. I never gave a fuck about gender norms and I like the idea of being the one who controls and chooses such a huge moment. Also, there’s no way to be disappointed that way

@forestdaydreams9447

2 ай бұрын

How do men not get that he blatantly doesn’t love her at all. How do you want one of the most important moments of your life to be so pathetic and bare minimum? Agree with above, it should be to the woman’s taste because it shows that the guy pays attention to her , knows her and cares about her feelings .

@conquistadorrocket

Ай бұрын

@@forestdaydreams9447 oh trust, they definitely know. they just big mad that we have the audacity to call out their bullshit and stand our ground on it. they don't like the possibility of not being able to get away with this kind of crap in the future.

Wow a $6 ring for 8 years of commitment. Not even the cost of a meal when she's been serving meals all that time, probably cleaning the house and doing his laundry and paying bills. So insulting.

@wellknown1204

6 ай бұрын

Right!!! The fact that home girl stayed for 8 long years, i feel so sad for her

i'm living in 3rd world country and $6 is INFURIATING AND UNACCEPTABLE. These dusties been going wild smh

The traditional point of a dowry was to make sure the woman could be materially provided for in a worst-case scenario. You're not "untraditional" or "shallow" or "materialistic" for wanting material security.

@wellknown1204

6 ай бұрын

Purrr, brides' money all the way! In my culture, we have say: "if you cannot fully provide for someone's daugther, stay single and dont embarrased the family"

@pizzadogma

6 ай бұрын

Its funny how men complain about women asking too much or act as "gold diggers" for wanting a man with money or the very least financial secure, when thats what the purpose of marriage was in the past. Its not until recently, marrying for love became to norm. Only reason why people got married was to provide wealth for the family

@kristenmoonrise

6 ай бұрын

@briskettacos lol agreed and I love your name lol 🌮

@ashton_taylor4798

5 ай бұрын

Nothing wrong with wanting a traditional provider and protector who'd spoil you like his queen. Just make sure you're also a traditional homemaker who can cook and clean for her king. Of course, the chores should still be reasonably split, but you'd definitely be doing most of it if the husband's at work. Bottom line is, the standards you set for your partner should be the same for yourself.

@xVirginiasWolf

5 ай бұрын

@@ashton_taylor4798yeah no. If he can afford good life he can afford domestic help now get lost

A european spoiled girly here~ I personally have an arabic mentality in this matter. Both family sides gift the bride pure gold and authentic jewelry, as it's a backup plan/save file, in case of the husband dying via sickness, accidents etc. way too early on after marriage and so she can not only provide for herself through these means until she's financially stable on her own, but also to provide for her children at that given time. I am in LOVE with this! This should be the STANDARD everywhere! The ring btw is a sad joke. I hope she finds a better man who knows how to respect her true worth.

@ia7072

6 ай бұрын

France here, but my mom is Algerian. And yep I agree with everything you said.

@malinasworld

6 ай бұрын

Exactly. Even if the ring and other jewellery doesn’t end up being insurance, it’s 1) proof that you can and are willing to finance a family 2) good enough jewellery that will last a lifetime

@tessy28

6 ай бұрын

Yep my fiance got me a 2 carat diamond and I love it ❤❤

@randomlyswatching9481

6 ай бұрын

In my father's culture Indian often the dowry the gifts of gold are taken from the bride by groom's mom for "safekeeping" and they make a huge fuss about it if you don't. Be careful girls. Never give your in-laws things your parents gave u.

@lauramapani3627

6 ай бұрын

​@cavaleirosemlicenca3894 Actually, that reality is reflected in the Arab community and in African culture. Before your marriage, you and your family get dowry in the form of expensive gifts, animals and other valuables which act as a financial safeguard for the woman and her family. Its pretty common place on the continent

"he can be a good man, he doesn't need to be your man." This is said so nicely!

my ex got pissed and broke up with me cuz i told him it was human decency to tell me when he cancels our plans instead of ghosting me and expecting me to just figure it out.

@toxihex876

6 ай бұрын

He did it because he wanted to keep his make-believe dignity by breaking up with you first. He only broke up with you because he thought you're going to do it. When you value your egotism over self improvement and respect towards the good things in life, you lose them.

@inkersbrew6370

6 ай бұрын

Aw jesus, good riddance 😂

@stopthelightskinguilt.3775

6 ай бұрын

Wtf that that’s just common sense 😂 who does that? Men I wasn’t even dated had the decency to let me know!

@Raddiebaddie

6 ай бұрын

Dodged a bulletttt

@amethyst0ne

6 ай бұрын

@@toxihex876exactly!! I was watching a video regarding Matthew Perry and he said those exact words in his autobiography. He would break up with the women in his life before they could break up with him to save his ego. Pathetic spineless losers . I once got dumped because I’m too “grown”. Been there too many times never again…

if a man is stingy with you before marriage, he will be stingy with you after marriage AND be stingy with your kids if you two have any. leave!

“Can I have you for the rest of my life? Here’s something that didn’t even cost me a single day of work.”

Oh no, spoiled girlies, I have a story about this. Years ago, I was in a relationship with a man who was a loser. My family and friends hated him, and knew he wasn’t going anywhere, but I couldn’t see it, probably for a variety of reasons that I won’t get into. Anyway, I dated him for a year and a half, and he proposed, which was completely NOT the plan at the time. We had meticulously planned out getting engaged when I had finished school, but he “surprised” me. I didn’t get to pick out, or even have an opinion on the ring, because it was some junk jewelry his older sister gave him to propose with. They didn’t want him to waste money on buying a ring. Nobody actually said that, but they didn’t have to, I just knew that’s what happened. I was so embarrassed to show that thing to my mother, who already hated him. He knew my family hated him, and he didn’t even attempt to try and win them over. That was the moment I knew I had to get away from him, but I just stood there like a deer in headlights, because I had defended this loser for so long. I wore that embarrassing ring around for another 6 months before I was finally able to get the courage to end it. In those 6 months, all the plans I thought we had made together went right out window. I realized he never intended to build a career, and he got involved in an obvious scam at the gym he worked at. It was so horrifying to watch all of this unravel, while I stood there in shock that I had defended this guy, when in fact, he was everything horrible everyone in my life could see plain as day. It is never just about the ring. You know when a man doesn’t value you. You know when he is being cheap. When a man treats his own life like something he can half-ass, then you will know he is going to treat his relationship with his life partner like something he can also half-ass. It is never just about the ring. Years later I met my husband who already had a bachelor’s degree, and was interviewing for medical school. We got married with just plain gold bands. We were poor in those early years, but he had already started building his future, and had a plan before he even met me. He had parents that had high standards for him and their other children. We have spent 20 years building a life together. He is a devoted husband and father, and I am the definition of a spoiled girlie, if spoiled girlie means safe, financially secure, and cherished. It is not a woman’s responsibility to build a man up. Stay away from complacent men who do nothing to build a life for themselves. Men will talk about all the things they are going to do in order to impress you, but then do nothing to actually accomplish those goal. It is truly alarming the number of young men who are sitting around, kicking rocks, and waiting for a woman to show up, and do all the work to build them up. Learn the difference between a complacent man who refuses to embrace, on his own, the struggle of life. Men with a future not only embrace the struggle of education, learning, and building, but also take pleasure in it. A man doesn’t have to abusive to be considered a bad man. He can also be complacent, and expect the women in his life to protect him from having to struggle to succeed in life. Don’t be that woman.

@Rodrasroom

6 ай бұрын

PREACH!!!!

@chickensalad3535

6 ай бұрын

Beautifully said. I’m so glad that you were able to wake up and find a good man to build a life together with. You deserve nothing less.

As a filipino, this video makes me happy. A lot of locals, sided with the dusty saying the dusty deserved someone better blah blah. The gaslighting is unfathomable.

@yanaabao5436

6 ай бұрын

same here

@cute6390

6 ай бұрын

finallllyyyyyyyy very same thoughts huhu it is so stressing to see them siding an effortless man and pick me gurlsss

@Kariktan214

6 ай бұрын

His reason is also because of his family. I know there are lots of Filipino children who became breadwinners of their family after graduation. But the thing is, they've been together for 8 years. If they're going to be married, he should be already focused on his own wife and would be family. How would he be able to provide for his own family if his stuck with providing for his parents. It will be a big problem if they ever get married. Ate girl deserve better.

My dad that basically abandoned us was one of these type of men and yeah, he was A TERRIBLE HUSBAND AND FATHER. When he proposed to my mom, the ring wasn't even gold, it was a cheap ass one but my mom didn't found out until she tried to sell it so we could EAT, because of HIM we were poor as fuck. In their wedding my dad didn't even had A SUIT. My mom had a life of lack being with him. Never engage with a man who isn't even capable of give you A NORMAL RING, he's not poor he does not want to put a little effort by giving you something nice. He won't be a good or decent husband and neither a father that takes care of his own child.

@samiramamun7492

2 күн бұрын

thank you for sharing your story. Its good for us women to know what happens after committing to a dusty man, instead of keeping the rose-colored lens and societal gaslighting on having minimal expectations to keep such a man and that life will proceed well then.

He gave her an $11 shut up ring . My husband proposed after two months. The ring was $400 we saw it in a store one day and he surprised me with it during a picnic. We were broke then so it’s fine .. he upgraded later . It comes down to whether he’s a good man or not. If he makes you wait 8 years he better get you a GOOD ring. We married after only 11 months

@kita9942

6 ай бұрын

When you know, you know!

@haroldharold9042

6 ай бұрын

If you know you know! Glad it worked out for you. If you wait longer than 1-2 years, it better be the woman’s idea or there better be a good reason. In our case, we started talking about marriage within the first year but we were both in university and I didn’t want to get married too young. I had him wait until we were in our mid 20s (also COVID happened) to get engaged and married so that we were fully grown mentally and more established financially.

She wasted EIGHT precious years on this trash of a man 😭😭 omg he might as well have gotten her a ring pop. Ladies, only date a man 2 years max and if he won’t put a nice ring on it then a better man will!!

@BECOMINGDISSCOMFORTABLEBYLYLA

6 ай бұрын

TWO years?? That's insane. 6 months maximum (depending on the situation, nuance of course)

@hajarelijah9965

6 ай бұрын

2 years is too much! 6 months MAXIMUM

@alexavasquez1992

6 ай бұрын

I don't think it should be more than a year. I got proposed to after 11 months

@nelliebellie2222

6 ай бұрын

​@@BECOMINGDISSCOMFORTABLEBYLYLAI agree 💯

@CzupaCzups3

6 ай бұрын

Statistics say most people get engaged after 2.5 years, most people are delulu if you think 6 months is enough

This is my problem with my culture (I am a Filipino) - women act as Pick-Me-ishas. It's a survival under competition culture with a lack attitude. It seems like women have been conditioned to believe that they are incomplete without a man. It feels like we're still stuck in a patriarchal society. Seriously, how tf did we end up here?? We women have more advantages, options, and benefits than 150 years ago but we still choose to act like this?? Why??? To Ate Girl, you deserve more. I feel you. I got called out for asking the bare minimum too (apparently asking for 5 minutes of time is asking for too much). Ate Girl deserves more. We all do. All women in the world do. We should demand for more because we deserve more.

@yokiponn4129

6 ай бұрын

Most of us around the world still have internalised patriachy so deeply, it is devasting! Also western and northern europe are completly lost today. Sprinkles from Berlin ✨️

@mpazinambao2938

6 ай бұрын

How did this end??? He dumped her?

@ia7072

6 ай бұрын

Well said. You know, in some of cultures related to my blood. Women are created for men, to confort men. But you know what ? I've decided to be myself, to leaves my culture and I plan to marry someone from other culture who respect women.

@maricelg777

6 ай бұрын

Yes Filipina here ❤

@Dei_Chi

6 ай бұрын

Hello gurls, Filipina here. Your channel is a God-sent to me. Changed my life for the better! I know my worth now.

Men have stated time and time again that they know the woman is "the one" within 6 months, yet here we have this lady being dragged along for 8 frickin years. I'm willing to bet she gave him wife privileges too. Here's a rule: if a man has proposed to you within a year, move on. And no, you don't need years to know a person, not if you ask all the right questions and are 100% serious.

@randomlyswatching9481

6 ай бұрын

The perfect thoughts

@StephanieShtein

6 ай бұрын

Yes! I would just add for the younger ones that it's ok if it's been more than a year if one of you or both are in school since it's good to ask the blessing when you can show the parents you have a job lined up.

@beab8738

6 ай бұрын

​@@StephanieShteinyes when young and unstable is the exception. However, this is a 50/50 chance. so many women get caught up in an old high-school love of 10years because of Fear of being alone or starting over again. The temptation of familiarity. I feel like OP was one of them.

@kiowah231

6 ай бұрын

“If a man has NOT proposed to you within a year, move on.”

@haroldharold9042

6 ай бұрын

You don’t know a man well enough in a year to know whether you want to marry him, in my opinion. I think 2-3 years is better in general, but he should be talking about wanting to marry you within a year.

"She doesn't appreciate my efforts" WHAT EFFORTS??? i can probably find more spare change under my sofa... What a loser, he doesn't deserve a woman

OMG ELLE this came at the right time! My bf of almost 3 years is so financially entangled with his family that they called me low class and said marrying me would be a mistake. Never mind the fact that I have a good job and maintained our entire household. I walked away from him and I'm glad i did it before marriage. Thank you for your content, it really opened my eyes to how women constantly devalue themselves and men low key support such actions.

@deejames1st

6 ай бұрын

Yikes. Sounds like they’re trying to find a “rich wife” to add to their lives, instead of the other way around. Pass. As a rule, women need to never pay bills for a man, not even half the bills. Because it seems that only users and time wasters expect women to do that!

@lauramapani3627

6 ай бұрын

High key support that!

@chiimotosuwa2148

6 ай бұрын

congratulations, you will never regret choosing yourself! We often forget that we are the main character of our own life and that we have value.

@aprilchow-chee5281

6 ай бұрын

I mean that's his family, what did he say?

@xsunlx

6 ай бұрын

Ooh honey you did the right thing! His family would probably resent you even more if you had his child. Shoot they'd probably also resent the child.

$6? He bought her a break up ring? 🤔 That's sweet of him😄

My fiance got me a 2 carat diamond engagement ring 💍 which I posted on my community tab and shorts, he also got me an engagement bracelet and my wedding dress is going to be made by an Italian bespoke designer. He was soo happy to do all of this because he cherishes me soo much. Men who love you and really want you will make an EFFORT and they won't take 8 years to propose either. My ex asked me to marry him after 6 months and my fiance started ring shopping with me after 9 months and then proposed after a year. These men know when they want to marry you. Ladies stop making excuses for them and stop wasting your time on junk men.

@alfredfreedomjones5105

6 ай бұрын

Good for you! Sounds amazing

@elastrorey5722

6 ай бұрын

How do you know that you met a good men? Aside from ring shopping and all of that. At the beginning stages of dating, how do you know that you found a good one?

@tessy28

5 ай бұрын

​@@elastrorey5722 So mine was quite different because I got sick early on in our relationship from a bad abscess but by that time he was already deeply in love with me. He took care of me when I was very sick. Drove me to hospital and slept in my hospital bed. His face was the first face I saw when I woke up after my surgery. He even helped me wash in the shower and tie my shoelaces when I couldn't. When a man cares about your health and your wellbeing then you know he truly loves you. My fiance also ALWAYS paid for our dates. I have never paid for any dates. Men show you they love you through their actions.

"my love for her is priceless" proceeds to break up with her instead of offering better

This man had 8 years to save up. He most likely didn't because he didn't plan on marrying her. That kind of men only marry when the woman presents them with an ultimatum and then frustratinly smears the biggest handful of cake in her tace at their wedding day even when she asks him not to. If you have to beg for a ring, the man is only staying with you because he doesn't see better options and he can't live without a mommy-housewife. I've seen what happens to those men if they stay single and it gets so filthy there's nothing even close to that extent anywhere in nature. If you don't have money for a ring, you can still put effort into making it something special that's personal to you two. The problem isn't that it costs little, since we can't know their particular financial situation, the problem is there was no care put into it. If he doesn't think marrying you is a big deal and you have long expressed that to you it is, he's not worth keeping. No matter what last ditch effort he presents to you, it's just for show. It's not your fault he's like that and it's not your duty to put up with it, even if you love him. Remember that the failures of his parents will be your failures to your sons and daughters if you choose to let him be half the foundation of their upbringing.

@Mary-tx2eb

6 ай бұрын

Yes, right? A synthetic diamond isn't $6, but I got mine for $50. And it's a diamond and actual silver necklace. He can absolutely get a real diamond or gemstone they agree on without spending thousands. It isn't about the ring having to be over $1k, the fact he didn't have to save at all shows he doesn't want to financially demonstrate his dedication. I'd be happy with a $200 ring that a man saved up for if he's not making much money and he actually worked for it. But $6? He found that in coins in the drive through!

@toxihex876

6 ай бұрын

@@Mary-tx2eb She did say though that the US equivalent would be 75 dollars. That's still not much. Skip one meal every week for 3 months and there it is. He had close to a decade. He never put any thought into marriage, he kept her as an accessory to his life.

@decoraqueena6413

6 ай бұрын

By buying a $6 ring after 8 years, he's giving a message: " i couldn't do better so I'm settling for you. Now here's your shut up ring"

@malinasworld

6 ай бұрын

Sometimes it’s not even the woman who is begging and threatening them to marry, they wake up in their late twenties and realise they want a wife and kids and they know they can’t do better than the woman who stayed.

@toxihex876

6 ай бұрын

@@malinasworld Or, they want to marry you from the start because they realize they can't do life alone. Even though you told them you don't want to marry. They will keep trying to warm you up to the idea by masking it as hypotheticals and what ifs. "Haha could you imagine if we actually" very inconspicuous there genius, absolute master mentalist. Men just can't take a no. They're not programmed for it.

My fiancé gave me a men’s silver ring that didn’t fit on any finger. It was a men’s ring. I couldn’t go home and show my parents, I was so embarrassed. He also had 80k in student debt my parents were going to pay for him. He didn’t know that yet. I asked again how much his debt was and he told me to mind my own business. Long story short, he tried to kill me so I left the ring on the pillow and left in the middle of the night. He sent it to me many moon later and it truly is an ugly ring. He said he didn’t realize how much of a gold digger I was. Even it was a simple gold ring, I could show my parents. He had money, but didn’t want to spend it. I wanted a man to respect the sanctity of marriage with a ring. Marriage isn’t a game or something I consider temporary.

@aurora8749

6 ай бұрын

I'm glad you got out alive. Always trust your instincts. Next time leave sooner. I'm sure you learned the signs Love you woman!

@malinasworld

6 ай бұрын

80k in debt and he called you a good digger as if he had any gold to dig 😭😭 The jokes write themselves

@tessy28

6 ай бұрын

God the dust is just blinding!!!

@deejames1st

6 ай бұрын

With that much debt he wasn’t prepared to be married. He likely knew this but wanted someone else to blame for the break up, so gave a cheap ring. Your family/you should never pay a man’s debts for him. Men subconsciously resent the women who do this for them. By paying his debts, a woman is basically paying him to be with her.

@cleopatrajones7096

6 ай бұрын

@@deejames1stI didn’t want his debt to be my debt. Better to start a marriage with no debt. He didn’t know my family was going to pay it off. That was a hundred years ago. Naturally much wiser with no patience. I think we both weren’t ready. I don’t know the right age for marriage. Always something to learn. Men need to catch up tho. Women are doing the work on self improvement generally but the men are hanging back smoking cigarettes.

9:46 to 11:35 is gold 👏👏 The double standards in women expressing material desires vs men is insane. Undeserving men can want the world and it's fine, but women want the bare minimum and they're asking for too much, they're too selfish, they don't know their place or they're not being realistic.

@toxihex876

6 ай бұрын

Men telling women they're not being realistic is basically them saying they're not going to change no matter how unfulfilled they make women feel because it's the default. The "well what do you expect? It worked for so many men before me, I'm owed at least the same" mentality. The expectation that women should just pick the next best thing if what they need isn't available and it somehow makes not making that pick withholding love out of spite. Like, sorry boo but you deserve who deserves you. Everyone deserves to be considered, supported and provided for, but being picked to be a part of another person's life is only deserved when you're actually what makes it better.

@DumboBimbo02

6 ай бұрын

Right! It is infuriating!

@horselover40

6 ай бұрын

I grew up in a family where women taking care of themselves was never really encouraged. Wearing nice clothes, spending money on and wearing makeup, wearing pretty heels. Im almost 30 and only now admitting to myself that I care about these things, I want to take care of myself and my appearance in that way, I want to be active and do things. Ifound me a man who encourages me to do these things and is so happy to see me happy as I start to sort these things out, and I feel so grateful. He also got me a beautifully simple ring,which I absolutely love. And I never had to ask. I never would have admitted at the timethat i wanted something more valuable than 6$. Or even 75.

@a.b.1078

6 ай бұрын

@@toxihex876 yup, and this puts the onus on women to do a 'better job' at picking thus perpetuating the cycle of everything being women's fault rather than getting to the root problem of men refusing to do better.

@issy0613

6 ай бұрын

​@@user-uu8tp5dd6b​ Did you watch the video or did you only click on it to confirm your biases? This is not your space, No Nuance Nellie.

Remember ladies!! No matter whatever the man says I can't/I won't do that for you There's a woman out there he will give his entire world for Trust me💯🤫

@ryuuna2345

6 ай бұрын

That is if he's even capable of doing that in the first place. Which, believe me, a lot of men aren't.

@ryuuna2345

6 ай бұрын

I'd actually say most of men aren't 😅

@pixieinx

6 ай бұрын

@@ryuuna2345I’ve seen broke dude getting married and to maintain that marriage step up to get their wife her dream house by working hard and finding solutions instead of excuses and problems.

@VBoo459

6 ай бұрын

That’s not true. What is giving the world after all? A man who is capable will do everything within his power for a woman he wants. Never any excuses. Now if you’re being unreasonable and asking for a $100,000 ring when you know he earns $50,000 a year then of course that’s silly.

@manifest2203

6 ай бұрын

A man can only give what he can afford. Yes, he might not be willing to give anything, but first of all women should realistically see what he can afford. He might not be worth investing her time into. Her and her children will be affected by what he can afford.

The whole situation smells like he orchestrated it so he would have a "valid" reason to break up with that poor girl. But the truth is he got bored of her and wanted out. Smh

This channel is my safe space because once I leave this space and go to other platform It seems like all the message is upside down like I saw a video of a girl saying how she hates going on a coffee dates and all the responses were from men and especially woman that she's is goldigger etc So if I ever encountered these types of content I just clicked uninterested and say it's not my reality

@SweetUareDesi

6 ай бұрын

Maybe they expect women to show up in sweats and messy hair, with crust in their eyes 😂

@Mary-tx2eb

6 ай бұрын

A very casual date! 😭🤣

@briskettacos

6 ай бұрын

Coffee date = "I'm trying to play the field and don't think you're worth even a $30 investment. Please make this process cheap for me"

@user-sg4ov7ng4h

6 ай бұрын

Yesterday the video of the man that was "too ugly" to ever had a gf said he got married. People thought she was a gold digger. She got paid more than him?

@toxihex876

6 ай бұрын

Men are throwing a lot of entitled little boy tantrums lately. It's been happening for like a decade and a half but now it's really picking up. I'm noticing a trend where when I reject someone, they act like I'm the one who's losing something. One time two of my friends said "you didn't dodge a bullet, you dodged a nuclear bomb" without knowing the other one had said that when I showed them the paragraphs of absolute brain necrosis one guy had written out to me. It's funny how they ask who women think they are and then react like this.

Her first mistake was staying around for 8 years. I hope she do better by herself this time.

8 years was already an obvious sign he was not interested.

The delusion, gaslighting, and narcissist in that man is a REAL sign to move on and run. How can that girl not knowing her man for freaking 8 Years and stay with him?

@toxihex876

6 ай бұрын

It's exactly like the Barbie movie portrayed. Humans are very easy to gaslight. Female accomplices to literal kidnappers and grapists have been pardoned in court because it's determined that they have been groomed into it and cannot be held responsible because they are victims too, they just got brainwashed into not realizing. Society does nothing to protect women from that kind of abuse and even shames them into having a problem with it. I'm glad at least now she's out and most likely has proper standards as a result.

@no.6377

6 ай бұрын

She probsbly got with him when she was super young to be together 8 yrs. On top of that, look at the responses she got from some people -- it speaks to a culture of pick me! pick me! pick me! and _low_ standards. She was probably socialized to accept this type of nonsense. What matters is how she moves now that he's shown her the ultimate disrespect as an adult.

@randomlyswatching9481

6 ай бұрын

Have you seen Filipino shows . You'll understand the disparity between men Vs women. 😊

@randomlyswatching9481

6 ай бұрын

Even Thai lakorns will show all that

@krismadani德维帕

6 ай бұрын

@@randomlyswatching9481 oh yeah? tell me more about the show. i would like to watch them

A ring was never meant to be a manifestation of a mans love. It was insurance in the form of gold. If the man screwed her over she could at least sell the ring and use that $. A man who can't buy an expensive ring, also can't afford a life or a wife. It's just common sense.

Women without men: *living their best life, happy, finding themselves, making their own success* Men without women: *depressed, loneliness epidemic, withering away, no life meaning or purpose left* Men need us more than we need them. So they gotta start putting in the effort!

if I remember correctly, the european tradition of givin golden (or any expensive metal) ring at the wedding exist so people of the past viewed the proposal and marriage seriously. The priests came up with the idea so the young couples wouldn't just bother them with marriage if they simply wanted to have -s-x and divorce later. So the priests required the couples to have expensive rings (silver, gold, etc) so they view the marriage seriously, like a serious investment. Moral of the story: the priests of the past won't even speak to you if you bring 6$ ring. They knew you're fake and not ready for marriage.

@malinasworld

6 ай бұрын

Oh, this is so interesting. This kind of still applies even today- I’m thinking of those spontaneous Vegas weddings.

@testdep

6 ай бұрын

​@@malinasworld I saw a documentary on Viasat History. Oh one more thing I remembered from this documentary is that priests also wanted to combat pagan marriage tranditions (like tattoes, braids, leather trinkets) and make a metal ring the symbol of a proper Christian marriage. I thought all Europeans (and Americans) knew the story of the wedding ring which is why they still put a great value on these rings, like they must be with a diamond, etc.

@malinasworld

6 ай бұрын

@@testdep Wow, that’s quite a bit of history behind the tradition. It’s sad now that if most people are asked why rings, they’d probably say because women are competitive and materialistic :/

We should stop calling ourselves 'gold Diggers' and just say we are high value women. If you can't pay Gucci, you don't get Gucci. If you can't pay what my time, my energy and my presence actually are worth, you Just can't and that is okay. Go find less. We deserve Premium treatment everyday!

@VideosForYou90

6 ай бұрын

💯👏🏻

@persephrotisv.2655

6 ай бұрын

^this ❤

@xVirginiasWolf

5 ай бұрын

Ew gucci is for the poor who want to appear rich.

@nawee6801

5 ай бұрын

I love "high value women" but it reminds me of Andrew Tate 😅😅😅

Let’s be real here. He never planned to marry her in the first place. He loathed her and just couldn’t figure out how to find an acceptable excuse to break up with her. Then he decided to do this. He was hoping she’ll finally walk away. But she didn’t even though she wasn’t pleased with him disrespecting her. Finally, he decided to make her disappointment the reason to break up. It was his plan all along. You just need to see it for what it is. That ring was probably not even sterling silver. Would have turned her finger green and likely had a plastic stone in place of a diamond. Unless you’re in high-school, that’s not acceptable. Even at the low end of a budget, you can buy a 14k-18k gold ring with some inexpensive but sparkly stone for $500. This is just the dude being cheap on purpose. Why even spend $8? Next time just make a ring out of foil or a condom rubber. It will have the same effect. She deserves so much better!

@subratanandy2142

22 күн бұрын

Girl , poor people get married with 18k gold bands with their names engraved , and those aren't super expensive , still looks nice on a finger . This man was trying to throw her away and the cost of throwing her away was a shortcut of 6$.

I was with my first boyfriend for 7 years, even moved to another country for him and lived there for 5 years. I went to work when he was at university, paying for groceries and stuff, then I was unemployed for a time when he went to work after university and he paid for things. While we were together, I asked him if we could move out from his mum's house so we could have our own space, because we were living in his single bedroom and it was crammed af. He said it was too expensive. I asked if we could at least get a car so we could get around and be more independent, he said it was too expensive. When I wanted to go out, to the cinema or something, he said okay, but I gotta pay. When we broke up because I was unhappy and depressed, he called me a gold digger (he had no gold to dig!) and made sure to milk me of as much money as he could before I went back to my country. Not that I had any money, he just wanted to hurt me as best he could before losing access to me and make sure I was going to struggle on my own with barely any money to my name. And as soon as I was gone, guess what? He bought a car. What an asshole.

That ring said "here you go, you ready to struggle and be my sixth place priority for the rest of our lives? 🥺 And his attempted justification only confirmed that

If a man gives me a $6 engagement ring that means he thinks of me as easy to replace, cheap. He values me at $6. I’m worth much more than that. I’m not replaceable. Therefore I expect a ring that represents that.

I'm also Filipina and married for 5 yrs and I was really vocal to my then bf now husband on what I want in a proposal, wedding and lifestyle. I am very introverted but I wanted him to go and formally ask my hand in marriage from my parents. I wanted a diamond ring that goes along with virtually all my fashion sense (minimalist modest fashion), a court wedding (I am not a believer to any religion) and a small buffet for friends and family which was a small pax on a quaint resto, and finally, a lifestyle where I still feel at ease if ever I decide not to work/have kids (I still work because I love earning a good amount of money whilst not having kids yet). I am grateful he takes everything on what I wanted. He treats me right so I treat him right too.

those people wont come to save her if she gets into any trouble later, she will have only herself, so you have to listen to yourself

Men are perfectly comfortable and expected to have a long long list of expectations and orders for their dream woman. God forbid women call out behavior that is demeaning and disrespectful to us. We are allowed to feel the effects of mistreatment.

My husband gave me a cheap (think $20 sterling silver) ring and I expressed many times how I would like to replace it with something nicer. He never came around so I just replaced him instead. It wasn’t about the ring, it was about the lack of consideration and effort, as we could totally afford more.

This issue is currently a hot topic here in the Philippines. I was appalled by the number of women and men invalidating the girl's feelings and even gaslighting her instead of understanding her position. The moment I read that post, I automatically felt sorry for her, I don't understand why some people are so narrow minded. The girl will not be disappointed if she knew that the guy is incapable to give her a decent ring, but no. The guy she's in relationship with had 8 years to prepare, yet that's the only thing he can give her. Plus, I do believe the guy is capable to give her much more and better, but he chose to give her the below bare minimum. That's way too insulting and disrespectful.

I am so tired of the entitlement of men, entitled to women's time/ attention/bodies. These days they seem to lack the ability to take "no" for an answer. Recently I had an encounter with a work colleague. He thought he had the right to date me, because I am single and because he was in to me and was a "decent guy", never mind him wondering if I was actually attracted to him. He would not take my kind hints at "no" and eventually I had to be the bad person and give him a stern "no". How do we spot these pretend "nice guys" and get rid of them sooner so that it does not make situations like work awkward?

@leafyveins4985

8 күн бұрын

They're counting on you to be nice to them even when they make you uncomfortable. Then they make their move. You can be nice, just don't feel pressured to always be nice to them. They're not actually nice, so you don't have to be, either.

Hes probably going to expect her to take care of his family as they age and also to cater to their every whim until then. He will also drag her down financially after all that. Getting rejected was her happily ever after.

8 YEARS?!? 6 DOLLARS?!?!? I’m not even 3 mins in and I’m already fed up…

I experienced what a family enmeshment is first hand. Initially, I thought it was so beautiful for him to be this close with his mom and sisters… I pretended that I’m cool with him running out at 2am at night to pay for his sister’s cats vet bill or when he was dropping everything to run an errand for his mom. Not mentioning staying in constant contact with them day or night. I smiled and pretended it doesn’t bother me. I acted cool and any attempt of me trying to point out the issue would end in an argument. At the same time, I was treated by them like an intruder and an outsider. Never wanted, never accepted… now I have a child with this person, and oh my, he showed his true colors during the pregnancy and postpartum. I managed to get out of that toxic relationship but now my son is suffering and I bare tremendous amount of guilt for putting up and accepting below bare minimum effort behavior. Everything stated in this video is true… run, just run.

When she said you can't divorce in the Philippines, then right after she said the 6 dollar engagement ring man decided to break up with her, I exhaled a sigh of relief. Thank God and good riddance.

8 f*ing years, what a waste. That man is the real gold digger. He will receive all the valuable things a wife and baby mama will bring, but can't even give back a single meal worth of return, and tried to use "love is priceless" as an excuse to not having to give anything in return. Marriage to him would have been the most profitable thing he would have ever done his whole life, glad he weeded himself out.

People also loving telling women you’re not pretty enough for the relationship we desire, especially when we express that we want a provider man. My friends, family, including my mom (who ironically has a provider husband herself) tells me I’m asking for too much. The only person who is on board with me is my dad and best friends.

We need your channel to be translated in many languages as possible so all girlies around the world can hear and understand your gospel!

@ia7072

6 ай бұрын

I can translate in French if she's okay. A lot of girls need her advices. (Especially my sister)

@G0ddess_Kate

6 ай бұрын

All languages for all girlies 💓

@findingmyself2446

6 ай бұрын

Yep... I need it to be translated in every language possible

@comkver

6 ай бұрын

I don't mind translating in Spanish.

@irene4633

6 ай бұрын

I'll volunteer with Italian translation !

I’m not a big fan of jewelry and think diamonds are ugly, which is why my dream ring is $500 to $1000 with gold and floral look to it. HOWEVER,a $75 ring would signal to me that he’s not that into her, or he’s in a really bad financial situation. Also, seeing how quick he was to break up with her over the post she made just shows that he didn’t think she was his dream woman anyway. Just wait, he’ll pull a Steve Harvey once he gets his finances together and can afford whatever his preference actually is. I hope she finds a man who worships her.

@no.6377

6 ай бұрын

Same. I actually hate rings and find diamonds ugly, so I'll have to talk about that to my future partner. 😂

@quinntran5809

5 ай бұрын

Heck, even a setting without the stone can cost thousands.

This is why in Islam, there is no limit to the "Mehr" (dowry) that a woman can ask for before marriage. It is her full right, and she is allowed to ask for however much she wishes, and no one is allowed to take it from her. The guy is an embarrassment to masculinity.

@noumiiidia

6 ай бұрын

You realize that they say that the less women asks the more she's good 😅😂😂 I'm Muslim too but all what I hear from sheikhs is to get married to any decent guy , and that women shouldn't work or learn or be educated because it would affect this poor guys that don't want to do anything 😅 I'm from the middle east and Allah please keep us safe from that

@Ssookawai

6 ай бұрын

​@@noumiiidia quran is clear: whatever you ask for should be respected. The clerics are perpetuating a misogynistic view of the world to protect men, they never have the well-being of women in mind. We need to follow quran more and less from these bearded dudes.

@rowenaravenclaw3483

5 ай бұрын

And if a Muslim woman asks for a khula she has to return back everything even if her husband was abusive

@noumiiidia

5 ай бұрын

@@rowenaravenclaw3483 yaaaa , the situation is crazy here and I'm questioning sometimes if what sheikhs are doing are real islam rules, a lot of things are neglected but when it comes to women ...

@briskettacos

5 ай бұрын

Some men do steal it though! Just because it's against their religion doesn't mean they won't do it. Never trust "It's against his religion, so he won't do that"

eight years !!!!! omg!! and he buys her a 6 dollars ring !!!! and he called her names !!! and DUMPED her on the internet !!! don't even know where to start

He didnt propose in 8 years!!! A man who is interested in you wont do that... he is not worthy, he is already having everything from her... why is he going to buy a nice ring or marry her if he has already everything?? Hope she did not give him a child

Ladies, in my near half century of experience I can say that most men KNOW by 3-6 months if they want to marry you. If he hasn’t dropped hints on his own, tried to meet n impress your family, introduced you to his, etc by 1 year he’s probably not going to. And I’m sure she was dropping hints at the kind of ring she wanted.

You are doing such a service by just saying that women have the right to do what is best for them. Listening to you I realize how we are taught from birth to put ourselves second.

Please learn from my mistakes. My ex husband could not afford my wedding band. I had to buy it myself. It was $100. We got divorced because he was useless. Didn't make more than he spent, didn't help around the job, didn't parent. Now we're divorced and it's been almost a decade since he's paid child support. In the last five months he's worked a total of five weeks.

I just love how man are so angry that we are finally getting to know our worth and now they use it as like we are spreading hate on them for no reason and when I see a post about them that says the truth they are like “stop spreading hate on men”, because they know it’s true like they are more and more scared of women and it’s so powerfull, now they can only beg us to stop💅🏼

Thanks Elle! I’m so sick of living in this patriarchy where we’re teaching little girls, who grow up into women, to have low standards and low self esteem. Because of that men will always have a supply of gullible women and can continue to easily access them. It’s infuriating that this is happening. After watching the Barbie movie I was looking for books to get more information and substance so I can understand. It’s so hard to put into words all the things I’m feeling and the injustice of it all. It’s easier to handle and be able to combat something that you see and experience when there is a term for it. I want my little nieces to know that they deserve more and to not settle for less. I understand now why relationships in the past didn’t work out and glad I moved on from each and every one and not stayed. There was something wrong about them that I couldn’t put into words or pinpoint but it didn’t feel right. I’m so glad I found your channel! We need more content like this so that women can wake up!!

Breaks my heart to see women settling for the below bare minimum. It’s time we realise that our wants are valid, we can provide for ourselves now so there’s literally no need to settle for a man to survive. If a man doesn’t add to your life he’s subtracting from it.

@rejectionisprotection4448

6 ай бұрын

And worsening your health and shortening your life.

that price for a ring is literally just my daily iced coffee 😵‍💫

So he dumped her for wincing over a 6 dollar ring? That's some powerful Romeo and Juliet level romance there bro. If you can't afford a suitable ring and would prefer to insult your future wife, at least explain to her that you will buy her a better ring in a few years.

Him being a good son didn’t guarantee that’s he’d be a good spouse or father either. Even putting aside the ring incident

lol if roles really were reversed and a woman gave a man a $6 ring his boys would clown him not just for a woman proposing to him but the fact that it’s literally a $6 ring .

Could you do one video addressing the belief that as women, as we age, we lose our market value, especially in Asian countries and/or among Asian cultures? It is like we have an expiration stamp on our forehead as we age. I am Vietnamese. All my Vietnamese friends, acquaintances believe that as we age, we better settle down fast, no more choosing because we are only getting older and not younger. Time is running out for us. And because we are getting older, we have to be less picky and that we are losing market value rapidly. And in those women’s eyes, older women have a harder time finding a “dream partner” and not we are no longer desirable.

I think if they were in poverty, and $6 (technically $75) was actually really difficult to procure. The woman would’ve been happier the ring. Because for all the people saying she’s a gold digger…staying with a guy for 8 years, I doubt this woman is a gold digger! It’s all about the intention and the circumstances. Clearly, this man could’ve afforded a much more expensive ring and this is just disrespectful

@malinasworld

6 ай бұрын

Even if they were in poverty, did he suddenly think to marry her after eight years? All that time he never planned ahead for a proposal and wedding? No excuses really. I live in a really poor country so I can see people in dire poverty first hand, yet when they love and treasure someone they know how to figure finances to make big events like marriages special.

Let’s face it. It was a shut up ring, and a please say no ring or give me an excuse to break this off ring (hence he was so excited to break up with her when she questioned about the ring and wanted honest input). After 8 years of dating, no.

One input as an Indian-South Asian: Indian culture normalises that men should prioritise their birth family throughout their life. Even the woman they marry has to join and fit in the groom's family, live with them, perform unpaid labour for them, and prioritise them. The way you described marriage as starting a new family and leaving the old family - it's not what the culture teaches at all. Everyone involved (including the bride and her family) must cater to the groom's family. It's incredibly effed up, yet no one bats an eyelid.

@Nitra813

6 ай бұрын

😳 Are you serious? No wonder they push so hard to favor their sons getting married. Makes so much sense now.

“love” isn’t enough, that’s the bare min! we need a man who can protect & provide for us also, otherwise he will make us suffer from his dustiness and that is not “love” 🤦‍♀️ making his woman go through hardship isn’t love & is 100% selfishness on him. Also, 9:45 is 🎯🎯🎯 I don't agree with 12:48, if a man can't be a provider then he shouldn't even have the entitlement & audacity to chase after women, he brings nothing to the table and is nothing but a burden.

@ashton_taylor4798

5 ай бұрын

"If a man can't be a provider, then he shouldn't chase after women." is a bit narrow-minded and outdated. Remember that not all people want traditional roles. In some relationships, the woman provides and the man stays at home to do the chores. Nothing wrong with that as long as it works for them and the responsibilities are equally split.

Don’t ever be a forever girlfriend! He doesn’t want you like that!

That girl lost eight years of her life with a scumbag. Hope she finds a good person who would and could treat her right.

Filipina here, despite the German male username. I have a friend who, as of now, works in a restaurant that went all the way to buy me a 20 dollar "Don't Starve" Wilson plushie (+ spent another 20 dollar for the shipping fee) after a year of friendship. Ain't no way am I gonna accept a 6 dollar engagement ring after EIGHT YEARS of commitment. Dude could've saved a WHOLE LOT OF MONEY with that amount of time. 💀

These dusties want everything but soap and water. I'll buy my own rings (Yes, multiple rings), bracelets, earrings, necklaces, and anklets. I'll live happily ever after with my pets.😁

@orridgenalcurlsncoir9253

5 ай бұрын

Omg! I said the SAME THING YESTERDAYY!!

Whoever is reading this, you are worth more than a $6 ring…. keep in mind if you were getting married, you’re likely planning on having children at some point. The pain you will experience while growing and pushing out a baby is worth so much more than six dollars. And the effort you will put into bringing that child up is priceless, because you will love your baby and want to give everything to him/her.

I think it’s quite funny that after 8 years and a sh*t ring he left her. She needs to take note of that because it shows how uninvested he was and how much he didn’t actual want her. She could stay with him getting the bare minimum for 8 years and the second he didn’t like something she did, he was OUT! Ladies, take note!

@Nitra813

6 ай бұрын

💯

Engagement rings don’t have to be wildly expensive. But you gotta think about it, we’re supposed to wear this ring every single day. It has to be at least good quality to hold up. There’s no $6 ring holding up past a week 😂

It’s really sad :( my own blood says I am not deserving of a provider man, accusing me of not bringing anything to the table. It’s okay that us woman have dreams with relationships.

@CS-bu7lo

6 ай бұрын

Being blood related to someone doesn't guarantee they are not toxic or just don't like you. Think of all the " honor" killlings and abuse that are usually at the hands of "family". Stick to what you feel is true and keep minimal contact ( or none) with toxic people, relatives or not. I had a bunch of toxic relatives, too, I got better advice from strangers on the internet !!

You cannot be with someone who has not broken up with his family.

@a.y.greyson9264

6 ай бұрын

What does this mean?

@jclyntoledo

6 ай бұрын

​@@a.y.greyson9264OP is referring to when the man always puts his family first as in his parents regardless of how long you been together in a romantic relationship. He will choose his family as in his parents or sometimes their siblings over putting you first. Think of the show smothered for any other TLC show that has a ridiculously close mom son dynamic or even Coltee and his mom from 90 day fiancé. His mom would always meddle in his life and personal relationships to the point where it would be the cause of him getting divorced and then later on separated when he married again.

Absolutely, that man did her a favor. The fact that ole girl was posting about it and venting made it seem like she was looking for reasons to stay. And thank you for the reminder: I legit forgot that there's no divorce in the Philippines! I cannot imagine being shackled to someone that doesn't love me - full stop, period - but I ESPECIALLY can't imagine being trapped with no legal recourse.